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Accepting My True Identity in Christ (Part 1 of 2)

Accepting My True Identity in Christ (Part 1 of 2)

Rosaria Champagne Butterfield shares her dramatic testimony of coming to faith in Jesus Christ after living as a lesbian who was vehemently opposed to Christianity and the Bible. (Part 1 of 2)

Original Air Date: January 28, 2016

Opening:

Teaser:

Dr. Rosaria Champagne Butterfield: I wanted this Bible to be mine. I didn’t understand how. I didn’t understand how in the world that would be mine. I wanted that yoke that was easy and this burden that was light. I wanted this capacious God. I didn’t want my flesh to be screaming about things that God didn’t love. I really wanted that and that was shocking to me.

End of Teaser

John Fuller: Dr. Rosaria Butterfield sharing just a bit of her incredible story of what she calls her “train wreck” of a conversation to Christ and you’ll hear a lot more from her on today’s “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly. Thanks for listening in today. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, this program with Rosaria received the highest response of all of the “Focus on the Family” broadcasts we aired this entire year. And it’s amazing how many people were impacted by her story. What’s most incredible is, how far away from God Rosaria seemed to be at the time and how could someone like her ever come to know and accept Jesus Christ as her Savior?

Unfortunately, we Christians can make the mistake of judging some people as unreachable, as if God could never get ahold of their lives and transform their hearts. But Rosaria’s story proved that wrong and that’s why we want to share this with you again today. This program will challenge all of us to consider what kind of godly witness we are when we’re presenting the gospel to those outside of the faith.

John: And here’s how we started out Best of 2016 conversation with Dr. Rosaria Butterfield on today’s “Focus on the Family.”

Body:

Jim: I want to start with kind of the beginning–

Rosaria: Okay.

Jim: –where you’re coming from, kind of you as a high school, college student.

Rosaria: Oh, yeah.

Jim: What was your attitude? Where were you at? And this is before you encountered Jesus, obviously. So, let’s start right there. What kind of person were you?

Rosaria: Right, well, I was a thoughtful person. I was an intellectual. I had been raised in the Catholic church and had gone to predominantly Catholic schools. I loved the nuns. They taught me to diagram a sentence before I tried to interpret it and I personally thought that was a great life skill.

Jim: Well, and that set you up for a Ph.D. in English literature.

Rosaria: Oh, it really did. You know what? It really, really did. (Laughter) But you know, they also taught me to stand with the disempowered and to seek out the unlovely and the unloved and draw them in and so, that was very much a life value for me.

I would also say that I had a predominantly heterosexual adolescence. I did not date until college and in college I met my first boyfriend and it was a very heady experience in college. Men started to notice me and that was intriguing, but at the same time, an undercurrent of longing had inserted itself into my heart for women and it was a confusing time, as well.

So, from my college days through my graduate school days, I continued to date men and at the same time, just experience[d] a[n] overwhelming fascination and desire to be not only in the company of women, but also to be sexually in the company of women. And so, at the age of 28, I came out as a lesbian and I thought I was just simply telling the truth. I didn’t have a big agenda. I was just trying to say it like it was.

Jim: Rosaria, you know, that’s shocking. I mean, people, right now are saying, okay, this is goin’ somewhere. (Laughter) I gotta listen to this. And the thing I want to make sure people are hearing from you and I know that it’s probably uncomfortable to talk about those days because you’re a different person now—

Rosaria: Yeah.

Jim: –but it’s important for them to hear your heart in this way.

Rosaria: Right, right.

Jim: When you were teaching on the campus and you were part of kind of the women’s movement—

Rosaria: Right, oh, yeah, very much so.

Jim: –in that regard, just set that setting. There’s such angst toward Christian thought, Christian students, Christian culture.

Rosaria: Absolutely, right.

Jim: And I’d like to dig into that a bit and talk about that angst that is there. Why the hatred? Oftentimes Christians are seen as the haters, yet it feels like there’s a lot coming from the folks who are same-sex attracted. That doesn’t fit with me.

Rosaria: Right, absolutely.

Jim: It’s not the way I think about my faith and my Lord. So, talk about that environment and what you were experiencing as a teacher and as a movement leader.

Rosaria: Right, right, and it’s different today. So I was a tenured professor at Syracuse University and I was there from 1992 until, all right, I left campus in 1999 to do a research leave, but I was technically on staff there from ’92 until 2002. And that was before, you know, many of the issues, right. That was during the days of DOMA, of the Defense of Marriage Act and I, other than to say that I was very threatened by Christians.

