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Overcoming Rejection to Live in God’s Love (Part 1 of 2)

Overcoming Rejection to Live in God’s Love (Part 1 of 2)

Lysa TerKeurst offers encouragement and hope for those who are struggling with feelings of rejection and shame, describing how they can live out of their true identity as a child loved by God and then share that love with others. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: August 11, 2016

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Lysa TerKeurst: With Jesus, we are always fully loved, fully accepted, completely held, and always invited in.

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John Fuller: Lysa TerKeurst reflecting on the acceptance that you can find in God. And, you’ll hear more from her on today’s Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us, I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Uh, there’s one thing we want you to hear today, and I know this is true for Lysa as well. Um, God loves you. And, uh, sometimes we lose that perspective because things aren’t going right, relationships aren’t going right. And we get lost in the weeds and we don’t feel the love of God, even though it’s consistent, persistent, ever present. And we are gonna talk about God’s love for us today. Um, you may be in a place where you feel inadequate, you feel beaten down, uh, you know what, we’re here for you. We have a counseling staff who can help you sort through where you’re at in your life, and, uh, maybe what the Lord is trying to say. Um, and it’s available to you. Just give us a call and we’re gonna give you those details in a while. Lysa, let’s not hold back, you are an infamous blogger.

John: (laughs) Infamous.

Jim: How about that infamous? I mean, you have like 2 million, 3 million, 18 million. How many million women are following you today?

Lysa: A few.

Jim: (laughs) No. I mean, it’s a lot.

Lysa: It is.

Jim: Why do you think, uh, there’s that attraction to your words and your, um, expression of your faith? What is drawing particularly women to you?

Lysa: Great question. Um, you know, I think a big part of it is I’m very vulnerable with the brokenness of life. Just the reality is we’re all broken people and, uh, people can identify with someone’s brokenness. So, when I write from that perspective, everybody can identify with hurts and, failures, and shortcomings, inadequacies. Everybody can identify that. Not everybody can identify from your point of strength, you know. So, I don’t write for my point of strength. Um, I write from my point of failure, weakness, hurts, heartbreaks. And certainly, with this book writing from my own struggle with rejection. So, if you wanna know what I struggle with, you can look at the titles of my books.

Jim: (laughs) Well, this one is Uninvited

Lysa: (laughs) Yes.

Jim: … which is not a warm title. What were you expressing there? What are you trying to get across in Uninvited?

Lysa: Well, I think in today’s social media driven world, where so many of our relationships have some kind of presence on social media. I think a lot of us are walking around, having looked at social media first thing in the morning and getting this feeling of being a little bit left out, a little bit lonely, a little bit less than. It seems like everybody’s house is a little better decorated than yours. Everybody else’s marriage is a little more romantic than yours. Everybody else’s kids are more put together and successful than yours. And so, it can sort of develop within us this feeling of extreme inadequacy, not something we talk about publicly, but something we certainly deal with privately. So, the point of titling the book Uninvited is, um, that’s really the essence of what rejection is.

Jim: It’s what it feels like.

Lysa: It, it’s what it feels like. And so, um, but here’s the hope of the book, is that when someone finishes reading Uninvited, I’m gonna encourage them to get a black Sharpie marker and cross-

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: … out the UN in the book title so then they will understand that with Jesus, we are always fully loved, fully accepted, completely held and always invited in.

Jim: That’s a great point. Uh, let me ask you this, social media seems to be your forte. You’re a speaker and author, but social media, you’re communicating every day with literally millions of people. And that’s outstanding. I read something about the loneliness index. It came out a c- a couple of months ago, but it said basically, uh, the loneliness index has gone up 20% over the last couple of years. So, even though we’re more connected digitally, we have communication occurring. It seems people are m- more lonely than they used to be. How come that’s happening?

Lysa: Well, I think there’s several reasons for that. But one thing is the ability to filter the hardship of life out of our social media. You know, uh, think about it this way.

Jim: It’s only the best stuff you see (laughs).

