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Finding Strength in Each Other’s Differences (Part 1 of 2)

Finding Strength in Each Other’s Differences (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion based on their book Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, Bill and Pam Farrel explain how a husband and wife can understand and appreciate one another's differences. (Part 1 of 2)

Original Air Date: April 12, 2011

Opening:

Teaser:

Bill Farrel: My goal is to listen to her for 30 minutes straight, because if I can listen 30 minutes without throwing in my male perspective, she’s happier and she likes me better–

Pam Farrel: Yeah–

Bill: –and we both win.

Pam: –like all of a sudden, he gets more handsome. His ideas are more brilliant, just because he’s listening.

Jim Daly: Wow.

End of Teaser

John Fuller: (Laughing) Well, if your wife thought you’re more handsome and brilliant just because you listen to her for 30 minutes, wouldn’t that be wonderful? We’re gonna help you learn how to do that on today’s “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and we’ve got a great program for you today.

Jim: John, you think it’s that easy? We have discovered the secret to marriage after all–

John: Absolutely.

Jim: –these years. (Chuckling)

John: Listen for 30 minutes.

Jim: Listen and you’re gonna be considered brilliant. No doubt it’s a good first step. I mean, it’s gotta be, but men and women are simply so different that we often don’t hear each other and that’s the point and it’s, I think, usually the guy’s ears are turned off quicker than the wife’s ears. God has uniquely wired us with those differences and in fact, it’s our opposite traits that we find so attractive, that typically lead us to our mate. I mean, she or he possesses those things that we want in ourselves. And with God’s help, we can find ways to celebrate those differences and actually make our marriage stronger as we learn to listen to each other, which is the key, how to complete one another and I think that’s a wonderful, biblical perspective.

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Jim: And John, we’re coming back to a great program with Bill and Pam Farrel about finding strength in each other’s differences, like I just mentioned, instead of letting our differences divide us. And the Farrels have written a number of books, including Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti. They’re co-founders of Love-Wise, an organization that’s been helping couples build lasting relationships, for the past 30, 35 years through their books and conferences.

John: Yeah, this is some pretty engaging conversation and if you don’t have time right now, you can get an extended download with both today and tomorrow’s content. We’ll link over there from our website and we also have it available through our mobile app or on CD. Here’s Bill and Pam Farrel now, explaining how, indeed, men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti, on today’s “Focus on the Family.”

Body:

Jim: I gotta ask you. Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti.

Bill: Uh-hm.

Jim: What in the world does that mean? (Laughter) How am I a waffle?

Bill: Well, you know, we started doin’ the research early on in helping couples, ’cause we could tell that these differences between men and women are a big issue. And we found that most people aren’t really interested in the research language. I mean, it’s like–

Jim: Yeah.

Bill: –computers, you know. Most people, they don’t want to know the in’s and out’s of their computer; they just want to know how to use it.

Pam: Yeah.

Jim: Right.

Bill: Well, relationships are the same way. So, we started saying, “God, would You give us a word picture that would help men and women know how to work with these differences that You’ve built into them?” So, it actually came out of a meeting with a couple, okay. And this guy called me up and he said, “Bill, can I bring my wife in. I think she’s broken.” (Laughter) You know, so I was intrigued.

John: Wow. (Laughter)

Bill: It was just like, “Yeah, bring her in.” (Laughter)

Jim: You’re not supposed to laugh. (Laughter)

John: Sorry. It just struck me as funny. (Laughter)

Jim: He’s not well trained. (Laughter)

Bill: So, they came to my office and to his credit, he’s married to one of the most verbal women I’ve ever met. It was just amazing. They walked in my office, sat down. He looked at her and said, “Go ahead.” (Laughter)

John: Now you’re laughing.

Bill: And on that cue–

Jim: ‘Cause I can picture it.

Bill: –she started talking. Yeah, she just started goin’. And he looked at me and looked at her and looked back at me and said, “She does this all the time.”

