Marci Seither: It’s like that chrysalis moment. You know, the kids are kind of like those little caterpillars. And then pretty soon, they harden up, and you can kind of see the transformation. You see their wings starting to change. And pretty soon - and I was watching this one day after a science experiment with our kids. And one by one, the caterpillars started coming out of their chrysalises, and they had these wrinkled little wings, and they started flapping them. And one caterpillar was struggling. He was really struggling. And it was so tempting to just reach over and want to peel that off of the butterfly. But if we did that, it would kill it. It would never get to where it was supposed to go. And so I just sometimes think that that’s actually what the Lord does for us.
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John Fuller: That’s Marci Seither, and she’s our guest today on Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. And I’m John Fuller.
Jim Daly: John, today, we’re going to talk about empty nest and how you launch your children well. You’re kind of living the dream right now, right?
John: Well, I’m launching kids but maybe not necessarily well.
Jim: How many have you and Dena launched?
John: It depends on your definition.
Jim: Well, because count, you know...
John: For the moment...
Jim: ...How many live outside the home?
John: Okay, I got five adult kids, and all five of them have moved out at some point in time.
Jim: A couple have left.
John: A couple of them have moved back in.
John: Even just this past week, one of them came back, which is good. It’s rich. We like that, as long as it’s not, like, forever.
Jim: Well that’s part of the thing we want to talk about today. Um, Jean and I are on the precipice. You know, Trent and Troy are coming up to bat as they launch themselves. And uh, this’ll be really interesting for us. So no matter where you’re at in that parenting journey, if you’ve got little ones, you’ve got to start thinking about this stuff. How are we going to launch these kids well? And if you’re in the middle of it, like John or Marci, our guest, uh, this is the time to tune in and take notes.
John: Yeah, there’re - it’s interesting, Jim, because there are a lot of parents that really have some angst about what it’s going to be like for them.
Jim: Are you speaking from...
Jim: ...Experience here?
John: No, no. I can only dream of having the empty nest one day.
But there are a lot of emotions there. And uh, Marci is a mom who writes, and she’s really captured a lot of her story of having six kids, most of whom have left the nest. She still has some in the home. Her book is called. And that’s the basis for our conversation today.
Jim: Marci, welcome to Focus on the Family.
Marci: Thank you so much for having me. This is really a thrill.
Jim: I’m hoping people are like, leaning into the radio or the podcast, however they’re listening right now, because this is really important stuff. Jean and I - I’m thinking about this when I lay my head on my pillow at night. How are we going to launch Trent and Troy well? There are some strategies you can think about, right? You’ve done this with five of your six kids. What’s the number one thing we’ve gotta be mindful of?
Marci: I would have to say the number one thing to be mindful of is to know early on that you are a steward of your kids, not an owner of your kids. That makes a huge difference because it changes how we feel about our kids’ goals and aspirations. When we want to take ownership, it’s really hard to let go of something that we own versus something that we are just raising for the Lord.
Jim: Let me press you to give me some adjectives...
Jim: ...because I’m sure parents - we get a little, uh, blinded by what’s ownership and what’s stewardship because, you know, we care about our kids. Describe for me those little adjectives that help describe an ownership-oriented parent and a stewardship-oriented parent.
Marci: I think the difference is in an ownership situation, I think it’s the parents who really have a hard time letting go. Those are the helicopter parents who just want to kind of impose, like, “This is what we’re going to do; this is what you’re going to do.” And the failure of their kids is so scary because they are going to reflect that as failure on themselves.
Jim: Yeah, we want to get into that because I think that’s huge.
Jim: But what are those emotions and thoughts we face when we’re launching our children? Speak as the mom. I mean, what are those feelings like? What do you think about failure? Do you think about the fact their grades weren’t good enough in high school? How are they ever going to succeed in the world? I’m not speaking from experience here.
John: You have a friend, right?
Jim: I’ve got a friend. No, what are those thoughts that you’re, uh, contemplating, you know, when the 18th, 19th birthday arrives, and they’re actually heading off to something - college or vocational school, whatever it might be?
