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Planting the Seeds of Success in Your Kids (Part 2 of 2)

Planting the Seeds of Success in Your Kids (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Kevin Leman offers time-tested solutions for parenting that will help moms and dads plant the seeds of patience, kindness, humility, and respect in their children as they prepare them for adulthood. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: November 19, 2021

Preview:

Dr. Kevin Leman: But if you look at the teachings of Christ, He was always an authority, and that’s why I tell mommies, you don’t take any guff from your son, ever. Dads, realize you put indelible imprint on those daughters’ lives. So be careful with that quick tongue.

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John Fuller: Well, Dr. Kevin Leman was our guest last time on Focus on the Family, offering help to parents as we try to raise responsible, successful kids. And we’ve got more encouragement from him today. Uh, stay with us. Your host is Focus on the Family President Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Uh John, last time we talked about the importance of, uh, building character into our children. What parent doesn’t want to do that? Keeping the end goal in mind, Dr. Leman mentioned that. You know, it’s hard when you’re dealing with a four-year-old.

John: Uh-huh.

Jim: … to think of them as 25 or 30. But I’m there now, and I can see it. It’s so much fun to see how many times you said, “Say please, say thank you.” Now they’re doing it.

John: And they’re polite, yeah.

Jim: It’s amazing.

Audience:(laughs)

Jim: Uh, but today Dr. Leman will share more helpful methods, uh, that we can put into practice to, you know, ensure that, uh, our kids have not just successful careers perhaps but that they’re successful as human beings.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: As people. And at the core of that, of course, is a relationship with Christ, and- and putting those, um, you know, wonderful attributes into play in their relationship.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: So, I’m looking forward to it.

John: I am too. We always enjoy the conversation with Dr. Leman, and, uh, he’s written over 60 books. He’s a well-known psychologist and speaker, and, uh, he’s been on this broadcast, boy, he’s been in these studios so many times, Jim. Uh, today we’re gonna be talking about one of his more recent books, 8 Secrets to Raising Successful Kids: Nurturing Character, Respect, and a Winning Attitude. And you can get your copy from us here at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Kevin, welcome back.

Dr. Leman: Thank you. It’s so good to be here.

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Leman: I- you know, I- I-

Jim: Day two.

Dr. Leman: I- I just reread this book, uh, this week in preparation for coming here, and as I was reading the book, I told myself, you know, it’s amazing ’cause I’ve written a lot of books on rearing kids. I said, “But this is really good stuff.”

Jim: (laughs)

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: The toughest part is the character part. You know, and, uh…

Jim: Takes a while to see it sometimes.

Dr. Leman: It does. But just underscore the fact that, hey, parents, you know, they’re looking at you. And it’s just so important for you to be the person you want your kid to be. If you keep that in mind as you read this book, I think it’ll be more meaningful to you.

Jim: Yeah. Uh, we do have a live audience, small audience, but we’re gonna ask them for questions at the end like we did last time.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And, uh, it was fun [crosstalk 00:02:45] hearing from a couple of folks.

John: Yeah, yeah, I enjoyed having them here.

Jim: Kevin, let’s start with Proverbs. Uh, many parents mention this, uh, great scripture. It says, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Wow, that’s a promise. Let’s do that. You have a little different take on that.

Dr. Leman: Well, it’s, uh… I think it’s an interesting take. Number one. Uh, train up. My observation is that as parents today we basically train down. We don’t train up. Uh, we are too negative with them. We use warnings, and again, warnings are not a part of any of the Leman books. Uh, warnings are rather disrespectful acts that say, “You know what?” And we tend to repeat warnings.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: It’s not like you give them one warning. It’s over and over and over again. Which sort of says essentially, “I think you’re so stupid I have to tell you two or three times.” And by the way, when you call a kid to ask them to do anything, how many times do you call them? See, I’ve talked to your children, and I know the answer to that.

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Leman: And the answer is three times. And when you ask a kid about that, they’ll tell you straight out. “Well, the first time it’s just sort of a general alert.”

