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Understanding Teen Depression and Suicide (Part 2 of 2)

Understanding Teen Depression and Suicide (Part 2 of 2)

Best-selling author Dr. Gregory Jantz offers practical advice for helping parents whose teens may be dealing with depression. (Part 2 of 2)

Opening:

John Fuller: What can you do if your teenager is struggling with depression? Dr. Gregory Jantz shares these professional insights.

Excerpt:

Dr. Gregory Jantz: So often, I hear parents say, I wish I would’ve done something sooner. I wish I would’ve- so, you’re gonna get resistance, so just know it. If it’s a season for a professional intervention and a counselor, do it! You won’t regret it!

End of Excerpt

John: Get help for your child if they need it. You’re going to be hearing more from Dr. Jantz on today’s episode of Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, last time we started an important discussion for parents on teens, and learned what normal teen behavior includes. And I know for moms and dads listening, you’re gonna say, that is my teenager. And we get it. Um, it can be a roller coaster ride. We get that as well. We also talked about some warning signs of depression. And that’s really our focus – depression, and even suicide. And that’s true within the church as well, and we need to be, I think, more in tune with those signs. That’s why we’re doing the program, so you as a parent can see those signs of depression, understand what’s taking place, and be that frontline defense for your teenager. And, uh, that is our goal today, to equip you to be engaged at that level of your relationship with your teen.

John: And Dr. Gregory Jantz, as I said, is our guest again today. Uh, he was with us last time. And you can get the CD or download, or listen again on the app, all available at focusonthefamily.com/radio. He is a psychologist and the author of dozens of books, including, uh, this is an unusual one, Dr. Jantz, because the subtitle precedes the title, so it’s,When Your Teenager Becomes The Stranger In Your House. And the picture is great. Uh, it’s a red door with a bunch of “keep out,” uh, tape on top of it. That really captures the essence of what we’re talking about today.

Body:

Greg: And it may feel like you have a stranger in the house, and you are asking that question – who is living here now?

Jim: That could be a hundred percent of parents with teens in the house, you do realize that?

Greg: It’s a season, though. It’s a season.

Jim: We left off last time, and, John, you mentioned it – if you missed it, get it. I mean, this is one of those tools that you need as a parent. And we can give you the, CD or the download. Just get in touch with us. John will give those details later. But, Dr. Jantz, we left off with the description of the three characteristics of depression.

Greg: Sure.

Jim: Let’s hit those again before we start today.

Greg: Some of the warning signs is – now, remember there’s some normal transition, but the warning signs – number one is the frequency of these symptoms. Is this happening all the time? Are we seeing it over a period of time? – so that’s the duration. Has this been going on for six months?

Jim: And those behaviors could be reclusiveness, just detached.

Greg: Detached. We are not seeing them, enjoy things they usually would enjoy. They’re not wanting to participate. Uh, teenage depression, and we’ll talk about – sometimes a girl may show it differently than a boy, but, we know that these symptoms don’t go away. So that’s one of the characteristics. And again, how severe are these? You know, there’s having a bad day. And then there’s, every day is bad.

Jim: Right– and that would leaning toward more depression. So here we go. Dr. Jantz Let’s go right there. How do boys and girls manifest depression differently?

Greg: Sure, and I’m going to make some generalities.

Jim: Is that politically correct to even say they do?

Greg: Well, we know they do. And if you’ve lived with a – a boy or a girl who has struggled with issues, you know they express them differently.

Jim: All right, describe it.

Greg: OK. A boy may become more reclusive. They’re going to, maybe, pull back and withdraw. And they’re going to oftentimes turn it into anger. So if something has been – happened, I’ve been hurt. A boy may express it through anger or aggression and, I can handle this on my own. And they’re going to, uh, withhold showing a lot of other emotion. So you may see more anger coming from the boy, and if they have felt a sense of betrayal from friends – and betrayal in boys is very interesting to observe. Because betrayal, a lot of times a boy feels like, I have to get even. I am going to do something…Something back. OK, so they’re struggling. They’re struggling with depression. They’re struggling with anger. ‘Cause, see, depression is really a combination of a lot of different symptoms. Um, so they – I like to say, a lot of times, they’ve been really hurt or emotionally injured, and it’s coming out through depression. Now, a girl, you may see a lot more tears. She may be a lot more verbal. She’s putting her feelings into words a lot easier. Because you may ask your son, what is going on with you? And are you OK? I’m fine.

