Jonathan McKee reflects on the bullying he endured as a child and the valuable lessons he's learned from his experiences in a discussion based on his book The Bullying Breakthrough: Real Help for Parents and Teachers of the Bullied, Bystanders, and Bullies. (Part 2 of 2)
Jonathan McKee: I think that there’s three types of kids out there. I think there’s the bully; I think there’s the bystander; and I think there’s the bullied. And the one thing I often ask parents is, “Well, which is your kid?”
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John Fuller: Jonathan McKee is with us again on Focus on the Family. We’re talking about the subject of bullying today, and I’m John Fuller. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly.
Jim Daly: John, I’m grateful that Jonathan is here. Although the topic is difficult, um, it is very necessary to talk about. As a parent with teenagers, it’s something that I’ve spent the last 10 years or so, uh, talking about with my kids in different ways, always trying to discern if my boys are being bullied, if they are the bystanders as Jonathan called them yesterday, or they’re the bullies. And it’s so prevalent. Last time, we mentioned over 70 percent of kids have seen bullying occur. About 28 percent of kids have been bullied. And the bystanders are all in the middle, I would assume. So it’s affecting children today in profound ways, especially with the addition of cyberbullying, which is occurring and causing even deeper pain and deeper convictions about what to do. I think suicide rates are up because of cyberbullying itself.
So when we were together last time, Jonathan was vulnerable enough to talk about his experience being bullied because, as he said, his teeth kind of grew faster than the rest of him, and he had buck teeth. And so often, what is the initiator of bullying is a physical, you know, issue - maybe overweight, maybe too underweight, maybe, uh, your teeth - the way they’re growing in. It could be a whole host of things - things we, as parents, know our children are gonna grow out of and it won’t be the biggest thing in the world. It’s that proverbial pimple on the face, right?
Jim: It’ll be OK. Don’t worry. But sometimes those things, um, have lingering effects. And the way people tease us at school have lifelong effects. And we’re gonna pick the conversation up today with Jonathan. I think this is one of the most important parenting tools we can provide you here at Focus.
John: Yeah, and Jonathan has a great book; it’s called. And uh, you can see more about that online and get a CD or download our app while you’re there to listen on the go - all at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.
And in addition to writing, Jonathan speaks to parents, leaders and teens around the world. And he’s got 20 years of youth ministry experience. And he’s married to Lori. And together, they have three adult children.
Jim: Jonathan, welcome back to Focus.
Jonathan: Oh, thanks for having me again.
Jim: We have cracked the can open on this discussion last time. And let me mention to the listeners, if you missed it, um, get it. Just call us. Or you know, however we can get it to you, we will do that. But I think it was a great opening discussion about what parents can do to help their children, to be aware, things to say, things not to say that could make it worse. So I appreciate that opening. You also mentioned, as I just stated, your experience being bullied. But that wasn’t the end of that story. And we didn’t finish it because I wanted to pick up on day two and continue that into, uh, high school and some of the things that took place. So let’s pick the story up there. And describe for us how that bullying continued, uh, in later years.
Jonathan: Yeah, you know, it’s interesting because a lot of young people, they’ll start going to school with a certain group of kids. And for me, that’s what happened is - a lot of kids, uh, who had made fun of me for years - I got the braces, kind of got that stuff fixed. But another thing happened, and that was that it does something to you socially. I think it made me a little more socially awkward. And as I went into middle school years, middle school years were the toughest, and I didn’t have buck teeth, um, but there was a group of kids who had always made fun of me. I assumed they were still making fun of me. But it made things worse because of the way I reacted. I didn’t really know how to respond to it. And so it got to the point where, I mean, there wasn’t a day that went by that books weren’t being knocked off my desk.
Jonathan: Um, the whole class - I mean, the whole class laughing at me. And I think the pinnacle was probably in eighth grade. There was a group of boys who decided that they wanted to start what they called the - and I’m not making this up - the “Kill John Club.” And they made T-shirts. And they did initials “KJC” because they couldn’t have the word kill on their T-shirts because teachers would know - whatever. But they would come to school with the T-shirt, and it was this caricature...
John: Oh, my.
