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Learning to Dream Together

Learning to Dream Together

Do you and your spouse take the time to talk about your dreams for the future? This program features an episode of the new Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast, hosted by Greg and Erin Smalley.
Original Air Date: October 24, 2023

Dr. Greg Smalley: … You know, let’s do all that you have said. I’m with you heart and soul.” And in marriage, I think that’s one of the best responses when… You know, when we move in and out of a different season, God will lay different things on our heart, different callings, or a different dream, or ev- even maybe a new bucket list item.

John Fuller: That’s our colleague, Dr. Greg Smalley, speaking about the power of dreaming together as a couple in your marriage, and you’ll hear more from Greg and his wife, Erin, on today’s episode of Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Greg and Erin and are doing such a great job leading our Marriage and Family Formation team here at Focus. They’re wonderful speakers, prolific authors, and so passionate about helping husbands and wives thrive in their marriages.

And of course, uh, they’ve been on this program many, many times, but today, we want to feature something special. We’ve got an episode from our new Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast, which they began hosting in March of this year.

This is a weekly podcast, about a half hour long, and Greg and Erin not only share their expertise as professional counselors, but they are very open and authentic about their own marriage experiences. Quite funny, may I add. (laughing)

I really encourage you to check out this new podcast from Focus on the Family, and we’ll have a link to that at our website.

John: We certainly will, and that site is focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Now, Greg and Erin also have a book with the same title as the podcast, it’s called Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, and we’re gonna recommend you get a copy of that book, uh, for your marriage. And now, Jim, here’s how the Smalleys began their podcast episode about learning to dream together.

Greg: I’m so glad that we’re talking about transitions, and how do we dream well together, because these are important aspects of marriage that I don’t think people often really talk about. I know, Erin, for us-

Erin Smalley: Mm-hmm.

Greg: One time really stands out. It was a… You talk about a huge transition, really about pursuing a dream that you had had since you were a little girl.

Erin: Yeah. I always wanted to adopt a little girl because I was adopted, and we had talked about that before we got married, and several years into our marriage, after having three biological kids, we decided to begin exploring adoption.

Greg: Yeah, and this really became a shared dream. I mean, the more that I understood that, “Boy, God really placed that on your heart.” I loved it. So one time, we even started praying for adoption. We decided that we were wanting to pursue a little girl, we were gonna name here Annie, so we started praying specifically for an Annie, and we prayed and prayed and prayed-

Erin: Yeah.

Greg: And nothing happened. And a good friend of ours, remember that conversation in my office-

Erin: Yes. Yeah.

Greg: About his trip to China?

Erin: And he told us about a little girl, who we later found out her name was Annie, and so thus our dream came to fruition, and we began walking that out, and began the adoption process, and brought little Annie home July 4, 2010.

Greg: You know, what really stands out to me about that season, as we were trying to adopt Annie, is that for me, it was always about, you know, “I can’t wait ’til we get her.” Really looking back, the power of you and I dreaming together was not actually getting Annie, although we love her, and she’s been in our family for-

Erin: I’m glad you’re saying that. (laughs)

Greg: What? 12 years now, but it was really, it was the, the pursuit, the journey-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: The day to day as we prayed, as we dreamed, as we talked, as we cried, as we grieved, what wasn’t seeming to happen.

Erin: Yeah.

Greg: That’s the true power of dreaming together.

Erin: Absolutely. I don’t know that we ever had a season where we were more connected because we were moving in such unison towards the same goal, but it was that journey that really ignited our hearts. And we’ve had several other experiences like that as well, but that one really stands out.

Greg: Yeah, and as we transition through different seasons, dreaming is so important. You know, we had a great conversation with our good friend, Dr. Juli Slattery, about how do we navigate transitions in our marriage? You know, how do we find ways to dream together? She’s an author, speaker, the founder of Authentic Intimacy, so let’s listen to what Juli has to say. As you and Mike have, have made this big transition into empty nests, oth- other people are… I mean, we’re all constantly moving in and out of different seasons. Could be a different job, it might be we’ve sold a home. A child has started school, whatever that season is, what has really helped you guys navigate out of one chapter and, and kind of into another chapter?

