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Teaching Children to Celebrate Racial and Cultural Diversity

Teaching Children to Celebrate Racial and Cultural Diversity

Trillia Newbell and Dr. Danny Huerta discuss the value of our celebrating racial and cultural diversity as an expression of God's calling upon us to share His message of love and reconciliation through Christ to people of every nation, tribe, and language, and offer parents practical guidance for celebrating as a family.
Original Air Date: September 24, 2021

Preview:

Woman #1: I look for culture everywhere because I celebrate all cultures, because I’m such a mixture of them.

Man #1: Yes, I have purposefully set out to engage with other cultures simply by learning a new language.

Woman #2: God has given me many opportunities to engage with different cultures than me, including my own family who adopted me as a black girl, my family’s way to fellowship and work with and meet people completely different than me. I’ve loved it.

Woman #3: I love asking questions. And I have people telling me stories about how they grew up and how it might be different.

End of Preview

John Fuller: Well, some really good ideas for yourself and your family about looking through a lens that sees a wonderful variety of culture, and races, and ethnicities that we can see and experience in our world today. I’m John Fuller. Jim Daly is out today, so, um, I’ll be carrying the load here. I think it’s fair to say, uh, to our guests, that we’ve made some really good strides, generally, as a culture and, uh, across the world toward equality and, uh, having a more pluralistic society. And, uh, we value and engage in positive ways with those who are different from us. There is, at the same time, still some work to be done, right? Uh, we have a lot of work to do in addressing some of the serious problems that still exist. Um, many Christian families are doing this well. They’re embracing diversity, they’re living out that biblical mandate to love, and serve, and treat others with respect, and with no regard to who they are, or where they came from, or what they look like. Uh, we in the Christian community, can be leaders in this. Uh, we have a biblical mandate, and we’ll get into that as we, uh, as we continue the conversation, to take the gospel to all tribes, all nations, all tongues, all peoples. So we’ve invited a couple of great guests to help us think through and apply some of these biblical truths. We have Dr. Danny Huerta, he’s, uh, a colleague here at Focus, the head of parenting and youth department here at Focus on the Family and is a psychologist and licensed clinical social worker. He’s got a private practice in Colorado here since, uh, 2003. And Trillia Newbell is joining us for the first time today.

Trillia Newbell: Yes.

John: She is an author, speaker, blogger, editor. And today, we’re gonna discuss one of the books she wrote. And it’s, it’s different for us, Trillia.

Trillia: Yeah.

John: We don’t do lots of kids books, but I think the way that you’ve approached this topic can be a great, uh, conversation starter for families to discuss, uh, what we’re talking about today. So, the book is called Creative God, Colorful Us and it’s got some really nice paintings in it and some really good, fun stuff. Get your copy from us here at Focus on the Family. Just stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

John: Well Danny, Trillia, thanks so much for, uh, being here today.

Trillia: Thanks for having us.

Danny Huerta: Thanks for the invitation.

Trillia: I’m really excited. Yeah.

John: So, uh, let’s just throw this out on the table, either one of you or both of you can address this. It feels to me, just from observation, that a lot of kids aren’t prejudiced, they just hang out and play with other kids. They see other kids. Somewhere along the way though, the culture or family impact affects how they see people and they get uncomfortable with people that aren’t like me. What do you think about that?

Danny: I mean, that’s developmentally normal, where there’s an us versus them, right? They don’t know the other child. In sports, we naturally see the other team as the enemy, rather than they’re kids that are playing a sport with us. And competitiveness, uh, leads to, uh, to some of that naturally. And then, as you… As they age in a culture that, uh, naturally struggles with this worldwide, uh, they begin to step into those, sometimes out of fear.

Trillia: Mm-hmm.

Danny: Out of competitiveness, out of scarcity.

John: Yeah.

Danny: And there’s a resource I want, and there’s two of us, and I’m in the dominate group, and so now, uh, you become my enemy, right?

John: Yeah.

Danny: And so, there are natural things in the environment that sometimes cause a child to begin to develop this internally.

John: Yeah. Anything to add, Trillia?

Trillia: Yes. I would add that also it’s learned. So, there are when… If you’re talking about prejudice and, um, racism, or any kind of negative, when they’re looking at someone, they’re watching the way their parents speak about other people, the way their community, um, responds to people. But I do believe that children notices differences very early.

John: Mm-hmm.

