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What to Do When Tragedy Impacts Your Family (Part 2 of 2)

What to Do When Tragedy Impacts Your Family (Part 2 of 2)

Grief and trauma counselor Dr. H. Norman Wright offers hope and practical advice for enduring suffering, crisis, and loss, and finding healing afterward. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: September 12, 2019

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Excerpt:

Dr. H. Norman Wright: …Because when you’re traumatized, you experienced a – a emotional and a cognitive shattering of your brain.

Jim Daly: Yeah.

Norm: And part is working over here, part is working over here, but we need to bring it together. It’s like we went through an emotional concussion.

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John Fuller: Dr. Norm Wright wants to give you good, godly, Biblical help and hope for those unexpected crises that come in life. He’s back with us today on Focus on the Family. And your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim: John, we had a powerful conversation last time with Norm, uh, talking about those stressful and challenging situations that catch us off guard in life, uh, where we feel maybe shocked, upset, even angry – where we’re asking, “Why is this happening to me?” Maybe we’re even asking God, “Why are you allowing this to happen to me?”

And there’s so many emotions that can be stirred in our heart at that time – resentment, bitterness. And maybe on the positive side, we get it, and we’re saying, “OK, Lord. Help us better understand how this will make me better.” And all of that is occurring, and it occurs at a different pace for everybody. And, uh, we’re going to learn more today about how to manage those circumstances as best as we can, how to see them through a godly perspective and how to continue to trust God in those moments.

John: We’d like to invite you to call us or go online and find help for your circumstances. Uh, we’ve got a lot of terrific resources, some caring Christian counselors. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Online, we’re at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

I do want to point out Dr. Wright’s great book When It Feels Like the Sky Is Falling: How to Find Hope in an Uncertain World. It’s a terrific resource, and we do highly recommend IT.

And, um, I should note that Norm has decades of experience in helping people deal with and overcome pain and trauma and grief. And, um, he said a lot of great things in the last broadcast, Jim. I really appreciated the wisdom, uh, that Dr. Wright had.

Body:

Jim: And Norm, let me welcome you back to Focus on the Family.

Norm: Thank you. It’s always good to be here.

Jim: It is. Uh, you’ve had so much experience helping people work through catastrophic events and natural disasters. You talked about last time, uh, shooting – school shootings, things like that – workplace violence. And you’ve been at it for 35 years in that particular area, in addition to marriage counseling and all your great work over decades.

Um, in that context, I was fascinated by the chapter in your book where you describe how traumatic events will affect the brain. So this is more the science of trauma, if we can spend a little time there. Most of us have heard about PTSD. It’s in the news more often with the war in Iraq and Afghanistan. For the people that don’t work in this area every day, what is PTSD? And why should we not be nonchalant about it? Maybe if we haven’t experienced it we may not understand it, and we kind of don’t give it the proper attention that it should get.

Norm: Well, PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder – we seem to, uh, tie that into the service people, the ones that are, uh, over there fighting…

Jim: In combat.

Norm: …In combat, but the majority of people who experience PTSD are right here in our country. They’re everyday individuals. You’re driving down the street, and all of a sudden, somebody runs out in front of you, and you hit them. OK, you’ve been traumatized.

Jim: Huh.

Norm: …Because that was tattooed on my brain. Your brain is what takes the brunt of any type of a trauma, and it separates the functioning of the left and the right side. The left side is the thinking side and the talking side, and it’s got all the words and everything. The right side of your brain is – it doesn’t have any words, but it has pictures. And so the two things are not connecting the way they’re supposed to when you’ve been traumatized.

Jim: Huh.

Norm: There’s a picture in your mind. There’s a picture of that person running out, and it’s gonna pop out there when you least expect it.

Jim: How about the emotions of trauma? You know, again, we touched on that last time. There’s a variety of ways people respond, but particularly the impact of emotions that we may not even realize exists in us. We might see things that now are normal. We might be happy-go-lucky people, and then we go through something traumatic, and we start feeling depression…

Norm: Yeah.

