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Unveiling the Heart of an Abandoned Child (Part 2 of 2)

Unveiling the Heart of an Abandoned Child (Part 2 of 2)

Rob Mitchell, author of Castaway Kid, discusses the childhood struggles he experienced as an orphan. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: November 19, 2010

Opening:

John: Here’s our “Focus on the Family” broadcast guest, Rob Mitchell, talking last time about his experiences in an orphanage.

Recap:

Rob: Kids are egocentric. You know, we think that whatever happens to us in life is our fault.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Rob: The kids in Beverly Hills, who live in mansions, think they were born to deserve that. But kids in orphanages, kids in the foster care system, we think we deserve that. And that’s not right, but it’s how we feel.

End of Recap

John: I hope that helps you understand just a little bit better what life was like for a boy who was abandoned. As I said, this is “Focus on the Family” with Focus president and author, Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and Jim, there are so many children growing up in foster care, in group homes and in other parts of the world, in orphanages. And my heart goes out to them for the struggles that we heard Rob express and I know yours does, too.

Jim: Absolutely, John. This is a passion for me. I think it’s something that is so strongly on the Lord’s heart, as well. Forty-seven times He says, “Take care of the widow and the orphan–

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: –and when we’re down and we don’t know what to do, “Lord, what do You want me to do with my life?” There’s one thing He’s saying, “Take care of the orphan.”

John: A very clear call.

Jim: And that’s what drives our passion here for what we’re even doing, John. And I think each one of those children, certainly they have a name. They have a personality. But you know what? They have a soul and that’s what we need to remember. And Rob so wonderfully describes the struggles and the difficulty and the loneliness–

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: –of those children. I think there’s more than 100,000 kids in America that are in foster care and their parental rights have been terminated. They’re just waiting day after day like that puppy in the window of the orphanage like Rob talked about last time, thinking will anybody love me? Will anybody be my mom and my dad? And you know what? That breaks my heart and I hope today’s program provides a glimpse into the life of a lonely child.

John: And Jim, the numbers worldwide of those orphans, they’re just breathtaking with 145, 147 million orphans in the world.

Jim: Million.

John: That’s one of the reasons that I so appreciated the conversation we had with Rob last time and I’m glad he’s back today. Let me just tell you that Rob Mitchell is the author of the book, Castaway Kid: One Man’s Search for Hope and Home. And that forms the basis for our conversation today. it really is an inspiring, hopeful story.

Rob grew up as one of the last “lifers,” if you will, in an American orphanage and spent 14 years at the Children’s Covenant Home in Princeton, Illinois. Let’s go ahead and continue the discussion on today’s “Focus on the Family.”

Body:

Jim: Rob, when we left off last time, you were telling us about how as an angry teenager, you asked Jesus into your heart. And you mentioned how suspicious you were and you still had a lot of doubt at that moment. Yet, somehow you could say, God began to change my life. Let’s touch on the “began to change my life” aspect of the story, because I think a lot of people who come to Christ, especially in these circumstances, there’s a lot of baggage that they’ll bring. And it’s not necessarily, although perhaps it can be, instantaneous. There’s a sanctification process that one has to go through.

Rob: I think for me, the first thing that happened was, another punk tryin’ to get in my face and fight the very next day. And what I really wanted to do was smash his face in.

Jim: Hm.

Rob: And there’s this voice in me [that] said, “Somethin’ changed; walk away”–

Jim: Hm.

Rob: –which was not easy to do.

Jim: And that would’ve been perhaps the first time you would’ve walked away.

Rob: First time I walked away, that I have any memory of walkin’ away was the very next day. You know, I don’t share what I’m saying with any pride, but I’m sharing it with honesty. You know, I grew up on pornography. It was my favorite reading material. It took a while to realize that wasn’t healthy for me spiritually.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Rob: It took a while to realize that alcohol and marijuana weren’t healthy for me spiritually. It took a while and I’m talkin’ a couple of years, it was a process to realize that profanity are the words of a simple mind and I didn’t want to have a simple mind any more, that my anger was destructive. Jesus got frustrated ’cause people were being too hardheaded, stiff-necked and hardhearted–

John: Hm.

Rob: –to understand the love of this God. And eventually, I came to realize that maybe my anger issues were also me being hardhearted. It was process.

Jim: Hm.

Rob: The great thing about God is, He says, “As far as the East is from the West, I’m gonna forgive you.” It’s a journey; it’s not a destination.

