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Parenting Your Tweens and Teens With Respect (Part 1 of 2)

Parenting Your Tweens and Teens With Respect (Part 1 of 2)

Nina Roesner and Debbie Hitchcock offer parents practical advice and encouragement in a discussion based on their book, With All Due Respect: 40 Days to a More Fulfilling Relationship With Your Teens and Tweens. (Part 1 of 2)

Opening:

Teaser:

Mrs. Nina Roesner: I had a situation with my son. He was just not filling out his college applications and it was driving me nuts. And he says to me, he’s like, “Mom, you just need to know that the more you talk to me about this, the less I want to do it.”

End of Teaser

John Fuller: Navigating how you’re gonna approach issues with your teen is difficult and that’s Nina Roesner. She’s one of our guests today on “Focus on the Family.” Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, being a parent of teens is tough. I think both of us can speak from experience. But especially when they challenge those boundaries and make poor choices and act disrespectfully toward us, the parents, right?

John: Those are the most trying times.

Jim: I mean that is what sets us off as moms and dads. And today we’re going to help you understand a vital need of your teen, and that is to receive–that’s what I said–receive respect from you, the parent. And this may sound counterintuitive. Maybe you want respect from your teen, but I think you’ll be intrigued by some of the insights our guests are going to share today.

John: And if at any time during our conversation you’re thinking, I need that book, or I want to hear that again well, you could always continue to listen.

Jim: I’m desperate for that book, whatever it might be.

John: Or you could pop over to http://focusonthefamily.com/radio. Or call us, 1-800-A-FAMILY and you’ll find a variety of resources there, including a CD or download of this program. The book we’re talking about today is With All Due Respect. And as I said, our guests include Nina Roesner and also Debbie Hitchcock, who have together written this book. They work together at Greater Impact Ministries, and relevant to the discussion, Nina has three children and Debbie has four. They have walked this talk here, Jim.

Body:

Jim: That’s right. Welcome to the program.

Nina Roesner and Debbie Hitchcock: It’s great to be here. Thank you.

Nina, you still have teenagers, and Debbie, yours are in their 20s, so you guys are experienced parents. That’s the point, right?

Both: Yes.(Laughter)

Jim: You’ve lived it. You’ve lived it.

Nina: We’re living it now.

Jim: You’re not childless, talking about parenting.

Nina and Debbie: No, not really. Yeah.

Jim: You are pros, but speak to that moment when your sweet adolescent is now becoming a teenager.

Nina: Yeah, you know for me it was just this defining moment of this isn’t working. The way we were doing things works with little kids, but it doesn’t work with people who are trying to become adults and separate in a healthy way. And my husband actually had the insight where I was about to kill my oldest son, but I had thoughts that were probably not super-holy about him. He was making me crazy, right? So I was talking to my husband, and Jim says to me, “You know what? He needs respect. He’s trying to become a man and you’re treating him like he’s still 8-years-old.”

Jim: And that made sense to you for some reason.

Nina: Yeah, I could get that. Yeah, you know.

Jim: Some moms it bounces off of them, and some dads. I mean I don’t want to say just moms, but parents, that kind of statement from the other observing spouse may not go down well. How do you open yourself up to that kind of reflection that maybe we’re not doing what we need to do?

Nina: Ideally you both are on the same page and you have the same value system where you’re making similar decisions, you know, so if mom says something, dad would say the same things, so you get the same ideals there. And then if you collaborate on a decision, then both of you support it, no matter how much push-back the kid’s giving you, you are aligned together, and you have to be, because I can’t even think of a more stressful time than parenting teenagers than your marriage gets, you know, just hammered.

Jim: That’s true. That’s all the pillow talk. [For] Jean and I that’s true. I mean, you know, I think the other areas of our marriage are in a great place, but when it comes to how do we approach this with our teenagers, that’s usually where you’re thinking maybe you’re gonna say goodnight and get some sleep and it’s, “I’ve got somethin’ I need to tell you about the kids.” And you’re, “No! Don’t do that!” Debbie, how did you find that doable with four teenagers? They’re now in their 20s, but you must have, at that time, had tweens and teens all at the same time.