I don’t know that I had a really well-thought-out reason, but I did teach in women’s studies and in feminist theory and in queer theory and 19th century studies. And what I would say in my classes is that, feminism was the lens through which we were going to engage these ideas.

And I would say, you know, in the same way that in your French class, you would be expected to speak in the language and work in the language. In this class, we are going to interpret the world through the language of feminism. So, that’s just a done deal. You don’t like it; go take another class.

And really, I personally didn’t see that as an angry point of view. I saw that as me being intellectually honest and you know, setting the standard for things. Now I was also a historical materialist. I did not believe in any kind of supernatural authority. I thought that was simply absurd. I thought that was anti-intellectual. And so, the name of Jesus, which truly had rolled off my tongue in a little girl’s prayer, then rolled off my back in college, really made me recoil in anger by the time I was a faculty member.

Jim: What, if you think about it, given that, what caused that anger? What was driving that anger?

Rosaria: One of the things that caused that anger, that I really did not understand why Christians would not leave consenting adults alone. That did not make sense to me. I perfectly understood why Christians would want to have their own little set of rules for their particular ways of going about their business. But why in the world Christian rules and regulations should have bearing on my life was absolutely an anathema to me. It did not make sense.

I also found when I would try to engage Christians, you know, Christians would tell me that they were people of the Book. Well, I have a Ph.D. in English. I could be the chairperson of “Over-readers Anonymous.” I am a person of the book and it really annoyed me when Christians would use the Bible like a punctuation mark, to end a conversation rather than to deepen it.

Jim: What would that sound like?

Rosaria: It seemed, well, it seemed like Christians were scared. Here’s one of the ways it would sound like. Homosexuality is a sin. You’re a sin[ner]. Well, you’re in sin. How do you know it? Well, the Bible says Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. Well, what does that mean? Blank, done. We’re done.

Jim: Huh.

Rosaria: And so, I was very, very grateful, not initially, but you know, ultimately I did meet a pastor who was a neighbor and a friend, who modeled for me, didn’t teach me so much as he modeled for me that Christians use the Bible in a scrappy way. You know, it’s not a museum piece. It’s not under that plastic that your grandma might have put on your couch–

Jim: (Chuckling) Right.

Rosaria: –you know, that you got stuck on in July? Not at all. It’s okay to deal with it and to let it penetrate your thinking. But that requires a certain amount of argumentation, which is not necessarily disrespectful.

Jim: Well, and I appreciate that. In fact, the environment in 1999 when you were taking your research leave, it kinda created a perfect storm for you in that, you at the campus there at Syracuse, I think it was Promise Keepers who was coming.

Rosaria: Yes.

Jim: You wrote an article, very negative about who they are and the oppression of women at that organization. In fact, in that article, I read it in preparation for the program, you also mention Focus on the Family as being (Laughter) one of the, you know, undergirding supporters of Promise Keepers.

Rosaria: Right, yeah, absolutely.

Jim: And you know, that is an amazing transformation where you have come from in terms of your outlook, your view—

Rosaria: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: –to where you are today. Talk about that moment in ’99. What began to happen? What opened your heart up to say, okay, maybe I don’t have it straight? Very difficult to do.

Rosaria: Right, absolutely. It was ’96 or ’97; ’99 was when I was converted, but when the Promise Keepers came to town, I was really threatened by that and it wasn’t so much that they did anything, but just the fact that the university would allow for these ideas. It felt extremely compromising to me, extremely dangerous to me. I did not like people who talked about “the gay lifestyle.” I wasn’t living a lifestyle. I had a life. I did not have a gay agenda that I knew of.

You know, if you asked me what my gay agenda [is], I’d say, well today I’m going to feed my dog and I’m going to grade a stack of 50 papers and I’m going to be a good neighbor and it didn’t seem like it was so terribly different from the things that Christians told me they valued also.

Rosaria: And so, I was really threatened by that and I wrote what I thought was just, you know, an editorial expressing my concern. And they made it an Op-Ed in the paper and it became a big deal, such a big deal that it generated hate mail. It generated fan mail.

One of the letters came from Pastor Ken Smith, the pastor of the Syracuse Reformed Presbyterian Church. And it was an interesting letter. Now what you should know is that I had already written my tenure book so I was a little bit of hubris right now–

Jim: Right.

John: Because tenured professors are pretty much untouchable, right?

Rosaria: –because tenured professors are pretty much untouchable and we can get back to that, because there is a way that as a Christian, the Lord used that for me.

