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Embracing God’s Truth in a Hostile Culture (Part 1 of 2)

Embracing God’s Truth in a Hostile Culture (Part 1 of 2)

Rod Dreher describes how you can teach your children to honor God, find fellowship and solidarity with other believers, and even discover value in suffering for the Gospel. He shares powerful stories of Christian dissidents under communism and encourages families to live counterculturally as radical disciples of Jesus Christ. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: February 17, 2022

Preview:

Rod Dreher: For Christians, hope is not the same thing as optimism. An optimist thinks things will always turn out okay, but that’s not really true. I mean, look at what has happened to the church over the, our 2000 years of history. We’re a church of martyrs and confessors.

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John Fuller: That’s Rod Dreher and he’s our guest today on Focus on the Family to share some really powerful stories of Christians who served God amid persecution. And I do hope you’ll stay with us as we discuss how believers can live faithfully in a hostile culture. I’m John Fuller and your host is Focus on the Family president Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: John, it’s so humbling to hear some of the hardships Christians endure, uh, not only right now, but over the centuries. You know, and I’ve had the privilege to travel for Focus when I did the international work. I think I went to about 70 countries. I was in the Soviet Union when Gorbachev was taken hostage.

John: Yeah, you were there that day.

Jim: We were there for four or five days.

John: Yeah.

Jim: We couldn’t get outta the country, but we went down, and we were with the defecting tank commanders and, you know, it was a really interesting time, as an American, to watch a country kind of evolve out of communism-

John: Mm.

Jim: … and into something probably also totalitarian. But it always catches my interest to talk about how does the church behave in this context. And there are some wonderful lessons to learn from history. And I’m excited to talk with our guest today because he has done some amazing interviews around the world, but primarily there in the East Bloc to identify, uh, communism, socialism, totalitarianism, what does it look like, what does it smell like, and what we need to be looking out for as the church in America.

John: Mm-hmm. Yeah. There are a lot of applications for us today, uh, coming out of the work that Rod, uh, Dreher did for his book, Live Not by Lies: A Manual for Christian Dissidents. And we’re so glad to have him here. He’s a journalist and, uh, has written a number of other books, but this one, Live Not by Lies, is, uh, gonna be the foundation for our conversation today. Just call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast to get your copy.

Jim: Rod, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Rod: It’s great to be here, Jim. Thanks for having me.

Jim: I- it’s really good to have you here because I love, uh, cultural observers. You know, Os Guinness does that, you’re doing that. Uh, as I mentioned, you interviewed dozens of believers who suffered for their faith under communism. Um, and these are mature Christians. Uh, i- in my experience, these are not the milquetoast Christians that the Apostle Paul was talking about. These are people that are committed. Uh, they have in some cases given their lives for the faith and for the expression of freedom. W- what did you take away f- from your conversations with them?

Rod: Uh, wow, that’s… First of all, humility. You know, I’m blessed, we are all blessed to have grown up in the United States with the blessing of religious liberty. And, uh, to go over there, though, and talk to Christians… And I went to Russia, I went to, uh, Poland, to Hungary, Czech Republic, Slovakia, to talk to Christians who had had to pay a real price, the loss of liberty, in some cases even torture, for the Gospel, it made me realize, first of all, how blessed we have been in America, but also it made me realize that we have so much to learn from them. And to be honest with you, the reason I got over there in the first place was because back in 2015, I think it was, I got a phone call from an American physician who was really frantic. He told me that his mother, who had spent four years in a Czech prison in the 1950s because she refused to stop going to church, she emigrated to America and has lived here most of her life, but she said, “Son, the things I see happening in America today remind me of what I escaped from.” I thought that was really alarmist, but I made a point, Jim, every time I would travel and I would meet people who had grown up in the Soviet Union or the Soviet Bloc and had come to America, uh, during the Cold War, I would just ask them, “Are the things you’re seeing today, does it remind you of what you left behind?” Every single one of them said yes. And if you talk to them long enough, they get angry that American Christians won’t take them seriously.

