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Practical Advice for Raising Young Men (Part 1 of 2)

Practical Advice for Raising Young Men (Part 1 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gregory Jantz offers parents insights on why boys think and act the way they do, how they develop differently from girls, what they need from their mom and dad, and how parents can come alongside their sons to support them emotionally and academically. (Part 1 of 2)

Opening: 

Excerpt:

Dr. Gregory Jantz: So, if you want to have a conversation with your boy and it’s an important one, get up; move around. Go for a walk. Play catch. Notice what changes. The boy brain’s going to work differently, and if it’s really an important conversation make sure that you’re doing something other than just sitting there staring at each other.

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John Fuller: Dr. Gregory Jantz has some suggestions on connecting with your son and raising him to be a godly man. Welcome to “Focus on the Family” with your host, Focus president and author, Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, today we’re gonna take an insightful look into how we can raise sons that excel in all areas of their lives and that should grab you right there, right? You know, boys are really struggling in the culture and they’re struggling on how to know their place in the world and where they fit in and I am confident you are really gonna benefit by listening to today’s special guest on this issue of raising boys.

John: And we have a variety of resources and helps for you, including a CD of the conversation we’re about to enjoy at www.focusonthefamily.com/radioDr. Jantz is a psychologist and he’s written a number of books, dozens of books actually, including Raising Boys by Design, which is the subject of our conversation today. 

Body:

Jim: Dr. Jantz, welcome to “Focus on the Family.”

Gregory: Oh, so good to be with you and what a great topic.

Jim: Now why did you pick this topic as a psychologist? Of all the topics, why this one about boys?

Gregory: Well, you know, I’ve been doing counseling for over 30 years and some of the greatest challenges can come when we’re dealing with our boys.

Jim: (Chuckling)

Gregory: And if you have boys, you know boys are different.

Jim: They’re laughing with us right now.

Gregory: Yes and I also have two boys, so this is a topic I am passionate about.

Jim: Close to your heart.

Gregory: Very close to my heart.

Jim: Hey, now as a psychologist, one of the things I found fascinating is that you took a look at brain science—

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: –and the way that science is reinforcing what we know in Scripture, which I’m always a believer in. I know that the two should run parallel, but what, as a professional, what have you seen in that regard when it comes to brain science and how Scripture is telling us what to expect when it comes to boys?

Gregory: (Laughing) Well, there are a lot of great examples in Scripture about how boys are different and science is showing us, by the way, and this is an exciting time, that boys brains really are different. We have the science to show it. And boys are designed for a certain calling. Every boy has a calling on his life.

Jim: And what does it look like to have that special calling?

Gregory: Well, one of the things that we know is, and if you’ve got a boy, you’ve probably noticed, and it could be he’s always tappin’ on something. If you have him in the classroom, you know, he’s tappin’ on some kid’s head in front of him.

Jim: Let’s hope not.

Gregory: And their constant movement and they’re constantly moving and we go, what? Just calm down, please! ‘Cause boys can frustrate us, but when we understand the design of the brain and how God made ’em, one of the things that we can do is sit back and relax a little bit, relax knowing, you know, that’s normal. That boy’s tapping to keep his brain awake. It’s called the alpha state of the brain.

And boys have to have a lot of movement. In fact, in schools, if we allow them to move and we put ’em on little bouncy balls instead of hard chairs, we actually can improve their performance on tests by movement. That’s how the boy’s brain works.

Jim: It keeps them awake like you said.

Gregory: It keeps them awake. The movement’s important, but it’s part of the cognition of how the brain works. God made ’em that way.

Jim: Now when you explained this to your wife, how did she take it.

Gregory: (Laughter) You know, I think we can sit back, and there can be a relief. Okay, boys are that way and a lot of times they may be labeled as, don’t have good attention span and we get concerned about our boys, because right now and this is a time that we should be concerned and there’s a lot of things that can pull a boy and that’s not good. We’ve got technology these days and boys are visual and we know that the average age of exposure for a boy to pornography on the Internet is about age 10. And so, some of the things we’re seeing, we need to talk about, how to protect our boy, how to protect that growing and developing brain.