Trillia: My husband is white, I am African American and when we look at … When my son was about two, he started to recognize that mommy and daddy look different, and he called himself peach. He called his dad peach, because he has lighter skin, and he called me brown. And so he would say, “Peach, brown,” ’cause he’s trying to relate and figure the world out.

John: Mm-hmm.

Trillia: And so they notice differences.

John: Yeah.

Trillia: It’s when they put that, the negative aspect, or they, their sin nature comes out (laughs).

Danny: Yeah.

Trillia: Like the competitive-

John: Right.

Trillia: … or, or, hate.

John: Yeah.

Trillia: That some of that is natural as he has so eloquently said, and then other parts of it is learned.

John: Yeah.

Trillia: So they’re looking and responding the way their parents, or the people around them do.

John: Well, so let’s go to that, uh, to that…

Trillia: Yeah.

John: … awkward moment when you’re in the store with your kids and they’re like, “Mommy,” or, “Daddy, why is that person,” and fill in the blank. And they say it loud enough for everybody nearby to hear it.

Trillia: Yeah.

John: How do you lean into that moment and not shame the child for asking, uh, a question born out of curiosity?

Trillia: Yeah.

John: Um, how do you explain that?

Danny: You know, it’s interesting the, the brain naturally prejudges, because it needs shortcuts, otherwise it takes too long to think about things.

John: Hmm.

Danny: And so teaching our kids that it’s not a wrong mechanism, but understanding what the question’s about. There’s no shame in that question, that person’s different, that’s true.

Trillia: Mm-hmm.

Danny: Hey let’s look at those differences and celebrate that.

John: Yeah.

Danny: What’s different and what makes you feel uncomfortable with that, what, what’s great about that? And it doesn’t always have to be negative. And a prejudice is a prejudging, and we have to figure out are we judging out of a pure heart or out of a heart that is prideful?

Trillia: Mm-hmm.

Danny: And so, if it’s prejudging with humility, what does that mean? Because our brain naturally does that. And so, that, that can be a whole conversation in itself there, John.

John: Sure.

Trillia: I really love that answer. And I’m so glad he said it that way because it’s 100% accurate that difference isn’t wrong and that’s where we’ve gone, where we’ve gone wrong. And difference can be celebrated, it can be enjoyed. And so, if your child points out a difference, you can acknowledge it. Yes, that person does have a dot on their forehead. Why don’t we go home and look it up? Maybe we learn where they could be from.

John: Mm-hmm.

Trillia: What is that culture about?

John: Yeah.

Trillia: That is a different response then, “Oh, oh, oh, don’t do that. Don’t point,” because it immediately makes it wrong that that difference is … There’s something negative about it and you shouldn’t point it out, you shouldn’t acknowledge difference. And, um, so I, I really do believe that if we can, as parents, or as adults, respond better, it will help ignite a curiosity in our kids and help them understand that it’s not wrong to ask questions.

John: Mm-hmm.

Danny: Right, and if a person’s offended, we can’t control that, but we can control the conversation with our kids. And in that moment, if a child that’s innocent asks that question, and a lot of times the parents are reacting to the potential offense, “Oh no, I think I just offended someone,” we can’t control that, but we can certainly respond to our child.

John: Yeah.

Danny: And lean into that teaching moment just as Trillia was saying.

John: I appreciate that. So, um, let’s look at this matter of diversity through the lens of an adult who says, “Well, I, I’m color blind. I just see people.” Is that a good way to approach this sensitive matter of differences, cultural and, and ethnic differences? Or, or what would you recommend, Trillia?

Trillia: I would say no, that you’re not color blind unless you really are color blind. If you’re… (laughing) And there are, there are people who are actually color blind.

John: I had a boss who was color blind.

Danny: That’s true.

Trillia: Yes, but what people actually are trying to say is, “I’m not racist,” and so they’re… They say, “Oh, oh I don’t see color,” but you do. You recognize when I came into this room that I have dark skin, and that’s a good thing. It’s an okay thing, why? Because God has created me that way. I’m created to reflect God in, in the way that I, um, speak and think and act and to, um, hopefully, glorify him in what I do.

John: Yeah.

Trillia: And so, God’s created me. He thought of me. He knit me in my mother’s womb. We say those things all the time. Well, it, it applies to cultural differences as well. So, you should not be color blind. I often say, “You should be color smart.”

John: Yeah, I appreciate that part of the book. So, go ahead and explain what you mean by that, Trillia.

