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Trusting God When We Don’t Understand His Ways (Part 1 of 2)

Trusting God When We Don’t Understand His Ways (Part 1 of 2)

In a discussion based on his book When God's Ways Make No Sense, psychologist Dr. Larry Crabb explores the topic of suffering in both the Bible and through personal stories, and offers encouragement through the re-assurance that God cares for us and is trustworthy, even when circumstances seem to dictate otherwise. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: July 30, 2018

Excerpt:

Dr. Larry Crabb: God is not the author of making life terrible, but I would suggest this – that when terrible things do happen, there’s nothing that God cannot use for His purposes.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: Dr. Larry Crabb is going to help you understand why a loving God allows pain and suffering in your life, and how God can truly be good, even in difficult times. This is Focus on the Family with your host, Focus president Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller and today we’re coming back to a broadcast that was recorded with some friends in the audience at a live event in Charlotte, North Carolina.

Jim Daly: John, one of the biggest questions or struggles that we have as Christians is, why does God allow bad things to happen to good people? I think every Christian has probably wrestled with that. For example, why are people dying from the coronavirus? Or why do good people suffer? Why does God allow financial hardship or job loss? These are the questions we’re asking. If you’ve been around for a while, you no doubt have experienced disappointment. Dr. Larry Crabb will be offering some very helpful, Biblical insight on this critical topic. And one of the things that makes him so effective is that he’s had to struggle with these questions himself. Larry has written a book called When God’s Ways Make No Sense.

John: And of course, we have that available here at Focus on the Family. Dr. Crabb is a psychologist and he’s the founder of NewWay Ministries. And, Jim, here’s how you began that conversation on Focus on the Family.

Jim: This is a deep question.

Larry: It’s a hard question.

Jim: So, where do you get started on this, for that believer who’s had difficulty, who doesn’t know why I made a commitment to Christ, and it’s gone downhill since then? What do you say to that kind of situation and that person?

Larry: You got to ask the question, what good is God in this life? And, um, we all agree, I’m sure every Christian agrees that when the Lord died for us on the cross, that guaranteed us heaven. And that’s a rather good deal, for starters. And then what He’s up to be – between our time of conversion and our time of getting to heaven, when there’ll be no more problems, no more struggles, no more disappointment, no more difficulties of any sort.

Jim: No tears.

Larry: No tears, nothing at all – that’s going to be difficult. But what – what is He up to now? I think that’s a very crucial question because the assumption that’s made by a lot of people, particularly in Western culture, is that what God is up to is giving us the abundant life, defining abundance as an abundance of comfort and abundance of blessings that make life go smoothly, and an abundance of things that make us feel good all the time. And if that’s what He’s up to, He’s not doing a very good job.

Jim: Hmm.

Larry: So, the question has to be, well, what is the abundant life that Jesus promised us, and what is He saying is the good thing that He’s doing for us at every moment? And those kinds of questions have to be thought through very carefully.

Jim: Let’s use an example out of your book. Millie, I think, is the name of the person that you used. I’m sure it’s not the true name. But what was Millie’s situation? And why did that story captivate you?

