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Praying for Your Sons

Praying for Your Sons

Author and blogger Brooke McGlothlin discusses the need for parents to pray Scripture over their sons, and offers advice on raising boys to be men of integrity, character and respect.
Original Air Date: September 6, 2016

Excerpt:

Mrs. Brooke McGlothlin:  I knew in that moment as God whispered to my heart, the same as you and I are talking right now, that God was speaking to me. And He said this to me. He said, “Brooke, don’t give up. These boys need someone to fight for them and I have chosen that person to be you.”
John Fuller: That’s Brooke McGlothlin sharing about the tremendous significance God gives you as the mom of a boy. She’s our guest on today’s Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. Thanks for listening. I’m John Fuller.

End of Excerpt

Jim Daly: Hey, if you’re a parent of a boy, you’re gonna love today’s program, because we are going to talk about how to inspire young boys to become men of God. And I’ll tell you what, now more than ever – I’ve got two teenage boys. Now more than ever, we need to be very intentional about raising those sons to be men of God. And that’s why we’re here at Focus on the Family to put this kind of a resource in your hands and to have this discussion, so you could start talking about it as parents and what you can do to help your boys find the Lord and follow the Lord.

John Fuller: Hmm. Well, and you can learn how we can help you in that journey at www.focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And our guest, as I said, is Brooke McGlothlin. And, uh, she and her husband live in Virginia with two sons and she’s written a number of books, including Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most.

Jim: Brooke, welcome for the first time to Focus on the Family.

Brooke: Thank you so much for having me. It’s a pleasure to be here.

Jim: Okay, now, do we really need to pray for our boys, really?

Brooke: Oh, my goodness, yes.

Jim: (Laughter).

Brooke: I am convinced. I’m convinced of it, that it’s just the most overlooked part of Christian parenting today.

Jim: (Laughing) Yeah, just pray!

Brooke: Yes. Just pray.

Jim: I think parents of boys know that one pretty well, ‘cause they get up in the tree and you start praying, like…

John: (Laughter).

Brooke: Yes.

Jim: -…What is that kid…

Brooke: You have this…

Jim: …A monkey?

Brooke: …You have this innate “God help me!”

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: Yeah, exactly. Now you have a fun piece in your bio. You were the co-founder of the MOB Society. In today’s world that may sound like a terrifying thing…

Brooke: (Laughter).

Jim: …But what is the MOB Society?

Brooke: The MOB Society – MOB stands for Mothers of Boys.

Jim: (Laughter) I love it.

Brooke: And, um, yeah. We created that about 5 and a half years ago to encourage and equip mothers of boys to raise godly men.

Jim: When you look at culture today, um, we all kind of fret as parents and listen, um , we talk about being the parents of girls, as well, so if you’re in that stage, don’t tune out, because a lot of this will apply to both boys and girls. But we do want to emphasize boys today. Why are we, as parents, so concerned about what boys are facing today?

Brooke: I think part of it is because what we 0 culturally, what we have learned to expect from our children, or what we have accepted as the cultural norm for boys has changed so much over the last…

Jim: In what ways? What did it used to be like…

Brooke: Well…

Jim: …And what is it like today?

Brooke: …Let me give you an example. I have two of what I call “those boys.”

Jim: (Laughter).

Brooke: You know, they are the ones who are 250 percent boy. They run me ragged. They’re aggressive, impulsive…

Jim: Lots of energy.

Brooke: …Lots of energy…

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: …And they don’t stop until they pass out. Now some moms would say, “Oh, your boys aren’t hard. They’re not hard to handle. They’re just boys.” And I disagree. They actually are.

Jim: (Laughter).

Brooke: I do believe there’s a subset of boys that are – that are harder to handle than most and I happen to have two of them. Um, if my boys had been born in the culture, I don’t know, years and years ago, they would’ve been the ones that were responsible for the livelihood of the pack. The things that our culture sees today as deficiencies in boys, back then were celebrated.

Jim: Huh. That energy…

Brooke: That energy…

Jim: …You’re talking about.

Brooke: …That impulsiveness, that stubbornness, that desire to set a goal and to whatever is required to get it done.

Jim: Huh.

Brooke: You know, years ago, they would’ve been the ones leading the pack, and now they’re the ones that our – our culture looks at and says, “We have to beat that out of them somehow.”

Jim: When you look at that big question though, and you’re talking to 9- and 11-year-olds like in your case, what are you helping them aim for? What – what do you say to them? “This is the kinda man I want you to be.”

