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Conquering Debt (Part 2 of 2)

Conquering Debt (Part 2 of 2)

Brian and Cherie Lowe discuss their lackadaisical attitude toward finances during their first nine years of marriage and the moment they realized with horror that they were in over $127,000 in debt. They share the sacrifices they made, the determination they developed, and the challenges they faced when paying off their debt. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: January 6, 2016

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John Fuller: This is Focus on the Family, and our guests today are Brian and Cherie Lowe. Here’s Cherie reflecting back on how they dug themselves out of a tremendous amount of debt.

Cherie Lowe: And then it dawned on me that we had paid off $127,482.30, 19 cents at a time. Because we had learned to say no to 19 cents. And if we could say no to 19 cents, we could say no to $1.90. We could say no to $190. We could say no to $1900. Because learning to say no is really the most effective way to pay off debt.

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John: Hmm. Well today, we wanna come alongside and give you hope to do just that, to say no. Uh, with hard work and determination, you can pay off even huge amounts of debt. You host is Focus on the Family President and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, what I love about Brian and Cherie is their honesty and relatability. They shared last time that they had accrued over $127,000 in debt. Credit cards, student loans, medical bills, things like that. And not the fun stuff like vacations. And their journey to pay off that debt began with Brian, and through that gentle encouragement and some vision casting, Brian eventually, after two years of wresting internally about this, was able to get Cherie on board. And, you know what? Here at Focus on the Family, if you’re a couple that’s struggling in this area of finances, we wanna help you. Don’t be embarrassed to call us and get to the resources or the tools to help you do this better. Don’t wait two years to begin to address it. Let’s work together to get you in a better place today.

John: Hm. And our number here is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. We’ve got Cherie’s book called Slaying the Debt Dragon: How One Family Conquered Their Money Monster and Found an Inspired Happily Ever After. We also have this conversation on CD. We began last time, uh, with a pretty crucial framework for you to understand where we’re at in today’s discussion. Uh, you can get the full download instantly or, uh, listen on our free app. We’ll have details at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.  Now the Lowes have two girls and Cherie is a writer and, uh, has a very popular blog called Queen of Free. And this conversation was recorded a number of years ago when their girls were younger. It was really popular. And we’re bringing it back today to help you as a family. Here’s how Jim started day two of the conversation.

Jim: Brian and Cherie, last time we left off, uh, and we were talking about how the two of you began to tackle your debt. And I wanna hear more about that today. But I’m curious how did this affect your children? Um, how old are your daughters right now?

Brian Lowe: Right now they’re 13 and seven.

Jim: So you’ve done this over the last how many years?

Brian: Well between, uh, April 2 of 2008 until just before that in 2012 was the journey of paying off the $127,000. So they were much younger then. And it’s real easy to take a look at that number and think that that just happened overnight. But we had a child go from birth, because she was born right before that began, un- into a, a child that was reading, literate. Uh, so four years is a rather long time of day-to-day stuff. But they were definitely a part of the journey. And I, I’m confident that you need to make your kids part of the journey in an age-appropriate way.

Jim: How did you do that?

Brian: Uh, one of the ways that we did it was explaining what we were doing, especially our, our oldest was rather articulate and, and so we would explain what we were doing. We would set small short-term goals. You know, here’s what’s happening. Uh, it’s sort of the monster under the bed theory. If you don’t ex- explain to the kids what is happening with the money, they’re going to make something up. Uh, they’re going to make something up and it’s going to be fearful and frightful. You may think you’re having conversations in private, but your kids know. Uh, they know if you’re stressed out over money. They know if you’re fighting about money. They know if money is tight. Uh, but it will be the worst-case scenario in a child’s mind. So explaining it in a very practical, pragmatic way to your kid, and an age-appropriate way, is the best way to go.

Jim: Let me ask you this, uh, you know, for that honesty factor. I mean, some children, uh, they’re gonna see something or their friends will have something and there can be, you know, tremendous disappointment that they know- maybe even, uh, guilt on their part that they can’t ask you about it ’cause they know you can’t afford it. Did you ever have that kind of experience? Or maybe through your blog, Cherie, did you ever have parents express that? That, you know, many of us as parents, we overindulge our kids-

Cherie: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … right? And that’s the bottom line.