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: “And the second time, he or she, mom or dad, raises their voice and, uh, a decibel or two. And the third time, they put my middle name in there, I know they mean business.” So, my question is, do you want to train up kids to learn to listen? Tell them once. Have a consequence that follows if they don’t do simple things they’ve asked. I think that’s a good idea. But the point is, we tend to train down. And mom is going into a store. She has a little talk with the kids. “Now listen up. Don’t do this. Don’t do that. Don’t ask for anything ’cause the answer is no.” What if you just communicated your kid? And just be aware of those kind of things. So, train up a child, okay. In the way he should go. Now I love this one. Over in Proverbs 3, King Solomon ends with, uh, “And He will direct your paths.” Now notice that’s plural. You don’t have one path in life. Your kid isn’t gonna have one path in life. Your kids are gonna, you know, think of yourself. Uh, majors in college you had or jobs, opportunities. We have a lot of different paths. But that uniqueness, train up the child in the way he should go does not speak of your child. That’s how God would have your kid go.

Jim: Any comment on the he will not depart from it? (laughs)

Dr. Leman: Yeah. We don’t know what turns those kids are gonna take in life. We think we do a lot. We mentioned yesterday in our broadcast that, you know, kids are brought up in the church and so many of them leave. Why? Do they not see that as real? What did they miss? I mean, I think the fact that you can drive down the interstate in your state and talk to the Creator of the universe. Man, that’s pretty cool.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: You know what I’m saying? Well, there’s got to be a realness for kids to feel like, you know, I can talk to the Creator, and He cares about me. And I think you have to have a passion for being a parent today. If you want that kid to not depart from what you’ve taught him. I think the problem is that we do all these other things. And like we said yesterday, we focus on the things and the success and the career, rather than who they really are. And I made it a point with my five kids to always say, “You know, I love you for you are. I love to see that kindness in you.”

Jim: Yeah.

John: Yeah.

Jim: Uh, Kevin, let’s, uh, get to the life mantras that you describe in the book. I think you start the first one, there’s four. The first one is the boss.

Dr. Leman: Yeah.

Jim: Why don’t we describe these for the listeners?

Dr. Leman: Well, some of you as parents are the boss. You know the right thing to do.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: Order and doing things right is okay, but there’s limits where that boss doesn’t become approachable. And the next one I talk about is the perfectionist, and they’re a step worse than the boss. Because when they’re wrong, it’s someone else’s fault. And I think admitting to your kids in as godly a way as you can. “Hey, I sorry. I blew that. I ran over your feelings. I had no right to say that. I was prying, that’s your business. Let the heat calm down, and we’ll talk about it another time.” I think that kind of approach makes you what? Approachable.

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Leman: You know, Jesus Himself as he walked this Earth, He was approachable.

Jim: Yeah.

Dr. Leman: They tried- remember, they tried to keep the little kids away from Him? What does He say? Huh. Front seat, come up here, kiddos. I think we have to keep that in mind as we try to model what God would have us be as a parent.

Jim: Yeah. So, we have the boss, the perfectionist, what’s three?

Dr. Leman: Jesus had bad parents, as a matter of fact. He was lost for three days; they didn’t even notice he was gone.

Jim: (laughs)

Dr. Leman: I digress.

Jim: I think that was cultural back then.

Dr. Leman: I digress.

Audience:(laughs)

Jim: They had a big- big playground. Okay, loyal to the core.

Dr. Leman: Oh, well, you know, these guys are great. Uh, I think they’re the peanut butter and jelly of the sandwich. They never saw themself higher from anyone’s perspective than what they are. They tend to be servant-oriented people. They have some pretty basic good parental skills just in the fact that they’re kind of a person. And then you got, what do I call them? The party-

John: Party central I think…

Dr. Leman: Yeah, party central.

John:  in the book.

Dr. Leman: Listen, if you have kids like that, never met a stranger. Outgoing. Might have a sense of humor. Uh, sort of garner attention. And again, keep in mind that all kids are attention getters. But they get it positively or negatively, that’s the key. And as a kid gets discouraged, he or she will become, you know, more acting out in a negative way. So again, it goes back to the heart. You know, the… I mentioned that King Solomon in chapter 3 of the Book of Proverbs. He uses the word heart three different times in six little verses. And no matter what we’re talking about on Focus on the Family. I got news for you. It all goes back to heart. Heart for ministry. Heart for being a parent. People who contribute to Focus on the Family. They know all the things Focus does. They’re in a lot of things. It’s just not a radio broadcast. Okay. And so, people who catch the vision of what they do, they want to become a part of it. Because they know they help people.

