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A Godly Perspective on End-of-Life Decisions (Part 2 of 2)

A Godly Perspective on End-of-Life Decisions (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Kathryn Butler, an experienced trauma surgeon, helps families navigate end-of-life decisions according to Biblical principles. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: October 27, 2021

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Dr. Kathryn Butler: I- I think that hospitals have a way of driving us to our knees. Um, of- as patients, as caregivers, as physicians, and really churning up some very profound and cutting spiritual questions that we have very little support for in the hospital environment.

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John Fuller: That’s Dr. Kathryn Butler, describing the turmoil that many families experience with loved ones in the ICU. Dr. Butler joins us again today on Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, last time we began an insightful conversation with Katie on a godly approach to end of life decisions. And I realize that you probably don’t talk about this often, uh, but it’s important. This is a heavy topic, and, uh, a good topic to have, within the family particularly. Today we’re gonna hear additional, you know, painful stories like we did last time. And if you missed it, get the download, uh, the app, and you can listen that way, or get a hold of us and we’ll give you a link or … We’ll get it to you somehow. Um, a highlight of our discussion yesterday was the reminder of the hope we have as believers. Um, we don’t have to have a heavy heart about this transition from this life to the next. That’s the whole point, isn’t it? That we have eternal life in Jesus. And I was so grateful that Katie wove that into the discussion yesterday. She’s an impressive young woman, a doctor, a trauma physician, and, uh, she’s now a homeschooling mom, which I think is probably the most important job. And I was so delighted to, uh, talk with her last time. If you missed part of it, again, get the download. We’re gonna continue the discussion on advanced directives and those things that trauma surgeons see every day.

John: Yeah, and last time, uh, Jim, for those who watch on YouTube, they saw me writing some notes. I do that, uh, during interviews. And- and one of the notes I wrote down was, we touched on advanced medical directives, and I thought, oh, I need to make sure ours are up to date. And then I thought, oh, we have elderly parents. I need to make sure that we know what their wishes are now, before something happens. So really practical, very helpful conversation. More to come today. Uh, let me just say that Dr. Butler has captured so much of her wisdom and insights, uh, in a great book. It’s called Between Life and Death: A Gospel-Centered Guide to End-of-Life Medical Care. Of course, we have that here at Focus on the Family. Just call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast for your copy.

Jim: Uh, Katie, last time you mentioned these four core principles, which really is the basis for the book. Can you, uh, refresh us? And those that didn’t hear yesterday’s program, tell us what those four principles are.

Dr. Butler: S- sure. So, a- a biblical approach to end-of-life care focuses on the fact that life is sacred and something that we’re called to protect. And in that setting, in end-of-life scenarios, it prompts us to try to seek after treatments that have the potential to cure, to bring about full recovery. However, also, God ultimately has authority over our life and death, and death is something that will come to all of us, and he can work even through our death for the good of those who love him. And so, while we are called to protect life, and should pursue treatments with the potential for cure, at the end of life, when our measures don’t promise recovery, we should be very careful about foisting treatments that are potentially futile on people. The third is that we’re to have mercy and compassion and love our neighbor as ourselves. And when it comes to the bedside in these scenarios, that means having an awareness of the fact that our treatments can cause suffering, sometimes very marked suffering. And the fourth, which is the most important of all, is that we have hope in Christ that transforms death from something to be feared at all costs to something that through the cross brings us into eternal communion with the Lord.

Jim: Yeah. And those are all great principles-

John: They are.

Jim: … and we covered them, again, in pretty good detail last time. So, get the download. Um, let’s talk today a little bit more about ICU. You mentioned it yesterday. I can’t imagine that environment. You know, I come to work, we have a program, we talk to people, we help people. We do our own form of triage with people who call us that need help. And it’s rewarding. I can’t imagine being a doctor in the ER like you did for ten years, where you have people with tremendous physical issues, broken bones, car accidents, gunshot wounds, all those things going on. The intensity that you experience as a doctor, especially as a Christian doctor, trying to bring healing to people in that moment. Um, describe that ICU environment like that, and the ER really.