Larry: She came to me. We had a chance to chat. And she was one of the most cheerful souls that I’ve met. And as we got to know each other, she shared with me some really difficult things. She had a – she had a brother who was dying a slow death. And she was praying that God would take him home quickly because the doctors had given up hope with his ever living for any length of time. And he was suffering so badly. And as she was sharing this story with me, she said, “I prayed that God would take him quickly, and he’s lasted for a long time in terrible pain.” And I found myself saying, “God, why – why are You allowing this to happen? You have the power to change it.” And then she had a son who died instantly, very suddenly with a particular problem that had he been diagnosed it could have been treated. But it had not been diagnosed and then the result was that he, um, went to – went to bed one night and died in the middle of the night. She had a daughter who got so fed up with God that she finally came out of the closet and told her parents that, um, she’s a lesbian. And this woman is saying, “God, are you up to anything good in my life at all?” And then to top it off, if that’s not enough, to top it off, her elderly father – a godly man who as I recall correctly, I think had been a pastor – he committed suicide when he was in his early 80s. And I’m asking this lady, “Millie, tell me why you’re joyful. Tell me why? What’s going on here?” And she said, “I’ve not always been rather joyful. This has been a miserable life for me. But the question that I’ve had to wrestle with more deeply than I’ve ever dreamed I’d have to is: “God, if you really are a good God – and I believe you are – I know the Bible a little bit. I know that if You’ve given us Your Son, how are You going to withhold any good thing from us. But You’ve withheld a lot of good things from me. And I need to understand what You define the word good to be.” And what she came up with, as we chatted together was – and I think this is very, very difficult for me to really grasp as the best news that I’m after – but what God is up to, C.S. Lewis puts it this way, God is up to one major thing in my life and in yours, in every Christian’s life, as Lewis puts it – to produce little “Christs.”

Jim: Hmm.

Larry: To take Christian people and to – and to work with them in such a way that their deepest desire is to love another, to put Jesus on display by how we love. And when she said, “When I got a hold of that as my deepest thirst – I have other desires, like a healthy family and everything going well, but that’s not the first thing in my life. The first thing in my life is to become – to live a little like Jesus because that’s what He’s commanded us to do. And he seems to think, God seems to think that the deepest joy comes from actually putting Christ on display by how we treat other people. And that’s what I have been committing myself to for the last several years. And I’m discovering that there’s some joy in it. But it’s a joy that doesn’t eliminate sorrow. It’s a joy that sustains us in the sorrows of life.”

Jim: Well and let’s get into that because I think that’s perhaps the most difficult aspect of the Christian life, is how do we remain joyful when sorrow strikes us like Millie? I mean, to have all those things happening in a compounding way.

Larry: Yes.

Jim: How – I’m speaking on behalf of that person listening right now who is in the middle of some trauma and they’re shouting at the radio or the podcast saying, “How do you do that?”

Larry: Yeah.

Jim: “I want that. But how do you do that, Dr. Crabb? How do you find that deeper sense of purpose when suffering is all around you?”

Larry: I suspect, based on some experience over the years with my own life as well as many others, that most of us try to make it by living in denial.

Jim: Give me an example so I can grab onto that.

Larry: I don’t – I don’t want to explore what’s really happening in my soul. I don’t want to feel all the pain that I’m feeling. So, I’m going to anesthetize myself in some form and just pretend that God is enough, but only by anesthetizing all my pain. And what I’m suggesting – and I think this is a very, very hard sell. This is not exactly marketable. It explains why my books don’t sell that well, sometimes.

(Laughter)

Larry: That if we’re gonna to meet the God who loves us, He meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be. He meets us where we are, and not where we wish we were. And could we be as honest as the Psalmists? The Psalmists were very, very honest. Paul was very honest. In Corinthians, it talks about I’ve been in despair; I’ve been hurting; I’ve had troubles; but I’ve never been defeated. So, the first thing I would say is don’t pretend that you’re doing better than you are, because when you acknowledge the struggles that are going on in your life, the struggles of faith, and you still turn to God in the middle of your deepest anxiety, your deepest fears, your deepest pain, that is when you start meeting God in a way that sustains you in the middle of all the struggles, and not until.

Jim: Yeah. In fact, we mentioned how this is very personal for you. You’ve kind of talked about the phases of life. How has that become personal for you, what you’ve seen God do in your own life in these phases?

Larry: I was raised in a very strong Christian home for which I’m very, very grateful. And Phase 1: happy Christian kid, everything’s fine. And when I realized that God was my Heavenly Father, I figured I’m in for a really good deal because my earthly father was a really good guy.

Jim: Wow.

Larry: He took care of me, blessed me in lots of ways.

Jim: So, it was the right formula.

