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Making the Most of Teachable Moments

Making the Most of Teachable Moments

Author Kara Durbin describes how parents can take advantage of ordinary, everyday situations to instill biblical values and character in their children.

Original Air Date: February 19, 2014

Opening:

Child #1: John 3:16.

Child #2: For God so loved the world …

Child #3: The whole world …

Two Children: Everyone!

Child #4: Anyone …

Child #5: That’s a lot of people.

Child #6: That He gave His one and only Son …

Child #7: His only Son …

Child #8: That whoever believes in Him …

Child #4: Will not perish …

Group of Children: But will have eternal …

Child #9: Life!

Child #10: Wow!

John Fuller: And, those voices are from a national TV ad that Focus on the Family produced featuring that well known Bible verse, John 3:16. I’m John Fuller and welcome to Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president Jim Daly. And, Jim, I’m smiling as I listen to that spot– your boys were actually part of that, weren’t they?

Jim Daly: Yeah, they were. In fact, Troy was saying “Life!” right at the end and he’s about to get his driver’s permit! So, I’m thinking, wow! Where has has that time gone?

John: It’s been a while… The years have clicked by…

Jim: They have. And, you know, John 3:16 is such a great verse, which has changed so many lives; probably everyone listening, when you came upon that verse, it is just so pure truth, right from the heart of God. This is Focus on the Family and we’re gonna talk about incorporating Scripture in our every day parenting and we’re glad you’ve joined us to do it. And, John, one of the most important objectives we have here at Focus is the spiritual training of our children. And it starts with the Word of God, the Bible.

And, by the way, next week, Thursday, October 5th is Bring Your Bible to School Day. And our goal is for about half a million students to participate this year. You can sign up and download a participation guide for the event.

John: And you can do that at the website; we’ll have all the details about Bring Your Bible to School Day at focusonthefamily.com/radio.

Jim: John, parents are the biggest influence in a child’s life and we need to be thinking about how we can get Scripture into the hearts of our children. A while back we talked with Mrs. Kara Durbin to help us teach Scripture in a unique way; I think so the kids will get it! Kara has a degree in Elementary Education, she has two children, a boy and a girl, and she’s written a book called Parenting with Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments.

Body:

John: And to begin the conversation today, we asked Kara why it’s so important for busy moms and dads to take the time, to be intentional in teaching Scripture to our kids, starting at a very early age.

Kara Durbin: That is a great question, and I think it goes back to the moral relativity that we have in our society today. If you look at the way people make decisions is, if you can justify something, then it must be okay. And as Christians, we have the Bible as our basis. And my eyes were really opened to that way back when I was student teaching in fourth grade. And we were reading a novel and the question for the kids was, was it okay for the character to steal something?

Jim: Hm.

Kara: And hands started popping up, and not one kid said, “Miss Durbin, it’s actually wrong to steal.” Not–

Jim: What–

Kara: –one kid.

Jim: –what did they say?

Kara: They came up … I can’t even remember what the story was and why they–

Jim: If the person was hungry, they–

Kara: –were … yes.

Jim: –should be able to steal.

Kara: You know, and some of ‘em sounded good and you know, but I realized that we’ve got to prepare our kids for a biblical basis.

Jim: Hm.

Kara: And so, that was eye-opening that as we come upon teachable moments, we’ve got to make use of those and help connect the Scripture to God’s Word, so they know where our basis is.

Jim: It does take, though, intentionality. I know even with my own kids, you’ve got to be thinking about seeing those teachable moments–

Kara: Yes.

Jim: –and applying Scripture in that moment.

Kara: Yes.

Jim: Because it … you know, even for us as adults, it doesn’t necessarily come naturally. We’ve gotta think it through a bit. How do you seize those moments?

Kara: Well, let me start with what teachable moments actually are. Teachable moments are basically any time you use situations to dialogue with your children about what has been seen, heard or done. And I think the Bible even talks about teachable moments in Deuteronomy 6:6 and 7, when it says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” And a modern-day example that probably everybody can relate to is … and when you’re sitting in your family room with the TV on–

Jim: Hm.