Dr. Butler: I- I think that hospitals have a way of driving us to our knees.

Jim: Huh.

Dr. Butler: Um, of- as patients, as caregivers, as physicians, and really churning up some very profound and cutting spiritual questions that we have very little support for in the hospital environment. Um, and- and part of my concern in talking about end-of-life care is because I think that there’s very little support for patients and their families in wrestling through some of these spiritual issues.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: Um, in- in one study, looking at terminally ill patients with cancer, talking about what they anticipate, and the questions that they had about the end of life, 85% of them sa- said they had spiritual concerns, but only 1% said they’d been referred to chaplaincy by their doctor.

Jim: Yeah. Hm.

Dr. Butler: You know, very underutilized. Another study showed that, uh, in conferences between family members and doctors about end-of-life care, that 80% of them h- brought up spiritual questions, and the most common response from the doctor was silence.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: And rarely a platitude. But- but never coming alongside and digging deeper and engaging. Um, which is concerning because the- the care we receive and the choices we make depend upon our faith and our spiritual concerns. So, it’s an environment that’s ripe with suffering, and I think the gospel and the cross lends meaning to it, because when you know who God is, and when you know what he has done for us in Christ, and that Jesus came and laid down his life for us who are so undeserving, you seem glimmers through of his love, even in the heartache. I- I- in my most recent book that’s coming out, one of those instances that still rests with me so heavily was a gentleman who had been in the ICU for months and months, and what happens when you’re in the ICU for a long period of time is you start to accrue complications, and it gets harder and harder to get better.

Jim: Right.

Dr. Butler: You start to go into wasting, you devour your own muscle tissue, uh, and you then start to stack on infections from the measures we give you. You know? So, every line we put in ca-

Jim: So, it’s all complicating.

Dr. Butler: … risks- right, risks giving you an infection. The longer you’re on the ventilator, the harder it is to get off, because your respiratory muscles atrophy. You know, so over … The longer you’re in the ICU, the harder it is to get out. And he had been in that position and finally after months and months he was at the point where we had nothing more to do for him, and he was actively dying. His wife had been at his side, praying over him, holding his hand, communicating with us for months throughout this, and I’d had so many discussions with her.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: Some during when she was appropriately angry at us, some where she was stoic, some when she would be tearful. But I called her on this one particular evening and she knew from the sound of my voice right away that this was different, that he was dying. And so, I said, “Can you please come in?” And she could tell from the tone of my voice. And she took a breath, and she says, “I’m 40 minutes away. How much time do we have?” And this gentleman was bleeding into his lungs. We couldn’t control it. His oxygen levels had gone from the 90s, which is normal, down to the 70%, which is incompatible with life, and his lips were blue. And we were doing what we could with the ventilator but could not get his oxygen levels back up.

Dr. Butler: And I looked at this, and I said, “He’s gonna probably pass in the next 10 minutes.” So, I just said, “Please, just come.” And so, his nurse and his respiratory therapist and I worked just non-stop at his bedside. I had 19 other patients, and I was having my other colleagues take care of them because I couldn’t leave his bedside, he was that sick. And I’m suctioning him and doing- putting a camera down his airways and trying to suction the blood out, and the respiratory therapist is doing what he can. And finally, we just all stood back with our arms at our sides and said, “There’s nothing more we can do.”

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: And at that point, I- all I could do was pray. And I just said, Lord, please, they’ve been through this ordeal. H- let him hold on until she gets here. You know? Please. Whatever you need to do. If you need to part the cars like the red sea on Commonwealth Avenue, you know?

Jim: Right.

Dr. Butler: Whatever. Please. Let her get here. And I watched the monitor and was stunned because for the next half hour, his heart continued.

Jim: Just kept going.

Dr. Butler: Yeah. With- with oxygen levels that were not compatible with life. He should have arrested right away. And then the moment she comes rushing into the ICU, she’s got her coat zipped up to her chin still, because it was November in Boston … And she rushes to the bedside, she holds his hand, and at that moment, his heart stopped.

Jim: Wow.

