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How to Stop the Past From Controlling Your Future (Part 2 of 2)

How to Stop the Past From Controlling Your Future (Part 2 of 2)

In a discussion based on their book Take Your Life Back, Steve Arterburn and Dr. David Stoop describe how past emotional and psychological wounds negatively impact your life and relationships, and how you can experience positive change through the healing and freedom found in Jesus Christ. (Part 2 of 2)

Excerpt:

Steve Arterburn: And if you are saturated with guilt, shame, bitterness, anger – all these things, there is a whole other world waiting for you. But first, you got to decide, I’m going to take my life back.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: Stephen Arterburn is back with us again today on Focus on the Family talking about the damaging effects of hurts and broken relationships. And welcome to our program today. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller, and we have good news for you in this broadcast, that you can find the freedom that you’re longing for from the past.

Jim Daly: John, Steve and Dr. David Stoop have joined us to continue talking about the different wounds we experience as children, but also as adults and how those wounds continue to fester, particularly in adulthood. We want to find that healing from those wounds. That is what the Lord did so clearly in Scripture when he encountered everybody. Matthew the tax collector, you know, come on, Matthew. You’re ripping people off, right? And what did Matthew do? He went and gave back so much of what he had taken from people. That’s the encounter with Christ. He wants to make you whole. And it starts with our own recognition of our brokenness. I think that’s what this life is all about. I mean, there’s only so many emotions we can experience. There’s only so many directions we can go. And I think it’s so we can recognize that we need Him.

Steve: Amen.

Jim: And in that brokenness, what’s beautiful is He’s standing there saying, I love you. And I love you, even though I know you. And I don’t – I think freaks us out.

Steve: It does.

Jim: ‘Cause if we’re always saying to ourselves, if He really knew us, He wouldn’t love me. But He does. So that’s what we’re gonna talk about today.

John: And let me just say, Steve is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries and is heard daily on New Life Live. Dr. David Stoop is a licensed clinical psychologist and the founder and director of the Center for Family Therapy in Newport Beach, California.

Jim: Welcome back to both of you.

David Stoop: Thank you.

Steve: Thanks for having us.

Jim: It was so good last time. I mean, I’m just reeling here thinking, uh, there’s so much more to talk about. If you missed that program, you can get the download,uh, for your smartphone, or you can call us and get the CD – whatever you need to do. I think it will be healing for you. And today we’re talking again with Stephen and David about their book,Take Your Life Back. David you were itching to get in there. What was it?

David: I always refer people to Romans 5,because it says,when we were sinners,when we were helpless, when we were His enemy, He loved us so much He sent his Son to die for us. And those three descriptive words, you can’t get any worse than that.

Jim: Yeah.

David: And…

Jim: But we don’t truly believe that, do we?

David: But we don’t believe that, no. We try to do what Romans 7does. We try to clean up our life to prove that God made a good decision to love us, and we don’t need to do that, because there’s no condemnation.

Jim: It is beautiful. And that’s the goal. I mean, where we can get to a place where we can accept ourselves for who we are and hopefully move closer to God, right? That’s the goal.

Steve: And you don’t do that by just going to church on Sunday, and maybe opening up the Bible every now and then. You really have to enter into a process, where you take your life back. And you take your life back, because there’s so many different ways that the world has grabbed onto it, and maybe you’ve even turned it over to certain things like pornography, or bitterness, or resentment – all of those things. We want you, uh, to be free of that. And, you know, in Ephesians 4:22,it says to throw off your old sinful nature. OK, so if you can’t do that, if you’ve tried on your own, and it just keeps coming back, this is what we’ve provided for you – a plan and a path and a process to take it back, so that the old sinful nature isn’t in control.

Jim: Let me ask both of you a very practical question. A person who comes to Christ and has that moment, and they feel different. They believe they are renewed. They know that. But those habits…

Steve: Right.

Jim: …Anything that you just mentioned, Steve…

Steve: Yeah.

