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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Being There For Your Son (Part 2 of 2)

Being There For Your Son (Part 2 of 2)

The late Steve Farrar encourages men to invest time and energy into the lives of their sons, in spite of the fact that our culture emphasizes the importance of a man’s career. Steve reminds men that God wants them to love His Word deeply and teach Scriptural truths to their children and grandchildren. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: March 21, 2014

Dr. Steve Farrar: We start early in the morning. Uh, we go late at night. We’re running. We’re … Eh, I, I, I don’t know about you, but our house, we don’t even have an alarm clock anymore. We got a starter’s pistol. Boom.

Audience: (laughs)

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John Fuller: (laughs) Well, that might be a little bit of an exaggeration, but I think we all relate to that. And Steve Farrar will explain why quality time with your kids is more important than whatever is causing you to rush out of the house every day. Thanks for joining us today. This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, there’s a reason why this ministry is called Focus on the Family.

John: Hm

Jim: And that’s because many parents need to be reminded of the eternal significance of those relationships at home, in our own families, especially those of us with exciting careers that cause us to turn our focus away from our loved ones. And we’re halfway through a message from the late Steve Farrar. And he is encouraging men, especially fathers, to reconsider their priorities. The last time Steve began looking at Deuteronomy chapter 6, which he calls, “God’s Job Description for Men.” And the first few points were love God with all your heart, love God’s Word, and teach God’s Word to your sons diligently as you go about your everyday life. And if you missed part one of Steve’s presentation yesterday, please get in touch with us. We can send you the entire message on CD, audio download, or you can get the app for the smartphone.

John: And so many people do listen to us, uh, digitally and we’re so grateful for that. Give us a call if you need more details, 800, the letter A, in the word, “FAMILY,” 800-232-6459, or stop by our website, focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Steve Farrar spent 33 years encouraging men to pursue biblical manhood and has several books, including Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family. Interestingly, that was just revised, uh, prior to his untimely death earlier this year. Get your copy from us here at Focus on the Family where the proceeds go right back into ministry. Here now, Steve Farrar in a message he shared several years ago, when his kids were younger, on Focus on the Family.

Dr. Farrar: Jesus was the great discipler. Jesus was always with the 12. If Jesus went to the lake, they went with him. If He went into town, they went with Him. If He went up to the mountain, they went with Him. And you know what else? They were always asking Him stupid questions.

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: That sounds to me like a dad with young kids, with young guys, right? They just wanna be with you. See, those are when the teachable moments come up. I remember years and years ago, I bet you this was 15 years ago. I was going somewhere, Josh and I. We pull into 7-Eleven. We were just gonna get a couple Diet Cokes. Well, I get the two Diet Cokes, and, and there’s a line. There’s a big line. There’s probably five or six guys in front of me. Well, it’s just going slow and slow, and I look up there, and you know what’s happening? All these guys are buying lottery tickets and it’s taking forever.

Dr. Farrar: Yeah, oh, “I’ll take one of those. Yeah, yeah, and give me a, uh, uh, gimme one of those. And uh-”

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: “… let’s see here. And I’ll take one of tho- …” And this went on. You multiply it five times. I’m watching all these guy- … because the lottery was up to 85 million. Finally. Finally, we get up to the counter. I say, “Just the two Diet Cokes.” The lady says, “Um, lottery is 85 million.” I said, “That’s great. Just the Cokes.”

Dr. Farrar: She ju- “Y- you, you don’t want 85 million?” I said, “No, ma’am. J- just the Cokes will be fine. Thank you.”

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: And you know, guys are standing around, they’re scratching off their lottery thing, you know? And Josh is with me. It’s just normal. She says, “I can’t believe you don’t want 85 million dollars.” And I’m thinking, “You know what? Let’s turn this into a teachable moment.”

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: She just kept pushing me. She just wouldn’t leave it alone. “I can believe you.” I said, “You know, I think it’s better just to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ, don’t you?” And I’m gonna tell you something. It got real quiet.