Dr. Butler: And so, this was this … We- I would see this often, but I would see it only because the Bible convicts us and shows us about how God is good even in calamity. And it was this horrible situation and yes, I would have wanted him to still live, and I wish we could have done more for him, but what a point of grace that he would answer that prayer and allow them one last handhold.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: So, you see terrible suffering, and you use horror, but when you truly lean into scripture and see that God’s steadfast love for us endures forever, then you also see glimmers of his- his love and mercy.

Jim: And what a beautiful illustration of the bigger picture.

Dr. Butler: Yeah.

Jim: Right?

Dr. Butler: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, our human existence is just that, it’s just what’s here.

Dr. Butler: Mm-hmm. Right.

Jim: But the spiritual dimension is so much more.

Dr. Butler: Yep.

Jim: That God would hold on-

Dr. Butler: Exactly.

Jim: … you know and let them have that last moment. And, you know, those heartbreaking situations like the one you just described, um, I’ve heard of stories where some people who are struggling with their health at end of life, believe somehow … They interpret that- that they have sinned against God, that he’s not answering prayer, and I’m sure you’ve seen that as a Christian doctor.

Dr. Butler: Yeah.

Jim: How do you- how do you counsel that person-

Dr. Butler: Oh.

Jim: … that’s really heaping on the guilt in the midst of their dying?

Dr. Butler: Yeah. I- I had one mother of a teenager girl for whom I cared, and she had- had just an awful, awful course. She had been in a car accident, and we got her through all the injuries, but she had horrible complications from a feeding tube that we placed. Um, and basically had- her abdomen was locked in with an infection that we never got a handle on. And after three months in the ICU, um, she very clearly was dying, and I had a conversation with her mom, and her mom broke down and said, “Do you think God’s punishing me because I don’t go to church anymore?”

Jim: Oh, wow.

Dr. Butler: “Do you think that’s why she’s dying?” So just like you said, the kind of grief that you can bare, and the guilt … But I think the Bible points us in another direction, that we don’t know always why we suffer, or why awful things happen, but we see so many examples throughout the Bible of God affecting good, that we can’t comprehend, even through our suffering. I think of John 11, when Lazarus is dying and Jesus receives word, and our expectation from the outside would be the only good thing would be for Jesus to go and heal him, right?

Jim: Sure.

Dr. Butler: But he delays, and he tells his disciples, “I’m delaying so that God’s glory might be shown to you.” And he arrives and Lazarus has died in his delay, and Mary and Martha say, “If you’d been here, he would lived.” And there was that- that kind of grief … Why- why weren’t you here? And then he raises Lazarus from the dead in the company of all these mourners who are gathered who can see God’s glory in Christ. Or I think of Genesis 50, verse 20, where Joseph h- was … You know, thrown into a well and sold into slavery, and endured all this suffering at the hand of his brothers, but when he finally meets them afterwards, he says, “You meant this for evil, but God meant it for good. The suffering I endured meant- he meant for good, to save many lives.” Because then he was in Egypt, and he was able to save the nation of Israel by providing food for them.

Jim: Right.

Dr. Butler: Do you know- so you see all of these ways, and the most beautiful manifestation of that is the cross, where God worked through suffering, he worked through the suffering of his son to bring about the greatest gift he’s given to all of mankind. You know, and so what you see is that we might not know the answer for suffering, but we do see that, like from Romans 8:28, he works through all things for the good of those who love him, in even the bad moments. And because something bad has happened doesn’t mean that you’ve done something to earn that punishment explicitly.

Jim: It’s such an encouragement for people struggling. And you know, you think of a mother’s heart-

Dr. Butler: Yeah.

Jim: … and feeling that guilt that my son is dying because of something I did or did not do.

Dr. Butler: Right.

Jim: Um, that doesn’t feel like the heart of God.

Dr. Butler: Mm-hmm.

Jim: It really doesn’t. I think God is for us in hardship, and he wants, you know, what’s best for us. And we’ll always do those things that- that keeps our best interests in mind, even in the suffering.

Dr. Butler: Right.

Jim: And that’s key.

