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Getting a Handle on Your Family Finances (Part 1 of 2)

Getting a Handle on Your Family Finances (Part 1 of 2)

Offering his expert advice on money management, radio host Dave Ramsey explains how couples can avoid conflict by negotiating a budget, and how they can teach their children wise financial principles. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: March 10, 2011

John Fuller: On today’s Focus on the Family, Dave Ramsey has some advice for you, especially if you’re having some financial difficulties.

Dave Ramsey: Guys, you need to step up. She needs an extra three to six non-sexual hugs a day. Some of you guys need to look up non-sexual.

Audience: Laughter

John: Well, now that’s relationship advice and it’s coming from a financial expert, but that intriguing combination is what we’re featuring for you on today’s Focus on The Family with Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Hey, John, the past few years have been, uh, quite the financial roller coaster for most people. And, uh, I would say, especially for families, uh, and small business owners. And that has had a big impact on marriages. We’re hearing it from folks who are writing and talking to us about where they’re at. Research shows us that, uh, money troubles and disagreements can be a major contributor to serious marital problems. So today we thought we’d share some insight on money and relationships from one of the best, uh, Mr. Dave Ramsey. He’s an author, radio show host, you probably have heard him on the radio, and he’s the creator of Financial Peace University, which is a, a nine-week program, uh, to help you get to financial health.

John: And the message we’re about to hear is from the third week of that series, where Dave talks about two primary money personalities, the nerds who are very organized, and the free spirits who just wanna have fun. Here’s Dave Ramsey on today’s Focus on the Family.

Dave: In this lesson, we are going to be talking about relating with money. Free spirits and nerds unite. I wanna tell you an old story. I’m sure it’s not true, but it’s funny and it makes my point, so I’m gonna use it anyway.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: There’s a story that’s told of George Bush Senior, and probably the best first lady that we’ve ever had, his wife, Barbara. And they were, they were campaigning their way across Texas in one of the presidential campaigns. And, and of course that’s their home state, so they knew everybody and, and the, and the presidential limo with the SUVs and the whole bit pulls up to a gas station because it’s running outta gas. And so the gas station attendant sees all of this, and he runs outside. And of course you and I don’t get this service, but he runs outside, and he starts pumping gas, ’cause he wants to he’s pumped the gas in the presidential limo. Well, Barbara looks up and recognizes the guy, jumps out of the car, runs around the car, gives him a big hug. They stand back there yack it up for a little while. And she gets back in the car in a few minutes and George says, “Who was that?” And she said, “Well, that was my old boyfriend in high school.”

Audience:(laughs)

Dave: And George gets this big grin on his face, and he said, “Now, now let me get this straight You are married to the most powerful man in the world, the president of the leading economic force in the world, the United States of America. You could have married him and then you’d be the wife of a gas station attendant.” And she said, “Oh, George, don’t be silly. If I had married him, he’d be president.”

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: Proverbs 31 says, “Who can find a virtuous wife for her worth is far above rubies, the heart of her husband safely trusts her, and he will have no lack of gain.” Interesting. Let me introduce you to my wife, Sharon Ramsey.

Audience: Applause.

Dave: As you can see, I’m an excellent salesman, (laughs) but Sharon and I have a have an agreement. She is agreed, uh, she has agreed to stay married to me if I don’t ask her to do public speaking (laughs). So she gets to come out here and just say hi this way and get to meet you guys. But I wanted you to see the reason for my success. Thanks.

Audience: Applause.