Larry: It was the right formula. And everything was gonna work just like I wanted it to. And through, um, earlier days as a kid up to 13 or 14 I was doing just fine. And then teenage struggles hit. I had a very big problem with stuttering. I did my doctoral dissertation on stuttering, because I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t talk. And I was starting to do a little bit of speaking, even as a middle teenager. And I just lived in the verse that God gave Moses – “I’ll be with your mouth and teach you what to say,” because Moses might have been a stutterer. So, I claimed that verse. And it didn’t work. I made a fool of myself stuttering in front of people. And I thought, “God, why – why do You let me stutter like this? I’m now 15, 16 years old. My life has been going so well. Now I’m full of shame. I’m full of embarrassment. And I don’t know what good You are. And I’m not really sold on this Christian life.” I began Phase 2. I went from being a happy Christian to a questioning, skeptical Christian. And then I decided to go into psychology because Christianity was not giving me the answers that I was looking for my existential questions. Didn’t even know the word back then, but that’s what I was wrestling with. What’s the point of anything? What is really good? What is my life all about? And after five years of training in clinical psych, I came away disillusioned because secular psychology isn’t dealing with the core issues of the soul, things like, what’s really wrong with people? What is the real purpose of life in spite that death is going to meet us all? And, um, existentialism was not dealt with by psychology. So, after I finished my graduate program, I went into Phase 3. And Phase 3 was to give God a second chance. I’m sure He was very grateful.

(Laughter)

Larry: And, um, and I said, you know, “I found no answers in psychology. I found no answers in Christianity as I then understood it.” And I think then I had awakened thanks to Francis Schaeffer. Some people might know that name – a marvelous influence in my life. I really began to realize that if there is a God and He’s spoken to us through his word, the Bible better become very important in my life. And starting at about age 25 or 26, somewheres in there, I began private practice then. For the next 30, 40 years I became immersed in the Scripture. I became immersed in theology. I wanted to know what Christianity – how does it speak to this woman that I’m working with who’s anorexic? How does it speak to the person with same-sex attraction? And – and it became very comfortable. Um, my books began to sell a bit. I got speaking engagements. And I became a little bit known. And I think what happened was – how can I put this without being too inappropriate? I think that my pride was well-nourished.

Jim: This is Phase 3.

Larry: Phase 3, because I was doing quite well. God was coming through nicely for me.

Jim: So, the blessing was coming.

Larry: The blessing was coming. Things were going well. Family life was going well. And then some things started falling apart. And some difficulties came. And God in His grace did not allow me to live only the blessed life. He wanted me to live the transforming life. And those two are sometimes very, very different. And then Phase 4 actually began probably 10 years ago. I’m now 73 years old. So, in my 60s, my question really became, “God, who were You wanting to make me? You want to do more than make me an author that people read. You want to do more than make me a – a speaker that people listen to. You want to make – make me the kind of person, um, that when my wife, as she lives with me, might she actually be drawn to Jesus because of the way I treat her. When my kids want to stay faithful to God because I’ve survived the struggles of life with faith in a good God.” And that’s when I became very interested in a spiritual direction. I kind of gave up psychotherapy and decided to move in a spiritual direction, which to me is just a way of, how do you have a conversation with somebody that interacts with the deepest part of their soul? I don’t want to just put Band-Aids on things. I want to hear what is really going on in your soul. “Millie, what’s really happening in you?” I believe that what – what I’ve been missing for a long time and getting a little bit of a grasp of now – God is telling a larger story than the story that takes place between my birth and my death. He’s telling a story that begins for me at the cross and continues forever at the coming. So, the question for me to ask is not, how is my birth-to-death life going? Am I making enough money to pay my bills? Are – is my marriage good? I’m all for that obviously. Are my kids doing well? Of course, I pray for that. But sometimes the kids aren’t doing good. Sometimes a marriage doesn’t work. What do you do then? And that’s when you say, “What does the cross make possible when life doesn’t work? What does the coming sustain when life is hard?” So, I talk about the larger story. I call it the in-between story – in between the cross and the coming, not in between your birth and your death. Get that perspective and, in my mind, everything changes. And that’s where I’m struggling to live and coming to grips with the fact that’s what I’m called to.