Dr. Juli Slattery: I think one is recognizing the seasons, and they are chapters, and that gives us permission to grieve, and to say goodbye to a chapter.

Greg: ‘Cause we don’t do that well.

Juli: No, we don’t.

Erin: Mm-mm, mm-mm.

Juli: Yeah. I, I remember when we were done having children, like, just needing to take a moment and to grieve that I’m never gonna be pregnant again, we’re not gonna have a little baby again, like, just to say, “This is a season and there’s a loss here, and it’s okay to name it.” Uh, and the same with empty nest, like, it is a season, and there’s a loss, and there’s a time to look at the pictures of the boys when they were little, and remember what it was like for them to come down for breakfast every morning.

And not to glorify it, ’cause there were certain-… There’s certainly other parts of it where it’s like, “I’m kind of glad that one’s over.” (laughing) But I don’t think we do a very good job of remembering and acknowledging seasons, unless it’s like, a big birthday or something.

But it also gives us the opportunity to thank God for the season, and ask for His vision for a new season-

Erin: Mm.

Juli: And to begin to vision cast, and dream together. That helps a lot.

Erin: Well, there’s something so powerful about the… Doing that together as a couple-

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: Because then it moves you together into that new season, and really just connecting, as far as, “What is this like for you?”

Juli: Yeah.

Erin: “Well, this is what it’s like for me, and this is what I’m feeling, and, you know, having that, uh, opportunity just to care and connect-

Juli: Yeah.

Erin: But then moving into, “Okay, what’s it gonna look like?”

Juli: Yeah.

Erin: We get to decide.

Juli: And I think there’s something in our American culture that tells us that every season’s gonna be better than the next.

Greg: Mm.

Juli: You’ll even have people tell you, “I know this is gonna be great, you know, like, look forward to this.” And that optimism can be somewhat helpful, but I think it also keeps us from lamenting-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Juli: So, there are couples going through seasons where it’s not going to get better. Maybe they’re facing a terminal illness, or they’re facing the loss of a child, and the optimism of, “No, it just keeps getting better.” It’s not true.

God keeps renewing us, He keeps building the inner person, we have eternity to look forward to, that is the optimism of the Christian faith, but sort of the American dream keeps us from recognizing that there are losses, and there are things that we let go of that we’re not gonna get back.

But then, that also frees you to say, “Okay. In every season, there is something that I can thank God for, there is something we can rejoice in, what is it?” Uh, and I think that perspective has helped-

Erin: Mm. Mm, so good.

Juli: Again, to have the courage to name that.

Greg: And I love that, ’cause even within our Christian culture, it’s easy to, when faced with a trial, to remind each other-

Erin: Yeah.

Greg: That, “But God promises that through this, He’s gonna grow us in some way-”

Erin: Yeah.

Greg: “Or we’ll get some- something.”

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Some benefit versus… That’s true-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: So I’m not saying that’s not true. First is really embracing the loss-

Erin: Mm.

Greg: And, and the pain, a- and as I look back over the last couple years through COVID, I think that’s one of the big issues that, that we, we didn’t do well collectively is embrace the loss, and there were so many small losses, huge losses, health losses, death-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: I mean, job, you name it.

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: And I think one of the best things that, that Erin and I did, and we, we just kind of stumbled into this, we would, you know, just to get out of the house, we’d go for a walk, and part of what we would ask each other-

Erin: Well, we couldn’t go anywhere else, so-

Greg: That’s true, yes. Well, yeah.

Erin: Walking was a great option.

Greg: Yeah.

Juli: Mm.

Greg: We’d put masks on our dogs, and (laughing) then we would head out, but we did say, “What’s, what’s a new loss that you’ve experienced, maybe over the last couple days, or the last week-”

Juli: Mm. Mm-hmm.

Greg: “What has that been like?”

Erin: Yeah.