So, I was feeling like I needed to write a big book and I wanted to write a book about the religious right from a lesbian feminist point of view. And so, I was watching Focus on the Family. I was probably on your mailing list. And I was certainly watching the Promise Keepers and when this letter from Ken Smith came in and he wanted to help me understand Christianity, you know, my first thought, because I’m a manipulator and I’m a user, but I’m also a serious scholar, my first thought is, wow! This Bible‘s a big book. I don’t read Greek. I don’t read Hebrew. And look, here’s a Bible scholar who could be my free research help.

Jim: (Laughing) Okay.

Rosaria: So, I was happy to talk to Ken—

Jim: That’s an honest heart.

Rosaria: –although I will tell you, it was, yeah, but I will tell you that his letter was neither a fan mail nor hate mail. He seemed like somebody who could engage ideas and probably would not drop dead if we sat down and had a conversation.

Jim: And that meant something to you.

Rosaria: It did mean something to me.

Jim: It was sincerity.

Rosaria: It was sincerity and so, he invited me to his home for dinner and I loved that idea and the reason I loved that idea is, the gay and lesbian community is also quite given to hospitality. We would also do the same thing. In the gay and lesbian community, we would have people over for dinner who might disagree with us, so that we can discuss and linger long at the table. So the fact that these Christians wanted to do that, made me think, oh, they’re kind of like me in this way.

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: And so, I was happy to go to their house for dinner and I discovered a number of things once I got there, a number of other similarities.

Jim: Yeah, what happened? I mean, what was the environment like?

Rosaria: Yeah.

Jim: Were you tense? Were you feelin’ like, oh, this guy’s gonna try to convert me?

Rosaria: Well, I didn’t know. I thought it would all go into the book if he did, you know. (Laughter)

Jim: That’s [because] you’re on research collection.

Rosaria: I thought I was in charge of this conversation. It didn’t occur to me that in fact, there was a holy God, Who before the foundations of the world, was watching and in His providence was going before me and Ken.

I walked in. I was delighted to meet his wife, Floy, who while a submissive wife, was certainly, you know, no dupe. She was smart. She was witty. She was delightful. We could immediately start talking about anything.

Jim: Was that unexpected?

Rosaria: Well, quite frankly I had no idea how Evangelicals lived. I mean, before I left, I told my friends, I’m going to this, you know, this Evangelical Christian pastor’s home for dinner and there was a lot of “Ooh!” and “Aah!” and, you know.

Jim: Be careful.

Rosaria: Well, what are they like? Tell us. You know, what do they do? Tell us how this works out. I mean, it was bizarre. We just had no idea how Christians lived and so, it was intriguing to me.

Jim: What happened? I mean, so you had these encounters.

Rosaria: Yeah, I walked in. I did.

Jim: You had these meetings, but what did it lead to?

Rosaria: Well, what happened was, we had a lovely meal. Ken prayed before the meal in a way that I had never heard before. It was an honest prayer. It was a transparent prayer. In it he repented of the sin of that day that was the kind of sin I had also committed that day. I mean, it was sort of amazing to me and we could talk about sexuality and politics without them dropping down dead.

Rosaria: It was an amazing night. And what was especially amazing about this night is they omitted two very important features in the rule book of how Christians would engage with a heathen like me. You know, No. 1, they did not share the gospel. And No. 2, they did not invite me to church, which made me wonder if I was chopped liver, right?

Jim: (Laughing) Right, I’m not good enough.

Rosaria: You know, I mean, did this [mean] I’m not good enough? But seriously, what it did make me feel is, that when Ken, you know, shook my hand and Floy shook my hand, I realized I really wasn’t a project to these people. Ken asked me some pointed questions. He wanted to know about my research assignment. He was encouraged to hear I was reading the Bible. He wanted to know if he could help me. I let him know that, yes, I needed help. I didn’t read the original languages. I needed all kinds of help. And he said, “Great; let’s meet next week.” And I said, “Wonderful, see you then.”

Jim: Well, let’s finish that aspect of your transformation.

Rosaria: Okay.

Jim: So, you and Ken continued the discussion and the relationship.

Rosaria: We did; we did and I was, of course, still thinking that I was writing a book on the Religious Right from a lesbian feminist point of view and in order to do that, I had to read the Bible.

I read the Bible. I was on a short research leave at that time, so I was reading. I’m doing what I always do before I write a book. I take the book I’m working on and I read it as many times as I can. So, I sat down and I read the Bible. You know, not having been raised in the Evangelical church, nobody told me that you’re supposed to read the Bible a verse a day like a horoscope, you know.