Jim: …And it’s the first time in our lives!

John: Hm.

Norm: And you’re gonna ask yourself, “What’s wrong with me?”

Jim: “What has changed?”

Norm: Yeah.

Jim: “Why am I feeling this?”

Norm: And we need to counter that, “What’s wrong with me?” to, “This is normal. This is a normal response.” Part of the problem is that we don’t have words for everything that’s going on. That’s why, in the book, there’s a ball of grief that probably has maybe 15 or 20 different emotions there. And I use this constantly. I would hand it to you and say, “OK, which of these do you connect with?” And you’re looking to see, uh, oh, loss or anger or this and this and this. And you might look up and say, “Where did you get this? Did you draw this on me?” No, this is what we all go through.

John: Uh-hm.

Norm: And so I’ve had people who have been stuck in counseling until I hand them this ball of grief, and I say, “Could you identify what you’re experiencing?” And then I’ll just sit back and wait. And it could be I might sit there for five minutes while they’re just looking at it. Finally, they look up, and they say, “I’m experiencing this.” “Tell me about that.” You get them to talk about that. God is the creator of emotions. God is creator of us in a unique way. The Word of God talks a lot about imagination. Imagination is what goes on in our self-talk. And that’s tied in here. And we need to identify that as well.

Jim: You know, Norm, so often we look at these events as negative because it’s traumatizing. Uh, yet, the word itself has some interesting roots that offer us a very different perspective. Uh, I think in Chinese the term for trauma is made of two symbols – uh, one for danger, the other for opportunity…

Norm: Uh-hm.

Jim: …Which is really fascinating. Then our own English word is based on a Greek word which means to decide, which I would never put that together – that trauma is to decide. What is that expressing to us?

Norm: Eventually – and that’s important to mention – eventually, we get to the place where, um, there is something we can learn from the trauma. But right at the first, nothing makes sense to us, nothing really comes together. And what’s important is that – let’s say we have a friend who’s been traumatized. This is not the time to say to them, “You’re gonna learn something out of this. You are going to be able to glorify God out of this,” because that won’t register with you. You’re numb. Your brain took a concussion.

Jim: Hm.

Norm: It’s like you had an emotional and a cognitive concussion in your brain, and so you’re not thinking clearly. You’re basically able to, you know, make your breakfast in the morning, and that’s a big step. And that’s the way that we help people is just, what little thing could you do today that would be helpful?

Jim: Yeah.

Norm: And that’s all you’ve got to do.

Jim: Hm.

Norm: And they say, “Well, this is no big deal.” But it is because you’ve been traumatized. And that’s why it’s so important that they – they read through this because I’ve had so many people say, “When I read it, I realized that’s what was going on in my life. And guess what? I discovered I was normal. I don’t need to be fixed. Eventually, I will stabilize. And it’s gonna take longer than I ever realized.” And see, part of the problem – people want to know, how soon is this gonna get over with?

Jim: That’s everybody’s question, right?

Norm: Oh, yeah.

Jim: “When do I get back to where I was?”

Norm: Yeah. And they want to know that so that they can go on with their life. And one – one of the things I come out with and say – “This is probably gonna take months, maybe even years.” So we can relax and realize there’s nothing wrong with us that it takes us long. This is the way God has created us how to respond, and that’s really, really important.

John: Norm, that’s really important, I think, for those of us who are around somebody who has gone through a crisis or has been traumatized. I – I think it would be easy for a family member or a friend to eventually kind of tire of the processing, right? And – and this is a process that you don’t see it necessarily unfolding. I hear great encouragement from you though that we can offer hope to that person as they – as they deal with that.

