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Improving Your Sex Life to Improve Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Improving Your Sex Life to Improve Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta help couples understand and experience mutually fulfilling sexual intimacy in marriage. Our guests describe God’s design for sex and how many couples don’t recognize its great value within marriage. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: February 10, 2022

Sponsor ID: This program is sponsored by Focus on the Family, a listener-supported ministry helping families thrive in Christ.

John Fuller: Today on Focus on the Family, we’ll be addressing a significant issue impacting every marriage, physical intimacy. And this is going to be a very frank, godly discussion for husbands and wives. And we do recommend you direct the attention of younger listeners elsewhere. And let’s start off with an observation from author and speaker, Gary Thomas.

Preview:

Gary Thomas: Vastly, more important than anything I might ever write about sex is it seems almost ridiculous to say this is what God has written about sex. And so often we don’t understand the way that God speaks of sex in such high terms and with such celebration. In fact, one thing alone says so much a-about how God views sex, ’cause prayer is really important in the Christian life. But there isn’t a single book in the Bible devoted exclusively to prayer. Finances are all over scripture, there isn’t a single book in the Bible devoted exclusively to how we handle our finances. When you think about it, there’s really one book that has one central focus. And guess what book is? The Song of Songs. You’re with me.

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John: We’ll hear a lot more from Gary Thomas and also Debra Fileta, who have co-written a landmark book called Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. Thanks for joining us today. This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, this is one topic that most married couples and even single adults are intensely interested in. And I think that’s great. I mean, this is an area where we need to seek healthiness because it is a gift from God.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: But in the Christian community, we hardly ever mention it. We hardly ever talk about it. The world has taken it over as a thing.

John: Absolutely.

Jim: And it’s like taboo for us to, to discuss it. And I totally disagree with that. If you want to know why our teens and our 20-somethings don’t have a healthy perspective on sexuality, it’s because we in the church are not talking about this great gift that God gives us in the context of marriage to enjoy. And, uh, yeah, there just seems to be so many crippling things that happen around this topic. And I think we should be leading the way. The most satisfied people should be the Christian community in this area because we are celebrating the very gift God has given us.

John: Mm-hmm. Yeah. And, and we know that there are, uh, couples struggling with really practical matters. There are some who are struggling because of past wounds. Um, this is a celebration of, of the gift, as you said, Jim, of, uh, sexuality in marriage. And we’re really looking forward to the conversation today.

Jim: In fact, John, I was shocked by one statistic that our guests shared in their book. Uh, more than 80%, that’s four out of five couples have some kind of sexual issue in their marriage.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And that’s alarming, but it shows you the need. And I would hope that with our partners, the Christian stations, along with all of you, the listeners and those watching on YouTube, this again is important for us to talk about and to embrace, not run from.

John: Yeah. And we have some great guests, as I mentioned, here in the studio with us, uh, Gary Thomas has been on a number of times with us, often talking about the spiritual dimensions of marriage and parenting and so much more. And he’s authored more than 20 books. And Debra Fileta is a professional counselor, speaker, and author. And she hosts a very popular podcast called Love and Relationships.

Jim: Debra, Gary, welcome to Focus.

Gary: Thank you.

Debra Fileta: Thanks.

Jim: (laughs).

Debra: It’s good to be back.

Jim: You seem a little hesitant.

Debra: No, no. This place is because my-

Gary: Home apart from home for me. I love it here.

Jim: I’m excited to talk about this.

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: And uh, I hope, I hope the listeners, the viewers are as well. It’s, like you said in that clip, Gary, uh, yeah, there is a book in the Bible that’s dedicated to this. Now, what do you think the subtler not so subtle message is there from the Lord?

Gary: It’s an invitation for us to explore what a blessing this is. It speaks of the goodness of God and the kindness of God. That he created us with bodies that have nerve endings and that we can share that in marriage. I, I think what it creates within marriage, what it does for our brains, relationally, what it does for us physically, uh, and I believe what it can do for us spiritually, worshiping the guy who created us that way.

Jim: Yeah.