Jim: You know, Larry, when you – when you – there’s so much that you’ve said. And when you try to digest that, and fit it into something like Romans 8:28, that “All things work for good to those who love the Lord and are called by His name.” That can be a tough moment if you’ve lost a child to suicide.

Larry: Of course.

Jim: And cancer – you’ve dealt with cancer yourself.

Larry: I’m currently dealing with cancer.

Jim: And it’s so easy to go there to say, “Lord, why are You not blessing me?” And to hear His whisper, “I am.”

Larry: Yes.

Jim: You just don’t see it.

Larry: I am blessing you. A larger story is unfolding in the worst of moments. And the great challenge for spiritual leaders is to identify the larger story, so that you know what He’s doing in the middle of the worst moments. And that verse that all things work together for good, the question is how does God define good? It may be a little different than how I define good.

Jim: Help us with that. How does He define good?

Larry: Well, one of my favorite phrases from C.S. Lewis – um, I’ve got about 50 favorite phrases from C.S. Lewis, and I…

Jim: Quite a thinker.

Larry: …I think people need to read C.S. Lewis to get to heaven. That’s not true, of course, you understand, but…

(Laughter)

Jim: Now we’re going to get the crit…

Larry: Yeah.

Jim: …mail for that one.

Larry: I don’t believe that, you understand.

(Laughter)

Larry: But I sure think Lewis has been influential in my life. One of the profound things that he said is this – he said, “If you put first things first, second things are thrown in. If you put second things first, you lose both first and second things.” Second things include everything but loving God and loving others because Jesus reduced the law – didn’t reduce the law – He summarized the law: to love God and love others. That’s the point of existence. And everything else, whether it’s good health, whether it’s kids that love the Lord, which I pray for every day, and my kids both love the Lord, and I couldn’t be more grateful, but they’re all second things. And I’ve got to realize that the good that God promises is a good that I might not be able to fully celebrate until heaven. But the good – the first thing is to become fully alive as the man that I am, fully alive is the woman that my wife is. I want to be fully alive, because of the Gospel. And that means fully alive with my potential to love other people in a way that makes a difference in their lives and brings me great joy in the process.

John: This is Focus on the Family and you’re listening to a conversation we had with Dr. Larry Crabb in North Carolina about suffering and the Christian life. And it was based on his excellent book, When God’s Ways Make No Sense. Get that book from us at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Here again, is Focus president Jim Daly.

Jim: Larry, let’s speak to the mom and dad with the teenagers. I’m just trying to pick a scenario where there’s a lot of angst. And I think with the mail we see at Focus on the Family, the emails we receive, the counseling department at Focus, this is probably the greatest area of conflict, of need. There’s certainly the marital issues as well. But in that parenting role, they’re counting on the formula. We mentioned it a moment ago, but they’re counting on the fact that if we do A, B and C correctly, Biblically, that we will get the child product, D. And it doesn’t work that way. So, speak to that anxious mom who is now laying her head on the pillow at night going, “Little Johnny, little Mary, they’re not behaving the way I thought they would. There’s a problem.”

Larry: And, Lord, I’m praying to you. Yeah.

Jim: And – and talk that mom through how she needs to have perspective about what the journey is there and what God may be doing in her, and in her child’s life.

Larry: And that’s the – that’s the key. It seems to me that when we go by formulas in any area, but certainly in parenting, if we do this than that will happen, you know. If you go by formulas, and we’re working hard to be the kind of father and mother that we think is gonna change the child, without realizing it, we find ourself in a power struggle. And the child realizes that mom or dad are doing all these things to make me other than I am. And then they feel a pressure that invites resistance. And I’m example A for that. When our kids were – when they were born, our two sons – they’re now 49 and 47, so it takes some memory to recall these things.