Jim: Right, so that’s it.

Greg: And that’s where the conversation ends – their one or two-word answers. You ask your daughter, sweetheart, what’s going on? I’m concerned about you. And, and you get it all. And you get the emotion, and you get the tears, and you get a lot of words.

Jim: Yeah. Hitting the issue and the topic of suicide, teen-adolescent suicide is off the charts right now. And we talked a bit about that at the top of the show last time – just what’s happening…

Greg: Yes.

Jim: …In the mind of a teenager – all the desperation, not measuring up, all the technology that allows others to measure you, you know, the Snapchat thing and other social media.

Greg: Right.

Jim: Are you the greatest, the best, the whatever? And bullying – cyberbullying…

Greg: Right.

Jim: that’s occurring – all those things in addition to the things that we all kind of went through as teenagers back when. When you see that – let’s talk more specifically about potential movement from depression to having suicidal thoughts.

Greg: Yes.

Jim: I was stunned by one of the stats. It was amazing – the number of young people that attempt suicide. Do you remember that number?

Greg: Well, they attempt, and it’s…

Jim: 8.6 percent of teenagers.

Greg: And it’s hard to get accurate numbers because, you know, to get this information – we know it’s a real issue.

Jim: It’s a big number.

Greg: It – they’re big numbers, whatever it is, right?

Jim: Yeah.

Greg: And so here’s what happens. Our kids, these days, suicide is – is so common. And we hear it in the news a lot. And it’s almost seen like it’s one of the options available to you. And that’s frightening to even say that. But it’s like, in our culture, suicide is an option that is available to you.

Now, our teens have usually low impulse control. In other words, they’re impulsive, OK. They’re still working on that. We call it the prefrontal cortex – that – put your hand on your forehead. That’s where all that executive, good decisions are made. OK. Our teenagers are still developing that. And so they’re going to show more signs of being impulsive. Technology’s perfect for being impulsive. I’m one click away from anything, and I can be impulsive all day long with my technology. So if they don’t see options quickly – ‘cause they’re used to seeing – having everything instant. They’re – we’re in an instant culture. So our teenagers are being impulsive with their decisions, and we may see a lot of depression. And if it stays in depression and it moves one notch over to despair, they can be very impulsive. You know, they can have suicide attempts. They’re beginning to entertain thoughts that, well, it would be better if I wasn’t around. I’ll show you guys. I’ll kill myself. And that’s how they’re thinking. They’ve entered an impulsive, unregulated – there’s no filter. They’re seeing that this is an option, and that’s frightening.

Jim: And worse, they may be seeing it as their only option…

Greg: Well…

Jim: …’Cause there won’t be a brighter day…

Greg: Right, Jim.

Jim: …For the person that’s suffering in depression and contemplating suicide. What does the parent do in that moment when you think you’re moving away or moving through depression? Now your teen is talking about suicide. What do you do? Who do you call? What resources are available? I mean, this has been going on now for a week, a month, maybe a year. You know…

Greg: Right.

Jim: …I don’t know who to call.

Greg: Suddenly, they’re – they’re like, oh, it’d be better if I wasn’t around. I – I think I’m just going to kill myself. And maybe you’re seeing that they’re even journaling and writing some dark material. And they’re really not thinking, obviously, with clarity or with any sense of, of hope for their future. Well, if you just spend time trying to talk them out of killing themselves – oh, you don’t want to do that. Killing yourself’s never an option – and if we have that kind of conversation, it may drive it more secret. It’s like, well, I don’t know who to talk to. You – my parents are not even safe. But if I can spend time on tell me more aboutwhat’s really going on? Help me understand, um, what you’re going through. Focus on their – feelings, their experience. What must their experience be?

