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Embracing God’s Truth in a Hostile Culture (Part 2 of 2)

Embracing God’s Truth in a Hostile Culture (Part 2 of 2)

Rod Dreher describes how you can teach your children to honor God, find fellowship and solidarity with other believers, and even discover value in suffering for the Gospel. He shares powerful stories of Christian dissidents under communism and encourages families to live counterculturally as radical disciples of Jesus Christ. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: February 18, 2022

John Fuller: Today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, we’re continuing a really important conversation about what it looks like to stand for God’s truth in our culture. Here’s Rod Dreher.

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Rod Dreher: I was traveling with my interpreter, a young Christian woman, married with a little child at home, was pregnant at the time and we were headed to do an interview and she said, “Rod, you know, I really struggle as a Christian mom. I try to talk to my friends, even my Christian friends about the struggles I have as a wife and mom, and they just don’t understand it. If I say to that my husband and I are arguing, they say oh, well get a divorce. Put your son back in daycare, you’ve gotta be happy. Live for yourself.” She said, “I try to tell them, I am happy. I’m happy being a mom. I’m happy being a wife, but it’s not always easy.” She said, “They don’t understand that, uh, life involves, a good life involves struggle.”

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Jim Daly: Uh, John, our conversation yesterday was so intriguing. And I know some people may go, wow, you know, I’m in the middle of taking care of my kids and holding down a job and all those normal things that we have to do, but I’m telling you, if you’re reading the newspaper or you’re (laughs) reading online content about the culture and where we’re at-

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … then hearing from various sources, you know the country feels different. Something is askew.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Uh, it’s hard to put a, a handle on it, but something’s different. Uh, traditional values, they’re, uh, changing. I mean, the attitude of the people about embracing those values and the institutions like we talked last time, the media, universities, even big business now, it has really embraced the woke culture. And we discussed that last time. We’re gonna pick up the conversation today with our guest and continue to hopefully live by truth not by lies.

John: Ah.

Jim: Which is the title of the book.

John: That’s a great reference to the book that Rod Dreher wrote. Uh, he’s written a number of books and the one that will form the basis for our conversation today is a New York Times best seller, Live Not by Lies. We can send a copy of that to you. Make a donation if you can when you stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Rod, welcome back to Focus.

Rod: It’s great to be back.

Jim: So good to have you here. And I, I feel like I’m a bit of a culture nerd-

Rod: (laughs).

Jim: … because I do, I’m into this and I, I get excited about it because I think it’s a very exciting time to live.

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Even though things look a little gloomy when it comes to religious freedom, religious liberty, expression of faith, people that may not like what we’re thinking or expressing. And that’s kinda the baseline. Y-you mentioned soft totalitarianism, uh, explain, a-again what that is referring to and how we’re experiencing it here in the US.

Rod: Sure. Well, when people think of totalitarianism, we think of the Soviet Union, we think of, uh, gulags and prisons and secret police. We think of George Orwell’s 1984.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Rod: Well, we don’t have that today so people wonder why can you call this totalitarianism? Well, I’ll tell you why. Totalitarianism is an ideology that emerged in the early 20th century, and it takes authoritarianism and, uh, a system in which only one leader or one party has all the political power, and it expands it to cover all of society. In other words, all of society becomes political. You can have this kind of system even within a liberal democracy when one ideology gains control of all of the, the heights of culture. We’re seeing that happen now. So, what we’re seeing is people being driven to affirm this single ideology which we call “wokeness” but nobody’s being threatened by being sent to prison for it, at least not yet so, but it is totalitarianism. And I can give you, uh, a comic example but (laughs) it’s true. Uh, this past summer I was in, in Hungary on a fellowship and I was talking to the minister for family affairs over there. She told me that they were about to introduce into Parliament two days hence a bill to prohibit LGBT, uh, propaganda for children and minors. And I said, “Oh, have you heard about the Blues Clues Pride Parade?” She’s like, “What?” I explained to them Blue’s Clues is a popular American kids cartoon for Pre-K kids, and they had just this summer during LGBT Pride Month, uh, put out a pride march about all the different kinds of rainbow families, transgender families, polyamorous families, et cetera, to colonize the minds of children. Well, all the Hungarians, they couldn’t believe what they were hearing. And I said, “Yeah, but this is normal in American now because the wokesters are not content just to conquer politics. They want every aspect of life to be political.” Um, and we also see this, too, in the way that the critical race theory and these woke ideologies are classifying people according to race, to gender, to sexuality, and so forth. This is straight out of the communist playbook. In 1918, the head of the secret police in the new communist state in Russia told his agents in the Ukraine to go out there and don’t look to see if anybody actually committed crimes against the, uh, Soviet Union. Just check and see what their social class is. That will tell you if they are an enemy of the regime who needs to be killed or sent to prison. In a similar way, this kind of totalitarianism is coming into being here in America through our institutions. Again, there’s not coercion yet, but it’s still happening.

