Levi Lusko: Because a lot of relationships, I’m convinced, go wrong because Moses is the CEO of the marriage. And under Moses, it’s eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. “You had the kids a lot – you – I watched them last time, so you watch them this time. You bought this, so I’m gonna buy that. Dah dah dah dah dah and dah dah dah dah dah.” And that’s Moses. That’s a Moses marriage.
Jean Daly: That’s the law.
Jim Daly: Living by the law.
Levi: Yeah. And you know what that leads to? Blood. Jesus turned water into wine. Moses turned water into blood. And if you let Jesus take control of your relationship, it’ll bring new wine because you’re trying to give grace.
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John Fuller: Well, that’s a rather profound insight from Pastor Levi Lusko, sharing from the stage at a Focus on the Family event right here in Colorado Springs. And as our guests address a number of, uh, marriage issues including intimacy, please be aware we’ll tackle some more mature content. Keep that in mind if you have younger children in earshot. And, you’re going to hear more about how to have a grace-filled and loving marriage on today’s broadcast. Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly. And I’m John Fuller.
Jim: John, we were at a marriage retreat with a large group of Focus friends and supporters, and we had a wonderful time with Levi and his wife, Jennie. Uh, my wife, Jean, was there, uh, on the stage and had a microphone. So, you’re going to hear some comments from Jean as well.
John: Mm hmm. Excellent.
Jim: For some reason, John, you weren’t with us that night. You must have been somewhere.
John: I – I’m sure I was out of town, perhaps. Maybe even on a hunting trip.
Jim: (Laughter) That could be. But, uh, what we recorded that night and what we want to share with you today is a lot of practical marriage encouragement and some humor as well. Because it’s our goal here at Focus on the Family to remind you, as we remind ourselves (laughter), that we need to enjoy one another in our marriages, and remember all the wonderful things that we share in our relationships. Of course, we know that healthy marriages do take work. But God also designed your relationship to be full of love, affection and fun as well.
John: And if you’d like to experience more fun in your marriage, along with that love and affection, please contact us here at Focus on the Family. We have so many resources – including our free online marriage assessment, which is a really good, quick way to get an overview of what’s working well in the relationship, and, maybe a few things to improve as well. Check it out at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Levi and Jennie Lusko founded Fresh Life Church in 2007. It’s grown. It has satellite locations in Montana, Utah, Oregon, and Wyoming. Levi has written several books that we’ve featured on this broadcast. And the Luskos are the parents of five children.
Jim: And we’re going to pick up today’s program at the point where Levi began explaining how the first recorded miracle of Jesus, described in John, chapter 2, can teach us profound lessons about how to have a more fulfilling marriage.
Levi: Jesus is at a wedding. And that should right there arrest our attention. He’s got 3 1/2 years to save the world. What’s he doing at a wedding? But the answer is – in the text it says, “Jesus was invited.”
Jennie Lusko: Yeah.
Levi: So, here’s the question. If Jesus isn’t in your home, it’s not because he doesn’t want to be there. It’s because perhaps you didn’t invite him in.
Levi: Every bride and groom have the choice to invite Jesus into their wedding, invite him into the marriage. He’ll come into your home if you invite him. So, he’s there. His mom says, “Hey, they’re out of wine.” He tells the servants, “Uh, go get that, uh, those six tubs,” basically giant stone pots. “Fill them up with water. And once the water’s filled up, draw some out and give it to the master of the feast.” And it was when they brought the water to the master the feast that the miracle happened, and it turned into wine. Now, the text says the servants filled the pots up to the brim. Those three words in that passage give us the approach for our relationships God wants us to take because they only got as much wine as they had the faith to put water in. They were 20 to 30 gallons a piece, and there were six of them. So, they got 125 to 150 gallons’ worth of wine because they filled the pots up to the brim. Now, they had no guarantee while they were pouring that was working. They didn’t have a hose either.
Jennie: Mm mmm.