Cherie: Oh yeah.

Jim: Because it brings joy to them to see them, uh, have or do the things that they like to do. And so we-

Cherie: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … we’re kind of s- we spoil them in that way.

Cherie: Definitely.

Jim: When we’ve gotta say no, um, some kids can be really disappointed. How do you handle that emotion as a parent when they’re- they’re so disappointed that they can’t do that thing or get that thing?

Cherie: So to begin with, I always encourage people that that desire and that longing to give good gifts to your children, that is a mark of the image of God on your heart. And He longs to give us good gifts as His children. And so that we would want to turn around and do that for our children is just a natural way that we have been divinely created.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Cherie: And I love that.

Jim: That is good.

Cherie: At the same time, it can turn into a weakness if we’re not careful. And I think that idea of sacrificing something for a long-term goal really can translate to kids. And I tell a story in particular in the book about our oldest daughter, Anna, who’s now 13. But she was seven at the time. And we were in a very large retail store with a red target, uh-

Jim: (laughs)

Cherie: … that bullseye store. And she had found a toy in particular on the shelf that she wanted really bad. And she looked at it and she said, “Mom, you know, I really want this. But I know we’re working to pay off the credit card bill.” And we had allowed her to choose what we would do to celebrate that. And that was to go to a local, um, theme park, water park, indoor water park. And she said, “I want this toy, but I wanna go to the water park more.” And she put it back on the shelf. And I did, like, looked around. Like did anybody else see that.

Jim: Yeah (laughs).

Cherie: Like this is so-

Jim: That’s my girl.

Cherie: … exciting. And to help them along that journey of realizing to have something else, sometimes we have to say no to smaller things, I think is just a lesson all of us need to learn. I wish I would’ve learned it earlier in my adulthood even. But I think you can help captivate their heart.        We also try not to use the phrase we can’t afford that. Um, because it creates this sense of scarcity.

Jim: Right.

Cherie: So it may be more along the lines of we’re choosing not to do that right now instead of we can’t afford that, which can become kind of a real negative thing. We’re choosing to do this instead.

Jim: Right. I like that. That we’re choosing this over that.

Cherie: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Uh, talk about, and you’ve mentioned it a couple times here, the Queen of Free, your blog. I love that title. Um, what is that about and what are some of the, uh, I guess inquiries or dialogue that’s taking place on Queen of Free?

Cherie: Yeah. So queenoffree.net I set up back in 2008 just as we began our journey, mainly because I love free things.

Jim: (laughs)

Cherie: And sounds a little shallow. But ever since I was a little girl, I had this book where you could write away and send a self-addressed stamped envelope, which no one does anymore. But they would send you free items in the mail. And I began to find free things online. I’m very good at it. And I would email friends and family and tell them, hey, you can get free tea at Chick Fil-A today. Or there’s this great coupon at the mall that gets you something else for free. And inevitably I left someone off the email list. And they would say, oh, I wish I would’ve known. And I began the website kind of as a clearing house for people to go there. And over the years, it’s developed into a community where I’m able to share not just free items but frugal living tips, wisdom when it comes to money, parenting and marriage ideas as it comes to paying off debt and what it looks like, um, to live intentionally with your finances. So it’s been fun. And I- because of that, I’ve gotten to speak to a lot of people, hear their stories, and be just as encouraged by their process of paying off debt as they were by ours.

Jim: Well, and it sounds like, uh, you know, an important factor of getting out of debt and living well on a budget is, uh, support groups. And that leads to the other point. Uh, with friendships, that could be a bit of a strain because your friends may wanna do things and you’re thinking, okay, that wouldn’t be the way I’d spend $100.

Cherie: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And so we’re not gonna be able to go with you this weekend. What did you do in that friendship space in order to make sure that your friends were supportive of what you were doing?

Brian: Well again, like Cherie talked about earlier, that bringing the darkness into the light and the darkness loses its power. We had told our friends what it was that we were doing. And I’m sure they did awesome expensive things. But we weren’t asked to be a part of that. They knew what we were doing, and they loved us enough not to try to bring us into the mix on that.  I- what I would encourage people to do if they’re in that situation is to get better friends. Uh, and-

Jim: Well, I was gonna say-

Cherie: (laughs)

Jim: … did it- did it change your relationship with them at all?