Brooke: Mm hmm. Yeah. I love that, because I do that all the time with them. Um, I talk to them constantly about what a good man is, what a real man is.

Jim: What are those attributes that you share with them?

Brooke: One of the things that comes to mind is that a real man admits when he’s done something wrong.

Jim: Huh.

Brooke: A real man asks for forgiveness when he does something to hurt someone else. We’ve groomed our children from the beginning to teach them that they – that God made them to be protectors of women. Whether women want to be protected or not, that’s who God made you to be.

We have taught them to, you know, just be considerate of other people, to display humility and love other people more than they love themselves. Just those very, honestly, very Biblical concepts of maybe what we all should be, but I think we’ve lost it, as it pertains to men specifically. And as a woman, I have to say, you know, I have a master’s degree. I was one of those that went on and got, you know, that graduate degree. I’m so grateful for the freedoms I have as a woman now. But I think in our fight to give women lots of, you know…

Jim: Opportunity.

Brooke: …Freedoms and opportunities…

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: …We’ve somehow, you know, hurt our – our men in some ways.

Jim: It’s odd that it –  it’s a zero-sum game. I’m not sure why that’s so, why the culture can’t embrace both genders in a – in a gender-specific way.

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: It’s almost like we want to eliminate the distinction. Although MRI’s, you know, those exams that they could do, our brains fire differently. God has wired us differently I think for very specific reasons. I want to get back to prayer, though, ‘cause that seems to be a core theme for you.

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: Why is prayer so important for kids, for your kids in general, but for boys even specifically?

Brooke: I’d love to tell you why prayer is important for me, and I think that’ll answer your question. When my boys were very little, they were born just 23 months apart. Neither one of them were planned. And as I’ve mentioned already, they’re both of the hard-to-handle kind. We thought our oldest son was hard to handle and then his little brother came and just blew him right out of the water.

Jim: (Laughter) You got the second…

Brooke: I – yes, I…

Jim: …The second one.

Brooke: …Thought for sure that God was gonna give me an easy baby after our first one and that did not happen.

(LAUGHTER)

Brooke: Um, so, I was one of those really weary moms who was desperate for God to do something in my home. I – I went to bed every night for the first several years of their lives, feeling like I had not been the kind of mom I wanted to be that day.

Jim: I think – let me interrupt, because I need to understand that picture. What was happening that would give you that kind of fear or overwhelming sense?

Brooke: I could not control my children.

Jim: So, they wouldn’t listen?

Brooke: They wouldn’t listen. They wouldn’t obey. They were loud and aggressive and all those things.

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: You know, they would beat up on the little boy that came over, you know, to play with us. And I – and I think I felt a response in myself…

Jim: Right.

Brooke: …That really was – it felt very out of character to who I was. If you asked the people that I grew up with, the words “unkind,” “angry,” “difficult,” those – those words would not be – have been the words that people used to describe me growing up. And yet, my children seemed to bring out the worst in me.

Jim: Wow, so, I mean, it was really – your concern was, it was reflecting upon you.

Brooke: Yes, it would…

Jim: Which is true.

Brooke: …It really was bringing out the worst in me. There were parts of me that came to the surface during that time that I didn’t even know were there. I had never been pressed so hard…

Jim: And embarrassed.

Brooke: …And embarrassed so much by the behavior of two people whose behavior directly reflected upon me.

Jim: So, you and your husband, how did you two talk about this? Where’s he in the picture? He’s dad.

Brooke: He is an amazing father and he was just as frustrated as I was.

Jim: Really?

Brooke: We struggled to get them to listen. It was almost like at times, there was a blanket, a veil over their eyes, like they couldn’t even see us or hear us. They were so intent upon their own way.

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: Our boys are fighters and they have been from the beginning and over that period of time, our life became one big fight. And I was embarrassed by their behavior and I was embarrassed by the way it made me look, as someone who really enjoyed portraying myself to my friends and family as a, you know, educated woman who was equipped and able to do whatever God brought my way. I was failing…

Jim: Wow.

Brooke: …Miserably, as it came to my children.

Jim: What do you think God was saying to you in that role? I mean again, you have those inadequacies. You’re feeling embarrassed. Both you and your husband…

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: …Don’t have the answer.

Brooke: Right.

Jim: Your kids are out of control. What do you think God was saying to you in that? Like “Relax”? Or…

Brooke: I…

Jim: …”I’ve got it.:” Or…

Brooke: …I know.

Jim: …”Get with it. Come on.”