Jim: (Laughing) Right.

Rosaria: Nobody told me that, so I actually read it like a book and I looked at things like textual authority and authorship and hermeneutics and I looked through the three different narratives in the Old Testament, ceremonial law, judicial law and moral law. And so, I worked this thing out and I read it about five hours a day. And I read it through about seven times in this course of what I thought was study. And I will tell you, I mean, of course, your listeners know this, a lot happens to you if you read the Bible five hours a day, that even for a hardened unbeliever, that’s a lot of room with the Lord’s wisdom.

And I was immediately smitten by a couple of things. I mean, I’m a reader. You know, that’s what I do. I’m much more of a reader than a writer. I can go years without writing. I can’t go five minutes without reading. I was really taken by a number of things in the Bible and some of my well-worn assumptions just weren’t holding up.

Jim: Well, we’ve got a couple of minutes. Let’s end that aspect of the story.

Rosaria: Okay.

Jim: How did the Lord get ahold of your heart and shake it loose and say, “Listen, I AM, Who I same I AM.”

Rosaria: Right, yeah, yeah.

Jim: “And here’s your chance.”

Rosaria: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Well, it was slow and and I went kickin’ and screaming. Let’s be very clear about that and Ken and Floy rode with me through the bumps. It was a two-year bumpy process.

Jim: Wow. They never turned their back.

Rosaria: They never turned their back. They never stopped baking bread. They never stopped, you know, meeting with me. They never stopped neighboring with me and I really believe that we had a relationship that was important and they very much brought the means of grace to me. They “beared” it out before me, so I could see it and I could see its fruit in their life.

Jim: And in your personal life you’re still engaged with a woman.

Rosaria: Absolutely, oh, yeah, yeah, all of my personal life.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: And so, the Lord brought two people into my life at the same time, because when I’m writing a book, the whole world, you know, my little world has to know exactly what I’m working on. So, everybody in my LGBT community knew I was reading the Bible and I was writing this book.

And two things, two encounters happened. One was the very liberal Methodist chaplain of the campus chapel came to me and said, “Look, you’ve got it all wrong. You can have your girlfriend and Jesus. You don’t need to have any part of the Old Testament. It is dispensable and with it the moral law.”

But at that time, I had been teaching a queer theory class of all things on the danger of creating canons within canons and that’s an idea in hermeneutics where you leave away the big picture of a book to only look at a small angle that supports your mission. So, I looked at him and I said, “You know, maybe you should be sitting in on my queer theory class, because we were just going over the illogic of that hermeneutic. You can’t create canons within canons. What you’re saying doesn’t make sense intellectually to me. I mean, I love it in the flesh, but it’s not making sense to me.

But the second encounter was even more powerful. At one of my Thursday night dinners, my very, very dear friend who identified as a transgendered woman. That would be someone biologically male who has taken enough female hormones to be chemically castrated. She followed me to the kitchen and she sat me down and she said, “Look Rosaria, before you go back into that room with any more bowls of pasta or bottles of wine, you need to sit down, because I need to tell you that I am scared. This Bible reading is changing you. What is going on?

Rosaria: And I sat down and I said, “Okay, look, what if it’s true? What if this Jesus is a real and risen Lord? And what if we are all in trouble?” And she sat down with me and she looked quite defeated and she looked me in the eyes and she said, “Rosaria, I was a Presbyterian minister for 15 years. I prayed that the Lord would change me. He didn’t. If you want, I will pray that He will heal you.”

Jim: Wow.

Rosaria: And so, that left me with a kind of tacit compulsion to keep reading this Bible. My very dear friend, someone I considered wise and kind and good, who’d been there for me in all kinds of things, had been rooting around in its deep crevices for life’s purpose and meaning. But the bomb she dropped also really enraged me. I mean, who is this Jesus, who heals some, but not others?

Jim: Hm.

Rosaria: And as I was reading through the Bible, it didn’t strike me, at least it didn’t strike me that my shtick was about healing. I didn’t feel sick. The Bible doesn’t really diagnose homosexual sex as an illness. The Bible diagnoses that as a sin.

There’s never a point in the Bible where homosexuality is a noun. There’s never an example in God’s economy where there is a person called a homosexual who is now an abomination because of who he or she is.

The Bible condemns two things that are interrelated about sexual sin. It condemns a sexual practice apart from biblical marriage. That’s No. 1. And it declares as sin a sexual identity that is rooted in a sinful practice. And so, it really seemed to me that the Bible was a lot more generous to me than some of the Christians I met at gay pride marches.