Pam: ‘Cause she was jumping from subject to subject to subject to subject to subject to subject. Help! (Laughter)

Bill: And it was one of those moments where I said, “Well, listen, think about her conversation like a plate of spaghetti. There’s a bunch of noodles on it. All those noodles are touching each other and as soon as she’s touched every noodle on the plate, she’ll be done.”

Pam: Now …

Bill: So, he did, you know, he just kind of leaned in and listened and 55 minutes later

Jim: Oh.

Bill: –she ended.

Jim: That was a big plate of spaghetti. (Laughter)

Pam: Yeah, she was like, “Ah! That’s awesome. Okay, if I’m like spaghetti, what’s he like?”

Bill: And I said, “Well, you know, we’re out of time for today, but we’ll meet in a couple of weeks.” (Laughter) Yeah, ’cause John, you can tell, like I–

Pam: Ah.

Bill: –I haven’t really found the picture yet. So, I said, “Guys, you gotta help me. I got two weeks. I need a picture of how men process information and it has to be food.”

Jim: Oh.

Bill: So, my sons were making toaster waffles one day and I said, “I think that might work.” The way us guys process information, it looks like the top of a waffle–a bunch of boxes. All those boxes are separated from one another by walls. And the way we as men, process life is, the first issue goes in the first box, second issue goes in the second box, third issue goes in the third box and so on. And we spend time in one box at a time and one box only. So, when a man is at work, he is at work.

Jim: Yeah.

Bill: When a man’s in the yard doin’ yard work, he’s doing yard work. When a man’s watching TV, he’s watching TV. And because of this single focus that men bring, we tend to be problem solvers by nature. We go into a box, figure out the problem, assign a solution, move on. And if we get to a box and we see what the problem is and we don’t know what the solution is, we move on.

Jim: I knew you were gonna say that (Laughter); we just keep movin’.

Bill: Yeah, because we like to focus on things we know what to do with.

Pam: It’s compartmentalizing. That the fancy word for it, but hey, it looks like the top of a waffle–

Bill: Uh-hm.

Jim: Now we–

Pam: –like compartments.

Jim: –someone might be listening and thinking, “That’s not me. We’re the opposite.” Does that happen? Does it always fit this way?

Bill: Well, I mean, you know, we’re oversimplifying the issue.

Pam: But it does go back to estrogen and testosterone and we’re hard wired by God. It’s Genesis 1. God made us male and female.

Bill: Right.

Pam: So, some of the differences are hard wired in because of our biology.

Bill: And the reason why people say what you just brought up is that it’s affected by everything. So, it’s affected by our spiritual maturity, the homes we grow up in, our communication skill.

Pam: Our personality and motivation.

Bill: Right, the experience we’ve had in our education and career, it’s affected by everything. But University of California Irvine just recently put out a report that said, men have exponentially more grey matter in their brain than women do. And women have exponentially more white matter in their brain than men do. And they describe the grey matter as little places of computation and white matter’s where all the connections in the brain are.

Jim: Uh-huh.

Bill: So, women have more connections in their brain and men have more places to do computation. So, it’s a physical difference that affects the way we process information. But like everything else in life, it’s affected by our growth. It’s affected by our maturity. It’s affected by our life experience.

Pam: We like to think of it as how a computer works. There’s the hardware on the computer and then, you add the software. And the software’s where the differences and the nuances like we’re a little bit different than that come in.

Jim: With the box analogy for the male brain, why is it that women find some of that particularly difficult, some of those boxes particularly difficult?

Bill: Well, I think it’s because of a general misconception we all go into marriage with. And I’ll just state it personally for me. When I married Pam, really what I was hoping for was somebody who looked like a woman, but processed life like a man.

John: How common is that, though?

Jim: Pretty common.

Bill: Well, I see it everywhere. And it isn’t that we deliberately thought that going in, it’s just kind of the expectation we carried in. And I see with women, they struggle with, I want a rugged man who interacts with me like my girlfriends. And so, we have this misconception going in that we didn’t even know we had, but suddenly, you get in the mix of life and you start to realize it.

Jim: You gotta unpack that one a bit–a rugged man who interacts with me like my girlfriends.