Lysa: It’s only the best stuff from everybody else’s life that you see. And so, when you start feeling like everybody else is more than, and you are less than, you start to pull away from deep heartfelt connections with other people. That creates loneliness. You know, you don’t have to be alone to be lonely. My loneliest times sometimes are when I’m in a room full of people, and everyone is talking, but there’s some sense deep inside of me that I don’t belong or that I’m not part of whatever club they’re part of, or I’m, I don’t have the same inside jokes as everyone else. And the worst feeling to me is when you’re alone in a crowded room.

Jim: Well, you, in fact, uh, there was a story in the book that I found funny, really, it’s where you went to a dinner banquet-

Lysa: (laughs).

Jim: … and you ended up at a table by yourself (laughs) that had to-

Lysa: Yes.

Jim: … feel really weird.

Lysa: Uh, well, it’s awkward.

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: I mean, let’s just-

Jim: Why were you by yourself at a big table?

Lysa: Okay. Uh, that is such a great question.

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: Uh, so what happened is I walked into the dinner, and I was so excited because-

Jim: So, it’s a banquet.

Lysa: It’s a banquet, a full of leaders. So, I fully expected to go, these are my people. Like, I’m gonna be able to sit, we’re gonna swap stories. We’re gonna talk heart-to-heart. We’re gonna share our challenges, our successes, our failures, like this is gonna be awesome. I crave time with people who are living the same kind of life as I am. So, I was really excited about this banquet. I walked in and I walked to a table where a bunch of people I knew were sitting and there were nameplates. So, you know, just place cards, where everybody is supposed to sit where you’re assigned. So, I walked around that table and my name card wasn’t there. I walked around another table, another table. And finally in the back of the room, I finally found my name. Now, that’s awkward in and of itself. When you’re walking around, you can’t find.

John: You spent a lot of time looking.

Lysa: Yes, where you’re supposed to sit. So, I sit down, and I didn’t recognize the other people who were assigned to my table. And I don’t know what happened to them. It’s just, they didn’t show up. And so, the banquet starts and there I sit at a table meant for 10 people, and I’m the only person. And I guess other people didn’t really feel the freedom to get up and come and sit with me because we had assigned seats.

Jim: Ah.

Lysa: And so there I sat at a table-

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: … all by myself.

Jim: Yeah.

Lysa: And so, I had a choice to make when I was sitting there. And of course, I felt awkward. I felt, uh, you can just imagine like, how you would feel, you know. Of course, I had a basket of 10 rolls, so I’m like-

John: (laughs)

Jim: That was a happy side of that-

Lysa: That was the happy s- uh, that was a happy side ’cause I don’t have to share the rolls with anybody. Oh, and desserts were already laid out too.

Jim: Oh, perfect.

Lysa: So, it’s like, but I, I really challenged myself. I said, okay, Lysa, you can sit here and try to fill this emptiness with all the extra rolls and desserts-

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: … and, and having a little pity party for yourself. Or you can decide to see this as a time where the Lord himself wants to be right here beside you. And if you were distracted in conversation with nine other people sitting at your table, you wouldn’t be so desperate to have a conversation with the Lord. So, it’s your choice. You know, you can look at this as being set aside, or you can choose to see it as God’s opportunity to set you apart.

Jim: Ah.

Lysa: And so, it really wasn’t about me surviving the banquet. It was about me developing a mindset. Lysa, there are always gonna be moments like this in your life, you know, and you have to make the choice-

Jim: Yeah.

Lysa: … to understand that God has your best interest in mind.

Jim: Let me ask you this because sometimes, um, and I don’t mean to step on anybody’s toes. But sometimes we can be overly sensitive. I mean, that could actually break somebody emotionally.

Lysa: Mm-hmm.

Jim: They, you overplay it. In other words, nobody wants to come sit with me. Nobody wants to talk to me. Um, you might be a mom at a park and a play day, and you’re at the bench and there’s other moms there, but nobody’s approaching you. Um, how does a person rise above that kind of negative self-talk and get into a better place where, you know, just relax. It’s not, it’s not about you (laughs).

Lysa: Well, first of all, I wanna normalize the negative self-talk. We all do it. It’s not-

Jim: What does it sound like?

Lysa: It, well, for me, I don’t know what it sounds like in your head-

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: … but in my, it sounds like, of course, you know, of course you’re alone. You’re always alone. Of course, no one wants to talk to you because, you know, you, you talk too much at the table or you’re, uh, you know, this is just the theme of your life, Lysa. You know, your dad didn’t want you, uh, that boyfriend in college didn’t want you, so why would it be any different today? You know-

Jim: Wow. That’s big stuff.