Marci: Well, I think it’s good to be knowing in advance that it’s going to be a transition for you because sometimes I think that kind of catches us off guard - that this is a transition for your kids, but it’s a transition for you, as well. And I know that’s the part that caught me off guard, and that’s why I wrote the book because I thought I need something when our first kid leaves. I don’t need to know what to do with the spare room when the last one leaves. I need to know how to handle this empty hole in my heart when this kid leaves.
And we had actually two leave close to each other because we had one go into the military, and Emma ended up graduating early and going to Saipan for six months. So we had back to back leaving, and I wasn’t really prepared for that. And I wasn’t prepared to help our kids with that. And so I think, just as far as, um, strategies is to just prepare yourself that this is going to be a transition. And I think sometimes we feel like anything that makes us feel uncomfortable is bad, but that’s just life.
Jim: So what you’re saying - and I want to make sure I’m hearing you correctly - that there’s a grieving process.
Jim: When your child is leaving, you’re grieving - the status quo’s changing. And you’re not going to be seeing them at the house. You’re not going to be maybe having dinner together once or twice or more times a week. And that is a grieving process for an engaged parent, whether they be the mom or the dad.
Marci: Right. And so just to be able to acknowledge that - and it’s a joyful time, but it is also a grieving time. And you have kids who are going to go off and do wonderful things, and then - and this is one of the things I had told somebody was - you have kids that you’re going to cry over because you miss them so much. They’re not going to be there for dinner. They’re not going to - it - movie night will never be the same.
Jim: ‘Cause you click with them, and you love being around - you enjoy their company.
Marci: And then you’re going to have, sometimes, kids that maybe there’s some stress, which is a natural tension. Um, if you’ve ever learned about mommy eagles, they feather their nest really well when the babies are born. And then as the babies get older, they start kicking out all the fluffy stuff.
Jim: Making it less comfortable.
Marci: Making it less comfortable.
Jim: A little prickly.
Marci: And so that the babies can perch on the edge. And so you have those times where there’s some stress there. And that’s - that’s also a unique pain - the fact that - that that pain will be gone, too, or the stress of...
Jim: Yeah, the stress of the responsibility of the parenting...
Jim: In fact, finish the story of the eagles because I - if people don’t know that story, eventually the parent eagle will push the baby out of the nest and...
Jim: ...Uh, help them learn to fly very quickly.
Marci: Yes. So that’s a natural thing. And I think, um, at that point, you know, the mom eagle has had the all the downs, she’s had everything in there, and then pretty soon, she starts kicking out the cellphone, and she starts kicking out the paid car insurance, and then she starts kicking out the gym membership. And pretty soon, the little eaglet, who now is shaving...
Jim: Has to pay for everything.
Marci: ...Has to pay for everything. And so, um...
Jim: That’s the human version of that.
Jim: That’s good. I like that. Um, why is it important to remember to breathe? And explain that. In the book, you talk a lot about just remember to breathe. Now, it’s not like we stopped breathing as launching parents. Uh, but what were you driving at about breathe?
Marci: Um, well, the breathe thing, when you are - I don’t know if you guys went through Lamaze with your wives.
Jim: Of course we did.
Jim: We are excellent husbands and fathers.
John: Attending physician in some cases.
Jim: But by the way, can I just say, for all the newlyweds or the newly informed parents-to-be, uh, your wife is not going to want you to be counting out that.
Jim: It just...
Jim: ...Doesn’t work that way.
Marci: Yeah, I...
Jim: Gee, let me help you count. What?!
Marci: Yeah, I mean, and I told...
John: I think they call that transition.
Jim: Jean didn’t find that helpful for some reason.
Marci: No, no. And I’ve even told people, I’m like, I don’t even know who came up with that idea. Like, you would really go in for a natural root canal...
Jim: Right. Just breathe.
Marci: And you would just breathe through it?
John: Yeah, what’s that about?
Jim: Just breathe, yeah.
Marci: So why we think that we would do things that way might be a little awkward. But, um, so the breathing thing was the fact that we have kind of - even if Lamaze doesn’t help, like, what we think it’s going to help, it still has helped to prepare our mind for...
Jim: Oh, that’s true.
Marci: ...What we’re going to be doing.
Marci: And one of the things that they talk about is just to focus and to breathe. Breathe through that pain. Breathe through that transition. And I think sometimes when we get anxious, we just kind of hold our breath, and we become - it becomes a fear for us of what’s going to happen because we’ve never gone down that path before...
