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How God Redeemed My Teen Pregnancy (Part 2 of 2)

How God Redeemed My Teen Pregnancy (Part 2 of 2)

Lindsay Pepin Ophus, her mother, Scarlet, and her aunt Bethany share their inspiring story of how God brought about redemption in their family when Lindsay became pregnant as a teenager. Our guests describe how God's grace turned distress into hope when Bethany was moved to adopt her niece's baby. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: February 20, 2020

Excerpt:

Lindsay Pepin: And I remember being at church and praying to God and saying, “I place my baby in Your strong arms, bring peace to my soul.” And God said back to me, “You know, I understand ’cause I had to give up my baby, too.” And when the god of the universe can come down and meet you right where you are and say, “I understand your pain, I get it because I had to give up My baby, too, and I gave up My baby for you,” How do you at that point – you just have to trust and you just know that he will work it out that your baby is going to be safe and in the right home because He gets it.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: That’s Lindsay Pepin Ophus talking about the decision to give up her baby for adoption. She’s back with us today and we’re also joined by her mom, Scarlett Pepin, and her aunt Bethany Pepin, to tell the rest of this incredible story. I’m John Fuller and your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: Now, John, last time we heard an incredible story, as you said, from Lindsay and from her mother, Scarlet. And I think – if you missed the program, first of all, get the download, go get the phone app – whatever you need to do. It was one of the boldest, most transparent conversations about parenting in this modern culture that I think I’ve had here at Focus. It’s that good. And, uh, the reason is – is that Lindsay was so transparent as a teenager and, uh, ending up her senior year becoming pregnant and how she was living this double life and trying to please Mom and Dad, a good Christian home, winning all the stickers for her high performance, yet having this secret that she and her boyfriend were, uh, physically intimate during that period of time as well. And she ended up pregnant. It’s a good, gripping story of how to manage these things well. And I said throughout the program last time, “If you have an experience – you might – this is the kind of instruction that you’re going to need.” And they’re in a much better place now; we heard that in their relationship last time. But today we’re gonna continue the discussion because last time we didn’t get to the decision – what are we gonna do now with this baby? And this is the most critical point. And as a pro-life organization, we wanted to make sure we covered this most important aspect of the story, and that is, frankly, life is the better choice.

John: And we referred, uh, last time to the book that Lindsay has written along with Scarlet and Bethany called Joy Will Come: Exchange Shame for Redemption. And, uh, we have that and a lot of helpful resources as well, including our counseling team, if you need to talk to somebody about a life situation – all of that at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Scarlet, uh, let’s pick up last time. I’ve had a little while to think about what we discussed. And I’m thinking back to the day – you said – was that Saturday morning. And Lindsay, you knew from that following – and you knew from the previous Wednesday that you were pregnant; you just hadn’t told your parents yet – that loneliness, that grief, that guilt. You couldn’t sleep at night. You were having night terrors those few nights. And the Saturday morning you came down and told your parents, and it all exploded. Dad was pounding the table, saying “Who was it? Who did this?” And Scarlet, you were, “No, no, no,” and left the room. I – I appreciate that.

Scarlet Pepin: Mmm hmm.

Jim: Um, that’s how most of us will react if we go through something like this.

Lindsay: Yeah, definitely.

Jim: I wanna go back to that – that night, that Saturday night.

Scarlet: Yes.

Jim: So that initial blow has come. You’ve done your best to comfort Lindsay, yet to try to figure out what we’re gonna do. What was that discussion like in the bedroom between you and your husband, Brad?

Scarlet: This was actually the first time we had been alone that day, he and I. And, um, we’re laying there in silence, just hearing the clicking of the fan above us. And you’re speechless. You’re just – like I said, it’s just like you’ve been punched in the gut. There’s – what do you say? How did we get here? And yes, we felt like it was “we.” How do “we” get here? And, um, I looked over, and I – I saw my husband laying there on his pillow and a tear was trickling down his square jaw as it hit his pillow. With his lip quivering, he said, “The formula, it doesn’t work.” And I knew exactly what he meant, but I – I decided to be quiet and let him go ahead and talk it through. And he said, “You – you feel like you do it just the right way. I mean, we did the programs. We took her to church. I did the father-daughter dances. We had a purity ring. It doesn’t work. The formula doesn’t work.” And at that point, when you’re only 24 hours into it, there’s – there’s no solving it. There’s no trying to patch it up real quickly. You just have raw emotions laying there.