John: Yeah.

Kara: –and something flies out of a character’s mouth that you wish they had not heard. Now, sometimes that’s appropriate to just let it slide, if you think it went over their head. But other times you know they’ve heard it, and if you’ve got a kid like mine, you’re gonna hear that again. So, you think, oh! We gotta deal with this. So, if you can pause it, you can. If you can’t pause it, you might think, you know, talking over this program, I might not have their attention. You can follow up with that teachable moment later at dinner or bedtime and bring it up. So, maybe the character used a bad word. You could look up the topic of cursing and find the verse that says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth.” And–

Jim: Hm.

Kara: –talk about how our words should be glorifying to Him. The verse also, “May the words of our mouth and the meditations of our heart be pleasing.” And was that character pleasing? Or maybe the character was disrespectful. And you know that respect is something we have to help encourage and help our children strive for, especially in this day and age. And so, you could find under the topic “respect,” “Show proper respect to everyone.” And those verses will help you connect that. How could that character have been more respectful? What would you have done in that character’s shoes?

Jim: Kara, you know, it sounds simple when we’re talking about it here, and all of us that are parents have had the experience of doing that at the 3-, 4-, or 5-year-old level, that conversation usually goes pretty well and the kids get it and they’re excited. And then you start getting to the 10, 11, 12 age and they’re maybe pickin’ up 20 percent. You’re not sure if you’re connecting with that older child. Talk about that distinction between the ages. Do you approach things differently?

Kara: Absolutely, yes. The preteen years that you’re referring to, an example that it might look like is, a friend of mine had a daughter, Jessica … has a daughter, Jessica. And she was upper elementary and she had been caught in a whopper of a lie.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Kara: And so, Jessica burst into tears when her mom confronted her and said, “You’re never gonna trust me again.” And the mom thought, okay, I don’t want her to lose heart. I want to help rebuild this. So, she looked up the topic of trust and found the verse that talks about, “Whoever can be trusted with little, can also be trusted with much. And whoever is dishonest with little, will also be dishonest with much.” So, rather than take that negative, you know, dishonest that she had been caught in, she turned it positive and gave Jessica hope and through the power of God’s Word in that verse, was able to say, “Showing trust in those little things, just like the Bible says, will help you rebuild trust as we go forward. So, all is not lost. God gives us His Word as a lamp to our feet and a light to our path.

Jim: Hm.

Kara: And it can be positive. We don’t want to use God’s Word to beat our kids over the head. We want it to be positive. Now, I don’t have teenagers yet, mine are 9 and 11, but I’ve talked with a lot of parents of teenagers to find out what parenting with Scripture looks like as you go on into the teen years. It’s a priority; it needs to be a priority. What I’m hearing over and over is, that the younger years are really when we do need to lay that foundation and not to miss those opportunities. But a mom of three teenagers at the time I asked her this, I asked her, “What is her best tool in her spiritual parenting toolbox?” And I waited eagerly and she said that it is praying Scripture for her children, praying topical Scripture for–

Jim: Hm.

Kara: –her … for her teens. And she said that’s because whether she could get through to her teen on a particular topic, she knew she could get through to God.

Jim: Hm.

Kara: How great is that?!

Jim: Yeah.

Kara: So, I think that’s true for toddlers, as well as teens, you know–

Jim: Sure.

Kara: –any age. Sometimes, even though we try and we … you know, we want to instruct them, as we should, and as we can, and as we go along, sometimes we’re just gonna need to take it in prayer. And-

John: Uh-hm.

Kara: –so, you might go to the topic of peer pressure. That’s one that every teen deals with, really any age deals with. And you’d find the verse that says, “Do not follow the crowd in doing wrong.”

Jim: Hm.