Jonathan: ...Of my face, um, with, believe it or not, enormous teeth, even though my teeth weren’t enormous anymore. And it had a gun scope on my face. And it had the initials “KJC”. And so I’d, you know, go through the hallways, and people would be like, “KJC.” And, uh, of course, it was all under the radar. And I actually told a teacher about it. And I said, “And they’d made T-shirts.” And the teacher said to me, “No, they didn’t.” You know that was it. That was the response - “No, they didn’t.” And as I entered...
Jim: Why - why would they say that?
Jim: I mean...
Jonathan: Yeah, and that - but here’s the interesting thing; I’m not alone.
Jonathan: As I interviewed other people, very often, uh, the stories I kept hearing - this isn’t just perception. As they told the yard duty person, you know, as they told the certain - and trust me; I know tons of great teachers and principals. I’m not saying all schools are like this. There’s almost a denial that takes place. And let me tell you, as a parent, when my son was being bullied - and I shared a little bit about this in yesterday’s broadcast - um, what I didn’t share is I went to the principal. And as many wonderful principals as I know, this was not one of them. And as I sat down in her office and I shared specific details - “Here’s what happened. Here’s what kids said to my son. Uh, here’s what happened at recess the other day. Here’s what this kid did” - she literally went - kind of almost, like, shook her head as if, like, she hadn’t heard a thing. And she goes, “Let me show you a few things.” And she took us on a tour of the school, showed us every poster that said “Bully-free zone.” She showed us this banner in the cafeteria that said, “Our school is bully-free, as it’s meant to be.”
Jim: So for her, that was sufficient?
Jonathan: And she was showing us, “I assure you, there’s not bullying here at this school.”
Jim: Wow, that - what a disconnect.
Jonathan: She didn’t hear a word. It went - and I tell you, there’s a lot of parents out there that have this kind of frustration. They don’t feel heard on this issue. And granted, some of us, we’re freaking out. We’re not approaching the situation well. But this happens every once in a while with administration.
Jim: Where was your faith at this time? You’re a young boy. I’m not sure of your parents’, uh, you know, faith expression - if they’re Christian, if it’s...
Jim: ...A Christian home. Give me that element. And how are you - if you were a Christian, how are you finding any hope?
Jonathan: Well, let me tell you something, it was my saving grace because, uh, as you mentioned yesterday and as I shared in the book, there was a time I was standing on the edge of this bluff by my house, and I was looking down, and I really couldn’t find much of a reason not to jump, except that I actually went up there with a friend of mine, and I looked at him, and I said, “Should I jump?” Well, this friend was a friend I had from church. The saving grace I had was even though school was a nightmare for me every day, I was plugged into a loving church with a bunch of loving people where I went around and I was liked, noticed, uh, heard positive words, had friends that actually - you know, so school was tough. But if I could make it through that day, and then I hung with my church friends that were actually affirming to me - and so, yeah, no, it was neat because God’s gift of fellowship - other people that could affirm me in who I was in Christ...
Jonathan: ...That it wasn’t just how good-looking you are, how athletic you were because I wasn’t any of those things...
Jonathan: ...You know. And so yeah, man, I tell you, if I hadn’t had that, the ending of the story probably would have been a lot different.
Jim: Let’s fill in those blanks because not everybody is bullied. And I can only remember a couple of occasions that that happened to me. And I thank the Lord for that. But you need, I think, to paint that picture for us. Standing on the bluff, what are the emotions that you’re feeling? Like, “I’m not worthy enough, that I’m freakish, that I am” - what - how do you resolve that as a young, you know, 13, 14-year-old?
Jonathan: No, fantastic question. And I think the one word that sums up how I probably felt was alone. And as I interviewed other people, I kept hearing it again and again - “Nobody understands. Nobody knows what it’s like to be me.” And there’s this desire for people to understand you. There’s a desire for one friend. And that’s where, I tell you, my message as a kid who went through this, when I go to school assemblies, and I talk to, you know, a crowd of young people, where I know I’m talking to the majority of bystanders and then a few bullies and some who are really being harassed, some who are bullied - and as I talk to them, the message I bring to them is, “You can make a difference in a kid’s life. You can make a difference” - because every study out there shows is that if you have just one friend - some studies will even use the word one close confidant - someone who you can talk with - that one friend can make the difference in that spiral downhill towards nothingness because when you feel alone, that is the one thing - “Nobody understands me” - that seems to push kids past that tipping point.
Jim: Which is also an opportunity for parents to fill that void as much as possible.