Jim: What are you hunting for, as the parent, in that moment? What are you trying to find?

Greg: I want to know what happened. Did something happen? What led them down this path that I am feeling like the only option is is to kill myself? Now, because kids are impulsive and because I’m a professional counselor, I am going to move quickly to intervene to get some help. I’m not going to overreact in the moment. But if my kid is talking this way, I am going to take it seriously. And I am going to make sure if they’re not talking to me, I’m going to make sure they’re talking to somebody.

Jim: So get somebody engaged with it.

Greg: I…

Jim: Hopefully they have a relationship…

Greg: So it…

Jim: …With a smart-thinking…

Greg: …It could be a…

Jim: …Adult.

Greg: …Another

Greg: adult. It could be a mentor. It’s going to probably need to be a professional counselor soon, or – we’re going to need to reach out. Plus, reach out yourself and have somebody help you.

Jim: Yeah. Dr. Jantz, I – I need to ask this because I think as a parent, especially for those of us that went through a tough time…

Greg: Yes.

Jim: …And it’s kind of a pick yourself up by your bootstraps orientation. And I’m guilty of that, you know? I was an orphaned kid, and I went through a lot of really bad stuff.

Greg: Right.

Jim: But if you’re that kind of parent that is resilient, that has picked yourself up by your bootstraps, that could be very damaging to say to your 14, 15, 16-year-old – come on, just keep moving…

Greg: Yes.

Jim: …Because they don’t know how.

Greg: They don’t know how, and they may be comparing themselves to you. I can’t – my dad – I know my dad had a rough childhood, and, look, he’s done great. And I just can’t do it. And so those comparisons – when we’re depressed, we tend to do a lot of comparisons and feel unworthy. So it’s different. Being with your kid is different than talking them out of something. We don’t want to talk them out of their feelings. You may be really surprised by something they say and may be shocked by it, but don’t talk them out of their feelings.

Jim: Ah, that’s good.

Greg: They need to know you value them. And whatever it is, it’s OK to share it.

Jim: In that environment, again, I want to – I want parents to hear clearly three no-nos. I mean, just give me that tool, Dr. Jantz. What are three no-nos in that moment I should not do as a parent?

Greg: Don’t lecture (laughter). It’s easy to lecture, by the way. Don’t give them a lecture. And this may sound funny, but don’t talk to them if they’re hungry (laughter).

Jim: OK.

Greg: OK?

Jim: I can understand that with boys.

Greg: Yeah, if your kid hasn’t eaten all day, they’re hungry and they’re irritable, that’s not the time.

Jim: Right.

Greg: …To – so let them eat, and keep your words fairly short. It’s easy to drop into a lecture, so fewer words is probably better. And it’s hard, but you can do it, and it will work eventually.

Jim: Well, and it’s so important. I would say that would be one good takeaway right now. If you’re that parent that tends to lecture, bite your lip. Don’t do it.

Greg: Yeah.

Jim: And try to dig for the gems of your child’s emotions.

John: And once again, our guest on Focus on the Family is Dr. Gregory Jantz. And he’s written a bookWhen Your Teenager Becomes… The Stranger In Your House. He’s got dozens of other books as well. We’ll have some info on our website focusonthefamily.com/radio. And, if you need some counseling, if you’re at a point of wondering, well, maybe I should get some help, call us, and we can talk that through with you. We have caring Christian counselors here on staff. And our number is 800-A-FAMILY.

Jim: And Dr. Jantz, you’ve written another book, and I want to pull from that, which is theFive Keys To Dealing With Depression. What are those five keys?

Greg: Well, we’re going to look at the whole person. One of the keys is there’s a spiritual side to depression. So I’m going to look at what is God’s truth about me and about my situation?

Jim: What is it? Tell me.

Greg: So…

Jim: That’s good for parents to hear.

Greg: Well, one of the things is God has promised that if we seek Him, there is a positive future for our kids, so don’t forget that…

Jim: And that’s what…

Greg: …OK?

Jim: …Jesus – again, he illustrated that with the woman at the well, the woman caught in adultery.