Dave: When we’re dealing with money in relationships, when we’re dealing with money in our personal lives, when we’re dealing with money in our families, the flow of money in a family represents the value system under which that family operates. Jesus said it this way, he said, “Where your treasure is, your heart will be also.” So what you do with money screams loudly who you are. Larry Burkett used to say, it’s kind of the checkbook autobiography. Back in the days when we used to keep a checkbook or, or if you keep it on Quicken or something, if you look at your checkbook register where your money goes tells us what’s important to you, tells you what’s important to you. And men and women are different in how we process this stuff. We’re different in how we process everything, and money is no exception to that statement. Gary Smalley says, “Men love to share facts, women love to share feelings.” Men connect by doing things. Guys go hunting together, we do things together. We work on the car together. We do whatever, we do things together, women connect by talking. Guys can hang out all day. My son and I drove two and a half hours after a football game home and didn’t say a word and we were perfectly okay with that. (laughs) Women would’ve thought that was psychotic. We operate differently. We, you know, we’re perfectly okay with these differences too. Dennis Rainey, who is a Christian family counselor, he says that that women and men have a different verbal level, men speak 30 to 50,000 words a day, women speak somewhere from 50 to 70,000 words a day with gusts up to 125,000.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: We are different. Gary Smalley says men tend to be controlling, women tend to remain agreeable. Women would say, amen. Men tend to be independent; women tend to be interdependent. All these differences come up big time in the way we handle money and the way we interact. And so we’ve got to take this into consideration if we want to have financial peace, two words that don’t go together. When it comes to the emergency fund, men say it’s boring, it’s not sophisticated enough. I could do something better with that 10 or $15,000 in baby step three, which is a fully funded emergency fund of three to six months of expenses. I could invest that in a, in a good mutual fund or something. But Dave says just to put it in a money market account and it not make much money. That’s boring. It’s not sophisticated enough. Women on the other hand say it’s the most important key to our financial plan. I need all the men in the room to stand up, please, all the men to stand up, please. Thank you, men. Now guys, if you’re married or you ever hope to be, listen to me really carefully for a minute. I don’t know if you know this or not, but as we’ve been discussing, men and women are different and that’s a good thing. And, and, and they’re different in how we look at this emergency fund thing. There are two things we’re going to teach you while you go through Financial Peace University that will revolutionize your marriage if you allow it to. One of them is the emergency fund and the other is doing a budget. And we’re gonna talk about both of those things tonight in the context of singles and in the context of a marriage situation. So guys, what I gotta get you to understand right now is somewhere right down in here, your lady has a gland that you don’t have. It’s called the security gland. And if she is feeling insecure because of the money situation, that gland spasms, and it is attached to her face.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: So an emergency fund is actually an investment in a pretty wife. Her face relaxes because her security gland relaxes. When you have 10 or for $15,000 in the bank and you know that you’re not gonna touch it, and she knows that you’re not gonna touch it, you don’t even touch the emergency fund for emergencies it allows her to relax in a place you don’t even have. Am I right ladies?

Audience: Yes.

Dave: So the message guys is you don’t have to get it, you just gotta get it. You need to do that emergency fund, it’s investment in your marriage. Thanks guys. Have a seat. When it comes to going shopping, men get good deals by negotiating. I can go in I want those deals, I wanna go out there and I’m just gonna walk through the electronic store, the furniture store, and I’m gonna kill everybody in the store until I get a good deal. I don’t have to go shopping, I’m just gonna drop an adam bomb on that one place. I’m going in there, I’m gonna go Waaaa,  I want a deal, right? And I’m just gonna, I’m gonna use all my techniques and I’m gonna get in people’s face. I’m gonna do whatever. I’m gonna negotiate. I’m gonna get a deal. We get good deals by a lot of times just straight old-fashioned confrontation, where ladies tend to get good deals by hunting, and hunting, and hunting, and hunting, and hunting, and hunting, and they forgot what they were looking for.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: but they’re still hunting. And he, Smalley talks about this. He says, here’s how, kind of, how a shopping trip looks like for most people, you know, we get out of the car and, and we go to the mall together and we’re going somewhere. We’re gonna go get something together, right? And the guy gets outta the car and says, “Identify the target. (laughs) You know, we’re gonna get our handheld GPS and map out the quickest way to the store. And we gonna go straight to the store with the best deal, having searched on the web while we’re on our way for efficiency. And, and we get in there, we get the best deal, we analyze which line is going the fastest and, in the cash, register we get in line. We go through the most efficient line. We’re back to the car. Let’s time it go. Click. Identify the target.” And the lady goes, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, you just don’t get this, do you? See we’re supposed to enjoy this process. It’s not just about the task, it’s the process. We have to go in every store. We have to touch everything in every store. We have to try a whole lot of it on, buy most of it, discuss the checkout girl’s family problems with her as we’re going out, and then tomorrow we’re gonna bring most of it back.”