Norm: We can offer hope, and we need to pray for patience if we’re not the traumatized person. If it’s somebody else, we’re gonna start thinking, I’ve heard this again and again and again. When will they stop saying it? Probably, they won’t stop saying it, uh, for months or maybe even years because even if they don’t say it around you outwardly, they’re saying it to themselves…

John: Yeah.

Norm: …And they’re reinforcing it again and again.

But it is so important that we have the freedom and the opportunity to face it. And that’s why there are steps in the book that can lead a person to the place where maybe they can get help from somebody else, maybe they can get help simply from reading a book, reading the Word of God…

And uh, we can say to the person that’s in trauma, “I wish I knew what to say to you and to help you, but I don’t.” People like that honesty.

Jim: Right.

Norm: …Because most of the time, they’re dealing with people that have come in and say, “You need to get on with your life. You need to do this. You need to do that.”

Jim: Why do we do that? I – I mean, it’s not humorous, but…

Norm: Because we’re uncomfortable with what’s…

Jim: Yeah, it’s our…

Norm: …Going on.

Jim: It’s our discomfort.

Norm: Yeah, it is.

Jim: So we want to just kind of say something and keep moving.

Norm: Yeah. Yeah. “I – I don’t know what to say, so let’s get on with it.”

Jim: Yeah.

Norm: That’s what it’s about…

Jim: Better to say nothing.

Norm: Yeah.

Jim:  Norm, we’re – we’re moving into that area of becoming a survivor. Uh, and I’d like for people that are struggling – maybe they’re halfway through their grieving process, maybe three-quarters of the way. Use the adjectives that describe someone who is becoming a survivor. What does it look like?

Norm: Oh, there’s so many factors there. Um, one of the things that I like to do with individuals is to say, “Uh, you’re probably struggling with, uh – with this at this point, and you’re wondering, ‘I don’t think I can handle this.’” Well, it’s all right to say that – “I don’t think I can handle this” – if we get to the place where we turn it around and say, “But I can learn how to handle this. I learned to do this, I can learn to do that. I will recover.” Uh, you want to get to the place where you can get out the negatives but at the same time then move towards the positive.

Jim: Right. That’s a good sign, when someone is…

Norm: That’s a positive…

Jim: …Moving toward the…

Norm: …Sign.

Jim: …Positives.

Norm: Yeah. Um, being willing to ask for help. I went through, uh, open-heart surgery, and they gave me a whole list of things that I could do and a list of things that I couldn’t do. And being a man (Laughter) …I wanted to do it all (laughter).

Jim: You want to invert (Laughter) that list is what…

Norm: Uh…

Jim: …You wanted to do, being a man.

Norm: That’s right. (Laughter) And so, uh, I had to come to the place where I told myself it’s all right to ask my friends for help. And I needed to verbalize that with them. And they were – ah, they were saying, “Yes, because if you don’t do that, Norm, we’re gonna make you do it.”

John: Hm.

Norm: So…

Jim: Those are good friends.

Norm: They really were.

John: Yeah.

Norm: And they were very, very helpful. Um, we want to be responsible. We want to be, uh, adaptable. What I did before, maybe it’s not going to work now. So what can I find that’s going to work? That’s really important.

Jim: Well, in that context, Norm, of – of the loss of your wife, let’s get down to that practical example – being adaptable when your spouse is gone. How did that take shape? What did that look like to have a form of adaptability hen your wife passed away?

Norm: Well, there’s two things about it. One was we had four years of walking through brain cancer.

Jim: Hm.

Norm: And we did a lot of, uh, grieving in advance.

Jim: Yeah.

Norm: Uh, anticipatory grieving. And so that when she died, it was a little different because so much of the grieving was there. But I had to learn to live without. What happens when you have a spouse who dies? You didn’t lose just a spouse; you lost somebody who’s maybe the cook, who was…

Jim: Your best friend.

Norm: …Best friend, uh, your lover, uh, the errand runner and whatnot. I ask people to make me a list of all the other losses that they have experienced after their spouse died, and, um, we came up with about 40.