John: Well, this is Focus on the Family, and, uh, your host is Jim Daly, our guest is Dr. Kathryn Butler, and, uh, we are so glad to have this conversation. It is full of scripture and really thoughtful things that we have to consider. Um, Dr. Butler’s book is Between Life and Death: A Gospel-centered Guide to End-of-Life Medical Care. Uh, you can get part one of this conversation, you can get the book, um, you can get other resources, all of that and more at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Katie, we’re in the last quarter of our two days together, fourth quarter now.

Dr. Butler: (Laughs).

Jim: So, let’s- let’s talk about physician-assisted suicide. We referenced it … Um, I think right now it’s legal in seven states. There’s probably two or three more states that are considering it. So …

Dr. Butler: It’s actually legal in 11 now.

Jim: 11 now?

Dr. Butler: Yeah. Yeah.

Jim: So already it’s moved to 11.

Dr. Butler: Mm-hmm.

Jim: So, in that context, um, what … As a physician, what is your attitude when it comes … And as a Christian, more importantly, what’s your attitude with physician-assisted suicide? Given even some Christians can rationalize this-

Dr. Butler: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … that this is humane, it’s the right thing to do because we’re prolonging life beyond what they would normally live.

Dr. Butler: Right.

Jim: So, this is actually a good thing. Speak to that whole issue.

Dr. Butler: Yeah. We need to be really careful, and- and I- I think it’s unfortunate that physician-assisted suicide is now reaching more widespread approval, because I think people can then misconstrue what we’re talking about, in terms of limiting harmful treatments, right, with …

Jim: Right. When a person is actively dying.

Dr. Butler: When a person is actively dying, right?

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Butler: With physician-assisted suicide, which is actively ending someone’s life, okay. They’re very different, but I- I worry that in the terminology that’s used, people can misconstrue them. And I- actually I understand the compassion that people have and the stance that people can have looking at this and saying, “Oh, isn’t this a way to love other people and be- show them dignity?” And I, of all people, had a reason, a personal reason, to actually advocate for PAS. I’m gonna say right now, I don’t. But I had a- a family member who suffered from, um, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, Lou-Gehrig’s disease.

Jim: Right.

Dr. Butler: And so, he was very fiercely independent and proud and aloof, and saw suddenly his ability to eat, speak, feed himself, clean himself, gone. And in the setting of the- the turmoil that thrust him into, he took his own life. Before he took his own life, he wrote a series of letters. One to his wife, uh, encouraging her. One telling her to call 911, because he had planned it ahead of time and knew she would find him. And the last, he wrote a note and said, “Support Kevorkian.” And Kevorkian was the doctor from … I think it was 20 years ago.

Jim: Doctor Death.

Dr. Butler: Who was- yes, he was an advocate for euthanasia, which is a- a close cousin of physician-assisted suicide. So that was very present in my mind when I went to medical school. And I would see the kind of suffering we would inflict, and- and sympathize, and- and wonder. But as I would walk through the hallways and see my patients, like, I could never give them pills to help them end their life. How- how could I do that? You know, and so in- inwardly, even before I was a Christian, even though I had a reason personally to advocate for it, I knew it was wrong. And when you look at what the Bible teaches us, you know, there is a difference between refusing treatment that’s going to cause suffering and not health, and actively ending your life with medication. Physician-assisted suicide is that. It’s the doctor gives you medication, usually a high dose of a barbiturate, that you take and that is what ends your life. Not the underlying illness that’s troubling you. Um, euthanasia, which is now legal in Canada, is actually giving a lethal injection. The physician actually gives a lethal injection to someone to end their life. Very different, and that’s actively taking life, and brings us right back to Mt. Sinai, with do not murder. There- there is a very clear distinction between the two. And it’s important for us to be clear on this, because the- the movement in favor of physician-assisted suicide likes to soften terms. So, there was a Gallup poll done about 10 years ago in which they phrased, “Do you think it’s okay for a doctor to help someone end their life without suffering?” And 64% said yes.

Jim: Right. It sounds like a good thing.