Greg: I think that’s one of the benefits now as we look back, that really taught me to better pay attention to just the s-… The lo–… The everyday losses that everyone of us experience-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: The let downs, just making it okay to go, “Yeah, well, what was that like for you?” And just to care versus, “Well, now I’ve got to solve this-”

Juli: Mm.

Greg: “One more thing that I’ve got to fix, you know, as, as your husband.”

Erin: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Greg: But that, that made such a big difference.

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: One of my friends, who is also a therapist, we used to say, “Well, life is just one loss after the other.” (laughing) Yeah, so that’s a real positive way to look at it, but even those seasons of loss, there are things to be gained-

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: And it might be that I’m changing, and growing, and becoming more compassionate because of the loss, and so it’s just looking at the… Like you’re saying, there’s hard seasons-

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: And sometimes it doesn’t get better until we meet Jesus face to face, and but there’s things that He’s doing in us, and through us.

Juli: Yeah. And I think that’s part of repairing us to see God, and growing spiritually. Like, if I have two hands, and I can only hold as much as two hands can hang onto, earlier in life, my hands are filled with the dreams of my kids, and the business of that, and career ambition, and the Lord begins to take away those things that are good but have too m-… I have too much grasp on-

Greg: Mm.

Juli: And so with the losses, it’s like, “Wow, I have a fr-… I have an empty hand here. I’m gonna learn to hold onto God. I’m gonna learn to put more weight into Him, and more importance on my walk with Him, to the point where you see those who are in their 70s, 80s, and further, there’s very little in their hands anymore.

Erin: Mm.

Juli: Uh, what is… What do they wake up to do every day? God still has a purpose, and part of the purpose is really preparing our heart for Him being all in everything, and so there is a beauty in that that is what our faith points us to, that again, if we just get so enamored with, “How do we stay looking young, and get the most out of this life?” There’s nothing good coming from our losses.

Greg: Yeah.

Juli: Hm.

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: There’s one of my favorite stories, uh, in the Old Testament, uh, King Saul, his son, Jonathan, God kind of gave him a vision of attacking the Philistine army by scaling this cliff, and when you get to the top, you’re gonna take on this whole Philistine outpost, a crazy dream, but he shares that with his young armor bearer.

And as I read that story, a couple things hit me, like, first of all, that sounds like the most insane, you know, plan ever-

Erin: Mm.

Greg: And I could only imagine that young armor bearer wanting to go, “Yeah, but recently, I have an injury to my leg. I can’t probably climb.” Or, “Let- let’s sleep on it for awhile.”

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Or whatever, but I love his response when he hears this dream, in a sense, that God had laid on Prince Jonathan’s heart. And so this young armor bearer says, you know, “Let’s do all that you have said. I’m with you heart and soul.”

And in marriage, I think that’s one of the best responses, when… You know, when we move in and out of a different season, and God will lay different things on our heart, different callings, or a different dream, or even maybe a, a new bucket list item, that, with Erin, as I hear those things, and, and we do talk about that, we talk about that quite often, you know, what… And I’ll just ask her, you know-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: “What’s something new that you’ve been dreaming about, or what’s something you want to do before you kick the bucket? What’s a bucket list item?” Then I want my attitude to be, “Hey, do all that you just said, I’m with you heart and soul.”

Erin: Mm.

Greg: But Jonathan’s response was going, “Let’s, let’s climb up there and perhaps God will show up, perhaps we’ll win, it’s up to Him.” But I love that word perhaps. So, it sounds like for you, as you guys have moved into this new season, I, I hear that. I hear an open handed-

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Greg: “Perhaps God is gonna move, we’ll just climb.”

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Greg: “We’ll enter in this new season.” I love that I’m also hearing that you guys have really joined together, sort of like that young armor bearer, “I’m with you heart and soul.”

Juli: Yeah.

Greg: What’s it been like for you as you’ve entered into this new season, even ministry wise that, that you were talking about, that your husband Mike-

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Is now a part of that with you. What, what has that done to you as a… As a wife? What- what’s been the benefit of having him with you in that dream actively, you know, how’s that impacted your marriage even?

Juli: Yeah. I have to say he’s been with me way before today.

Greg: Definitely.