Jim: You had some experiences as a boy—

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: –that helped shape some of what you now understand as a professional, as a psychologist. What happened in your life as a little boy that began to give you a perspective on being a boy?

Gregory: Well, I was the young man that probably didn’t do that well in school. I wasn’t really a delinquent, but I was always on the edge. I didn’t do that well, but there was a turning point for me and it was a turning point when somebody really spoke into my life.

I was a senior in high school and it was a counselor, a camp counselor. And he said, “Greg, I believe in you.” And he began to impart a positive belief in my future and spent time with me. And my senior year in high school was radically different. I was elected outstanding student of the year. I went from failure to having success because somebody believed in me and showed me that I had a special future.

Jim: Were you not getting that at home? Or what was happening where your parents weren’t providing that?

Gregory: Well—

Jim: Or were you not accepting it from your parents?

Gregory: –I think one of the things that we know is important for boys is mentors and having a mentor, and usually a non-family member, to speak into your life. I grew up in a family that was very supportive, but to have somebody outside of my family who began to see my qualities and my uniqueness, how God made me.

John: Now I think you had described in your book, Raising Boys By Design, that you were a disruptive child—

Gregory: Yes.

John: –up until that point. What did that look like? I mean, a lot of us have boys who are disruptive (Laughter), so speak to that and help us—

Gregory: Sure.

John: –understand what you were like prior to that man’s intervention in your life.

Gregory: Well, for me, probably school was seen as optional. School was something that I didn’t really understand the importance of it. And so, I was probably the dreamer. I had other things on my mind as many boys do. And so, school got in the way of other things I wanted to do. (Laughter) Can you relate to that? We see that a lot with boys. And in fact, we know that 90 percent of the D‘s and F‘s in schools go to boys. Now just that alone …

Jim: Ninety percent.

Gregory: Ninety percent. That percentage has gone up, not down, so just by looking at, well, how are boys doing academically generally speaking? They’re not doing well.

Jim: Huh.

Gregory: And so, that tells us okay, we need a different way of reaching our boys.

Jim: How do we go about addressing that, I guess starting with our own household?

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: All three of us have boys.

Gregory: Yes, we do.

Jim: And many of our listeners have boys. How do we go about acknowledging that and then helping them? Well, let’s say we have a son that’s struggling—

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: –with schoolwork, what are some things that we can do?

Gregory: Well, one of the things that we can do is understand that if you’re frustrated with your boy and you tell him, “Sit down; look at me. We’re gonna have a conversation,” you know how we get frustrated. And you’ll even say something like, “Look at me in the eyes while I talk to you.” (Laughing)

Jim: Have you ever said that, John? (Laughter)

John: Not in the past 20 minutes. (Laughter)

Jim: I’ve actually got that written on a 3 x 5 card just to (Laughter) flash it so I don’t have to say it anymore.

Gregory: And of course, we tell the boy, “Sit down, listen to me while I’m talking to me. Look at me.”

Jim: Yeah. (Laughing)

Gregory: And the boy brain does this. It’s just glazed over.

Jim: Right.

Gregory: And then we give our lecture, right? And then we say to our son, “Did you hear what I just said?” And he goes, “Uh-huh.” And then you say, “Well, what did I just tell you?” And he goes, “I don’t know.”

John: I don’t know. (Laughter)

Jim: It was a double jeopardy. (Laughter)

John: Were you hangin’ out at our house this weekend? I mean, that’s so common.

Gregory: And so, we need to understand, if you have something really important to talk to your boy about, first of all, put an object in his hand, whether it’s a ball. Boys need a mediating object.

Jim: Huh.

Gregory: if you want to have a conversation with your boy and it’s an important one, get up; move around. Go for a walk. Play catch. Notice what changes. The boy brain’s gonna work differently and if it’s really an important conversation, make sure that you’re doing something other than just setting there staring at each other. Make sure there’s movement. And it’s okay. Let him have something to fiddle with.

I have an eight-grade boy and one of his teachers said to me just the other day, he says, “You know, your son just draws in class.” And I said, “Yeah, he needs something.” “But he does really well on tests, okay.” But the teacher was disturbed that he would just draw.