Brooke: Yes, no, I don’t think…

Jim: (Laughter).

Brooke: …He was saying, “Get with it.”

(LAUGHTER)

Brooke: Maybe sometimes.

Jim: Well, some parents feel that way.

Brooke: Yes.

Jim: That you know…

Brooke: They do.

Jim: …I’m not doing it right. What am I doing wrong?

Brooke: You know, I think for me, the Lord was stripping me.

Jim: Ah.

Brooke: He was just stripping me. I didn’t realize that I was a prideful woman until I became so embarrassed by my children’s behavior. And I still struggle with that sometimes today. I still struggle with that sometimes today. I still feel like my children are too much of a reflection on me. And I think probably most parents have that from time to time. When your child does something stupid, you wonder, is that my fault? Is – am I the reason for that? Or you know, when does their free will come into play?

Jim: Let me ask you this. As you began to pray for your boys, what changes did you see? Was there something tangible that was happening?

Brooke: You know, the biggest changes came in me.

Jim: Ah.

Brooke: There have been changes that have happened in my boys, for sure, as I’ve prayed. The Lord has answered prayers for me. The Lord has moved in their hearts. Um, there are some big ones that He’s answered for me and I’m so grateful for that. But I approached prayer – when I first started praying, the only reason I did it is because I didn’t know what else to do.

Jim: Desperation.

Brooke: I was desperate. I had no idea how to make a change in my home. I had a degree in counseling…

Jim: Hmm.

Brooke: …And I could not make a change in my home. And it was so – it was just arresting. It was the – the biggest failure I think I had ever felt in my life. That I could not make a change in my own home.

And so, I went to the Lord in desperation, and I said, “God, something has to change, and I can’t do it.” So, I began to look at the Word. And I came across Ezekiel 36:26, which says that “It’s the Lord that changes a heart of stone to a heart of flesh.”

Jim: Hmm.

Brooke: And I pondered that for some time and came to the conclusion that it was both a relief and a frustration. It was a frustration, because I did not have the power to change my children’s hearts and I wanted to.

Jim: Yeah. Disappointment, too.

Brooke: Yes, I wanted to be able to snap (sound of finger snapping) my fingers and see a change in them and I realized just straight from the Word of God, that I did not have that power. I do have a lot of power as a mom. As parents, we do have power in our homes and with our children, but that one thing the Lord had not given me.

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: And it was frustrating for me. But at the same time, it was an incredible release for me and relief, because I thought, you know what? If I really mess up and if I can’t do this mothering thing the way I want to, God can still move in their hearts in spite of me. And so, it just changed my entire perspective. That one verse gave me a picture of what partnering with God in parenting actually looked like.

Jim: Hmm.

Brooke: And so, I believed very, very strongly that the Word of God was true. And I believed that when God said that when – that His Word was not returned void, that it would do what He set forth for it to do, that it actually would. And so, I thought, I’m gonna start praying for my children. Why would I pray anything other than the Scripture? If God is alive and active and uses His Word to pierce our hearts, why would I ever pray anything else?

John: And you’re listening to Brooke McGlothlin on today’s Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and we’re talking about parenting. We’re talking about some pretty common things. I think all of us have kinda hit the wall and said, “I can’t do this.”

Jim: (Laughter).

John: And Brooke has a great resource called Praying for Boys, and we’ve got it at focuosnthefamily.com/broadcast. Or you can call 1-800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. And if you can contribute to this not-for-profit ministry, Focus on the Family reaches around the globe, touching lives and helping parents day in, day out. Help us do that by making a generous donation today, and we’ll send a copy of that book to you as our way of saying thank you. And Jim, the subtitle of the book is, Asking God for the Things They Need Most, but so far what we’ve heard from Brooke is, she was asking God for what she needed most…

Jim: Yeah. (Laughing)

John: …Which was some…

Jim: That’s a good point.

John: …Perspective.

Jim: And it’s so –  Brooke, I appreciate your heart, because you’re speaking to all of us as parents. We’ve been there and it seems that we come back there on occasion, that frustration, that desperation that you’ve talked about. I want you to speak specifically to that mom or dad who is moving in that frustration mode too much. I mean, when the kids are out of control, um, they’re trying their best to get the situation under control, but it sounds like you were able to relax, rather than get more intense. I think a lot of us as parents, we actually get more intense if it’s not working, rather than back up, take a deep breath and say, “Okay, Lord, I need Your help.” And usually in that situation what I sense is, the Lord does say, “Yeah, pray for them.”