Jonathan: By empathizing, listening.
Jonathan: “I’m so glad you told me.”
Jim: Well let’s turn our attitude from the bullied to the bullies. Um, you know, oftentimes, they’re dealing with their own issues that kind of creates the...
Jim: ...Bully - the mentality. I don’t know what a general home life would be like that a bully is created. There’s probably a confluence of things that occur in this person’s life.
Jim: But what does a bully look like? And what are some of those signs that parents, we need to, you know, pay attention to identify that our kid might be the bully?
Jonathan: Yeah. No, I mean, that - that’s one of those things where we need to possibly look. And, of course, most of us, as parents, we’re gonna say, “Well, not my kid. My kid wouldn’t do...”
Jim: Well, it’s never our kid, yeah, yeah.
Jonathan: “My kid wouldn’t do that.” But we, as parents, one thing is we need to kind of look for some of those signs. One of the big signs is low self-esteem in our kids. Because if our kids themselves don’t feel good about themselves, what they want to do is they want to raise themselves up and make themselves feel better by making fun of others. So sometimes it comes out if you start to see this self-centeredness, along with - another huge sign would be lack of empathy. And we keep using the word empathy. We used it yesterday on the show several different times because empathy is the, you know, ability to step in someone else’s shoes and identify with them and identify with their hurt. And sadly, we’re living in a world where because of the inundation of entertainment media that doesn’t show a lot of empathy, that’s kind of quick to ridicule - even a lot of gaming situations, we’re kind of losing our empathy for those - social media - we’re staring at screens instead of even looking at facial expressions. And - and what are they thinking? What are - you know, we’re just kind of what’s right there on the screen. So there’s a growing lack of empathy already in our culture. But if we start to see out of our kid these behaviors where maybe we even see these angry outbursts, them taking it out on other people - um, even as our kids are playing, if we see them constantly controlling - “No, you do this; you do this” - and if we see some of that narcissistic behavior, sometimes if you add up all of those different sides, it might mean that, “Hey, we should maybe step in and talk with our kids about empathy, start, you know, sharing some of these stories as we read it in the paper.” If we read a story in this book - “Hey, let me read this story. You know, what do” - and start helping our kids and start modeling empathy, um, so that we can start talking about what it’s like to step in another kid’s shoes.
John: Well, we have some great resources for you to have those conversations. Just stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, where you’re gonna find Jonathan’s book,. Jonathan McKee is our guest today. And we’ll have some other resources there as well, so you can really get equipped in knowing what’s going on with regard to bullying.
Jim: Hm. Jonathan, in your book - and I hope I’m not sharing anything I shouldn’t - but you mentioned your daughters - uh, one of your daughters looked back at her early years and admitted that she was the mean one. And I think her description is really where I want to spend a couple of minutes here because she said, “Honestly, once I got with the popular kids and I was in, it was normal to laugh at those who weren’t.” That, to me, is one of the biggest issues - is if you fall into the group of the popular kids, there’s kind of groupthink that begins to occur, and they move in a herd, if I can use that term, to where you laugh at the same things, you ridicule the same things because you want to maintain your status as being “in.” Is that a fair description, A? And then, B, again, how does a parent talk to their kids about being with the most popular kids isn’t necessarily the goal for you as a Christian?
Jim: What you have to look at is this. Fill in those blanks.
Jonathan: Well, right now, our culture is pushing so much towards, you know, status and popularity. Um, we’re seeing a cultural shift in this in our Instagram culture where, you know, “Hey, look at me. You know, I hope I’m liked in this post.” We’re starting to see fame as a value. There was a recent study where they asked kids, “What’s your number one value?” And fame literally just got up to number one, where it used to be down, like, number 14 or 17.
Jonathan: It’s now number 1.
Jim: And I’d say fame at all costs, even if it’s negative fame.
Jonathan: Even if it means, you know, at the expense of others. And so for a kid who’s finally got people liking them, accepting them, looking up to them, that’s really tough to say, “No, you shouldn’t be there.” You know, I mean, so - so this is a huge temptation. And if it means at the expense of others, I mean, that’s where obviously it becomes a problem - if it means I have to laugh at others. So again, here’s where we as parents can not only model this but raise awareness about this. That’s why I like to tell these stories. When I do school assemblies, I constantly am telling stories. The novel I wrote about this, about what it was like to be a bystander - I want to raise awareness so that young people step outside of their shoes, hear these stories of what it’s like to be because I’m pretty sure that the guy I, you know, had a conversation with and interviewed for this book, who, you know, was the big football player guy, who was overweight, and all his buddies would make fun of his belly in a good way - I think if a lot of them really knew...