Debbie: Oh, we did. And I think the thing for us was the fact that we thought we were on the same page, you know? We had this great marriage going in, and then all of a sudden you realize, “Wait a minute. You have a totally different idea of how this thing should be handled than I do.” And it was how do we pull it together? And that’s when the marriage stress really just starts coming in.

Jim: Interesting and in that regard, how do you suggest, when the one spouse is observing things that could go a little better if we did it this way, but the other spouse just doesn’t want to hear it? I mean, you know, you’re not seeing it. But I don’t know; what does that look like for the parents who are struggling but they can’t talk it out? What do you do?

Debbie: Well, it’s interesting, ’cause what we’ve found is that a lot of times parents don’t realize how much their childhood plays into their parenting. So we don’t get this manual that says, “Here’s what you need to do with that kid,” and it ends up happening is you just react rather than actually doing what it is, you know, you should be thinking about doing. And so what we found is that, at least for my husband and I, we came from totally different childhood experiences, and for me it was, I was the one that was a little more hesitant and, you know, “Oh, that’s the rule. We really need to push it.” And my husband traveled a lot, so for him, he wants to come home, you know, on the weekends, and have fun with the kids.

Jim: Right.

Debbie: And I’ve been dealing with all the stuff, and it’s like, okay, we need to deal with this, but, you know, he doesn’t want to.

Jim: Did you ever say, “Okay, Mr. Fun Guy?” (Laughter) Or maybe that’s just my own experience. (Laughter) But it’s so true.

John: Recently haven’t you?

Jim: And that’s so typical of husbands who travel quite a bit. I mean that, to me, is a common [situation] and yes, Jean and I have had that conversation. I remember talking to Gary Chapman. He had a great recommendation for marriage. He said, “Go home and ask your spouse what’s one thing you can do, not your spouse, one thing you can do to improve your marriage.” And I went home and did that with Jean, and she said, “I’ve got two.” I thought, “Wow, so fast? How long have you had these?”

But the first one was related to the kids, which is you’re so spontaneous, you kind of, you’ll come home and say, “Hey, let’s take the kids to Disneyland this weekend,” but you’ve said it in front of them, and I’ve got to be the downer and say, “You know, we can’t logistically pull that off.” And she said, “It makes me feel like I’m the bad parent.” So we have to be mindful of that. I’ve done a lot better, John, I want you to know.

John: You haven’t gone to Disney for a long time.

Jim: And thankfully, we can’t remember, either one of us, what the second thing was, so hopefully I’ve improved in that area. But it’s true; you have to be on that same page, or you can really do damage to the kids too.

Debbie: Well, and the other thing that we found in our parenting is that, you know, it’s the bedroom talk, you know, it’s, “Okay, this is what’s going on with this kid,” and as we did that, my husband and I would not be on the same page, but what I would do is I would say, “you know, I really think this would be helpful if you would handle it this way.” And at times he was like, “No, I’m just gonna to fix the problem.” So the next morning we would get up; he would have time to sleep on it; so overnight he would kind of change his tune. And we’d go in the next morning; he liked to be the dad, when he was home, of getting up and fixing breakfast for the kids.

Jim: What’s your husband’s name?

Debbie: Oh yeah, Dave was great about that.

Jim: This is my same thing, every Saturday cooking breakfast.

Debbie: Oh yeah, he would get up, fix breakfast for the kids, and that was their time, because he was busy traveling and would get home late while the kids were off doing their activities. And so for him, it was one of those things where, you know, he’d get up and he’d go, “You know, your mom and I talked about …” duh, duh, duh, duh, whatever it was, “last night, and here’s how we’re gonna handle it. And so then I would come in later; he’s at work; and I would say to the kids, “You know, your dad and I talked about this, and I’m really sorry,” and they would go, “Well, dad already said,” and it was like, okay, wait a minute. We don’t know what we’re doing here. And so, he’s fixing it. He thinks he’s doing what I want him to do and yet, we just weren’t on the same page.