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: At 7-Eleven. ‘Cause, see? Someone had said Jesus Christ and meant it. Guys say Jesus Christ all the time at 7-Eleven. “Jesus! Jesus Christ! Jesus!” But when you say it and mean it, they can’t handle it. I’ll tell you what happened. Th- the lights went out. The refrigerator stopped running.

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: I’m kind of exaggerating now. You, you know that don’t you?

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: But I will tell you this. It got real quiet ’cause somebody had said the name of Jesus. She didn’t ask me anymore about lottery tickets. We got our Cokes. We got in the car. Josh is about 10. Ah … He’s probably seven. I said, “Josh, you see all those guys in there, buying lottery tickets?” “Yeah.” “85 million bucks.” He goes, “Yeah, Dad.” “You know what those guys think? Those guys think if they had 85 million, they’d be happy.” I said, “Josh, the scripture says no good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.” I said, “You know what that means, Josh? Hey, you know why I don’t have 85 million? Because I don’t need 85 million. If I needed it, I’d have it. But I don’t need it, man. So, all those guys in there, they’re wasting their money. Might as well put that money down a toilet.” Teachable moment. Put the car in drive, we took off. That’s life. You just walk … Ah … But see, you got to be with … You got to be with them. Does the enemy want us to be with them? No. He wants us to always be over here. Uh, we, we got different responsibilities, but we can’t forget the primary calling of our lives. And in order for you to do that primary calling, you might have to make some fact- sacrifices. In fact, you will have to make some f- sacrifices. You, in essence, at points in your life, will have to deny yourself in order to be with so that you can do the job that God has called you to do. My other boy, John, he’s, uh, gonna be a firefighter. He, uh, he’s a great guy. He’s got a great love for the Lord. We’re, we’re very grateful for all of our kids, but, uh, when John was in high school, he wasn’t doing real well. In fact, right around 16. I realized one day that I had an issue because I was having a conversation with John, and in the conversation, he said something that was pretty innocuous, but it kind of tripped my radar. And by the way, guys, I tell you this with John’s permission. If he were here, he’d share it with you. So, he signed off on this. I want you to know that. But when I had that conversation, I sensed something was wrong. I didn’t know what was wrong, but we’d always been very close, but I felt like he was hiding something from me. I didn’t know what it was. So, I began to pray, and I began to fast every Tuesday for John. And I asked the Lord that He would show me what was going on in John’s life. About six, seven weeks later, we’d had dinner in the living room. I turn on a basketball game, Mary had a cup of coffee, John walks in. Just normal. And all of a sudden, God gave us a breakthrough because John started talking. All … Just, just there. God just did it. Can’t even tell you how it developed. But I realized, “Hey, wait a minute. My prayer’s being answered here.” I, I hit that remote, I mean, and, and John started talking, and before long, he had … This big weightlifting kid had tears coming down his cheeks. And, and, and, and he, and he, he said, “Dad, I’m in trouble.” I said, “Why are you in trouble?” He said, “I can’t tell you. I’m, I’m, I’m too embarrassed.” And I walked over to that red chair, and I knelt down beside him, and I said, “John, let me tell you something. I wanna help you, but I got to know what’s going on so I can help you.” He said, “Dad, I’m t- I’m too ashamed to tell you. I’ve blown it.” He … I said, “Lemme tell you who’s blown it. I’ve blown it ’cause if I don’t know what’s going on, I’m the one who’s blown it. But here’s the issue, John, whatever it is, we’ll walk through it together.” And he said, “Dad, I can’t tell you.” And Mary’s sitting there. He said, “Dad, I can’t tell you what’s going on.” I said, “Lemme ask you some questions.” I said, “Are you drinking?” He said, “Yeah.” I said, “You getting drunk?” He says, “Yeah.” I said, “Are you smoking marijuana?” He said, “Yeah.” I said, “Are you doing other drugs?” And I steeled myself for the worst. And he responded, and thankfully, he had not gone as far down that path as I thought. That was quite a moment. It was a great moment. You know why I’m telling you this, and you know why John has signed off on it? ‘Cause I want you to know that this happens. And I want you to know … I, I’m not telling you this to tell you that John got in trouble. What I want you to know is that this happened under my own nose while I was out teaching guys on how to raise their family. This isn’t about John. This is about me. What I want you to know is that I got diverted. You see, our job description is clear. And I’ll tell you what, it took about four years for that all to process its way out. We learned a lot of lessons as a family. But I’m gonna tell you something. God has healed what was broken in our home, and there’s a sweetness, and there’s a joy, and we thank the Lord Jesus Christ for that. Listen, if you wanna follow Christ, you think you’re not gonna get attacked? You will get attacked in your family. If the enemy can’t get you, he’s gonna try and get you through your kids. So, then, you, you, you … What happens is, you make these midcourse corrections. You, you see, here’s what the Lord’s saying to us in Deuteronomy 6. You’re to love God deeply. You’re to teach your sons diligently. In other words, as fathers, we are … Catch this, guys. I’m gonna give you two things. We are to be connected instead of distracted. We’re to be connected instead of distracted. I had not meant to get distracted, but it has happened under my nose. Secondly, we are to be intentional instead of passive. Turn with me to 1 Samuel 2, very quickly. You guys still with me?