John: It feels like he’s not paying attention.

Gregory: It feels like he’s not paying attention, but as long as he has something in his hand, he is paying attention. In fact, it’s helping him pay attention.

Jim: Huh.

Gregory: So, we just need to understand, and we love our teachers. And teachers are faced with challenges with boys. Here we’ve got technology. Boys are on their devices and we’ve gotta talk about boundaries around technology. How do we do that with boys? So, there’s some challenges out there.

Jim: Oh, there really are. Being that parent though, of the boy who is struggling in that way, you have a concept called “design-based parenting.” And that might be a bit of what you’re talking about, by putting something in the boy’s hand. But what are you getting at when it comes to design-based parenting?

Gregory: Well, first of all, it’s gonna be a great relief for many just to understand, okay, the boy’s brain is different. My frustrations can go down if I relax a bit. And begin to praise that boy for how God has designed him. Boys have a more fragile, if you will, ego and self-esteem than we ever wanted to admit or realize.

Jim: They can put a hard shell around that, right?

Gregory: Yes, yes and our sons need a positive word spoken over them every day.

Jim: Huh.

Gregory: They need to know that we believe in them and they need to know that there is a plan for their life and it is good. I took what was life-changing for me, somebody that told me that they believe in me and this is the part of the design-based parenting, ’cause the Bible will give us what we need. Science is supporting it. Now let’s look at the strategies we can operate and implement to help our boys be successful.

My youngest son on a snowy day, and I oftentimes, I would tell them in the morning, “Have a great day. Dad believes in you.” I was leaving early that day and my boy comes out in his pajamas and through the snow, barefoot. Taps on my car window and says, “Dad, I believe in you. Have a great day.”

John: Oh.

Gregory: And so, our sons, that this will take seed in them and they will pass it on.

Jim: You know, Dr. Jantz, it could be difficult to believe that when you’re parenting, when you’re in the middle of that parenting –

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: –role, because you’re saying these things over and over again.

Gregory: Right.

Jim: And the pillow talk, when you and your wife go to bed or—

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: –you and your husband and you go to bed, you go, “I told him these things 1,000 times.”

Gregory: Right.

Jim: “I don’t think it’s sticking.” But you’re saying, it does stick. Just let it mature. Let is gain root. Is that what I’m hearing you say?

Gregory: You know, and they will survive through junior high. (Laughter) Let’s just say it. Yeah, remember a teenager and a son’s job is to test boundaries. And they’re gonna do that. They’re gonna see how far they can push things and we’re just gonna love them back with firm boundaries. But our teenagers, you know, there are two questions they have, our boys is, “Who am I? And where do I fit in?”

Jim: Yes. Let me push back on the mom interaction a bit, ’cause I’m just observing Jean with the boys.

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: There’s a high value I think, for most women, most moms for having that dialogue. That’s how they process frustration or—

Gregory: Oh, yes.

Jim: –disagreement. It’s sit down and let’s talk it through. If you’re sitting counseling a mom who has that bent, that the way to get to the root of the problem is to sit and really look at each other and talk about it and find solution, counsel her right now. What do you say to her in terms of, it doesn’t always have to go your direction (Laughter) or your way.

Gregory: Yeah, I’m gonna say, mom, what does your son really enjoy doing? Engage yourself a little bit into his world. One of the things we do is and this is where technology [comes in]. We have a digital dinner. One night a week, they can talk about it at the dinner table anything in the digital world. We’re gonna enter their world briefly.

Jim: Okay, like I say.

John: And how freely do they share? (Laughter)

Gregory: Well, you know, it’s like, hey, what’s the apps? What are your friends doing? What’s going on? So, we’re gonna engage and enter their world. I’m gonna tell that mom, begin to show some interest in some areas that he is interested in. And begin to show that. Don’t let that control you, but if you can get that connection with your son that says, “Oh, yeah, mom is interested in something I am.”

