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Rethinking Godly Sexuality in Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Rethinking Godly Sexuality in Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Juli Slattery recognizes that many couples possess a poor foundation for understanding God’s design for intimacy — that our sexual relationship is a metaphor for the intimacy God longs to have with each one of us. Therefore, God is very interested in our sexuality and, in fact, designed sex for our pleasure. She encourages married couples to have “covenant love” rather than contractual love. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: July 14, 2022

John Fuller: Today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, we’re going to address a common longing that couples have for their marriages. But many of us just aren’t sure how to get there. The topic is not something that we recommend for young children. So please direct their attention elsewhere. Uh, here’s Dr. Juli Slattery with an explanation.

Dr. Juli Slattery: Now, if I meet a couple who will really describe sexual intimacy, fulfilling sexual intimacy for both of them, I know that couple has been on a long journey of learning to communicate, learning to forgive each other, learning to show each other grace, learning to seek God, because it’s impossible to achieve that without walking through selfishness and brokenness.

Jim Daly: John, we’re going to have many, many couples leaning in today to this conversation. And I hope some single adults as well, uh, because what Julie described right in that clip is the desire of all of our hearts, a lifelong committed marriage where we can celebrate the intimacy that God intended for us. And I don’t know why, but in this modern era, it seems very elusive to get there. Tragically, far too many couples aren’t experiencing that kind of intimacy. And it’s a hidden shameful secret in their lives, because they don’t know how to communicate, uh, through the pain and frustration with each other, let alone with a friend, a pastor, or some confident person that they can go to. If that problem describes where you’re at in your relationship, uh, where your sexuality feels more painful and broken, then healthy, uh, we have some important help for you today.

John: We certainly do. Dr. Slattery is with us, uh, here today and is a clinical psychologist and the president of Authentic Intimacy, which is a ministry devoted to reclaiming God’s design for sexuality. Juli has written a book that will be the basis for our conversation today called God, Sex, and Your Marriage. And we’ll have details at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 1-800, the letter A, and the word “FAMILY”.

Jim: Let me also add, John, that we have caring Christian counselors. I want to say that right at the top of the program. So, if you are, uh, you know, being touched deeply by the content we’re about to discuss, make sure you get ahold of us. Uh, Focus on the Family’s equipped because of generous donors to be able to provide these counselors to talk with you. And I would encourage you to take advantage of that. Juli, turning to you, former colleague, Juli Slattery. So good to see it’s been far too long.

Dr. Slattery: (laughs). It has. It’s always good. It feels like coming home.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Slattery: And hanging out with you guys is a blast.

Jim: Yeah. That’s a good feeling.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah, it is.

Jim: At least for us to have you back. So, uh, man, we’re talking about this issue of sexuality and marriage. And, Juli, um, it’s not a theoretical topic for you. And I so appreciate your own vulnerability. In the book, you talk a lot about you and Mike. And that’s so refreshing. I understand, uh, that you and Mike struggled for many years. That’s what you mentioned in the book, maybe 15 years before you started to really figure out how to deal with some of these core issues. That’s probably really typical of all of us, uh, maybe longer 20, 30 years.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: But describe that kind of desert and then finding an oasis in your communication where you could really dig in and start dealing with things.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah. We did run into some problems early on in our marriage related to sexual intimacy. And I think there are pretty common barriers, problems. And I think where we really got stuck was, we didn’t have a vision for what sexual wholeness looks like. And that’s what I found that is so common for Christian couples is they know God’s design for sex, they know it’s supposed to be reserved for the covenant of marriage, but beyond that, they’re kind of like what’s normal. And is it normal for us to argue about frequency? Is it normal for us to struggle with things from the past? Is it normal for sex not to be pleasurable for one of us? And so those are some of the things that we were wrestling with, and we really didn’t have clear answers of, do we just kind of settle with sex isn’t going to be great or it will always be a source of conflict for us? And as you mentioned, Jim, it probably wasn’t until about 15 years into marriage that God began to show me that there’s a much bigger picture here that we didn’t see. And when you don’t know what you’re working toward, you really feel stuck. You feel like, well, I guess this is as good as going to be.

Jim: Yeah. Let me, let me go to the bigger 40,000-foot view, because Jean and I talked about this too, because as Christians, especially if you gave your life to the Lord as a teenager and you know, you stayed pretty true, maybe perfectly true in this area of physical intimacy until you got married. And then there’s this like weird switch you’re supposed to throw on.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: That you go from like a total stop at the line and then you get married and then you’re, you’re supposed to just be able to know that all of this is good when you’ve been told it’s bad, it’s not good, don’t go there, don’t ever think about it, don’t ever look at it.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: Then you got to go. And it’s like, wow, a lot of people, both men and women struggle with this. Uh, I hear from a lot of women that really struggle with this.