Jim: That’s true.

Dr. Leman: But we need the love of God in our lives, for sure.

Jim: Kevin, one of the- the difficulties, and we’ve touched on this yesterday and today. The… Trying to get on the same page. You talk about getting on the same page as parents. And Jean and I struggled with that at times. Because she was, you know, a little more demanding. I was a little less demanding. And she’d be frustrated with me, and I’d kind of feel like, “Man, I’m seeing that this is going into a dead end.” Um, speak to the parents that have that difficulty of getting on the same page. And how do you compromise in that regard? ‘Cause some of that’s built out of your own temperament. Your own experience as a child. All those things.

Dr. Leman: It is.

Jim: So how- how would you coach, uh, a couple coming in for that counseling session?

Dr. Leman: Well-

Jim: And you’re saying, “Okay, here’s what you got to think about?”

Dr. Leman: You ask tough questions. That’s a good question because marriage isn’t easy. Uh, living with a woman is not an easy thing to do.

Jim: (laughs)

Audience:(laughs)

Jim: Please remember, write Kevin Leman.

Dr. Leman: Yeah.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: I mean, you women are weird. I mean-

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: You hug anything that moves. I mean, uh-

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: Uh, u- us men, we’re like, we specialize in arm’s length relationships, you know. But that’s a whole another book. Another topic, but-

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: But my point is-

Jim: Yeah, what is your point?

Dr. Leman: You- you work-

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: You work toward understanding how your husband sees life from behind his eyes.

Audience:Yeah.

Dr. Leman: Okay? And he might be more of a law-and-order person than you are. Rules are rules. And you know, and yet, you may have that gift of being able to talk with a- a fiery 15-year-old who’s got fire in their belly, and she’s very unhappy, and she thinks she’s treated like a little kid. But you, mom, and that’s what I say to dads. Trust that woman, she’s so much better at relationships than you are in all probability. To go in and deal with it. And then, mom, talk to dad. I mean, tell him what’s going on. Keep him in the loop. One thing men hate is hearing things third hand. You know? So, it all gets back to communication and compassion. You know? Those are two C’s. And commitment. When you married, you made a commitment to almighty God. Okay. And to each other. It’s easy to bail out. You get married today, chances are seven years from today, you’re done. So those of you who’ve made it through 18 years of marriage or 20 years of marriage, congratulations. You’re gonna make it in all probability. But it’s every day. I mean if you want to turn each other on. This is especially for men but pray together audibly. There’s not a woman I’ve ever met who wouldn’t love her husband just to say, “honey, let’s pray.”

Audience:Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: Okay? And when you pray audibly, what comes out of your heart and out of your mouth, lots of those things aren’t said to each other. And it’s sort of new information. “I didn’t know you were worried about that,” or whatever.

Audience:Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: So, if you have this intimate connection. I wrote a book by that title once. The Intimate Connection. You got intimate connection; you can take on all comers.

Jim: Yeah. Um, Kevin, in the book you mention some things parents can do to make changes. So, I’m thinking of that- that dad or that mom right now who are… They’re thinking, “Man, I haven’t well-

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … up to this point. This is convicting to me.” Uh, to give you, uh, kind of that list that I looked at that spoke to me. Starting anew, a prisoner no more. Expect the best, get the best.

Dr. Leman: Yeah.

Jim: You mentioned that last time. Count to 10 before speaking. That’s a great parental encouragement. (laughs)

Dr. Leman: Yeah.

Jim: Power of vitamin E. Just touch on a couple of those. And the book is full of those great recommendations, if you’re that parents whose feeling, like, “Man, I haven’t done this.” Here you go.