Brian: It, it- I think it, it built community. We are made for community. You know? Uh, God is community. And our relationship with God is part of that community as well, and our outreach to others, uh, is important. And we have a great community group that we’ve led for about eight years now. And they’re fantastic. And the- one of the most amazing things that happened, and I’m, I’m not a weeper. Uh, but when we paid off all of our debt, uh, at our small group meeting that evening, there was a cake and some sparkling cider. And the cake just had the word freedom written across it. And, and our, our group knew how important it was to us. It inspired some of them to go through a similar journey as well. And they are now free from the chains of debt also. Uh, so you go through that together and you bring other people along with you. It’s important to have a support network and community. It’s also important to have people that are going through the same journey as well-

Jim: So you can talk together-

Brian: So you can talk about some of the similar struggles-

Jim: Problem solve-

Brian: Uh, problem solve-

Cherie: Mm-hmm.

Brian: … together.

Jim: Let me ask you this. The, the end of this journey now, the end of the road, uh, put you in a better place. Talk about, uh, the ability to give in the name of the Lord. The ability, that freedom that you talk about. What’s the environment like today compared to 2008 when you saw this mound of debt? Um, what does that freedom look like?

Cherie: So much fun (laughs).

Brian: It’s a lot of fun.

Cherie: It’s so much fun. We sat down. We’ve been mentoring a couple for the last three years who just got married this summer. And we put a rather large amount of cash into an unmarked box and handed it to them at dinner. And I thought that they were going to just lose it there in the restaurant. And we just kinda were like, yay, this is so much fun. And that’s- couldn’t have been possible if we hadn’t paid off this debt. And not just giving to the local church and to ministries that we call, you know, feel strongly called toward supporting, but those little things like buying somebody’s groceries at the grocery store-

Jim: Ah-

Cherie: Or, you know, doubling the amount on the bill at the restaurant to, you know, encourage a young person who is waiting on us. Those things have been, for me, some of the biggest blessings and the most fun things that we’ve done since paying off debt.

Jim: I, I think that’s beautiful and that really does put you in a more generous mood, right, then when you have the ability to do it. Have your daughters picked up on that? I, I’m sure they’re watching this and seeing this now that they’re teenagers and they’re going wow.

Brian: Th- they have and it- and it’s just a part of their life. You know, your kids are going to learn about money from you whether you’re good with it or bad with it, whether you’re generous or not generous. They learn by watching. Uh, more is caught than taught. And it’s not a surprise to them if we pick up somebody’s bill at a restaurant because they’re in fatigues or because it’s a single mom. Uh, or because we just want to. This isn’t a big deal for them. And occasionally our eldest will kinda look at me. And we don’t even communicate with words-

Jim: Right.

Brian: And she just knows, just go ahead and take care of that. We have a- an entire budget, um, that is just- it’s not an envelope. It’s an online savings account. And we have nicknamed it. And- because we can do that with our bank. Nicknamed it generous. Uh, and, uh, that’s awesome. And Cherie and I will communicate back and forth just to make sure that we know how much is in there. If we see a need or know that somebody is, uh, going on a mission trip or trying to do something different, that we can communicate with one another about how much we want to give and we have that ability to do that.

Jim: No, I think that’s wonderful. And that is really the upside of the discipline that you’ve done over these last many years. I mean, this is where it does become fun, huh?

Cherie: Mm-hmm. And we’ve done other fun things too. We’ve gone on vacation as a family. Some of those things that we gave up while we were paying off debt, we’ve been able to do for ourselves. But I think, again, it’s always more blessed to give than it is to receive.

Jim: That’s a good point. And I mean it really is a good point because you can get overwhelmed. And I was gonna ask about that. And Cherie, with your blog and the people you counsel, uh, the attrition factor here. You know? Uh, of course usually the first of the year people are starting and maybe by February/March, they’re done ’cause they just can’t get the discipline of it. Speak to that couple, maybe young couple, maybe an older couple-

Cherie: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … uh, and they’ve started with good intentions but two to three months into it, they’re not staying focused and they’re not achieving it. So rather than fight through that, they’re, they’re thinking about bailing out. What would you say to them?