John: Hm.

Jim: Wow.

Norm: And if you identify these ahead of time, you won’t get ambushed by them so much. I remember about three months after, uh, Joyce died, um, I got a letter in the mail that said, “H. Norman Wright, widower.” And I bristled. How dare they call me that and label me that? It’s OK for me to say that, but why put that label on – on there at that time?

Jim: Hm.

Norm: But, um, I had to learn to live without. When you have a loss of a loved one, they’re no longer there. There’s a hole in your life. And, uh, you’re not gonna have people respond to you in the same way. For example, uh, couple groups – I couldn’t go to a couple groups. I was not a couple.

Jim: You felt like an outsider, I’m sure.

Norm: Yeah, you do.

Jim: You didn’t fit.

Norm: And, uh, eventually – and I have to emphasize this word because people who are listening want answers now. They want the fixing to occur now. But eventually you’ll get to the place where you’re able to respond in a way like you used to.

Jim: Yeah.

Norm: But it will take you – I can’t tell you how long that’s gonna take.

Jim: Right. Well, and, in fact, you – you mention the idea of moving to a new dream.

Norm: Yeah.

Jim: And what is a new dream – what is that like? – I mean, again, maybe in the context of the loss of your wife.

Norm: I have no idea what that new dream is like. Um…

Jim: But – but hoping for one – is that what you’re saying?

Norm: Hoping for one is there and, uh, pray, God, lead me in a new way. I don’t know where it is. I don’t know where it’s going, but I need your leading because I don’t have that ability.

John: Hm.

Norm: And sometimes there’s, uh, disappointments that turn around. For example, um, I’ve taught at Biola for many years, uh, which meant that any of my dependents could go to school there free. And so when my daughter hit, uh, college, I’m saying, “Yes.” And so she went to college for a year and then came in one day and said, “Daddy, um, I don’t think college is for me.”

Jim: Oh.

Norm: And boom, the disappointment. She says…

Jim: Oh, yeah.

Norm: “I want to go to cosmetology school. I want to learn this. Uh, I want to learn how to do nails.” And I’m sitting there thinking, and we’re talking and everything. Well, she went on and, um, fast-forward maybe three, four years later. Here is my daughter traveling internationally because she is the top nail artist, not just in the nation, but all over the world. She went to Japan. She went to…

Jim: Hm.

Norm: …Germany. She taught, uh, people how to do nails. Uh, she had books out. Uh, she – she had articles in magazines. And here is this daughter that didn’t go to college.

Jim: Right.

Norm: But look at how God used her.

And there was a time, though, when she went off in a different direction and, uh, was involved with some, uh, uh, uh, cocaine, with drinking and whatnot and then turned her life around. And then, uh, as she sat there in the, um – in the nail salon, she’d be doing somebody’s nails, and she’d be talking to them. And then, uh, she’d look at them and say, “How long have you been using?” “What?” “Yeah, how long have you been using drugs?” “Well, why did you say that?” “Oh, because of this, this, this, this. I have a therapist that I could send you to…”

Jim: Wow.

Norm: “…Because you’re using it.” And…

Jim: So she turned it into a ministry.

Norm: Oh, she turned it into – that was my daughter. You’ve heard about people who think outside the box. She didn’t know where the box was! (Laughter).

Jim: But – but this point you’re making is really critical, and some may have missed it.  But being the father of this daughter, you had a different dream.

Norm: I did.

Jim: And then God had a different dream, too (laughter).

Norm: He had a dream that I…

Jim: He had a dream…

Norm: …Had to get…

Jim: …For your daughter.

Norm: …In line with…

Jim: Yes.

Norm: …Because she had an ability that very few people ever had. And I praised God for it.