Audience: Laughter and Applause

Dave: So Sharon and I figured this deal out. We’re not gonna try to swim upstream, okay. We, we know that we’re not going shopping together and have a good marriage, that’s not gonna happen. But we have figured out she’s really good at hunting and hunting and hunting. She’ll go through consumer reports, she’ll search on the web, look at eBay, and she’ll go find the best deal over here and the best sale over there.  And, and then I’m really good at negotiating so much so that we’ll, we go out, she’s kind of a sweet, you know, Southern Bell, little lady. And she doesn’t like to be embarrassed. And I, she, you know, we go in some of these stores me and my 100 dollars bills out and she goes, “You embarrass me.” Yeah. Well, that’s just one of the side benefits of this negotiating thing. So, so, so we just don’t even try all that. What we figured out is she hunts it down then I go kill it. So we’re gonna work with these opposites thing and make it work. When it comes to financial problems, we see the difference in men and women. When, when we’re struggling financially, if you’re hurting and you’re stressed out, you’re behind on the bills, you know, the guys lose self-esteem, men lose self-esteem because money represents a scorecard to men. So ladies listen carefully, if you’re in here and you’re married or you’re in a marriage situation and, and you’re struggling financially, your guy does not feel like Sir Galahad right now, his sword is a little rusty. He has some moths on his armor. And the last thing he needs in the middle of that is a barking chihuahua around his ankles. (laughs) “My mama said [barking dog sounds].” He may find one last use for that sword. Guys, you need to look at this. When you’re in financial trouble, women face fear. Sharon made us change it, she said the word is terror. Because money with ladies, as we said, represents security. There’s that security gland. So if you’re in here and you’re struggling financially, don’t let the stress of those financial things take your marriage. Guys, you need to step up. She needs an extra three to six non-sexual hugs a day. Some of you guys need to look at up nonsexual. (laughs) This is touch that’s not going anywhere. Touch for the purpose of reassurance, touch that says when we got married, we didn’t have anything, if we go back to not having anything, that’ll be okay as long as I’m with you. I don’t wanna lose everything, but if I do, as long as we come out of this together, we’re gonna be okay, touch says that. And you need to say that out loud guys, ’cause she’s afraid in a place you don’t have at that moment. She’s not weaker than you, they’re actually more resilient, ladies are in financial stress, than guys are in a lot of ways, but they need that touch, they need that reassurance as a part of the program. So step up gentlemen in that situation.

John: You’re listening to Dave Ramsey today on Focus on the Family. And you can get his book, The Total Money Makeover when you make a contribution of any amount to the ministry today. Call 1 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459, or you can donate and request that book at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s return now to more from Dave Ramsey on Focus on the Family.

Dave: Now the number one cause of divorce in north America today is money fights. Money is the one thing people say they argue about the most in marriage, according to a Stanley and Markman study. Seven out of ten couples disagree about financial issues, according to an article in USA today. 57% of divorced couples said that financial disputes were the primary reason they did not get along, according to a study done by Citibank. It’s the number one thing that breaks up marriages. Hear me again, the number one thing that breaks up marriages, money problems, and money fights. If it’s the number one problem, then it’s also what Larry Burkett used to say, it’s the number one opportunity in our marriages, to take them to a better level, to take a good marriage and make it fabulous, to take one that’s struggling and looks like it’s not gonna make it and bring it back together and let it heal. And you can do that through stuff like doing a budget, like agreeing on our spending. Because when we agree on our spending, again, we’re agreeing on our value system and that is absolutely vital. See the deal is this, when you get married, what happens is, you know, the, the preacher lies to us, doesn’t he? He says, “And now you are one.” You remember that? (laughs) Do you remember the first year? (laughs) “Yeah, your mama’s ugly too.” You remember the first year, right? See, so what we do, we go down the aisle, right? And the preacher comes down and he says, “Okay, we’re going to you tie the knot, right?” Well, when we get ready to tie that knot, the problem is stuff gets in the knot, doesn’t it?  And you grew up in a household where your parents spent everything they made, and she grew up in a household where they saved everything they made. And that was cute when you were dating and it’s not cute anymore, it becomes a potential destructive force. There’s a knot going on right there in the money, and it’s I wanna save money. I wanna give money. I, I want a new washer and dryer. I want a bass boat. I wanna go on vacation. I’m worried about retirement. Dave Ramsey said, and we get all of that in there, right? (laughs) Every bit of that’s in there, right? You this whole thing going on. But what we have discovered is this, if you will sit down together, if you will learn to work together, agree on your spending, because when you agree on your spending, again, you agree on your value system, you’re agreeing on your goals, you’re agreeing on your dreams, you’re even agreeing on your fears. And so when you agree on all of that, what happens is the budget takes all the knots out of your marriage and you get oneness in your marriage and unity.