Jim: Yeah, let, let me ask you, though, uh, of course, in November there was an election in Virginia that got a lot of press coverage, obviously. But one of the things that, uh, we found out through the media reports is that the current administration encouraged the Department of Justice to apply the Patriot Act to work against these parents to surveil these parents to, um, you know, see what they were thinking and what they were doing, what they were talking about, I guess. But, uh, I mean, that’s beginning to tip beyond soft totalitarianism. Just as an example-

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … of how government can turn on its own people and begin to put a chilling effect on freedom of expression.

Rod: Exactly. I mean, the people who came to this country from the communist countries say that totalitarianism may be soft now, but it’s not gonna stay soft forever and what you bring up is a great example of how the government is starting to turn in a harder way. I just emphasize soft totalitarianism to wake people up who are looking for Orwellian signs and are not seeing too many of them. I wanna let them know that wait a minute, this is more like Aldous Huxley’s Brave New World style totalitarianism. And I’ll give you an example. When I was in Budapest reporting on this book, I was traveling with my interpreter, a young Christian woman. Married with a little child at home, was pregnant at the time. And we were headed to do an interview and she said, “Rod, you know, I really struggle as a Christian mom. I try to talk to my friends, even my Christian friends about the struggles I have as a wife and mom, and they just don’t understand it. If I say that my husband and I are arguing, they say, oh, well get a divorce. Put your son back in daycare. You’ve gotta be happy. Live for yourself.” She said, “I try to tell them, I am happy. I’m happy being a mom. I’m happy being a wife. But it’s not always easy.” She said, “They don’t understand that, uh, life involves, a good life involves struggle.” I looked at her and said, “Anna, it sounds like you’re fighting for the right to be unhappy.” She looked at me and said, “That’s exactly it. Where did you get it?” I went to chapter 17 on my smartphone of Brave New World, of Aldous Huxley’s book and, uh, in that case, the dissident in this fictional dystopia, uh, confronts the world controller for Europe and he’s not threatening to torture the guy. He’s like, why wouldn’t you wanna join our society. You’re kept happy all the time. You’re kept comfortable with drugs and entertainment. It’s great. Why don’t you wanna be part of it? And the dissident says, “Because it’s not human.” He says, “I want suffering. I want beauty. I want love. I want God. I want sin.” In other words, he wants to be human. Well, the controller of this world says, you’re welcome to it. This, Jim, is a totalitarianism we’re facing now. The totalitarianism that wins people to it by promising them comfort.

Jim: Oh, yeah.

Rod: Comfort and security over everything. And if we have raised our children to believe that anything that makes them anxious is wrong and should be avoided, then we’re setting themselves up to be drones in this coming totalitarian dystopia.

John: Mmm.

Jim: Uh, Rod, let me ask you, uh, that’s soft totalitarianism. Let’s talk about surveillance capitalism.

John: Hmm.

Jim: Um, that’s an interesting term. I think I understand it, but what does it mean?