John: This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. And our guest today is Norman Wright. And, uh, he’s written a number of books. The one we’re covering is Dr. Wright’s title, When It Feels Like the Sky Is Falling: How to Find Hope in An Uncertain World. Obviously, this is a difficult subject for many to hear. Uh, we know that you might need help and not know who to turn to. Focus on the Family is here. We have caring Christian counselors. We’ve got over 40 years of pulling together resources and help, and we would invite your call today. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY. And, uh, online, you can find the help you need at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim:  Dr. Wright, um, people do not like talking about suffering, especially in the Western culture. We run from suffering. We create gadgets that keep us from suffering. And, uh, you know, it’s not what we want to talk about. But the fact is the Bible addresses that topic a lot. Why is it important for people to recognize and accept that hardship and suffering are really part of everyday life, that even becoming a Christian does not eliminate hardship and suffering? In fact, it may bring it on. In, certainly, other parts of the world where there’s Christian persecution, you embrace the faith, you may lose your life.

But why as a human being, do we have this dichotomy, this kind of I don’t want to talk about or experience suffering, but the Scripture’s saying life is about suffering?

Norm: It’s not just suffering we’re reacting to. We don’t like change, especially if the change is outside of us. We like to be in charge of the change. And so even little changes, that’s disruptive. I don’t like that. Let me get back to the life that I had.

Jim: Hm.

Norm: And so you look at the Scripture, and the Scripture – the Bible is a book about grief. The Bible is a book about suffering. That’s life. And so instead of running from it, we want to embrace it. We want to reach out and bring it to us and say, “OK, this is something that’s disrupting my life, but that’s OK.” And we need to come to that place where we can, first of all, say that’s OK, even though I don’t feel it. Eventually, the feeling is gonna catch up, and then I’ll realize I can learn through this. This can be used for the kingdom’s glory. And, um, if we take that attitude, we feel like we’re more in charge again. And that’s really important – that, uh, I’m going to embrace this and see what I can learn through this.

Just like, um, with my son. Uh, he died at the age of 22, but he was only 18 months old mentally…

Jim: Hm.

Norm: …Because he was profoundly retarded.

Jim: Yeah.

Norm: I am indebted to my son for making me fully human.

Jim: Huh. Explain that if someone’s not catching it. How did he do that?

Norm: My son really couldn’t talk. He couldn’t feed himself. He couldn’t, uh – he wasn’t potty trained. Um, he would walk around the house for a long time. He might giggle a little bit. He might do different things. But, um, Matthew is not like you and I. But, uh, what he did was he caused me to look inside of myself because I was raised like most men – I did not understand feelings. I did not have a feeling vocabulary. Well, when Matthew came into my life…

Jim: Hm.

Norm: …He caused me to look deep within and to experience feelings that I’d never felt before. And he caused me to come up with a feeling vocabulary.

And so I could be able to talk with other individuals, I could help men who did not have a feeling vocabulary and say, “This is what happened, and this is what happened, and here’s what this word means.” When Matthew came into my life, I didn’t talk about feelings. I couldn’t cry. I couldn’t cry in front of my wife, Joyce, until one day, something happened on television, and I saw it from a different perspective, and I got up off of the couch, went into the kitchen, and I wept. I couldn’t even cry in front of my wife. But she didn’t let me get away from that. She came into the kitchen and just held me. And I learned to cry in front of her. Now I cry at the drop of a hat.

Jim: Hm.

Norm: And I never apologize for crying. And, um, I use a lot of feeling words, and I teach a lot of men how to use a new vocabulary so they can connect better with the people in their life. And so that’s what my son did for me.

I’ll never forget the day the hospital called and said a very generic phrase – “You need to be here immediately.”

Jim: Hm.

Norm: That’s all they said. And I knew what it meant was my son was dying, and he did. And when Matthew died, it was a very different experience. We walked into the room. He had eight tubes in him. He had a ventilator, and the doctor said, “In the next few minutes, the monitors, his blood pressure, heart rate, everything will diminish.”

Jim: Yeah.