Dr. Leman: Well, one of them, I think, is the obvious, is what can I do different? Because what happens is we do the same thing over and over again. As husband and wife, I’ll tell you, you have the same argument all the time. It’s just in different form. So, my question to you is who’s winning your marriage? Marriage isn’t a competitive sport, so I don’t get it. Uh, but with your kids the same thing applies. So, you think about, how can I do things differently? If you’re one of those persons that’s quick to anger, you know, it’s part of your personality. Do you realize that one of reasons why you’re quick to anger is because it was paid off when you were a kid? And when you got angry, everything stopped. And so that’s control. Men tend to be controllers. Women tend to be pleasers. I know that’s a- a broad brush, but it’s basically true. But getting to a point where, Jim, you mentioned counting to 10. Think before you engage those lips in conversation. Uh, have a soft spirit about you. Don’t ask kids questions. Okay. It’s really… Ask for their opinion. They’ll talk your ear off. Treat kids differently. Don’t react, respond.

Jim: Yeah. You know, one of the ones that caught me, and ’cause I had this experience, was, uh, ask for forgiveness. You, sometimes as parents, we don’t think we need to. I remember Trent was probably five or six years old. I think I probably reacted over the top on something. Uh, which was, you know, not typical for me. So, I went in, and I remember he was in top bunk ’cause he’s the oldest son, right? So, he’s get- he gets the top bunk.

John: He gets his pick, yeah.

Jim: And I remember having that eye to eye look at him, and I said, “Hey, I just want you to know I’m really sorry.” And this big smile broke out over his face. I’m like, “What are you thinking?” And he said, “I just didn’t know parents had to apologize.” (laughs)

Audience:(laughs)

Jim: I thought, “Wow, that’s good.” And, uh, but it was powerful.

Dr. Leman: When you made a fool of yourself, okay, and sometimes we do. Yeah, it takes a big person to say, you know, “honey, I was wrong.” Uh, and saying that to a young kid, a lot of us have the idea of, “Hey, he’s the kid. And I’m the boss.” And this goes back to train up a child, you know, I know what’s best for my kid. No, God knows what’s best for your kid. He’s given them different kids and ability. Our job is to nurture them. And time after time after time, if you come I softly, you’ve opened the doors, and you’ve dropped the defenses. Okay. When you come in powerful, okay, accusatory. Everything gets shut down, and nothing you say is gonna get past that veneer that person puts out there to keep you at bay.

Jim: Mm-hmm. Good parenting tip. All right let’s move to questions from the small group audience we have here. Let’s go to, I think it’s Nicki.

Nicki: My name is Nicki. Um, I have two wonderful, wonderful kids. Um, my son is 10 and my daughter is 8. Um, and they are super smart and kind and wonderful, and generous to children. But-

Dr. Leman: Are they for sale?

Jim: (laughs)

Audience:(laughs)

Nicki: They are, yes. (laughs)

Audience:(laughs)

Nicki: But we have a… We work really hard for our kids to provide anything and everything that they could need. But we have a hard time with them being humble and grateful for the things that they have. Always seeming to expect and, um, want more. How do I work with this?

Dr. Leman: Well, number one. I love that question. I think one of the things we have failed to do across the board as parents in America is create a grateful heart in kids.

Nicki: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: Kids are on the take. They’re hedonistic little suckers.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: You give them one, they want two. Okay. On top of that, we live in an arena where people who have means, okay, give their kids far too many things. These kids that play team sports today, you should see their bags. They’re embroidered.

Nicki: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: I mean, it’s crazy what we do. “Oh, my kid has to have the best.” I grew up poor. And I think growing up poor is a real blessing. ‘Cause you understand… I mean, I don’t… I live a life where I- Every day, I say, Lord, give me opportunities to bless people. This morning in an IHOP, I had a lady, uh, she worked all night long. I was there, like, at 5:30 in the morning. And I said, “Boy, I remember working all night, that’s tough.” And she said, “Well, you get used to it.” Well, I think my bill was nine dollars, gave her a $10 tip. I know it’s supposed to be 20% or whatever. But you can go out of the way to bless somebody. I mean, and your kids see that. I’m tal- I got kids who are givers. Is it an accident that they’re givers? No. But I just think that staying grounded, giving your kids what they need, not what they want. There’s a huge difference in those things.