Jonathan: ...What was going on in his head, I think some of those guys wouldn’t have wanted to do that.
Jim: And that would be true - I think male humor, uh, is a little cutting in that way.
Jim: It - we think we’re having fun with each other and that I could take it as well as give it.
Jim: But there are sensitive...
Jonathan: “Oh, I’m just playing.”
Jim: Right. There’s sensitive spirits, especially if you have some issues, if you’re overweight or...
Jim: ...You know, even in your case, where your buck teeth, uh, was...
Jim: ...The big issue. When people looked at you, this is what they teased you about.
Jonathan: And we, as moms and dads, need to be so proactive about engaging in these dialogues. When I talk to, uh, kids at church or at camps, the Scripture passage I often go to is Philippians 2 because that’s that passage where it talks about us not thinking about ourselves but considering others better than ourselves. And I always ask kids - I go, “What’s that look like in your world? What’s that look like to not think about, you know?” - and we naturally do that. I mean, think about that. From when we were kids, you know, the piece of cake - gets up, there’s two pieces of cake - you and your brother. I mean, what are you gonna do? You know, “Oh, here, you have the big piece,” you know?
Jim: Well, it depends on how good the cake is.
Jonathan: It does. It does.
Jim: “Ugh, you eat this.”
Jonathan: Well, and my friend Matt Furbey works with junior high kids. And he says, “You know, I’ve never walked to the car with a bunch of junior high boys,” and he goes, without this happening - and he goes, “Every time you’re in sight of the car, what does every junior high boy yell out?”
Jonathan: Shotgun. He goes - he goes, “Absolutely.” He goes, “Why?” “We want to be in a front seat. We want to” - he goes, “I’ve never heard a kid go, ‘Shotgun for you...’“
...You know, to his friend, you know? And I love that. And Matt’s hilarious.
Jim: The competitiveness...
Jim: ...Is building.
Jonathan: And it’s amazing. If we could teach our kids “Shotgun for you,” you know, teach them to consider others...
Jonathan: ...Better than themselves...
John: Yeah, giving.
Jonathan: And a lot of that is raising empathy, stepping in other people’s shoes. And you know what? Um, a lot of our kids really do care if they take the time to do that. And we need to help our...
Jonathan: ...Kids with that.
Jim: Well, and that - that is a great point that sometimes when you, as a child, when you go through difficulty like yourself when you were bullied, I mean, it - it does give you a desire to teach your kids how not to do that. And - and hopefully - I can remember in school, you know, even though I was on the football team and that whole bit, there was one girl that just - she struggled. And I just decided - you know, she had a class with me, so I’d find her on the quad before class, and I’d walk her to class with me. And I - partly, I just wanted to be a friend because I - my heart went out to her. She just seemed so lonely. And being the quarterback of the football team, I did think, “Okay, I can use some of that clout in that way.” I didn’t get teased. And, uh, those are the other good things that you can do as a parent to help - you know, look for the person who’s alone. I remember speaking that to my own boys - “When you go to that junior high dance, find somebody who’s by themselves that looks, uh, fearful and just talk with them. You don’t have to dance with them.” “Oh, okay, I can do that.”
Jonathan: And as you even say that, it’s hard for me to not even get emotional because, um, of course, I wished I was the capital - captain of a football team. I wished I was that popular. But the power you had and by you taking that power and becoming meek and saying, “I’m gonna go over and walk across the room and say hi to someone,” sometimes - you have no idea. I mean, honestly, Jim, you have no idea what that does to someone to help them. Because if the captain of the football team would have ever just walked up to me, as a guy, and said, “Hey, man, what’s your name?” - and talk to me and stuff, man, it would have boosted me for a week.
Jim: It - it...
Jonathan: Just saying hi.
Jim: ...Raises everybody up.
Jim: And I - there are some schools that their sports programs do that really well.
Jim: And I applaud them for it. And I hear about those stories.