Audience: Yes.

Dr. Farrar: 1 Samuel 2. 1 Samuel 2, we meet a guy named Eli. Now, we’re in 1 Samuel. So, how does Samuel relate to Eli? Well, Eli was a priest. Eli was a judge. If you recall, young little Samuel, his mother, Hannah, wanted to have a child. She couldn’t. She went up to the temple to pray. Eli thought she was, perhaps, drunk. She told him what she was praying for. Long story short, God gives her a son. She dedicates Samuel to the Lord, and Samuel wound up being raised by Eli in the temple. Now, Eli is described for us in 1 Samuel 2. Notice what it says about his family. 1 Samuel 2:12. It says, “Now, the sons of Eli were worthless men. They did not know the Lord.” Now, what’s interesting is that they were priests. They’re worthless men. They did not know the Lord. If you read the next verses, you’ll see that when they were … people would come and offer meat for sacrifice, these sons of Eli would take the best cuts of meat. It’d be like a pastor today letting his boy pilfer through the offering plate. If you look at verse 17, “Thus, the sins of the young men was very great before the Lord, for the men despised the offering of the Lord.” Then, if you flip over to verse 22, it says, “Now, Eli was very old, and he heard all that his sons were doing in all Israel, how they lay with the women who served at the doorway of the tent of meeting.” Not only are these guys stealing, they’re sleeping with women. In verse 27, a man comes to confront Eli, and you can read the words in verse 27 and 28. In 29, he says to Eli, “Why do you kick at my sacrifice and at my offering which I have commanded in my dwelling, and honor your sons above me by making yourselves fat with the choicest of every offering of my people, Israel? This will be a sign to you which will come concerning your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas. On the same day, both of them will die.” What a tragic … God was gonna judge his house because he had not judged his own house. You know, the scripture says in Proverbs 19:18, there’s a very practical word to men that says, “Discipline your son while there is hope.” Eli didn’t do it. He knew about it. He didn’t respond. You say, “How do you know that?” Go over to 1 Samuel 3. “When the Lord spoke to Samuel,” remember? Woke him up and he wasn’t sure what was going on? What was that all about? Well, the message that God had to Samuel in speaking to Samuel He says in verse 12, “In that day, I’ll carry out against Eli all that I have spoken concerning his house from beginning to end. For I have told him that I’m about to judge his house forever for the inequity which he knew because his sons brought a curse on themselves, and he did not rebuke them.” That’s how he honored them above the Lord. You see, it is the … Wh- what did Deuteronomy 6 say? You’re to teach your sons to fear the Lord. How does a son fear the Lord? Did Eli’s boys fear the Lord? No. You know why they didn’t fear the Lord? Because they didn’t fear their father, because he never rebuked them. I can remember my dad saying, “Steve, come here.” And he’d begin to take his belt off of his pants.