Once we have that, we can really enter into a deeper relationship. They need to know that they’re valued and need to know that you have an interest in them. Too often we’re telling them what they can and can’t do. There’s a lot of, “Okay, no, didn’t you hear me? I said don’t do that.” And there’s a lot of instruction and we want to make sure they know how much they’re valued.

John: Well, some great insights from our guest today on “Focus on the Family.” It’s Dr. Gregory Jantz and his book Raising Boys by Design has this kind of insight and practical advice for you. And we’ve got the book at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: Dr. Jantz, I want to again, dig into the brain science. We mentioned it a little while ago, but I want to come back to it, because in our culture, there’s a dumbing down of difference.

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: Everybody wants uniformity, I would say.

Gregory: Right.

Jim: And there are times where that is helpful, but when it comes to the genders, you see in science and you see in the Word of God that there is a distinction between male and female. Describe that distinction, both biblically and scientifically. What does is the—

Gregory: Sure.

Jim: –brain chemistry like in that regard?

Gregory: Sure, a boy’s gonna learn differently. Their brain is going to be growing and developing till about age 25. A boy, see, well, we’ve got this prefrontal cortex. If you just touch your forehead, that’s the part where we have our executive brain function. That’s where we’re supposed to make good decisions. It’s supposed to.

Jim: That’s not to smack yourself (Laughter) in the head?

Gregory: Right. And so, when you think about boys, now they may not be using that prefrontal cortex, that part of their brain (Laughter) that God has put … that comes a little later. And you’ll ask a boy or girl, “What were you thinking?” And they go, “I don’t know!” (Laughter)

Jim: Right, it’s true.

Gregory: ‘Cause they (Laughter) weren’t thinking. And so, understand that brain science piece because they’re going to learn differently, different subjects, different time of the day. Boys need to have a lot of movement when learning. Boys also need to have more brain breaks as they’re doing things. And you may notice, boy, if I get 10, 12 minutes of their attention, that’s good. And that’s …

Jim: Twelve minutes is a—

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: –good run.

Gregory: That’s a good run.

Jim: And it’s a brain break, the time in between?

Gregory: So, then they need movement.

Jim: Okay.

Gregory: And we know that the brain is designed that way. Boys are gonna do a whole lot better in small chunks.

Jim: You know, Dr. Jantz, some are wondering about these differences between girls and boys. Describe those differences for us. I mean, John, you’ve got some of both.

John: Three each.

Jim: I only have boys, so—

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: –I’m totally locked in here. But for that parent that maybe they don’t have a son yet. Maybe they’re still anticipating the birth of a son, talk about those differences very specifically—how girls behave and then how boys behave. You mentioned one example, fight or flight as a—

Gregory: Sure.

Jim: –boy-centric kind of behavior.

Gregory: So, a girl’s gonna use more words, but we knew that already. (Laughter)

Jim: Not always. I mean, there is the 80-20 rule, right?

Gregory: Yes (Laughter).

Jim: I had somebody once say I had diarrhea of the mouth, (Laughter) I was a little boy then. I think it started early.

Gregory: Yeah, oh, you may notice that boys may and this is a general rule, they may use a lot less words. You ask them, “How’re you doin’? How was your day?” “Fine, great.” And you’re wanting more.

Jim: Right.

Gregory: But they’re gonna use fewer words. And I’m makin’ some generalities, the girl, she may use a lot more words and verbally process and she’s gonna be sharing a lot, maybe a lot more with you. She’s gonna be more verbal in her problem-solving. A boy may tend to be more internal in their processing. Now we want to watch that. We want them to be able to articulate their feelings and what’s goin’ on. But a boy’s gonna be slower to put feelings into words.

Jim: Right.

Gregory: So, have patience with ’em.

Jim: You mentioned in your book, Raising Boys by Design, a[n] interesting observation that when you’re speaking to sons, you say, “How are you thinking about this?” Rather than what you might say to a daughter, “How are you—

Gregory: Right, right.

Jim: –feeling about this?” I asked my two boys this morning and they—

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: –nodded profusely at asking them how I’m thinking, rather than how I’m feeling. So, at least the subject matter of two, they—

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: –totally in line with that. I don’t think I’ve ever said, “How are you thinking?” I’ve always said, “How … how does that make you feel?”