John: Mm.

Jim: Well, and I think it’s important for us to know what that looks like. What are they expressing that we should be concerned about? I mean, for some people, we’re so blinded, we don’t even see it right in front of us. They’ve had the experience of seeing a government take control of people’s liberties and squash them. And I think that’s the right question: what are they seeing?

Rod: They’re seeing cancel culture going everywhere. They’re seeing people having to be afraid for their jobs, for their livelihoods, and for their reputation-

Jim: Well, and a- afraid to speak their mind, right?

Rod: Exactly. They get-

Jim: That’s the point.

Rod: Yeah, exactly. That they get on the wrong side of the ideology. And what’s interesting about this, Jim, is it’s not just coming from the government. It may not, at this point, even primarily be coming from the government. It’s coming from the fact that the left has taken over all of the major institutions of American society. It started at the universities and the media and now it’s expanded to big business, to sports, uh, to law, to medicine, even the US military. We call it wokeness. This is a f- a softer form of the totalitarianism they left behind and these people, these emigres, these precious people who came to this country looking for freedom, they’re warning us, “If you don’t step out of your complacent, comfortable zone and speak out now and make a preparation for what’s coming, it’s gonna be too late.”

Jim: Uh, Rod, I, I have had some taste of this when I traveled, as I mentioned, being in the Soviet Union. I also went to Cuba when Fidel Castro was still in power. I went with Dave Dravecky, a former Major League Baseball pitcher and he did a clinic and we talked to people.

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Uh, been to China. In those contexts, uh, one of the things that is an early indicator of a problem is when we have to speak in code.

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know, we stop speaking our mind. We start saying, “Well, w- we’ve gotta say it differently because somebody may be offended by what we say.” And I think that’s an early indicator of a problem.

Rod: Absolutely. I was in Russia on the National Day of Remembrance for, uh, the Victims of Political Violence. I went out to the national monument, which is a field called Butovo field south of Moscow where the KGB, in a 14-month period in the 1930s, massacred 25,000 people on that field. Today it is the national monument to remember them. While I was there, I was looking at a, a poster to help me orient myself to the site. Uh, an older Russian man came up and asked me, said, “What are you doing here?” He asked through my translator. And the translator explained to him that I was working on this book about what I called soft totalitarianism. And, uh, the translator said, “People in America are losing their jobs now because they get on the wrong side of this ideology.” That old Russian who was there to pray for his family members who were murdered there, he said, “That’s always the first sign, when people have to fear for their jobs because of, they’re on the wrong side of the ruling ideology.”

Jim: Right. It forces you to pick livelihood versus your convictions. And, I mean, the founding of America was not built with that premise.

Rod: No.

Jim: It was built with the i- idea that you could express yourself freely, especially in the religious area, right?

Rod: Exactly. And you know one thing, too, Jim, that blinds us Americans to, to what’s actually happening, yeah, well first of all, it’s what Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn said, that people outside of Russia think that what happened there could never happen in our country, but in fact it could at any country on earth under the right circumstances. And, uh, the second aspect that blinds people is when we think of totalitarianism, we think of the gulags, we think of the secret police, we think of bread lines, all the stuff that’s from the Cold War. And we think of George Orwell’s 1984. Well, we don’t have that today, so how can this be totalitarianism? This is a new form of totalitarianism that’s taking power through softer means by marching through the institutions and not terrifying people and making them fear in order to conform, but rather telling them like, “Look, if you want to have a good life, a good middle class life to advance in, in corporate, the corporate world, et cetera, then you need to sign onto this ideology. And if not, you’ll be on the outside.” Well, so many of us Americans don’t understand what it means to suffer for the faith and so we find ways to rationalize our cooperation with Caesar in this way.