Jim: Well, and that’s so typical being on that same page. Now in one way, and this may sound odd, but for the single parent, we don’t want to exclude those folks, because many listen to the program and they’re improving their parenting ability, those kinds of things, but they’re there as well and I want to acknowledge that. How do they have a different kind of challenge? I mean they’re on the same page, because it’s only one page, but in that context, how do they stay consistent and maintain that healthy relationship with their kids?

Nina: Yeah, you know, when you look at what are you doing, are you taking care of yourself, because it’s exhausting to be the only person handling all of those things.

Jim: It really is a two-person job.

Nina: It is a two-person job, and God was right about that. That’s why He created it that way. And so if you’re not surrounding yourself with other people and having people link arms with you while you’re doing it, and if you’re not taking care of yourself in some way, especially during the tween and teen years, it just fries you.

Jim: Do you, as a single parent, would you look for that support, that help maybe within your church?

Nina: Absolutely.

Jim: I mean I’m thinking of the mom, and I know there’s single, more single-parent dads than ever before, but the point of that is, particularly for that single-parent mom, you have a son or sons and you’re looking for that person. Should I turn to the church and say, “Where can I find help for, you know, teaching him [because] I don’t know how to throw a baseball,” or whatever it might be?

Nina: Absolutely and you know, my husband has been great about being that dad for others.

Jim: That’s good.

Nina: And you know, we had a mom in our church that she had a teenage boy that just happened to be on the same baseball team with my son and he needed geometry help, and so my husband was at McDonald’s with him, you know, one morning a week, doing geometry.

Jim: Would that work for you, John? Would you be able to [do that]?

John: I can’t do geometry.

Jim: I wouldn’t do the geometry, but that’s okay, but that’s a wonderful example of being involved in other people’s lives and your kids reacted well to that?

Nina: Oh, absolutely and you know, we let them know, hey, this is important.

Jim: You’re listening to “Focus on the Family.” Today we have our two special guests, Nina Roesner and Debbie Hitchcock, who have written a book, With All Due Respect, and we’re going to offer that resource for a gift of any amount here at Focus on the Family. We are, at the core, a parenting organization, and this kind of topic and this kind of tool is a resource that all of us need.

John: I think it is, Jim and you can make your donation and get a copy of the book and take a free parenting assessment from Focus on the Family. It’ll help you determine just who you are as a mom or a dad. You’ll find these at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: Nina, I would think—and I’ll throw this one to you and certainly Debbie jump in—but I would think one of the high-rated teen/tween issues is this area of disrespect, and, you know, first of all, let’s speak to the why. Is it normal? Is it healthy or unhealthy? And I’m sure you can define those lines for us. But then how do we help our tweens and teens get ahold of this? How do you go about identifying it and then addressing it with your child?

Nina: Well, if you’re very rules-based and you know, perfectionistic about everything being done a certain way, you’re gonna have a lot more conflict. And we have to realize that these people are becoming adults and are trying to figure out who they are.

Jim: Set that environment, though. Why particularly, if you’re bent in that direction, you know, you’re a black-and-white person, high regard for rules, you know that fits many Christian households because we’re trying to follow the Lord, we’re trying to live up to His commandments, we’re trying to live life in such a way, yet it is a crippling factor when you’re trying to parent these people that are trying to do it their own way! (Laughter) So somebody once said to me, “You know, God is a God of teenagers.” All of us are teenagers in God’s view. We’re all trying to control our own lives and do things differently than He would like us to do them. I think it’s a great perspective to think of our Heavenly Father in that way. How much of a teenager are you to Him? And then when you look at it, but speak to that. What is normal and what becomes unhealthy?

Nina: So we should expect conflict during these years. We should expect some push-back. It’s very normal. And they’re gonna do it disrespectfully sometimes because they’re hormonal and that’s not their fault.

Jim: So that’s not just an excuse.

Nina: Right and their brain doesn’t work right when they’re hormonal. It just doesn’t. And they’re not getting sleep and they’re emotional over friend stuff. So they’re aliens, okay? They’re not that cute little 6-year-old anymore. So we have to have a lot of grace for that, and then we have to understand that, first of all, the part of their brain that is common sense is not developed yet until they’re like 25-years-old. So they’re not going to think through things; they’re not going to be logical. So we have to have a lot of grace, first of all. And then we have to model respectful behavior for them, even when they are behaving badly.