Marci: ...Of letting our kids go.
Jim: Sure. You know, you had a wonderful story - uh, you and your husband - about a tree that had fallen. And it is a beautiful illustration. If you take anything away from this discussion today, this is going to be the story. Explain what happened and what you and your husband learned about parenting with that episode of a fallen tree.
Marci: Well, my husband and I lived in Northern California, and he had a sawmill. And he was hired to come to somebody’s home. They had this huge tree in their yard, and they wanted the tree cut down so that they could use - have that milled up for their lumber package to build an addition to their house. So it seemed like a perfect full-circle story. And John went, and he cut the tree down, and it was totally useless.
Jim: And why?
Marci: I - when he told me that the tree - they were just going to have to probably end up just chipping it and burning it, I was shocked because what he said was that it’s the tight rings that cause strength. And the tree, because it had no issues with having to get water. There was no other trees around it. It had all the sunshine it needed. It was...
Jim: So it was never stressed.
Marci: It was never under any stress. It had everything it needed. And so then the tree grew big. It grew lush. From the outside, it was the perfect tree. But on the inside, all the rings were really far apart. They were very widely spaced.
Jim: And that makes for a weak piece of wood.
Marci: That’s right. Because when we are under stress, that causes that tight ring, and it is that tight ring that gives it the building structural - stability. And sometimes I was thinking about that with our kids and how sometimes we want to do whatever we can to avoid stress. And...
Jim: It’s almost the parenting objective today.
Marci: It is. We want to do whatever it is that relieves the stress or relieves any discomfort. We want to make sure that they have everything they need.
Marci: And yet, then we also pray, on the other hand, just help them be useful. Well, in doing so, sometimes we have created an environment where there is no tight rings. And it is in those tight-ring years that, really, we learn the most about our kids, about ourselves. And I know when our son was - he was going to Afghanistan. And I remember looking at my husband and telling him, “This is a tight-ring year.” And so...
John: And this was with the military.
Jim: I love that language. I love that language of the tight rings. I mean, I’m - Jean and I, we’re going to start praying that way. Lord, help us to provide tight rings for our kids. But in that context with your son leaving, he had announced he was going to join the Marines. He did it. And he was off to combat, right?
Marci: Yeah, he was in the 27 Fast Company. And, um, there was over 20 guys that did not come back from his tour. And it was a difficult situation. There was actually a time where we didn’t hear from our kids for over - it was several days where nobody heard anything. And it was kind of a place where there was no ground support, no air support. It was back in the Wild West. And, uh, we actually saw something on the news that came through that said that there was two men down who were machine gunners from that unit, and names would be released once the families were notified. And you have to wait.
Jim: You just wait.
Marci: And you’re just thinking, as you’re folding laundry, is this my tight-ring moment? Like, is this the time? And do I have what it takes to go answer the front door if the black sedan shows up, or will I run screaming out the back door? Like, your tight ring is the thing that really, in the end, lets you know that God is still in control. And as much as we love our kids, we have to trust that God loves them more. As much as we want to hold our kids, we have to trust that God’s hands are bigger than ours. And I think if we think that we’re going to go through life without any tight-ring years, then you can pretty much guarantee that you will be just like that tree. You’re not going to be structurally sound and neither are your kids.
Marci: And the other thing is sometimes your kids make decisions apart from you, when they’re grown, that cause you to have a tight-ring year, even if they don’t. And you have to accept that as being okay as well.
Jim: Boy, that’s putting a shudder through a lot of parents right now that, you know, be expecting the Lord, particularly, to put tight rings in you and in your children because those tight rings, like a tree, make you stronger.
John: Yeah, and our trust is in the Lord. I so appreciate the wisdom from Marci Seither. And, uh, you can get her bookover at our website and a CD or download of our conversation as well. That’s focusonthefamily.com/radio. Or call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.
Jim: Marci, you touched on this a moment ago, and I promised to bring it back up. And this is the idea that we, as parents, we tend to gain significance through our children. If they’re well-behaved, if they’re on the honor roll - I mean, we have bumper stickers that say “My kid’s an honor roll student”, right? And we love that. We love when our children are achieving and they’re living life well. And I think especially, uh, in the Christian community, we want to see good behavior, good grades, all those things, and we take a lot of pride in that. Where does that become unhealthy, uh, in this moment when you’re trying to launch, when you’ve taken that kind of personal interest in the development of your child - rightfully so? I mean, you’ve tried to help them in mind, spirit and body. And now you’re saying bye.