Audience: Applause

Dave: So who does the financial decision making in your household? Who’s supposed to do it? Some people say, “Well, the man should do it.” And other people say, “Women are much smarter, they should do it.” The truth is both of you should do it. Both of you should do the financial decision making. Both of you have to. The, the one with the natural gift for details can prepare the budget, but the decision making should be done by both of you. Now, typically not only do opposites attract in the sense of men and women are different, but opposites attract in other things too. One of you is late for everything, and the other one is on time. Have to be on time for everything. You have to be early for everything. One of you is up at six o’clock in the morning going, “We have to get over there. We wanna get a good seat. We have to get over there. I wanna get a good parking place. Did you see the parking? I we’ve gotta get a, gotta get a good seat.” And the other one’s going, “Look, they’re not gonna really say anything important for the first hour anyway.” (laughs) You know, it’s that way at our house. I have to be on time for everything. I’m like the nerd of the family, right? My wife, it doesn’t matter. She’ll get there sometime. It’s okay. Opposites attract. One of you is in here burning up right now and the other one’s freezing to death. You ever have those thermostat wars at your house? “It’s not cold.” “Yes, it is.” “It’s not cold.” “Yes, it is.” And back and forth. I threatened to get one of those locking glass things over it, like you have at the office, you know, just keep your hands off of it. The concept of a thermostat is that it adjusts itself. You know? And now it’s hot nor cold. And we’re back and forth, back and forth. Opposite track. One of you is a spender, one of you is a saver and that’s a good thing. You need each other. You spenders need a saver in your life, so you don’t retire and have to buy that cookbook, 72 ways to prepare Alpo and love it. (laughs) You savers need a spender in your life, so you have a life.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: And typically what happens is the nerd, the one that is very organized, you know, the detail person, the underwear drawers folded, must be on time, everything has a place, really enjoys for the bills to be paid on time, late, oh, don’t gimme a late charge. Oh, the nerd likes doing the budget. It gives them it, it gives them this sense of power, this sense of control. Some nerds are real big time control freaks, but all nerds are at least a little bit of control freak. You know what I’m saying? And the free spirit they’re, they’re mature. They’re adults too. They just believe in having a thing called a life. They don’t, they don’t, they don’t really get a high outta three generation spreadsheets. They don’t understand, you know. So what happens is the nerd and the free spirit get married, but they don’t really become one. Do they? (laughs) No. Instead we start this fight thing, ’cause what the first thing will happen is the nerd goes, “Oh no, I’ve married one of those.” (laughs) And what do you do? You, you know, we go up on the mountain and we talk to God about the budget (laughs), and we come down from the mountain, having prepared the budget on a stone tablet, (laughs) a little bit of a sunburn like Charlton Heston.  And, and you know, we come out and we come to the, the free spirit and the rest of the family say, “Family, I’ve been talking to God, and this is our budget.” This is what we nerds do, isn’t it? And the free spirit goes, “Yeah, I’m going to the mall to bust your budget.” And the nerd goes, “Oh no, no.” And, and we nerds, if we’re not careful, we’re like running around with a pooper scooper all the time, trying to clean up your messes. (laughs) And the free Spirit’s going, “You are a freak, you know, get away from me. You fruit loop.” You know, and this fight, this constant tension. Some marriages go through this. This is real world, isn’t it? Say yes.

Audience: Yes.

Dave: Some marriages go through this for decades and don’t even realize there’s all this tension in the air. They kind of just tolerate it, or they go to their corners and go, “Okay, you pay your bills and I’ll pay my bills. We’re not really married, we’re just gonna have a joint venture.”  And the nerds like, “You’re too irresponsible.” And the free spirit’s like, “You’re too controlling.” And we’re just- all this clash of the Titans going on. And it doesn’t make for a high-quality marriage. As a matter of fact, we just said, this it’s the number one cause of divorce, is opposites attract, and men and women are different anyway. When you put all of that in the soup with money, it makes a mess. But we figured out a way to solve it. It’s called the budget committee meeting. It’s your only hope for learning how to communicate. So here’s what we’re gonna do. Those of you that are like me, we’re the nerds, raise your hand nerds. Okay. See the nerds are like very precise. (laughs) Right. So nerds, raise your hand again, one more time. Good. All right nerds. Here’s what I want you to do, I want you to do a budget, ’cause if we wait on the free spirits, it’s not gonna happen. Let’s not kid ourselves. Okay? So prepare the budget. The basics of budgeting is you spend every dollar on paper before the month begins, every dollar has a name before the month begins. You prepare the budget. Now, then we call the budget committee meeting. Let’s cover the rules for the budget committee meeting for the nerds first. Nerd, I want you to take the budget that you prepared, and I want you to set it on the table, slide it over to the free spirit and shut up. (laughs) That is rule number one, shut up. The, the free spirits here, they are sick and tie tired of your preaching. They are sick of hearing, yeah, you got it. They’re sick and tired of hearing Dave Ramsey said. They’re sick and tired of every mistake they ever made since 1962, you know. They don’t want to hear any more of your theories, shut up. It’s on the paper, slide it over. You’ve got a whole lot of opinion that’s right there on the paper, let the free spirit look at it. Rule number two nerds is this is a meeting, it is not a weekend long budget summit.