Dr. Slattery: It’s so true. And there really is a journey and there’s a process of discovering what God designed sex to be. And I, I think within the Christian community, traditionally, we focus so much on sexual morality, sexual purity, which are biblical principles, but we didn’t teach those within the context of what’s the bigger picture of sex. And actually, what does it look like to be sexually mature, not just sexually moral. And so, the couple that gets married and they’re like, okay, now we’re married, now we can enjoy this, we’re not sinning by having sex together. But what does it look like to grow in the fullness of the maturity of what God created sex to be? And there’s no vision for that. If there’s not a vision for it, it’s like, okay, now we’re good morally, we’re following the rules, but there’s still no joy, there’s still no progress in learning to be lovers.

Jim: Well, and part of that too, it’s again, that long conditioning growing up in the church, perhaps, uh, that it’s taboo.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: And I guess I want to pull that out of you, because how… Specifically, I think for women, they really struggle with that. How to make that transition. And some women probably in their 40s and 50s, they’ve been married a long time, have still not really been able to fully embrace that God designed this, that this is a good thing.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: In fact, I know, you know, that Jean talking to some of her friends, that’s, they kind of get very squirmish about that. And, you know, they just don’t even know how to talk about it amongst themselves.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: …because it’s uncomfortable.

Dr. Slattery: It is. And some of that is cultural. You know, you talk to a woman in her 20s or 30s today, and she’s less likely to struggle with that because she’s grown up in a culture where it’s more acceptable to talk about sex, you’re exposed to sexual things. There’s a negative element to that as well. But I think what you’re hitting on, Jim, there is so key. What I’ve learned in the last 10 years of ministering on sexual issues is that most of us have the wrong picture of what God designed sex to be. And we don’t even realize it. It’s like a backstory that impacts how we think about sexuality. And the metaphor that I use in the book is sex is like a big jigsaw puzzle. So, if you’ve got like a 2000-piece jigsaw puzzle, you have to know what picture you’re creating. You pick up each piece and you say, okay, where does this go in the larger picture? But most married couples are actually working with the wrong picture of what they think sex should be.

Jim: Hmm.

Dr. Slattery: And there are two predominantly wrong pictures that we can work from. One is the one that you mentioned, Jim, which is all about following the rules, it’s about duty, it’s about the fear of getting God angry because of our sexual choices or our longings. And there is this shame and fear that, again, as you mentioned is sort of conditioned, that my sexuality, I guess God created it, but it’s also somehow shameful because of things I’ve experienced in the past, because of sin that I still feel really guilty about, or even just my body, I’m not comfortable with the sexual aspects of my body. And so that’s one picture that if a couple is looking at or even the woman or the man is looking at and saying, it’s all about the rules, there are a lot of pieces in your puzzle that aren’t going to fit into that picture. And so, you get really confused. Um, the other picture that I think is becoming more predominant today is the culture’s picture of sex that is fueled by pornography and the idea that sex is all about your personal fulfillment, you have to be compatible. It’s always going to be pleasurable and fun. And when it’s not, something is really wrong. And if you’re working towards the wrong picture, you really don’t have a hope of how to make sense of the struggle. And I feel like that’s sort of where Mike and I were years ago. I know that there are couples that are dealing with much deeper things than we’ve encountered that make this really difficult, things like trauma, uh, recovering from betrayals, but regardless of what you’re walking through, God has a beautiful picture for you to be working towards where he can begin to redeem even though it’s really painful pieces.

Jim: Yeah. It’s so interesting, Juli, because sex is a powerful thing.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, let’s face it. It is powerful and it can divide couples.

Dr. Slattery: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know, it puts you in different corners that isolates you potentially over all the arguments and whatever they might be. It seems like moving up now, if, if that’s 40,000 feet, what we just talked about, if you go up spiritually at 50,000 feet, why do you think Satan has such a heyday in this area? And it’s one of the things that he uses to create division in something God created to be beautiful and to be within marriage and the two shall become one flesh and will look out for each other, will try to satisfy each other, will hopefully put the other before us and all those good things. And then Satan comes along and just whack, whack, whack, until we get upset and angry at each other. And you know, some couples we know because they contact us here at Focus, they’ll go months, maybe years with no more intimacy, because they’re so angry at each other.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: And it’s so sad that, that Satan is getting that victory. So, speak to that issue of Satan and the enemy of our soul getting involved in this very intimate place that God’s created for us.