Gregory: Right and then they—

Jim: Why is that different?

Gregory: –and they may not know.

Jim: Yeah, I mean, when I say it, I think I’m saying both of those, but—

Gregory: Right.

Jim: –what is the difference between how you feel and how you think?

Gregory: Well, they’re gonna be able to anchor in. How am I thinking? And that’s gonna help them as far as, okay, This is what I’m thinking. Feelings are gonna be much slower.

Jim: They have to really study that. What do you mean—

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: –my feelings?”

Gregory: Feeling, now what? I’m just fine; don’t you know it? (Laughing) So …

Jim: You also talk about where boys brain chemistry, they rely more on the grey matter of the brain.

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: And women, girls rely more on the white matter of the brain. Not being a brain scientist, what’s the distinction between the two and why are they found generally in the genders?

Gregory: Sure, well, you know, we have two brain hemispheres and there’s pathways between the two. And a female generally speaking will have a lot more pathways and they’re gonna process and a lot more things happening between those two hemispheres of the brain. Boys are gonna process at best, usually one thing at a time, okay.

Jim: Right and that’s the grey matter.

Gregory: Yes, that’s the grey matter. So, they’re gonna be more sequential. I’m gonna do this and then I’ll go on to this next, whatever is next on my list, versus having a lot goin’ on and keepin’ track of it. So, keep it simple. You have something you want your son to do, do it really simple. Write down three [things]. One, do this, one, two three. And don’t make it longer than three things.

Jim: Yeah (Laughing) right, and that’ll work far better.

Gregory: Well, it will.

Jim: Yeah.

Gregory: It will.

Jim: I like that. You also mentioned what a boy learns from his mom.

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: And I think that is really profound. I liked that portion of your—

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: –research and what you mention there. Describe those things for us. What does a boy learn specifically from his mother?

Gregory: A boy may learn more about empathy and how to be alert to the feelings of others, they may learn more of that through the mom. I’m reminded of a mom I saw. My youngest son was playing a football game and there was a boy that was down on the field who didn’t get up immediately. You know, maybe he was hurt.

The mom comes running down out of the stands to the field, ’cause her boy wasn’t getting up. The dad’s actually standing on the sidelines just watching. Both of them are handling this differently. The mom is concerned and she says, “Is he okay? Is he okay?” ‘Cause see, she’s got high empathy. The dad’s on the side of the field going, “He’s fine. He’s gonna get right up. He’s gonna get up.”

Jim: Hang on. Don’t go out there.

Gregory: And he did. (Laughter) Yeah.

Jim: I’ve heard that story a different way where the son on the football field is looking at his mom, “Why are you out here?” (Laughter)

Gregory: Absolutely! And one of the things that we need to understand. The role of the mom is so important.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Gregory: Mom may show more frustration towards the son. But your role is important. You’re gonna teach that boy a lot to do with relationships, how to relate, how to respect feelings. So, the mom is needed. The boy needs to learn these things.

John: I saw my wife kind of coaching our boys into what they were feeling. Earlier—

Gregory: Yeah.

John: –you were talking about thinking and feeling. This is something I could not do and it was, I think, helpful for them. I didn’t receive it so well when she would tell me what I was feeling after we got married. But there’s a coaching element for moms with regard to what we would call emotional intelligence, right?

Gregory: Absolutely.

John: And what does that look like at different ages and stages?

Gregory: Well, at different ages a young man is going to be more aware of his feelings, uh … particularly when he gets older. And we’re gonna also see that it’s gonna require a lot of patience with that young man. You may have a boy that’s [has] a lot of internal processing and you’re trying to coach him on feelings. And that may come later.

John: Yeah, but what if he doesn’t accept her coaching?

Gregory: (Laughing) And he may not, or it may appear that way. So, stay with them. Here’s what we want to watch with our boys. Watch how they’re processing anger and frustration. The two rules are, you don’t injure yourself or others or property. But watch how they’re processing their frustration. Is he breaking things? Is he hitting things? So, what you want to do with the boy is, help him understand anger and help him understand the proper processing of that anger.