Trillia: Yes. So, what I mean by is that you get to know people, get to understand first and foremost, what the scriptures say about culture and diversity and people.

John: Mm-hmm.

Trillia: We’ve already … We started this program thinking about we are to go and make, um, disciples of all nations. So there’s this beautiful mandate in the scriptures already. So, thinking about what the scriptures say, but also that we can… Um, it’s a part of really loving our neighbor, to get to know them and to understand and grow in our understanding of culture and people. And so, we don’t have to pretend like they don’t exist, that’s actually more offensive (laughs). Um, we can instead press into that and get to know people.

John: Hmm.

Trillia: So we don’t … Uh, that’s what I mean by color smart; understand history, understand culture, understand people, ask good questions and understand what the Bible says about differences.

John: Well, let’s go ahead. We, uh, I, I referenced that a little bit.

Trillia: Yeah.

John: There’s the Great Commission, there are a lot of versus in scripture. Why do we look to the Bible as our guide when it comes to what culturally can be a pretty sensitive or even, um, divisive conversation?

Danny: Well, I love it when scripture talks about, about one anothering. I mean it’s all throughout scripture and it doesn’t say one another, just with these few people. It’s one another with everyone. Love one another, encourage one another, exhort one another, teach one another. Everyone has something to offer. And then Ephesians 2:10 is my favorite, “That we’re all God’s workmanship. His masterpiece, created for great things in Christ Jesus.” We’re created for Christ Jesus. And all of us, different races, colors, cultures, even homes have their own cultures. I mean, that’s just… God is a creative God. They created different flowers, different animals, different plants, different people. And that’s the richness of his creativity. And it creates a color and a richness to our experience together as humans.

John: I appreciate that, Danny. Trillia?

Trillia: Well, I’m just glad he mentions Ephesians 2, because Ephesians 2:1-10 is gospel, gospel, gospel. We are united to God. He has brought us to himself. And then, when you go to Ephesians 11 to the end, we see that the veil of hostility has been broken down in the body of Jesus Christ, making one new man, the Christian. So, we’re brought together. So, we see this beautiful picture of God uniting us to himself and to one another. But all throughout scripture, from Genesis 1 all the way to Revelation…

John: I was going to say, there’s a story art that God has created, and it begins in Genesis. We see the end in human terms in Revelation. And all woven through that is this celebration of different.

Trillia: Yes.

Danny: You know, what’s interesting is Jesus and Paul challenged the church on things similar to what we’re handling, we’re trying to handle in our culture today, which is division. And Paul talked about unity over and over again in the church. And unity together, different cultures, different races. And Jesus, challenged the culture of his time.

John: Well, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, although Jim is out today. I’m John Fuller here in the studio with my colleague, Dr. Danny Huerta. He’s in charge of our parenting and youth team here at Focus. And we’re also joined by Trillia Newbell, whose got a terrific book that we’re talking about today, Creative God, Colorful Us. And it’s really beautiful little chapter book that you can go through with your children or grandchildren. We have copies of that here at the ministry. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

John: Well, Danny, let’s go ahead and hear a little bit of your story. Because you weren’t born here in the States.

Danny: I wasn’t.

John: So, share, share about that experience and, and what it taught you.

Danny: Well, I remember the day that my mom, uh, had told me, “Hey, you need to learn English. We may go to America someday.” She was from United States. My dad is from Mexico, and I was born in Mexico City. I assumed we would live in Mexico City forever. And she said, “You need to say goodbye to your, your friends. We’re moving to America.” Then the panic button kind of set in, but I didn’t realize what was going to happen there. We ended up in Colorado Springs because Jim Erwin had talked to our family and our family wanted a Christian education for us as kids. And as I arrived, I, uh, the teacher thought I was a deaf mute in the classroom. My mom had to-

Trillia: How old were you?

Danny: I was eight-and-a-half.

Trillia: Okay.

Danny: And my mom was a teacher. She got a teaching job as a Kindergarten teacher at the school. And they didn’t have an ESL program. And, uh, they, uh… In the teacher’s lounge, the teacher came to my mom after a month and said, “Hey, I think your son is going to have to special school. I think he’s a deaf mute.” And that was… What I was doing, is I was drawing all over my sheets of paper. I didn’t know what was going on, and, uh…

John: You were pretty stressed out, I would imagine too.