Jim: Yeah. It’s so true. Rod, one of the difficulties if you watch the news or just have a conversation at work, something like that, this concept, it’s the title of your book, Live Not by Lies, which is a line from Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn. Um, it’s hard for people, especially if I could just say us average people-

Rod: Sure.

Jim: … to comprehend what is true right now because, even in the expression of news, you’ve got left-leaning news, you got right-leaning news, and you can’t say, “This is a hand.”

Rod: Right.

Jim: I mean, it’s like we can’t agree that this is a hand. I’m holding my hand up for the audio listeners (laughs).

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: But I mean, that, i- it’s that absurd right now. And so to get to the point live not by lies, I guess the first thing you have to do is define what is true.

Rod: This is one of the core problems that we face today, and this is one of the things I learned from the, uh, Christians who suffered under communism. They said that you have got to make a stand in truth. You’ve go to know what you believe and stand there and defend it, because one of the things that totalitarians will do is try to confuse you and make you think that truth is totally relative. If you can’t stand firmly on truth, uncompromisingly on truth, then you’re not gonna make it through what they throw at you.

Jim: Mm.

Rod: And, uh, this is something that so many normal people think that we can just get past it if we just vote the right people in. If I can give you one quick example, uh, you probably know Ryan T. Anderson, the head of the Ethics and Public Policy Center in Washington. A very brave warrior for traditional, uh, values and for the traditional family. Ryan wrote a book a couple of years ago called When Harry Became Sally. It’s a response to the transgender moment. Ryan is a very faithful Catholic, but he’s also an incredibly, uh, respectful and careful scholar. This is a good book that challenges transgender ideology. Earlier in 2021, Amazon very quietly decided to stop selling the book.

Jim: Right.

Rod: Why? They said that we won’t sell books anymore that construe transgenderism as a mental disability or a mental illness. Well, you know what, that’s their right to do so. In our free country, a bookseller shouldn’t have to sell anything he doesn’t wanna sell. I would note, though, that Mein Kampf, Hitler’s book, you can still buy that through Amazon.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Rod: But be that as it may, booksellers have the right to do this. But here’s the thing. Amazon controls so much of the retail book market in the United States that if it decided it is no longer going to sell a certain kind of book, those books will not get published because no publisher can afford to do this. So we have here a case of a, a corporate actor using its liberties in the public square to remove from the public square discussion about an important issue like transgenderism. This is the way that the soft totalitarianism is taking place. They haven’t changed laws. The government hasn’t gotten involved here. The, when you have places like booksellers, publishers, media corporations, et cetera, deciding within their rights, their constitutional rights, to, to abandon liberalism, classical liberalism, this is what you get.

Jim: Mm, so true. And that’s why we prefer people (laughs) do, do exactly what you’re saying, get the research through Focus on the Family.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know, we’re not paying shareholders.

Rod: Right.

Jim: All of that goes back into ministry and, uh, you should get Rod’s book right here from Focus.

John: Yeah, it’s called Live Not by Lies: A Manual for Christian Dissidents. And you can get your copy when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY or stop by our website, focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Rod, let’s, uh, go back to that idea of live not by lies, the title of your book, the quote of Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn. You have a illustration in your book, I think by Havel’s, uh-

Rod: Havel’s Greengrocer.

Jim: … Greengrocer. Describe that and what does it communicate?

Rod: Well, Vaclav Havel was a dissident in the same era of Solzhenitsyn, and he later became the first president of a free Czechoslovakia. And he, uh, in a 1977 essay called The Power of the Powerless, he talked about how people who had no political power could nevertheless step out and effect change. And, uh, this is a principle that Solzhenitsyn, uh, started out with in his essay Live Not by Lies but Havel really explored it. And he invented a parable of a greengrocer. He said, “Imagine that you have someone who sells fruits and vegetables in a communist city.” Uh, all the businesses in town have to hang up the sign in the window, ‘Workers of the world unite,’ the Marxist slogan. Nobody believes it, but they hang that sign there just to avoid trouble. “Well, what happens,” says Havel, “if the greengrocer one day says, ‘You know what? I’m not gonna live by this lie anymore,’ and he takes the sign down?” Well, the secret police will come take him away. They will seize his business. He will be forced to be a janitor or something. His family won’t be able to travel. His kids won’t be able to get into good colleges, et cetera. He will pay a price. “But what has he gained?” says Havel. He has shown that if you are willing to suffer for your convictions, then you don’t have to live by lies, that conforming to the system is not inevitable for those who are prepared to suffer. And when other people see that he has been willing to live by his convictions and suffer for them, they’ll be drawn to that and eventually this will overturn the government.