Levi: They’re going to the well bucket at a time perspiring, you know? “What in the heck? What are we even doing?” And they could have easily said, “Oh, that’s enough. Let’s go bring some to the master.” Then that’s exactly as much wine as they would have gotten. But because they were – they had the faith to do something that didn’t seem like it was working, that eventually, this to-the-brim mentality led them having a lot of wine. We think a lot of marriages have a barely enough mentality. They treat it like, you know, we do our iPhone or our gas tank where it’s, like, always kind of on red line. You know what I mean?
Levi: We don’t get gas until – some of you have that little thing that tells you distance till empty, and you go…
Jim: “I just did that yesterday.”
Jennie: (Laughter) I’ve got a few miles left!
Levi: “I don’t need to get gas. I got 13 miles left.”
Jim: That was the exact mileage I had left! (Laughter)
Jim: You’re like a prophet.
Levi: Cause that’s the point at which it kicks over and says, “Hey, moron, get gas,” (Laughter) you know what I’m saying?
Jim: (Imitating car engine trying to turn over).
Levi: I’m like, no way. It’s like a game. “How close can I get to the edge?” But a lot of marriages are doing that. Not taking that date night or that weekend away or that marriage counseling until it’s in crisis mode, as opposed to a to the brim. You’re going to have as much, uh, in your marriage as you’re willing to put into it. So, I think, like that miracle, we should fill our marriages up to the brim.
Jim: That is good.
Jean: That is great insight. And you just mentioned date nights, weekend getaways and, um, what else do you recommend?
Jim: Am I in trouble? (Laughter)
Jean: For busy – no! But busy – everyone’s busy.
Jean: Lot of us have kids. What are some practical ways to spend time together to build up that kind of love bank?
Jennie: Yeah. Well, we’ve heard it, said um, 15 minutes a day, one night a week, one day a month, one weekend a year – is not, like, oh, you have to do this and you’re getting it wrong, but, like, it’s just a good rule of thumb that you can – I mean, that seems doable. Like, OK, 15 minutes a day.
Levi: Not on your phones, just talking, checking in, using words.
Jennie: Of just – not on your phone, but just, like, “Hey, how are you doing?” – just that quick, one night a week, a date night where you’re setting a time to do what each other loves, whether…
Levi: Hey, when we were first married, our date nights were a trip to Costco. You know that $1.44 hot dog…?
Jennie; Eating samples.
Jean: Yes, the samples.
Levi: …and a Coke, you know? And on the bad nights, it was just samples, honey. You know what I’m saying?
Levi: But you know – but romance can work on any budget. And, you know, this – this year, we just hit 15 years. And we went to Napa and went to a Michelin-rated restaurant and had the best night ever. But you know what? That’s – that’s not where it started. And we didn’t wait to put that tradition in place till we could afford the finer things because, uh, you have to choose – just like generosity. It’s like, you don’t start tithing when you have a million dollars because you’d be just as generous with a hundred as you would be a million. So, you begin those things now. And we put those things into place, like you said, the time bank – which, I would say, in addition to the spiritual disciplines, church attendance, small group participation, serving, those sorts of things that are going to give your, uh, relationship a rock foundation and not a sand foundation.
Jim: Let me ask you this. Uh, sometimes people can feel over-committed, especially people with great intentions that want to serve in that way, and then, really, the relationship takes the shortest end of the stick.
Jim: How do you maintain a healthy perspective with that? You’re a pastor…
Jim: …so you’re relying on these people, too.
Levi: Yep. Well, I think when it comes to time, one of the mistakes we make is, we say to ourselves lies, like – that we believe, like, “I don’t have enough time. I’m too busy. I don’t have enough time.” But the reality is you have the exact same amount of time as every human being that’s ever lived – 168 hours every single week. That’s how much time Abraham Lincoln had, Gandhi had, Steve Jobs had. You can’t find time for the important things; you make time. So, I heard it said once, “If you grow your no, God will bless your yes.” So, it’s what you say no to just as much as what you say yes to. And when we put those important things on the calendar – we, at the beginning of a year, put out our camping trip, our vacation. You know, those sorts of things are set in stone. And then when other opportunities come up – and let me tell you, they come up.