Audience: Laughs

Dave: When you are dealing with a free spirit, you have a 17-minute window.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: After that they’re came to the Financial Peace University thing, their body may stay, but their spirit will leave.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: They’re not gonna hang out with you. Their eyes start to cross. They’re not getting this. It’s not fun for them. They don’t enjoy this process. They’re only there to have a vote. They’re gonna have their vote and they’re gonna leave the voting booth, that’s it. That’s the whole deal from them. Now listen very, very carefully to me. If you are a nerd, there is one last rule nerds. Listen very, very carefully. You must insist that the free spirit change some things in your budget. And the nerds are going, “Nooooooooo, we don’t wanna change anything’s. It’s right. If we change it, it’ll be wrong. (laughs) I did it. It’s right, we can’t change it.” Listen nerds, we’re tricking them to get them involved. Audience: Laughs

Dave: All right, free spirits, raise your hand. All right, did I take up for you? Say yes.

Audience: Yes.

Dave: All right. So listen up free spirits, you have a couple of rules for the budget committee meeting too. Rule number one, free spirits, you must come to the meeting.

Audience: Laughter

Dave: Rule number two, you must bring your brain.

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: You have to give adult, mature input in the meeting. I want one, isn’t cut covered under that heading. You look at the budget and you go, “Honey, I think $1,800 might be a little high for green fees when we have $14 for food.”

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: And you make an adjustment there, like switching those two numbers. But you can’t just go, “I want more money for clothes.” “Okay. We’re gonna raise clothing by $200. That’s fine, honey. Where’s the $200 gonna come from?” “I don’t care.” “Who are you? The government?”

Audience: (laughs)

Dave: It has to come from somewhere, right? If we’re gonna raise a category by 200, we have to lower some others by the same amount. That’s how this works, it balances. It’s a neat concept. Okay. So adult-like input says you change some things around by raising a few and lowering some others by at same amount, so that we still end up with a zero. And rule number three, free spirits, if you will work with your nerds on this, you will have the best quality relationship of any marriage you know. You will run into people everywhere who are in awe of the communication level in your marriage. It will totally transform how you communicate. It will bring a level of unity, a level of oneness to everything that you’re doing, and then you’ll start to win financially. It’s worth it. But free spirits, there’s a phrase that you have been saying, this is your last rule, you can never again say this phrase. And you use it all the time, we know you do, especially when we nerds know it. Sometimes you say things like, “Whatever you want to do honey.” (laughs) Wrong cop out breath. (laughs) You have to get in the game and place your vote. You both have a vote, we come into agreement, that’s called unity, both place their vote. No, no, just, “You’re you’re smarter than me, you take care of it, I’m gonna go over here and mess up your plan though.” (laughs) And that’s what free spirits do too often. No, you’ve gotta place your vote, and then when the budget is done, we pinky swear, and we spit shake, and this is a lock baby. We don’t do anything except what’s on the budget, that is a promise, that’s a contract. And if we’re going to do something different than what’s on that budget, we have to come back and have an emergency budget committee meeting. Got it, free spirits? Say yes.

Audience: Yes.

John: And with that, we’ve come to the end today’s lesson if you will, from Dave Ramsey on Focus on the Family. And we’ll feature more of his financial wit and wisdom next time.

Jim: Boy, John, uh, Dave sure makes this fun. He’s so entertaining, and yet he’s getting some really solid ideas across as well.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: In our family, Jean and I have, uh, very different spending habits. Uh, but as Dave says, opposites attract, and we balance each other out. And that’s certainly true for, for our marriage. And it’s a good thing. Uh, we hope today’s program will spur some healthy financial discussions in your family. And we’d recommend that you follow up by requesting Dave’s book, The Total Money Makeover from us right here at Focus on the Family. We’ll send that out to you for a generous donation of any amount, as you help us in our work to strengthen marriages across the U.S. and around the world.

John: And we’re a phone call away, our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, 800-232- 6459, or you can donate online and request Dave’s book. We’re at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And if you enjoy today’s presentation, please tell a friend to tune in next time as we’ll hear more from Dave Ramsey, he’ll focus on kids and money.

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Dave: Around our house we paid commissions, not allowances. I don’t believe in allowance. Allowance to me sounds like welfare, commission says that if you work you get paid, if you don’t work, you don’t get paid.

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Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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