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: But talk about that parent who is moving toward anger, toward more intensity, when really, they should rethink it.

Brooke: Mm hmm. My family is a homeschool family and so, when my youngest son was 5-years-old, we entered into a time where we were for the first time, homeschooling both of our boys at the same time. And I think as homeschoolers, there are misconceptions about what it’s like. It is not peaches and cream. Homeschooling for me is very difficult. It is a huge challenge for me. I struggle every day with it. But this particular season when my youngest son was 5-years-old  was one of the worst.

And by the time we reached November of his kindergarten year, he had become completely bored with his curriculum. I had underestimated how much he was learning just from listening to his older brother. And so, he already knew everything that I was trying to teach him, and I was lost. But I was – I thought I have to do this by the book. I have to teach him what it says, right? I just have to do it by the book. And so, I was moving on and forcing him to do things he already knew. And by November, the mere mention of the word “school” caused him to fall on the floor in a kicking and screaming tantrum fit.

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: That’s how bad it was. His older brother was getting no attention from me, because I was having these physical outbursts from my younger child every day. And so, this one particular day, I took – we had finished school. I had fed the boys, and I had put them upstairs for their quiet time, and I was broken. I will never forget this day. This day changed everything for me. I went downstairs to what I call my green prayer chair and I sat down, body shaking…

Jim: Huh.

Brooke: …Weeping before the Lord. And I said, “God, I can’t do this! This is not what I signed up for. I wanted to teach my children, because I wanted to love them, and I wanted to be with them, and I wanted to be the one that opened their mind and their heart to all these things. I wanted to teach them about You. I wanted to disciple them and that is not what’s happening. I quit. I’m done. I can’t do this anymore.” And I was weeping and telling the Lord and, you know, I don’t have too many times in my life where I can profess to hear the audible voice of God, but I knew in that moment as God whispered to my heart, the same as you and I are talking right now, that God was speaking to me. And He said this to me. He said, “Brooke, don’t give up. These boys need someone to fight for them, and I have chosen that person to be you.”

Jim: Hmm. Wow.

Brooke: And it gives me chills still today to think about that, because I realized I was fighting against my children. We were not on the same team.

Jim: Hmm. Yeah.

Brooke: And God told me, no, you fight for them. And prayer is one of the ways that I can do that.

Jim: It’s one of the most amazing privileges, but daunting tasks that the Lord gives us, isn’t it?

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: To fight for our kids spiritually.

Brooke: Yes.

Jim: I mean, what you’re describing there is spiritual warfare.

Brooke:  Mm hmm.

Jim: I mean, it’s stepping in the gap and being there on the side of your children, just like the Lord is on our side. You know, we – we have to realize that they need that kind of mentoring, that kind of person. That should be us as moms and dads. Um, for the parent who hasn’t consistently been praying for their sons, how do they get started? Give me a guideline on what’s the best thing to do.

Brooke: It’s really so simple. I think sometimes our culture over-spiritualizes prayer. It isn’t that hard and what I found worked best for me was to make a list of some of the things that we were dealing with, with our boys. And this is something I do on a regular basis. I’ll do it every so often.

Jim: What would that list look…

Brooke: Just…

Jim: …Like?

Brooke: …Character traits they were struggling with, areas in their character that I wanted the Lord to work in, like maybe we needed to work on patience. Or maybe we needed to work on purity or anger or things like that. I would become a student of your son.

Jim: Huh.

Brooke: Look at what they’re dealing with. Know their hearts. Know what makes them tick and what their individual needs are. And then just make a bullet-point list of those things. And then, go to the Word and find out how it speaks to those things. You may have to change your words a little bit, because what I’ve found is that sometimes people think, well, we’re dealing with this, but the Bible doesn’t really speak to that. It actually does. It just uses different words sometimes. So, go and – you know, look at your son and you say, “Oh, he’s just so fussy all the time.” Well, he’s not content. So, look at verses that have to do with contentment. Um, you know, if you say, “Well, he just yells at me all the time.” Well, fine. He’s angry. Look at verses that have anger involved with them.

Jim: And the great news is, Brooke, you’ve packed all this into your book, Praying for Boys.

Brooke:  Mm hmm.

Jim: I mean, so we get a little bit of a cheat sheet. We can go in there and see “obedience” and then look at the Scriptures that you’ve already put there…

Brooke:  Mm hmm.

Jim: …That you’ve used in practice in your own home.

Brooke: Yes.

