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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who's faced many difficult challenges including serving in the Iraq War, removing deadly brain tumors, and experiencing the loss of a son. On this insightful broadcast, he shares lessons he's learned as he's sought answers to life's toughest questions while holding on to his faith in God.
Original Air Date: July 20, 2021

John Fuller: Dr. Lee Warren describes the Intensive Care Unit as a place where desperation and hope slug it out to see who the champion will be. He says that beeping monitors, hissing ventilators, and humming IV pumps push their notes into the air, mingling with the steel hints of iodine and bodily fluids and waning faith. Today on Focus on the Family, you’ll hear from Dr. Warren about his own personal struggles with God through many trials in the hospital and also outside it. He’ll offer hope to you to endure through your trials today. Thanks for joining us. Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, what a vivid and accurate, uh, depiction of the ICU ward, something that Dr. Warren faces every day in treating his patients. Eh, Dr. Warren was our guest on a broadcast earlier this year. That really spoke to our listeners and our viewers. It was one of our top programs of the year.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And Dr. Warren has operated on deadly tumors and people with serious brain injuries as a surgeon. Before starting his practice in Nebraska, he helped to triage seriously wounded, uh, soldiers in Iraq. He’s also experienced trauma in his personal life, and we’re going to cover some of his amazing stories in his award-winning book I’ve Seen the End of You. He’s already faced more life and death situations than most of us will face in our lifetime, but God has given him the strength to do it, and we can grow spiritually as we glean from his stories about how fragile life truly is.

John: Mm-hmm. And this was such a deep conversation about the essence of life and death and, as you said, Jim, Dr. Warren’s book was the winner of the Christian Book Award for biographies and memoirs. So, congratulations to Dr. Warren for that. The title, again, is I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know. We’ll encourage you to get a copy of that book from us here at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Well, let’s go ahead and join the start of the conversation with Dr. Lee Warren on today’s Best of 2021 Focus on the Family broadcast.

Jim: Dr. Warren, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Dr. Lee Warren: Thank you. I’m so, uh, grateful. Lisa and I are both so grateful to be here with you today.

Jim: Let me ask you, uh, kicking this off, this is, uh, really interesting content, um, and we’re gonna get into it. You were raised in a Christian home. Uh, your parents gave you that foundation of faith, but you had a relationship with a friend, I think, in elementary school that kinda shook and shaped your world. What happened?

Dr. Warren: Yes. I- I don’t think I realized it until later, but, um, in, uh, third and fourth grade, had a young girl that was- I had- sorta had a crush on. (laughing) We called her Annie in the book-

Jim: And you were in fourth grade?

Dr. Warren: Third and fourth grade. Yeah. (laughing) Yeah.

Jim: Good for you.

Dr. Warren: And so, I actually had my first fistfight over her (laughing) which I won’t tell you if I won or not, but it’s my book, so… (laughing) Um-

Jim: Get the book for more.

Dr. Warren: But, so, she- she, at the end of one school year, uh, I had just had this vivid memory of her driving off in the bus and and waving goodbye, and, you know, my hopes were flying that, as you know, for seeing her next year. And then, later that summer, my mom told me that she was sick, and she might not be back at school, um, and turned out, she had a- a pediatric brain tumor, and I remember late in the school year, she came back to class and- and just looked like a different person. She didn’t have her personality. She was- was swollen from I know now was, you know, steroids and medication and radiation treatment and all that.

Jim: Sure.

Dr. Warren: She had a wig on-

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Warren: … and just wasn’t the same little kid, um, and then she died later that year. Um, and, you know, as I- as I grew up and became a doctor and looked back on all that, it- it just dawned on me at some point that my interest in neurosurgery probably started around that time when- when, um, a little kid can be taken away from you by something happening in the brain.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Warren: Um, and I remember the talks I had with my mom, uh, and how afraid I was that, you know, for the first time, somebody my age could be sick, and I didn’t know that, at that time, that somebody my age could die, and, uh, I remember how mom always told me that, you know, faith would get me through those things and calm my fears. And- and so, I think that was probably a foundational moment for me in- in becoming a physician and maybe even a neurosurgeon.

Jim: Yeah. Let’s move to your service. Thank you, by the way, for serving in- in the military-

Dr. Warren: Thank you.

Jim: At the same time, I mean, you saw such trauma because you saw all of the backend of warfare, those m- men and perhaps even some women who were injured-

Dr. Warren: Yep.

