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Applying Love Languages to Families With Special Needs

Applying Love Languages to Families With Special Needs

Raising a child with special needs has many challenges. Jolene Philo will help you discover how to use Love Languages to express love to your child with special needs, as well as their siblings and your spouse! It’s a terrific conversation you won’t want to miss.
Original Air Date: January 10, 2023

Preview:

Jolene Philo: Think about today, because if you think about what am I gonna do with my child who has special needs when they’re 40 years old and yada yada yada…that’s too overwhelming. So think about today and just say to yourself, “Can I make it through today? Can I get strength from God to make it through today?” And the answer to that is probably going to be yes. And then do it that day. And maybe all you can do that day with the love languages is think, how could I use them tomorrow? And that’s enough.

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John Fuller: That’s Jolene Philo, and she’s with us today on Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: You know John, some of the most amazing people that I’ve met are those with special needs. I’m thinking of Trevor Hendershot, who was here with his dad.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And, uh, talked about his difficulty, uh, being born with Down Syndrome and how he’s overcoming that situation by working, uh, for the Ducks.

John: The Anaheim Ducks.

Jim: The Anaheim Ducks.

John: Right.

Jim: And I think the Los Angeles Angels.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know, he has more jobs coming at him now-

John: (laughs).

Jim: … than e- anybody I know. And of course, Tyler Sexton, who was born with cerebral palsy, became a physician after being told he couldn’t, and, uh, he runs a pediatric ward of a hospital. Terrific human being. But the bottom line is, it’s not what you grow up to do. It’s who you are in Christ and being, uh, made in the image of God. And today we’re gonna talk with a very special guest, uh, who has worked with Gary Chapman, who is the author of The Five Love Languages, and how to apply those to families with special needs.

John: Yeah. And there are a lot of challenges if there’s a special needs child in the family. And Jolene Philo knows that very well. She and her husband, uh, Hiram, uh, raised a son with medical special needs. And, uh, as a teacher, Jolene created an inclusive classroom for kids with disabilities. Uh, she’s authored a number of books for the special needs and disability community. And, uh, one, as you said, Jim, is called Sharing Love Abundantly in Special Needs Families: The Five Love Languages for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities. We’ve got copies of that here. Call us, 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Jolene, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Jolene: Well, thank you. It’s great to be here.

Jim: It’s good to have you. And man, just thank you for all those years as a schoolteacher. I loved my schoolteachers. I think, you know, in my chaotic, uh, childhood, schoolteachers brought me consistency and boundaries and I just enjoyed it-

Jolene: Yeah.

Jim:  .. once I got into school. I didn’t want to go the first day, but then I was caught. And, uh, so thank you. I’m sure you have built into many students over the years, and what a great profession.

Jolene: It is. Um, it’s, I think and sometimes underrated, but it is so important.

Jim: I agree. So important.

Jolene: And boy, there’s, other than being a parent, there’s no other opportunity to really speak into a child’s life.

Jim: Oh, shape and mold.

Jolene: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Let’s go back a bit and talk about, uh, your husband, how you met and how did your life with him get started?

Jolene: Well, we met in college at what was called Westmar College in Le Mars, Iowa, which you might know as the ice cream capital of the world.

Jim: (laughs) I didn’t know that, but I’m glad-

John: I want to go there now.

Jim: Yeah, let’s go.

Jolene: It’s- it’s the home of Wells Blue Bunny ice cream.

John: Ah.

Jim: Oh, okay.

Jolene: Yes. We met at freshman orientation dance. We were very different. He was very shy. I was very verbal. Lots of ways that we were different.

Jim: (laughs).

Jolene: But we shared some common values of hard work, uh, and an emphasis on family and the importance of family and then our faith as Christians. So, we met, as I said, uh, early on, and we were married after our junior year. We graduated then in 1978 and moved to South Dakota. And that’s kind of how our life together began.

Jim: We love South Dakota.

Jolene: Yes.

Jim: Jean and I and the family, we’ve done a lot of, uh, you know, camping up there. And what a great state.

Jolene: It is.