Marci: Yeah, that’s a tough one. And I do just have to say I think we put it on ourselves. And especially with social media, and everybody looks good, everybody acts good, everybody’s doing just the right thing, we’ve got our kids and just the right activities. But sometimes we are gonna fail. And that is - we’re human, and I think we can learn from that. And for us to take it personal, that is really hard because when things don’t go well, we wonder what we did wrong, where we went wrong. But when things go well, we think, “Oh, look what we did right.”
And it’s completely natural...
Marci: It is.
Jim: ...To have that. Uh, let’s put the focus on the parents for a moment. So the children are launching. Um, what is important for the marriage to survive? I think, uh, I’ve referred to this several times over the last year or two. I think it was aarticle that talked about the graying of divorce and that women are filing at a much higher rate as empty nest years come, uh, because they have lost their significance, and they don’t love their husbands anymore. And again, that’s a generalization. I get that. But that was the article - the graying of American divorce. What is happening in that moment? And what can couples do to stay together and remember there’s more to life than child-rearing?
Marci: I think one of the things for moms - especially, like, we did home-school our kids until they were part-way through school. And it’s very easy to not have everything kind of run together. But it’s very important, I feel, for especially moms, who are with their kids day in and day out, to have things that they are also growing as well in their own way.
Jim: When you say that, what’s the thing? Hobbies or what - what do you mean?
Marci: Yeah, whatever it is. I mean, you can - just to stay interesting. I know when our daughter was getting married I said, “Okay, can I tell you - so us Seither women, here is what the secret for a good, um, healthy marriage.” And Emma was like, “I don’t want to hear this.”
Jim: This is your daughter Emma.
Marci: Yes, I said...
Jim: Yeah, “Stop talking to me.”
Marci: Yeah, “Stop talking to me right now.” I said, “You have to stay interesting. If you’re not interesting for yourself, you’re not going to be interesting for your spouse.” And I think sometimes, especially moms, it’s really easy when that becomes your identity to just be so immersed in your kid’s identity that you lose yourself in that and to not be growing something besides that. Whether it’s hobbies or whether it’s just, um, academics there’s something you can always be learning or doing. And it’s healthy for your kids. And, um, several years ago, my sister signed me up with her to do a triathlon.
Jim: Good for your sister.
John: Nice of her.
Jim: If my brother ever did that to me, I’d kill him.
Marci: Yeah, well, that was before I saw the bike route. So it was a sprint triathlon, but it was a high elevation. It was at Donner Summit.
Jim: Oh, my goodness.
Marci: And so I thought, “Okay, well, you know, I am a swim” - I was a swim instructor at the time and a lifeguard.
Marci: So the swimming is okay. The bike riding, um, that...
John: How hard can it be?
Marci: I’ve ridden a bike once...
Jim: You can get through it.
Marci: ...Or twice. And then, um, running, if I have to stop, drop and roll the last third of a mile, I still get the T-shirt, so I’m good with that.
Marci: And so I began training for this triathlon. And every day, I would get up really early, and I would train and train. And finally, the day of the race came, and I had all my gear, and I had everything set just right. And my daughter said, “Gosh, Mom, I just have to tell you, I’m really proud of you.” She said, “You’re not even all that athletic.”
John: Oh, how’d that feel?
Marci: And I said, “You know what? I’m really proud of myself.” I said, “You know, someday” - I said, “I want you to remember this moment right now - how you feel about me and how I feel about me. Because someday, you’re gonna be a mom, and you’re gonna have to do things that take you out of your comfort zone. It might not be a triathlon. It will be something different. But you’re going to have to stretch yourself beyond what you thought you could, and you’re going to just know that, you know, you’re going to be okay and get the T-shirt.”