Cherie: Well, author John Trent has this great idea of the two-degree difference. And that is that if we make small change over time, it adds up. And that’s much more sustainable than making a rapid change overnight. And we know this. If you try to change your habits toward exercise or nutrition or even disciplining your kids, if you make too hard of a change, then you’ll fall off the wagon. It will not go well. I always use the example of if you’re a diehard Diet Coke drinker and you say, you know, tomorrow never again, as long as I live, I’m never gonna drink it again. And then by the end of the week you’re probably going to be sitting in a, you know, mass of cans smashed on the floor-

Jim: (laughs)

Cherie: … in some sort of saccharin, you know, sort of driven experience. But it’s just not sustainable. You have to gradually move toward that change and pick one thing, one area, to focus on to begin with. So we didn’t do everything overnight. I didn’t get up the next morning and say, okay, now I’m gonna make my own laundry detergent. And now we’re gonna, you know, call the companies and change our billing. And we’re gonna do all these tomorrow. Instead, we took small steps of obedience in the right direction. And you’ll find that once you find some success, that motivates you toward making more sacrifices or just looking at your money differently.

Jim: And Brian I so appreciate the openness about not eating out and that was a commitment you made to the family. And for two and a half years you didn’t do it. Um, certainly for Jean and I, when we look at our budget, that’s- that’s an area where for us, we’re both always concerned about. ‘Cause we’re on the go so much. We’re traveling a lot together. And eating out just becomes a way of life. But when you look at it, I mean, I was thinking the other day a fast food stop for my boys and I was, like, $23. And it caught my attention. This was like for a breakfast sandwich for all three of us. And I was thinking this is ridiculous. But it adds up, doesn’t it?

Brian: It does add up. And for me it wasn’t about a morning muffin as much as it was a leadership issue. And leadership comes in a lot of different forms. And I think it’s real easy to try to, uh, use your words to lead as opposed to using what you do day to day to actually lead your family and lead it well. We had this big journey. And I had cast this vision long. So for me it was all hands-on deck, anything you can do to try to defeat this dragon. And if that meant cutting back at restaurants, then that was something that I was going to try to do.  It wasn’t actually the first time that I had tried that two-and-a-half-year stretch. I had; I had tried to go just 30 days. And I think I, I made it a New York minute. Uh, there was some-

Jim: (laughs)

Brian: There was some bagels at church. I’m not even a bagel fan. But they were there. And, and I just forgot. Uh, but then the-

Jim: (laughs)

Brian: … the next stretch… It took about 40 days or so. Uh, it- for kinda the desire and the habit of, of going to restaurant to go away. And 90 days when I just didn’t even care. Uh, and that was- that was a pretty easy fix over time. And I set these arbitrary rules, uh, for doing it. So there was nothing, even if it was free. So if, uh, the folks that I worked with were bringing in pizza, I wasn’t gonna have it. If it was water, I wasn’t gonna drink it. Because you have to set that line somewhere. You know, if it’s an illegal substance and you have a problem with an illegal substance, if it’s free, it’s still an illegal substance. It doesn’t change the nature of it. And I had a problem with eating out at restaurants. And so I treated it like an addiction. And that helped. And because we were spending that much money less, anything, or anywhere where we saved, it went toward the goal of paying off debt.

Jim: So to, to make that step doable, ’cause some people are going oh my goodness. That’s- ugh, that’s ridiculous. But to make that step doable, you had suggest- I’m hearing you suggest aim for 30 to 40 days and just give that a run, even if you stumble a bit. Restart the clock, get to 30, 40 days and you’ll find out how irrelevant it becomes.

Brian: Well w- with any change its day to day. You know, start with today. And then tomorrow is yet another day. Uh, and each day after that you just keep going. And then eventually it just becomes a crazy streak. Uh, and then you don’t wanna break the streak and it keeps going. I found it actually harder to give that up than I thought it was going to be, to actually eat at a restaurant again. The funny thing was, you know, re- restaurants are great. And they’re, they’re convenient. I’m not knocking restaurants. But, uh, that first meal back was amazing. The second meal was really good. The third meal was great. But after that, everything just tasted the same.