Lysa: It is big stuff.

Jim: It not small.

Lysa: But I wanna say, it, may be your dialogue is different, but everyone has this. Everyone has in the core of who they are, uh, this feeling of, do I really measure up? Do I really have what it takes? All of us ask that question. Now, we’re not typically in day-to-day conversation that vulnerable with one another, but we all have that. And so, first of all, I wanna say, if you have that negative self-talk, don’t beat yourself up for having it. It’s normal.

John: Hmm.

Lysa: But here’s how you overcome it, is making the decision that it’s not your circumstances that determine whether or not you’re worthy.

Jim: Amen.

Lysa: It is the truth of who God says you are. And God says you are valuable. You are wanted. You know, before we were even here, just the very thought of us made God explode with extreme joy and say, yes, the thought of Jim Daly, that’s a very good thought. So-

Jim: (laughs) That doesn’t feel comfortable, actually, but, uh-

Lysa: So, he allowed you to be-

Jim: Yeah.

Lysa: … here out of the millions of combinations of all the cells that had to come together to create you. God made sure that he formed you. The very thought of you made his heart exploded with joy. And so, you know, not to over spiritualize it, but, but I have to say to myself, instead of looking at this moment as something to feed that negative self-talk, I’ve gotta look at this moment as my opportunity to bring the fullness of God into the space that I’m walking in. So, that night I had a choice. I could sit there and say, woe is me, no one wants me. Or I could say, you know what, there are about 99% of other people here, whether they’re seated alone or seated at a table with other people who also have the same struggles.

Jim: Hmm.

Lysa: So, I’m gonna walk into this room and I’m gonna bring the love of God with me. I’m gonna bring the acceptance. I’m gonna look around the room, I’m gonna find somebody who I discern needs an encouraging word. I’m gonna get my butt up off my chair and I’m gonna walk over to that person. Even if they’re at a table with 10 people, I’m gonna walk up to them. I want to go, you know what, I was just sitting here, and I was looking around the room, had some extra time to really focus on other people. And I noticed you. And I just wanna-

Jim: Ah.

Lysa: … say, I don’t know what you’re going through right now-

Jim: Yeah.

Lysa: … but God made sure to send a message from me to you to say he loves you. He’s crazy about you.

Jim: You know that’s so good because when I’ve done that, um, it makes me feel better too.

Lysa: It does.

Jim: Just noticing others. It is the love God in our heart. So often though, we suppress it with more of our fleshly attitude of being down in the dumps. Another funny story you had, which I totally related to was (laughs) when you left your briefcase or a suitcase outside-

Lysa: Yes.

Jim: … a car, and you started just beating yourself up. I think I had that exact same conversation to myself but describe it.

Lysa: So, I had been speaking at a conference and, uh, it was one where, when the car pulled up to take me to the airport, there was lots of chaos. I was either on my cell phone or I was in a conversation with someone. I’m not sure why I was distracted, but I hopped in the car. And I assumed that the driver had put my luggage in the back of my car. And I shouldn’t have made that assumption, I should’ve checked, but I didn’t. So, we get all the way 30 minutes away from the venue where I was at. We pull up, I hop out, I asked him to pop the back trunk and he says why? And I said, oh, I w- I gotta get my luggage out. And he was like, there’s no luggage (laughs) in the back.

Jim: You’re like, what? (laughs)

Lysa: So, there I’m at the airport, and I have no luggage. And so, I quickly call someone on my cell phone that was still at the venue, can you please send someone over here to get my luggage? But I recognize that my timing was very short. So, there was a great chance I was gonna miss my flight if they didn’t really go fast and get my luggage there quickly. So, I’m standing on the sidewalk outside of the airport and I’m speaking to myself. And I’m just saying oh-

Jim: Out loud.

Lysa: Out loud. I’m like, ah, Lysa, you’re such an idiot. You know, why don’t you pay attention?

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: I mean, you’re always doing stuff like this. So, I’m saying all of this.

Jim: Oh.