Nicki: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: But the affirmation of who they are and the love for them, and the encouragement. That vitamin E, as I call it, is so important. But don’t forget vitamin N. Because vitamin N is no. We’re not gonna do that. And that’s what helps keeps kids in the authoritative realm of life and not the authoritarian, where they’re just gonna react or fight back, or the permissive. And keep in mind, the permissive creates rebellion, and the other extreme does as well. I think you’re in good shape. Congratulations on two great kids.

Jim: Yeah. I love that. Uh, Kevin, we cannot end without hearing that wonderful story that some listeners may never have heard about you dropping your daughter off at college.

Dr. Leman: Well, I… But there’s several. I remember my 15-year-old daughter Chrissy, announcing… Uh, it was her first varsity volleyball game, that we were not to come to her game, okay. And she finally relented and said, “Well.” And I told her. I said, “Well, I’m coming.” But drove 90 miles to it. That same kid, you know, when she went to college, she was in Chicago. I travel a lot. I dropped in and surprised her. And, uh, she walked out of her biology class. And, uh, she didn’t even see me. I’m an old guy. I would think I’d stick out like a sore thumb. And- and all this- I finally said, “Leemy, how’s it going?” And she whirled her head around. She said, “My daddy’s here. My daddy’s here.” And she’s yelling to everybody in her class, “My daddy’s here,” and she jumps into her arms. Story number one, your kid will tell you, “I don’t want to be in your life.” Okay, uh, separate. The truth of the matter is, they don’t only need us in our life, they want us in their life. Now, let me tell you about Holly. And I think this exemplifies what parenthood is all about. And by the way, you get one shot at it. And talk to anybody who’s got kids in college, they’ll tell you how- how quick those years go by. Oldest daughter went to a place called Grove City College in Pennsylvania. Wonderful school, by the way. And, uh, we live in upstate New York in the summertime. I have a cottage on the lake where I hide out from people. During the summer-

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: … um, I was sort of having fun, I think, at my wife’s expense by telling her, “Pretty soon, you’re gonna have to say goodbye to your little daughter.” Huh. In retrospect, I think why I did it ’cause I knew it was gonna bother me.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: Okay.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: So, whenever I told her that, she would do this. Whenever she cries, she does this. “Oh, I don’t want to talk about it. I don’t want to talk about it.” Well, the day comes. It’s that fateful day where you- you take two cars to get all the freshman stuff. The rug and everything else you take to college. And, uh, I remember that day like it was yesterday. It’s one of my all-time favorite stories. ‘Cause it’s that time where (laughs) you realize, “Wow. This is a new journey here. A new chapter.” And you… And we pulled up, and boys with blue button-down collars, long sleeve shirts, emptied out the- the cars. And- and you get to that precipice where you’re in a room you can hardly turn around in. You meet the parents of the roommate, you meet the roommate, but then it comes that time. Holly starts saying something, like, you know, “It’s time to go.” And I- I just said to her. I said, “I got to get out of here.” And I felt claustrophobic. I literally ran out. And, uh, she said to me, said, “What, is there a ballgame?” I said, “No. No. No. Well, later, there’s a ballgame.” It was a Sunday afternoon.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: But anyway, I went out. I just sort of freaking out. My wife is behind me with Holly. They’re about 50 feet behind me. I get up to the parking lot. And now her and her mother are now doing this back and forth, holding each other. And I still remember the sun just sort of gleaming off of them. And- and thinking, “Stay right there. Don’t come over here.”

Audience:Mm-hmm.

Dr. Leman: I- I can’t do this.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: Soon as I had the thought, she makes a beeline for me, okay. And she comes up to me, and she puts her arms around me. She looks up and says, “Daddy, I love you so much.” And I just lost it. You ever see a man cry where their whole body sorta-

Audience:Yeah.