Jim: Rod, our goal here is not to, I think, spin people into a negativity.

Rod: Sure.

Jim: And what I wanna do with at least some of the time we have left is talk about what God would expect of us, uh, what we as Christians should do to preserve these liberties and to fight for the things that are right.

Rod: Right.

Jim: H- how do you balance all that?

Rod: Well, I, I wanna assure your listeners and your viewers that this is a hopeful book. It’s a scary book because the things that the people who endured communism, the Christians who endured communism, the things they’re talking about are pretty scary. We’ve not seen that in this country before and they are convinced, and I am too, that it is coming and one way or the other. But what they say is, “Do not lose hope.” That for Christians, hope is not the same thing as optimism. An optimist thinks things will always turn out okay. Well, that’s not really true. I mean (laughs), look at, look at what has happened to the church over the, our 2000 years of history. We’re a church of martyrs and confessors. But a Chri- for a Christian, hope is that if you suffer faithfully for Jesus Christ and you’re willing to take whatever the world throws out at you, then you will triumph. The Lord will triumph through your sacrifice. And, uh, these people I talk to over there, not one of them, Jim, expected to live to see the end of communism. They resisted it because they’re believers and because it was the right thing to do. And yet, the Lord surprised them. I think we need to be thinking that way, but we can’t think past the fact that we Christians in America are going to be called to suffer. And this is the key that the dissidents in Eastern Europe told me that got them through this. I talked to this one Baptist pastor in Russia. I remember Yuri Sipko is his name. We’re standing on the street corner in Moscow in early November. The snow is starting to fall. And he looked at me in the eye and said, “Go back to America and tell the church, ‘If you’re not prepared to suffer for our Lord Jesus Christ, you’re not gonna make it through what’s coming.’” That is the key message of this book. Now, people don’t wanna hear that we’re gonna have to suffer, but this has been the story of the Christian church since the very beginning. It is the story of our brothers and sisters in Christ in Muslim countries today, in China, and other nations. Why should we think that the cup is gonna pass us by? But if we suffer faithfully, the Lord will bless us immoderately. I’m convinced of that.

Jim: I agree, and I think we cannot lose who we are in Christ to fight that battle. We have to maintain that identity in Christ-

John: Mm.

Jim: … through the battle. In fact, from that, I think there was a three-part admonishment for the church to pursue, which was see, judge, and act.

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Describe those three.

Rod: This was his simple method of preparing the church, Father Kolakovic’s. This man was a, a Catholic priest doing work against the Nazis in his native Zagreb in 1943. He got a note that the Gestapo was coming for him, so he escaped to his mother’s home country, Slovakia, and began teaching in the Catholic university there. He told his students, “The good news is the Germans are gonna lose this war. The bad news is the Soviets are going to be ruling this country when it’s over and the first thing they’re gonna do is persecute the church. We have to get ready.” So he began building these small prayer groups, mostly of young people, to come together to pray and to ask, uh, God to show them what to do and then to decide how they can build a network so the church could survive persecution. His own bishops in that country chastised him. They said, “This is hogwash, Father. It’s never gonna happen here.” But that priest had studied communism because he wanted to be a missionary in the Soviet Union. He knew exactly what was gonna happen and he kept working. Sure enough, in 1948 when the Iron Curtain fell over that country, the first thing they did was go after the churches. The fact that there was an underground church in Slovakia for the 40 years of communism is due to the fact that Father Kolakovic and his followers did not listen to the bishops who said, “Oh, it’s all gonna be fine,” but they read the signs of the times and they acted. He said that when groups would come together for prayer and study, he would call on them to see, which is to say look around you at the world around you and figure out, you know, what are the challenges facing the church?