Danny: I was pretty stressed out. I, I ended up, actually, with warts on my fingers, just anxiety was there. I didn’t know what was going on, and I, I was very connected in Mexico, and here I didn’t feel connected at all. But, uh, in the lunchroom, I got to sit with a girl from India, a girl that was left-handed, and then a boy that stuttered. He slowed everything down for me, so I could, I could really understand what he was saying.

John: So, his stuttering was a gift to you.

Danny: Oh, it was a gift. I loved Carl, that was his name. And, uh, I got invited to play some sports with the kids at, in the, during the lunch time. That’s where I started to feel a sense of connectiveness with the other kids.

John: Got your footing there. Yeah.

Trillia: So the kids invited you?

Danny: They did. They said, “Hey, you want to come play?”

Trillia: That’s so great.

John: Well, to be fair, Trillia. On the school yard, you look for the win. And, and if he’s good… I got it, right?

Trillia: (laughing) There you go.

John: So, tell us about your family of origin, Trillia. Because yours, it wasn’t a totally rosy picture.

Trillia: No, well, I grew up, um, in a really loving home, I wouldn’t say a Christian home. And my father experienced a lot of racism growing up in Tennessee. Um, and, to being beat once, and… Yes. So, he taught us, however, to love and forgive. And it was really an interesting, um, upbringing because of that, because he experienced such deep racism.

John: And that, so that racism turned into physical expressions of hatred…

Trillia: Absolutely.

John: … Towards your dad because he was black.

Trillia: Yeah. Yeah

John: Or he is black.

Trillia: Yes, yes, he passed away when I was 19, so. Um, but, yes. And so, it really formed us, however, because we, we learned a lot about history quick, and we, I experienced, uh, some pretty overt racism. I had a, a brick thrown out the window at me once, and called the N-word. And so, it was something that I had to learn, “Okay, what, how am I going to respond to this? What is that going to do for me?” Because I didn’t, it didn’t make sense, because I, I loved people. I continue to love people. But I love people, even as a unbeliever, I, I had, there was… Because we’re made in the image of God, he gave me a love for people. And so, I didn’t understand why someone would hate me just because of the color of my skin.

John: Well, and you learned forgiveness from your dad. So, how did he grasp the importance of forgiving those who were actively demonstrating hatred toward him?

Trillia: You know, I wish I could ask him (laughing), “How did you grasp that, Dad?” Because I would just say I imagine it was also his parents who, um, grew up in the south also, and were, had learned to live in some harsh, I mean, segregated south environment. And there is something about the last generation that is enduring; they endured through suffering, they understood trials, that I think formed him and formed us. And so, we’ve learned to endure and to also, I think, understand people even though, again, I, I can’t say that it was a Christian home, but to understand that people are sinful.

John: So fast forward to you became a Christian.

Trillia: Right.

John: And if I’m not mistaken, you attended a predominately white church.

Trillia: Yes.

John: Tell us about that experience.

Trillia: Yeah, so, the girl who shared the gospel with me, she shared the gospel at 19. It took a few years before I submitted my life to the Lord, so I was 22. And I just went to her church. So, she shared the gospel with me and I went to her church and, um, I remember the day that I heard, you know, the hymn Rock of Ages, “Wash me Savior or I’ll die.” And, at that moment, I was saved and the Lord, he, um, well, he changed everything about me. So, one of the things that he changed is that I always had this, something in me, um, about justice and something in me about the right and wrong and, on this particular topic, and then I started opening the word of God and I realized, “Oh, it’s his idea.” (laughing) This is from him. And he desires unity, and he desires us to love each other and to die to self. And so, um, it was such a… It was so encouraging. But that journey, it really was just God’s faithfulness. He drew me to himself. I was not looking in any way.

John: Yeah, and you developed good friendships in that church.

Trillia: I did.

John: Obviously, laid a foundation. That community, despite you being different than most of the people in the church.

Trillia: Absolutely.

John: Really welcomed you and poured into you.

Trillia: Absolutely. Actually, it reminds me of Danny’s story, except for I was 22. I had friends. And so, I started doing accountability with a white female from the Chicago area and a Chinese gal from Nashville. (laughing) But her family’s from China. And we did accountability for many years, and the Lord… I had prayed for diversity in the church because it, it is lonely being one of only, though there were families. Um, so the Lord gave me friends, and a family, and sisters, and that is what God did, um, for me. Yeah.

John: And Danny, going back to kind of the, the immersion in US culture here, from your days growing up in Mexico. Uh, then you got married and you gave the gift of culture clash to your wife and kids.