Pam: Yeah, sensitive and caring and all those wonderful traits that we love, but we also want him to be able to slay a dragon and you know, we love it when all those things come together perfectly, but you know, I’m the mom of three boys and with slaying dragons comes a whole bunch of dirty white gym socks and that’s the part that we didn’t anticipate, you know.

Jim: When we go into marriage, especially early newlyweds, they do have that expectation, don’t they? They haven’t learned yet that the brain chemistry is different.

Pam: Uh-hm.

Jim: And many couples, 25 years married, haven’t figured this out. And that’s why today’s program is so important. But what would you say for that new couple, that they’re tryin’ to understand that. Yeah, my husband, my new husband doesn’t listen to me. (Laughter) What do you say?

Bill: Well, I’ll tell you what I wish somebody had told me the first year of marriage. I wish somebody had told me, “Bill, learn to take turns.” ‘Cause I went into marriage thinking, we’re gonna develop this communication rhythm between the two of us and we’re just gonna get in sync with each other and most of our conversations are just gonna be awesome for the two of us. And then we’re gonna make decisions together. We’re gonna be in sync on our decisions. And I was lookin’ for kinda this perfect unity and–

John: On your terms? (Laughter)

Bill: –well, I just thought it was a general principle of the universe, John (Laughter), you know, that it could be found and it could be lived out. And my relationship with Pam revolutionized when I realized, you know what we really need to do is take turns. But there are conversations in our home that are awesome for Pam, not so awesome for me. But there’s other conversations in our home that are really good for me, not so awesome for Pam. But when we learned to take turns and give each other freedom to do that, both of our needs get met over time.

Jim: Did you find that one of you tend to complete the other’s sentences more than the other? (Chuckling) Was that ever a problem for you?

Pam: I definitely complete sentences more often. (Laughter) Yeah, Bill will start and I’ll just like take off on it and add a paragraph or two. I think for me, the thing that helped probably save our marriage was knowing that there’s some boxes on every man’s waffle that don’t really have words. Some of ’em have phrases or sounds, like “Uur!” “Hooah!” You know, we were drivin’ our boys.

Bill: He just went, “Aah!” And I went, “What’s up?” He goes, “Nothin’. I just wanted to say that.” (Laughter)

Pam: All righty then! (Laughter) But for me, it was really realizing that some of the boxes on every man’s waffle are absolutely positively blank. There are no thoughts. There are words. There’s like nothin’ goin’ on in those boxes. And guys go to those boxes to rest and recharge

Bill: And yet, for us guys, we’ve been doin’ that since we were little boys. So, like we don’t see anything strange about it. We don’t think there’s anything unusual about it. And then we get married and our wives start pointing this out to us and acting like something’s wrong or something’s broken.

And I remember sitting in my office a lot with couples, trying to explain to women that her husband has this blank box and there are times when he’s thinking nothing.

Pam: And she’s like, No! There’s no way! You have to be thinking somethin’.”

Bill: And it’s a hard thing for them to accept, because they don’t experience it.

John: They think there’s some sort of rejection or something else going on behind the scenes. I mean, if he really loved me, he’d be talking right now.

Pam: Uh-hm.

John: Right, is that common?

Pam: Or what’s he thinkin’ about? I mean, he doesn’t want to share; what’s goin’ on? There’s like this–

Jim: He’s hiding something.

Pam: –yeah, uh-hm.

John: Our guests today on “Focus on the Family,” hosted by Jim Daly are Bill and Pam Farrel and we’re talking about their book, Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti and this is pretty interesting stuff, Jim. I mean, I–

Jim: It is, John.

John: –I’m really enjoying the humor that you all bring to what could be a pretty tense (Laughter) kind of a realization in a couple’s lives.

Jim: Hey, Pam, we were just talking about it, but talk about this box jumping concept and how we do that.

Pam: And you know, one of the things that’s like so important I think, for a woman to realize is, that guys have to move from box to box to box. We’re like spaghetti. How our mind works, it looks more like a plate of spaghetti. Social scientists call it “integration.” If you follow one noodle around a plate of spaghetti, it looks like it touches pretty much every other noodle on the plate. And that’s the way we women are wired. We travel through life making emotional connections to the people and things that matter most to us.