Jim: Right and I think it’s important for people to hear that. Rob, one question that I get about bitterness–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: — it’s a hard one to answer actually, because people will say, “Well, how come you weren’t bitter?” And I never remember any long-term feeling of bitterness. That was my experience. I didn’t hate my father because he didn’t love me in the right way or the way I wanted. Even as a young boy, I could understand that he was dealing with stuff. I don’t know how I understood it, but I knew it was his stuff, not my stuff and the same for my mom. So, when I get that question, “Jim, how did you not become bitter with everything that you went through?” how would you answer that question, Rob?

Rob: For people who’ve walked a long time in a close relationship with God, they’ve come to understand that sometimes God is terribly inconvenient. And I was a junior in college when God called me to forgive and I fought hard, ’cause they don’t deserve it and what difference does it make?

You know, my grandmother Mitchell was dead. My father’s a brain-dead vegetable in a mental hospital. My mother’s in and out of psychiatric wards. They’re not even gonna know they’re forgiven. What difference does it make? I’m not proud of this, but I have a long history of fighting God.

But eventually I surrendered and it was process and I share the process in my book. But what I came to realize at the end of the process of forgiving the three I thought wounded me the most, is forgiving did not free them; forgiving freed me. And I remember the day and I have not been angry, I have not been bitter since that day.

Jim: So, really God’s presence in your life is the way that you would explain that lack of bitterness in you–.

Rob: Right and forgiving–

Jim: –He has filled.

Rob: –forgiving people who don’t even know they’re forgiven.

Jim: Right.

Rob: It wasn’t about them knowing; it was about me releasing it, of casting my anxieties on Him, for He cares for us.

Jim: Rob, people are listening right now who are going through terrible things. You mentioned it earlier about, it’s not just simply being abandoned or being an orphan. It might be being trapped in a marriage–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –a bad marriage, where there’s no connection, no relationship with the spouse. Speak to that person right now.

Rob: I think the deepest need of every human is to belong. And when we don’t feel we belong, sometimes we make choices to belong. The great message of Jesus Christ was, God knows who you are. You are not invisible to God. As a kid who spent 14 years in an orphanage, I understand being invisible. This isn’t theory for me; this is personal.

And to that listener, I’m saying, “Yes, you are not invisible to God. In your pain, in your sorrow, in your struggle with psychological, emotional affliction, in your struggle with someone you love who’s got MS or CP or cancer.” Our son, Luke was diagnosed with leukemia. We understand that struggle, but never have I felt alone.

And God knows you and loves you and offers you a better way, but you gotta keep givin’ it up. You gotta keep givin’ it up.

Jim: Rob, when it comes to the brokenness that you experienced, do you have a sense that, that in some way is a precursor for the Lord to mold you and shape you? He loves working with the brokenhearted, doesn’t He?

Rob: When we let Him; when we let Him. You know, one of the struggles for me as a male is the male ego’s very real. Now let’s get real, the female ego is, too, but I’m not qualified to talk on that one. (Laughter) But this whole “master of my own ship” idea that “my way” mythology of contemporary Americanism is hogwash.

And it’s one of the real challenges as a Christian. You know, as a businessman, I push to succeed ethically. And yet, as a Christian, I push to surrender. And it’s a dichotomy that makes no sense. You know, the Bible says, “Be bold as a lion, gentle as a dove and wise as a serpent.” You cannot do that on your own.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Rob: You can only do that by the power of the Holy Spirit and working on it daily, sometimes hourly, to find that way of both releasing, but seeking God’s will to have the courage to follow as God calls you, but yet, the spiritual wisdom to say, “It’s not me doing this.” I’m doing this in the name of God, by God’s Spirit, for God’s glory.

Jim: Well and in that way, Rob, again, a lot of people are experiencing devastation right now. They may have lost their job. The economy’s hit them hard.

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: They may be struggling mightily, especially where is God in this minute?

Rob: Yes.

Jim: I don’t see Him; I don’t feel Him. They may have been faithful followers of Christ for decades and all of a sudden, He doesn’t seem to be there, much like what you must have felt at the orphanage.

Rob: Yes.

Jim: Where are You, God?

Rob: Yes.

Jim: Help me understand what to do with that?

Rob: Show me. Just show me. Give me a sense of Your presence. As John Wesley said, I love the phrase, “Strangely warm my heart.”

Jim: Hm.

Rob: Just make Yourself real. And yet, God has not forgotten us. You know, I speak so often to at-risk kids and I use appropriate language and all, but most at-risk girls have been sexually abused. And one of the things that I say to them so distinctly is, what has happened to you is not who you are. It’s just what’s happened to you, but it’s not who you are. Your childhood is not who you were; it’s what happened to you.