Jim: And you’re saying a mom plays a key role—

Gregory: Oh, a key role.

Jim: –in those things.

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: Talk about dad as we’re wrapping up here. What are dad’s contributions to the boy in his fathering?

Gregory: A dad is going to teach a boy about what it means to be a man and to be a godly man. In our culture, a boy doesn’t know when he’s a man. I asked my oldest son a while back. I said, “So, when do you become a man?” He said, “Well, I think it’s when I get my driver’s license.”

So, the dad is going to be teaching what does it mean to be a man, which means integrity, honor, respect. You’re gonna teach that boy, ’cause deep in the heart of every boy is, he wants to be a hero. Show him how to be the hero. Show him how to be the Christ-like hero.

Jim: That’s a perfect place to end today, ’cause I want to come back and talk about the hero, the acronym, HERO and we’ll start there next time. Let’s do that. Greg, this has been a fascinating conversation and the time has flown by. That must mean we’re the father of boys there, John. (Laughter)

John: Drinking it in, yeah.

Jim: Everything is so relevant and we can see our own selves—

Gregory: Yes.

Jim: –in that setting, as you described the homework problems and all the other things. That’s being the parent of boys and I want to pick up where we have left off. Let’s do that, okay?

Gregory: You got it.

John: And if you’d like to get a copy of Dr. Jantz’s book, Raising Books by Design, just give us a call, 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY or you can find out more about that and the download or a CD of our conversation at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: Hey, Greg, before we go, I’m thinking of that mom or that dad or both of them that heard this and they’ve got that 15-year-old that has been a struggle.

Gregory: Yeah.

Jim: How can they change that conversation tonight, the next time they are sitting around the dinner table? What’s something they can do to change the trajectory of the relationship?

Gregory: Absolutely, so some physical activity with your boy. It means going for a walk. It means engaging him in something physical.

Jim: So, don’t sit and watch the news—

Gregory: Right.

Jim: –which I’m guilty of.

Gregory: And—

Jim: Get up and go do something with him.

Gregory: –keep dinner time positive. If you have something really important to talk about, dinner time, where there’s potential of conflict, dinner time’s probably not the time to do it. Keep dinner time positive. And if it’s a short walk or change the setting. Go to a different room. Make sure you have something in his hands that he can fidget with, okay. (Laughter)

Jim: You believe in that. I mean, I’ve heard that strongly.

Gregory: (Laughing) Yes. And it’s okay. Maybe it seems like a distraction, but always affirm. Let your son know this is really important and I love you.” So, always, end the conversation and begin the conversation with affirmation for that boy.

Jim: And the key is, don’t give up if the next day he stumbles. Come back and give that affirmation again and again.

Gregory: And he will stumble.

Jim: Yeah.

Gregory: And that’s called growing up.

Closing:

Jim: That’s the truth of it. This has been terrific and I want to turn to you and ask the listener, if Focus on the Family has been there for you in helping you with resources and tools like the broadcast or books that we can provide, articles, all the times, John, that we’re able to provide, I would like to ask you to help us here at the ministry. We are donation supported. And we need to hear from you.

It is a privilege to be in partnership with you to touch the lives of literally hundreds of thousands of parents to help them do a better job of parenting, not just their boys, but their boys and their girls and to impact the future generation who will again, be the leaders and be those who are impacting the world for the sake of Christ. So, help us today by providing a gift.

John: And you can make that generous donation when you call 800-A-FAMILY or at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio. And when you contribute to the ministry today, we’ll send a copy of Dr. Jantz’s book to you. It’s our way of saying thank you for joining that support team and hopefully, you’ll benefit greatly from the content in the book.

And on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire Focus on the Family team, I’m John Fuller, thanking you for listening and inviting you back for more from Dr. Gregory Jantz about raising your son, as we once again, help you and your family thrive.

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Joshua Becker discusses the benefits a family can experience if they reduce the amount of “stuff” they have and simplify their lives. He addresses parents in particular, explaining how they can set healthy boundaries on how much stuff their kids have, and establish new habits regarding the possession of toys, clothes, artwork, gifts and more.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!