Levi: I’ll get asked, “Hey, come to this.” It’s like, “Nope, I’m gonna be there at my daughter’s first day of school.” I got asked to speak to 10,000 people and – on the day of my daughter’s first day school, and I said, “I’ll be taking my daughter to school.” And he said, “We’ll pay you this much.” I said, “And guess what? I’ll be at my daughter’s school that day.”
Jean: That’s great.
Levi: And so, there’s nothing in the world that I – you can’t get that back. You can get more money …
Jean: That’s right.
Levi: You can get more opportunity. You can get more Instagram followers. You don’t get more time with your kids. You don’t get more time with your spouse.
Jennie: Well, you know, I appreciate this so much about Levi ’cause for me, I have more of the – I want to – I don’t like conflict, and I want to please people, and I want to do all the things. And I’m very used to just saying yes all the time. And I’ve learned that it’s actually so good to be able to say no and to say yes to the things that are the most important. Um, and so many people will be like, “Oh, you guys are so busy. How do you make this happen?” It’s like, well, when you put the first things first and you just let the other things either fall into place or not do them, then it really isn’t – it really isn’t that hard, but you do have to fight for it.
Jim: And you have to prioritize, which is what you’re saying.
Jim: And you got to know what’s important to start with. You mentioned something, uh, that I think is critically important. That’s assume the best of your spouse.
Jim: I think this is where marriages break down because you end up in this vicious cycle where you assume the worst, the worst intention. “The reason he didn’t come home on time is because there’s somebody else or something’s going on or he doesn’t love me enough.” And then you ruminate on these things, and you talk yourself into a scenario, which hopefully doesn’t exist. In some cases, it might. But in many cases, it won’t. So, speak to the assume the best, and talk to us about why that’s so hard for us to do as human beings.
Levi: Well, the Bible says that we should believe all things. That’s what love does. Love believes all things. Now, of course, I’m not talking about the person who has, you know, been unfaithful or lost trust. It does take time to regain trust that’s been lost, of course. So that being pushed off to the side, I’m talking about just the normative patterns of a healthy relationship. Uh, we watched a comedian once who said, um, “When you’re dating, you can do no wrong, and then you get married, and you can do no right.” And sadly, that can be how it is sometimes. He went on to say that one time, his wife had some friends over, and they were all watching a movie, chick flick, right? And he came in, thought, “I’m going to be the good husband,” and said, uh, “Girls, can I make you some popcorn?” And his wife didn’t even look up, but she said – without even looking him in the eye, she said, “Just make sure you make enough.” And it was like…
Levi: …like, she was already assuming he wasn’t gonna make enough popcorn. You know what I mean?
Jennie: Here is, like, wanting to serve them and – yeah.
Levi: I’m trying to do something – right. And I think we can – we can do that.
Jennie: That’s so true.
Levi: We can digress into that, where we’re filling in thought bubbles over our spouse’s head, and we’re – we’re naming intentions, and we’re – we’re writing a story. You know, our brains are built to love story – a beginning, a middle and an end. Brené Brown talks about how our brains crave and actually give us a chemical reward when it detects a pattern. And it so craves closure that when people’s bizarre actions don’t make sense, our brain will at times play judge, jury and executioner, basically assigning a motive just so it can have the self-satisfaction of saying, “Case closed.” And it will settle for inaccuracy so long as it’s complete and conclusive.
Levi: And so, at times, our minds can assume the worst of each other, and then we’re basically, you know, convicting them of crimes they may not have even committed. So, we’ve chosen to use the language of, you know, the Corinthian text. Let’s believe all things. Let’s believe the best about each other. Let’s assume positive intent. If Jennie said something that hurts my feelings, I’m not assuming she wanted to hurt me. She loves me. She wants the best for me. So, I’m gonna bring my emotions to her and ask her to clarify and help me see – “This is what my perspective was. What do you think?” – and – and to really assume the best about each other.