Kara: And so, you could turn that into a prayer, proactively or if you know they’re already dealing with that. “Dear Lord, please help Sam not follow the crowd in doing wrong.” And God’s gonna hear that on behalf of your–

Jim: Hm.

Kara: –your teens and your children.

John: You … Kara, you’re touching on something that I think a lot of parents struggle with and that is, they get that there are some principles captured in the Scripture and God’s Word and they want to tap into those principles as they parent. But they either don’t know the Scripture very well or they don’t feel comfortable, ‘cause it seems kinda Sunday school “teachish”–

Kara: Right.

John: –you know, tea … a little too “teachy”–

Kara: Right.

John: –uh … for them. Uh … so … so help that parent know what they could do uh … to … to just start to help their children lay a foundation of faith, let’s assume that they’re a little bit younger, without feelin’ so intimidated.

Kara: Right. That’s a great question. I had a mom come up to me after a speaking engagement and say, “You know, my kid looks at me like I’m from another planet any time I try to talk to him about God’s Word, any time I … we read a Bible story or um … uh … you know, I pull in a Scripture with a situation.”

And what I encouraged her is, any time we do something new, whether it’s trying to help our family eat healthier or start a new exercise plan, we know that those things, they don’t feel normal at first. But you create your new normal. You don’t let yourself stop doing something that’s good for you just because it’s … it feels awkward. You–

Jim: Hm.

Kara: –push through it and you do what’s right. So, it may be just a matter of creating your new normal with your family. Talking with your kids, say you know, “We have not been spending as much time in God’s Word as I would like. And here’s what it’s gonna start looking like.” And it may be a little awkward for all of us. You as the parent can confess that, but say, “We want to have God’s Word in our home, just like Deuteronomy says. ‘When we sit at home, and when we walk along the road.’” That may be in the car, you know, um … we don’t walk along the road much anymore, but we’re sure in the car a lot. And we’re gonna use those as teachable moments. So, don’t be afraid to use Parenting with Scripture to find topics to … to make it uh … a part of your daily life.

Jim: One of the things we experienced—this is kinda funny actually—’cause I started reading a Proverb to the boys, you know. That’s what … one of the things that … ‘cause there’s so much wisdom in Proverbs. I thought that’d be a great place to go, so–

John: Uh-hm, yeah.

Jim; –I love Proverbs 3 … is a great life verse, you know, “Don’t lean on your own understanding, but trust the Lord in all your ways and He will set your path straight.” Uh … those kind of verses and so, I started reading through Proverbs. There’s some pretty dicey stuff in Proverbs (Laughter)—

Kara: Yes.

John: Rather adult themed content.

Jim: –especially for 7-, 8-, 9-year-olds. And (Chuckling) I started having to say, “Oh, let’s go a little further ahead, okay.” ‘Cause we were ready to talk about the women of the night and those kinds of things. And so, you have to be a little careful with some of Scripture, don’t you?

Kara: You do, but you um … can learn to be appropriate with it and um … it … that … we’ve had some of those times where we’ve been reading along and um … I was kind of grateful my kids weren’t able to read yet (Laughter), because they’re lookin’ on the page with me and I just kinda glided over that. But …

Jim: But one thing you said I want to reiterate; I think that idea of not being so fortress- like in our mentality, that we’ve gotta lock everything out. You’ve gotta teach your children how to deal with the world around them and I like that, you know, certainly you want to shield your kids from abuse—media abuse, if I could call it that. And I think Jean and I, I don’t know about you and Dina, John– but Jean and I, we do a pretty good job of that. And within that situation, you know, we have paused the television and said, “Listen, that ad was inappropriate and here’s why as Christians,” and then we fill in the blank.

John: Yeah.

Jim: It can become a teachable moment and so often though, there are other times when, you know, I’m tired or whatever it might be and I just kinda let it slide. You gotta be careful about that, don’t you?