Jim:  Lindsay – and I’m sure, Scarlet, um, you had to be feeling like, OK, the question to answer is, what now? And we don’t have to go into all those details. But at the rock bottom place – I mean, you did go to Planned Parenthood.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: So, abortion must have been something that you may be thought of. Describe that place, where you were at at that point. Was that one of the options you were considering?

Lindsay: Abortion wasn’t necessarily, from the get-go, one of the options. When we did go to Planned Parenthood, I found out, um, later that they did present us with that as an option. They provided us material. They gave us the information and asked us for a decision right then, when I stated before, I was in complete and utter shock to where I couldn’t even hear her. So, to be asked to make a decision right, um, from the get-go, it was – we just need to leave. You know, we need to leave. And I – not to say that it never crossed my mind ’cause there was a really dark day where I did think about, I could have fixed this. I could have made this all go away. I could have removed all of this. I could have not told my parents. Um, I knew from the beginning – and it’s crazy how you feel this way – I immediately loved that baby. On the third day that I knew I was pregnant, um, I remember reading that the baby was the size of a sprinkle, and so I went to Walmart, and I found the biggest sprinkle I could find because I wanted the baby to be big. And I remember thinking, oh, my goodness, my baby’s a sprinkle.

Jim: So, you were connected?

Lindsay: Yes. I just – I mean, it’s something that you can never explain, is a mother’s love, and it was from the moment I knew that – I had to go see, well, what does my baby look like? I have to go see a sprinkle. And it was, um, I definitely had hose thoughts and definitely thought about the negative side of things. Um, but I just know for myself that I loved that baby so much. I knew I wanted to be the best mother I could be for that baby already. And I knew that baby was alive, and I knew that life had already started.

Jim: Yeah.

Lindsay: And I knew that there was there was a baby in me.

Jim: You know, this is one of the observations that has hit me in – especially in the last, uh, year, you know, with all the, um, activity at the government level, state level, to either increase or decrease abortion.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: Of course, again, we’re a pro-life organization.

Scarlet: Right.

Jim: So, we applaud all those efforts to really, uh, reduce or eliminate abortion altogether.

Jim: We support that. Um, the thing that I’ve observed, though – think of Planned Parenthood and other, um, abortion organizations that have been able to convince a woman…

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: …To rob her of that natural instinct of a mother.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: What you just described, I believe every woman actually has.

Lindsay: Definitely.

Jim: That instinct for protection and for nurture.

Lindsay: Yep.

Jim: And it’s a powerful thing to think they have been able to separate women from that – that God-given natural instinct.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: Does that make sense?

Lindsay: Definitely. Well, and especially when that conversation starts, when you’re in complete and utter shock, and you have no idea, you know, even where to find the door to get out of the room because you’re in so much shock that those conversations are already starting. And thankfully, I had a solid base in the way that I grew up, you know, that, you know, I knew that regardless of the situation that we could – my parents would be upset but we would figure it out. And I knew regardless that, you know, I had already been trained that life started in the womb. So, I already knew that there was availability. And I knew there was already options. And I think sometimes women don’t think that there’s any other option. They don’t know…

Jim: Right, they feel trapped.

Lindsay: …They feel trapped. They don’t know. They don’t have family.

Jim: Well, and that’s the other aspect of this part of your story and today’s program, that obviously there’s multiple options for a woman in this environment, where Roe v. Wade it’s legal to have an abortion. Um, adoption is definitely an option.

Lindsay: Mm hmm.

Jim: And keeping the child is an option.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: And one thing that I’m told by Robyn Chambers, who heads up our Option Ultrasound project, which is where we place machines in pregnancy resource clinics. And we work with these clinics. And they’re in most communities. And we love these grassroots efforts to try to reach a – a teen girl like you to inform her, to show her an ultrasound of her baby so that she can make a better decision, which obviously we’re hoping it’s for life. But there is a stigma in our culture about adoption.