Jim: Let me ask you though then, Allen came along, your son. And that was not what you expected. But what happened?

Jolene: Well, it wasn’t at all what we expected. When I went into labor and we drove to the hospital, which was 90 miles from where we lived, we got there in time for him to be born. And at first, everything seemed to be fine. Uh, and he started having trouble breathing during the night. The doctor came in the next morning and sat down beside me while I was eating breakfast. And if you know anything about hospitals and doctors, having them sit down beside you is not a good sign.

Jim: Right.

Jolene: And he said that our son was having trouble breathing. He wanted to move him from the hospital in Spearfish to Rapid City for him to, uh, have some more tests. And a few hours later, the pediatrician there called and said that Allen had a tracheoesophageal fistula, which means that his esophagus came down from his throat and formed a blind pouch. It came up from his stomach and hooked into the trachea. So, immediate surgery was required. The nearest hospital was at the University of Nebraska in Omaha. So, our son was life flighted before he was a day old, and actually had surgery-

Jim: Right.

Jolene: … before he was a day old.

Jim: I mean, I can’t imagine. He couldn’t eat?

Jolene: No. No.

Jim: I mean, as a newborn baby, I mean, he just couldn’t … The plumbing was all backward, right?

Jolene: Right.

Jim: Was the surgery successful?

Jolene: It was. And-

Jim: Or surgeries.

Jolene: Yeah. There were many.

John: Yeah.

Jolene: The first surgery was successful. Uh, we were told upfront, it had a 92% success rate for, you know, one of the major birth conditions. Uh, he was out of NICU within about two and a half weeks, able to nurse, and everything was going well. He was a bright-eyed, you know, very responsive child. And two months later when I was nursing him in the night, he quit breathing. So that ended up being another trip down to Spearfish, onto Rapid City, where they found out what that, where they had joined the esophagus, uh, the stricture had closed, and so all the milk was pooling there and then aspirating into his lungs. So, he was again sent to, uh, Omaha. I got to fly with him this time because I was a nursing mother. He had another surgery. And to make a long story very short, by the time he was five, he’d had a total of seven surgeries and dozens, if not hundreds, of medical tests and procedures to get everything functioning correctly.

Jim: Did, after five then, was he, you know, in a better place where things became normal?

Jolene: Yes. And in fact, when we moved from South Dakota to Iowa in 1985, so he was about three or four and started kindergarten a few years later, we had a hard time convincing people that he’d had such a-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Jolene: … a tough beginning. Uh, he did have one more surgery when he was 15, but other than that-

Jim: Hmmm.

Jolene: … physically, he was just fine.

Jim: You know, once Allen reached that stable point, uh, in your book, you talk about your church offering a class that transformed your marriage and parenting. Uh, what was it?

Jolene: It was the first love languages book.

Jim: (laughs) Okay.

Jolene: The Love Languages for Couples.

Jim: Thus the connection.

Jolene: Yes, yes. So, um, you know, we took the class in Sunday school. There wasn’t anything for kids yet, but we did it for the couples, and it was very helpful for us.

Jim: Right. And those classic, you know, there are a handful of authors that really look into the design that God has made. And I think Gary Chapman really hit something here when he identified those five love languages. I don’t want to put you on the spot, you don’t have the list, but words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service and physical touch are those five.

Jolene: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And it, so how did you see those begin to apply in your little family?

Jolene: Well, you know, you just kind of start using them when you think that, hmm, if these were effective for adults, maybe they’ll work for kids, but you don’t really know how to apply them for kids, so you just st- or how to figure out what they are in your children.

Jim: And I don’t think Gary, up until that point, he had not really written about that yet. He now has written about that, how to apply them to your children.

Jolene: Exactly.

Jim: But th- this was kind of early on, right?

Jolene: Right, right. So we just started, you know, using all of them with our kids, and they seemed to thrive with them. And so then I was like, well, if it works in my family, maybe it’ll also work at school.

Jim: Let me … Oh, that’s interesting. So, uh, let’s stick with your family.

Jolene: Sure.