Jennie: Yeah. And I will say, too, that it – that a lot about your past has everything to do with the relationship that you’re in now. And for me, personally and honestly, um, I had, um, issues with my dad because he had left and just wasn’t a – a great present dad. And I feel like as – as I entered into marriage, I was actually placing a lot of the things that I had struggled with my dad – seeing him, even how he interacted with my mom – I placed those things unfairly on Levi because that was – he was the man in my life, and I figured, “Oh, well, if this is how he’s acting…”
Jennie: “…then this is why.” And I was, like, placing badges on him that he did not earn at all. Um…
Jim: Could you name one or two of those badges for us?
Jennie: Yeah. I would say, um, my dad was unfaithful to my mom, and I think that was one thing coming into marriage is – maybe I was just really, um, suspecting and like…
Jim: So, trust.
Jennie: …just the trust already. And Levi’s never given a reason ever to, um – to misuse that trust. But because of that’s…
Jennie: …kind of the baggage that I brought in the marriage…
Jennie: …that that was definitely one thing that was so unfair to him because he would talk to a girl, and I’d be like, “Oh, my gosh. Like, everything’s out of control and crazy.” But the truth is – is that he loves me and that I was putting an undue thing on him.
Jim: Well, and it was a trigger for you.
Levi: For sure.
Jean: Jennie, how did you overcome that?
Jennie: Well, I think – well, it was talking through it. And that’s always the thing, is communicating, like, “This is how I feel when this happens.” But it was, um, realizing that – because I think I just didn’t realize it until there was a point where I was like, “This is why.” And I mean…
Levi: And marriage counseling really helped for us.
Jennie: Mm hmm. Yeah.
Levi: You know, which, I think for a lot of pastors, it would be a fear of that, you know, because, uh, there’s maybe, uh, an assumption that, you know, that’s something you do when things are going wrong. I would say it’s something you should do to keep things from going wrong, just like you change the oil in your car, you know?
Jim: That’s a great point.
Levi: So for us to work through that and, uh, have a lot of help to have someone we can talk to about and process things through, and just to be able to be honest and – with a third party that can listen and hear both sides and kind of steer us towards, uh, some healthy patterns in our marriage. And that really helped us out a lot – and to say like, “Look. I’m not your dad. And I’m gonna honor you and love you and trust you. And look. We’re gonna – if there’s something you’re uncomfortable about, please pull that quality control chain, and I’ll do the same thing.” But at the same time, we have to trust each other and let this be a new story.
John: You’re listening to part of a marriage retreat that Focus on the Family hosted a few months ago. And Jim and Jean Daly quizzed Pastor Levi Lusko and his wife, Jennie, about the components necessary for a strong and healthy marriage. We have an audio CD of this entire conversation — which includes a lot more content than we’re able to share today. Check it out at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And now, here’s more from Levi and Jennie Lusko on Focus on the Family.
Levi: Because a lot of relationships, I’m convinced, go wrong because Moses is the CEO of the marriage. And under Moses, it’s eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. “You had the kids a lot – you – I watched them last time, so you watch them this time. You bought this, so I’m gonna buy that.” “Dah dah dah dah dah and dah dah dah dah dah.” And that’s Moses. That’s a Moses marriage.
Jean: That’s the law.
Jim: Living by the law.
Levi: Yeah. And you know what that leads to? Blood. Jesus turned water into wine. Moses turned water into blood. And if you let Jesus take control of your relationship, it’ll bring new wine because you’re trying to give grace.” And if you’re not doing your job, I’m gonna do mine twice as hard. And if you’re not doing this, I’m gonna give you even more grace.” And that’ll bring wine and refreshment out of your relationship. So really, I think a lot of us need to give Moses the pink slip and let Jesus take the wheel.
Jim: I like it. What do you guys think? Yeah?
Jean: That’s good. That’s good!
Jim: All right. OK, I – there are two other areas I want to cover before we end. And one is on the submission issue. You guys have spoken about that. It’s always the third rail of relationship, especially in the Christian church when we talk about submission – a lot of different definitions of, what does it mean and what does God expect? And people abuse it.
Levi: Oh, no doubt.
Jim: Men abuse that authority, and women can be abusive, too.
Levi: Well, and pastors can really miss what the actual teaching is from Ephesians 5 because the word submit is used in verse 21. Long before he says, “Wives submit,” he says, “Submit to one another in the fear of the Lord.”