Jim: Uh-

Brian: Um, so I think we, we get induced by the convenience of it. And really, if you think about the time that you spend going somewhere, you could do most of that at home.

Jim: Eh- again, great advice. Uh, talk about the difference or the attributes, I guess, the character, the Godly character of contentment and gratitude ’cause that’s a big part of the book as well-

Cherie: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Um, in this environment where you’re smothered with debt, it’s hard to have those attributes, isn’t it, to be grateful and to have gratitude toward the Lord for your environment, for the house you live in, for the car you drive, for whatever it might be.

Cherie: Right.

Jim: How do you- how do you develop a, a stronger heart of gratitude and contentment?

Cherie: So one of the things you need to do is control your influences a little bit. And I can remember struggling deeply when we were about two years into the journey and turning on my computer and signing on to social media and beginning to see how everybody else had an awesome life. And I was at home in a stained t-shirt and gym shorts that I’d had since college. And, you know, it was one of those situations where I thought everybody else is out for dinner. And everybody else is having an awesome vacation. And here we sit. And God, do you really care that we’re making these sacrifices?   And then I began to reflect on the really good things that had happened that week. That our daughters had played in the sprinkler. And that sprinkler Brian had made out of PVC pipe, was worth more to us than a trip to the water park. And that, you know, I love iced tea. That’s like one of my favorite things. And I can make that at home, and it doesn’t cost me hardly anything at all.

Jim: It probably tastes better too.

Cherie: I think so too.

Jim: (laughs)

Cherie: I totally think so. So, you know, I began to just count those blessings. And I will say that gratitude fights off those give me feelings, that temptation of greed. It is the opposite. And if you can fill your heart up with gratitude and you begin looking around your house and think, well, we have so much stuff that we make a trip to Goodwill to get rid of our stuff. You know? We have so much already. And that’s an essential part of the journey too. It’s not as glamorous. Everybody loves when you pay off the debt. Nobody thinks about those days in between necessarily. But we know that, you know, that ending will be a blessing because you started, and you did the difficult things.

Jim: You know, some of us are motivated by that finish line. And you’ve talked a little bit about what that finish line looked like. But give us the emotion of that day. And take us through what happened when you finally paid it off. I mean, I’d probably be burning things. I mean, like, you know, the payment due notice or something like that. What did you do to celebrate that day?

Cherie: (laughs)

Brian: Well, we knew it was coming. And- because we, we had it within about 30 days that we knew just based on what we had been doing, it was going to happen. Well, it turned out money came in early. Uh, and Cherie actually didn’t know. And, um, and so I had- I had money in my hand that was enough to pay off the debt, the last of the debt. I would write it on post-Its, um, periodically, how much that we owed. And scratch it off until I ran out of the post-It. I’ve still got the last post-It note in my office with the amount that we paid off that I keep. And so I went to the bank, made a deposit. Because both of us are so financially involved, we checked the bank account probably more regular than healthy people should. (laughs)

Jim: (laughs)

Brian: Uh, but, but we- so I knew that Cherie would know that there was a deposit that was 30 days ahead of time, unexpected, but I wanted to surprise her with this good gift. So, uh, basically I just left work. Uh, I, I left work. I went to the bank, made a deposit. Cherie had gone, uh, without things, uh, for some time. Uh, and I went, and I basically just bought her, uh, a Hanes five pack. Uh-

Jim: (laughs)

Brian: … and, you know, no- nothing weird or extravagant or anything like that. Uh, but I had known she had gone without. And, you know, we had made sacrifices. And it- I just wanted it to be kind of this moment. This, uh, a very odd Ebenezer Stone, uh, where we could say, you know what? It’s over. You know, we, we don’t have to live like that anymore. Uh, and it was amazing. You know, and I- and I- I had came home and I had handed her the deposit slip. And I don’t think she believed it at first. And when you see tears in your wife’s eyes-

Jim: Mm.