Jim: …are still persistent. And then the enemy begins to pound that person and say, you’re no different, you’re no good. He would never love you. Why do you believe that?

Steve: Right.

Jim: How do you actually get that first rung, where you can grab it with your hand and you can begin to pull yourself up out of that humanness that is dark and say, OK, Lord, I’m moving in your direction?

Steve: Well, here’s the dilemma.When you come to Christ, or even if you’re delivered from some horrific thing, instantly healed or fixed,no one is ever delivered into character.

Jim: Hmm.

Steve: Nor have I ever seen a family delivered from all their resentment and bitterness and anger of all the stuff they went through, because this person was lost and really flailing out there. So, what do we have to do? We have to enter a process. It’s called discipleship.Some call it recovery. Some people call it sanctification.If you just take that experience, and then expect it’s all gonna fall in place, you’re gonna be very disappointed. And you’re very, very fertile ground for Satan to work in. So, it just makes sense that you’re not gonna do well going forward. It’s gonna to be superficial. You’re gonna fake it. And I certainly did that. And I – I became this super – even in my marriage, you know, I realized after my wife and I, uh, ate this wedding cake, um, we had a slight, little communication problem that never showed up before we were married. If I was a superhero, I would be known as “Bullet Point Man,” just, you know, tell me the headline, the bottom line, the deadline, all that. She – if she was a superhero, she would be “Wonder Word Woman.”

Jim: And detail.

Steve: And she has all of these things that crescendo into this fabulous display of communication. And what was that? It was a survival technique that I had. I didn’t want to get to the emotion and the depth. I wanted to stay at the surface, because once I sunk down in there, I didn’t know how to get out, and it was painful for me. I had to go through a recovery process of all that stuff, just to be able to have a connecting, normal, human being relationship with conversation that worked.

Jim: I so appreciate the description there that the road of sanctification is not a super highway. It’s a pot-filled dirt road.

Steve: Yeah.

Jim: And you’re gonna – your tires are probably going to go flat now and again. It’s work.

David: You need a companion along the way, too.

Jim: Hmm.

David: Somebody that’s been there and can mentor you in the process.

Jim: What does a child need? I mean, we’re all parents here. What – we’re the ones—and as our parents did—messing up. And, you know, it’s easy in this life to mess up our kids…

Steve: Yeah.

Jim: …Through our own fears, our own traps, all those things. As a parent, speak to me in that context. What do I need to do to really best establish my child spiritually in that character you’re talking about? What are two or three things that I should do to keep in mind?

Steve: Well, as you and I were talking before the program, just one of the things that I deal with my own kids is that basic need to understand that we have work to do.That it doesn’t all come easy. It doesn’t all fall in place. And as an adult, if you don’t have the value of work, and I’m not just talking about earning money – working on yourself. You don’t ever arrive. And, if you could instill in a child the value of work for work’s sake, maybe that child will carry that on in the teen and 20s and 30s, and continue to work on their soul and their character, and developing into the person God wanted them to be. But if we make it easy, feed into the entitlements, then most likely, they’re going to prove incompetent in – in the world, but also in developing the inner world.

Jim: Yeah. Dave, you’re a counselor. I’d like some practical examples – without names, obviously – but what do you see in the kids that come in that are broken, and why are they getting broken?

David: Well, I think a lot of times, they’re broken, because their parents haven’t been authentic with them, you know, uh. For example, I was talking with somebody whose husband had an affair. They’re separated.

Jim: So they’ve watched that, as the kids.

David: But the kids don’t know what’s going on, because they haven’t been honest with it, you know. And we said at some point, you’ve got to be – you’re teaching them to lie, and you’re not being authentic with them. And at some point, they’re going to say, why wouldn’t you tell me? And we said, you know, we were saying don’t – you don’t tell them all the details, but you at least are honest with them to what they can handle. And I think that’s a part of it. We bring our false self into our parenting role, trying to be something that we’re not, thinking that that’s what we’re supposed to be and set the example.