Jim: … from their service, and, uh, describe that, for those of us who will never be in that environment.

Dr. Warren: Um, well, one of the most surprising things for me, um, obviously, growing up in the United States and practicing in the United States, we have endless, limitless resources. Right. So, here we are in a tent hospital in the middle of the war, and we didn’t have those resources. Um, and so, we had to think about every drop of blood and every tool that we used, and all those things differently than we do back here. Um, but also, we took care of civilians, and we took care of the enemy, and- and we took care of injured insurgents. So, when- when a- when a, uh, Iraqi insurgent gets injured on the battlefield, American medics fly them to hospitals and take care of them-

Jim: That’s amazing. Yeah.

Dr. Warren: Most people probably don’t know that. So, um, our American medical corps takes care of everybody that gets hurt. And so, for me, it was, uh, an eye-opening experience of taking care of somebody who had done this bad thing and blown up all of our soldiers that we were also trying to save and having to learn about mercy and not just about justice-

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Warren: … and all those things. It- it was, uh, it really solidified me as a trauma surgeon and as a- as a human being, I think, to have that experience.

Jim: And even there, in- in your barracks and that area where you operated, you had shelling and things that were going on. I mean, it was close to the action.

Dr. Warren: Yeah, we were mortared every single day that I was in theater, for 120 days, we took mortars. Yeah.

Jim: Every day?

Dr. Warren: Every day.

Jim: You specialize in brain tumors, GBM, I believe is the-

Dr. Warren: Yeah.

Jim: … acronym, and let’s just let the listeners hear what that is and what you tend to face with your patients every day.

Dr. Warren: So, there’s a brain tumor called Glioblastoma Multiforme that we shorten, thankfully, to GBM, and it’s easier to say, and it turns out to be the deadliest- really, the deadliest form of human cancer, and the problem with Glioblastoma is you really can’t cure it, and it’s like the whole brain just decides to become cancer.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Warren: And so, for the last 40 years or so, the survival rate really hasn’t changed. It’s about 15 months, if you have that diagnosis, and we take the tumor out and give you radiation and chemotherapy. You have about 12 to 15 months, uh, almost all the time, the five-year survival rate is very close to zero, and the 10-year survival rate, essentially, is zero. The- there’s an old sort of joke that if you have a 10-year survivor, you probably misdiagnosed them.  And so, um, to have this experiences as a- as a Christian who is also a scientist where I would see a scan really before I ever met you as a patient, I would look at your images and see that brain tumor and I would say to myself, “I’ve seen the end of you. I- I know what’s gonna happen to you.”

Jim: Say that again, because this was profound. I’ll see the end of you.

Dr. Warren: Yeah, I- I just could see it in my mind, like it was a movie playing out. I- I’ve- I’ve seen the end. I know what’s gonna happen. I know what the biopsy’s gonna look like. I know the conversation we’re about to have. I know what the pathologist is gonna tell me. I know when you’re- when you’re gonna get chemo, when you’re gonna get sick, when your hair’s gonna fall out, when you’ll stop eating. I know when it’s gonna come back and I know when you’re gonna die, and I can see it in my mind like it’s true already.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Warren: And so, I struggled then, because I also know, that as a doctor, you are better serving your patients if you give them hope and if you help them maintain hope, because you have higher- much higher quality of life, and you go through everything better, and you even have a better outcome in every way we can measure it, if you maintain hope. And so, here I have a situation where I don’t have hope for you, and the Bible tells me God can cure you and I don’t really believe it because He never does it with this tumor.  And so, I’m supposed to sit down and try to doctor you, even if I can’t cure you, and what do I do? And that- that’s really the question I was struggling with as a physician when I decided to write this book.

John: Hmm.

Jim: Well, and that’s such on point, and I’m sure you hear from Christians who may be critical of you saying, “Well, God can work miracles and you need to trust in God, and you’re a Christian, Lee,” and how- how did that begin to synthesize, and I- I understand it. I mean, you’re the hard scientist, uh, but a man of faith.

Dr. Warren: Right.

Jim: So, these worlds were colliding. I can only imagine the conflict in you.