Jonathan: Well, and that’s why I spent a whole chapter talking about positive things that we can do and giving examples of teachers who had programs where they took - uh, my sister-in-law works with special-needs kids. And she would take the kids who got detention and were busted, and she would bring them in and make them...
Jim: Ah, that is...
Jonathan: ...Classroom leaders.
Jim: Yeah, that is good.
Jonathan: And we were helping special-needs kids. And it was amazing because what she noticed is when she put, you know, this rough and tough kid all of a sudden with, you know, an autistic kid or a kid that was struggling a little bit, uh, it kind of opened their eyes to something they hadn’t seen. Plus, they got to - by serving, they got to see what a difference they could make in these kids’ lives.
Jim: And it - it does. There’s such spiritual growth in that for both. You know, there was a benefit for me, too. I mean, it made me feel better about who I was as a person.
Jonathan: Well, think of - I mean, you were being Christ in the fact that you think of Jesus approaching the woman at the well in John, Chapter 4, just walking up to someone who nobody else even would walk up to in a town that nobody would even go through, Jesus inviting Zacchaeus, you know, to dinner - Jesus did this all the time. And if we’re in the word, hopefully, our kids will start to see that and be able to...
Jim: Well, and hopefully we, as parents, model that as well.
Jim: But I mean, a 12-year-old...
Jonathan: We can live that out.
Jim: ...Can do that, a 13-year-old. This is an age-appropriate way - showing people that you care and teach it. And that’s a good thing. I want to get to the five R’s because this kind of, uh, accentuates those things. And I want to make sure parents can walk away - we’ll post these at our website...
Jim: ...So, uh, you know, people can come and take a look at the five R’s. And there may be some of the signs of bullying we’ll include there, as well. But, uh, Jonathan, describe what the five R’s are. I know it’s not arithmetic, writing and reading, but...
Jonathan: The five R’s.
Jim: The five R’s.
Jonathan: We sound like a pirate - arrr.
Jonathan: Yeah, what are the fives - “What are the five R’s?” Yeah, “The five R’s are -” Yeah, no, no, these - these are - you know, I just use a little alliteration here on really how we can help bystanders make an impact. And so - and it really starts with recognizing the effects of bullying. And so raising that awareness, again, here’s where we can use narratives; we can use stories. We can - you know, even those pause moments in a movie, like, “Hey, what’s that kid feel like right now?”
Jonathan: So recognizing - seeing it for what it is. Um, there’s a chapter in the book that I said, “This is the chapter your kids should read,” you know, because that helps them recognize it.” That’s part of the five R’s. Then realize you can make an impact. Um, let them know some of these studies out there that shows that, hey, one kid can make a difference, because, honestly, maybe a lot of captains of the football teams don’t realize that just by saying hi to someone else - what that does to someone else. So a lot of kids, they don’t even know that. And if we could help them understand the power they have to make a difference in someone else’s life, um, you know, and I share research and stuff. And there might be parts that parents might mark in the book and go, “Hey, hey, I just read this. What do you think?” And share that with your kids so they realize the impact they can make. Um, then it goes on to really the decision-making. And here’s where - this is probably the most important R, and that is resolve to not bully others. It’s a decision for them to make to go, “You know what? I’m not gonna be a part of it. I’m not gonna just gonna be what the bystander name implies and just stand by. I am going to stand up. And I’m gonna say, “No. I’m gonna walk away when...”
Jonathan: “...They start gossiping.” And that starts with resolving to not bully others and then refusing to join in - you know, not laughing at the jokes.
Jim: And I think that is the place to concentrate because - for the bystander. That’s what’s so hard at that age because you’re looking for your identity; you’re looking to fit in. And if you can teach your elementary school, junior high kids to refuse to join in when people are being hurt - emotionally, physically - and to stand up and say, “No, not on my watch...”
Jonathan: But if I could push back a little bit, I think we, as parents - sometimes what we do is we jump straight to that - “Hey, you guys, refuse to join in.” And I think without the empathy, they aren’t gonna understand the why in why they should be doing it. So that’s why it’s so important for them to recognize those effects and realize that they can make a difference because those are going to give them the emotional ammo to want to...
Jonathan: ...Actually resolve to not do it and refuse to join in. Because if you say, “Just refuse.” “Why?” “Because I said so!” You know?
Jim: Yeah, yeah, of course. Of course.
Jonathan: That does nothing.