Jim: And the kids see that.

David: Kids see right through it. And if we can be authentic, the real self and talk about our struggles, our issues, and just like we’ve talked before about, if you have an argument, let them see the argument, but let them see the resolution to the argument. Just being real with your kids is a big step forward.

Steve: When I – as a teaching pastor at Northview, I did a series on this, and we have two campuses in two prisons. And so, our church bought 3,200 copies of this book, and every prisoner in this one prison got a copy of this book. And we went and we distributed them. And just the opposite of this weak and cowardly dishonesty that we display, I met this man there who came to Christ. Now, this prison – it’s a minimum 15-year sentence to get in the prison. And when I handed him the book, I just said, “How did you get here?” He said, “Well, I accepted Christ as my Savior. And then I realized I had to do something about that. And I walked down to the police station, and I went up to the counter, and I said, I’ve been having sex with a 12-year-old. And he said, my sentence is 30 years.” Now that kind of honesty, being willing to say, God, it – this life is yours, and I’m gonna do the right thing, the honest thing – I don’t know of a lot of us men or women that have that kind of courage.

David: Yeah, we’re supposed to.

Steve: That’s where true, authentic living begins. And guess what, he’s a little evangelist in there, in that prison. They respect what he did.

Jim:Well, that’s amazing.You know, in that regard, you look at, again, Scripture, you look at the Lord encountering Pontius Pilate, and it’s always been interesting to me that the Lord himself said what His mission was, right? To testify to the truth. He didn’t say to represent righteousness, to represent grace – to testify to the truth. There’s something powerful about that. That God wants us to know the truth. And when we know ourselves truthfully, we actually then can embrace Him honestly.

David: Yeah.

Jim: Right?

Steve: And then – and then there’s reality in the relationship.

Jim: There’s reality.

Steve: We see this in the Christian community so often, somebody will say, “well, you know, I’m not out there getting drunk, and I’m not using pornography and all this, and I’m not acting out.” But what we write about is, what’s much more prevalent, and that’s “acting in”. You’re not doing all the obvious stuff like us stupid people do. You’re, inside of you, rebelling against God with your anger, your bitterness, your judgmentalness, your shame, your believing that you’re better than everybody else. That kind of “acting in” is, in many ways, much more cancerous to the soul than those of us who “act out,” finally come to the end of ourselves, and say, I got to do something here.

Jim: That’s what’s hard with Galatians,when you look at Chapter 5, where the fruit of the Spirit is mentioned, but also the fruit of the enemy.

Steve: No kidding.

Jim: Those – those things that you just described – bitterness, divisiveness, disunity.

David: We don’t hear much about those.

Jim: We don’t. And I’m telling you, I’m on that. Because for me, there’s certainly sexual sin listed in that list, and I think a lot of people read that and go, OK, I’ve got control over that. But you start going through that list a little deeper, it’s everybody. Have you ever spoken with bitterness to someone, or jealousy, or, you know, all of that – that’s in that list, too. And so for us, it’s knowing the truth, and then, moving toward love, joy, peace, goodness, self-control – all those good things.Steve and Dave, both, let me ask you this.In the past, how have you created these false personas in your life, so we can learn from it? I mean, that’s the reason for the question, but what did you do as a man to create this facade?

Steve: Well, you know, I realized how much a facade I had when, um, my son was on the way. My wife was, pregnant, and we bought this piece of furniture, and Thor – the shipping guy – came out and helps me load it in the truck.

Jim: Thor? (laughter)

Steve: Thor let go of it a little too soon.

Jim: Six foot eight?

Steve: Yeah. And it just slammed down on my finger. And, you know, Thor looked at me and said, hey, did that hurt? And I said, no, I’m fine. Well, when Thor goes in, I start dancing around. I eventually lost the nail. My wife comes up, she hears me saying some things that might not have been in the New Testament, and she was pregnant, and I said, you know, “I think this is pain worse than childbirth.”