Jim: What is true?

Rod: What is true? What is true? What is false? To judge, which is to say to talk among yourselves about how, uh, we can understand what’s happening in light of scripture, in light of what our faith teaches us. And then to act is to decide on a plan of action. Don’t just make this a discussion group but come outta there with a plan to go and do something, something practical that will strengthen the church and make it resilient through what’s to come. This is a simple plan that any Christian group can follow, any prayer group can follow, any Sunday school can follow, but you need to come together and not be afraid to say what you really are seeing, because it’s important. And the left doesn’t want us to talk about this. They want us to be lulled into complacency. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people on our side and the church who want us to be lulled into complacency too. But these Christians in the Soviet Bloc, former Soviet Bloc, they warn us that complacency is our deadly enemy.

John: Mm-hmm. Rod, in that vein, against what you just shared, um, I’m thinking about maybe a small group that meets and does what you said. They’re, they’re sitting together on a regular basis, seeing, judging, acting. What does that look like practically in today’s world?

Rod: Well, you know, I am an Eastern Orthodox Christian, but one of the things I learned from talking to these people is that in prison and in the gulag, denominational differences fell aside. All of those brothers and sisters in Christ helped each other and prayed for each other. Um, and I think that that’s one thing that we have to do now, without giving up our denominational distinctives, but we need to reach out across denominational lines and find brothers and sisters in Christ who see the crisis-

John: Yeah.

Rod: … and who are willing to come together. We need to do things like, um, establishing churches’ funds to support families who, when the breadwinner loses their job because they have taken a stand for Christ in a corporation that fires them for it. They need to be encouraged in a practical, material way that if they take this stand, their church family has their back materially.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Rod: Little things like that are things we need. We also need to form these networks of communication. I, when I was in Europe earlier this year, I gave a talk about that to a, an international group of Christians who see what’s coming and they want to get down these networks of communication in place now before the persecution starts.

Jim: Mm. Rod, I, I think when you hear this, there’s gonna be kinda two responses. Some people may be kind of excited to live in a time when God is on the move-

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … and we have to be bold for the Lord. And others, like you said, that, um, our friends in the East Bloc observed, they shrink back. They don’t want the confrontation or the conflict. H- why do you think after talking to all these people, the, the dissidents, um, what got them through that persecution? What was the end result?

Rod: Well, they would all say that their faith got them through it. And that’s true, but I think that the core part of their faith that got them through it was that they all had a theology of suffering. They knew on faith that their suffering meant something, that it wasn’t just meaningless, that they offered their sacrifices to the Lord, and they knew, because they knew their church history, that they may be called to be martyrs, you know, for Christ, but that the Lord brings good out of that. They were willing to suffer death in this world before, um, apostatizing. So I, I like to tell people when I talk about this book and about my previous book, The Benedict Option, I say that we need to prepare ourselves as Christians to live like Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego did in, uh, in captivity in Babylon. They served the king living in that world, but they also knew who they were to the point that when they were asked to bow down before the false idol, they were prepared to die b- rather than betray the Lord that way. That’s the same mentality that got these Christians of the Communist Bloc through all the torture and persecution. Their suffering had meaning. They, they were joining Jesus on the cross.

Jim: Rod, one of, one of the difficult concepts here is the idea that this life is temporary, that this isn’t the life. Uh, we’re passport holders of heaven as Christians, not of the United States or of this world. How do, how do you encourage people to think of the bigger picture here, that we’re all gonna die at some point-

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … in this life, but for Christians, it’s the step into eternal life with the Father?

Rod: That’s right.