Greg: Yeah.

Jim: King David to go to the Old Testament.

Greg: Yes.

Jim: I mean, he had reason to be depressed.

Greg: Yes. Another key for depression is physical – the physical side of us. People who are depressed stop taking care of themselves. So that self-care, that movement – physical movement – the nutrition – they’ll tend to start doing things like, I’m drinking 20 cups of coffee instead of two, or I’m not taking good care – I’m not drinking water, you know, simple things. But you’ll notice that when you get depressed, your physical self-care really goes down. And that includes sleep. Either I want to sleep all the time or I…

Jim: Or I can’t get any.

Greg: …Can’t sleep at all…

Jim: Yeah.

Greg: …Or I wake up during the night. So the physical side must be addressed as well.

Jim: Uh, what are the other three?

Greg: OK, other keys to dealing with depression – and we keep it really simple – is how am I going to get emotional balance? What’s the predominant emotions that are governing me right now? Is it because I’ve been extremely hurt? Am I angry? Am I feeling guilty? Do I have a lot of fear? So look at what are the predominant emotions that are fueling this. A lot of times, it – it is I’m angry, I’m upset. And how am I going to get that emotional balanceback? Well, if you have too much anger in your life, too much fear, too much guilt, that’s not emotional balance. So we’ve got to look at that. The final one I want to mention, really is what I’ll call relational support. And relationship support is who is speaking into to my life. If I’m depressed, who really believes in me? Have I withdrawn? Am I isolated? Have I cut people off? Because when I’m depressed, I need others.

Jim: Uh, speak to the parent that knows that their teen has nobody other than them.

John: Yeah.

Jim: And how do you go about saying, OK, Johnny, we need to get someone for you. Now, the response, I can only imagine, might be, I don’t want to do that, Dad. I don’t want to do that, Mom. I don’t know that person. How do you develop a mentor relationship for your teenager?

Greg: Yes. And we need to – who’s somebody in your teen’s life that is – they can speak, I believe in them, they see a positive future for your teen? And sometimes, it’s hard to find this person – granted. Uh, I want you to always be developing other adults that will speak into the lives of your teen. Have others. Be developing this. I have gone to a couple men, and I’ve even asked – I said, would you consider taking on a mentor role with my son? And he – he admires you. You’ve got some things that I really want him to develop characteristics that you have. So I’ve gone and asked.

Jim: You know, that difficult line, Dr. Jantz, is how do we know, really, in our gut – how do we know when it’s time for that professional help? Many Christians listening should say, well, Christians should not be suffering from depression. But it happens, folks. It is part of life. And to simply have that attitude is, if I could be bold enough, is like looking the other way. That’s not helpful.

Greg: Right.

Jim: That’s not healthy. So in that gut moment, when you know, and you’re listening and you hear Dr. Jantz mention these symptoms, and you’re going, oh, my son…

Greg: Right.

Jim: …My daughter, you’re describing them, when do you act? I mean, how do you know that it’s not just a passing thing, but it’s the real deal, and you gotta get involved, and you got to fight for your child’s life?

Greg: Yes, absolutely, and be willing to do that. So it’s not a passing fad if it’s been going on. You’ve got – a month has passed, and these things are still going on. Address them.So often, I hear parents say I wish I would have done something sooner. I wish I would have – um, so you’re going to get resistance, so just know it. If it’s a season for a professional intervention and a counselor, do it. You – you won’t regret it.

John: Dr. Gregg Jantz is our guest on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller. And this is not a ‘I took my child to the professional or to the counselor and dropped them off’ kind of situation…

Greg: Right.

John: …Is it? Tell us what to expect as a mom or a dad.

Greg: Oh, sure. You know, one of the things you may want to do is, um, have some time – some sessions together where, hey, I want to learn how I can do a better job as a parent, how I can support you better. Can I be a part of this? A lot of times,that’s really helpful. I realize, myself, that I was doing some things that were not helpful. OK, I had somebody give me some feedback, and it made a difference for me, and it made a difference in my relationship with my son. So remain humble, remain teachable. And here, I’m a counselor, but I want to receive some feedback, too.