Jim: (Laughter)

Larry: But, um, but they, um – when they were born, I determined to be the best father I could possibly be. So, we had family devotions like very few families have devotions. I purchased an overhead projector for family devotions.

Jim: That’s good.

Larry: We…

John: That is…

Jim: That’s…

John: …All in on devotions.

Jim: That’s commitment. Right.

Larry: We did Old Testament survey, New Testament survey.

Jim: Did your kids go, “Ah…”

Larry: Oh, no, they just loved it…

Jim: “…. Dad.”

Larry: Oh, no. They just loved it, of course.

(Laughter)

Jim: Well, it’s better than the felt board.

Larry: Well, it could – if I could have found those, I’d have used it, but…

Jim: One step in the right direction.

Larry: Yeah. My son just told me a couple of weeks ago, we were talking about this, he said, “Dad, did you notice during your lectures with the overhead projector that I was not looking at you. I was looking over your shoulder to watch the Dolphins on television.”

Jim: (Laughter)

Larry: Um, but I think that what was happening in that – I was determined. There was a fist forming in my – in my mind, not just literally in my hand, that was saying, “I’m gonna live this way, and it’s gonna change your life. Are we clear?” And when that’s the mood, it invites resistance. But suppose the mood is agenda-free parenting, longing for a child, praying for the child, of course, to know the Lord and to become successful in life and all the good things that we want for our kids. Nothing’s wrong with wanting that. Nothing’s wrong with praying for it. But am I able to give an example of something that I’m living in such a way that my kids are gonna be drawn to what is alive in me? And that mother, whose burden for little Mary, for little Timmy, whoever it might be, if that woman could come to understand that in all the anxiety and all the struggles of life, is Jesus sufficient to keep her from ever quitting? And is she then able to say, “I would like to put the love that God has for me on display for this child, as opposed to a demanding spirit to get this child to somehow shape up.” And, if her movement toward her son or daughter has that freedom in mind – I’m simply here – and that’s gonna include discipline, it’s gonna include teaching, it’s gonna include all the normal things of parenting, but not with the “and this is gonna work!”

Jim: Right.

Larry: “But more this is gonna please the Lord. That’s all I’m after is pleasing the Lord.” That’s the first thing, while I pray like mad for the second thing, for my kid. Then I think that frees the child up. And I could tell you stories about my two sons where I think when I got over my agenda-determined relating, particularly, that’s my older son, that’s when he, I think, came to Christ in a very deep way.

John: Larry, I so appreciate that perspective. Um, it – that kind of thing came up this past weekend where there was a conversation among some men about God’s intentions for us. And you’ve – you’ve touched on it – what’s the heart of God, and how do I respond to that. And there was an exchange between an older more gracious man and a younger man, who had the head knowledge, that um, that God sends things our way to make us a certain way, kind of the parenting illustration you just made. That’s not what happens with these difficulties in life. My kid doesn’t go off the rails. Cancer doesn’t happen. Car crashes don’t occur because God’s sending the pain so that He can make us into something, right?

Larry: Yeah.

John: And so, I guess the bottom line is why does He send, or why does He allow these things? Or do they just happen?

Larry: And that’s a big distinction: send or allow? If we had a couple hours and I could confuse everybody, I’d talk about my views on sovereignty.

John: Hmm.

Larry: But what I would say is this – that we live in a fallen world, bad things do happen. God is not the author of sin. God is not the author of making life terrible, but I would suggest this – that when terrible things do happen, there’s nothing that God cannot – nothing is going to happen that God cannot use for His purposes. And until I believe that – when our younger son – I say this with permission – when his first wife left him and broke his heart – a terrible tragedy in our family – it was a very, very painful – I remember sitting with my son. And he was – he was crying. He was weeping, and I was weeping with him. And I said, “Ken, I gotta assure you of something.” I said, “Nothing is ever gonna happen in my life or in yours that God cannot use for a purpose that one day you will celebrate. Maybe not right now, but one day, God is doing – is working something good inside of you to make you the person that you most long to be.” And that strikes me as a very, very important perspective that I have to cling to in the middle of health struggles and other struggles that continue in everybody’s life.