Gary: I, I, I’ve said before it’s not just the act of physical intimacy that I’m after, it’s the smiles that come a couple hours later. When a couple is bend together and enjoyed each other and they looked at each other across from the table and said, we had a good time.

Jim: And Debra, the thing that, um, I guess is so subtle and under the radar for us, is everybody, this, we’re not talking about seriously conflicted marriages that have deep issues and the physical intimacy component is an area that those issues are, are showing forth, right? I mean, that’ll show up in the bedroom for sure. But generally we’re talking about generally healthy marriages here that can do better if they can concentrate on this aspect of their relationship.

Debra: Yeah. No, no marriage is perfect. And when you talked about the 80% of couples, earlier, who struggle, at some point in your marriage, whether it’s the honeymoon or a decade in, there’s going to be problems. And I think part of the, the dilemma we’re facing is we don’t talk enough about the problems. And so when people face those problems, they start to panic, they start to worry, they start to think something is terribly wrong rather than being prepared to handle some of the problems that.

Jim: Let me ask you, I mean, you’re obviously representing all women here at the table. (laugh).

Debra: Yeah. Every single woman in the world.

Jim: But in that context, um, guys tend to run pretty solo. And I don’t know that we talk that much unless we’re trying to build up our own self-worth with other men in this area. Do women share their pain more openly with each other here? I, I just don’t know, seriously. When women get together, do they talk about, uh, kind of the downside of, or sexual relationship with their husband? Is that open discussion, typically? Or how does that work?

Debra: You know, at the end of the day, I don’t think it’s a very open conversation for anyone. Um, we took a survey, and it was so surprising to see that the majority of couples reported that they either Google problems that come up with their sex life to get information, or they don’t do any research at all, and they just try to figure it out on their own.

Jim: So it’s those extremes.

Debra: So it’s extreme in that nobody is really talking about this. Is it’s not one of those things that you can go to Starbucks and have a conversation about with your friends?

John: (laughs)

Debra: Or it doesn’t come up in Bible study, you know? And I think Christian couples are struggling in isolation.

Jim: Yeah.

Debra: And so this is why I’m excited about this resource because it will offer our readers an opportunity to have these really important conversations, some of them for the very first time.

Jim: Yeah.

Gary: There are limitations to books, but with this one topic in particular, this is where I think a book was really helpful. Because there are a lot of issues that couples don’t talk about, and probably shouldn’t in small groups, to be honest.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Gary: So we wanted to create a resource. Sometimes the hang-up is theological. People don’t realize how much the Bible celebrates sexuality and gives practical advice. We have chapters where we talk about, the Song and Songs leading the way. Sometimes it’s relational. Debra has a whole section about, you know, it’s a relational problem or a sexual problem. And so we wanted a book that could address, okay, this is a relational issue. Sometimes it’s a physical problem. Sex is a physical act, and there are certain things that you have to perfect and that you can learn from. And sometimes it’s just a boredom problem. You’ve had sex for a long time and you’ve kind of run out of ideas and you’ve just fallen into a rut. And what we were able to do by interviewing so many couples, changing the names and making anonymous, we have just tons of practical ideas where couples have said, this was so helpful or this inspired us, or this encouraged us, that you really shouldn’t share in a small group.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Gary: You don’t wanna know that about people you’re you next to, but in this context, we’re able to get very specific and helpful. So whether it’s theological, relational, physical, or just practical ideas, I think a book is really the form to get this information out there.

Jim: Well, and that was one of the punches we were gonna give, that we’re not gonna cover all the great content that you have in the book. So people need to get it. (laugh)

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And, uh, I think people will want to get this, actually. Let me go back to a more general question, though. And, uh, that is you described sex as both the greatest blessing and the greatest pain that couples can experience in marriage. I mean, that kind of says it all. The joking side of me would say, I think which side generally men would, (laughs) would go with and what side generally women would go with. But that too is a stereotype. Nothing is that straight, any longer in the culture. Even in the Christian culture, it’s like an 80/20 rule. And so with that context, uh, why is it both the highest of highs in the marriage relationship and sometimes the lowest of lows?