Jim: Dr. Jantz, I’m thinking of a very specific situation that our community had to walk through. And I don’t want to be too vague, but I’ll paint the picture, and I’d love for you to react to this. Sometimes you’re looking for trigger points. In this case, a young man who committed suicide at a school here in town, his girlfriend had broken up with him the day before, and that was the triggering event. And, the next day, he took his own life very publicly at the school.

Greg: OK.

Jim: Um, the father did something so amazing – within 24 hours, wrote that young girl a letter and said, don’t carry this burden forward.

Greg: Right.

Jim: My son was dealing with other things that had nothing to do with you at that moment.

Greg: Got it.

Jim: I mean, what courage…

Greg: Yeah.

Jim: …For that dad of that fallen son…

Greg: Right.

Jim: …To give that girl a different purpose and meaning…

Greg: Absolutely.

Jim: …Than what she was experiencing right there.

Greg: What a beautiful thing to do.

Jim: And I’m – I’m just thinking of those circumstances where maybe someone listening knows somebody, or it’s happening within their family.

Greg: Right.

Jim: The big question is what does God want in this moment, even in that kind of pain?

Greg: Yes, um, yes.

Jim: It’s such an awesome thing to be able to do.

Greg: And we need to, also, release another – if you’ve had a traumatic event, or you know somebody and – whose kid has taken their life, it’s not about the what ifs, it’s not about the blame. There was a lot going on. We tend to, when there’s these tragic events, uh, fall back and go, if I would have only – it was my fault. And we can do a lot of self-blame, and I really want to caution against that. Because, you know, we didn’t understand all that was going on for that boy, that young man. And he made some decisions – and we’ve talked about the symptoms of depression left untreated can put you over into despair. In that despair, we’re not thinking with a rational mind. And that’s true for adults, too.

Jim: And that current of despair, if I can describe it that way, for some teens, will be very swift.

Greg: Yes.

Jim: So you have to be aware as a parent. And that’s not guilt or condemnation, that is just part of your job.

Greg: Absolutely.

Jim: And sometimes that current will move slow, maybe over the course of months or years – where that young person is suffering silently. So you have to keep your antenna up, um…

Greg: Because they are easily overwhelmed at times.Remember, their sense of overwhelmedness is very real for them. So we’re always going to try to understand their experience. If you say things like, oh, it’s no big deal, but they’re overwhelmed, it is a big deal.

Jim: Right.

Greg: Yeah, and it may not be a big deal to you because you’ve worked through similar things, but we’ve got to honor their experience, help them feel validated and listened to. And always let them know we will work on this together. I am with you.

Jim: Yeah. We’ve touched on this, but I want to be very plain spoken here toward the end of the program – your primary care physician can be a source, to take your teen, or adolescent to your doctor. That’s a good starting place, as well. Um, the school system can often provide counseling help, but they may not know, if they’re not getting direction from you, that you have a concern. So work in that context, as well. Certainly, Focus is here. We’ve mentioned our counselors here. In addition to all those things, Greg, in your counseling, you founded The Center, you call it.

Greg: Yes.

Jim: Describe that work, and let’s end on that note of hope where, young people have come into your program. They have found new life. They have found new meaning and new purpose. Give us a couple of those descriptions of hope for people.

Greg: There is hope. And I really want – don’t give up on your kid, and keep the prayers alive. Be prayer-driven for your kid’s present and their future. So you’re prayer-driven, God can get them on the right path. And, 31 years ago, we founded The Center, A Place Of HOPE. I can tell you – and part of what keeps me going is I see lives changed. So hope means I need a plan. And sometimes we need to ask for help to create a plan. And with a plan comes hope. So pray. Sometimes it’s like praying for discernment. Lord, what do I need to know here, versus, Lord, relieve my son of these behaviors. Well, Lord, God, show me – give me discernment to know what’s going on, so that I can really be of help.