Lindsay: Right.

Jim: You know, women would unfortunately choose to simply get the abortion, not have to deal with this – not have to deal with this rather than have a baby, have their baby adopted by others.

Lindsay: Right.

Scarlet: Yeah. Yes.

Jim: And we need to turn that around as a culture because that’s a far better solution than terminating the life of that child.

Lindsay: Definitely.

Scarlet: Absolutely.

Jim: All right. That’s all, you know, that’s all the commercial I want to say there. But the point of this is, what decision are you making? How did that decision come about? When did you know we’re going to put this baby up for adoption?

Scarlet: There were months and months and months of not knowing where we had to keep…

Jim: OK, so your – the baby’s growing inside you, Lindsay. You’re not sure – other than you will have the baby – but you’re not sure what the next step is for months.

Lindsay: For months, and there was months of counseling. I mean I – I went to a counselor, um, a weekend. That’s one nice thing about having perfect parents, is that they can find you a perfect counselor really quick (laughter).

Scarlet: Well, and let’s say free counseling too, because I want listeners to know that there are – there’s counseling out there for free, Christian counseling.

Jim: I’m telling you, we heard from a couple who sat in to listen. And four years ago, their family went through something similar. And they told me that from last – the last broadcast – they told me that they called Focus.

Scarlet: Wow.

Lindsay: I love that.

Jim: And our counselors helped them. So that’s exactly what happened. And that was free, too. So, we’re here for you. And John will give those details. But, OK, so you got the counseling.

Lindsay: Yep, and I – we went through an organization called Crisis Pregnancy Outreach in Tulsa. And, um, through there we attended free counseling. I attended support groups, um, adoption support groups for women who were going to place their babies for adoption, as well as women who were going to parent at a young age. So, they provided those resources. And, um, it’s funny, it’s easy when you’re not in this situation to say what you would do. And whenever I – before I was this scenario, I would always see girls at high school and be like, “They should place that baby for adoption. That’s the best thing for that baby. They should place that baby for adoption.” But when it’s your baby and you have to think through, “I’m going to give this baby to somebody else, and this baby’s going to call somebody else Mom, this baby’s going to go home to somebody else and tell them about their first bad day, this baby on their wedding day is going to have some other woman zipping up their dress” – and you think it’s so easy to say, “You should place your baby for adoption,” but when you’re in this situation, it has to be something that God tells you to do, that God walks you through, that you see the right people, you get the right counseling, because ultimately, when you compare, um, what you’re going to go through, it’s gonna be tough. But it’s gonna be so much worth it than the option of killing your baby, where you’ll never know; you’ll have the what-if, you’ll have even the physical pain of what you go through of aborting a baby, versus the adoption process – you get to see your baby afterwards.

Jim: Which is very good. And ultimately choosing life is the goal there. Bethany, I wanna turn to you now. You are Scarlet’s sister-in-law and Lindsay’s aunt. You and your husband Jeff, you’re heroes in this story. And I’m so grateful to have you. Your part of this story was amazing to me as I read about it. Tell us about what happened when you were thirteen and how did that play into this situation?

Bethany Pepin: One of the many ways that God spoke to me, even as a child, was that I would have dreams or pictures, or I would see things. And, um, when I was very young, so even before thirteen, I would have this same dream of this little girl. And she sat on the second pew of a church. And I was standing on the stage. And I would look at this little girl with this beautiful brown hair flowing over her shoulders and this big bow on top of her head. And I saw this same dream over and over and over again. And I just remember in my very first journal entry at thirteen years old I wrote down I saw the little girl again. I said, “I don’t know who she is, but I know one day I’ll get to help her.”

Jim: OK, this is beautiful because God is weaving this story in all of your hearts.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: So, you choose for open adoption. Jeff, brother of Brad, comes home and says, “Guess what?” And what did he say?

Bethany: Um, well, I had gotten up very early on a Saturday morning to nurse our nine-month-old who never slept ever…

Jim: Oh, my goodness.