Jim: Ah, that is so good. Let me talk about obedience, because that is one of the key themes. You’ve touched on it, but I think as moms and dads, I – that’s probably the big fight in our house. “How many times have I told you to take that bag of trash out the door in the last 20 minutes?”

John: Is it always so calm?

Jim: “Oh, I think it’s five times.”

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: No, it’s pretty much that way.

John: Okay.

Jim: I – I – I tend – I probably tend to say, “I’m not sure. I’m not a medical doctor. I think your hearing is okay, so why would I have to tell you for the fifth time to take that garbage out in the last half hour?” I – I’ll say something like that. That may be a little too shaming, I don’t know, but that’s how I’m trying to get connected to my teen boys to say, “Open your ears.”

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: Um, how did you approach the obedience prayer?

Brooke: You know, I think I misunderstood what obedience was in the beginning. I had been taught that obedience meant, first time immediately, you must do what I say.

Jim: It sounds good to me.

Brooke: With – it does sound good. It’s so easy…

Jim: (Laughter) That’s not what it means?

Brooke: …It – it’s so easy and convenient for us as parents. We – of course, we want that from our children, right? It makes us look good when that happens. I don’t think that’s the way it is with us and God.

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: I think God wants us to obey and the – the closer we are with Him, the more mature we are in our faith, the more we’re able to respond that way. But sometimes we eliminate development when we’re talking about our children. I was unreasonable back then. I wanted a 2- and a 4-year-old to obey me instantly.

Jim: Right. (Laughter)

Brooke: And they don’t have the capacity to do that.

Jim: You’re absolutely right.

Brooke: So, I had to go back and renew and  just retrain myself on, what is God’s heart toward obedience? How does God treat me when I’m not obedient? What does He expect from me, and what developmental stage are my children in? And what can I realistically expect from them?

Jim: You know, Brooke, what’s so good about what you’re saying and what people, all of us need to catch, what you said there about God wanting relationship…

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: …With you, and through that relationship, you’ve become more obedient. So, it’s not – obedience is not the first thing. It’s actually the love of God…

Brooke: It’s His kindness.

Jim: …That compels us toward that obedience.

Brooke: Yes.

Jim: That has such a perfect fit with parenting.

Brooke: Yes.

Jim: You’ve got to have a relationship with your children, where they lean into you, they fall towards you. And you may have days where it’s not working’ well, but don’t sever the relationship for obedience. Maintain…

Brooke: Absolutely.

Jim: …Relationship. You know, I think also that example of David. You know, how can the Lord say that David had a heart for Him? I mean, David’s kinda the man’s man…

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: …Out of the Bible, isn’t he? Wow, but he had a heart for God? Oh, didn’t he commit adultery and murder? That doesn’t sound like a heart for God. But I think what you’re saying there in that analogy is, that David knew His weaknesses.

Brooke: Mm hmm.

Jim: And he confessed his weaknesses and then he drove harder into his relationship with the Lord.

Brooke: Absolutely.

Jim: That’s what God wants.

Brooke: Yes. Yes, and we have to focus on that. Before I became a writer, I worked at a local crisis pregnancy center for many, many years. And we taught parenting classes to the girls that were, you know, choosing life and carrying their babies and that kind of thing. And we had this dear older woman who came in and taught a parenting class for us. And I went to her class as the director of counseling. I was brand new and I just was sitting in on all the classes. And I went to her parenting class before I even had children. And I listened to her, and she said something that I will never forget. She said, “Keep the hearts of your children.”

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: “No matter if – forget about everything else I’m saying. If you only take one thing from what I’m telling you today, let it be this. Keep the hearts of your children.”

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: And I think – I have a grandmother. My – my father’s father abandoned my grandmother with three small boys. He was an alcoholic and chose alcohol over his family. And somehow in a time when divorce was not looked at the same way it is now, it was much tougher for her to raise three boys by herself in that time than it is now. Somehow, she managed to raise three good men. And you know why?

Jim: Huh.

Brooke: It was because of the Lord, but it was also because she had their hearts.

Jim: Yeah.

Brooke: They could very easily have become statistics. They should have. They should have become statistics, and God prevented that and to her dying day, she had their hearts.

Jim: Ah, Brooke, that is so well-said and that’s probably the key thing that we’ve talked about today, and I so appreciate it. Our conversation, it has highlighted our parental desire to help you raise spiritually mature sons who are able to live in this world and transform the culture through their faith. And I’m so impressed with your book, Brooke, and I hope folks will pick it up, because it is full, chock full, of great input and great advice. And here at Focus on the Family, that’s why we’re here everybody. We want to put these kind of tools and resources into your hands so you can do a better job parenting. And let me tell you, I need it. We all need it. And we need to be able to acknowledge that we need that additional help, especially when someone has come onto something so critical.