Rod: Well, the term comes from a woman named Shoshana Zuboff, she was a former Harvard business school professor. Not a believer. Uh, she wrote this book called The Age of Surveillance Capitalism. And what she meant by it was that around the year 2000, Google figured out a way to monetize all the, they call it exhaust, all the data generated by people doing their normal activities online. There was nothing that could be thrown away. They figured out a way to figure out how to read the data that people generate just by their Google searches, by where they go in the world, that is all tracked on, uh, later on smartphones. And figure out how to sell people things that way. We have become a country that is willing to give over all of our information to Facebook, to Google, to, um, Microsoft, Apple, et cetera, and it tells them where we are, who we hang out with, what our preferences are, and we don’t even notice this. We’re doing this because it makes our lives more convenient. What Shoshana Zuboff says is that we are setting ourselves up to be ruled by a dictatorship one day because all of this information is being saved. And what happens if Google or one of these big companies decides that you are a domestic terrorist because you go to, you protested against the school board? They have ways to tell this. They, if you carried your smartphone in your pocket, you get put on a list. The government is collecting all this information too. I’ve been told by people in the intelligence community, it is being saved. Now, it’s not being used against us now, but in the future, if they want to use this against us, they’ll be able to. Where I think this is all going, Jim, is something called the social credit system. You’ve been to China.

Jim: Oh, right.

Rod: Yeah, you know about this.

Jim: Yeah.

Rod: In China, the totalitarian state is using the fact that everybody in China is wired into the internet to control the people. They know everything you do, everybody you meet, everything you buy, et cetera. Now, China’s almost a cashless society, so all transactions, almost all transactions take place electronically. Well, the government also gives each citizen a social credit rating. If you do things the government considers to be positive, um, then, like download the speeches of Shi Jin Ping for example, you’ll get a higher rating and more privileges. You can travel more, you can shop in the best stores, et cetera.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Rod: But if you do things that the government considers to be anti-social, like go to Church, like spend time with people who have low social credit ratings, you’ll get a low rating too. And eventually, it can get so low that you’re not able to buy or sell, to participate in the economy. Now, I don’t have to tell this Christian audience what that means. We now have the technological means to make it impossible for people to buy or sell if they don’t sign off on the ruling ideology. I fear that this is going to come to America, too. And it’s not gonna come primarily from the government. It’s going to be instituted by major corporations.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know, this idea of spying is so critical right now. Um, I heard, uh, from a friend who has a friend in the Ivy League law school, a, an ivy league law school. And he is part of the committee that reviews applications. I don’t know if it was nine- or 11-member committee of the faculty. And what he has observed and has not responded. He’s quiet. He’s a Christian, but he’s on this committee. Nobody on the committee knows he’s a Christian. But these applications, if there’s a mention of a mission’s trip, or a mission of any church affiliation, this ivy league law school rejects that application. And that’s done behind these closed doors with these nine or 11 faculty members who are reviewing it. And he has not yet found the spine, according to my friend, to say, wait a minute, this is not right. In fact, it’s illegal.

Rod: Yep.

Jim: You can’t discriminate based on religion.

Rod: Right.

Jim: And yet, they do it and it appears like it’s happening every day in the workplace or in schools.

Rod: It happens all the time. I hear constantly from people, uh, in big business, in universities, in the military, who are talking about this very thing. That Christians, or anybody who’s a, um, a social conservative are being systematically discriminated against beneath the notice of anybody else. I wonder I this, your, your ivy league, uh-

Jim: Friend of a friend.

Rod: Friend of a friend, I wonder if it might be the same person who reached out to me six or seven years ago. Uh, ivy league law school faculty, a closeted Christian, he told me that Christians in this country have no idea what’s about to hit us. Again, this was 2014 I believe.

Jim: Hm.

Rod: He said that here at his law school, he says, nobody is a Christian except me and I’m in the closet. He said that the people who, uh, at this law school who produce the elite class of lawyers, who go onto populate the federal judiciary, they don’t know anybody who’s religious. They don’t understand why religious liberty is important. And over time, this is going to matter.