Jim: And that’s a beautiful story about that connection. With respect to your husband, what are some of the strategies that you’ve deployed to stay interesting and be connected at that point of launch? Because again, I think particularly a mom can justify that involvement with the children. Listen, my whole goal is to help my child love the Lord, to do well academically or do well vocationally, whatever that may be, and to do well physically, you know, to be in good shape and not to eat stupidly. Um, and that’s a challenge when you have all boys. But, uh...
Marci: Oh, yeah.
Jim: But, you know, you can really justify that over-involvement. So how do you back out of that at the moment of launch and say to your husband, “Okay, hold me accountable”? Is that something you did? Did your husband say, “Okay, let me point out some things to you”? That could be a little dangerous.
John: That sounds, like really dangerous.
Jim: That’s a recipe for disaster.
Jim: But, I mean, date nights, and let’s take a weekend, uh, sometimes moms fret over that kind of thing. “Are you sure we can leave our 18-year-old?” I mean, it’s true.
Marci: Well, we did tell our kids that they were allowed to tattle on each other if mom and dad were both gone. So...
Jim: There’s a strategy.
Marci: So there - you know, there was safety in numbers as far as that goes. But I think the biggest thing that you have to think of is long term. And if you’re wanting your children to have a good, healthy marriage, you need to be doing that as well. And so my husband and I were in a 21-piece Glenn Miller tribute band for a while.
Jim: Whose idea was that, by the way?
Marci: Um, he was a saxophone player.
Marci: So it was him that got...
Marci: ...Recruited. And then I ended up joining as a vocalist. And so we did that for a while when we were in northern California. And...
Jim: So find a common interest?
Jim: It could be hiking, something a little less rigorous maybe.
Marci: Yeah. Yeah. Just do something different, um, with each other.
Jim: That’s a good idea.
John: Marci, like you, we have six kids. And as I noted at the top, there is, um, an element of fluidity to how many kids we have in the home depending on the week. Um, what’s your advice for parents when a child says, “Hey, can I come back for a while?”
Jim: And is it - let me just add to that. Is it different at 24 from 34?
Marci: Well, our 34-year-old hasn’t moved back in. So, um - but he’s 31, so we still have a couple of years, I guess, for him to...
Jim: Well, I’m being arbitrary.
So I think the biggest thing is that parents need to set boundaries for any age because it is still their home. And so you need to - like, just because they were gone - like, we had a son who was in the Marines. And then when he came home, he still needed to let us know if he wasn’t coming home. You know, like, he didn’t have a curfew.
Jim: So he stayed with you for a while till he got...
Jim: ...Back up on his feet...
Jim: ...Found a job and those things.
Marci: But so we still had some household rules that we adhered to, even though, um, it would be different than when he was...
Jim: Now, that can include you have them pay some rent, you have them pay some food costs. I mean, you have them responsible. Back to the eagle’s nest, right? These are the feathers you’re pulling out. Have you deployed this strategy?
John: Well, yeah, we have a - we have a rental form that I’ve drawn up for my kids. And I’ve actually shared it with other parents. And you have to have that conversation, in my experience, before the child moves back. Otherwise, months go by, and it gets awkward. It’s like...
Jim: So have you ever served an eviction notice?
John: Uh, no.
John: We just make it highly uncomfortable to stick around. How’s that?
Jim: No, I mean, those are good things to think about.
John: It’s good to get on the table with the front end of the situation.
Jim: Absolutely. Marci, I don’t want to end the time together without the description you gave in the book about helping the siblings cope with the loss of a brother or sister who’s moving out of the home because it changes the dynamic of the home. And you mentioned when Nathan, I think your son was leaving - you found solace in roller coasters. Now, I’m not sure how all that fits together. Please tell me.
Marci: Well, sometimes life, first of all, feels like a roller coaster, especially when you have six kids. But, um, I have to say when our oldest ones were leaving, there’s something - when you can do something together for all the kids - that was one of the reasons I wanted to go to a theme park with all the kids, so that we could all enjoy something together. And that was a difficult time because our youngest was only - he was going into first grade...
Marci: ...When the oldest one was leaving.
John: Leaving the house.
Marci: And so it’s so important to have family memories that will be retained by everybody, even though the memory’s going to be a little bit different. It’s really important to create family memories that will be intact for each of those family members as the time goes on. Um, when Nathan would graduate from boot camp, we would keep that as that celebration. We wouldn’t combine it with other celebrations. Or, um, when he came home from the service, we would make sure that we had some family time only before all the friends and families came.