Lysa: And all of a sudden, one of the guys who’s working at the outside check-in counter for an airline, he walks up to me, and he puts his hand up and he says, absolutely not. And, uh, it shocked me so much (laughs).

Jim: A stranger.

Lysa: A stranger. He said, absolutely not. I said, excuse me. He said, “Absolutely not. I will not allow you to talk about yourself in that way. Not in my presence.

Jim: Wow.

Lysa: Not in my presence.” And I thought-

Jim: It was like a God figure.

Lysa: I thought, are you an angel? And then he said a cuss word. And I thought-

Jim: No (laughs).

Lysa: Okay, he’s probably not an angel. Or it would be my-

Jim: But he had a good heart.

Lysa: … like I have a cussing angel (laughing).

Jim: He was trying to say to you stop it.

Lysa: But he had such a good heart. And, you know, it really wasn’t the luggage guy at the airport that was saying those words to me.

Jim: Hmm.

Lysa: It was really, I feel like a message from God himself saying, Lysa, not in my presence will you talk about yourself this way. You see, every day we have a choice. We can bring the fullness of ourself, which is insecurities and we can let our insecurities be the first thing that walks into any situation. Or we can bring the fullness of God who brings with him all security, who, who brings, we, like, if we walk into a room bringing the fullness of God, we’re freed up to see and love other people.

Jim: Hmm.

John: Lysa TerKeurst is our guest on Focus on the Family, and, and she’s sharing some great insights. And the conversation today is based on her book, Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely. We’ve got that available at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. And we’ll send that book out to you when you make a generous donation of any amount to this ministry today. And let’s go ahead and hear more now from Lysa TerKeurst as she discussed how to not beat up ourselves, even when we make mistakes. And Lysa, I’m identifying with you because just a couple of weeks ago, I got all the way through security. I got to my gate, and I realized I left my laptop on a conference room table at a hotel.

Lysa: Hmm.

John: And it’s so easy to beat myself up for that. Um, where in scripture are you seeing that God doesn’t join me in beating me up for that kind of stupidity or forgetfulness? I mean, there’s, there’s encouragement in the scripture-

Jim: Or how about for your 13-year-old? (laughing)

Lysa: Absolutely. Absolutely. Well, I think the entirety of God’s message to us in scripture. One of my favorite places to turn though is Psalms where, you know, we are reassured over and over and over. Uh, many of the Psalms were written by David who happens to be very featured in my book, Uninvited. Because if you look at one of the first stories we ever hear about David, it’s when his father Jesse was asked by the prophet Samuel to invite all of his sons to come and stand before him. And from his sons, from his group of family that, uh, Samuel would anoint the next king. And Jesse invited in all of his sons except David. So, when David pens so many of the Psalms, he’s so brutally honest in how he feels about his circumstance, but he calls things to mind. And one of the biggest things that he calls to mind is not the projections of his past, but the love of God who is very, very present.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Lysa: So, for me, a lot of times when I’m feeling those desperate feelings of being rejected or being left out or feeling lonely, I open up the Psalms, especially the ones penned by David. And I let the reality of his honesty seep deep into my heart, and watch how he turns from feeling rejected, to feeling completely loved and accepted by God.

Jim: Uh, Lysa, let me ask you this, uh, that self-rejection occurs, and you’ve described that adequately in the, in the way we beat ourselves up with negative self-talk. There’s also the rejection from another person that’s real.

Lysa: Mm-hmm.

Jim: You know, the friend that used to be a friend, but for some reason they don’t return the calls anymore, whatever it might be. How do you counsel a person to manage that when it’s real, it’s formidable and there’s something that you’ve, that has pushed somebody away and you don’t even know what it is maybe?

Lysa: Right. Well, I wrote in the book, rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst that’s been said to me. So, what often happens is when someone has given you a line of rejection, so they have said to you, Jim, um, you’re not cool enough to be my friend. Or a girl in high school maybe said to you one time, the famous line, like, Jim, I think you’re amazing. You’re just not amazing for me

Jim: (laughs) How’d you know that happened (laughing).

Lysa: ‘Cause it’s happened to so many of us, right?

Jim: Wow.

Lysa: Or, uh, whatever, you know. I mean, I, I once had a guy in high school who I was just crazy about, say, Lysa, you’re a great friend, but I can’t ever imagine you really being my girlfriend.

