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Finding an Escape From Sexual Addiction (Part 1 of 2)

Finding an Escape From Sexual Addiction (Part 1 of 2)

Author and speaker Jonathan Daugherty discusses his former sex addiction and his path to recovery, offering encouragement and hope to men struggling with similar issues. (Part 1 of 2)

Opening:

John Fuller: Today on “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly, we’re going to examine the dangers of having a secret life, where what some consider to be harmless entertainment and fantasy collide with living a life of purity and living to honor God. And here’s how one man described the struggle and his experience.

Teaser:

Man: So, I was comin’ out of my apartment with some trash to the dumpster and when I got there, there were some magazines at the bottom. So, I kinda balanced myself on the side so I could reach in and grab one and of course, I fell right inside. And suddenly, it was like when I was a kid. I … my palms were sweating; my heart was racing and I was out of control. I was looking at garbage, sitting in garbage and I realized, I gotta get out of there as quickly as I could. But (Sigh) man, I can’t get those images out of my mind.

End of Teaser

Jim Daly: John, we’re obviously gonna be addressing a heavy topic today and I want to encourage parents to direct the attention of young children elsewhere for the next half hour. And for those that would want to write or send an e-mail about the fact that we’re gonna cover a topic like pornography and sexuality, I get it. I’ll save you the time, in the Christian community, we need to give our children and ourselves a healthy perspective on God’s design for human sexuality. I’m kinda tired of letting the world trample over what God has put in front of us kind of as His wedding present to us.

And I get it. I understand it, but I’m tellin’ you folks, pray for this moment, because when we talk about it, people will be touched and we will literally have hundreds if not thousands of people call us who are hurting. And that’s the goal for us today, is to speak to each one of you about this place which might be a hidden place in your heart that you’re not exposing to others. And let’s get down and deal with this so that we can honor our Lord and Savior.

John: Yeah, Jim, pornography is so prevalent. It’s so everywhere in the culture today, and men and boys struggle. Girls and many women struggle, as well. The numbers are tragic but it seems that a lot of folks would just say, “Oh, whatever.” It’s just you and the computer and you and the movie or whatever it is. They kind of dismiss the grab, the hold that pornography can have on a heart and a life.

Body:

Jim: Well, and let’s put some perspective on it, because research shows that almost one out of every 5 young adult women are viewing pornography and using pornography at least once a week. And for young men, that number is 7 out of 10. That should make everybody’s jaw drop and those are the numbers you’re referring to, John and we are going to discuss that today.

The brain science points to a correlation between pornography and addictive drugs. When you think about it, that’s how the brain chemistry is responding. Even though you know better and you’re desperate to stop it, there’s the compulsion there and it’s drawing you deeper and deeper.

Certainly that was the case for our guest today, Jonathan Daugherty, who grew up in a Christian home. He gave his heart to the Lord as a young boy and was active at church and I’m sure, doing all the outward things properly and being rewarded and getting the “atta boys” for that. But he was also hiding a deadly, spiritually deadly secret, a secret that almost destroyed him, almost destroyed his marriage and it will be an amazing discussion with him today. Jonathan, let me welcome you to “Focus on the Family.”

Mr. Jonathan Daugherty: Thanks so much. I’m glad to be with you.

Jim: You know, let me say this from the beginning. It’s hard. I can’t imagine being so vulnerable in saying this was my core struggle and this is what the Lord dealt with me about getting in front of a microphone, in front of an audience to speak. Why do you do it? What compels you to address this topic when, I think, most rational people would say, “Thank You, Lord for getting me out of that. Now I never want to talk about it again?”

Jonathan: Well, when I tell my story, one of the things that I like to say is, when I got to the point where I moved into what we call “vocational ministry,” doing this as a vocation, I didn’t want to initially. You know, we hear in the Christian community a lot of times people called into ministry, right? And I think those of us who are Christians understand that to mean that God starts prompting us in ways. He starts orchestrating things in our circumstances. He starts narrowing our focus. And when He started doing that in my life in 2002, I didn’t want to go in the direction He was wanting me to go, because His prompting, His call on my life was three words, “Tell your story.”

Jim: Oh.

Jonathan: And I thought, but I know my story. I like the stuff that’s happened post recovery, but I don’t necessarily want to tell all this stuff pre-recovery. So part of it was just understanding that God kept moving me in this direction.

Jim: Well, and I applaud you for going there because again, this is something that, as I said in the open, oftentimes we get criticism here, John, because we talk about this from time to time. And even that light touch in that regard, you know, we’ll receive criticism as to why we’re covering this topic.