And because of that, we’re really like awesome at multitasking. I mean, we can be on the phone with our girlfriend; we’re listenin’ to “Focus on the Family.” We’re like, “Honey, tune in; it’ll really help you.” At the same time, we’re writing our Christmas card list and our grocery list and our to-do list for our husband and our eight kids, as we’re tellin’ the kids in sign language to “Quit fighting! Can’t you see I’m on the phone?” Got a load in the washer, a load in the dryer, we’re cooking dinner. We open and shut the over door with our foot. I mean, we are amazing multitaskers.

John: Wow!

Pam: That’s how–

Jim: That’s pretty good.

Pam: –we are wired. (Laughter) And so, in conversation, that’s the way we approach life, as well, which is very different than the way guys approach conversation.

One of the things that helped me with Bill is to realize that he has to move from box to box. He’s not like a plate of spaghetti that can just jump, jump, jump, jump, jump. And so, when I want to talk to him, I say something like, “Okay, I just need to noodle around. Are you ready for me to download my files?” So, then he can get in his “listening” box and that’s all he does then. But it was really important for me to realize that, because sometimes I would like pour out my heart and he’s watchin’ football. You know what? He didn’t remember a lot of that conversation, you know? Or he’s in front of the–

Bill: Yeah, that–

Pam: –computer.

Bill: –that response, “What was that, Hon?” (Laughter) Doesn’t really endear her heart to me! (Laughing)

Jim: Yeah! (Laughter)

Pam: Yeah. Or he’s in front–

Jim: “You don’t love me.”

Pam: –exactly (Laughter) or he’s in front of the computer, workin’ on his sermon or workin’ on some problem and I’ll be sharing some, you know, calendar thing with the kids. And then an hour later, I’ll be talking again and he’s like, “Well, you didn’t tell me that.” “Yeah, I did. Don’t you remember?” No, because he was in a different box. And so, when we women realize that guys have different boxes, we can simply push “pause” and say, “Honey, when you’re ready to move boxes, I’d love to talk to you (Laughter) about something.” And that will save a whole lot of trauma and drama at your house.

Jim: Yeah, we’re laughing about this, but it really, this is one of the core sources of conflict in marriage–

Bill: Absolutely.

Jim: –communication. And it takes, unfortunately, it takes a long time sometimes–

Bill: And–.

Jim: –for couples to figure this out.

Bill: –let me make an appeal to men who may be listening. You know, we tend to view conversation as, there’s a topic on the table. We’re lookin’ for an answer. And as soon as we get the answer, everybody’s gonna be good.

Jim: Right.

Bill: Well, most females don’t work that way, because their life’s always going. They’re always thinking about the next thing and the next thing and the next thing and it’s all connected together. And when you have your whole life in front of you all the time, you can’t solve it all. And so, it creates this need in them to be valued and cherished and to say, “You know what? I’m fascinated with you. I don’t necessarily understand you all the time, but I’m fascinated with you.” And when we give that message, our wives kinda settle into the relationship and they find a sense of security and like, “I can do this with you.”

And as men, we tend to not like them having that need. We just want ’em to get to the point. We want them to [be like], “You know, can’t you just figure it out? Can’t we just make a decision? Why do you have to keep talking about this? And “Didn’t we talk about it yesterday? Why are you bringing it up again today?” And we interrupt that whole need in their lives.

And as men, if we can say, you know, our job is to stay fascinated with our wives and to stay curious about our wives and to solve issues when they say, “This needs to solved.”

Jim: Well, let’s talk about conflict, because I think, if we can today give a tool in the hands of couples that are struggling, resolving conflict would be certainly one of the best things we could do. How do we do that? How do we give them something to help them in their conflict?

Pam: Well, one of the things to keep in mind is, because we women are like spaghetti, that means when something is on our heart, we really do need to download those files. We need to be able to travel through and talk through and talk through and talk through and talk through whatever that issue is. And sometimes that can get a little laborious for the husband to feel like, “I have to listen to this again?” But it really will do him a favor if he does allow her to just travel through and share all of her emotions, especially if it’s like all at once and she can just dump. And that will help her not be so emotionally volatile, because it calms her down.