Jim: Yeah, that’s what caught me in the book, that idea that they need to see respect in order to know how to be respectful. And you’ve got to, again, put an exclamation point around that, ’cause most parents will say, “What? Just do as I say, not necessarily what I do.”

Nina: And if we do that, then what we’re saying is that I’m in charge of you, and what I really want is an independent individual that has his own set of values and makes his own decisions, and he has to navigate choices and fail sometimes so that he can figure that out. And if I’m making all of his choices for him, when he goes to college, he’s gonna go haywire. Or when he gets out from under my thumb, he’s going to go figure it out in unhealthy ways.

Jim: Debbie, how do we as a parent, how do we measure whether we’re being respectful to our teens or bite my lip or not, if we’re being disrespectful? How do we take an inventory of our attitude toward them that may be actually contributing significantly to their disrespect?

Debbie: Well, I think it’s seeing what our kids are doing. You know, if our kids are being disrespectful to us, it’s time for us to stop and go, “Okay, is there something that I’m doing that’s being disrespectful to them, to my spouse, to other people?

Jim: Now that’s not a natural thing for a parent to do.

Debbie: No, it isn’t. It’s very, very difficult and what I have discovered is that sometimes, you know, it’s not until you have this explosion that takes place that you go, “Oh, wait a minute. What’s going on here?” And we step back, hopefully, and say, “Okay, what do we need to be doing differently?” We forget the relationship piece. We forget that we need to be looking at them and taking these conflict situations and going, “Oh, opportunity to teach.” We forget that.

Jim: Well, and you’re both moms, and again I don’t want to generalize, but speak to the parent, whether they’re the dad or the mom, that has that high regard for the rules, that if we slip up here, they’re gonna learn such poor habits that we’re going to lose control of this child. They’ll be a prodigal child, and there can be such fear that grips a parent because their teenager is not turning in their homework all the time.

Debbie: Right.

Jim: And we leapfrog to the fact that that’s going to put them on a path of high-risk behavior, and you know, you start imagining these things, and then you start amping up the shrillness of your parenting, and it’s a dead-end road, isn’t it?

Nina: Oh yeah and it pushes them the other direction.

Jim: You get the opposite response than you’re hoping for.

Nina: Exactly, yeah, we push them the other direction, because they need to figure out who they are separate from us as adults, and that’s when they’re starting that. And if we are heavy-handed in that and I had a situation with my son. He was just not filling out his college applications and it was driving me nuts.

John: You probably reminded him about that a few times.

Nina: Maybe, maybe a few, yeah.

Jim: A day. (Laughter)

Nina: You know, and he says to me, he’s like, “Mom, you just need to know that the more you talk to me about this, the less I want to do it.”

Jim: Okay, explain that, ’cause I see that with my kids. The more I’m into them with the issue I want clarified or them to act on, there is a tendency for them to go deaf. In order to show you that I’m not listening to you, I’m not gonna do what you’re asking me to do. Why does that mechanism exist? I mean why can’t they just do what we’ve asked them to do, ’cause that’s what a good kid will do?

Debbie: I think that is from birth. You know a 2-year-old, what’s the first thing they learn to say? “No.” and in some ways, it is self-preservation. And so we need to remember that as they become teenagers that that “no” says, “I need to be my own self. I need to be separate from you.” And we need to respect that “no” at times and be able to pull back and go, “Okay, what’s really under the surface and what’s going

John: Yeah, but in the example that Debbie just gave about college applications, we’ve been there, and I’ve thought, well, you have to apply for scholarships; you need to apply for scholarships. Oh, you want to go to school with no scholarships? So there’s a real tension point here for parents.

Nina: Well, and you have to keep the goal in mind. So do I have to have this done this second, or can I work through this relationally and get off the timetable that I had because it was scheduled for Thursday and this isn’t done yet and I’m panicking and I want to stop thinking about it? But really what I need to do is figure out what’s really going on here? And with my son, we had this conversation. I said, “So what’s really keeping you from doing this? What’s pushing you in the other direction?” And it ended up being a conversation about how he was nervous about going to college and we had the best, most wonderful moment that would not have happened if I had kept nagging and fussing at him, and it would have caused anger and more conflict.