Levi: And so, the context of marriage is two people who have both submitted to each other in the lens of Jesus’ sacrifice. And so, here’s Jesus, who, uh, modeled for us this servant leadership by dying for us on the cross. And for a man who wants to basically become Jabba the Hutt in his home instead of Jesus the Christ in his home who – Jesus died for his – his bride, and these men who want to pull the chain so Leia can come over and feed him grapes – you know what I mean? That’s just a train wreck.
Jim: That’s a very gross scene, by the way.
Jim: Just saying.
Levi: And you know what? There’s some very gross marriage dynamics at play.
Jim: Hm, yeah.
Levi: Where the man’s the lord of the castle in that way. So, here’s – we’re supposed to both submit to each other. Now, does it – does the New Testament make it clear that in a stalemate, cat’s game situation, that the husband is to have the tie-breaking vote because he’s gonna be the one to stand before Jesus for that? Yes, absolutely. But in our 15 years of marriage, I’ve never had to pull that card one single time because the goal is consensus. Now, there’ve a thousand times where I wanted to pull that. But the Holy Spirit would’ve been like, “Hey, moron.” You know what I mean? “You’re just being selfish here.” Right? ‘Cause Jesus died for his bride, and you basically just want to be right in this situation. And my opinion is that when Paul then breaks it down further and says, so husbands, uh, may see that you love your wives, and wives, see that you submit to your husbands, he was saying, that’s the part they most are going to struggle with in submitting to one another.
Levi: Because women have the most difficult time submit maybe to their husband because 99% of time, the woman knows what to do when the man doesn’t know to do.
Levi: So, for her to submit is going to be the most challenging part. And the husband loving his wife and caring for her and nurturing her as his own body is going to be the hardest part. So, he was really speaking to the subject of submission, the mutual submission that is presented in Ephesians 5, and to show what the most challenging part of that would be like.
Jim: Yeah. Jennie, for the women that are struggling with that, what would you say to them directly as a wife and a woman if they’re sitting there going, “I could never do that with my husband. He isn’t – he isn’t the man I really expected, or I thought I’d married”?
Jennie: Um, I heard one preacher say, um, “Speak to the king, and the king will – will stand up. But if you speak to the fool, the fool will rise up.” And I think that’s the key. As a wife, um, if we see the potential and the, um – we see the king in our husband, that’s again going back to looking for, um – because sometimes all you see is the fool. But if you can look for a glimmer of the king and honor that in them, that’s going to raise them up to the next level of the man of God they’re meant to be. But I love how in 1 Peter, um, it – 1 Peter 3 starts out, it says, “Wives likewise submit to your husbands.” And it goes back to what Chapter 2 says right before, and it talks about Jesus being the ultimate example of submitting to his Father and dying on the cross. Um, and that he’s the ultimate example of that. And so, when we’re having a hard time submitting, we go back to Jesus as our example of, if Jesus could do this, I’m going to submit to my husband because Jesus is the Lord of my life. And I think that’s the key. And then it even goes down when it talks to husbands, “Husbands likewise, honor, love your wives.” And so…
Levi: Well, it’s actually – to be fair, he gives six verses to the women and – Peter does – and then he gives one verse to the men. And it involves a threat, right?
Jean: (Laughter) Right.
Levi: It’s, like, all these things to the women. “Oh, don’t address your hair…
Jennie: All the details that we need.
Levi: … dah dah dah dah.” And then men it’s like, “Hey, love your wives, or God won’t listen to your prayers.” And the guys are like, “Hm, OK.”
Levi: One thing – that’s all we could handle. It’s awesome.
Jim: He kinda knows how he made us, right?
Levi: It’s pretty good.
Jim: I mean, it is pretty funny.
Levi: But Jennie’s right, though. You know, to the woman who says, “Hey, I treat my husband that way, but he doesn’t – he doesn’t act that way,” it’s like, maybe he would if you treated him that way. Maybe you would help him become the man you wish he was.
Jim: All right. The next difficult one is intimacy – physical intimacy in relationship. This can be – and you’re pastor – you’re pastoring couples that hit this wall a lot.