Dr. Warren: They were, and I- you know, I- I started having to do what scientists do, decided to study people, and how they handle hard things, and how they manage to- to get through them or not get through them, and I started noticing that the- the common theme of people who do well, even if they die, seems to be that they find something to hope for, and often times, that was the resurrection and- and the afterlife, and- and all the things that Jesus offers us. Um, and I started to understand what Jesus means in John 16 when He says, “I come and give you life even though you die, and if you believe in Me, you’ll have life and will never die.”  And so, I started seeing people who could find that in the darkest moments, and it gave them something to hold onto, and they had a better outcome, even if they died from their tumor, and I decided what makes sense for me is to doctor people with things that will help them, even if I can’t fix their problem.

Jim: Yeah. And I would think, uh, you know, being a man of faith and a scientist, the reality is, this life is just this moment-

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: … for us. I mean, there’s something eternal ahead, but we cling to this as if this is it. Right?

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: And that’s why we have fear and we have doubt, and we maybe have hopelessness.

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: And that’s the great news of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Right? (laughs) That there’s something beyond this.

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: This isn’t it. Let me ask you, uh, just to get some of the stories of your patients, uh, out of your wonderful book, I’ve Seen the End of You. You talk about a patient that you called Samuel.

Dr. Warren: Yeah.

Jim: And what was his story with GBM and what did you see?

Dr. Warren: So, Samuel is the guy that- that is the typical patient with Glioblastoma. He’s a good guy. He does it all right. He’s got a strong family. He goes to church. It always seems like cancer hits those guys. Right? Um, the- the- the nice guy. Um, and he’s driving to work one day and has a seizure on his birthday, wrecks his car, almost wrecks his car, and finds out that he’s got a brain tumor.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Warren: Um, and I come to meet him and take him to surgery, and it turns out to be a Glioblastoma, and- and he’s just exemplifies this solid belief in- in walking out faith in Jesus Christ where he never wavered. Like, he’s sad, he’s stressed, ’cause he doesn’t want to lose his wife- he didn’t want to leave his wife and his little kids, but he never gives up hope, and he’s just this beautiful example of what it means to really walk out your faith in Jesus Christ. So, that conundrum is bad things do happen to good people and good things do happen to bad people, and ch- you know, the rain- rain falls on all of us.

Jim: That’s right.

Dr. Warren: And so, it’s just a filter problem that we have. We- we- we- we pick out the ones we want to be sad about. We- we don’t pay attention to the other ones, but- but- but everybody has trouble.

John: Well, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and today our guest is Dr. Lee Warren. His book, I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know is an excellent resource if you’re grappling with some of these larger questions of life. Stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or give us a call if you’d like that book. 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Uh, Dr. Warren, you mentioned Joey, a patient a moment ago. I do wanna hear his story. What- what was Joey about? Uh, what did he show you?

Dr. Warren: Joey might be the favorite that Lisa and I- Lisa- Lisa ran our office- that- that we ever took care of. Uh, Joey’s this guy, typical, um, when you meet him, he’s a criminal. He’s- you know, he was- he was fighting a DEA agent and got hit in the head and knocked out, and skull fracture, bled in his brain, and I had to take him to the operating room, and in the midst of the blood clot, there’s a brain tumor that he didn’t know he had. And so, that seems like a fortuitous thing for him because he- had he not had the head injury from being a bad person, right, being in a fight with a cop, he wouldn’t have known he had this benign tumor until it became a cancer most likely.

Jim: Huh.

Dr. Warren: So, it could have saved his life. Right. Um, and I gave him this news that, to me, felt like good news, “Hey, we found this early-stage brain tumor and took it out, so you’re gonna be okay most likely,” and he’s still mad about it, and it turns out, Joey’s had a bad life. His parents have- one of his parents died. The other abandoned them. He’s been in jail. He’s had all kinds of hard times with drugs and- and he’s just had a really rough life, and he doesn’t see anything good out of anything. For him, it’s just another example of God hates him, and maybe God’s not even real, and- and, um, the course of cake- taking care of Joey, um, he had a- a grandmother and a sister who never gave up on him, and a chaplain who befriended him and- and ultimately, even though his cancer came back, I don’t wanna give the whole story away, I want people to read the book- (laughing)

Jim: No, you gotta tell us.

Dr. Warren: But- but basically, the- the last year of Joey’s life in which his tumor came back, he lost his strength, and he ultimately passed away, he described that as the best year of his life, and the reason was, he fell in love, he found Jesus, he found hope, he believed he was gonna get to see his grandma again when he went to heaven-

John: Hmm.