Dr. Slattery: It’s a… That’s a great insight, Jim. We have to ask the question, why is sexuality under such attack? And not just within marriage, we see it under attack in the larger culture. And uh, when we step back, we say, okay, Satan puts his resources where he knows the battle is most important.

Jim: Right. Like any military strategist.

Dr. Slattery: Right. Yeah. And so, he sees the important significance of sexuality. He sees the spiritual power of sexuality. One thing that I’ve realized is that sex will never be a neutral issue in your marriage. It’ll either be-

Jim: Well, that’s a statement.

Dr. Slattery: It’ll either draw you together or tear you apart. And I also think that sex will never be a neutral issue in your relationship with God. It’s either going to be revealing God’s goodness or also for so many people is a barrier to, uh, I can’t get close to God because I’m angry or because I feel shame. Now-

Jim: Can I, can I jump in on that one?

Dr. Slattery: Yeah, sure.

Jim: Because I’m just thinking of women who are thinking, I can’t even put those two thoughts in the same category. My spiritual development, my closeness to God and my sexual life and my husband. Are you kidding Juli?

Dr. Slattery: Hmm.

Jim: I mean, you, you hear what I’m saying?

Dr. Slattery: Oh yeah.

Jim: Is that something you hear from women particularly?

Dr. Slattery: Yeah. I think women and men, I think we’ve been conditioned to think about sexuality and spirituality being in separate categories.

Jim: Right.

Dr. Slattery: So, our sexuality is sort of this box of who we are that we certainly don’t bring to church. We don’t-

Jim: It’s in the closet.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah. We don’t pray about it.

Jim: Right.

Dr. Slattery: We just think, well, that’s just part of my humanity, but God doesn’t really care too much about that. Or I’m too ashamed to bring that before him. But in reality, what you’re getting at, Jim, here is what is the picture on the front of the box for the puzzle. And that is the reason why sex is under such attack, because the picture that we’re supposed to be creating, and this is going to be a paradigm shift for a lot of people is God’s relationship with his covenant people.

Jim: Right. Now you’re going to blow my mind that God uses this as a parallel to his relationship with us.

Dr. Slattery: Yes. So-

Jim: Are you kidding?

Dr. Slattery: Yeah. So, um, so we ought to back up a minute and say, is it true that everything God created reveals something about his nature?

Jim: Mm-hmm. I say yes.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah. Do trees reveal something? Do mountains reveal something? The stars? Like you cannot read a chapter in scripture without it referencing a part of physical creation to show us something about God’s character. And the same is true in the interpersonal world. So, God has created two really powerful interpersonal pictures to help us understand his love. One of them is the picture of a father and child. We see that predominantly through the Bible. And the other one is the picture of a husband and wife. And so, when we read the scripture from Genesis all the way through Revelation, sexuality and marriage are most often talked about in the context of this being a way to reveal to us how God loves his covenant people. Now, that’s a really complicated picture. So, I think for a lot of people, they just revert to the rules, they revert to the culture’s understanding of sexuality without fleshing out we’re missing something there, like does God’s relationship with me actually teach me something about what healthy sex should look like within our marriage?

Jim: Juli, let me ask you, if a person hears this and now, they’re uncomfortable-

Dr. Slattery: Uh-huh.

Jim: I mean, you’re pushing a button there. What should that indicate to them about where they’re at and how they’re thinking about these things, because I can imagine some people going, whoa, whoa, whoa, what?

Dr. Slattery: Hmm. Well, you’re right. You know, first of all, if you’re feeling uncomfortable, join the club.

Jim: Yeah, that’s where we all start.

Dr. Slattery: I think, I think when I first heard this, it was a real disconnect for me, because I’d been trained for so many years without realizing it that we just don’t talk about sex in front of God. And certainly, he must leave the room when we have sex. Like he doesn’t, he’s not interested in that part of us, which is antithetical to everything we read in scripture. But I think the other piece of it is for a lot of people, sex is the most painful part of their lives. And so, they can’t reconcile the goodness and love of God with their experience of deep, deep pain or trauma around their sexuality. And this is what I encounter the most when I talk about this message is somebody who has been sexually violated in childhood or repeatedly betrayed sexually, and they’ll be like, I can’t, uh, I can’t even think of God having created sex because then he seems cruel to me, because sex has been the source of my greatest pain.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Slattery: And so, when we talk about sexuality, this is why I love what God has called me to, we’re not just helping marriages get better, we’re helping people address sometimes their most significant barriers to the heart of God.