Kara: Yes and that’s okay. I mean, I don’t want anybody to get the impression that I’m just constantly the mom that’s walking around quoting Scripture. I think, you know, before I was an author, you … I kinda idolized, oh, well, they just really know how to do it. And I just want to encourage everybody listening. I’m a normal mom. I’ve got normal kids. We’re not perfect and I don’t have all of these verses memorized. I wrote it because I needed it as a reference. Certainly we should have some of God’s Word in our heart, but I’m just like every other mom or dad, looking out for those teachable moments. And they do pop up in a … just a lot of ways. If you—

Jim: Hm.

Kara: –keep your eyes open, I can promise you won’t make it through the day without one popping up. So, you’ve talked about media. Think about all the billboards and commercials and videogames and all the … and magazines, all of those things can offer teachable moments, but also situations with siblings and friends.

Jim: Hm.

Kara: If your kid gets in the car after school and says, “Oh, Shelley got in big trouble at school today.” Well, you’re in the car. That’s the Deuteronomy 6:6 and 7. Instead of walkin’ along the road, you’re in the car, and say, “Oh, well, what would you have done in that situation? And what does God have to say about that?” And then you can … you … you know, please don’t pull out your Parenting with Scripture, and look up while you’re driving along the road (Laughter), but say, “Hey, you know, when we get home, let’s find what God has to say about that and discuss that at dinner.”

Jim: Hm.

Kara: So, whatever that is, that, that … that friend got in trouble with, you can bring it back to God’s Word.

Jim: Uh-hm.

Kara: That is making use of that teachable moment. That is parenting with Scripture and pulling those Scriptures in to help them understand in a positive way, to go before, because we’d rather learn from other people’s mistakes.

Jim: You talk about being that normal mom, and you know, regular kids. Where did that point occur where you decided, wow! Okay, how do we do this better? Was there a moment that you remember going–

Kara: Yes.

Jim: –uh …

Kara: My sister was telling me how my nephew had lied about something, and she was telling me how she talked with him about, he shouldn’t lie, not only because she said so, but becauseGod said so, and then used a verse about honesty to back up what she was saying. And I thought, wow! That is so neat that she had that verse for that situation.

And I knew she knew how to do that, because that’s what our mom did with us. And so, we had seen the positive impact of parenting with Scripture in our lives. We had seen the results. And I knew I wanted to parent like that, as well.

So, I began looking for topics and Scriptures and matching them up as uh … and as my list grew longer and longer, I thought, this is silly. There’s gotta be some sort of topical reference out there. Why am I re-inventing the wheel?

And what I found is, there are a number of topical Bibles and references, but there was nothing specifically and concisely geared toward parenting. So, that’s when I decided to put this book together, so that it can just be a quick easy-to-use reference. It’s only two pages per topic. So, when you are in that moment, you can just run to it and find um … and–

Jim: Hm.

Kara: –have it easily accessible to see what God has to say.

John: Jim, I told you before we came on the air that not too long ago, my son, who has some special needs was just lookin’ at my and he said, “Dad, a kid I have to sit next to worships Satan. I don’t like him at all.”

Kara: Wow.

John: Now that was a teachable moment, Kara, and I’ve gotta tell ya, I’ll be honest, I didn’t immediately think of John 3:16, “yeah, well, you know, God loves him…” But I did try to speak into his life with biblical principles. There are some really uncomfortable moments that we, as parents, have to deal with– that may be a little bit different, but what do you do, when you encounter something and you’re … and it doesn’t … the Scripture doesn’t come to you. You don’t have a book in front of you, but your kid’s lookin’ at you for some sort of insight or guidance.

Kara: Well, I think first of all, it’s okay to tell your kids, “I don’t know right now, but I’ll find out.”

John: Hm.

Kara: And you can talk to other godly parents and go to resources. So, first of off, we’re not gonna have all the answers. But I find that it is such a blessing too, when I have a chance to go to God’s Word, that He always has something better to say than I could come up with. And that’s the beauty of God’s Word. And so, for example, my daughter takes horseback riding lessons and she one day at the lesson, the horse got spooked, and it started bucking, and she was terrified.