Jim: Anxiety.

Nina: Yeah, yeah, absolutely and he’s already stressed out because his life is changing. And so, instead, I was just able to put my agenda aside and sit down and say, “What’s really goin’ on here?”

Jim: Right.

Nina: And you know, when we detach from the emotion and breathe and remember it’s not about the college application; it’s not about the grades; those are symptoms.

Jim: It’s hard to hear, though.

Nina: It is.

Jim: It’s hard to hear.

John: Well, and I appreciate that. I still want to know, though, did he apply for college?

Nina: Yeah, he did.

John: Okay.

Nina: He applied for a scholarship.

Jim: And that was on his terms and he did it his way?

Nina: I asked him, “So what can we do that’s win/win here, because we really need you to do this.”

Jim: So asking questions.

Nina: Yeah, yeah and letting him control the process in a way that was comfortable for him. And he says, “Well, I’d like to do it this way,” and he came up with a little plan. And I said, “Okay, so how can I support you in that?” Because I’m worrying about it actually happening.

Jim: That’s perfect. I’m smiling ’cause that’s a good thing.

Nina: And I was honest with him. I said, “I’m worrying about this even happening, so how can I ask you?” And so he gave me words to say, when to say them, and you know, I checked in with him and it was really well done, beautiful in fact.

Jim: In your book, what I love, you’ve structured it around these “dares” toward the parent, you know, these 40 dares, I think, right?

Nina: Yeah.

Jim: And we’ll touch on those. We’re coming to the end of the program today, but let me hit one of them that we can talk about, which I think is the most important one, Dare No. 3, and there it’s how do we focus on God’s vision for our child? And you know often, John, we’re talking here at Focus on the Family about having that big picture in mind so that every incident doesn’t direct you as the parent of taking the leapfrog that I described a moment ago if they are not doing their homework appropriately or turning it in, it doesn’t mean that they’re gonna be in jail.

Nina: Right.

Jim: But you know, sometimes you begin to project that as a parent. If you’re here, then you know, people, the experts say your at-risk behavior is going to go up by X amount, and you start to panic. How do we keep the big picture in mind, and the fact that God will take us and our children through valleys at times in order to challenge those things that we believe, perhaps our strong-willed nature as a teenager, that there’s a purpose in all of that, and that we can trust God’s hand is in it? How do you keep that big picture of God’s plan in mind for your kid when maybe your desire is different from what God’s desire is?

Nina: Oh, absolutely and the thing is, is you know we all have these expectations of our kids.

Jim: No, I have none. (Laughter)

Nina: We just think that we know what they’re gonna be done the road, and everything, you know we go into this parenting thing like everything is going to be rosy. Oh, such cute little babies and we love ’em, and then they get to be teenagers and they start having their own minds, but we don’t think about what is it we really want? What’s the end goal?

Jim: Right.

Nina: And you know, as parents, I think all of us, we’re hoping that our kids respect us. We’re hoping that our kids will come to us and that we can still influence them.

Jim: And that’s more important than any grade.

Nina: Absolutely, and we forget to look at what’s down the road. When they’re adults, what do we want? We want that relationship. We want them to come seek us out. We hope they’ll come visit sometime.

Jim: You know sometimes that’s a little vague when you look at it, and maybe it may be too personal, so I don’t want to push you into a corner, but when you think of your own children—and Debbie your kids are all in their 20s now—when you say, “What am I hoping for,” relationship is obvious. What are those character attributes that you’re hoping for? What do you hope your 20-something adult child now is going to express spiritually, emotionally?

Debbie: Well, there’s lot of pieces. Hopefully they’ll have a job. That’s, you know, that’s always in the back of everybody’s mind is, oh, we’ve got to have these college scholarships, we want this job out there. But it’s about relationship; it’s about their relationship with God.

Jim: First and foremost.