Brian: … you know, because of the power of the journey. I mean, that’s four years of scraping and pointing and wondering if it was going to happen. When we began all of this, we thought it was gonna take 15 years. Uh, you know, $127,000 is a lot of money.

Jim: Yeah.

Brian: Uh, especially when you still have your day-to-day bills that you’ve gotta pay. You still gotta pay for health insurance. You still gotta pay for, you know, your house and, and other living expenses, your utilities. Uh, and it was done. It was over. And we knew this new chapter was going to begin. And, and we, we celebrated right there in our kitchen.

Cherie: We did. And it was such a sense of relief. And I did collapse into tears in Brian’s arms. And then we frantically cleaned one corner of our kitchen up. And we wanted to share that moment with the greater community that had supported us. And so we YouTube’d ourselves paying the last of, um, debt and paying off that Sallie Mae bill. And the last student loan that we had. And it’s still out there on YouTube. And it’s had lots and lots of views of other people, just as a way to say thank you and to encourage other people and to just capture that moment. If you see the picture on the front of the book, we had a friend come over and take pictures that day. And I don’t think we could recapture those expressions on our faces. Those are the looks that you have when you spend four years paying $127,000 in debt off. And he just offhandedly said, “That stack of bills-” which are actually all of the bills that we had paid off, we would put them on the refrigerator after we paid them off and write the date on them, those are the actual bills that we paid off. And we threw them up in the air. And I am so thankful that he caught that moment on camera for us forever-

Jim: That’s a great picture. Right on the cover. Okay. I’m sitting here. I’m, uh, driving down the road. I’m thinking about this, my spouse, this is something I’ve been wanting to talk to her about for months. And we do have some amount of debt. I’m worried about it. We’re stretched so thin. What would you say to me?

Cherie: Start with love and remember why you walked down the aisle. And I always tell people, you are on the same team together. And there was a reason why you chose each other. And there was a reason why you stood in front of God and your friends, and your family and you said, “I will cherish you.” And that is the most important thing. Money is not the most important thing. Getting out of debt is not the most important thing at all. But if you begin there, I think your heart’s more prepared to communicate a message.                And then secondly, um, that casting that vision. That just really grabbed my heartstrings and said to me, you know what, this might not be possible but what if it is?

Jim: That’s well said. That is so well said. Look to the future. That vision is what I’m hearing from you. You had hope. Um, this is Brian and Cherie Lowe, the book Slaying the Debt Dragon. This has been a great discussion. Thanks for being with us.

Cherie: Aw, thank you so much.

Brian: Thanks for having us.

John: What a great reminder about the need for good communication in marriage, uh, to work hard and to seek God’s guidance as you pay off debt. And then with His help achieve a life of financial freedom. Uh, to that end, the Lowe’s book is a must read. It really, uh, provides dozens of debt slaying strategies to help you. You’ll find that book and a CD or instant download of this two-part conversation at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: John, here at Focus we hear from so many couples who are really struggling in this area of finances. It’s one of the top responses we receive. Uh, one’s a spender and one’s a saver. Or neither are savers and things get out of control. If you’re at a point where your relationship is fractured and you need to talk to someone, please know that we have caring Christian counselors right here on staff to talk with you. Uh, call to set up an appointment or they can refer you to someone in your own area for help. And then here at the close of the program, for those who are capable of helping us, let me invite you to support the ministry of Focus on the Family. Together we can help marriages and help save baby’s lives and so much more. We’re helping literally hundreds of thousands of couples to build stronger, healthier, more God-honoring families. But we need your help to continue in that mission. Uh, no donation is too small and today, with your donation of any amount, we’ll send a copy of Slaying the Debt Dragon as our way of saying thanks for joining our support team. And if you need the resource and you can’t afford it, we’re gonna trust others will take care of that. So just call and ask for the book and we’ll gladly send it to you.

John: Well, uh, contribute as you can or, uh, simply request that book when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Or again our website is focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

 

 

 

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.

Being a Champion to Your Grandkids

Being a Champion to Your Grandkids

Pastor Carey Casey explains how grandfathers can utilize their unique role to have a positive and lasting influence on their grandchildren in a discussion based on his book Championship Grandfathering: How to Build a Winning Legacy.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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