Jonathan: Uh-hm.

Jim: It’s a painful one for many people. Before we get into your story, I just want to reinforce those numbers for those that might be just joining us right now. Seven in 10 young men say that they’re basically addicted to pornography, that you know, this is something that they do at least once a week. And one out of five young women say that that’s the situation they’re in. Is that accurate?

Jonathan: Well, I might not be the person to ask that in terms of a scientific standpoint, ‘cause you know, there’s probably people out in the audience that are saying, “Well, you know, 9 out of 10 statistics are made up,” you know, something like that. (Laughter) But the reality is I think anecdotally even, we can look around in our culture, not only just in the culture at large, we can look around in our churches and what we found in our ministry is, we start to hear these stories, it really supports those statistics. And we start realizing whatever the numbers are in actuality, what the effect is culturally and even within the church is being felt.

Jim: Well, and Jonathan, what that says to me and let me turn to the listener, that means many of you are in this spot and I don’t want to be that direct, but I need to be. We need to talk very openly about this so the Lord can do the work He needs to do in us. It starts with honesty, doesn’t it?

Jonathan: Yeah and one of the things that we think is so important and there’s not enough environments in which this can happen is people need to be in a place where they can tell their story, ‘cause there’s so much shame and secrecy and kind of darkness and even depression that’s associated with people who continue to go down the path of pornography, that just to even have a place where they feel like, could I tell that to someone else? Could I actually share that with someone? I think it’s on us to be the ones to say, yes, there are safe environments where you can tell your story. And we can talk a little bit about that later.

Jim: Well, we will and we’re gonna get to that, which to me [is] the punch line of the whole thing and how God worked in your life and that relief that you found eventually. But we need to start at the beginning.

Jim: So, where were you? What was the circumstance you were in when you were first introduced to pornography? What happened?

Jonathan: Well, I can only describe it as a traumatic event in my life. I was not expecting to see pornography. I don’t think any kid necessarily expects to see pornography.

Jim: How old were you?

Jonathan: I was 12-years-old and so I think it’s always a shocking experience. I’d spent the night at a friend’s house. We got up the next day. We’re playin’ out in the woods behind his house and he just says to me, “Hey, I wanted to show you somethin’.” Well, I’m a kid from Central Texas and it’s in the summertime and so, as we’re walkin’ out in this field, that he’s bookin’ towards this tree stump, I’m thinking, well, we’re gonna see a carcass, right? There’s gonna be something dead.

Jim: Yeah, right. (Laughing)

Jonathan: That’s what’s going through my 12-year-old mind. Ironically, I did end up seeing something dead. I ended up seeing something that started to produce death in my life, because he pulls this magazine out of this tree stump and I’m still clueless. He opens this magazine and it’s pornography and it’s like you’ve seen those movie scenes sometimes where all of a sudden everything gets blurry and stuff starts spinning and you hear weird music. That’s kinda how it felt for me in that moment, ‘cause it just hit me in my gut. I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t know what I was looking at. I didn’t know how to process that moment.

Jim: Did it create a conflict for you, also spiritually, because you’re coming from a Christian home and you understand this is not appropriate and all that conflict at that moment?

Jonathan: Yeah, I don’t know how much I understood at that moment about what was appropriate or not, because I had no clue about sex or anything.

Jim: So, you hadn’t had the talk yet or any of that.

Jonathan: But no, but here’s what did happen and this is where it kinda confirmed to me that I think intuitively we are all, since we are made in the image of God, we all bear a conscience. So whether or not we can explain something that might be outside of God’s design, we can still sense it. And so, even as a 12-year-old kid, as soon as that magazine opened, I felt this wave that I can only describe as kind of a mixture of guilt and fear come over me, I mean, like somebody punched me in the stomach, as if I needed to look over my shoulder, like something’s not right about this.

Jim: So, you felt, it really reached out and grabbed you.

Jonathan: Oh, yeah.

Jim: When you saw it, it got ya.

Jonathan: It was powerful in two ways, not only that kind of punch like guilt and fear, but it was powerful because I also felt like something woke up inside of me. Certainly I would discover that it’s sexuality. I mean, we’re made to respond in certain ways to images and things and it just overwhelmed me on every level. And so, that’s kind of where the secret started was in that field.

Jim: Yeah and you’ve written this book, Secrets: A True Story of Addiction, Infidelity and Second Chances. And let’s, I guess, uncover the secret of part of this. Why did it become a secret and what was secretive? You just lived in a quiet place. You never exposed this to anybody and what was the activity like as you continued through 13-, 14-, 15-years-old?