Trillia: (laughing)

Danny: The gift. I love that. I should tell her that tonight. It’s a gift, honey.

John: There was some… Well, I mean, it’s like when I moved from the upper Midwest down to Texas, there was a culture clash there. So, describe a little bit of what Heather had to kind of go through.

Danny: Yeah, the first two years were rough, uh, in our marriage. We actually had to seek out counseling for a little bit, um, because my family wanted us to be with them all the time. Right? Every Sunday would be ideal. That’s the Latino way.

Trillia: Yep. I was about to say.

John: Culture is together, right?

Danny: And her family was more private and my family was overwhelming to her family, let’s put it that way. Very Latino. I remember growing up, we always had somebody coming to our house for dinner. I thought I was going to have dinner with my parents. All of a sudden, “Oh, who are you?” New people at our dinner table.

Trillia: That’s awesome.

Danny: They just would… They’re very hospitable, very involved in missions. And so, they assumed once you get married, more people. Uh, we’ve added a, you know, a spouse. And, uh, and our daughter-in-law is going to come over to our house every Sunday. And so, I had to put some boundaries there.

John: Mm-hmm.

Danny: That we were forming our family culture now. And I had to do that, take my wife into account. And for us to, to begin to develop what rhythm was going to be like.

John: For your family, not for her in your extended family.

Danny: Yeah. Right, and just because it’s cultural, doesn’t make it right. It just means that’s the culture that you grew up with, now you need to figure out how does this work for our relationship. Because we assume that just because it’s cultural, it makes it gospel or that’s what I have to follow, this sense of loyalty to it. No, you have to figure out, now I have to adjust to another person, and that is loving.

John: Mm-hmm.

Danny: Now you create a new culture together.

John: I appreciate that, Danny. And Trillia, as we kind of turn the corner toward the last portion of the broadcast, let’s go ahead and unpack some practical things for parents… Some of the things in the book. So, uh, how do we press through and help our kids grab onto the beauty and wonder of God-given diversity?

Trillia: Yeah, so practically preach the Word. So, that is practical. (laughing) So, preach it. All of it. And so, for our family, that’s been really important is that we’re grounded in the gospel, but we understand all of the texts. We understand Jesus and the Samaritan woman. We understand what’s going on in the Bible. Um, and so, that’s one practical step. Another one regarding church, for us, we pray for diversity. We have sought out, um, church that is slightly more diverse. I live in Tennessee, so, you know, it’s predominately white. And so, we have to be pretty intentional. And so, we’re not in a church that is like super multi-ethnic, but there is diversity. And so, that’s something that was important to us to practically look for. But everyone doesn’t… Not everyone has that. And so, I think, that’s why it’s so important that you’re preaching the Bible, so that when someone comes in who is of another ethnicity or culture, you’re already bent towards love, you’re already bent towards what the scriptures say, um, towards a welcome and not favoritism or the sin of partiality.

John: Is it safe to say, our kids are watching us for the cues that it’s okay?

Trillia: Absolutely. Absolutely, I think so. And, and I do also think that kids, especially these days… They’re going to touch cultures that are different than them, probably even more frequently. I don’t know. I don’t know if that’s… At least that’s been our experience, because we live in a Nashville area and yet my son is in school with someone who’s German, and French, and Indian. I mean, he’s… It’s all over. Which I didn’t experience as much. And so, I feel like… I don’t know if there’s something that’s changed or if it’s just that I was from East Tennessee, but they are seeing more cultures and diversity themselves. But, I do think that inviting that and opening that up, especially, as it comes to church is really important. And, and then, I know you’re probably going to turn the corner to in the home. But, I believe that’s of utmost importance. Because if you’re… I mean, this is like with everything, right? We don’t want it just to be on Sunday mornings. So, we, we want the way that we’re living and talking about people to be throughout the week. And so, for us, it’s also been very important that we introduce different cultures in, in the home.

John: You’ve got a tradition of doing that, um, cooking from around the world. Is that right?

Trillia: Yeah. Yes, so we cook through the nations. So, since they were young, we would, I would have them look at a map and decide, “Okay, what, what country, or continent, or where should we cook through?” And we, we do that, and it’s been such a fun time. And, on, um, Black History Month, we talk through the whole month. We cook through something and then we go through different… Talk about history and culture. And so, but not, obviously, not just February. We do it throughout the year. And it’s opened up a world for my kid. My son was, is learning German, and Cherokee. And there’s just this, this interest that’s… And I think it’s how God has made them, but I do also think we’ve invested in that. We’ve helped open that door for them.