Jim: And you liked the guy.

Lysa: Yeah. And I liked him.

Jim: Yes. Hmm.

Lysa: And so, at the core of all of that is basically someone else saying, you’re not good enough for me. Okay. So, that is a line, L-I-N-E. That’s a statement that they made, a line that they spoke into your life. Well, what happens is that line then eventually in your life, if it sinks in and often those lines of rejection goes straight to the core of who we are. It’s more than an emotion we feel in the moment. It becomes something that goes from a line or a statement that they said, to a lie we start to believe about ourselves. Then that lie that we believe about ourselves becomes a liability in every other relationship that we’re in, including our relationship with God. So, I imagine, okay, let’s just not to pick on you, Jim, but let’s say-

Jim: (laughs).

Lysa: … that girl said that to you in high school. Okay. And then here we are, how many ever years after high school, you’re like 10 years out of high school, something like that, right?

Jim: Oh yeah. Yeah, right around there (laughing). Right around the 10-

Lysa: But (laughs)-

Jim: … times three, four.

Lysa: Okay. So, 30, 40 years out of high school. I didn’t wanna say it, but you did. So, here we go. So, it’s been a long time, right? But somewhere, if you let that statement that that girl in high school made, seat down into your heart and become the liability of you believing about yourself, you’re not quite good enough. Then that feeling of rejection is gonna be compounded every other time someone says something to you, and you don’t feel good enough.

Jim: Yeah.

Lysa: Rejection, undealt with rejection, will multiply the feelings so that you have a disproportionate response to something that someone said that tapped into that same feeling, you’re not good enough.

Jim: Right. And you’re talking from experience because you touched on it a moment ago, but you mentioned, uh, your, you know, tough relationship with your father.

Lysa: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Describe that and how that set you on a certain path.

Lysa: Well, my dad had his own issues of brokenness and, you know, I can look back now and see that. But as a child, I didn’t understand that it had w- his lack of love for me, I didn’t understand as a child, it had a lot more to do with him, a lot less to do wi- uh, with me. But-

Jim: Describe the, the environment so we can catch it.

Lysa: Okay.

Jim: ‘Cause a lot of people will share that environment with you.

Lysa: Right. So, one of my earliest memories of my dad is being about eight years old. And, um, my mom had gotten me a new dress for Easter. I put it on, and it was rare for us to have money to buy a store-bought dress, so it was really special to me. So, I put this dress on and I felt so pretty. And I thought, I think that tonight is the night that my daddy will actually notice me.

Jim: Hmm.

Lysa: So, I walked out-

Jim: You remember that?

Lysa: Oh, I remember it vividly.

Jim: Wow.

Lysa: I walk out into the den. My dad was sitting in a recliner chair. He had a beer in one hand, he had a TV remote in his other hand, he was watching something on the TV. And I went and stood beside his chair. And my heart was just beating so fast like, daddy, please notice me, daddy, tell me I’m beautiful. Daddy tell me that you love me. And he never looked my way. So, I did what any little girl would do to try to get attention in that moment, I started to twirl around and around and around. And as my dress was flowing out, my heart was just crying out. Daddy, please look at me.

Jim: Wow.

Jim: Wow.

Lysa: And, um, he never looked at me. He never said anything that night. It didn’t matter how many times I twirled around. You see, he was present physically, but he was absent emotionally.

Jim: Right.

Lysa: And to a little girl, when a man is physically present but emotionally absent, it creates a deep hollow feeling inside of her heart.

Jim: Wow.

Lysa: That creates almost this desperate feeling of, I’ve got to find someone to tell me that I’m beautiful, that I’m noticed, and that I’m loved. And so, for me, it set me on this path where I was so desperate to hear those words from a man, since I never heard them from my dad, that it kind of put me in this place of, of grabbing for scraps of love from other people.

Jim: Ah.

Lysa: And, um, and we, if we don’t grasp the love of God in that hollow feeling, then we will always grab at scraps of love from other people. And that’s-

Jim: Wow. And they’re never satisfying.

Lysa: Never satisfying.