Bill: Well, like in a simple way, you know, when a wife comes home and says, “Honey, you know, how’s your truck going? I thought about your truck today, ’cause well, I drove by your favorite truck store, ’cause I was on my way to get an outfit, ’cause there was a sale goin’ on down the street. And you said we had a little bit of extra money and I found this outfit that I knew was gonna look really good on me, because well. ’cause it was my color. ‘Cause last year, I learned all the colors that look good on you, what colors don’t look good on you. And this was in my palette and so, I knew I was gonna look really good in it. I was gonna surprise you with it, because I love when you go, ‘Oh, Baby, you look really good in that.’ And so and you know, to help you, it reminded me of the color Mrs. Obama was wearing, you know, a couple years ago. Remember when she went from the inaugural ball to inaugural ball and she changed in between each of ’em. I think it was the second one. She was wearing kind of that yellow dress and (Laughter) it was kind of that color and–“

Jim: I’m gettin’ tired. (Laughter)

Bill: –yeah. See and (Laughter) they get rolling on this and as guy’s, our eyes glaze over and we start to feel like we can’t succeed at this and so, we bail out of the conversation or they get upset and they say, “Can’t you shorten this? I mean, where are you goin’ with this?” And they’re always drivin’ their wife to the point.

Pam: But if they woulda hung in there just a couple more sentences, she woulda said something like, “Oh, that yellow dress was, you know, really a pretty color on the President’s wife, because it was kinda like that color of yellow. Oh, you know, that the Olympians were wearing, you know, from that German team that had the yellow stripe down it? And wow, that was really sad when those Olympians were like racing, but she fell at the very end. And it was just so sad. It was like our friends. Some of them, their marriages are just falling. And I think we should just stop and pray for our friends right now, Honey.” And while we’re praying, he’s asking, “So, what about my truck? Didn’t this start with talkin’ about my truck?” (Laughter)

Jim: Box one.

Bill: Yeah, box one.

Pam: So, he’s been frantically trying to keep up with us. But the good news is, she was just two sentences done and now she feels like, “Wow, he really listened to me. He cares. He cares about our friends. He cares about our life. He’s praying.” I mean, he’s winning big bonus point[s].”

John: This is so not normal for a lot of guys.

Bill: Can you change that, John? A lot of guys? (Laughter) Ninety percent of guys? This is not normal.

John: I’m thinking about a conversation I had with Dena not terribly different than that (Laughter) just a few weeks ago.

Jim: Okay. (Laughter)

John: She called me while I was in my work box.

Pam: Oh, yeah, that’s always a challenge.

John: And I mean, we’ve tried to learn that, that’s not a good thing.

Bill: Right.

Pam: Uh-hm.

John: And she started going on and I said, “What’s the point?” (Laughter)

Pam: Oh, you made points with that one! (Laughing)

John: She rightly said, “Well, I’m sorry to have wasted so much of your valuable time.” (Laughter) And we had some unpackin’ to do there, because (Laughter)–

Jim: True confession, John. (Laughter)

John: –well, you know, the conflict–

Pam: That was honest.

John: –came because I was in a box–

Pam: Uh-hm.

John: –and it wasn’t a listen box.

Jim: Right.

John: It was a “here at work” box. I’m solvin’ problems; I’m moving on. Got lots to do. And she was communicating and I blew it. I mean, I just didn’t listen, and gauge, oh, she needs me to just pause and listen. So, I heard–

Bill: Now …

John: –you say, taking turns, Bill.

Bill: Well, can I be bold enough to say that you probably both mishandled the situation?

Pam: Right, ’cause I learned early on that, that happened to us a lot, because when I have a thought, I need to share it with the whole world. And I interrupted Bill all the time. (Laughter) And so, I learned.

John: So, you were calling to share thoughts–

Pam: Yeah.

John: –frequently there at the beginning.

Pam: And it really interrupted his process, working and all that. He was a pastor and so, I said, “Okay, what if I just call once a day? I’ll like save it all up on a half a piece of paper

John: Make notes.