John: You’re listening to Focus on the Family with Jim DalyI’m John Fuller. And we’re talking today with, uh, Dr. Juli Slattery about her book, God, Sex, and Your Marriage. We have copies of that here, contact the ministry, when you call 800, the letter A, and the word “FAMILY”, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Let me expand on that concept of the uncomfortableness of talking about this, because I know even doing the radio program, there’ll be some stations that won’t want to air this. And one of the things I often, um, suggest is one of the reasons Satan is having such success, unfortunately in this area is because we don’t talk about it.

John: Yeah.

Jim: We don’t talk about it in churches, pastors don’t really preach about it, uh, Christian radio stations are uncomfortable talking about it.

Dr. Slattery: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And therefore, we kind of hand over the territory keeping that military description going to the enemy-

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: …because we won’t talk about it in a way that is God honoring and God intended. And so, I really applaud you for, for your work and what you’re doing. Um, I think it’s really critically important. And wouldn’t it be nice if people would say at that little tea party when women are talking about it, wow, I wish my husband and I had the kind of relationship you and Bill have.

Dr. Slattery: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Right. When it… Because it should be different. It should be so positive in a Christian context. We are honoring the Lord in our physical relationship.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: And this is how you can do it too. And that’s what we’re really getting at today. Um, in your book, uh, God, Sex, and Your Marriage, you’re critical of some of the teaching coming from Christian community about, um, saving sex until marriage. Um, I don’t think you mean, we need to be more liberal in our sexuality. Describe what you’re getting at there. And what is that healthy? You know, I’ve got two boys, you have children in the same space about 19, 20, 21-

Dr. Slattery: Mm-hmm.

Jim: …what’s the message we should be communicating to them before marriage?

Dr. Slattery: Yeah. Well, first of all, I don’t want to come across as being critical of that message, uh, because I’m certainly grateful having grown up in a Christian home that I was taught that sex is meant to be for marriage. And that has been a blessing to me.

Jim: That’s a biblical teacher.

Dr. Slattery: Yes, it is.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Slattery: And so, we don’t want to undo that. I think what we’re pushing on here, not just in this book, but in our conversations around Christianity and sexuality is that there’s a far bigger picture than just save sex for marriage, that everything has to be within the context of the gospel story. And the gospel story is that God created something beautiful, but we live in a fallen world, our own sin, other people’s sin have twisted every good gift, but Jesus came to redeem everything that’s been broken. And we have to apply that same message to the conversation around sexuality. God created sex and gender and all of it to be beautiful, to be this amazing revelation of his love. But we live in a fallen world. Our own sinfulness, the brokenness of our world means that our experience of that is going to be twisted. In one way or another, um, I, I really believe all of us have sexual brokenness.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Slattery: Even if we’ve saved sex for marriage, our sexuality is broken. But Jesus says, bring it to me and let me redeem it. Now, I think the message that was sort of too short and incomplete in what we might call purity culture in the past or historic teaching on sex, just had the rules. So, we would just look at the passages that say thou shall not. We didn’t paint the picture of how all this fits within the larger gospel story of how we’re all broken. All of us have sinned. None of us are righteous, not one. And we all need to bring that brokenness to Jesus. In past, I think we’ve tried. We haven’t done this on purpose, but it’s made it seem like some people are broken and some people aren’t. And so that’s created a lot of division, a lot of shame, hesitation of people admitting their brokenness and bringing it to God. It’s more been a performance. Like if you follow the rules, God’s going to bless you. Instead of God’s relationship with us is about surrender and our behavior comes out of our surrender and his redemption in our life. So that’s the shift that I think is so critical for us to make, not only as we talk about marriage, but as we address other aspects of sexuality in our culture.

Jim: Hmm. Juli, I think, I think that is so accurate and um, you know, so encouraging for Christians to bring it to the feet of the cross. Man, that’s where everything should come. But somehow, we do kind of think of God as a, a grandfather figure. Right? We don’t want to about sex in front of our grandfather, even though he created it.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: But it’s kind of that imagery that we have, like, don’t tell him what we’re doing, and he knows exactly what’s going on (laughs).

Dr. Slattery: Yes.

Jim: And he made it to be positive, to be a good thing.

Dr. Slattery: He sure did.

Jim: And uh, that’s the, the place we need to get to. And let me, let me also ask you, uh, you described God’s design for sexual intimacy as covenant love. And we really need to better understand what you mean. That’s where that parallel with-

Dr. Slattery: It is.

Jim: …God’s love for us. And what we experience in this life physically really begins to line up spiritually. So, what is covenant love in the context of sexual intimacy?

Dr. Slattery: Boy, that word covenant is something that we don’t use often in our world today. The only time I’ve ever heard covenant talked about outside of church was like your HOA covenants. Like what does that mean?