Jim: Yeah, now let’s get there.

Rosaria: Okay.

Jim: I mean, that’s really it.

Rosaria: So, you know, that’s really it. That was really it, that the Bible was dealing with homosexuality as a verb, as a practice that was either about a sense of identity or a sense of what I do in bed, not a sense of personhood. The Bible‘s definition of “personhood” was so compelling and so attractive to me, even as a lesbian, because it was so deep and rich and capacious and loving.

You know, when Jesus said, “My yoke is easy; My burden is light,” I was a very hard-working professor. I worked 80 hours a week. I had no light burden. What that meant for me was intriguing.

Jim: I want to take all of us to that moment though where you really had the revelation that Jesus is real.

Rosaria: Okay, yeah. Well, it was very slow and it was very messy. But what really happened was, I started going to church. And you know, and it was really, I didn’t put in my calendar that day, “Hey, this Lord’s Day you’re gonna go to church,” but one Sunday morning I woke up in the bed that I shared with my lesbian lover and an hour later I was sitting in a pew at the Syracuse Reformed Presbyterian Church.

And I was very uncomfortable there. I will tell you that I got there and I just thought this is wacky. This is weird. I’m going to run really fast (Laughing) as soon as this service ends. But I was really disarmed by a number of things about the worship service, about the people there and so, I kept going back.

I wanted that yoke that was easy and this burden that was light. I wanted this capacious God. I didn’t want my flesh to be screaming about things that God didn’t love. I really wanted that and that was shocking to me. And I don’t remember anything that happened after that, except for that I started praying in privacy and I started praying things like this. I could not start with my sexuality. It was simply too hard. It was my identity. It was deep. It was my job.

Jim: Yeah.

Rosaria: You know, it was what I did. I was the leader of the LGBT student groups. It was what I did, but I just started praying, “Lord, can I trust You? Do I know You?” And everything started to chip away after that. And one of the things that the Lord impressed upon my heart in one of these prayer sessions was this prayer, “Lord, can You make me a godly woman?” (Emotional)

Jim: I see it in your face.

Rosaria: Yes.

Jim: –the desire, the tears.

Closing:

John: Jim Daly, talking with Dr. Rosaria Butterfield on this Best of 2016 conversation on “Focus on the Family.”

Jim: What a powerful story about the Holy Spirit at work, drawing Rosaria to Himself in such an amazing way. I hope everyone will join us next time to learn what happened and to see the direction Rosaria took next and really how God began to transform her life.

I want to recommend you contact us about getting her book, The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert. She’s an excellent writer and has some wonderful insights about how we can better interact and pray for those who identify with the LGBT community. In fact, I’d like to send you a complimentary copy of this book if you’re able to make a financial gift of any amount to Focus on the Family. That’s how important Rosaria’s message is to us and I hope you’ll get a copy to pass along to a family member or a friend.

And you may have heard about the year-end matching grant opportunity we have here at Focus on the Family. Some generous friends have made that possible for us. About half the budget is raised at this time of the year and what that means is, any gift you give before December 31st will be doubled by these great friends. So, if it’s $50, it becomes $100. Can I ask you to contact us today? We need to hear from you and like I said, so much of the fuel to be able to help those in need throughout the year is raised right now. And if you haven’t given to Focus, this would be a great time to help us because again, your gift will be doubled.

John: You can donate online at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or when you call 800-232-6459; 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Now when we get in touch, ask about our Best of 2016 collection of programs, which like we heard today, features powerful messages of encouragement and motivation for you and your family. The collection includes Al and Lisa Robertson from “Duck Dynasty,” talking about how they survived serious problems in their marriage and Kathi Lipp, offering some ways to declutter your life and Pastor Andy Stanley discusses trusting God even in the midst of life challenges. Details about our Best of 2016 collection at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

And make plans to join us tomorrow for part two of Dr. Butterfield’s amazing story of her final steps into a trusting relationship with Jesus Christ.

Excerpt:

Dr. Rosaria Butterfield: What I realized is that I was standing in a long line of godly women, the Mary Magdalene line and that, that was right where God had me and that my sin was wiped away and if He brought to me a godly husband, He would make me a loving godly wife and the Lord did that.

End of Excerpt

John: More from Dr. Rosaria Butterfield tomorrow on “Focus on the Family” and on behalf of Focus president, Jim Daly and the entire team, I’m John Fuller, hoping you can join us then as we once again, help you and your family thrive.

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As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

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Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!