Juli: Yeah. Uh-huh.

Erin: I was actually thinking that-

Juli: Yeah.

Erin: Because we were around 10 years ago-

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: When you begin to dream about authentic intimacy, and I know Mike was 100% with you.

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: Like, “Yes, do this.”

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: And I know… I’m sure there’s been different seasons-

Juli: Yeah.

Erin: Um, rapids, and smooth sailing, and on and on-

Juli: Mm-hmm.

Erin: Yeah, but what has that been like?

Juli: Yeah. It’s amazing, it re-… It really is. I, I think earlier in marriage, when I really felt called, like, I, I got my doctorate degree, I was excited to practice, I was excited to do all that God had laid on my heart as a young woman, and then we started having kids, and my husband was getting established in his career, and I really felt like God was telling me, like, “Put your ambitions on the alter and trust Me with them, and invest in your husband, invest in your kids.”

And I basically didn’t work, (laughs) you know, outside the home. I just did a very little counseling here or there, and I had all these visions to do the kinds of things that I’m doing today, but God asked me to lay them aside and invest in my husband, invest in my family, invest in my kids.

And I think about that decision, and how hard it was back then, not knowing if I’d ever pick up what I felt like God had laid on my heart, and the ministry that God had given me a glimpse of. Man, this is just what I love to tell young women and young men.

Like, there are seasons, and there are seasons where God says, “Let go of your dreams, trust Me, do the work I put in front of you, invest in your spouse, honor each other above yourselves.” And it comes back.

And now I see this amazing man who is saying to me, like, “I see what God has given you to do, I just want to run with you.”

John: This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller, and today, we’re featuring an episode of our Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast, hosted by Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Erin Smalley, and their guest was Dr. Juli Slattery. Um, the Smalleys provide a lot of Bible based practical help for couples in a book they’ve written with that same name as the podcast, Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage. We’d certainly recommend you get a copy of it from us here at Focus on the Family. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459, or you can stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And now, more from Greg and Erin Smalley on today’s Focus on the Family.

Greg: Well, I love that.

Erin: I do too.

Greg: That’s a powerful statement, “I just want to run with you.” Because as we transition in and out of these different seasons in our life, the fact that, that I know that you’re running with me, that y- you’re there with me-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: That we’re doing this together, we’re pursuing whatever God has next-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: And, and we may not know, and that’s why, for us, we- we’ve really prioritized. We’ve got to keep them dreaming together and figure out what- what’s next as we enter this, this new season?

Erin: Mm-hmm, and there’s nothing more comforting to me as a wife, as a, a, a mom, a woman, that you are with me, that we’re in this together, that I’m not alone, and I really do think that is such a part of the design of marriage that God intended.

Greg: Yeah, as we look the horizon, so let’s say we’ve entered into a new season-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Or there’s some transition, you know, that we’re going through, boy, a powerful experience is to ask each other questions, to do some conversation starters around dreaming together-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: And so we have, actually, a big list, and we’ll put a link in the show notes, but I thought it’d be fun, Erin, if you and I pull from a hat, so literally, if you could see into our studio-

Erin: Sounds fun.

Greg: We have a hat, we’ve got some questions there. We don’t know what they are, so we haven’t had time to prep, so this is just kind of for us, what it would feel like, us going out on a date and kind of doing this.

So, so number one, okay, Erin, this is for you.

Erin: Okay.

Greg: So, are there things that you set aside when we got married that you would like to consider pursuing now?

Erin: Yes and no because I… Often when I look at my dream list, I realize that so many of my dreams have come true, and I know that you have been such a part of that because-

Greg: I feel like I should be saying, “Aw.”

Erin: Yeah-

Greg: A good sound effect.

Erin: Because you have supported me so much. I mean, one of the big things I wanted to do was travel, then I wanted to get a master’s degree, and you have walked with me through those dreams, traveling together, and just the opportunities that God has given us, as well as a master’s degree. So, I would say-

Greg: Well, and-

Erin: That a lot of my dreams have come true because of you.