Jim: Lysa, can I, um, press you a little bit in an area that some people might be thinking, and it may be temperament. I’m not even sure. But, um, can we really blame it just on our environment and our circumstances? Um, can you be a little tougher? I don’t want to sound mean-spirited, but some people who may not have that sensitivity, don’t even understand it. And I think for a large part, males are less oriented to really grabbing the impact of what happens in childhood. Those things that you don’t get emotionally, spiritually, the love that you don’t feel.

Lysa: Hmm.

Jim: Uh, we don’t have as much capacity, I think. And I’m being very generic to understand it. I think women feel it far deeper and get it far better than men. And that may be why it has such a long impact on a little girl who becomes a woman-

Lysa: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … who’s looking for those scraps as you described it.

Lysa: Yeah. And I would say that, uh, the gift to a woman who feels the pain a little bit deeper is when we feel the pain, we are much more motivated to heal the pain. You see, I think guys feel the pain too. It’s just that we’re, I don’t think-

Jim: We mask it or?

Lysa: Yeah. I think that guys can, um, fill it up temporarily with success, with performance, with, um, surface relationships, but there will come a time in your life-

Jim: Hmm.

Lysa: … uh, for every man where if you ever hear from your wife, I really wish you would be more tender with me. And I think a lot of guys hear this from their wife. What they’re really, really, what the wife is really saying is, I wish you would open up the deep places of your heart to me. I wish you would bring your brokenness and vulnerability. Like, if your wife ever says that to you, Jim, then what she’s really saying is, Jim, you’ve got a broken place deep down in your heart, and I wish you would come to me and say, I’m afraid. I wish you would come to me and say, I’m heartbroken over something. I wish you would come to me and bring those vulnerable parts of your heart. Because I believe that every person, male or female, experiences rejection as a little person and wrestles with it, the rest of their life.

Jim: Hmm.

Lysa: And if we don’t allow those deep recesses of our heart to be open to the healing of God, then we’re gonna create surface relationships that don’t ever get to that deep heart center place. And every woman longs for her husband to get there.

Jim: Yeah. Um, Lysa, that is such profound and deep stuff you’re talking about. And we are at the end of the program and, uh, we’re going continue the conversation. But if this has touched your heart, um, Lysa has shared so openly about her own past, her own vulnerabilities, and maybe that’s triggered, uh, something in you and you, uh, need someone to talk to. If that’s the case, uh, we have caring Christian counselors who are here. Um, sometimes, uh, the call volume is high. Leave a message and they will get back to you. Don’t sit in isolation. Uh, there’s nothing you’re gonna share with us that we haven’t heard. It’s rare because we’ve been at it for almost 40 years, and these folks know what they’re talking about. And I hope you will contact us and allow us to put a resource in your hand, might be Lysa’s book. It may be other resources too. But we want you to call us if you’re struggling with rejection and loneliness, and you feel uninvited.

John: And that phone consultation begins, uh, with a call to 800-A-FAMILY. 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Uh, Lysa, I obviously want to say thanks for being here today, but I’m gonna give you overnight to think about this question starting tomorrow. And we’re gonna start right here. And that is, given all the pain, given the rejection, why does God allow us to go through this? What is the purpose? So, you think about it, and we’ll start the program with your answer next time. Can we, do it?

Lysa: Sounds good. Yes.

Jim: Okay.

John: And we’d encourage you to get that book by Lysa TerKeurst. Um, it can be yours when you make a donation of any amount to the ministry here of Focus on the Family. Uh, that book is called Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely. And will help you live out some of the principles that, uh, Lysa has been sharing today. So, donate and get your copy of that book when you visit focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Becky Harling offers practical ways you can intentionally listen to your child. From learning to give her a voice to the importance of non-verbal communication to teaching him how to make wise decisions, you’ll see how listening is one of the most important components of parenting.

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Taking Courageous Steps to Save Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Ann White’s marriage was in desperate trouble, but she was terrified to let anyone know. She discusses how God helped her to break through dysfunctional patterns and finally ask for help. Hear this courageous story about a marriage restored. (Part 2 of 2)

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A Legacy of Music and Trusting the Lord

Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll explains how listeners can find freedom from self-imposed and unrealistic standards of perfection in a discussion based on her book, Breaking Up With Perfect: Kiss Perfection Goodbye and Embrace the Joy God Has in Store for You.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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