Jim: Let me re-reference something and get your response to this. I was at, uh, the National Religious Broadcasters and they had a breakfast panel, and I was added at the last minute because somebody who they had pl-planned for couldn’t be there. And I get there and it’s a discussion very similar to this. How do we fight the culture war? How do we push back on the culture? And I mentioned, I’m not gonna name the person’s name that was the moderator ’cause it doesn’t matter, but I mentioned a story to him, uh, on this panel discussion where I was in China. Uh, I had spent a week or 10 days there, meeting people, leaders in the Church, et cetera. As I was dropped off by this internal missionary couple. So, Chinese husband and wife, they dropped me off at the airport and they said, “Oh, Mr. Daly, we’ll be praying for you in America.” And I just had the presence of mind to turn to them and say, “Well, how, how do you pray for us?” And I remember they looked like, uh-oh, I shouldn’t answer the question.

Rod: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And I said, no, how, how do you pray for us? And the gentleman said, “Well, we pray for greater persecution because from where we sit, Christians in America are very weak.”

John: Hmm.

Jim: Well, I shared this on the panel and the host, who is a radio personality that all the listeners would know, that’s hogwash theology.

Rod: Really?

Jim: I’m serious. And I, I sat there immediately as he attacked me for that. I started getting texts from people in the audience saying, you are absolutely right. Keep saying that.

John: Hmm.

Jim: And I, I just find it amazing that we, as a Christian community, wouldn’t understand what suffering in Christ is all about.

Rod: And you know, one thing that occurs to me and I’ve used this myself to bolster my own, uh, faith when I’ve been discouraged. I think about the man I talk about in the book called Sylvester Krchmery. He was a young physician who was part of the underground church in Slovakia. He was the right-hand man to Father Kolakovic. And sure enough, the secret police grabbed him off the street in 1951 or 52 to take him to prison. He tells in his memoir that he laughed when they got him, and the secret police said why are you laughing? He said, “Because it is an honor to suffer for my Lord.” You know? And he went into prison-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Rod: … with that attitude-

Jim: Yeah.

Rod: … and he said that he knew that if he pitied himself, he would com- fall apart ’cause they kept him in prison for 10 years and they tortured him. He said, “I told myself every day that it is a privilege to suffer for Christ and I am God’s probe here in the prison. I’m here to learn more about myself and deepen my own repentance and to serve others.” And so he went forth to pray for people to witness to people. He did not complain even though he had every right to. But he said, this is the mission the Lord has given me. I tell another story in the book about, uh, this amazing Russian Christian, um, named Alexander Ogorodnikov who was a late convert. Came from a prominent communist family, converted, like, in the early ’70s and began holding prayer meetings in his apartment in Russia, in Moscow. They threw him into the worst prison in Russia; put him on death row even though he didn’t have a death sentence because they wanted to make an example of him. He went in there determined just to evangelize, to witness to the hardest criminals in the whole, all of Russia. He was so successful at it that they put him in solitary confinement to keep him away from the other prisoners. And they began to torture him. I talked to him in Moscow, his face is still partially paralyzed from the beatings he took.

Jim: Hm.

Rod: Well, Ogorodnikov told me that he got really discouraged. He began to wonder, Lord, have you abandoned me here? An angel woke him up one night and gave him a vision in which he saw a prisoner being led to his execution with his hands behind his back by two guards and, uh, it was a real, live vision. This vision came back night after night with a different prisoner. Ogorodnikov finally realized that the Lord was showing him the men who were being led to their execution, condemned murderers, but they had accepted Christ because he had been there to witness to them in that prison.

Jim: Wow.

Rod: And they were going to be with the Lord in paradise forever because he was there. And that’s how Ogorodnikov got back his faith because he knew that the Lord had picked him to be his apostle there to the retched of the earth. This is the attitude that all of us Christians need to adopt from these precious believers who really suffer for Christ.

Jim: Well, and the, the summary statement of that is there’s purpose in suffering-

Rod: Yeah.