Greg: And, and I love that, and thank you, and like I talked about before, I want to be a dream maker for you, and your dreams.

Erin: Yes. Which I love hearing that, but what I love even more is that you live that out-

Greg: Mm.

Erin: So it’s not just words, there’s actions that go with that.

Greg: I mean, I, I love how you answer that, but for me, what, what I saw that you really put aside was your schooling, becoming, you know, a full time counselor, and really operating in these amazing gifts that God’s given you.

And I say this to you, I love bragging about Erin. She truly is one of the best therapists that I’ve ever seen, and I’ve been around a lot of good ones, trained a lot of great ones-

Erin: And-

Greg: And you, by far, are the best, but I say that only to go, “But yet you put that aside.”

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Like, y- you felt so convicted, and really believing God was calling you to… For a season-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: To, to really be home with our kids, and I’m so grateful because now I’m watching how you’re just blossoming-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Going, “Man, what would that have been like, (laughing) you know, if this was 20 years ago th- that you were really able to fully exercise all who God has created you, and these amazing gifts that you have, so I, I want to say thank you for putting that stuff aside.

Erin: Well, well, thank you for saying that, and I always smile when he says that because I personally think he is the greatest marriage counselor I know, so-

Greg: Okay, fine. I’ll be the greatest.

Erin: We can argue about that.

Greg: No, you said I am, so I’m gonna… I’m gonna take that.

Erin: (laughs) Okay, now I get to ask you a question. So, what goals do you have for our marriage in the years ahead?

Greg: Oof.

Erin: That’s not deep at all. (laughing)

Greg: Um, I… The, the biggest goal that I feel God really laying on my heart is I, I want to get so good at repairing conflicts after they’ve happened-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: ‘Cause we’re never gonna keep them from happening, and I’m grateful, actually, when we disagree, and when we go through some… A, a challenging discussion.

Erin: And I appreciate that because what we find in a marriage is that typically one pursues repair and one withdraws from repair, and Greg, you definitely, over the years, have been less likely or motivated to come and do the repair work. I’m usually the one pursuing that, so I love hearing that.

Greg: All right, last one. So, where do you hope to be in your career 10 years from now?

Erin: That’s a hard one, but where I could dream about, like if, if there were no limitations, especially with time. If there were no limitations, I would pursue my doctorate, and do some more education, and continue building a private practice, and supervising others, and building kind of a marriage center.

Greg: I love that.

Erin: But also what I love with what I do right now is I see couples, and work within the private practice, but then I get to come to Focus and do things like this with you, and, you know, speaking, and writing, and all of that comes just hand… They work so well together.

There’s such a synergy with both of those realms, but then also getting to experience that with you.

Greg: I told you, we’re, we’re inviting you to have a seat at the table, so you’re literally just at the table of our date, so this is the kind of stuff that we love to do-

Erin: Yes, but now I’m hungry, I want to go on a date.

Greg: While we have date nights. (laughing) Yeah, seriously. Well, now we’re gonna move to our weekly Q&A, and this is the part of the show where we answer your burning questions about marriage.

Erin: Today’s question comes from Caroline, who lives in Oregon, and this is what she had to say, “Dear Greg and Erin, I’ve been struggling with all of my kids being out of the house, but my husband doesn’t seem to feel the same way. How do I talk to him about the loss I’m feeling when he doesn’t seem to be struggling like I am?”

Greg: Yeah. I would say first and foremost, really, stop the judgment ’cause as I hear that question, I hear you even judging your feelings, like, “I’m really struggling with this but he’s not.” And what that does is it comes across as suggesting that he should be struggling in the exact same way that you are.

Erin: Yeah, and the truth is, there has to be room for both people’s grief, and often, people grieve differently, and so what an opportunity for you to be able to lean in and share, like, “This is really hard for me and I’m wondering if you’re experiencing anything different, any grief, any emotion. You know, how do you feel about our kids being gone?”

Greg: Yeah because, you know, for me, if you were to come to me, Erin, so… And we’ve gone through this-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: So let’s talk about this for a second. So, three of our four have transitioned out of our home, and, and two are married, one’s in college, and, and that was… That was a hard season-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: And we did grieve very differently-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Very much like Caroline’s talking about-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: That a lot of tears for you.