Jim: So you learned this with your husband. So what love language is he?

Jolene: He is physical touch.

Jim: Okay, yeah.

Jolene: And remember how we talked about the opposites thing?

Jim: Yes.

Jolene: That’s my lowest (laughs).

Jim: Okay, yeah (laughs). That’s funny. What is yours?

Jolene: My top one is acts of service, followed by words of affirmation really closely.

Jim: Uh, so you begin to apply that in your marriage. Did it help?

Jolene: It did. Uh, and it continues to help. In fact, we now live in a multi-generational family, so my daughter and her husband and their two kids live with us intentionally, and all the adults other than me are physical touch.

Jim: (laughs) Oh.

Jolene: Yeah. So I’m the-

Jim: Can somebody get me a word of affirmation here?

Jolene: Yeah.

Jim: (laughs).

Jolene: It’s, uh, well in fact, it’s so funny because my daughter finally said to my husband, “Okay, we gotta step things up a little bit here. We need to try and do some nice things for mom. And I bet if you just ask her every day if she would like to have a latte, which is one of her favorite things, and we have a little espresso maker, you would just fill her love tank like crazy.” And, uh, that was correct.

Jim: Does your book have the- the quiz in it that-

Jolene: Yes.

Jim: … people can identify?

Jolene: At the end of chapter one.

Jim: Okay, good.

Jolene: All the quizzes are in it, yeah.

Jim: ‘Cause that’s really good.

Jolene: Mm-hmm.

Jim: It’s- it’s great to do. I- I really couldn’t identify (laughs). And John and I always talk about this.

John: (laughs).

Jim: Mine was kind of even on everything, so I’m not sure what my dominant love language is. Maybe-

John: You’re just a big, lovable guy.

Jim: … I need to call Gary and have him, uh, analyze me, I guess, or something like that. Now with your kids, I remember having this experience, and I told Gary about this on a previous broadcast, I remember Troy particularly. Trent was a little more difficult, but Troy, I think he was four years old. And I was reading the prep to do an in- interview with Gary, and I just asked him off the cuff. He was right next to my chair early in the morning. And I said, “W- which love language is yours?” Four years old, being a teacher you can identify with this.

Jolene: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And I started to read them and he goes, “Oh, physical touch.” He just knew it.

Jolene: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know. And he has always been that way. He loves to hug. He loves when I tickle his arm or his back, or, you know, whatever it might be. But he had no doubt and still to this day has no doubt.

Jolene: He’s a very self-aware person.

Jim: (laughs) Is that kind of common? Do you see that distinction with the kids typically?

Jolene: I have not seen that so much.

Jim: Huh.

Jolene: Um, and maybe it’s just because the parents don’t really take the time to go through them with their kids.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: Maybe it’s because they aren’t educated enough.

John: Mmm.

Jim: A- Allen had that experience, as your son. Uh, I think your husband began to stroke his cheek when he was going through such difficulty, right?

Jolene: Yes. Yes. It’s- it’s one of my favorite stories actually.

Jim: Tell it.

Jolene: When our son was in NICU, of course I had just had a baby, so there were several times when I would need to go and just rest and take a nap where we were staying, and my husband would go in during those hours and he would just be next to Allen’s little bed. And Allen of course was covered with tubes. You know, he had drainage tubes and he had things that were monitoring everything and he had a feeding tube. And there wasn’t a lot of space on him that was available for-

Jim: Huh.

Jolene: … physical contact. So, instead of having the nurse try to get Allen up into his arms all the time, which was difficult, Hiram got into the habit of just putting his hand in and stroking Allen’s cheek-

Jim: Uh-huh.

Jolene: … back and forth.

Jim: How sweet.

Jolene: Back and forth. And of course, there’s now research that proves that that’s very good for newborns who are in NICU. And that the m- most amazing part of this story is that for many, many years afterwards whenever Allen would get upset, probably ’till he was about 13 or 14 years old, when he got upset and needed to regulate, he would look at us and ask, “Rub my cheek.”

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Oh, man.

Jolene: “Rub my cheek.”