Jim: That’s not a happy place to be. Let’s not go there.

Dr. Slattery: No, it’s not. I don’t want my marriage; I don’t want my marriage to be like that. So, when we use this word covenant, I think sometimes people are confused, because it’s not a common word in our language. The only way to really understand a covenant is to contrast it to what we typically have, which is a contract. We know how to do contract in our world. And most of us get married with a contract mentality. Even if we don’t realize it, we think as long as this marriage is fulfilling to me, then I’m all in. As long as my spouse is meeting my needs, as long as he makes me look good, as long as our sexual relationship is fulfilling-

Jim: Sounds like a scorecard.

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Slattery: And it’s a deal. It’s a bargain.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Slattery: And again, I don’t think any of us go to the altar thinking that we’re bargaining. But even our dating system is about trying to pick somebody who, in, in the economy of romance that man, you really won there, you got a big… Good deal there. Like we get married, because this person is supposed to make me better and happier. And then when we hit a roadblock, it’s like that covenant gets challenged, because are we going to think contract or covenant? Are we… Covenant is loving with your character. It’s loving because you promise to, and that’s the beautiful thing about how God loves us. If God had a contract with me, I’d be in big trouble. If I have a contract with him, God, I only love you as long as my bank account’s full and I stay healthy, then we don’t have a long-term relationship. And this is what’s so significant about marriage is it’s the one relationship that God created to stretch towards that kind of love that is based on faithfulness and character and promise. And its why marriage is so difficult and also why it’s so important to fight for.

Jim: Yeah, no, I agree. Um, I want to make sure we cover, uh, your comment about Deuteronomy 6:5, which is the first and greatest commandment. If you’ve been in the church any length of time, you know this, of course, which is to love God with all our heart, our soul and mind. How does that commandment relate to our sexuality and marriage?

Dr. Slattery: Well, the way it relates is that commandment is telling us to be undivided people, to not have one area of my life that isn’t surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. And I’ve found in my own journey as well as in ministry that sexuality is often an area that isn’t surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. And I don’t just mean following the rules. I mean having territory of your heart that has never been surrendered. I mean wounds that you hold onto instead of bringing to the healing power of Jesus. Conversations that need to be had that are closeted. Conflicts that we need to work through. Confessing our sin to one another. And because we don’t talk about sex in church, we haven’t learned how to integrate God and his power and his truth and his love into our sexuality. So, we just kind of do it on our own. Like when I speak to married couples on this issue, I’ll often ask, raise your hand, how many of you regularly pray together about your sex life? And typically, it’s about 10% of married couples. Now, these are Christians, they’re coming to a marriage conference. So, you’re getting a pretty selected sample. And even so, 90% of them never think to pray about their sex life, because we don’t integrate God into it. And so, this commandment in Deuteronomy, which is really what Jesus said is the greatest commandment is I want to be part of every nook and cranny of your life, every hidden secret, every wound, every struggle. And when we start living that out in married sexuality, it’s a game changer.

Jim: Yeah. Juli, I mean, it’s like pins and needles, quiet. I could feel it out there. People are listening. This is such a sensitive area for every, everybody. If you’re married or not married, it’s where we have the least amount of conversation. I would suggest not the healthiest guidance either, because the culture’s just, you know, pounding away at images and messaging about how we should think about sex. And it permeates not just the culture, but the church too, unfortunately. And there’s so much more to talk about. We’ve just started, man. I looked up and went, wow, we’re already through today. And uh, I want to come back next time, if you can stay with us, and talk more about this great topic, I think, you know, profound topic, God, Sex, and Your Marriage. And again, you’ve done such a brilliant job. I’m just grateful that you’ve taken this on as kind of your life’s call-

Dr. Slattery: Yeah.

Jim: …to help so many couples do so much better in this area. So, can we do that? Can we keep going and come back next time?

Dr. Slattery: I would love to. Thank you.

Jim: Okay. Let’s do that.

John: And in the meantime, get a copy of Dr. Juli Slattery’s great book, God, Sex, and Your Marriage. We have copies of that here at the ministry. And we’re a phone call away 1-800, the letter A, and the word “FAMILY”, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: And, John, like we often say, if you can, uh, send a gift or sign up to be a monthly contributor, we’ll send you a copy of Juli’s great book as our way of saying thank you for being part of the ministry. So that’s another great way, uh, to partner with Focus on the Family.

John: Donate today as you can and get a copy of this great book. Uh, again, our number is 800-A-FAMILY or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back next time as we continue the conversation and once more help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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