Jim: … in Christ.

Rod: Yeah.

Jim: And we are, you know, again, as a comfort-oriented culture, we are immature in understanding what that means.

Rod: It’s true and even in our Churches. So many churches are all about helping us to be comfortable with where we are. There’s that phrase you probably heard, moralistic therapeutic deism.

Jim: Right.

Rod: It’s, uh, by the sociologist Christian Smith who said, this is the defacto, uh, religion of American Christians. He said it’s a philosophy of sort of a feel-good Christianity that says, God loves us, he wants us to be happy, he wants us to be nice, and he wants us to be successful and that’s it. This is what Aldous Huxley called Christianity without tears. It’s Christianity without the cross. And this as Bonhoeffer said is the deadly enemy of Christians. And this is especially so as we’re moving into this soft totalitarianism, which operates by making us afraid of losing our status, our money, and our comfort.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Uh, Rod, let me, uh, point this to the family as we come in for a landing because again, I’ve always said that when you look at, um, the Lord and the Lord’s work, there’s three institutions that He established, uh, the church, the government, and the family. And I think that’s why the church and family are under such assault by the government, right? And, uh, the family in your book and you point out in the eastern bloc under communism how the family became a vital tool-

John: Hmm.

Jim: … to maintain Christian discipline and that hope that you talk about. And that does bring us back, I think, to the Benda parents.

Rod: Sure. Sure.

Jim: So, why don’t we work that in as to how they use the family rightfully to raise their kids in a healthy way.

Rod: I’m so glad you asked about them. This is the most impressive family. Uh, they live in Prague. Vaclav and Kamila Benda were the parents. Vaclav died in 1999, but his wife Kamila’s still going. They were the only Christians in the inner circle of Vaclav Hovel in the Czech dissidents. The Benda family, pr, uh, raised six kids in communism at a time when the parents were targeted by the regime because of their activism. In fact, the dad went to prison for four years. But they understood that the family had to be where the resistance to totalitarianism began. So what would they do? When the kids would come home from school, they had to go to communist schools, Vaclav, the dad, a mathematician, would sit down with them and help them to understand what they had heard that day and to pick out truth from lies. Kamila, her main role was to read to the kids. She, too, was a professor and she would read to them two or three hours a day, um, even when her husband was in prison because she knew that to build their moral imagination was vital. So, uh, I asked her, Kamila, what did you read to them? She said, I read myths, I read the classics, and I read a lot of Tolkien. I said, Tolkien? Why Tolkien? She looked at me straight in the eyes and said, because we knew that Mordor was real.

Jim: Hmm.

Rod: And I began to understand what she meant by that.

Jim: Interesting.

Rod: Yeah. That these children, they couldn’t understand Marxism, Leninism. They did not get the details of this, but they could understand The Fellowship of the Ring and they began to understand that the men and women who had come together to, in their parents’ apartment to fight this Mordor, they were like the fellowship of the ring. I found this to be so important because all of these kids grew up knowing that they had a role, a God-given role to fight for freedom. Today, uh, 30 years after communism, all of the Benda kids have kids of their own. And all of them are faithful Christians even though the Czech Republic is the most atheist country in all of Europe. It all started in the family, though, with the family con, the Benda family, the mom and dad consciously raising these kids to be counter cultural. The kids too talk that, now adults, talked about how their father and mother were such icons of courage for them. They saw their mom and dad taking tough stands and being willing to pay the price for it. So, I, I just love this family so much. I dedicated a whole, uh, chapter in the book to them because the are a real model for all of us Christians today who may wonder, how can we resist this? You know? We tend to think of resistance as only, like, going out to protest or, or voting. In fact, the Benda’s say there are things that you can do, and you must do in the daily life of your family to build this resistance into your kids.

Jim: Yeah. And what’s so reinforcing with what you’re saying is this innate understanding in our hearts as human beings that there’s good and evil.

Rod: Yep.

Jim: Even when academicians and others are trying to say, no. That’s a construct of religion. But we know.