Jonathan: Yeah, great question and the original reason for the secret and I think it’s the original reason that a lot of kids have for hiding this stuff is not because they go into it thinking, “Hey, I want to keep a secret.” They keep the secret because they don’t know where to share it. Where does a 12-year-old kid in even a Christian home sometimes, feel safe enough to initiate that conversation with his parents?

Here I was. I mean, I had good godly parents. There was no abuse or anything, you know, out of the ordinary. I mean, I had a great childhood growin’ up. But imagine [a] 12-year-old kid, now introduced information he has no ability to process, even in the best of homes is that necessarily a conversation that a 12-year-old kid’ll [take the] responsibility to initiate?

I had no idea where to take this and so, then when you talk about 13-, 14-, 15, as I started kinda adding into this my own pursuit and discovery of pornography and other activities, it became a place that I could escape to and it was more intentional in my secrecy. So, originally it was just more like a path of least resistance. I don’t know what to do with this. What does a scared kid do? He hides. Later on when I started pursuing it, then it was like, well, I don’t really want anybody to know about this. So, it was more active secrecy later on.

Jim: But also shame I would think.

Jonathan: Absolutely.

Jim: Sure and we want to get to that. Unfortunately, we’ll get to the worst part of that and how it impacted in your 20s. But in this stage, how did that addiction or how did that desire for pornography, how did it keep you from authentic relationship? Can you look back now and say, it was preventing me in developing in some healthy ways? And what would that look like?

Jonathan: Uh-hm. it’s interesting, because when I started my recovery later on in my life, looking back to 12-years-old and kind of the progression of the pornography and all that. I realized that I had essentially stopped growing emotionally at 12-years-old. It’s almost like it created this divergent path. It took me down this area where I was starting to spend emotional energy attaching to pornography which was preventing me from learning really how you attach in a healthy way to your parents and to your siblings and to your friends.

Jonathan: Now none of this is conscious in a 14-year-old’s mind, but that’s exactly what was happening. And I think where it really manifests is I became an expert liar. And there’s no way to build a healthy relationship if you’re always lying to people.

Jim: So, it kinda honed a negative skill.

Jonathan: It did and I think underneath the lying was this paralyzing fear. What if my parents found out? What if my pastor found out? What if, what if, what if? You know, you go down this “what if” path and nothing in the “what if” path ends well. You know, the more you ask what if, it always ends poorly.

Jim: How were you in your relationship with the Lord at this time? I mean, you’re coming from a Christian home. You’re going to church on Sunday I would assume.

Jonathan: Uh-hm.

Jim: And you’re going to Sunday school and you’re hearing things and you’re hearing about purity, especially at 13, 14, 15. You know, I’m sure your parents were interested in where are you at? Are you noticing girls? Those are common discussions I have with my teen boys.

Jonathan: Oh, absolutely.

Jim: And how were you managing that environment and knowing more about what God expected of you at that time?

Jonathan: I think it was a big conflict and the reason I say that is, it felt very much like a roller coaster, because I was desiring to grow deeper in my relationship with God, but I was paralyzed in knowing how to process and handle this whole budding secret that’s going on. And so, I felt very conflicted. In fact, when I describe it, I call it [that] I became a “divided person.”

Jim: Right.

Jonathan: So, I kinda had this core element of myself that was starting to get more encased in shame and secrecy and sin and then I had what I called “an image” that I would project, based on the context I was in. Well, I had my school image. I had my church image. And what I did was, I learned how to read people and figure out what do they want? Okay and I’ll just be that.

So, I kinda became this chameleon and that really prevented me from, I think understanding not only authentic relationships with other people, but even growing in an authentic relationship with God, because I would pretend in my closet by myself with God that we’re building this really close relationship, while I’m lying to everybody else out around me. And God’s Word even says that doesn’t jive. You’re not actually building this deep intimate relationship with Me is you think you’re gonna lie to everybody else.

John: Hm, well, Jonathan Daugherty is our guest today on “Focus on the Family” and he’s captured the conflict and some of the challenges that he’s already expressed here and much, much more in his book, Secrets: A True Story of Addiction, Infidelity and Second Chances. And we’ll encourage you to call us for a copy of that or if this is a struggle for you, we have a team of caring Christian counselors and we would be happy for you to have an initial consultation with them. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY; 800-232-6459 or online you’ll find help at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

And Jonathan, thinkin’ about your family, your parents are Christians, but you just felt like you couldn’t share this with your dad. I mean, what was your relationship with your dad like at this point?