Dr. Warren: … um, reconciled with his sister, you know, made amends for a lot of the things that he’d been through-

Jim: Wow.

Dr. Warren: … and he found the purpose and meaning of his life and found happiness, even while he was dying. And so, the- the it just exemplified the idea that your life is not about the number of your days. It’s about the quality of your days. It’s about what you do with them and- and how you feel during them, and he was able to show me how to separate circumstance from emotion, and that’s- that turns out to be the key for how you find happiness and hope, no matter what you’re going through.

John: Hmm.

Jim: Let me ask you, in the book, you specifically talked about that dilemma. You’ve touched on it, but to be more specific, uh, you would say- you would see the end of your patient and know what lied ahead for them, and it kind of, um, put a contradiction in how to pray for your patients.

John: Yeah.

Dr. Warren: It did.

Jim: Describe that. I can feel it, but, uh, help us.

Dr. Warren: Well, and I- so, I used to think that prayer was about telling God what you wanted and he either said yes or no, and- and the more- sort of the score of how many yeses and how many no’s was a measure of how much He loved you. Right. (laughs) I sort of thought that, and, um, and I really learned it from Pastor John. Like, prayer’s not about bending God’s will to yours. It’s about bending your will to his.

John: Hmm.

Dr. Warren: And so, as I evolved through learning how to take care of these people who were going to die no matter what I did, um, I learned that helping them come to peace with it, helping them find a new way to look at the rest of the days that they had, uh, a new way to make sure that their families were okay, that their marriages were okay, that their legacy with their kids were okay, was teaching them how to pray a prayer, asking God to fill them with hope and to fill them with a new way to- to see the things they were going through. And so, I was learning how to doctor people when I couldn’t save them.

Jim: Mmm. Yeah, that’s good. I mean, that’s- then you don’t have that sense of futility, I would think.

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: That, you know, this isn’t-

Dr. Warren: It gives you power.

Jim: Right, and there’s- there is hope at the end of this. Um, after Samuel died, one of your patients, there’s a chaplain friend of yours who gave you some great spiritual insight and advice. I think all of us will benefit from that. What did that chaplain say to you?

Dr. Warren: Uh, so Pastor John, I called him in the book, um, just basically helped me understand that somebody dying isn’t the end of their story, like, you- whe- when you look at the overall number of promises in the Bible, all of them point to hope for a future resurrection. Right? And- and it can be hard to see truth in those promises when you read one like Romans 8:28 and it says that God can work everything for good. You say how can He work Samuel dying and leaving behind two little kids for good? How can that be?  Um, and He’ll say something to me like, “Well, now, you’re gonna- for the rest of your life, you’re gonna doctor people better. You’re gonna help people see and find hope in the darkest moments of their lives in a better way, and that’ll turn out to be good. It’ll turn out to be a good part of Samuel’s legacy down the road. And so, the- the chaplain really just helps me to- helped me to reorient my thinking away from loss means God doesn’t care. Death means God isn’t paying attention or doesn’t- doesn’t want to hear your prayers, and actually God’s always- always doing the thing that’s good for us in the end, and it’s not about how long you live.

Jim: Yeah.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Um, some people might be thinking, “Okay. Well, Dr. Warren’s a neurosurgeon. Uh, even though he went to the war, you know, li- he’s above the fray of life,” but you have had it, like, right in the bullseye. You lost your son. Describe those circumstances. What was going on and, um, what happened to your boy?

Dr. Warren: Hmm. So, Mitchell was this beautiful kid, um, brilliant, witty, fun, loved Jesus, um, but like many teenagers, he had a couple rough years and- and got kind of confused about some things, and- and we were- as he went off to college, a li- a couple of years where we- we weren’t as close as we had been, and he was trying to figure out his own way. And, um, in July of 2013, um, he started calling more, and we were starting to feel a little bit more hopeful. And then, in, um, our church does this 20- our church in Alabama did this 21 days of prayer event every- start of every school year, where you really focused in and prayed for the kids and prayed for your family and all those things. And, um, on the morning of August 19th, um, my phone rang, and Mitch called, and he- we had this long talk, the longest one we’d had in forever, and he said, “Dad, I want to come home. I want to get back in school. I realized, you know, where I need to be and what’s going on.” I had this great hope and- and, uh, he said he loved me, and I said I loved him, and it was the last words we ever spoke to each other-