Bethany: …Ever slept. And he crawled on the floor next to me. He had gotten home late from being with his brothers the night before. He crawled on the floor at six a.m. I knew something was wrong. And he said, “Lindsay’s pregnant.” And I couldn’t quite process that. I was like, there’s not a Lindsay that could be pregnant, you know? And then I was like, wait, wait, Lindsay, like, senior in high school Lindsay, she’s pregnant? And so much happened in the next hour that I’m not even sure how to even start explaining it. Um, I had always wanted to adopt. My whole life I felt so, so, so strongly. And I just felt over the last, like, five years leading up to that God would say, “Plant the seeds in Jeff,” and Jeff and I would talk about it. And he would not really be that – it was just not something that…

Jim: He didn’t respond.

Bethany: …No.

Jim: Yeah, I get that as a guy.

Bethany: And so – but in that moment, those years of those seeds that had been planted, we decided in one hour to offer to adopt that baby.

Jim: That’s amazing. And also, though, it connected to the dream.

Bethany: Oh, one hundred percent. I didn’t realize it at the time.

Jim: When did that happen? When did you go, “Wow, she’s the girl?”

Bethany: I just remember I was praying; I was driving somewhere and all of a sudden, I saw the little girl again. Like, it just the – the memory popped in my mind. And I just started weeping. And I was like, I have to find the journal. Where’s the journal? I need the journal. So, I ran home as fast as I could. And I opened up my very first journal in that scribbly little kid handwriting…

Jim: Thirteen-year-old handwriting. I love it.

Bethany: …Thirteen-year-old handwriting. And it said, “I don’t know who she is, but I know one day I’ll get to help her.” And I just started weeping on the floor of my closet, which is where I had always spent my time with the Lord growing up. So, I had obviously written that on the floor of my childhood home in my closet. I found there and I sat there in my closet and cried.

Jim: Wow.

Bethany: Because I knew in that moment that this was my little girl. And that God had told me – God had prepared me from childhood to be her mom, from childhood. God is preparing all of us for the things that He has called us to do long before we ever even know that they’re gonna be a part of our lives.

Jim: That is a wow story. I mean, that’s like the Book of Acts, you know, that God is giving you this passion for this person all those years earlier. And then, Lindsay, I mean, I’m hearing, you know, Bethany with that mom’s voice and I’m looking at your face because this is really unique.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: I mean, she’s talking about your daughter.

Lindsay: I know, I know.

Jim: And how do you feel in that regard? I mean, my heart goes out to you a little bit because if you were just a little bit older.

Lindsay: Right, right.

Jim: And in a different position and maybe married that boyfriend, it would be different. But are you OK?

Lindsay: Yeah, I mean, as I tear up, um, yeah because at the end of the day um, God works all things out for the good. God knew from the moment that Kinley was conceived that Bethany was supposed to be her mom. God knew 20 years before Kinley was conceived…

Jim: How about at the formation of the universe?

Lindsay: …Yes, that that’s who Kinley’s mom was supposed to be. And God, through multiple confirmations and multiple discussions, shared that with me and brought me into that. And at the end of the day, I had to be the best mother I could, and that was to not be Kinley’s mom because I knew that the correct mother was Bethany. And I – being the best mother I could do, was releasing my child and choosing the best life for her. And I remember being at church and praying to God and saying, “I place my baby in Your strong arms, bring peace to my soul.” And God said back to me, “You know, I understand ’cause I had to give up My baby, too.” And when the God of the universe can come down and meet you right where you are and say, “I understand your pain, I get it because I had to give up My baby, too, and I gave up My baby for you.” How do you at that point – you just have to trust, and you just know that He will work it out that your baby is going to be safe and in the right home because He gets it. The God of the universe got my pain. The first – out of all that time, no one understood me, no one got me, nobody understood me, but the God of the universe did.

Jim: Wow.

John: Well, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and, uh, what a conversation we’re having with our guests today.

Jim: It’s one of those tissue days (laughter).

John: It is and that’s OK, it’s connecting with hearts I know. Lindsay Pepin Ophus and her mom, Scarlett Pepin and her and Bethany Pepin talking about some very difficult things. It may be that, as Jim has said before, that you are struggling, you’ve got this kind of a situation and you don’t know where to turn. We’re here for you. Focus on the Family is a phone call away. And we’ve caring Christian counselors. It would be a privilege for us to talk with you. 800 the letter A and the word FAMILY, 800-232-6459.