Jonathan: You know, it’s interesting, because every time I think of my dad, there has never been a man that I have loved or respected more than my father. And yet, there was still sort of like this disconnect, almost as if you took opposite ends of a magnet and tried to push ‘em together. We [didn’t have] a friction relationship. It was more like just a disconnect relationship.

And bless his heart, I mean, he tried. I learned later from my mother that he would spend nights just praying how do I connect with my son? And I can relate to that. I’ve got a son myself and sometimes it’s hard to connect with boys. And I think part of it was, I just felt like we could connect intellectually, but he didn’t know how to express emotion. He didn’t know how to draw me into an emotional connection. Plus there were, I think were some other factors, too that can’t be totally dismissed. You know, I went the first seven days of my life without being physically touched. I was a “bubble boy” (Chuckling) basically.

John: Uh-hm.

Jonathan: I was in an ICU and all this because I tried to breathe too early. And so, we know some now and some of the power of physical touch and so that’s even another factor that has been an issue with my ability to connect, so it was on both sides I think, that he just didn’t know quite how to draw me into emotional connection and I wasn’t necessarily willing to open myself up to that.

Jim: Well, and in that dad role, I think we’re spending a bit of time on here, because many of us are fathers with teen boys. Thinking back now, is there a way that he could’ve connected with you that maybe many dads listening could attempt with their 12-, 13-, 15-year-old young men right now? I mean, what can a dad, he’s thinkin’ that that’s me. I’m that dad. What can he do today that’ll be different that would’ve connected with you as a teen boy?

Jonathan: I think one of the biggest things and this is where I feel like fathers have trouble with this, is tell him your story.

Jim: And be vulnerable.

Jonathan: Just tell him your story. Yes, tell him the honest story. Now you can do this in age-appropriate ways that aren’t going to introduce him, maybe, to material that he’s not ready to process.

But what I’ve done with my son is throughout the stages is, “Hey, let me tell you what I was like when I was 12. And let me tell you some stories from then. Let me tell you what I was like when I was 14.” And to just be able to let him see, well, dad was 12 at one point in time. Dad was 14. And there’s an identification there, too.

But the other thing, too, is then to be able to speak into the next stage that he’s stepping into. The reason that myself and so many other teens growing up struggle with all the things they’re introduced to is because they’re constantly being introduced to them without any preparation.

So, if you’ve got a 9-year-old boy, guess what? You need to already be preparing him for the body changes that are gonna be coming in the next few years. Also even average age of first-time exposure to pornography is 9- to 11-years-old. So, even at 8-years-old, you need to start giving kind of a high level just, “Hey, there’s some stuff out there that you don’t need to be seeing, that it’s not healthy for your mind or your eyes.”

So, start to introduce or prepare them for that next level, so that they’re not totally taken off guard and you create that feedback loop that says, “And there’s nothing you could ever tell me about what you’ve seen or what you’ve engaged that you would ever be in trouble for.”

Jim: Jonathan, that is such good advice and let me turn to you, the listener. Here at Focus, we want to support families who are dealing with these tough issues. We have a free pdf download called “Digital Pornography Addition: What You Need to Know and Where You Can Find Help.” That’s available to you. You just need to access it here at Focus.

Many children and teens get trapped by pornography when they click the wrong link and it pops up right in their face. So, we need to help them, as you’re saying, Jonathan, so that they know how to respond to this. Let’s put a link on our website, John, so people can get this free download.

John: Yeah, that’s a great idea and you can find that at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio or call us if you would like. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Jim: And I want to take another swing at this, but again, your relationship with the Lord, where you were at in trying to, I guess, hold onto these opposing forces in your heart, in your soul. Describe that for us. How did you rationalize going to church on Sunday? You were learning more about sexual impurity, which is, you know, throughout Scripture in different ways–

Jonathan: Uh-hm.

Jim: –stated that this is displeasing to the Lord. How did you encounter those Scriptures or that Sunday school message and process that as a 15-, 16-, 17-year-old?

Jonathan: I think the biggest disconnect I had was, you know, the Bible says that Jesus was full of grace and truth. And I had a real heavy leaning toward the truth side. And I think I had this overblown sense of irrational or unhealthy fear of God in the sense of like, God is angry with me and ready to punish me for the things that I’m doing.

And so, grace was kind of very small on this scale, because I’m thinking I know I’m guilty. I know I’m doing these things. I know that I am doing stuff in the dark that He doesn’t approve of. And so, I was trying to perform in such a way that again, others would find me acceptable. And so, I’m wrestling in my soul of, well, Jesus had this perfect completeness of truth and grace. And if I’m to be like Christ and walk as He walked, why do I have this overblown sense of truth and hardly any grace in how I’m living my life? And that’s why I think the shame just overwhelmed me. I’m living in this sense of, I’m not worth much.