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: And I said, “Dad, Dad, I, I’m, I’m really sorry, Dad.”

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: He say, “I know you’re sorry. Come over here.”

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: “Dad, I- I’m really sorry.” He said d- … And he wasn’t mad. He wasn’t angry. He wasn’t losing his temper, and he didn’t have a belt with a metal tip, like this one. It was just an old black belt. He wasn’t losing it. He wasn’t angry. He wasn’t … He was very calm. He said, “Steve, come here.” “Dad, I- I’m really sorry.” He said, “I know you’re sorry.” He said, “Did we not talk about this?” “Uh-huh. Yeah.” “And did I not say that if you did this, that I’d give you a couple of whacks?” “Yeah, yeah, uh, ah …” “So, uh, i- it was very clear to you?” Uh …

Dr. Farrar: And this is embarrassing, because I’m 23 years old.

Audience: (laughs)

Dr. Farrar: No. I wasn’t 23 years old, but you see, when I was young, my dad did that. He wasn’t an abuser. He didn’t hate me. He wasn’t beating me. You know what my dad was trying to do? My dad was trying to teach me that I couldn’t cross authority and get away with it. My dad rebuked me. My dad would discipline me, ’cause he loved me. I kn- … See, fa- … Hey, guys. Catch this. Fathers represent God to their little kids. That’s amazing. Your little kids, you represent God to them. And they need to have a healthy fear. Not a terror. Not that they’re gonna be beaten. But an awe and a respect that, if I cross what he says, there are gonna be consequences. Eli never did that. And he wasted his li- … What a ruin his family became.

John: This is Focus on the Family and that’s the late Steve Farrar, and uh, we have copies of his book, Point Man, and a CD of this entire presentation. You can pass that along to someone. Uh, just call 800-the letter A, and the word, “FAMILY.” 800-232-6459, or donate and request those at our website, FocusontheFamily.com/broadcast. Let’s return now to more from the late Steve Farrar on Focus on the Family.

Dr. Farrar: John came home one day. And he’d been with some friends. He came in. He goes, “Dad, where’s the Jeep?” We live out in the country a little bit. It’s quite a ways to school. I had, had gotten a Jeep so he could drive and take his brother to school. He says, “Where’s my Jeep?” I said, “I gave it away.” He said, “You what?” I said, “I gave it away. There was someone who needed a vehicle. I gave it to him.” He said, “You gave away my Jeep?” I said, “That wasn’t your Jeep. That was my Jeep. I was just letting you use it.” He, he said, “You, you, you …” he couldn’t assimilate this.

Audience: (laughs)
Dr. Farrar: Now, now, we di- … That wasn’t the first step. There were steps in between, but, but you see, you disciple according to the transgression. And if there is a refusal to learn, you’ve got to get a little bit more strenuous in your discipline. That’s how God does with us, if you read Hebrews 12. It’d gotten to a point where the irresponsibility had to be checked. Disciple your son while there is hope. Get his attention. “Where’s the Jeep?” “I gave it away.” “We- wh- … Well, how am I gonna get to school?” There was a bus stop out there.

Audience (laughs):

Dr. Farrar: “Well, Rachel had a car when I was, wh- when she was my …” “Yeah. She did. But you know what? Rachel followed this, and this, and this, and this. Rachel showed responsibility. At this point, John, you’re not doing that.” “See, the principle is this. Is that you show responsibility, and you’ll get privileges, but if you don’t show responsibility, you lose privileges.” “Well, Dad, how long is it gonna be?” I said, “Well, before …” I, I, I said, “We’re talking months.” He said, “Months?” I said, “We’re talking maybe close to a year. I wanna see …” And you know what began to happen? We went through a process. Why did I do that? ‘Cause I love this kid. And, and can I tell you something? A while back, John had a job, part-time job. He had to be at work at 5:30 in the morning. You know what? He was there every morning at 5:30. And he was there every morning, on time, 5:30, for two weeks straight. You know what they did? They gave him a raise because they’d never had anybody show up at 5:30 on time.