In an effort to avoid getting thrown off of the horse, she strategically threw herself off the horse to try to stay out of its way … terrifying. So thankfully, she was okay, but her nerves were really bruised. And that night, as we were all in bed, I heard this little knock on the door. And she peeked in and said, “Mom, every time I close my eyes, that just flashes before my eyes, and I can’t go to sleep.”

Kara: I didn’t know what to say. I was like you. I thought, okay (Laughing).

Jim: Yeah.

Kara: How do I … how … what do I do? And so, I grabbedParenting with Scripture. Like I said, I wrote this. I don’t remember all of it. I have to look it up just like everybody else. And so, I said, “Okay, well, let’s go snuggle in your bed and let’s see what God has to say.” And we found the topic … well, actually, I looked up “fear” and I kept flipping through and I [went], “Why didn’t I write about fear?”

Jim: (Chuckling)

Kara: And then I looked in the cross-referenced index and found it’s actually under “courage,” which is, you know, that’s the positive way of looking–

Jim: Right.

Kara: –at fear. And we found Psalm 46, which says, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. And when I’m afraid, I will trust in You.” And God took care of her in that moment, but she also knew she was gonna have to get back up on that horse next week.

Jim: Hm.

Kara: That’s a terrifying thing, after what she had been through. And so, also under that same topic, Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do everything … through Him Who gives me strength,” and that was helping prepare her for the next week when she was gonna have to get back up on that horse. But my favorite one for that night–when my eyes fell on this, I just praised God—Psalm 4:8 says, “I will lie down and sleep in peace, for You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.”

Jim: That’s a pretty perfect–

Kara: Oh–

Jim: –Scripture at that moment.

Kara: –it was beautiful, and as we prayed and talked about those verses and I tucked her in, I left her room, thanking God for giving us His Word. Because I can tell you, I … nothing I could’ve said would’ve been as beautiful and as perfect as what God gave us.

Jim: Kara, you talk about doing this early in a child’s development, 2-years-old–

Kara: Uh-hm, yes.

Jim: –I think you started with your daughter and–

Kara: Absolutely.

Jim: –and that makes perfect sense. It’d be good to know, how do you approach that with a 2-, 3-year-old?

Kara: Sure.

Jim: I mean, ‘cause they’re barely talking at that point.

Kara: Yes, preschool is um … that’s one of my favorite ages. I still teach 3-year-olds in our Sunday school to get my preschool fix. And (Laughter) so, I love encouraging parents. It’s never too early to start. Even before they’re verbal, we know that they can throw tantrums and have attitudes, right?

John: Uh-hm.

Kara: So, practice that dialogue even though it may be one-sided, ‘cause they’re gonna be talkin’ before you know it. And so, join me in the Durbin minivan and we’ll put my kids back in the preschool phase and you’re on your way to a play date. And every parent of preschoolers will deal with the topic of sharing, right? Sharing is–

Jim: Now, I gotta ask–

Kara: –just one of the …

Jim: – -a question before you go on.

Kara: Yes.

Jim: Is your van clean?

Kara: No (Laughter).

Jim: Okay, good.

Kara: Oh, my goodness.

Jim: Yeah, this is a true story.

Kara: Are you kidding me? No, I used to look (Laughter) at my … absolutely, I used to look at my sister and sister-in-law’s van and think, “Oh, my.” (Laughter) And then I … you know, it’s …

Jim: So, sorry to derail you, but I want–

Kara: No.

Jim: –authenticity here.

Kara: No, no, we … you know, during those years we had Cheerios crunched up in (Laughter) all sorts of crevices. So, yes, just like everybody else. So, we’re in the minivan and we’re on our way to a play date and a conversation might go like this. “Kallie and Jake, hey, we are on our way to play with Daniel today. I remember last time we played with Daniel, we had trouble sharing, didn’t we? Oh, sharing is so hard sometimes. But what does God tell us about sharing? Does He want us to share or not share? Yes, He wants us to share. And we could pray right there in our minivan on the way to the play date, that God would help us to remember. Now that doesn’t mean that it’s always gonna go just (Laughing) perfectly.