Jim: And Dr. Jantz, for the parents who maybe have been in this battle for a year, or two years, or longer, how do they maintain that sense of hope and light at the end of the tunnel when it’s – over and over again, it’s disappointment, it’s struggle, it’s sadness, it’s bleak? How do you really emotionally, as the parent, stay hopeful when you don’t see any sign of hope?

Greg: I’m going to keep building on resources. There are many, manygreat resources. I’m going to keep my mind renewed. I’m going to become an expert on what’s going on. And by that, I mean I’m not going to become so obsessed. I’m not going to try to be my son or daughter’s counselor, but I am going to become an expert on what’s going on for them. Don’t lose the hope. I can tell you – and I hear a mom’s voice in my head now who said, you told me that he would get on the right road, and I want to let you know he did. It took a while, and all of it was worth it.

Jim: Yeah.

Greg: And so stay the course.

Jim: And it’s like, be the antidote to what the culture is throwing at your kids today – all the technology, all the measuring up to things that no human being can measure up to.

Greg: Absolutely.

Jim: Be their advocate.

Greg: Our kids need us to be an advocate, and they need us to show appreciation for who they are even if they’re struggling. Boy, and to have those – I believe in you. I know it’s really hard right now. I believe in you. He or she will remember those words. And then you need to do things – show that you really do. So they’re going to be hungry, hungry for parent appreciation. They need to know they have value to you.

Jim: Yeah. Boy, that is so well-said. Dr. Gregory Jantz, author ofThe Stranger In Your House. Um, I want to say thank you. Thanks for helping all of us parents better understand what’s happening and the importance of it. This has been so good.

Greg: Oh, we love our kids dearly, don’t we?

Jim: Yeah, we do.

Greg: And we always want the best.

Jim: Yeah. And turning to you, the listener, if you’re struggling with your teen and you need someone to talk to, we are here. We have caring Christian counselors available on staff to give you an initial consultation and hopefully provide resources and guide you in a direction that will bring the peace and the hope that Dr. Jantz is describing. Dr. Jantz, I have one more question, but, John, let’s give the details.

John: OK. You can contact us by calling 800-A-FAMILY, 800-232-6459. We might have to take your name and number and give you a call back. Sometimes we have a very high call volume, and that team works very hard. They’ll get back to you just as soon as possible. Also, we have a counselor referral tool. And you can find Dr. Jantz’s bookWhen Your Teenager Becomes… The Stranger In Your House, as well as a CD or a download of our program at focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim:. Dr. Jantz, as we close, what if parents and teens don’t want to admit that they are depressed? You’re getting this rigid response. That’s not me. But you know it’s true…

Greg: Right.

Jim: …Especially as the parent. You know it, but you can’t get them in to see a professional. They’re not willing. What do you do?

Greg: We don’t want to get hung up on a label and say, you’re depressed, and you need help. Uh, again, we’re looking at, for depression for a teen, it’s a lot of different experiences, a lot of different symptoms. And so I want you to focus on, um, what can we do that would make you happier? What can we do, uh, that would cause you to feel differently? You know, keep engaged in it. Now, there reaches a time where we do have to do an intervention. Things are not changing. The kid is resistant, and we’re going to have to probably consult with a professional ourselves to get a plan together and do that. You know, you’ll never regret picking up the phone today, making a decision – hey, here’s what I’m experiencing. You may have, today, an opportunity to have a God idea that intervene into your son or daughter’s life. So pick up the phone today.

Jim: Yeah, and may it be so. That’s our hope. Dr. Gregory Jantz, author of the bookWhen Your Teenager Becomes… The Stranger In Your House. If you need this resource, call us. We’ll get it in your hands. If you can make a donation of any amount, we’ll send it along as our way of saying thank you for supporting the ministry. If you’re in a good place, support the ministry so we can put the resource into the hands of those who cannot afford it. This has been so good. Thank you. Thank you, again, for being with us.

Greg: So good to be with you today.

Closing:

John: And once again, our phone number – 800-A-FAMILY. And on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for listening to Focus on the Family.I’m John Fuller hoping you have a great weekend; inviting you back on Monday as we hear about “Making the Most of Teachable Moments” and once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!