Dr. Butler: When you change … Right. When you change the term to suicide-

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: … the approval went down to 15%. People know it’s wrong, but when you monkey with the language suddenly it sounds more acceptable. And that’s what has happened, is there is an active debate that physician-assisted suicide, which is the appropriate terminology, should be changed to medical aid in dying.

John: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Butler: So, it’s just important for people to be aware. This is not the same as transitioning to comfort measures or withdrawing from life support. It’s something active. It’s the active taking of a life.

Jim: Right. It’s so important. And I hope people hear that clarification. And again, there’s more in your book, and- that they can read. Um, let’s move to those, uh, directives that, uh, you’ve mentioned throughout yesterday and today. Um, let’s give a- another quick recap of, uh, the advance directives, and then what is some of the best examples that you’ve seen that really have helped you as a doctor, and the hospital, uh, where families have thought this through and really- really, uh, given you the direction you need?

Dr. Butler: Yeah. You know, so nobody likes to talk about these issues. You can … There’s no quicker way to shut up conversation during dinner than to bring up death. Nobody wants to-

Jim: (Laughs). Yeah, right, it’s not … It’s not party talk.

Dr. Butler: … (Laughs). Nobody wants to talk about it. And- and it- the questions make us uncomfortable; you know. But the problem is that when we don’t talk about it with our families, we risk straddling them and abandoning them to- in some really hard situations. So, what do I mean by that? 75% of us will not be able to vouch for ourselves at the end of life.

Jim: Wow.

Dr. Butler: Either because the interventions we’re on will rob us- rob us of a voice, or we’re going to be too sick to actually speak our wishes. However, only one in four people in America has an advanced directive on file guiding loved ones on what they should do.

Jim: So, it’s actually the a- absolute inverse, right?

Dr. Butler: Yes. Yes. So- so most of us will not be able to speak for ourselves and will rely upon our- our loved ones’ next of kin to make decisions on our behalf, but only about one fourth of us has actually given them instructions to do so. So advanced directives are in- are to try to guide our loved ones when we can’t speak for ourselves, and also to ensure that our own wishes are respected. And they come in a number of flavors. The first thing is appointing a healthcare proxy, or a durable healthcare power of attorney, which is someone that you appoint to advocate on your behalf and make decisions when you can’t speak for yourself. And it’s very important to do this because, uh, number one, you want to make sure that you have discussions with that family member and that they are comfortable making decisions for you-

Jim: Right.

Dr. Butler: … and that they know your wishes. Um, and also because if you have one that you specifically designated, it can alleviate some of the turmoil between family members when disagreements come up. So, if you’ve had a discussion with your- your son or daughter, and another son or daughter disagrees with what’s decided upon, that person that you’ve designated can at least say, “I know this is what mom or dad would want. We talked about it.”

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: So, it- it helps to equip them.

Jim: You have a powerful story about a woman who was prepared to make decisions for her sister, and I think you expressed that as one of the better examples of how to do this. What happened?

Dr. Butler: Yeah. So, I had to, um, help out a colleague in the operating room who was in crisis. Um, he was caring for a woman who had a large tumor in her pelvis, and in trying to excise it there was a network of blood vessels adhered to it, and they all tore. And so, she spilled her blood volume into her pelvis in the span of a few minutes. So, he called for help, I arrived, and the anesthesiologist was doing CPR, and we worked together and packed the pelvis and gave several units … Not several- several liters of blood. Um, stabilized her enough, sent her to interventional radiology to see if we could stop the bleeding with catheters. Could not do it. Came back to the operating room, packed again. Brought her up to the intensive care unit where I had to, a third time, go in and try to stop the bleeding. And it had been hours and hours of us trying to- to save her, and it was very clear that we were losing, and we were not going to be able to. And I had talked to her sister throughout this, and she understood and was very nervous, and asked the appropriate questions. But I called and she could hear from the tone of my voice that we were at the end. And so, I said, “Please come in now.” And when I went to see her in the waiting room, she looked like her sister, she looked like my patient.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Butler: And she’s sitting there jangling her keys, and for … I had this one eerie moment where I- my mind did a flip on me, and I thought maybe she’s okay. (Laughs). Um, but sat down and was trembling, because we’d been working so hard and it’s hard to admit that no, we can’t- we can’t save her. And she stopped me mid-sentence and said, “My sister wouldn’t want any of what you’re doing right now.” And I was so surprised by the conviction with which she said it and the calm with which she said it. And she had tears in her eyes, and she said, “I- I- I don’t want to let my sister go, I don’t want to lose her, but we talked about this so many times. We watched my mom die in the ICU and it was horrible, and we so clearly talked together about what would be okay for us, and what wouldn’t. And she wouldn’t want anything of what you’re doing right now. You know, she has faith in God and just let her go to be with God. Can I see her before you let her go?” And so, she went and she spent her last moments with her sister. But she said, she’s like, you know, “I don’t want to lose her, but I at least- I know what she wanted.”