Jim: Larry, could I ask you to pray for the folks who are struggling? They’re trying to figure out, “God, what are you doing in my life?” They’re in their Job moment. And I know what God’s pursuing for them is the right attitude, the right orientation to Him. Can we pray for those people?

Larry: Absolutely. Heavenly Father, I prayer for any soul that’s struggling with all the difficulties of life that, by Your spirit, You’ll make them aware that You really are a good Father and that You have a good plan and that even in the darkest moment, Your love has not abated, Your love has not gone on – gone off-duty, that Your loving is – Your loving purposes are being accomplished in anybody’s life who is surrendered to You. Heavenly Father, we’re grateful for that. And may people who are struggling so deeply now learn what it means to be grateful for Your – for Your everlasting love. Lord Jesus, You took care of our worst problem, and I pray that You’ll teach each of us to hate our sin more than we hate our pain, knowing that You’ve paid the price of our sins, so that eventually we’re gonna to be released from all pain in an eternity that’s gonna make it worth it all – whatever we go through here. Teach us the value of the cross. And Holy Spirit, You dwell within us. And I pray that You’ll prompt that person who, right now, is just wondering, “What on earth is going on?” That You’ll prompt them to realize that their deepest thirst is to know You in the middle of whatever’s going on, and that that is not simply a possibility, it’s a guarantee. You’re available to be known by any who’s willing to be authentic about their struggles and to come to You without resisting You, without distorting You, but trembling in the middle of what’s hard, but trusting that You’re a loving God and Your purposes will be accomplished. You’ve begun a good work. You’re gonna complete it. And eternity is going to be a source of incredible joy that will never ever – never end. And I ask it in the name of the only One that gives us access to You, Father, in the name of Christ. Amen.

Jim: Amen. Thank you, Larry.

Larry: My privilege.

John: What an important Focus on the Family broadcast. And I do hope that Dr. Larry Crabb’s prayer has touched you. And whatever your need is today and of course, every day, we have the opportunity to trust God with our lives and our circumstances. And what an encouraging conversation with him, Jim.

Jim: It was, John, and what a wonderful time we had with Dr. Crabb in Charlotte, North Carolina. I so appreciate his deep insights into some really tough topics like suffering. Here’s a man who has served God for most of his life – counseling, speaking, helping people in their marriages, and writing books to help us in our faith – and yet, he has had his own struggles and he’s very vulnerable with that. Larry’s dealt with cancer and the tragic loss of his brother in a plane crash, and he’s clung to God and to truth even when he didn’t fully understand what God was doing in his life. And there are times in our own lives where we’re gonna walk through that valley – we’re not gonna understand. And Larry has articulated those things so well. When God seems silent, we can rest assured that He has not forgotten us. He’s right there with you. He loves you and He truly wants the best for you.

John: And Dr. Crabb’s book will reinforce that truth. It’s called When God’s Way Makes No Sense. You can tell by the conversation that it’s rich in really powerful content to help you grow and to make it through difficult times. Get a copy from Focus on the Family when you get in touch.

Jim: And as we often do, John, we want to get this resource into your hands, and if you can send a gift of any amount, we will do that as our way of saying thank you. And let me add, if you can’t afford it, that’s okay. Others, I hope, will underwrite the cost of that, and we will give you this resource even if you can’t afford it. Just call us because you, I’m assuming, will need it in your valley moment.

John: Yeah. We want to encourage you to donate today when you call 800-A-FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here at Focus on the Family, thanks for listening. I’m John Fuller inviting you back next time. We’ll hear more from Dr. Crabb about how you and I can learn through suffering as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!