Rod: Yeah.

Jim: You know what evil is. When people treat other people so aggressively and so harshly. When you murder somebody.

Rod: Sure.

Jim: Um, or many people, right? So, it’s interesting that they turn to literature that-

John: Mmm.

Jim: … illustrated that concept of good and evil.

Rod: Yeah.

Jim: That’s the whole struggle.

Rod: And you know, uh, again the suffering thing comes back. When Vaclav Benda was in prison, he was there for four years, at one point the government made an offer to him, s, they, he said, the government said to him, we’ll let you leave the country with your wife and kids if you will just resign from the dissident movement. And he wanted to do it. He missed his family. You know, uh, Kamila was struggling with six kids at home, and he wrote to his wife and said should we accept this? That lady wrote back to him, spine of steel, and she said, no. If we abandon the people who are looking to us, uh, for courage and inspiration, if we abandon them to save ourselves by going west, we will have abandoned God. So, stay in prison, keep praying, we’ll fight the fight on the home front.

John: Hmm.

Rod: We, this is the quality of people that we have to become in the American church if we’re gonna survive what’s coming. If you’re soft, it’s not going to go well for us. And we also have to be prepared to be persecuted from within in our own churches. I’m hearing this too from a lot of Christians that so many, uh, people in churches, pastors too, just want to pretend that everything’s okay. They don’t wanna upset people. Uh, in fact, read the signs of the times. God is giving us the, uh, freedom to prepare before the persecution starts. And, uh, some people think I’m being alarmist, uh, I hope I am. I would love to be proved wrong. But, if I’m not wrong about this and we have not taken the time that the Lord has given us now and the liberty to prepare, then we are in serious trouble.

Jim: Rod. I mean, this is so good. And I hope the people that are resonating, who are listening and watching, I hope they, they get it, and they understand and what a great resource, your book, to equip people to better understand the signs of the times, right? This is like the Berean Church.

Rod: Yeah.

Jim: Understand what we’re in-

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … so that you can respond appropriately as a Christian and help your children understand, uh, the environment that we’re in. This is a (laughs) great resource and I hope you can feel that. And if you can help support Focus to do the ministry that we’re attempting to do. One of those three institutions that God has created. The family. To help strengthen it. I mean, I hope you’re encouraged. We had over 300,000 people come to Christ through Focus on the Family last year. And we measure it every year. And that’s one of the gemstones of the effort here. I never knew that we did that. We started to measure it and low and behold, we found out so many people are coming to Christ or rededicate their life to the Lord through the ministry here at Focus. So help us. Be a part of it.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: That’s God’s economy. Uh, we’re the engine but we need the gas from you to make it happen. So, if you can sign up to be a monthly supporter or a one-time gift, we’ll send you a copy of Rod’s book, Live Not by Lies, as our way of saying thank you for being a part.

John: Yeah, join the support team. Make your donation today. Ask for your copy of Live Not by Lies, a Manual for Christian Dissidence. Uh, we have it here at the ministry. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And this reminder that, uh, we also have a great resource for you, uh, it’ll arrive in your inbox every day, uh, Monday through Friday, it’s called The Daily Citizen. Sign up for that and, uh, that way you’ll be able to read the times as we’ve talked about today and stay up with the latest in cultural currents. Again, uh, our website is focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Rod, again, thank you so much for being here and helping us to discern the times that we’re in.

Rod: Well, thanks so much for having me. This kind of thing is so important that we Christians talk to each other and let us never forget that, uh, the lion of the tribe of Judah, the root of David has triumphed.

John: Hmm.

Jim: Hmm. Amen.

John: And what a great note, uh, to close out our conversation. I do hope you enjoy your weekend with your family and your church family as well. And then plan to join us on Monday. Senator James Lankford discusses how you can reclaim your role in your child’s education.

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Senator James Lankford: The parent is the most important person in the life of a child. So for them to be able to impress real truth on the hearts of their children, they’ll be able to see falsehoods then in the days ahead even in the classroom.

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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