Audience: laughter

Dr. Farrar: Now, you know what my job is? Hey. Here’s the thing about boys. Boys never wanna go to bed, do they? Here’s the other thing about boys. They never wanna get out of bed.

Audience: laughter

Dr. Farrar: So, somebody’s gonna have up to step up to the plate and teach those b- … See, you discipline so that you can move them to self-discipline. That make sense? That’s our job. Some of you guys are sitting here, and I, I’m, I got to close because I’m out of time. I got to say this word. Some of you guys are here, and you say, “Steve, this is breaking my heart because I’ve got a boy who’s 25. He’s not at home anymore.” “I’ve got a boy who’s 35,” or 45, “He’s away from the Lord. Steve, I’m afraid it’s too late.” Can I say this to you? If your boy is still alive, it’s not too late.

Audience: Applause

Dr. Farrar: And let me say this to you, friend, you get on your face before almighty God, and say, “Lord Jesus, would you help me to reconnect?” It’s gonna be different than when he was 15, “But would you help me to reconnect? Lord, don’t let me be passive. Let me take initiative.” And you know what? God wants to answer this prayer. You say, “How do you know that, Steve?” Because of the last verse of the last book of the Old Testament, Malachi 4:6, which says, “And he,” speaking of John the Baptist, we know that from Luke 1:17, “And he, when he comes, will restore the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the children to the fathers, lest I come and smite the land with a curse.” You know what almighty God does? He wants to heal your family. That would delight Him. He’s looking for us to respond and be obedient, and if necessary, deny ourselves. Let’s be those men, guys. Let’s be those men. And you guys with boys at home, you do the job. You love them, your love your wife, you follow Christ with all your heart, you don’t screw around with sin. You be a man of God in integrity. You don’t live one way at church and another way at home. They need to see the truth modeled at home as you follow Christ.

Audience: Applause

Dr. Farrar: Eddy’s life was going well. He lived in one of the wealthiest areas of all of Chicago. He lived in a gated community. He had servants. He had beautiful gardens. His wife went shopping in a limo. His kids went in a chauffeur to, to school. He was an attorney. His practice … he couldn’t believe the money he was making. He couldn’t believe the quality of his life, but there was just one problem. Eddy was crooked. Eddy had one client by the name of Al Capone. It was Eddy’s job to keep Al Capone out of jail. He was a brilliant attorney, and he did that, but Eddy had a problem. He had a problem with the violence and the murders. It was going too far. And here was the other thing. He had a little boy growing up in his house that he loved dearly, and this little boy looked up to him, and admired him, and respected him. He knew one day that his son was going to lose respect. And it was that fact that caused him to make a change in his life and to go to the police and hand them Capone’s financial records, and when he did that, Al Capone was finished. But Eddy was finished. Because weeks later, walking down a street in Chicago, a car went by, opened up, and a hail of machine gun fire took him down and he lost his life. I fly through O’Hare quite a bit. As you walk through the terminals, there was a memorial, a monument, to Butch O’Hare. They named the airport after him. He was the first, uh, naval pilot to the get the Congressional Medal of Honor. He was the first Ace of World War II. He was on a mission in World War II. He was flying with his squadron. He noticed his gas tank. It, it, it was veering on E. It hadn’t been topped off. The commander instructed him to go back to the fleet. As he’s going back to the fleet, off in the horizon, he sees a Japanese Squadron of Zeros coming in to attack the fleet. He can’t make contact with the fleet. So, single-handedly, he attacks this squadron. He takes out plane after plane, his ammunitions gone. He starts ramming planes. He starts hitting them in their tails. The squadron turns and goes back. He lands. Everything was recorded on the gun camera. He’d taken out five Zeros. A year later, he was killed in another dog fight in a hail of machine gun fire, just as his father was killed by machine gun fire on the streets of Chicago years before. See, a lot of people think that Butch O’Hare is a hero because of what he did in the war. Butch O’Hare thought his father was a hero because at a certain point in his life, his father turned from doing what was wrong and stood up and did what was right, and denied himself, and it cost him his life. That’s what it may take for us, but God will bless us if we’ll do it. Let’s be those men to the glory of God, and let’s, let’s now bow before Him.