Jim: Wow, he could, he knew it made a difference for him.

Jolene: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: That’s great intuitive parenting, I think. I think Troy’s very similar that way. When he’s stressed, he comes over and puts his arm in front of me (laughs), you know, and it’s just beautiful. It’s a, it’s a nice thing.

Jolene: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And I never pull back. I never say, “I can’t do that right now.” And, uh, it’s- it’s a good way to show that affection. But knowing your children’s love language is the key. Now I can’t imagine you in a classroom with, how many kids, 20, 30. How did you, how did you A, have the time to really differentiate and know each other’s love language?

Jolene: Well, when I was still teaching, and I left teaching in 2003, they still didn’t have a lot out. I’m not sure what the copyright date is on- on the love languages book for kids, but I just kind of used them all-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Jolene: … with the whole class.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: So I figured out ways to use words of affirmation. I figured out ways that either I or someone, one of the other teachers or assistants in my classroom, could go and listen to a child read one-on-one. Uh, you know, I knew the kids who would benefit from maybe a sticker that they could take home or a pencil. There were others, um, the … So those would be the gifts kids. The kids that needed physical touch, I, or all of the kids, I made sure and pat them on the shoulder-

Jim: Sure.

Jolene: … when I went by or ruffled their hair, fist bump.

Jim: I do that with John.

Jolene: Yeah, I- I-

John: (laughs).

Jolene: (laughs).

Jim: I’m gonna ruffle your hair right now.

John: Go ahead.

Jim: But it’s so awesome. Jolene, you grew up in a caregiving family. So what- what was happening in your family of origin that you kind of learned how to be sensitive to needs around you?

Jolene: Yes. Um, my father was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis when he was 29.

Jim: Mmm.

Jolene: So that was way back in 1958.

Jim: Mmm.

Jolene: I was two. Uh, dad was still working full time when he was diagnosed, but I can’t remember him walking.

Jim: Ah.

Jolene: So, his decline was quite swift, and he was in a wheelchair the whole time I was growing up. I have an older sister and a younger brother, and we were very active then in dad’s care. My parents made a decision that dad would stay in our home at least until we were all grown up, at least in college.

Jim: Right.

Jolene: And then they also decided that they would do everything they could to make sure we went to college.

Jim: It sounded like you had an aunt and uncle. I think you mentioned them in the book. What- what role did they play to encourage the kids, you and the kids?

Jolene: Yes. They lived in the same town, and my aunt was mom’s younger sister. And they just kind of stepped in. And whenever they were doing something exciting, or at least it seemed like pretty exciting when you’re six years old-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Jolene: … they would come over and get our family and take us with them. So, we would go swimming, we would go hiking in a park and Uncle Jim would push dad’s wheelchair. We went on vacations with six kids, ’cause they had three kids too. Six kids, four adults in a station wagon with a wheelchair tied on top. And we would just go-

Jim: (laughs).

Jolene: … state to state and see and do things that were impossible for-

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: … my parents to do.

Jim: I like the spirit of that, just live life and go, right? And, uh, yeah, I have a little bit of a boundary here, uh, a bump, but I’m gonna continue. That was really good of your dad to participate in that way.

Jolene: My dad was that kind of guy.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: As long as he could get out and go, he was gonna go.

Jim: You know, one of the things in, uh, families that do have, uh, a child of special needs, um, is sometimes the siblings may not feel noticed, uh, because of that child, understandably, uh, consumes a lot of the parents’ time, right. The caregiving is intense perhaps. And so the other kids, they’re kind of flying under the radar and they may not get the attention that the parent would love to give them, but is consumed with the other sibling that has special needs. Speak to that issue and knowing their love language.

Jolene: Well first I want to say that we had that same experience when I was growing up because we did a lot of caregiving for my father. We were very active in pushing his wheelchair, you know, getting him what he needed, fixing him lunch, whatever it was. And sometimes we were almost asked to do too much, and I think it’s really important for the children who are in caregiving families who are asked to contribute, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s a great way to learn compassion and to grow up and to learn to accept people who have different abilities and disabilities. But we also have to make sure to protect their childhood and to give them time to be kids.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: Which is just what my aunt and uncle did for us.