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: Oh my goodness. You didn’t say that.

Steve: I actually did. And that’s not the dumbest thing I’ve ever said. And – and when I looked back on it, I go, isn’t that the story of my life? Cover anything that shows weakness, or don’t reveal any of the pain. And it – and it just helped me to start to say, Steve, come on. You’ve got to open up more. You’ve got to be more authentic. You’ve gotta share. There’s no reason to hide. God knows who you are. Why don’t you share that with somebody?

Jim: Yeah. Can I challenge that a little bit?

Steve: OK.

Jim: And what I mean by that is, there’s no reason to hide, except it’s hard to be vulnerable in the church.

Steve: Yeah.

Jim: Now, I don’t know if that’s a self-taught thing, but we don’t do a great job with vulnerability.

Steve: Well, not every place is a safe place to share, and that’s why we like to see people start Life Recovery groups and have a safe place. But I say to folks, listen,it’d be better for you to show up on Sunday morning and in the bulletin your complete story is printed out for everybody in your church. That’d be better for you than to go through life, and no one knows your full story. You have to find the place to be open, but it is a challenge to us to– don’t be so quick to judge somebody who finally says, I want to be a real person.

Jim: I guess that’s my point. Again, it’s just human. It’s natural to cover, to hide and to do those things. And the body of Christ should be a place where people could come and talk through their difficulties. You know, the fact that I’m not doing this well, that my wife and I are struggling right now. Is there advice you have for me? I mean, David, you’ve been married 60 years, right? I’m sure – I’ve been married half that – you have some ideas and thoughts about how I could probably improve my relationship with Jean. But where do we find that safe place in the church? In the process of taking my life back, how do we encourage that community?

David: Well, that is difficult, because for most churches, they’ve been enculturated by our culture’s issues and standards. So, I go to church, and I dress well and look good and and don’t talk about my resentments or envies. And we stay caught in the “acting in” position of struggling with it. I did that for years. I was an associate pastor for 12 years while I was doing my training, and I did it not for bad reasons. I did it because I thought that’s what was expected of me. And since I was in a pastoral role, you don’t share anything personal. And, if I don’t share anything personal as a pastor, then nobody else is gonna do it. And, you just kinda continue in that way, until something doesn’t work, and you say something’s got to be different about this. We found, when we got to – finally got into the recovery process, that that was the place we could be honest.

Jim: Yes.

David: And so, a lot of times, you know, the corner bar, the AA meeting is more like what the church is meant to be than what the church is, because those aren’t enculturated, they have their own value system, which is to be honest and open and vulnerable.

Steve: Years ago, Dave and I were in a support group together, and there was a government official, there was a professional baseball player, therapist – it was quite heady. And I shared something out of my own life.

Jim: In the first meeting.

Steve: I just…

Jim: Set the pace.

Steve: I want to get this out there. I want people to know where I am. We never met again. It was too much of a challenge to…

Jim: Too honest.

Steve: And then you look what was going on in their lives – affairs and all this kind of stuff – you can see why. So…

Jim: So you just struck a raw nerve.

Steve: Because, they weren’t going to come back and feel the pressure to be open and honest about themselves.

Jim: Wow.

Steve: But if I had it to do all over again, I would do it all over again.

David: You might have done it in the second meeting.

(LAUGHTER)

Steve: Maybe – yeah, that’s true. Maybe I went too much, too soon. But over the years, in being open about my stuff, and to have people come up and say, oh, man, that’s my story. Thank you for sharing that. I mean, the value of that has been so wonderful, versus walking around being a fake and a fraud and thinking I don’t deserve to even be speaking to these folks.

David: When our son got caught in the drug culture, uh, there were Christians who said, I’d never go see Stoop for counseling, because he can’t even manage his own kids.

Steve: Hmm, yeah.