Dr. Leman: … does this lurching? Well, that’s me. And I remember thinking, “It’s so weird. I’m in the parking lot, and I’m reflecting back to her being 10 years old.” And- and just thinking, “You can’t be all grown up.” And it goes back to that verse we talked about earlier. You know? 22:6. Train up a child. Did I train her up right? Did I teach her everything she needed to teach? And- and finally in true male style, I took her little waist. She’s tell, 5’9″, skinny like her mom. And I said, “Holly, you got to go.” And I flipped her around. You know what she did? She just left. And she got toward the corner of the- the dorm, and I said, “Holly, call us tonight.” And she’d do one of these things over her shoulder. Never turned around. Well, I was miserable. I said, “Let’s get out of here.” We drove up I-79 out of Pittsburgh toward Erie, Pennsylvania, stopped at Red Lobster, ate a dead fish for lunch.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: Uh, nothing helped, ‘cuz a part of me was gone. I knew she’d call. I’m sitting there like a darn fool. 10:00 o’clock at night, she doesn’t call. Finally, I cave in. I go to bed. I’m an old dean of students. I knew enough not to call her, I waited. The following Sunday, she calls. I’m telling you; I was so excited to hear that. We heard all about freshman week. Three Rivers, uh, what Pittsburgh looks like at night. And I- After we talked for probably 45 minutes, I said, “Holly, I got to ask you a question. When you were walking away from us, what were you thinking about last Sunday?” She said, “Daddy, it’s funny you bring that up because I was thinking about this week.” I said, “Well, what were you thinking about?” She said, “Well, I thought about the fact that you and mommy had brought me up right. And now it was my turn to go and do it in life.” And this goes back to what we talked about on this broadcast. Start with the end in mind. What do you want that kid to be like? Well, about four or five years after that situation, that sad farewell, I was in, uh, Phoenix, Arizona speaking into an auditorium about 3,000 people. And I was closing the seminar with this vignette because I think it symbolizes so much about what parenthood’s all about. I see this young lady coming down the outside. And I looked, and I thought, “That girl looks like Holly.” And she kept coming. It’s Holly. And I announced to crowd. “It’s Holly!”

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: And everybody stands up and gives her a standing ovation. I’ve been working like a dog for two hours. Nobody gave me a standing ovation.

Audience:(laughs)

Dr. Leman: But she comes up, and I got a mic on, and she says, “Oh, daddy.” She said, “That was beautiful, but you got to tell that story right.” There’s the Judge Judy in her, that first born. I said, “honey, I told it. What are you talking about?” She said, “No, there’s something I’ve never told you.” I said, “What’s that?” She said, “Well, I didn’t turn around because I was crying. And I didn’t want you and mommy think that I couldn’t make it in life.” Hey, parents, do you see how much your kid needs you to come alongside of them? Not to flaw pick, not to say you should, you can do better. Just come along life’s journey with them. You do that, I tell you, you’re going to have a great kid you’re going to be proud of.

Jim: Kevin, this is so good. I mean, that really- that really hits you right in the heart. And-

John: Yeah.

Jim: … I’m sure parents are thinking about the long game now. And that’s part of the goal here. Let’s get parents in a better place about their parenting journey. This great book. 8 Secrets to Raising Successful Kids, a must have. And, uh, you can get that through Focus on the Family here. Make a gift of any amount, and we’ll send it as our way of saying thank you for being part of the ministry. And we’ll include the audio download of the broadcast as well. And let me also mention that we have some incredible friends who are passionate about helping parents like you to raise godly children who will impact their world. Uh, these generous friends have offered to match your donation to help us come alongside more struggling families, especially around the holidays. So, give families hope this season by making a donation. Uh, and again, your gift will be doubled by these special friends to Focus on the Family.

John: We hope you’ll get in touch today. And as Jim noted, we’ll send you the book and audio download when you make a donation to Focus on the Family. Just call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or visit focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Pastor Carey Casey explains how grandfathers can utilize their unique role to have a positive and lasting influence on their grandchildren in a discussion based on his book Championship Grandfathering: How to Build a Winning Legacy.

Sara Hagerty, author of Every Bitter Thing is Sweet

Being Seen by God

Offering encouragement found in her book Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World That Loves to be Noticed, Sara Hagerty describes how we can experience God in ordinary, everyday moments, and how we can find our identity in Him apart from what we do.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

Headshot photo of author Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

Headshot image of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Dr. Patti Giebink

Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Dr. W. Lee Warren

Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

Cover image of Dr. Lee Warren's book "I've Seen the End of You"

I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.