Jim: When you, being that- that parent, when you feel like your tank is empty, how do you find that little reserve energy to make sure that other child gets a piece of your attention at the end of the day when you’re tapped out? Do, did you use a trigger at all or a little something to say, okay, remember Mary or Johnny need a little hand on their shoulder, a little word of encouragement?

Jolene: That’s a really good question. I think the main thing we have to remember is that kids are kids. And so if our child with a disability needs our time and our energy, and maybe the majority of it, we need to figure out a way to be intentional about giving that to the typical sibling. So, we may need to have a little note in our planner saying-

Jim: Huh.

Jolene: … “Have you talked to so-and-so today?” Or maybe you have a little notification on your phone that comes up and just reminds-

Jim: And don’t feel guilty about it.

Jolene: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, use it-

Jolene: Yeah.

Jim: … as a reminder.

Jolene: Yeah, just look at it, oh, okay. So my child likes physical touch. I’m just gonna go over and, um, give him a hug, or I’m gonna make sure that I cuddle with them tonight at bedtime.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: Or whatever it is. Just have something in your life so that you remember the typical siblings.

Jim: Yeah.

John: This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly and Jolene Philo is our guest today. And along with Gary Chapman, she wrote a book called Sharing Love Abundantly in Special Needs Families: The Five Love Languages for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities. Uh, we’ll encourage you to get a copy from us here at the ministry, focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 1-800 the letter A and the word FAMILY. And Jolene, what I appreciate about this book is it’s not just your story. It’s, uh, what, 40 different families, that contributed.

Jolene: Yes.

John: What are some of the kind of the headlines in terms of what some of the contributions were in terms of how we apply the love languages to our families?

Jolene: Well, I think the first one I went in seeking an answer for was how do you identify the love language of a child who maybe can’t speak or their development is delayed or for whatever reason it’s going to be difficult to figure that out? And one of the parents contributed three questions that I like to call the golden questions. As you interact with your child, ask yourself, what calms my child?

John: Mmm.

Jolene: What motivates my child? And where does my child choose to spend his or her time? And when you’re doing different love language activities with them, you’ll notice the ones that are the answers to those questions, and you’ve probably found their love language. The other thing the parents taught me was how to accommodate for a child’s needs. So, we have to remember that if the child is deaf, we’re gonna have to have a way to communicate, right? We need to know sign language or we need to have a pad of paper or the Notes app on your phone so you can talk to each other. Or other communication issues. You’ve got to make sure you’re kind of fluent with their communication board so you can talk to them. You also need to make sure that the accommodations you’re doing with a child are in line with their developmental age. So maybe their developmental age is six, but they’re a 35-year-old young woman.

John: Mmm.

Jolene: So you have to be able to meet their developmental need, but treat them with the respect and the attitude that you would treat any 35-year-old woman.

John: Mmm.

Jolene: So you kind of have to-

Jim: Yeah. That’s in- interesting and differentiating actually. I- I would think most parents have a- a struggle with that because you’re kind of locked in that younger child mentality, even though they present as older adult, they have a mind of an eight-year-old and y- you kind of get stuck there, I would think. Not that that’s right. I’m just saying it’s real.

Jolene: It is real. And I’ve seen many parents, in fact many of the parents who were interviewed for this book who had ideas of how to do that in just, uh, amazing creative ways.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: And the book is full of those ideas.

Jim: Jolene, one of the things that I’m aware of when you read the literature with families that, um, you know, have that situation where they have a special needs child, divorce rates can be really high because of the pressure and the stress-

Jolene: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … that the marriage is- is under. Uh, you know, I don’t applaud that obviously, but I don’t live in their shoes. I don’t know all this, all the difficulties they’re going through, so I get that. But I guess the- the question is for those couples who are in that place right now, maybe again they’re, you know, there’s just so much demand on- on mom that she has very little time for dad and husband, and maybe very little time for the other siblings. And so the gaps are all made up somehow, um, but the marriage struggles. What advice do you have for that couple to kind of reset their relationship even with the demands of a special needs child?