Jim: Right. It’s a good way to process those things and I think the children that do that successfully get a handle on that–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –and they understand that, it’s not me. I’m not causing these things, but it’s hard. And it often does take a role model or a person who you have confidence [in], especially for a child. I know for me, there were a number of particularly male role models–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –my football coach, teachers. Talk to us about that. How did they play a role in your life and did they help you?

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: And who were they?

Rob: Well and it’s one of the things I “cheerlead” a lot, is especially male mentors. I’m not discounting the women, but you know the statistics better than I do, but something like 34 percent of kids are growing up in fatherless homes.

Jim: It’s now 40 percent.

Rob: Forty percent, okay. For me, it was actually late in the orphanage, the home realized they were losin’ the boys big time, many of ’em dead or in prison by 21. And it wasn’t a formal mentoring program, but there were men who impacted me, ordinary men, not celebrities looking for photo opportunities.

Jim: Right.

Rob: A guy named Jim who taught me to lift weight[s] and ham radio, a guy named Bob, who taught me to hunt and tell time by the sun and stars and walk in the woods in the dark and not trip. A guy named Swanny, one of the goofiest lookin’ human beings in the planet and I have permission to say this. Imagine a bowling pin with thin red hair. (Laughter) Okay?

Jim: That’s a little different.

Rob: All right. He said, “Well, couldn’t you say I just have a mature waistline?” (Laughter) Okay, Swanny, if that helps you sleep at night. But he liked white water and wilderness and would take groups of us out. And because of him, I learned and saw I can do this. And I’ve backpacked much of the American wilderness, mountain ranges, white water, lived in the jungle of the Congo, drove a pickup truck 2,500 miles across Africa, backpacked the Swiss and German Alps, ’cause a goofy-lookin’ man showed me I could do it.

Jim: Hm. Gave you confidence.

Rob: Yes. and guy named Marve who taught me to drive a car with a push-button transmission. (Laughter)

Jim: What car was that?

Rob: See, he’s too young to remember that.

John: Yeah, I remember that.

Rob: But as old Chryslers and Plymouths.

Jim: All right.

Rob: But these weren’t celebrities lookin’ for photo opportunities. They were ordinary men, takin’ what they knew and spending time with an at-risk kid.

Jim: Hm.

Rob: And I’m absolutely persuaded that love is a four-letter word spelled T-I-M-E.

Jim: Hm.

Rob: Kids like us don’t care if you have a Master’s degree or a Ph.D. We just want to know you care. And the only way you’re gonna show an at-risk angry kid that you care is, you have to keep showing up. And if you keep showing up, then maybe we’ll listen.

Jim: And it doesn’t take a lot, does it, Rob?

Rob: No.

Jim: I can remember those days when you know, somebody just put an arm around me–

Rob: Yeah.

Jim: –and just encouraged me. Sports–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –tended to be my love language I guess–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –if we can call it that and so you know, when they took an interest in me and showed me how to throw the football with a little more accuracy or something like that, that meant the world to me.

Rob: Yeah.

Jim: I mean a little thing–

Rob: Little thing.

Jim: –meant the world to me, uh …

Rob: I remember one of my memories in high school was this little old lady, teaching me how to bake cookies. That doesn’t sound like much, but kids like us, nobody ever let us cook and it’s the little things. I mean, I know in Chicago, for example, some senior women said, “Well, we know how to relate to street kids.” I said, “Well, become the cookie grandma.”

Jim: (Chuckling) That’s right.

Rob: Show up for cookies when they’re playin’ basketball.

Jim: There’s no kid that will turn down a cookie.

Rob: That’s right, especially no teenage male.

Jim: That’s right.

Jim: Become the cookie grandma. That’s somethin’ you can do. They said, “Well, we can do that.” I said, “Well, go be the cookie grandma.”

Jim: That’s good. The book I wrote called Finding Home, one of the things for me was just that long journey of wanting to be a good father, never having that kind of model like you. Again, speak to us about your journey of finding home. How living in an orphanage, did you have any idea of what having a home would be like?

Rob: The first answer to that was the summer after I was released from the orphanage. At that time it was literally a sports coat for the boys and bus ticket to wherever you wanted to go and, “Good luck, Kid.” That was it. That was it. You know, if you’re sick, don’t call; there’s no money. If you’re in jail, don’t call; there’s no bail.” If you’re dead, don’t call. You get a pauper’s funeral.

Jim: Just to paint that picture in a, you know, suburban perhaps home in America, a 17-, 18-year-old boy or girl probably leaves for college and Mom and Dad cry and they put their arms around ’em. They may even drive ’em to that college or fly with them to that college. This is entirely different.