Jim: But why, why do we as Christians even struggle understanding the long-term nature (laughs) of eternity versus temporary?

Rod: Yeah, I wonder, Jim, if it’s that we don’t know enough about the experiences of the early church and the Age of Martyrdom and we don’t know enough about the experiences of Christians today in the 21st century, like the Chinese people you were mentioning, like the Christians of the Near East who’ve been so viciously persecuted. Uh, we should be asking ourselves, why is it that a couple years ago on that beach in Libya when ISIS beheaded 24 Egyptian Christians, any one of those Christians could have saved his life by renouncing Christianity and accepting Islam, but all of them knew that to do that would be to apostatize and to go to hell. They knew that it was an honor to suffer even death for the Lord. And they now, back in their home culture in Egypt, the churches recognize them as martyrs, as people to be emulated. I think in, in America, we tend to be so present-focused that we’re, we don’t even pay attention to the experience of the church in centuries past or in other countries now, and so suffering doesn’t make sense to us. It does make sense to these people that because they know that this is ordinary Christianity-

Jim: Yeah.

Rod: … in history. I’ll say one more thing. The pastor Richard Wurmbrand, who was a Lutheran who suffered in the Romanian gulag, um, he wrote a book called Tortured for Christ that many of your listeners might know. He said that everybody when they become a Christian, they think they would be able to withstand anything for Christ. But you only know who’s the real disciple when it comes time to suffer. Uh, Jesus calls disciples, but the difference between the admirer and the disciple comes when the secret police knock on your door to take you away. We have got to prepare ourselves now, we the American church, to be disciples, ’cause we’re not gonna know if we’re really disciples or we’re mere admirers until we have to suffer for our, our confession of faith.

Jim: Rod, um, as we close here, I just wanna say to the support group of Focus on the Family, one of the proudest things I think we ever did here at Focus, quietly… I mean, I know I’m gonna share this on the radio now, but when those martyrs were beheaded on that beach, um, the Lord put on my heart the reason they were there was to make money to help their families back home, finish their house, put a roof on their house, whatever it may have been. And we have an office in Cairo. And Sami Yacoub is the man who runs that effort there for us. And I called him, and I said, “What do you think it would cost to help them?” And I made about six phone calls to the donor community, and we were able to raise enough money to finish the homes for those people that were martyred. And I’m telling you, man, that’s just one of the best things I think Focus has ever done. And, uh-

Rod: I’m getting chills hearing that. God bless you.

Jim: It’s the way we need to do it.

Rod: That’s the kind of solidarity that we need.

Jim: Yeah.

Rod: It’s a solidarity of the gulag, a solidarity in suffering. Our brothers and sisters in Christ, as you mentioned, in these other lands, they understand that we in America are facing immense spiritual danger because we’re so soft.

Jim: Yeah. Yeah. So good. Rod, thank you, uh, for this. Uh, we want to continue, so let’s come back-

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … next time, keep the conversation going. You got me into a mess now, emotionally, but, uh, I just so appreciate what your clarion call is about and your wonderful book, even though it’s tough, uh, Live Not by Lies. I- it’s like you are hitting the very cultural pulse of what we need to know.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And I’m grateful that you’ve written it. Thank you.

Rod: Thank you, brothers. Thank you for having me on.

John: And let me remind you, the listener, that we exist to be a resource to you. Uh, Focus on the Family’s news website, the Daily Citizen, covers current events from a Christian worldview. And you can find out more and sign up to receive the daily headlines in your inbox by visiting focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And please get this great book by Rod and teach your kids to walk in God’s truth as we discussed today. Now, if you can commit to a monthly pledge or a one-time gift to support the ministry here, we’ll send a copy of Live Not by Lies to you. It’s our way of saying thank you for partnering with us and joining our support team as we equip the next generation to be faithful followers of Christ. Donate and get your copy of Rod’s book when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459, or visit focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once again continue the conversation and help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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