Debbie: Absolutely. And we can do everything that we possibly can hoping that they’ll have that relationship with God if we model well, but then we have to also look at the fact that, you know, we aren’t in control of all things, and we have to, at some point, let that child go and say, “Okay, Lord, this child is yours. I’ve done the best I can, and my prayer is that I will continue to be on my knees and for each and every one of my kids, and regardless of what their choices are, and that, you know, we can continue to have relationship.” And you know we all want them to come back and say, “Oh you know, I’m really struggling with whatever it is. What would you do?”

Jim: Well, did you want to add to that, Nina? I see you’re kind of coming out of your chair.

Nina: Yeah, yeah, you know I just, I don’t want them living in my basement when they’re 25. (Laughter) There’s that whole thing. But really I think the key is remembering they’re not ours. The voice of the world is so loud, and we forget that these people do not belong to us. They’re His. And so, the parenting experience is a context through which we walk alongside someone else who is learning about God and working out his faith or her faith in daily interactions with other people, themselves, and us, and so if we can have a godly perspective, because our relationship with God is solid, or as solid as it can be, and we’re continuing to grow, it changes everything.

Jim: But you know, Nina, when you say that, those of us that are in the middle of it right now are going, “That sounds good, but I’m kind of worried.” And I think what we need to do is come back next time, talk about, practically, how we engage that child on the respect issue and other things, to help give them the best platform for launch. I’d love to talk about delayed maturity and how prolonged adolescence may be as much a parent issue as it is a kid issue, and so much more. So can we come back next time and cover some of those themes as well?

Debbie: Love to.

Nina: Absolutely.

Jim: Let’s do that.

Closing:

John: Well, be with us next time, and between now and then be sure to stop by our website or give us a call and ask for a copy of the book by Nina Roesner and Debbie Hitchcock, With All Due Respect. The subtitle is 40 Days to a More Fulfilling Relationship with Your Teens and Tweens. And I’d encourage you to get a CD or download of this and listen to it with your spouse or a friend. [There are] good conversation starters for you as a parent.

Our website is http://focusonthefamily.com/radio. You can reach us by phone, 1-800 the letter A and the word FAMILY. 1-800-232-6459.

Jim: And John, let me jump in and mention to moms and dads that Brio magazine is back.

John: Oh yes!

Jim: And that’s for teen girls particularly, and I would encourage you to get a subscription to that when you go to the website. That is back because of popular demand. We heard from so many moms particularly who said, “Oh, I’m sorry you discontinued that magazine because it was so much help in conversation starters with my daughter,” and that magazine, Brio, is available now. The first issue re-launched just recently, and you can subscribe for that for your teen daughter particularly.

John: Yeah, it’s a great resource for teen girls. Some super articles and biblical values. You’ll find it online, along with the book and the CD of today’s program. Again, that’s at http://focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: I would want to add, too, that last year—we do research to see how the program and how Focus is impacting married couples and parents, literally hundreds of thousands of them, and last year alone, 870,000 parents said that Focus was instrumental in helping them build stronger, healthier, more God-honoring families, and it’s very much because of programs like this one and guests like the ones you’ve heard from. They speak into that tender area of your parenting, and maybe that closet that you keep closed. And this is a way for you to do the assessment, get the resource, and actually build your parenting skills.

Folks, guess what? We’re not born expert parents. You probably have recognized that already and you need help. I need help and we all need help in doing this in the best God-honoring ways possible. So that’s why we exist. If you can help us financially to keep moving forward in this ministry, hopefully to touch another 870,000 parents this year, we would appreciate it.

John: And when you make a generous financial contribution today, we’ll send the book by our guests to you as a way of saying “thank you” and making sure you have this excellent resource in your hands. You can call with that donation, 800-232-6459.

On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, I’m John Fuller, inviting you back next time, as we continue the conversation about respecting your teen and once again help you and your family thrive.

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Becoming a Clutter-Free Family

Joshua Becker discusses the benefits a family can experience if they reduce the amount of “stuff” they have and simplify their lives. He addresses parents in particular, explaining how they can set healthy boundaries on how much stuff their kids have, and establish new habits regarding the possession of toys, clothes, artwork, gifts and more.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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