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: For me, it, it would have been really hard for you to come to me and go, “What’s wrong? Like, what, what does this mean, that you’re not… I don’t see the tears, that you’re not grieving like, like I’m grieving, you’re not struggling with this.”

Erin: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Greg: Versus really asking something like, you know, “What do you… What do you miss most about having kids in our home?”

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Like, that would be easy for me to talk about, “Oh, yeah, man. I miss the, the family time. I miss… Really, th- th- there’s an energy when, when all of our kids are home together-”

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: “Just the, the fun conversations, the way that we play together.”

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: And, and then you could even follow up with, with again, not, you know, “How are you feeling? Or how are you grieving?” But, but you could even say something like, “You know, m- maybe, what’s been the hardest part of having our kids gone?”

‘Cause that would… I tell you wh- where that would hit me instantly would be that I, I miss having some of my very, very best friends with me full time-

Erin: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Greg: But I tell you, I, I would not have thought of any of this had you simply said, “How are you feeling?”

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Or, “What’s, what’s really going on with you?”

Erin: Yes.

Greg: Or, “You don’t seem like you’re, you’re grieving.” None of this would have come to mind, so what I appreciate about this is that if… As you ask that a little bit differently-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: ‘Cause again, all I would need to do, right-

Erin: Mm-hmm.

Greg: Erin, for you, is just to say, you know, “How are you feeling?”

Erin: Yes.

Greg: Like, “Give me three feeling words now that our kids are gone.”

Erin: Yes because for me, that is an easier task that for you-

Greg: Yeah.

Erin: Or, uh, for me, that’s a little bit easier, to really access those emotions in my heart that I typically could ramble off about five emotions.

John: This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and we’ve been hearing an episode of a brand new podcast from Focus on the Family called Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage. It’s hosted by our colleagues, Greg and Erin Smalley, and that was a fascinating conversation, Jim, about why married couples should be more intentional about setting goals, and growing together, and even dreaming about the future of the relationship.

Jim: And this is such a timely message because research shows that as couples go through different seasons of their relationship, it’s pretty easy to drift apart if we’re not careful. In fact, one tragic trend today is something called the graying of divorce, and that’s where older couples, once they hit that empty nest phase, look at each other, and typically it’s wives that are filing for divorce, saying, “I really don’t know you anymore. My job, our job is done, raising the kids, and I believe our marriage is done.” It’s such a tragedy, and I really urge husbands and wives listening right now, uh, don’t let this happen to your marriage. Put the hard work into strengthening your relationship each and every day. Invest your time and your energy so you can create a legacy for future generations of your family, and let us help you in that process.

John: Yeah. We have so many resources, and, uh, a great place to start would be by listening to the weekly podcast, Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage with Greg and Erin Smalley. As I mentioned earlier, they also have a book by that same title, and, uh, we’ll be happy to send a copy of that book to you when you make a donation of any amount to the ministry of Focus on the Family. Uh, your monthly pledge, or one time gift helps us continue making great resources for marriages, so please, donate today and know that your generosity is helping fuel broadcasts and podcasts. Our number is 800-232-6459. Uh, again, 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or you can donate and get a copy of the book Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Coming up tomorrow, we’ll have Greg Koukl offering a challenge to people of faith.

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If your family is dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, it can be a very difficult time, with lots of emotions and potential outcomes. In this Focus on the Family chapel message, a winsome mother-daughter team share how an unplanned pregnancy rocked their world, the confusion that resulted, and how the daughter found strength through biblical counseling at a local pregnancy resource center. Ultimately, the baby was adopted by an extended family member and is growing up delighted to have an ‘extra’ mom.

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A Legacy of Music and Trusting the Lord

Larnelle Harris shares stories about how God redeemed the dysfunctional past of his parents, the many African-American teachers who sacrificed their time and energy to give young men like himself a better future, and how his faithfulness to godly principles gave him greater opportunities and career success than anything else.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.