Jim: And let’s just talk that through a little bit, the criticality of it, um, you know, the tenderness of this because it’s something men crave probably as – as much as – as water and food, right?
Levi: Yeah, sure.
Jim: And women are going, “Why, Lord, did you do this to them?” Right? Why do they have such this appetite?
Levi: Sure. Sure.
Jim: And it’s not always that way. We hear from listeners who – wives will say…
Levi: Because that can be kind of a gross stereotype, too, yeah.
Jim: “My husband does not have that desire.”
Jim: So, it goes both ways. But speak to the physical intimacy issue and how it can really harm the relationship.
Levi: Sure. Well, there’s a lot, a lot of pressure that can be put on that, and especially in a culture where we rightly – as a church culture, we – we prize virginity. We prize the beauty of intimacy. And so, there can be so much pressure that when it finally gets there, it’s – it’s very scary, and it can be underwhelming. And I think we have to take a little bit of pressure off in that way. Uh, because great lovers are made, not born. And you know, for us, we’ve experienced, it’s just gotten better and better like wine as we practiced. And you know, we – I just encourage us to practice a lot, you know, so. (Laughter)
Jim: I’m sorry. Did I ask that question?
Levi: But there are…
Jim: I don’t remember that question!
Jennie: Yes. Yes, you did.
Levi: But there are – there are challenges inherent, you know? To tell a story that just – this was not lovemaking, but it was a moment where we had a really quick turnaround, and we had to shower up for some event we were at. And so, we were like, “Hey, for water purposes, let’s just jump in the shower together, OK?” But our 2-year-old at some point was watching a TV show, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, in the other room, and we didn’t notice. We thought the door was locked. We were just showering, fortunately. But, uh, she had come in the room – 2-year-old daughter came in the room. And we, uh, didn’t know she was there until we heard her say, “Say cheese.”
Jean: Oh! Oh!
Levi: And I thought she was gonna – I looked, like, horrified. And we were both like, “Ah.” And we thought she was gonna be, you know, snapping a picture with her fingers. No, she had Jennie’s phone.
Levi: And we – we – we both lunged for it. She had it open in Instagram.
Jean: Oh! Oh!
Levi: She had the camera from Instagram and was about to push the shutter.
Jean: Oh! Oh! Oh, my.
Levi: We were praying in tongues. We were so grateful that it did not happen.
Jim: And you’re sticking to this story, right?
Levi: This would’ve been the end of ministry, guys.
Jean: Oh, my.
Levi: You’d never see me again. But there are challenges.
Jennie: This is us.
Levi: And my point is, there’s challenges involved in being naked and ashamed, OK?
Levi: Because that’s what God wants for us. But I say – I tell you that story, but on a serious note, when the Bible says Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed, it was not just physically. They were unashamed spiritually because they had no need to hide. Sin causes you to cover up. The moment they sinned, what’d they do? They covered up with clothes. Fig leaves – terrible choice, itchy plants, right?
Levi: But the point is they were now hiding. And when we want to experience the beauty of physical intimacy. It comes from inward vulnerability and transparency and to where you are covered up in the best possible sense. Once Jesus put the blood over the – over Adam and Eve, they were now clothed and covered. And when Jennie and I are covered by Jesus, we can be uncovered before each other in vulnerability. And that’s the foundation for a beautiful relationship. It’s where you don’t have secrets. It’s where you – uh, in the – in the Bruce Willis movie, he says, “When did you know the relationship was on the rocks?” He said, “When I had a bad dream and didn’t wake you up to tell you about it,” about his wife. And I think the power of a great sex life comes from, you wake each other up to tell each other about your bad dreams, and your fears, and your vulnerabilities and your insecurities and who I wish I was. And I think, uh, for me, when I tell Jennie, “Hey, I’m scared. I need you to pray for me,” and “I feel at a spiritual warfare; will you pray for me? Will you take my hand and pray for me?” – that’s the power of a sex life. It comes from two souls that are knitted together.
Jim: Mm. That is really good.
Jean: It is.