Norm: And I stood there, and I watched the monitors start to change – the most unbelievable sense of loss coupled – coupled with a sense of joy. And that joy was there because my wife turned to the doctor and said, “Oh, you mean – (emotional) you mean today he’s going to be with Jesus.” And the doctor smiled and said, “Yes, this is that day.”

Jim: Yeah. Norm, that’s powerful. I mean, I so appreciate your heart and what you’re sharing.

Uh, I think this is a critical last question – um, explain, if you can, why silence about past experiences can be so deadly, so devastating to us. Not only to us, but to those we care about, our family and friends – when we remain silent, when we suffer in silence?

Norm: I don’t think that we were called to live life in isolation, and that’s what happens when we have silence. And I have to reframe the word silence because many times we think people are being silent, the only silence is sharing with others because they are talking to themselves again and again and…

Jim: In probably a raging conversation inside.

Norm: Oh, my goodness.

Jim: Yeah.

Norm: It goes on and on. And so if we can share that in the presence of another person and realize that as I’m sharing this personal experience in my life, I am being accepted for who I am and what is going on in my life. And they just sit there, and they listen to me. But basically, the way they’re ministering to me is through their presence.

Jim: Yes.

Norm: The way you help other people is by your presence.

Three months after Joyce died, I went in to get some blood-work done. And the PA said, “Dr. So-and-so will be in a minute.” And I’m thinking, “Why is he coming in? I don’t have an appointment.” And he opened the door, took one look at me, and I lost it; I just wept. And he came in and sat down, looked at the floor for two minutes until I composed myself, and then he started chatting with me. And we talked together. And we laughed together. And we cried together. And 15 minutes later, he got up and shook my hand, walked out. And I thought, this busy doctor who sees 50 people a day, who has 15 on his staff, gave me – he gave 15 minutes of his life, just his presence. He didn’t do anything.

He said, “Norm” – basically, “I’m here. Tell me your story.”

And there’s so many people out there who are listening that need to tell their story. Write it out. Find somebody who’s safe. Tell them what you need. It’s OK to say, “I don’t want you to talk. I don’t want you to reflect. Just be there. Hold my hand. Listen. And that’s all I need. And thank you.”

Jim: Boy, that’s beautifully said. Norm, I’m thinking of Jesus. He’s called the great physician. He’s the doctor of our soul. And like a broken arm, when we go through tragedy and grief, something is lost, something is broken. And the Lord comes along and restores as a great healer. And that is a wonderful place to end today.

Thank you for the way you have expressed your experiences, how you have helped people and how you have written this wonderful book, When It Feels Like the Sky Is Falling: How to Find Hope in An Uncertain World. So many people feel like that. And I hope, if you’re in that spot, let us be that friend. Call us. We’ll talk with you. And we have caring Christian counselors who can take it to other levels, if necessary. And hopefully, you’ll want this resource. We’ll get it into your hands. If you can’t afford it, don’t worry about it. Others, I believe, will take care of that. If you can help us financially, that would be great.

Closing:

John: We do invite that donation.  Whether it is a monthly pledge, or one-time gift, anything you can do will be greatly appreciated. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459. online we’re at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

And as Jim said, reach out to one of our counselors, we’ll have to schedule a time for them to call you back.  That initial consultation is for about half-hour or so, and it is free.  So please, take advantage of those caring Christian counselors.

And by the way, if you make a contribution of any amount to Focus on the Family today, either that monthly pledge or one time gift, we’ll say “thank you” by sending you a copy of Dr. Wright’s great book, When It Feels Like The Sky Is Falling.

Coming up next time, giving hope to teen girls facing an unplanned pregnancy . . .

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Mrs. Tricia Goyer: We just think I can’t do this. I don’t have enough strength. I can’t handle the people’s stares. I can’t handle the comments. But just know that God has a good plan for you and He can bring beauty out of something that’s really hard.

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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