Jim: Um, Lindsay and Bethany, let me direct this to you because there is that moment where the handoff occurs. You know, you’ve just given birth. Um, I’m sure there’s many things running through your mind, through your heart. Um, Bethany, you’re about to embrace this child that you’ve dreamt about, that you’ve journaled about as a thirteen-year-old. Describe it for me from both of your perspectives.

Lindsay: Um, I thought that the hospital was gonna be really sad. I was preparing myself for a very sad couple of days. And, um, kind of what the book is based off, the verse it’s based off is “Sorrow may last for the night, but joy comes in the morning.” And I labored all night. And it was very painful. And it was very sad and very emotional. And when she came and she started crying, I mean, it was the happiest day of my entire life. It was such a joyful moment. And I thought, oh, I’m going to need time alone. I’m going to need to hold her and grieve. And it was, no, let’s have a party. Look what the Lord did. Everyone come in, come see her. I was so proud of her. I was so ecstatic. I was so happy. And it really – the hospital experience was so, so joyful. And, um, you know, I had some great moments with her where I got to just hold her and memorize her face and look at every little detail of what God had created and what He had done. And, um, then the next day it was time for her to go home. And she got to go home before I got to go home, which felt a little weird. And, um, you know, I will never forget the image of her in the carrier. So, she’s facing backwards as they left the hospital room, so I saw her little cute face. And, um, you know, that’s when it was another, OK, we’re going into a new season of grief. Um, it’s time to now go through new challenges of now how do you – how do you walk through losing the most precious thing you own, and you have. And how do you walk through that? Um, but…

Jim: And how did you walk through that?

Lindsay: Um, with a lot of Jesus, a lot of my mom, a lot of counseling, a lot of tears, even a point where I was on anti-depressants and had to get some medical help. But at the end of the day, the one thing that never changed was Jesus never left my side. My peace on my decision, I never wavered on my decision because I knew that I knew that I had heard the Lord. And I knew that I knew that I was doing the best thing for my baby. And so that never wavered. So, um, the physical and the emotions definitely happened. But my spirit was at rest. My spirit was at peace. And, I mean, the God of the universe never left my side. He embraced me, wrapped me in His arms, was there as I would bawl on my floor. He never left my side once and kept His promises throughout it all. And, um, the first year was the hardest year. But, I mean, it’s just – there’s still tough times. As you can tell, I still cry about it.

Jim: Well, sure, and that’s completely normal.

Lindsay: …You never fully heal. Yeah, but, I mean, at the end of the day, I have the most healthy, happy, beautiful daughter. And she has the best life I could have ever dreamt for her.

Jim: Wow.

Lindsay: I’m so grateful to Bethany.

Jim: That says a lot to – about you and Jeff, Bethany, I mean, that you’ve been able to do this. What was your feeling of the handoff, sort of speak?

Bethany: I was so torn. I didn’t understand how somebody else’s brokenness could lead to my miracle. I mean, I – to try and wrap my head around, um, the fact that I got to take this perfect, amazing baby girl home. And while I understand that I could never understand what Lindsay was walking through, the dichotomy of that in my mind…

Jim: Yeah.

Bethany: I still can’t wrap my head around it.

Jim: Yeah.

Bethany: Um, you guys call me a hero, which is wonderful and all that, but since the very beginning, Lindsay has always been the hero.

Jim: Yeah, that’s true.

Bethany: That was never a question. Lindsay was always the hero. God told me before we even adopted Kinley, He said that “You’re not doing anybody any favors.” He said, “This is My gift to you.”

Jim: Wow.

Bethany: And so, um, we went home – and this is just crazy – we went home, and my daughter was supposed to have – my oldest daughter Reese was supposed to have a birthday party, um, the day that Kinley was born. So, of course, we just postponed it 24 hours. And…

Jim: Right. Kinley came a little early. So…

Bethany: She came a little early. But we brought home a 24-hour-old baby to a house full of 60 people…

(Laughter)

Bethany: …Literally, three hours after she got home.

Jim: So, the party happened.