Jim: So that’s four - recognize, realize, resolve, refuse. What’s the fifth R?
Jonathan: Um, reach out to someone who’s hurting or alone. That’s - that’s...
Jim: Yeah, that’s good.
Jonathan: …Not - that’s not just not doing something, but it’s actually saying, “Hey, you know what? I’m gonna go across the room and go sit by that kid who’s sitting by themselves.”
Jim: I like that. I really like that. Jonathan, you also mention in your book - and I’m gonna squeeze this in - the...
Jim: ...Ten tools, uh, to help bullied kids.
Jim: Just pick a couple of those 10 tools.
Jonathan: Yeah. It’s neat. We’ve covered some of them as we’ve talked about the - because the most important thing it really starts with is not freaking out - you know? And then stepping into their world - the empathy we keep talking about. And that’s what we need to start. I mean, if you honestly got nothing else, Mom and Dad, get this. Don’t fix the problem. But more than anything, ask them, you know, what they’re feeling and say, “I’m so glad you told me.”
Jim: Jonathan, many dads will hear this and go, “Yeah, I got it.” And then the first thing we’re going to do is step in.
Jonathan: Yeah. Yeah.
Jim: Because that’s...
John: Fix the problem.
Jim: ...You wanna fix it. And you know what? My kid’s being bullied? I’d bow up. You know, I even got my chest out right now thinking of being in that environment. My shoulders are back.
Jim: I mean, physically, we respond to that. Like what you said earlier - you were ready to go in and take care of your - the bullying of your own child because nobody was helping.
Jonathan: It is our natural tendency.
Jim: How do we fight that, though?
Jim: What do we do with that energy to say, “I’m going to - I’m going to straighten this out?”
Jonathan: We have to try to tell ourselves to stop and be a counselor for a quick second first. And say, “Tell me more about that. How did you feel?” because...
Jim: So act opposite of what you want to do?
Jonathan: Well, let me tell you something: it’s like, you know, my wife and I went to marriage counseling. It was such a great experience. And one of the things is, as she would tell me something, my tendency was to want to say, “Well, this, or fix or whatever” and to just - no, no, no. Just listen and say, “I hear you.” It was amazing how much in my marriage - how much just saying, “Wow, I never realized this. I hear you. What you’re saying is this” - that made all the difference. I didn’t even need to fix it. She just wanted to be heard.
Jonathan: And sometimes our kids, they just want to be heard.
Jim: Well, and that’s a great place to start. Jonathan, this has been terrific. I think it’s one of the biggest topics facing kids today in school. And we as parents have to be engaged. We’ve got to know their environment to be able to empathize, like you said. And a great way to start is by reading Jonathan’s book,- great helps. We’ve talked about them the last couple of days. We want to get this into your hands. If you can simply help us, you can help us in two ways. You could become a monthly supporter at Focus on the Family so that we can deliver these kinds of broadcasts, podcasts, et cetera, along with the tools to help parents do the job they were built to do. Or if you can’t do that - you can’t be a monthly supporter - a one-time gift. In either case, we’ll send you a copy of Jonathan’s book as our way of saying thank you. And I’m telling you if you can’t afford it, we’re here for you. Others will carry - I believe - the cost of doing that. So get in touch with us. We’re not gonna say no to a parent who is in need. So I’ll make that commitment to you. But I hope you see the benefit of both Jonathan’s content here and Focus delivering it to where the Lord will nudge you to help deliver this message into literally tens of thousands of homes. And Jonathan, thank you for being transparent, vulnerable, talking about this. This can’t be easy. I mean, I can talk about being the, you know, the quarterback. It’s harder to say, “I got punched and pushed around.”
Jonathan: No, my pleasure.
Jim: I’m sorry for that in your life, but you’ve seem to have - through Christ, you’ve conquered it. And I’m grateful for your example to me.
Jonathan: No, thanks so much. It’s my pleasure. And it’s fun having this dialogue.
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Jonathan McKee has authored 20 books including If I Had a Parenting Do Over, 52 Ways to Connect With Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid, More Than Just Talk and Sex Matters. He has more than 20 years of experience in youth ministry and offers the wisdom he's gained through that experience as he speaks around the world to parents and youth leaders. Jonathan and his wife, Lori, have three children and reside in California. You can learn more about Jonathan by visiting his blog, as well as his website, www.TheSource4Parents.com.