David: So we kept it secret for the first three years, and then circumstances made it – I was teaching a large Sunday school class, and we were up all night looking for our son, and I didn’t prepare my lesson, and I had to share my story. And people came out of the woodwork in terms of supporting. And from that point on, we shared our story,and we were in a church in Australia when we got a call that he’d been arrested, and we shared it with the people in Australia, and they said, well, we’re a praying church, and we’re going to pray for your son. And I think they’re still praying for him. And we just learned that you get supported by certain people, not everybody, when you’re honest and vulnerable. And it’s a shame that that’s not the true nature of the church, in general.

Jim: Yeah, and the best part is you moved down that road of sanctification that we talked about, you know, whether you’re in a good place or a bad place. That’s the process.

John: Yeah, and the starting point, uh, that we’re offering for you today isTake Your Life Back,the book by our guests. And you will be able to dig in deep, by yourself, in a safe way, and then take these concepts to others – your family members, your church. Get a copy of the book and our conversation to this point. We’ll include the rest of the discussion as well,focusonthefamily.com/radio, or 1-800-A-FAMILY.

Jim: Dave, in fact, let’s use an example of something small that seems to occur that ends up trickling into a rushing river. And what I mean, you had an experience with your mom and dad, I think, where you lost something, like a mechanical pencil, or something. And you mentioned it to your mom, and your mom promised not to tell your dad, because you didn’t want him to flare into anger. Finish that story. What happened, and how did it impact you?

David: He got angry with me, and he said, “and I know about that pencil, and you didn’t tell me” and, blah, blah, blah. I thought, that’s it, I’m done.

Jim: How old were you?

David: Six years old.

Jim: Six years old.

David: And I said, I’m done. And I with – I became very self-sufficient at that point, because I thought I was on my own.

Jim: Couldn’t trust your mom.

David: Couldn’t trust my mom, couldn’t trust my dad, and I had to take care of myself.

John: So you couldn’t get the perspective that this is a pencil, and It’s not the end of the world, and obviously, your dad didn’t have that perspective, either.

David: No, and it was interesting, I think, when I was about 14 or 15, I gave him a pencil – a mechanical pencil, a Sheaffer pencil, just like the one I lost – thinking that would kind of bridge the gap, and it didn’t mean a thing to him. I still have that pencil, and I’ve bought the fountain pen that goes with it. I’m a collector of old fountain pens, and that’s my prized possession, because of the meaning it had. When I was 11 or 12, I thought my real parents were going to come and rescue me and take me to live in Switzerland. I can remember that, too, as if it was yesterday. And…

Jim: Were you adopted?

David: No, I thought I was, you know. That’s the way I was living. These aren’t my real parents. They’re not safe, yeah. And so, when I got married, uh, I thought that would solve everything, but I still was kind of self-sufficient and didn’t need anybody, and that was a big part of our issues in the early days.

Jim: Man, I mean that…

David: That’s similar to what Steve felt when he felt – and we – I never told that story to anybody publicly, and that was one of those questions from the editors saying, “we gotta have another story, Dave.” And I told it, and Steve said, that’s the first time he had heard it. And then he shared his story, which was similar to it, but when he was a little older, and it’s first time I’d ever heard his side of it. We had similar experiences.

Jim: And I think people get the message here. They’re connecting with the pain. And I want to spend just the last few minutes talking about the healing.

Steve: Yeah.

Jim: And you talk about that in your great book,Take Your Life Back.Let’s talk about creating more of a paved road in that sanctification process.

Steve: Yeah, yup.

Jim: What are some things, knowing everything that we’ve talked about – steps 1, 2, 3 – how do we start the process of drawing closer to God and healing in these areas?

David: Well, let me jump in and just say, the first one is we’ve got to face the truth.

Steve: Yup.

David: And we’ve got to be honest.

Steve: Yeah.