John: Yeah. Danny, from a professional perspective, um, and with your heart as a dad, talk to the parents who are listening, thinking, “Well, I guess have some work to do, but I don’t know where to start.”

Danny: Well, by the way, our home… They only mimic the good things. They never mimic the bad things.

Trillia: (laughing)

John: Of course, God makes your children. They are perfect. They are a reflection of all that you’ve done right.

Danny: All the perfection. That’s right. So, with my kids, just in our home, and really in my practice, we talk about self-awareness and developing that discipline, that skill. We all have stereotypes of some form or another. If you really dig down to it. It doesn’t have to be racial. There’s stereotypes, there’s prejudice, sometimes discrimination. We all own that, and we need to own it. The more we’re in the light, the more we see our own sin, and Paul learned that. And so, being able to be open to that. And as parents, where it begins, is we begin to teach character traits that are going to naturally lead to loving other people. The most foundational one being humility. Make that a center of your home. Kindness, compassion, humility, empathy; these things that are central to the development of a child that’s going to be loving down the road to people that are different than them. And so, it really begins with humility, and scripture tells us that very clearly. And that’s where you can begin. It doesn’t have to be complex with racism and those tough topics. Start early with your kids, start building in them a love for God’s creation and all the differences within all of his creation.

John: Mm-hmm. I appreciate that.

Trillia: Can I add one thing?

John: Please.

Trillia: And with humility, comes repentance.

John: Yes.

Danny: That’s very true.

Trillia: And so, one of the things that we have to do… Because he’s exactly right. Even the most aware struggles with stereotypes, struggles with bias, struggles with sin. So, we have to be repenting people. So, we repent if we’ve said something that’s, um, inappropriate or wrong, and we try to help our kids learn to repent too. To be people who ask God for forgiveness and turn from our sin. And so, I just think that’s really important, with humility comes repentance.

John: Well, I’m so grateful to both of you for sharing from your hearts, and again, sharing the scriptures like that. And Trillia, thank you for this book, Creative God, Colorful Us. Uh, we do, uh recommend that you get that for your kids or grandkids, maybe for yourself. Maybe a kids book is a great starting point for you to unpack some of this. Get a copy from us here at Focus on the Family and support the ministry as you do. Um, as Jim often says, “A one-time gift of any amount, or if you can, a monthly recurring, sustaining gift to the ministry helps immensely.” Donate today, get a copy of this book. And you can do that by stopping by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Oh, and, along the way, you know, we’ve talked about not just doing some introspection, but equipping our kids so they can do well. And, Danny, you and your team have this great parenting assessment. It’s free. We’re going to link over to it. Just give a one sentence summary of what this assessment is all about.

Danny: Well, it’s really based on high level of demanding this as a parent boundaries and also high levels of love. And it’s, this is called the Seven Traits of Effective Parenting Assessment, for you as a parent to see how you can grow and what strengths you bring into your home and your parenting.

John: Well, that’s going to be free and it’s available on our website. And again, that’s focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

John: Danny, Trillia, thanks so much for the energy and the insights you brought today.

Trillia: Thank you.

Danny: Thank you, John. Thank you, Trillia.

Trillia: Thank you.

John: And we hope you have a great weekend with your family and your church family as well. And then, join us on Monday as we explore loneliness in marriage.

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Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life (Part 1 of 2)

Jodie Berndt, best-selling author of the Praying the Scriptures book series, offers parents guidance for how they can more frequently and effectively pray for their children’s faith, wisdom, self-discipline, character, life purpose, and more. (Part 1 of 2)

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Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus (Part 2 of 2)

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others. (Part 2 of 2)

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Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus (Part 1 of 2)

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others. (Part 1 of 2)

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Avoiding Shame-Based Parenting

Psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan discusses the origins of shame, the search for self-worth in all the wrong places, and the importance of extending grace to ourselves. He also explains how parents can help their kids find their own sense of self-worth, belonging and purpose.

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Becoming a Clutter-Free Family

Joshua Becker discusses the benefits a family can experience if they reduce the amount of “stuff” they have and simplify their lives. He addresses parents in particular, explaining how they can set healthy boundaries on how much stuff their kids have, and establish new habits regarding the possession of toys, clothes, artwork, gifts and more.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!