Let me read you a comment from a listener that we received not long ago. “We’ve listened to your programs throughout our marriage of 38 years and raising three children. And now we get to experience the wisdom you pass on to be a godly grandparent. Your programs have encouraged me when I was down, lifted me when I was lost, affirmed me when I needed that, and gave me strength to fight the good fight the good fight, and stand firm for our Lord Jesus Christ in all situations. Thank you for all you do.” And we want to pass that praise right onto the Lord, but Brooke, you are a first-time guest and you are in the greatest of the traditions of Focus on the Family. Thanks for what you’ve done. Thanks for being with us, and I hope that if you need parenting help, you will call us today.

John: And our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. And you can also find us online at www.focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. We’re going to have details about Brooke’s book and a CD or a download of this conversation there. Also, a link for our mobile app so you can listen on the go. We certainly have a number of listeners who are increasingly doing that more and more.  And if you can join us in supporting the work of Focus on the Family to reach out and equip parents, as we’ve done in the broadcast today, please make a generous donation of any amount. And when you do, we’ll be sending a copy of the book, Praying for Boys, as our thank you gift. Also, let me just remind you that right now there’s a matching grant opportunity.  Your gift is going to have twice the impact when you donate today. Some generous friends will match your gifts dollar-for-dollar so that will double the impact you’re making in this vital family ministry. Donate today and get your copy of Praying for Boys when you call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Hey Brooke, I’m gonna put you on the spot. I know there’s a – you know, millions of people listening, but I think a good thing to do would be to close us in prayer, by praying for one of those attributes. Could you do that?

Brooke: I would love to do that. Thank you. Father, we just thank You so much for the way You always meet us in the mess. You always are so faithful to come when we call, Lord. So, I just pray for any – any mom or dad that’s listening right now, that’s struggling and hurting and weary, that You would give them the – the freedom and the ability to call on You. And so, Father, we just also lift up these boys all across the world, Lord. And we pray in agreement with Numbers 6, that You would bless them and keep them and make Your face shine upon them, in Jesus’ name, amen.

Jim: Amen. Brooke McGlothlin, author of Praying for Boys, thank you for being with us.

Brooke: Thank you so much for having me.

John: Well, what a great conversation and we hope you can join us next time for the broadcast as we hear one man’s powerful story of recovery from alcohol addiction.

Teaser:

Mr. Johnny Baker: I’m weak if I admit I’m – I have a problem. And I think that we need to be careful for that because it’s when we admit our problems that, actually, God is able to work in our lives.

Jim: Yeah, so when we are weak, He is strong.

Johnny: Right.

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Cynthia Wenz shares her incredible testimony of discovering God’s love and forgiveness. As a teenager, Cynthia lived recklessly and strayed away from the Lord. By age 29, she had three abortions, numbing herself from the reality of killing her children. After realizing her mistakes, Cynthia became pro-life and experienced many years of turmoil and grief before undergoing post-abortion recovery. She now advocates for pregnancy resource centers across the nation. (Part 2 of 2)

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How I Found God Through My Abortion Journey (Part 1 of 2)

Cynthia Wenz shares her incredible testimony of discovering God’s love and forgiveness. As a teenager, Cynthia lived recklessly and strayed away from the Lord. By age 29, she had three abortions, numbing herself from the reality of killing her children. After realizing her mistakes, Cynthia became pro-life and experienced many years of turmoil and grief before undergoing post-abortion recovery. She now advocates for pregnancy resource centers across the nation. (Part 1 of 2)

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Embracing Hope and Love After a Loss

Dr. Gary Chapman and Candy McVicar describe the grief process and offer practical help & comfort to couples who have experienced infant loss.

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Avoiding Shame-Based Parenting

Psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan discusses the origins of shame, the search for self-worth in all the wrong places, and the importance of extending grace to ourselves. He also explains how parents can help their kids find their own sense of self-worth, belonging and purpose.

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Becoming a Clutter-Free Family

Joshua Becker discusses the benefits a family can experience if they reduce the amount of “stuff” they have and simplify their lives. He addresses parents in particular, explaining how they can set healthy boundaries on how much stuff their kids have, and establish new habits regarding the possession of toys, clothes, artwork, gifts and more.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!