Rob: This is entirely different.

Jim: You hear, “Here’s a bus ticket; good luck, kid.”

Rob: Yeah.

Jim: That’s your going away party.

Rob: The summer after my first year away from the home, I was going back to Lake Geneva to be a lifeguard swim instructor. [I] flew to Chicago, took a bus to Moline in the Quad Cities to meet a buddy. And unbeknownst to me, the bus stopped through Princeton where I grew up.

Jim: Hm.

Rob: And it was truly like a Twilight Zone movie, cause there I’m in a bus and I can see people I used to play sports with, the Dairy Queen ice cream stand and they don’t even know I’m in town–

Jim: Right.

Rob: –or care. And that is when I just got washed over and over with waves of anger and bitterness. Yes, I was a Christian, but it doesn’t change I wasn’t angry and bitter. And I yelled at God for a long time in that bus. And finally in exhaustion, I just sat there a minute and God doesn’t speak to me often, but when God does, it’s a phrase I know is not my own.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Rob: And God said, “Call Me ‘Home.’ Call Me ‘Father.’” And my first response was anger, instant anger. That doesn’t change things. I can’t take my children to my family home. I can’t show them the bed Daddy grew up in. I can’t give you grandparents. How is this changing anything, God?

And I got done yelling quietly in the bus, so people wouldn’t think I was crazy and God let my anger calm down a minute and said, for the rare time in my life, “Call Me Father. (Emotion) Call Me Home.” And I processed it for a while and I responded, “Okay, God. You’ve made an offer. You’ve got a deal.”

Jim: Hm.

Rob: “I will call You Father and I will call You Home.” And I was 18-years-old and I’ve always been home.

Jim: (Emotion) Rob, you could probably see the emotion in my eyes right now, just the tears, because you know, I think all of us that have that kind of background … my conversation with the Lord was actually somewhat humorous in that way, because I was frustrated and feeling some bitterness about coming up a different way. And you know, at that moment I remember having this argument with the Lord, but the question was a little different. It was, “Haven’t I been a good Father? Look at where you’re at and what’s happening to you.” And I thought, “Wow! You have been an absolutely wonderful Dad.”

Rob: Yeah.

Jim: Those are the conversations that we have and I can feel that in you, as well, Rob.

Rob: And God’s a big boy.

Jim: (Chuckling) He is a big boy.

Rob: You know, He can take our anger. He can take stuff that doesn’t sound good comin’ out of our mouths, whether it comes out of our mouth or in our hearts and our souls and our minds. One of the great lies is, if we fail once, we’re not worthy enough for God.

Jim: Hm.

Rob: That’s a lie. Failure’s not the problem. Not getting back up’s the problem.

Jim: Right, God wants you to get back up–

Rob: That’s right.

Jim: –and walk with Him.

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: And again, there are many people I’m sure that are devastated because the enemy works on that.

Rob: Yes.

Jim: When we have that failure, the enemy works on that. See you’re not good enough. Especially you haven’t had a dad in the home. Your dad left you when you were young,” like in our case. Perhaps your mom is also gone, like in our case. Those devastating thoughts can cripple you emotionally and spiritually. And you’ve got to overcome that. You gotta know that God is in your corner–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: — and to pursue Him.

Rob: Right. And it’s one of the challenges that in quiet conversations, I’ve often had with folks who have that feeling. I mean, over and over again, children of divorce say, “I remember the day Daddy left.” It’s burned on their memory.

Jim: Yeah.

Rob: And lots of times, they actually make it a connection. I remember one woman saying, “I stole his hairbrush that morning, just to have fun.”

Jim: Yeah.

Rob: “And he comes in and yells and screams and leaves.”

Jim: Yeah.

Rob: “And I thought it was ’cause I stole his hairbrush.”

Jim: Hm.

Rob: And I think what God calls us to do is, if we’re struggling that we’re not good enough for God, then one of the first questions to be asked is, “Why? What’s the ‘it’ you’re allowing yourself to be judged as a failure by? And is that ‘it’ scriptural?”

Jim: I agree, Rob and I’m thinking of a story as you were speaking there, one that came into Focus many, many years ago and this would be the paraphrase of the story, because it probably has been 20, 25 years. But a man who was divorcing his wife brings his daughter before him and says, “Honey, your mom and I, we’re not gonna make it and I’m gonna leave for a while. I’m gonna live in a different area. But this will give us more time and you can come visit me two weeks in the summer and you can see me hopefully, once a month; we can spend a weekend together.” That was the last time she saw her father.

