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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children. To learn more about Debra, visit debrafileta.com
A woman and a man enjoy an intimate moment by standing close to each other and gazing into each other's eyes. A healthy sex life isn’t about having more sex, it’s about having better sex. Here are four ways to improve your sex life in your marriage.

Four Ways to Have Better Sex

Sex is a gift God gave to husbands and wives, so why not learn how to enjoy it to the fullest?

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Godly Rhythms to Help You Live Life to the Full (Part 2 of 2)

Are you living life on empty? Licensed counselor Debra Fileta highlights ways to “fill up” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In a 6-part process that Debra calls “Soul Care,” she goes through the life and rhythms of Jesus to discover how we can care for our souls. Instead of living unsatisfied, we can experience renewed energy, purpose, and strength to serve others like never before! (Part 2 of 2)

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Godly Rhythms to Help You Live Life to the Full (Part 1 of 2)

Are you living life on empty? Licensed counselor Debra Fileta highlights ways to “fill up” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In a 6-part process that Debra calls “Soul Care,” she goes through the life and rhythms of Jesus to discover how we can care for our souls. Instead of living unsatisfied, we can experience renewed energy, purpose, and strength to serve others like never before! (Part 1 of 2)

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Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Debra Fileta will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

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Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Debra Fileta will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

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Inviting God Into Your Dating Relationship (Part 2 of 2)

Debra Fileta discusses finding your identity before you make it your relationship, having emotional boundaries, and focusing on Christ as the true healing and fulfillment in your life. Her practical advice and fun stories are something you don’t want to miss! (Part 2 of 2)

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Inviting God Into Your Dating Relationship (Part 1 of 2)

Debra Fileta discusses finding your identity before you make it your relationship, having emotional boundaries, and focusing on Christ as the true healing and fulfillment in your life. Her practical advice and fun stories are something you don’t want to miss! (Part 1 of 2)

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Breaking Bad Habits in Your Life (Part 2 of 2)

Debra Fileta wants to help people experience change in healthy ways. She warns about the typical pattern of changing a few externals in our lives but not working on our “internal wiring”. Debra examines our thought life and how easy it is for our brains to follow the path of least resistance. (Part 2 of 2)

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Breaking Bad Habits in Your Life (Part 1 of 2)

Debra Fileta wants to help people experience change in healthy ways. She warns about the typical pattern of changing a few externals in our lives but not working on our “internal wiring”. Debra examines our thought life and how easy it is for our brains to follow the path of least resistance. (Part 1 of 2)

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Embracing God’s Purpose for Your Marriage

Debra Fileta explains how marriage requires unconditional love and sacrifice, which in turn draws us closer to God as we are sculpted more in His image. She urges us to embrace a selfless “we”-mindset over the more common self-focused mindset.

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Best of 2022: Improving Your Sex Life to Improve Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta help couples understand and experience mutually fulfilling sexual intimacy in marriage. Our guests describe God’s design for sex and how many couples don’t recognize its great value within marriage. (Part 2 of 2)

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Best of 2022: Improving Your Sex Life to Improve Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta help couples understand and experience mutually fulfilling sexual intimacy in marriage. Our guests describe God’s design for sex and how many couples don’t recognize its great value within marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

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Focusing On Your Family’s Mental Health

Counselor Debra Fileta answers some general questions on mental and emotional health, covering topics like toxic people, codependency, anxiety and depression, and getting professional help. This insightful conversation will encourage you as you assess your own health and relationships.

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Improving Your Sex Life to Improve Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta help couples understand and experience mutually fulfilling sexual intimacy in marriage. Our guests describe God’s design for sex and how many couples don’t recognize its great value within marriage. (Part 2 of 2)

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Improving Your Sex Life to Improve Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)

Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta help couples understand and experience mutually fulfilling sexual intimacy in marriage. Our guests describe God’s design for sex and how many couples don’t recognize its great value within marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

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What to Do When You’re Not Okay (Part 2 of 2)

Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. (Part 2 of 2)

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What to Do When You’re Not Okay (Part 1 of 2)

Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. (Part 1 of 2)