Jim: Uh, what are some of those emotions that siblings can have, I mean, that you have to be mindful of as a parent? Because sometimes you can - you know, you’re so busy and distracted that you don’t see that maybe the middle child or the youngest child, like in your case, a first-grader, is missing their older brother.
Marci: Yeah, I think that that caught me off guard. I was expecting - like, I took up stress knitting when...
Jim: Stress knitting?
John: Stress knitting.
Marci: ...Stress-knitting when...
...Uh, Nathan joined the service and Emma left. And, um, I - everyone got scarves that year. I mean, people I didn’t even know got scarves.
Jim: Mailman, everybody.
Marci: Yeah, everyone. I even asked my husband, is there a needle recycling program? And he’s like, “Not those needles, honey.”
Marci: I mean, he would just hear the click, click, click. And, um - but I think that we need to be prepared to have some time that we can help our younger kids. And there was a time when our youngest son was - he was in first grade, and Nathan had come home and then left again. And then he had come home, and he was getting ready to leave again. Um, and our first grader was in a charter school. And the teacher said, “I’ve never had this happen, but he’s not reading anymore.” He had started going backwards...
John: So he regressed.
Marci: ...Really fast. She’s like, “I don’t even know how to help him. Is there - maybe you should pray about what you should do over Christmas vacation.” And I just knew - I said, “You know what? I appreciate that. But I think that I - I can make a decision on this right now.” And I just said, “I think I need to just take his books home, and we’re going to - I’m going to catch him up, and we’re going to spend time together, and we’re going to process through this emotionally and educationally. And then he can join the class again next year.”
Jim: Did he open up to you in that way? Did he say, you know?
Marci: He couldn’t verbalize. And so I think it’s really important for parents just to - it’s a case by case situation. You never know. And a first-grader can’t say, “Wow, I’m really nervous about Nathan.” But all of a sudden, things are going on, and it’s okay for parents just to say, “You know what? Clear my schedule. I’m staying home with you.”
Marci: And so I stayed home with him. I called it full-contact phonics because he basically had to be touching somebody all the time.
Marci: He just needed that...
Jim: But that’s attentive. I mean, that’s knowing your child.
Jim: I like that.
Marci: Well, and then the following year - so then he went back to school. He was all caught up. And then the following year, when Nathan was going to be going away again, um, Jack said, “Gosh, Mom, I’m feeling that feeling again.” I said, “You know what, Buddy? We already processed through this. So this time, instead of staying home for a half a year, I’m going to keep you home for one extra day, and we’re going to bake cookies for Nathan’s unit - the two of us - and then you’ll be ready to go to school.” It’s a hard situation. I think acknowledging that it’s hard for your kids...
Marci: ...Is important because sometimes we want to internalize stuff, and we don’t acknowledge how hard it is for us.
Marci: And when we’re not honest about our own emotions, then that’s really hard to pass that on to our kids...
Jim: So true.
Marci: ...so this is hard.
Jim: It is. And, Marci, you have done a wonderful job with this book. Um, it’s full of stories and full of great ideas about not only how to launch your children, how to stay connected in your marriage, how to be mindful of siblings and the grief they’re feeling with the loss of a sibling who’s leaving the home. And, uh, I love it. I mean, the timing’s right for Jean and for me because we are living the dream. It’s true for you, too, John. And I just think it’s a wonderful tool to put in - in your hands if you are living in that spot, too. And this might be you have 10, 11, 12-year-old. You’re - it’s going to come a lot faster than you realize. So I would encourage you to get Marci’s book. You can get it here through Focus on the Family and really, for a gift of any amount. Uh, that’s how much we believe in that resource, uh, to help equip you as a parent. If you can help us help others, we’ll send it along to you as our way of saying thank you.
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What can we do to get ready for the departure of our youngest child? He'll be going off to college after the end of this year, and my spouse and I will be left "on our own" as empty nesters. I've heard that many couples in our position face serious adjustments and are at risk for marital problems and even divorce. How can we prepare for this transition and avoid the potential pitfalls?Read more
When the youngest child is finally old enough to move out, becoming empty nesters doesn't have to be traumatic. In fact, it has many advantages.Read more