John: Yeah, tell us … tell us it didn’t necessarily–

Kara: It doesn’t–

John: –end really well–

Kara: –necessarily–

John: –that day.

Kara: –end well, but it’s a start.

John: Yes.

Kara: And we …

Jim: Well, and it puts it in their heart.

Kara: It puts it in their heart–

Jim: That’s the goal.

Kara: –and it’s a proactive and positive way to parent.

Jim: It was … I was gonna ask you that though, because temperament must play into this though, the child’s temperament.

Kara: Oh, yes.

Jim: You know, we get lots of responses here to Focus where parents are doin’ the right things–

Kara: Uh-hm.

Jim: –but particularly as their kids grow a little older, their kids may not be responding in quite the right way.

Kara: Right.

Jim: And the parents still are doing the right stuff.

John: Uh-hm.

Jim: But you’ve got to, you know, adapt for that. Talk about that child that, you know, may have a little hardened heart about this, maybe isn’t as in tune as he or she was at 4-years-old when mom was doing this in the minivan.

Kara: Right.

Jim: They’re a little older now. Maybe they are teenagers, 13–

Kara: Right.

Jim: –and when mom tries to do that, they’re kinda rollin’ their eyes.

Kara: Right. Well, we have some rolling of eyes at our house, I’ll be honest.

Jim: Well, that’s okay.

Kara: It started.

Jim: It can happen.

Kara: It’s okay; it can happen. And so, part of it is, you do have to keep up with age appropriateness. I’m not gonna say to my 11-year-old, “Now, don’t forget to share today.” You know (Laughter), where you have to roll with the times.

John: That won’t go over so well.

Kara: It doesn’t go over as well. But you know, um … I can’t even remember. The kids were pickin’ somethin’ out of the refrigerator and one of my kids got the last one of somethin’ that the other one [wanted]. And I said, “You know, is that honoring others above yourself.”

Jim: Ooh!

Kara: And so, you know, it’s just kinda putting it in questions. I think a lot of times instead of, you know, preschool we’re really more in the instructional phase. But as they grow older, pose them … ask questions and really get them to think.

Jim: No, that’s good.

Kara: And I think that helps.

Jim: It’s a good way to go.

John: And Jim, as … as we’re talking here with Kara, I’m thinking, there’s a little bit of conviction here for (Laughter)–

Jim: Everybody.

John: –the parent, yeah. (Laughter) ‘Cause I’m guessin’, Kara, that you might pull a Scripture out and tell your kids, and they kinda, if they haven’t done it yet, they will, when they become teens or uh–

Jim: Most like …

John: –like around that age, they’ll … they’ll kind of put it back at ya.

Kara: Oh, my goodness, yes, and that actually is a good thing, because what it helps kids realize is, we don’t outgrow God’s Word. It is something whether we’re 2 or 92 or 102, you know, as long as we’re here on this earth, it is here to guide us.

Jim: Hm.

Kara: And so, a fun way that, that worked out in our family recently is, we had to address the topic of anger, because sibling rivalry was flaring up in terms of anger. And so, we decided that was gonna be the focus for our family devotional time that week. And so, there’s lots of wonderful verses under that topic. You’ll find Psalm 37:8, “Refrain from anger and turn from wrath.” And Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath–

John: Hm.

Kara: –but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Well, that sounds good, but how do you do that? And so, in the discussion section, I talk about the taking a deep breath and counting to 10. Now that’s something that a lot of adults are aware of. We don’t always do it, but it was interesting to me.

My kids had never heard that technique of taking the deep breath and counting to 10. So, the “Take Action” section was to challenge each other with one of those techniques up there, like the taking the deep breath. So, you can imagine the Durbin family sitting around our den all going (Sound of deep breath), one, two, three, you know, the

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!