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Warren: And on the morning of August 20th, the prayer that morning was from the youth pastor at the church about praying for your kids and how God was gonna give you victory in your- in your child’s lives. And so, we were just filled with this immense hope and- and, uh, later that day, he- he was stabbed to death, um, and, uh, and died, and, uh, we don’t even know the circumstances. The police never really could figure out what happened. Two boys died in that house that night and they were best friends, and, um, we don’t really know. And so, we- we were sort of taken from this place where we thought it was all gonna be okay, and we’ve been praying so hard for so long, and, uh, it seemed like God was answering our prayers, and then he was gone, and it was just this huge chasm of-

John: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Warren: … why would something- you know, it’s one thing if- if you didn’t think it was gonna be okay and something like that happened, but it was worse for us, I think, because we had so much hope. Right.

Jim: Right.

Dr. Warren: So, we felt like God played a trick on us, um, and- and so, I- I- it was also ironic because I was in the middle of writing this book about how to help people in hard times and- and, uh, all of a sudden, I went from observing them to being one of them, and, uh, uh, that passage when Isaiah said that you’re in the furnace of suffering, that- that’s what we were in. And so, um, I really, for a little bit, um, wasn’t sure what I believed anymore, and, um, I just wasn’t sure that God could really let something like that happen and- and be who He said He was.

Jim: I mean, that’s powerful, and, uh, you know, my brothers had that experience. He lost his son to cancer when he was young, and, uh, you know, I said to him, “Is there a day that goes by you don’t think of Bobby?” And he said, “No, every day.”

Dr. Warren: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And I think people, again, you would think, given the, uh, processing that you were doing, trying to figure out, “Lord, these patients are dying. I don’t know how to pray for them. Um, I’m a scientist.” I mean, I could see that in you. You’re very logical in your thinking, and then to have this happen, which turns everything upside down, the things you thought you knew, the things you thought you were resolving with God-

Dr. Warren: Yeah.

Jim: … were right back in your face.

Dr. Warren: Yeah.

Jim: Did you have that moment? I mean, I tend to be more of an emotional person, this way-

Dr. Warren: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … where I’d be saying, “Lord, what are you doing?”

Dr. Warren: Yeah.

Jim: “Why this?” Did you have that kind of moment?

Dr. Warren: I did. Of course, I did. Um, but I think Lisa and I, all bereaved parents, I think, you- you would- you couldn’t be truthful if you said you didn’t doubt God in some of those moments.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Warren: And I started going back to what I knew, which was reading the Bible every morning, having a process that I follow through, and I would read something, and I wouldn’t believe it at the same time, and I started feeling like that guy Mark, that comes to Jesus and says, “I believe but help me in my unbelief.” Right. But somehow, I knew that if there wasn’t a resurrection- if the promise for the resurrection wasn’t true, then I didn’t have anything to hope for because it- the idea that I could see my son again someday was enough for me to be able to put my pants on the next day and- and try to go, you know, make a cup of coffee and make that day happen. And one by one, every day, some little bit of grace would happen, and somebody would call at just the right time, or the verse of the day on Bible Gateway would pop up and it would say, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted,” Psalm 34:18.

Jim: Yes.

Dr. Warren: Or it would say something like that, that verse where Paul says if we don’t have the hope for the resurrection, then we’re to be pitied more than all men, and I said, “Yeah, that’s right. I can see that.” And so, I s- I had this one moment, crystal clear moment, I can see in my mind where I saw the promise that God says that all scripture’s true, another one that says it’s impossible for God to lie. And so, if those two things are true, then the hope of the resurrection has to be true too, and therefore, all those other promises have to be true. And I just decided, Lisa and I sat down one day, and we decided that we believed that.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Warren: … and we were gonna start just pressing into it, and every day, something happened, somebody called, some- something occurred, and it had just enough manna-

Jim: Right.

Dr. Warren: … just enough power to get through that day, and over, as the days went by, it got better. It didn’t go away like your brother, with Bobby. It doesn’t go away, but you start- the- the light starts coming back on because you believe it’s true, and then it starts showing y- you that it’s true.

Jim: Right.

Dr. Warren: And that’s what happened for us.

Jim: Well, and I hope that’s the hope that people are hearing right now. Let me end here because this is “the question”. I mean, when you look at all this, what word of encouragement do you have for the people listening right now that are going through so much? They might have the prodigal child. They might have the tumor. They might have some other diagnosis that brings mortality right into focus for them, and maybe they haven’t done the right thing, said the right things, uh, perhaps they’re not drug dealers, but maybe they haven’t lived up to their spiritual potential in Christ.