Debra: I think some of the greatest validation and affirmation can come from a healthy sex life, but also some of the deepest rejection and abandonment can come from an unhealthy sex life. Especially when you’re not talking about it. You can read in between the lines of what you think this lack of intimacy is saying. And so a lot of people are struggling with, uh, reading in between the lines and not actually having open, honest conversations about what’s going on deep down inside of them emotionally.

Jim: Yeah. I took a swing a few minutes ago with the idea that, um, difficulties in your intimacy can often start in other areas, and it’s simply the symptom. What are those lists of things that couple should be aware of that they might be struggling with, that affects them in the bedroom?

Gary: Yeah. The, it could be negative or a positive. Here’s a negative. One woman said to me, Gary, I’d love to have, uh, a better relationship in the bedroom with my husband, but here’s a problem, everything I do is wrong. I don’t drive right. I don’t cook right. I don’t clean right. I don’t raise a kid’s right. I, I probably don’t even pray right. And she goes, so at the end of the day, I know he’s judging what’s happening between the sheets. She goes, and I’m just tired of being criticized by a man that can’t be pleased. So for that, that’s not a sexual issue, that’s a criticism issue. That’s a relationship issue that’s holding him back. On the positive end, one wife said, I would love this. And she said, Gary, if my husband would just pray with me, she said, he wouldn’t be able to handle me in bed. He’d be crying uncle long before the night is through. And-

Jim: How many men are gonna try that today? (laughs) Honey, let’s pray. Let’s pray more.

John: (laughs)

Gary: And, and what she’s saying be-before you touch my body, touch my soul-

Jim: Wow.

Gary: … and sex will be the natural response. Now that’s not a promise, it’s not a guarantee, but it’s just recognizing that, as Debra says in the book, sexual problems are almost never usually exclusively about sex. It could be something negative removing the desire or the lack of a positive that keeps the I from being at its peak.

Jim: Now, Gary, I trust you, you’re an author of great books on marriage, but I want to get Debra’s input here (laughs).

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: Is that true? Touch your soul and you have; you have the rest of me?

Debra: The number one thing that women said, in order to arouse their body, you have to start by arousing their heart. Like that is the gateway.

Jim: Mmm.

Debra: And if that’s not there, then everything else is going to fall short. Um, so much of what we learned in doing research and writing this book is that women are saying that they really need you to connect with them emotionally. And what happens above the sheets fuels what happens underneath the sheets. And that is something that I think we don’t give enough value to when we’re having this conversation.

Jim: Oh my goodness. I mean, men, yeah, it’s hard for us to think that way. It’s microwave. It’s not crock pot.

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: And I mean, what, speaking to the men as a woman, how do we rearrange our thinking that way? ‘Cause so much of it is rooted in desire. It’s just bold desire. We just want to get right to the point and, you know, go. So what, how would you… In your counseling session with a man who is not building into that, that emotional intimacy, what would you say to him to do some things differently?

Debra: You know, some simple things to build emotional intimacy is just by checking in with your spouse, asking them how they’re doing, um, really listening when they’re talking, seeing what they need to help them and to care for them. And I think it’s important to take that physical drive that you have for sex and see it as a holistic thing. You know, if, if we really, we wanna make the most of our physical intimacy, we’ve gotta also make sure that we’re boosting our emotional and spiritual intimacy. The act of just praying with your spouse, we mentioned it earlier, but there is so much power in that emotional and spiritual intimacy that you can have with your spouse.

Gary: W-when I talk about cherish, my-my, my book on marriage about cherishing, the distinction I make that’s relevant here is that we need to use sex to cherish our spouse, not use our spouse to cherish sex.

Jim: Hmm. That’s so good.