Pam: –make notes.” And he’s like, “Okay, that’s good. Then I’ll just get that listening box out and once a day [listen]. And then things started to really ramp up as the kids got older. And so, actually I have a file. It’s called the “Ask Bill File.” And I collect things all week and then we have one big business meeting and really get all the stuff out. But if it’s an emotional thing and I really need to talk to him right then, I’ll say, “Okay, Hon, do you have like five minutes? It’s probably five minutes, maybe 10. It’s kind of a big deal. Can you clear your plate–

John: Hm.

Pam: –shift and listen to me?”

Bill: And notice–

Pam: And that helps.

Bill: –she gave an introduction. That’s what us guys need. If we’re gonna jump from the work box to a relationship discussion, we need an introduction, ’cause then we’ll shift. But if you catch us before the shift, we’re almost always ineffective.

Jim: You touched on a couple of helpful points there though. Again, if a couple is struggling with this, they’re not communicating well, you talked about keeping a file, maybe it’s a list.

Pam: The “Ask Bill File,” yeah. (Laughter)

Jim: But is that something that you actually practically did?

Pam: Oh, we do and we still do it to this–

Jim: You still do it?

Pam: –day, because our offices are now next to each other. And so, now I’ll just sometimes shout from my office, ‘Oh, da, da, da, da, da,” just ’cause a thought goes over my mind. Now that’s really not helpful. (Laughter)

John: And you’re checkin’ the score saying, “Uh-huh, uh-huh.” (Laughter)

Bill: Usually I’m thinking, “I just heard her voice. I was probably supposed to hear something.”

Jim: Yeah.

Pam: “And I have no idea what I’m supposed (Laughter) to remember.”

Jim: Pretty soon, you’re gonna be putting a big hole in that wall. (Laughter)

Bill: And again, the key to this whole thing, you know, because we started off about conflict. I mean, this is how a lot of conflicts start. It’s not that there was a huge issue on the table. It’s that we responded naturally, assumed our spouse was gonna react well and it didn’t happen.

Pam: And so, we take offense at that, thinking that they don’t love us. They don’t care about us. They don’t value us. When really, they were just kind of functioning in the way that we were hard wired by God.

Bill: Yeah.

Pam: And so, we have to compensate for those differences and accept those differences. That’s really what the Bible says in Romans.

Bill: Romans 15:7 says, “Accept one another then, just as Christ accepted you in order to bring praise to God.” And in these areas of gender differences, acceptance is really the key. But I accept that Pam’s different than me and will always be different than me. And rather than try to change her so she operates more like I do, if I can learn to take turns and accept the way she does things, our relationship goes much, much better.

Jim: Well, and sometimes it’s just that intensity. I think for example, sometimes men struggle allowing a woman to finish her sentences.

Bill: Right.

Jim: I think that’s pretty common.

Bill: Oh, yeah.

Jim: Or to lead in the–

Bill: Right.

Jim: –the conversation.

Bill: Right.

Jim: What advice do you have there for the guys in that case?

Bill: Well, the first thing is, we have to see the value in letting her talk more. Because again, it doesn’t necessarily meet our need. But like, one of the things we point out in the book is that men and women relieve stress very differently. And women tend to relieve stress by talking through all the stuff involved. I mean, it’s like I like to describe it as, it’s like a great big meatball comes flying out of the sky and it lands on her plate of spaghetti and it sends noodles flying everywhere. So, she has to go collect all the noodles and get ’em back on the plate.

But now she has to integrate the meatball, because it’s become part of her life. And so, she has to figure out why is this here? Why did God bring it into our life? What does this say about me? What does it say about you? What does it say about us? And there’s all these issues attached to i

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Pastor Dave Carder offers couples practical advice for protecting their marriages from adultery in a discussion based on his book Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them. (Part 2 of 2)

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Balancing Gender Differences in Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Robert and Pamela Crosby help married couples understand and celebrate their gender differences so that they can enjoy a stronger bond and deeper intimacy. Our guests offer practical tips for improved communication, successful conflict resolution and offering affirmation to your spouse. (Part 1 of 2)

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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