Jolene: I think first of all, they need to acknowledge that those demands are real and there’s maybe a little more than what they can handle in front of them. So, my number one thing would be, um, get some help. Ask people for help and welcome people into your home. And second, I think you need to make your relationship with your spouse the priority. That needs to come first. And the nice thing about the love languages is it’s really easy to figure out what each other’s love languages are, and there are really some simple things that you can do to speak them. So for my husband and I, physical touch is his number one love language. So, we make sure we hold hands when we pray at night.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: That doesn’t take any more time than maybe you’re doing already.

Jim: Mmm.

Jolene: For somebody who likes, uh, receiving gifts or quality time, just get out the good dishes and put dessert on the good dishes that night.

Jim: (laughs).

Jolene: How hard is that? You don’t need to make it more stuff to do. You need to think about how can you implement it in what you’re already doing. And then the third thing is that you have to practice hesed, which is this intentional, unconditional love that Dr. Chapman talks about in all the books.

Jim: That’s a Jewish term, correct?

Jolene: It is. And it means loyalty and love mixed together. So it’s that idea of unconditional love, which my husband made clear to me very early in our marriage when we were in a new place and we didn’t have our son yet, but I was just really, um, struggling with being away from home and all of that, and my husband looked at me and he said, “Jolene, no matter what happens, no matter what you do wrong or what I do wrong, we are in this together.”

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Jolene: And I thought, boy, I’m gonna have to figure out how to make this work then because-

Jim: (laughs).

Jolene: … you know, that’s the end game.

Jim: Yeah.

Jolene: We’re in this together. And we have to think that as caregiving couples too. We’re in this together. And thankfully, I had a very good example in my mother of doing that. She cared for dad for 38 years before he died.

Jim: Uh, Jolene, as we close today, I’d love for you to offer some words of encouragement to that mom or dad who’s listening right now. And they may, uh, simply be overwhelmed with their child’s special needs. It’s okay to feel that way. Uh, don’t feel guilty about that. Uh, we get it, we understand it. Uh, Jean and I have relatives that are in that spot. It will not end, uh, in a couple of the cases. It’s just the situation they’re in. And we pray often that those marriages will remain tight, even though they, um, you know, struggle from time-to-time. But what would be that word that you would give them in that, uh, context where they don’t have the energy to add one more thing to their plate and here we are telling them to start using the love languages, you know? (laughs) So we are saying the benefit here is gonna outweigh the cost of time.

Jolene: I would tell them, don’t look too far into the future. Think about today. Because if you think about what am I gonna do with my child who has special needs when they’re 40 years old and yada yada yada-

Jim: There we go.

Jolene: … that’s too overwhelming. So think about today and just say to yourself, “Can I make it through today? Can I get strength from God to make it through today?” And the answer to that is probably going to be yes.

Jim: Mmm.

Jolene: And then do it that day, and maybe all you can do that day with the love languages is think, how could I use them tomorrow? And that’s enough.

Jim: Yeah. That’s so good, Jolene. And man, again, thank you, where we started, for all your years of being a schoolteacher. And this is what keeps hope alive in schools for us as Christian parents, that there are teachers like you who look after our kids so well. And, uh, thank you for the book. Sharing Love Abundantly in Special Needs Families, and, uh, you know, if you can’t afford to, um, send a gift to Focus, we’ll get it into your hands. Just call us. John will give those details. If you can help us to cover the cost of that, to help a family with special needs, we appreciate your financial support to do ministry. And if you can, uh, sign up, uh, to do that every month, that’s great, or a one-time gift, uh, we’ll send you a copy of the book as our way of saying thank you for being part of the ministry.

John: Donate as you can and know that broadcasts like this and resources like Jolene’s book and our counseling team, our caring Christian counselors, uh, are made available to you because of donors. Uh, our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMLY, 800-232-6459, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast to learn more. Well, plan to be with us next time as we hear from Michelle Singletary. She has some great thoughts about how to be wise with your money.

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Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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