Rob: Yeah.

Jim: And those empty promises, you know, they do create a barricade. I don’t know what happened to that young girl who heard those promises and never saw her father again. How does she connect with God? How does she find a connection there that she can believe in God’s promises? And the answer is, you can-

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –because He’s not your [natural] father.

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: We’re flawed.

Rob: Yes.

Jim: We walk this earth with a sin nature.

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: We make promises we cannot keep.

Rob: Yes.

Jim: But God does not. His promises He keeps. And He wants to be your loving heavenly Father. And Rob, it just seems right to pray for those people–

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –who maybe don’t know the Lord or they’re struggling in their walk. Can we do that? Can we–

Rob: Absolutely.

Jim: –pray for people who need a touch from God the Father

Rob: Uh-hm.

Jim: –right now?

Rob: Dear God, I fought telling my story, ’cause I thought, who can relate to a kid from the orphanage? But as You began to reveal, the world is full of wounded people who understand betrayal, abandonment, desperate loneliness, anger with one of their biological parents and God, angry with You.

And yet, You have promised, You will never leave us or forsake us. And Lord, right now somebody’s listening who’s in the deep darkness of desperate loneliness and woundedness, who perhaps has been wounded by others, but perhaps Lord, they’ve wounded themselves.

And they are asking one more time, “How can a holy, loving God want me?” Thank You, God for making a promise that this person is not invisible to You, that You know them and that You love them.

And Lord, I encourage this listener right now, where they are today, to step out in faith and pray a simple prayer, “Dear Jesus, I may not understand it all, but I open my heart one more time in trust. Forgive me. Make Yourself real to me. Give me the courage to start studying the Bible and the courage to find Christians who will help me become the person You imagine I can be, not the person my past says I was doomed to be.

And Lord, as I finish my prayer, thank You. Thank You for loving the wounded, for the orphaned, the widowed, the castaway. Help us, God in each of our walks, to make You real to them. This I pray in the precious name of Jesus, amen.

Closing:

John: And we wrap up this “Focus on the Family” broadcast with that heartfelt prayer from Rob Mitchell. He was an orphan, one of the last children to live in a U.S. orphanage before the system was switched to foster family homes. And Jim, there are still significant needs for orphans today.

Jim: It’s true, John. The numbers are staggering. In fact, there are about 400,000 children who are currently in the U.S. foster-care system and about a quarter of those, 100,000 are waiting to be adopted today. Their parental rights have been terminated by the courts, so they’re really children of the court system.

And I know in Canada the percentages are very similar with the kids north of us. So, that’s why we started the End The Wait orphan care outreach, to encourage and equip parents to consider adopting through foster care.

But we also help with resources and training and idea for how all of us can make a difference in the life of an orphan. It’s not easy. We want to make sure people are aware of that, but if you can’t adopt, there are many other things that you can do to come alongside those families that have.

It’d be wonderful if churches could take on the adoption effort as a community. So, if one family adopts, five or six other families in that church could come alongside that family to strengthen them, give them the breaks they need, because it’s tough duty. And you know, these kids are broken. They have a lot of emotional needs that you really need to step up and deliver. But it’s not impossible and who better to do it than those who can love these children with the love of Christ.

Also when you make a donation today to Focus on the Family, we want to send you Rob Mitchell’s book, Castaway Kid as our way of saying thank you. We can’t do it without you, you know. You’re the … the fuel for the engine here at Focus. So, please if you can make a donation today to step in the gap for these children, we deeply appreciate it.

Also we’re working on our second documentary film that will release next spring called The Drop Box. And it’s about a South Korean pastor, Pastor Lee. He and his wife have opened up their home. They’ve put a little drop box that’s heated, where moms who can no longer emotionally, perhaps physically take care of their babies, many of them with special needs and they leave their child behind for the hope of a better future than what they can provide. It is gut wrenching, but it also delivers the hope that’s found in Christ. You’ll be hearing more about that movie, The Drop Box in the months ahead.

John: Yeah, we really do have a lot going on here in terms of reaching out to care for orphans. And we’re highlighting that as part of National Adoption Awareness Month.

And you can learn more about everything we’ve discussed today, including Rob Mitchell’s book, Castaway Kid, which again, we’ll send you when you make a donation of any amount to Focus on the Family, when you call 800-232-6459; 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY or you can find resources, order Rob’s book and make a donation at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio .

Our program was provided by Focus on the Family and on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for listening. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back tomorrow. We’ll have Greg and Erin Smalley with us sharing some insights about how to appreciate those differences in your spouse, as we once again, help your family thrive.

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Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!