Jim: Um, for the couple – who knows how long they’ve been married? It may have been a short time or a long time, but they haven’t experienced not only that kind of intimacy, but the kind of friendship and the fun that you’re speaking about right from the beginning of the program – where can they go? What can they do? How do they rekindle these things? Um, I’m really asking you for hope.
Levi: Well, the book of Revelation says – speaking of our relationship with Jesus, of which we are the bride of Christ – right? – that we are to go back and do our – the first things. And so, I would say go back to there in your mind. Talk about what – um, go on a walk. Talk about what attracted you to each other in the first place before there was boats to buy, and remodelings to do on your home, and square footage to add and – and the trip to Aspen you want to take – all the pressure, all the things…
Jim: How about just diapers you have to change? (Laughter)
Levi: Yeah. There you go. Whatever it is, you know – the diapers you want to change. Before all the pressure, is my point. And, uh, go back to that first friendship, and foster that, and blow on the coals, and get it going again, and enjoy each other and quit taking yourself so seriously. Say sorry, you know?
Jim: For the skeptic listening, saying, “Right. Does it really work to blow on the coals? Will it catch fire again?”
Levi: Well, if you don’t, you can be certain what’s going to happen. I can’t promise you what’s going to happen if you do. But if you put yourself out there, you give something for God to bless.
Jim: That’s really good.
Levi: And the servants didn’t know it was gonna become wine when they were carrying it in a ladle to the master of the feast. It was still water until they stuck out in faith. So, I would encourage you who feels like, “I don’t know; I feel stupid” – it’s gonna feel stupid if you’re doing it right.
Jim: Yeah. That is good. Levi, Jennie, thanks so much. Jean, thank you for being with us.
Jennie: Thank you, Jean.
Levi: Thank you for having us.
Jim: Yeah, it’s been good.
Jennie: Thank you guys so much. Appreciate you.
Jim: John, although you weren’t there, it was a lot of fun being with Levi and Jennie Lusko at the marriage retreat that we put on. Uh, is was great to have Jean there as well. And I really hope our listeners were encouraged by the discussion we just heard. Because it was a good reminder about how to have fun, and laugh, and enjoy your spouse in ways that you may have forgotten about since the day of your wedding. Uh, that’s really the bottom-line message of today’s program – to not let your marriage drift over time. Um, perhaps, to have a full to the brim relationship the way God designed it to be.
John: Mm hmm.
Jim: And to keep working on things like regular date-nights, and assuming the best about your spouse. Even tough things like submission and intimacy. Those are some of the key building blocks you need for a strong and healthy relationship that will last for a lifetime.
John: And we want to equip you to have good conversations and a better relationship. Focus on the Family is here to offer resources and guidance. And, uh, a really great resource and Jim, I think the number is something like 850,000 people…
Jim: That’s crazy.
John: …have taken the, uh, free online marriage assessment. It’s easy to fill out and it’s going to give you some insights about what’s working in the relationship and some tips about ways to improve. Uh, we also links and articles – a variety of resources. And I should mention our counseling team as well. They’re available if you need that kind of assistance. Learn more about how we can help at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Or call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.
Jim: Let me also encourage you to get a CD copy of today’s conversation with the Luskos. Perhaps you’d like to hear it again or share it with another couple you know. By the way, this CD includes a lot more content than we were able to put into the broadcast! So, you get much more through the CD. We’re counting on friends like you to help us strengthen and rescue marriages throughout the year. And you’re part of our distribution channel, if we can call it that, to spread God’s good news with hurting couples. So, keep your eye open for someone you might be able to help. If you can send a generous gift of any amount to Focus on the Family today, we’ll say thank you by putting this CD into your hands. So please, be generous with your support. Let’s save marriages together today.
John: Once more, our website is focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Or you can donate and get the CD when you call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. We hope you have a great weekend with your family and your church community as well. And join us again on Monday for a redemptive story about one man’s recovery from addiction.
Johnny Baker: I’m weak if I admit I’m – I have a problem. And I think that we need to be careful for that because it’s when we admit our problems that, actually, God is able to work in our lives.
Jim: Yes, and when we are weak, He is strong.