David: And we can’t do anything beyond that, until we’re honest with ourself. And I was not honest with myself, until that time that God said deal with it. So that’s where I would…

Steve: That’s the first of these five little things that Dave and I started teaching 25 years ago when we developed the Life Recovery Bible together. And that is number one, see the reality of your situation.Second thing is you have to open up about it.You have to say it out loud.You have to confess it. James 5:16,confess your sins one to another. So you see it, you say it, then you own it. You start to take responsibility to do something about it.Then, you have to release it.You have to forgive,which we’ve talked about. And then, when you go through that, when you see the reality, open up about it, take responsibility, work through the grieving and forgiveness, then you can reverse it.And what is so fascinating, these things that God never wanted for you – maybe you chose it, whatever, somebody was evil to you – God will step in here and make it look like, as if it were meant to be all along. He will bring purpose and meaning from the most horrible things that never were intended to be, but God truly does take everything, work it together for our good-everything- even the evil that you brought into your own life, but you have to surrender to Him.

David: He’s in the redemption business, you know. But the other thing I’d add to that is you’ve got to name it. I was speaking at a recovery meeting, and there – and the chips – everybody had come and get a chip said, I’m Joe, I’m an alcoholic, or I’m Sam, I’m an addict. And they’re naming their problem. And there’s something in naming that says, I’m taking ownership of it. I’m taking control of it. Uh, you know, when you name your children, you are the authority. You get to name them. We’ve got two little puppies now, we’ve named them. We have authority over them. And when I named our first 10 years of our marriage, when we named it “The Great Tribulation,” it’s like we took authority over that, and it wasn’t gonna own us anymore. We were gonna own it. And so, there’s naming it is something that is a part of owning it.

Jim: And I think that’s good. And we hide, you know. I’m — that’s the thing that concerns me is that, um, we feel more comfortable hiding, oftentimes, than moving forward, which is kind of the portal in that relationship with the Lord. When you can say, this is truly me.

Steve: So take a little risk and, you know, you guys have a whole group of therapists and counselors that are Christians that can help people. Well, they’re bound to confidentiality. If you don’t want to open up to somebody in your church – a pastor or a group – get a counselor.Call here. Get a counselor.And there are anonymous groups everywhere, where the number one value is what is said here, stays here. So there’s no excuse not to find that safe place to begin to open up and come out of hiding for the first time.

Jim: Yeah, Steve, that is so good. And this has been so practical on so many levels. I hope you will get a copy of the book,Take Your Life Back. I mean, this is a starting point. If what we’ve talked about this last, you know, couple of days is piercing your heart, because you’re living there, it’s not working, it’s irrational, because you’re doing the same thing over and over again, and it’s not resulting in anything better. You’re still bitter, you’re still angry, you’re still upset, you’re still caught in these addictions, whether it’s pornography, or whatever it might be, you’re the little boy, or the little girl, still, and you’re hiding from what’s true.

This is for you. And we will put it in your hands. Just call us, let us know you’re there, and let us send it to you. It’d be great.For a gift of any amount, we’ll get that off to you. But if you can’t afford it, we’ll get it to you, too. This is our goal, and, of course, Steve mentioned the counselors who are here to help you, and so much more here at Focus on the Family.We as Christians, this is what we believe in, is restoration and healing, so that you might have life and life more abundantly. Don’t live in the snare of the enemy, where he’s trying to steal, kill and destroy your life. This is it. And it’s a very straightforward proposition. We’re not trying to do anything else, other than to help you live a life that you can be at peace in. And, uh, that’s our goal.

John: And, of course, that peace only possible in Christ. And, if you don’t know that part of the conversation, that part of life, please do give us a call, and we’d be happy to talk to you about that as well. So the book,Take Back Your Life,our counseling team connections, the resources that we have – all available when you call800-A-FAMILY, 800-232-6459,or stop by focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Coming up next time: Erin Smalley and Eva Daniel will be in the studio. They’re gonna help you better understand what your husband needs in order to feel loved and have a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!