Gary: Wives understand if we’re more interested in an act or in them. Is it mutually pleasurable? Our, do we get our, our, our greatest pleasure from seeing her pleasure? Is it the kind of sex that builds her up and affirms her beauty and her wonder? Or is it sex that makes her feel used or demeaned? And if we’re focused on her pleasure and her wellbeing, uh, then I think it’s something that’s serving the relationship. I, I really think there are three markers of healthy sexuality that we have to point men toward. First, it’s got of be mutually pleasurable. God designed both of our bodies to experience this. Healthy sex, one partner isn’t feeling used. They’re both feeling like their pleasure matters as much as the other. Second thing, it needs to build up the relationship. It’s the kind of thing where you feel closer to each other, not manipulated, not controlled, certainly not abused, or even used. And third, I think as Christians, it needs to be a worshipful experience. Sex designed, as God designed it, is one that makes us thank him as a creator and we’re not wincing, we’re like, “Lord, thank you. You created us. This is your idea. We can celebrate it because of you.” So if we both feel pleasure in our bodies, closer to each other and more worshipful of God, those are the three markers of healthy marital sexuality. And I think every husband needs to aspire. that’s what what I want to happen every time.

Jim: Hmm. That is really good. And we’re gonna continue to unfold that. And I know this is gonna be a, at least a couple of days (laughs) that we’re gonna go here. Um, Debra, let me ask you, you heard of the story, and I think it’s a great illustration of a couple that found a bowl at a garage sale.

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: But share the story and let’s see if the listeners go out and find a bowl. This is really good.

Debra: Yeah. A couple went out garage selling, and they found this $3 bowl. They took it home. Later on, they find out it’s actually worth $2.2 million. It was this ancient Chinese artifact that they didn’t even know.

Jim: They thought it was a cereal bowl.

Debra: It was in their possession. That thought it was a cereal bowl. But isn’t that so indicative of what we do with the gift of sex?

John: Hmm.

Debra: We’ve taken away its value in this culture. You know, we cheapen it.

Jim: Oh yeah.

Debra: And what we have in our possession is this unbelievable gift that we don’t even realize we have because we don’t always know what it is, we don’t always know how to make the most of it, we don’t always understand God’s design for it. And so it keeps us stuck.

John: Well, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. And, uh, we’re so glad to have Debra Fileta and Gary Thomas with us, uh, talking about the book they co-wrote called Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. Look for your copy online at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Or call one 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Gary, in that opening clip that we played, you referenced the Song of Solomon or the Song of Songs, what, what is so, uh, important for us to know about the title Song of Songs?

Gary: It’s an ancient near Eastern phrase that elevates what’s being talked about. Most of the listeners are familiar with God being described as the King of Kings. What does that mean? It doesn’t just mean that he’s the strongest of kings or the most majestic of Kings. It means if you were to put all the kings of the universe together, he’s king of those kings. He’s different and kind. And so here you have the Bible dealing with the subject saying there’s no other song like this one. Now it’s pre-Christ, which I think is significant, but when it’s looking at all of the Old Testament songs, you could have the Song of Deborah, the Song of Moses, the Song of David, the Song of Songs, unlike any other song is a song that celebrates the sexual relationship between a husband and a wife. And when we think about what it does, the, the spiritual analogies, w-what it does to our brains and a relationship to keep bonding us toward each other, what it does to remind us that we are physical beings created with bodies that have nerve endings, and that we can literally create humans that share our DNA. Co-creators with God. It’s astonishing, what physical intimacy represents. And the Bible says that just in the title of the book. You don’t even have to get into the verses where it’s saying, we don’t need to be ashamed of this. We should celebrate it and unleash the power. And the good news, Jim, is that what we discovered with a lot of the, uh, researchers that it takes a couple about 20 years to hit their sexual prime.

John: Oh. That should be encouraging to younger couples.

Gary: Right. Because it’s not just about the physical act, which you can master in a little bit of time, but it’s a relational thing. It’s a spiritual thing. There’s a lot of dynamics. They can rediscover the value of this act for their marriage.

Jim: Yeah.

Gary: They can realize in a whole new way, with a little thought, a little understanding, scripturally, relationally, physically, and then with some tips, this can be a whole new element of marriage. It could lead to a whole new marriage.