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: And so, it just shows that the power … If you have these discussions, as difficult as they are, it can equip our loved ones in moments that are going to be horrendous for them, that are gonna be sad, that are going to cause them grief and fear, but at least they have the solace to say, “I know what my loved one would have wanted, and I have respected that.”

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Butler: And it can bring peace in a situation that’s otherwise horrible.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Katie, this has been so good. I mean, we have flown by two days. And I- I hope people have appreciated, maybe not enjoyed, but appreciated, the discussion. I- I appreciate your courage in writing it as a physician. Let me, uh, let me end with this question. Because I’m so impressed by who you are, it brings me to tears. I mean, you just are such a phenomenal individual, and, uh, you know, becoming a physician and the way you’ve applied it, and the way you work scripture into everything. It’s really refreshing that, um, your science has not voided your faith. So let me give you the last word to talk to people about that intersection of faith.

Dr. Butler: Yeah. I- I would just say that these situations are so harrowing, and they can bring us to just the deepest anguish. And afterwards, whether or not things have gone smoothly, when you make a decision for a loved one, you can be struggling afterwards with questions of why, did I do the right thing, and guilt. And I would just say, in all things just turn to Christ, because he’s the founder and perfecter of our faith, and he reminds us, even in these horrible situations when we’re dealing with death and illness, that although our hearts and our flesh may fail, he’s the strength of our heart and our portion forever. And no matter what assails us, we have forgiveness and hope in him.

Jim: That is well said. Uh, Katie Butler, Dr. Butler, thank you for being with us.

Dr. Butler: Thank you.

Jim: This has been so informative. Thank you.

Dr. Butler: Thank you.

Jim: And for the listeners and the viewers, uh, this is the kind of resource you need on your shelf, and you need to be looking at it and reading it together as a couple and talking about what it is you need to plan for for those end-of-life issues. Or maybe it’s something you need to help, again, with your grandparents, or your parents. They’re aging and you need to make decisions, and maybe sooner rather than later.

Jim: And as we often do, you know, we want to make this available to you. So, if you can, make a gift of any amount. Uh, be a part of the ministry so we can help families who can’t get this resource. Uh, but make a gift of any amount and we’ll send you Katie’s, uh, book, as our way of saying thank you. If you can’t afford it, we often say this with marriage advice and parenting tools, just get in touch with us. Uh, we’ll trust others will cover the cost of that. If you need this resource and you can’t help us in ministry, we want to minister to you. So, get in touch with us and we’ll get it in your hands.

John: Yeah. And, uh, Dr. Butler’s book, once again, is called Between Life and Death: A Gospel-centered Guide to End-of-Life Medical Care. We’d love to get a copy to you. And, uh, one more thing that we say often here, Jim, is that we have caring Christian counselors. Uh, we’ve talked through some tough stuff here, and if you need to talk with someone about your circumstances, uh, schedule a time with one of those counselors. Or get the book and donate as you can when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.  Next time, Shaunti Feldhahn offers encouragement for your marriage based on lessons she’s learned after interviewing hundreds of couples who are truly happy in their relationship.

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Shaunti Feldhahn: There is a principle here that is incredibly important about looking for the bright spots and seeing what those role models, the people who have the happiest marriages have to teach us.

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.