Dr. Warren: Right.

Jim: What advice do you have for that person that’s devastated and hasn’t found the rails to run on?

Dr. Warren: Well, it- I would say this. It- it- it doesn’t matter what you do for a living or how much money you make or how much influence or power or- or status you have in- in this life, because if your kid dies or if you find out you have a brain tumor, you’re the same as everybody else in that moment. You’re a broken human being, and the height from which you fall, if your life is built on all those things, on the- the need to have good circumstances or the need to have a high income or the need to have status or whatever, then when you lose those things because your body doesn’t work anymore or because you can’t find your way to get to work because your child died and you can’t put your pants on that day, you- you lose everything. So, what I would say to people is, those aren’t the things that should define your life because they can be taken from you. The things that sh- should define your life is the fact that somebody loved you enough to die for you, and that the real hope of your life is in- is in what Jesus said would make your joy complete, which is to trust in Him, because when those hard moments happen, you will find that it’s true, that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and you will find that it’s true someday, that God can work things for good, ’cause he did for us. I started writing and blogging and podcasting in 2014 as a way to communicate with my family, and that sh- began to be shared around the world and all of that, and my blog and podcast and stuff started becoming something we would hear from other people about. And in the years since we lost Mitch, two different people have written to me and said they didn’t commit suicide because of something I wrote or said on my podcast.

Jim: Hmm. Yeah.

Dr. Warren: So- so, friend out there listening, your hope cannot be on things that can- that you can lose or that can be taken from you.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Warren: Your hope has to be in something that’s beyond what you can see right now, and that’s Jesus.

Jim: And something you said that caught me. We’re all broken people. That’s the reality of this life. No one’s gonna life forever. Everybody’s-

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: … gonna hit that, uh, pit in the road, even if things are sailing long- along right now.

Dr. Warren: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Which makes that verse that you’ve, uh, mentioned a couple of times so true, that He’s close to the brokenhearted.

Dr. Warren: Yeah.

Jim: I love the next part and saves those crushed in spirit.

Dr. Warren: Spirit. That’s right.

Jim: And that might be the whole purpose of what we walk through in this temporal life-

John: Hmm.

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: … so that we can have eternal life with him.

Dr. Warren: That’s right.

Jim: Man, Dr. Warren, this has been fantastic.

Dr. Warren: Yeah, it’s been great.

Jim: I so appreciate the fact that you labored through the pain-

Dr. Warren: Thank you.

Jim: … emotional pain to write this book, I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know. Um, beautifully done-

Dr. Warren: Thank you.

Jim: … and so full of great content to make us think about what this life is truly about. It’s been a privilege to have you here with us.

Dr. Warren: It’s been an honor to be with you guys. Thank you.

John: What a powerful conversation with Dr. Lee Warren, and, uh, as we noted, this is one of the top programs of the past year on Focus on the Family.

Jim: John, let me also add, for you, the listener, the viewer, if you’re grappling with weighty issues about life and death, and you don’t know where to turn, uh, please give us a call. We have people, caring people, to help you talk through this issue, whatever it is you’re facing, and we’ve been doing this for over 40 years. So, you’re not gonna surprise us, and we want to be here with you. Caring Christian counselors will call you back and talk with you and give you some direction on what next steps you might be able to take. Um, we also have Dr. Warren’s wonderful book, I’ve Seen the End of You. Uh, let us know if we can send that to you. And right now, if you can, uh, make a donation to the ministry, uh, for a gift of any amount, we’ll send you a copy of this book as our way of saying thank you on behalf of those families that you’re going to help through Focus on the Family. And when you donate here, uh, before the end of the year, your gift will be doubled because some generous friends of the ministry want to invest in the lives of others with you, so they’re gonna match your gift, dollar for dollar, and I want to say thank you for partnering with us to give more families hope for the new year.

John: We’re a phone call away if you need that, uh, free consultation with a counselor or wish to donate or get Dr. Warren’s book. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast to let us know how we can help. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. Plan to be with us next time as we once more help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

Receive Dr. Lee Warren's book I've Seen the End of You for your donation of any amount! And when you give today, your support will be DOUBLED to Give Families Hope!

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Jodie Berndt

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

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Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

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Rhonda Stoppe

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

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Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

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How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

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As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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