Jim: Well, and that’s a powerful statement coming from a teen young person, boy or girl, when they feel like they’re not measuring up. They’re not getting it and they don’t know how to get out of the pit. In fact, this got so heavy and such a burden for you, it was creating depression and you were even contemplating suicide, correct?

Jonathan: Uh-hm.

Jim: Well, how old were you when those thoughts began to enter your head and how did you process that?

Jonathan: I think the thought entered my head more along the lines of just feeling like maybe it would be better it I just wasn’t around. I think at first it wasn’t necessarily suicide or in the sense of, “Hey, I really want to follow through on this,” but probably around 16-, or 17-years-old. It wouldn’t be till I was almost 24, 25, that I started truly contemplating following through on that.

But see, you had about a seven- or eight-year period there where that was the common thought spinning in my head is, I’ve got such a double life going on there that it might just be better for everyone, myself included, if I just didn’t exist anymore.

Jim: Ah, that is powerful. Jonathan, you have been so vulnerable, you know, with this part of the story. I appreciate it and I know many people are moving closer to whatever they’re listening to—the radio, the podcast, the smartphone—because you’re speaking to all of our hearts about this incredible vulnerability. And I would like to come back next time and complete kind of the dark part of the story, but then talk about how God began to heal your situation and bring you to a better place, because that’s where everyone wants to be in that deeper relationship.

But what I love about your story is, it all starts with honesty. You know, when Jesus was in front of Pontius Pilate, he said, “Are you a king?” “Well, they say I am.” But He ended up saying, in essence, “I’m here to testify to the truth.” And that includes this kind of an area, that when Christ enters your heart, He’s shining that light to say, come on. Come with Me. Let’s know the truth together. Who are you really? And let’s begin to rebuild those broken places in your soul. That’s what you experienced and I’m looking forward, if you’re willing, to come back next time and put the God part of the story into this. Can we do it?

Jonathan: I’d be delighted to.

Closing:

John: And that same kind of vulnerability you’ve heard today from Jonathan is captured in his book, Secrets: A True Story of Addiction, Infidelity and Second Chances. And we’ll recommend that you get a copy of that, maybe for a men’s group or a Bible study at your church.

Jim: John, this book is such a valuable resource that I want to make it available to as many families as possible. That’s how much we believe in it. If you send us a gift for any amount, we’ll send you a complimentary copy as our way of saying thank you for investing in the ministry here at Focus.

You know, pornography is decimating families today and we can’t afford to look the other way or hope our children won’t be exposed to it. It’s going to happen most likely.

Parents, you need to address this topic with your young children and warn them about the dangers they’re gonna face not too far in the future. Men, we need to protect ourselves from this temptation by having computer filters and accountability with our spouses, for sure and I would suggest, also accountability with other godly men.

And if you are struggling in this area like Jonathan was or flirting with danger by watching in appropriate movies or TV shows or whatever, I want to urge you to contact Focus on the Family today. Don’t delay, ‘cause you’ll get too busy or at least, you’ll be talked into believing you’re too busy and this probably is the most important thing you need to deal with.

We want to help you get back on track with God and honor him and especially given He died for you and for those sins that are in all of us. We want you to have a life that’s pleasing to the Lord and we can put you in touch with a Christian counselor here at Focus. We have local referrals, as well, probably a couple of people in your town or city. We’ll do whatever we can to help you find that healing and restoration. So, don’t delay; get the help you need today.

John: Thenumber is 800-232-6459. Ask to speak with someone on our counseling team. They’ll take your name and number and give you a call back just as soon as they can. Again, that’s 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. You can also find out about resources regarding pornography addiction at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

And those resources include a CD or a download of our conversation today, including what we’ll have next time for you and you’ll see Jonathan’s book, as well, Secrets and that free digital pornography addiction download that we mentioned.

Please give generously to this family ministry so we can continue reaching out to help hurting families with programs of hope and healing like this one and with the resources I’ve mentioned.

And coming up next time on “Focus on the Family,” Jonathan explains how pornography nearly destroyed his marriage.

Excerpt:

Mr. Jonathan Daugherty: Because it felt to her like she had given me the most precious delicate part of who she is and I decided to just throw it in the trash and that just crushed her.

End of Excerpt

John: I’m John Fuller and on behalf of Focus president, Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for listening. Join us again next time, as we once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!