Debra: One thing I found disheartening is how many people we’ve heard from who don’t have that biblical view of sex. In fact, one woman said to me, I was shocked to see that sex is so celebrated in the Bible.

John: Hmm.

Debra: And if you think about it, some people come from culture where sex isn’t really talked about as a biblical thing. And all they hear is don’t do it before marriage, don’t do it before marriage, it’s bad, stay away. And then all of a sudden, somehow, they’re expected to shift that mentality in marriage. And they really struggle with that. So it was beautiful to be able to shine the light on how biblical a healthy sex life really is.

John: Yeah.

Jim: Well, you, you’ve opened that door. And I was gonna ask this question a little later. So I’ll ask it now. I mean, that’s, I think one of the great difficulties in the Christian community. And I’ve talked to my wife Jean about this. You know, you, you have that self-expectation of I’m gonna save myself, which is exactly the right idea.

Debra: Right. Right.

Jim: We don’t want to suggest that you need to experiment or any of that. You wanna save this until you’re married. This is God’s plan. His wedding gift, as I call it with my own boys. And it’s something you keep wrapped until your wedding night. And, uh, and yet at the same time, I think, especially for Christian women to try to make that leap from no, no, no, to yes, yes, yes. And in talking with Jean, she said, I found that very difficult to do. And I think a lot of women are in that place. And probably some men too, that are trying to bridle that appetite, bridle, that appetite. And then we start marrying later. And now bridling of that appetite is even more dangerous, really. So speak to that attitude. Uh, first for the women, and maybe Gary, you can speak for the men. But how do we flip that switch and all of a sudden, emotionally, intellectually, physically embrace, wow, okay, I get to cut loose now with my husband.

Debra: Right. I know so many people are feeling stuck in that because of the things they’ve heard, the things they’ve learned. And there’s a lot of false expectations that we bring into marriage, including, um, the belief that sex is just for the man. For example, a lot of women struggle because they’ve been taught that this is just for the man, and they don’t understand that there is so much pleasure that God has for them as well.

Jim: Well, it becomes a duty thing.

Debra: Right. It becomes a duty instead of a gift for them to be celebrated, something to fill them up. And so I think having conversations like this begins to change the narrative, begins to help us understand that it’s a gift for a reason. And there are so many blessings that come on the other side of marriage, blessings and gifts to be enjoyed. But I think we’re not having enough conversations to help people understand that.

Jim: Right. Now I could imagine a guy who hears this today, talks to his wife over dinner tonight and says, “Honey, I was listening to Focus on the Family, they said sex was a gift.” She will say, “Yeah, what man and told you that?” (laughs). So it is important. And it’s the right thing. How do we see this as a gift? And in addition to that, you have something, and I’ll get to you in a minute, Gary, to give the male response there, but this sexpectations.

Debra: Mm-hmm

Jim: It’s a play on words obviously-

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: …. but what are those sexpectations?

Debra: You know, sexpectations are the beliefs that we have going into a marriage about what sex will be like. And many times those beliefs are actually wrong or rooted in unhealthy things. Think about how Hollywood shapes our expectations of what sex is going to be like. You know, it’s quick, it’s easy, it’s clean, and you you’re snuggling at the end of the night-

Jim: No regrets-

Debra: … there’s no regrets.

John: Totally natural. Yeah.

Debra: It’s, it just comes so naturally. And then when you get into marriage and it’s not like that, or you’re not always in the mood, or you’re struggling sometimes, or it’s not working the way that you thought it would work, you really start to struggle because now you’re trying to align your reality to these false expectations. Other false expectations that we bring in are a result of our past. Maybe we’ve got wounds from abuse. And sex is actually a painful thing.

Jim: Right.

Debra: You know, painful emotionally or even physically. And now we’re coming to marriage and we’re trying to align our reality with these false expectations. So, so I suggest that instead of aligning our sex life to the false expectations, we start rewriting our expectations, we start aligning them to the healthy, biblical truth of what sex is and what it’s supposed to be like in our marriage.