Audience: Applause

Dr. Farrar: Father, we thank you for your Word. For the guys raising kids at home, don’t let them get distracted. If they have been, help them make, make course corrections. We make those all the way through life. Help us not to forget the most important work. Help us get focused. Help us to make the corrections. For the guys with prodigals, bring those prodigals back, we ask in Jesus’ name. Put people around them, let them have circumstances that crush them, whatever it takes. Bring them back as you brought the boy back from scripture and heal their family. You’re the great Father. All of us are imperfect. We make mistakes. You’ve never disappointed us. Teach us how to do our work. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

John: Wow. What a, uh, heartfelt passion you can hear there as we come to the end of a two-part presentation from the late Steve Farrar on Focus on the Family.

Jim: And John, as I said last time, I really appreciated Steve because he made me want to be a better parent. And in today’s presentation, I was so impressed by his reaction to his son, John’s, confession of using alcohol and marijuana in high school. Steve said, “This happened under my own nose while I was out teaching guys how to raise their family.” I, I can only imagine how embarrassing that would be. He went on to say, “What I want you to know is that I got diverted.” And isn’t that refreshingly honest? And Steve’s point was, “We need to be intentional with our kids and take the time to instill in them the ability to navigate these temptations.” It’s easy to focus too much time and effort into our careers, particularly for men. And Steve’s reminding me of my most important job title, and that is Dad. And I must say, uh, he really lived out these principles. As we mentioned, Steve died in February from a sudden cardiac event at the age of 72, and at his memorial service, countless people talked about how he truly walked the walk. And they said he was 100% committed to the Lord, he was 100% committed to his wife, Mary. He wouldn’t even look at another woman. He was very genuine and open with his friends, and he made the effort to stay in touch. And when he was wrong, Steve was never afraid to apologize, even to his kids.

John: Well, those are quite the comments, and what a tribute.

Jim: It is. And our hearts go out to Mary and the family. Uh, so, let me close with this quote from Steve that circulated online soon after he died. It’s so appropriate. He said, “The greatest thing you can leave behind is a life well-lived. No one knows when the finish line is. The very gates of hell cannot make us stumble, unless we choose to remove ourselves from God’s protection and power. We finish strong by fixing our eyes on Jesus.” And I love that. “We finish strong by fixing our eyes on Jesus. And let me encourage you, especially the men, if you wanna finish strong, I’d highly recommend you get a copy of Steve Farrar’s best-selling book called, Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family. It’s a fantastic guidebook. Get a copy of the newly revised edition from us here at Focus on the Family. And when you do, the proceeds go right back into ministry. Join us as a monthly donor with a pledge of any amount, and we’ll send Point Man as our way of saying thank you. And if you can’t make a monthly commitment, that’s okay. We’ll send the book for a one-time gift of any amount. Either way, we wanna put this tool in your hands today.

John: Get your copy of the book, Point Man, when you call 800-the letter A, and the word, “FAMILY.” 800-232-6459. Or visit focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And by the way, if you’re gonna be in Colorado this summer, stop by Colorado Springs and see us. Focus on the Family has a tremendous welcome center with a bookstore and an entire Adventures in Odyssey Whit’s End Play Area. It’s a terrific place to stop. Next time, Dr. Juli Slattery shares encouragement for healthy sexuality in your marriage.

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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