Lindsay: Yes.

Bethany: The party happened. And as we moved out of that house where the party happened seven years later, an image is forever burned in my mind of Lindsay, having just given birth, sitting on my couch. She came to this birthday party, and she sat there holding Kinley, her one-day-old baby that she had handed off to us. She came from the hospital and sat on this couch and held this baby. And I said, “That is what a mother is. That is what a mother sacrifices. That is the true essence of a mother. Whether she ever calls her mom or not, that is what a mother is.” And that’s the last thing that I sat there and cried over as we moved out of that house, was the image of this mom sitting on this couch, holding her baby.

Jim: Yeah. Yeah. You got me.

(Laughter)

Jim: Yeah. Lindsay and I are…

Lindsay: I’d never heard that before. So, I’m – thank you.

Jim: Oh, that is so sweet. OK. The, uh, the close.

(Laughter)

Jim: Oh, my goodness. You know, you have all demonstrated amazing heart and the amazing heart of God. Mom and Dad, Lindsay – the courage you just heard described by Bethany – whew, awesome. You can take that for the rest of your life.

Lindsay: Yeah.

Jim: That’s a good thing. And you got your whole life in front of you. And, uh, for you, Bethany and Jeff, raising that gift that God’s given you – this is all so good. Let’s turn it to those that are listening that, you know, again, are either just going through this or will go through it and to those who might, you know, support abortion.

Bethany: Right.

Jim: Because it’s a tough moment. Let’s do what we need to do to convince that person to rethink about where they’re at

Lindsay: Yeah. Yeah. No. I mean, the shock and the pain is real, and you’re validated in your shock and your pain, and that’s so real. But there’s joy that will come after that. There is a child, um, in the balance, and that it – God works all things out for the good. He turns with the enemy meant for harm and works it for the good. And take some time, exhale, let the shock wear off before you make decisions. Think it all through. Go here – all your options, everything that’s available. Have that ultrasound, see your baby. And just know that regardless of if you decide to parent or place your child for adoption, that God has your baby. And He’ll never leave you, and He will never leave your baby.

Jim: Wow. That’s good. Bethany, the adoptive mom?

Bethany: I just tell people all the time, “Put your yes on the table.”

Jim: (Laughter) Oh, that’s good.

Bethany: Sometimes God asks us to do crazy things. But look at what can come out of our obedience.

Jim: Yeah.

John: And that’s how we wrapped up this two part best of 2020 episode of Focus on the Family. And Jim, I think all of us here in the studio had tears in our eyes as we finished out that conversation.

Jim: Well, we did, John. And I hope the people who support our option ultrasound program are listening. It’s young women like Lindsay and babies like Kinley that you are saving from the heartbreak of abortion. Bethany mentioned a dream she had about adopting a little brown-haired girl. And I want women with unplanned pregnancies to know that if they’re willing to choose life, their baby girl or boy can be the fulfillment of another person’s dreams. If you want to get on board with what we’re doing here at Focus and help not just hurting women with unplanned pregnancies, but thousands of families who need hope after such a challenging year. Please join our support team today. And right now, a matching opportunity will double every dollar you give to the ministry. So please give now before we hit the deadline and the match is no longer available.

John: And when you donate today, we’ll say thank you for joining the support team by sending a copy of that book, Joy Will Come: Exchange Shame for Redemption. And our number is 800, the letter A in the word FAMILY. Or you can donate and get the book at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Well be sure to join us next time as we explore how small, simple choices can impact your marriage in a really positive and big way.

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Dr. Ron Welch: And and I’m going to try to be a person that will honor and respect and love my partner, or I’m going to be someone who will honor and respect and love in a way that is more about me than about them.

End of Teaser

John: On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Joshua Becker discusses the benefits a family can experience if they reduce the amount of “stuff” they have and simplify their lives. He addresses parents in particular, explaining how they can set healthy boundaries on how much stuff their kids have, and establish new habits regarding the possession of toys, clothes, artwork, gifts and more.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

Cover image of Dr. Randall Schroeder's book "Simple Habits for Effective Parenting"

Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

Cover image of Kevin Thompson's book "Friends, Partners & Lovers"

Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!