Jim: Yeah. Gary, we’re right down to the end here. And I do want to come back next time and maybe a third day, who knows, but (laughs) you can tell this is a topic that’s so important to me and to, it should be to people. You have a quote though, and, and you can work in the, the male response to what we were just talking about. But I do want to get this quote. And you said a great sex life is something you make, not something you find. Man, that is a great statement. Now tell us what that means.

Gary: Actually that was in Debra’s chapter, if I’m not mistaken. (laughs)

Jim: Debra, was that yours?

Debra: Yeah. I’ll take the credit.

Gary: (laughs)

Jim: Okay. No, wait. Oh, that’s funny.

Gary: But going back to what you said, they, we have a, a chapter called sacred simmering where the Bible not only says it’s okay to think about the sexually desirable qualities of your spouse, it celebrates it. Researchers have talked about simmering for some time. Simmering is the notion that it’s difficult to go from ice cold to red hot. And so if you simmer, if you know physical intimacy is gonna happen that evening, you start to get your mind ready. And what’s amazing to me, 3000 years ago, the Bible has a woman and thinking about the sexually desirable qualities of her husband and the man thinking about that with his wife. Which tells us thinking about your spouse that way, it’s not lustful, it’s not condemned, it’s actually prescribed in the Bible if it’s your spouse. Now, there’s a difference we know just from brain science, that for guys, initial sexual arousal often is in the limbic portion of our brain, so we do tend to be more physical. Debra will tell you, for women, it’s often in the neocortex, if the guy has been kind, the relational quality, he’s good with the kids. That often actually is a better way for a wife to simmer than for guys often thinking about things they enjoy about there’s about their spouse. This is all on a spectrum. No man is alike. No woman is alike. But I love that the Bible is celebrating, hey, get your mind in gear. And look, to be honest, my wife has had to do that with me sometimes. I can get tired so early because I’m such a morning person. I’ve got deadlines. She says, “Hey, something’s gonna happen at 9:30 tonight. You need to get your mind in gear.” And, and I actually appreciate that, because she’s saying, okay, this is for us. We’re gonna share it together. So reserve a little energy for me. This must be a spectrum thing, ’cause it’s like dessert for me. There’s always room for dessert. (laughs) But, but here’s the thing. If it’s an important part of your marriage and life, if, if the Tampa Bay Buccaneers are paying, uh, Tom Brady millions of dollars to be ready on Sunday, he has responsibility to get his mind and gear and have his body rested. If we recognize that sexual intimacy can be such a life giving, relationship building, personally affirming aspect of marriage, there’s a time when you say, okay, I need to reserve some energy for it, I need to put some focus on it, and I want it to be something that I can bless my spouse with. So this is a blessing not a burden in our marriage. That’s how God designed it.

Jim: Well, this is a great start. I think the engines are revving and uh, we have, uh, uncorked this, uh, discussion, but we need to come back next time and you talk about things couples can do to really improve their physical intimacy and to, um, receive the gift that God has created here in a healthy way. And I so appreciate both of you being with us. Thank you.

Debra: Thanks for having us.

Gary: My pleasure.

Jim: And, uh, boy, I think this should fly out of here. John, this great book that Gary and Debra have written Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. Uh, I would don’t even know why we’d have any left (laughs) if people, uh, called us connected with us. Get a copy, uh, make a gift of any amount to Focus on the Family. Be part of the ministry and we’ll send you this great guide as our way of saying thank you, thank you for helping other couples. And if you can’t afford it, get in touch with us, we’ll get it in your hands and trust that other caring people are gonna cover the cost of that. Uh, it’s obvious that we believe in the content here. And again, uh, you know, just call us. If you need counseling, we have counselors available here. And they’ll call you back and talk with you about some of the other struggles you might be facing that are unique to you.

John: Yeah, thanks for working with us and partnering with us and praying for the ministry of Focus on the Family. And if you can, donating on a monthly basis, uh, your sustaining gift month to month is, uh, a really wonderful way for us to be able to plan out and continue producing broadcasts like this. You can find us at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 1800, letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire two team, thanks for joining us today for a Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we, once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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