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What to Do When You’re Not Okay (Part 2 of 2)

What to Do When You’re Not Okay (Part 2 of 2)

Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: July 8, 2021

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Debra Fileta: But there’s still times when those feelings are gonna come up. That doesn’t mean that I’m backtracking, but I have to acknowledge it to make space for that grief in my life, instead of just ignoring it, pretending it’s not there because that grief isn’t a sign that I’m moving backwards or that I’m not healed. It’s just a sign of the reality that in this world, we will go through hard things, you know, and- and to be able to face those with confidence and, um, acknowledge those hurts, make space for them is one of the ways that we heal.

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John Fuller: That’s Debra Fileta, and she’s our guest again on this Best of 2021 Focus on the Family presentation. Thanks for joining us, I’m John Fuller and your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: Here’s a banner statement, we’re not free from stress and trouble in this life. How about that, John? (laughs).

John: Ooh, I can notice lately that we’re not, no.

Jim: This is the world, and, in the world, you will have trouble. I think that’s right out of scripture. E- even when we come to a saving knowledge of Christ, the language we use as Christians and accept Him as our savior, we’re still going to face times of difficulty.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Uh, but we can face them with confidence that we can overcome them and have hope in our future. As we read in 2 Timothy 1:7, “God gave us a spirit, not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: And, uh, you know, that’s a hard thing to remain in balance in those things. And today we’re gonna talk with our guests about how to do that. Uh, she’s got a great book, Are You Really OK? Which I would say hits that scripture directly about power, love, and self-control.

John: MmHm.

Jim: And, uh, it’s gonna be a good program. We started yesterday and-

John: And if you missed it, yeah-

Jim: Yeah.

John: … get ahold of us, uh, let us know how we can get that to you on a CD, or you can download it, or you can get the app, you can watch on YouTube so many different ways. Uh, it was a great conversation, as you said Jim, and, uh, I guess I should say our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or you can go back and hear that first part at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Debra, welcome back to Focus on the Family.

Debra: Thank you, it’s good to be with you as always.

Jim: Yeah, it’s so good. And I love the content you bring, as a counselor your husband’s a physician. I mean, you guys, you’re a power couple, (laughs), and you have four kids, 10, 8, 5, and three months old, right?

Debra: Yes, we do, it’s a full house.

Jim: Okay. Just on behalf of all the moms that are struggling to keep it all going, how do you just do that with everything you got going?

Debra: This is why I wrote the book, Are You Really OK?

Jim: (laughs), it’s for yourself.

Debra: We- we really have to ask that question in these types of seasons, you know?

Jim: You know, let me start there for the moms that are trying to do it all, uh, really seriously, how do you remain healthy, and I mean in every way, emotionally, physically, spiritually, how do you remain healthy with all of the things that pull on you as a mom, your kids, maybe your profession outside the home, the home, your husband. I mean how do you juggle all that and remain healthy?

Debra: Well, the truth is don’t, and you don’t do everything. And you, and it- it might look from the outside in like somebody is doing everything and doing it all well, I get that question a lot, how do you do it all? And my response is I don’t do it all. I can’t do it all, but I’ve learned to do a few things well. I’ve learned to set boundaries around my life, I’ve learned to take care of myself so that I can be filled and pour out to my family. I think in the beginning-

Jim: Yeah.

Debra: … as a mom, I used to feel guilty about taking the time to keep myself healthy. But now I see it as a necessity, because if I’m not full, I’m no use to anyone around me.

Jim: No, it’s really good. And that acknowledgement that, hey, I’m not doing everything well and I’m okay with that. That’s a healthy spot. Let’s do the recap from yesterday. We talked about, uh, emotional wellbeing and spiritual wellbeing, how would you recap that discussion?

Debra: Yeah, you know, Jesus calls us to love him with our heart, soul, mind, and strength. Our heart represents our emotional health, soul represents our spiritual health, mind represents our mental health and strength represents our physical health. So yesterday we talked about our emotional health and our spiritual health and really taking inventory of those two areas.

Jim: Uh, mental health issues affect everyone from time to time. Uh, you, we may not even be aware of it actually but how it’s dampening down our feelings, our sense of joy. I mean, God says, you know, we should be people that are joyful but sometimes things detract from that. How does, uh, the way we think connect with the way we feel?

Debra: Scientists used to believe that feelings caused our thoughts, but the most recent research shows us that thoughts actually trigger feelings, which trigger behaviors. So, if we’re feeling off or doing things that aren’t the things, we wanna be doing, we’ve got to really backtrack and take a look at our thoughts. What’s on replay, like I call it. I have four little kids so when I get in the car oftentimes-

Jim: (laughs).

Debra: … there’s some child CD playing, you know, some nursery songs or what have you.

Jim: Let me guess wheel on the bus goes round and round (laughs).

Debra: Yeah, something like that. It’s definitely not the Focus on the Family program-

Jim: Wasn’t that long ago.

Debra: … because of, you know, my kids are listening to all of their little kid’s songs. I remember once I went on a trip in my car without the kids and after an hour, I realized I could change the channel.

Jim: (laughs).

Debra: I can go listen to Focus on the Family or a podcast.

Jim: It’s an adult moment.

John: Yeah.

Debra: This is, but you’re so used to what’s on replay-

Jim: Yeah.

Debra: … in the background, it just becomes the norm. Our thoughts are the same way, we get so accustomed to certain thought processes on replay that we don’t even feel the need to change them.

Jim: Yeah. Wow, that’s powerful. How does God interact with that in our lives? I mean, what is he saying to us in that regard?

Debra: Well, God wants us to replace the patterns of our past with his truth, right? And many times, the pattern of our past is how we think. Those negative thoughts, in counseling we call them cognitive distortions, they are faulty ways of thinking, maybe something like black or white thinking where you see things in extreme. Maybe something like catastrophizing, where you’re always looking at the future and seeing the worst-case scenario. We’ve got these default patterns of thinking maybe it’s a self-critique, where we’re always thinking negative things about ourselves or the people around us. God wants us to identify these thought patterns and begin replacing them with his truth.

John: Yeah. That’s where I’ve, I come to have a phrase of truth before trivia.

Debra: Yeah.

John: I still like to look at and gather a lot of information, but as a believer, I’m trying to let God’s word, the scripture be my reference point for the day and where I spend a lot of time. Um, it’s not like it’s, you know, for every minute I read an- an article online, I’m reading the scripture, but I want his truth to be the thing that’s transforming my mind, not the world making my thinking, uh off-base.

Debra: I love that. And it’s essentially the question of what am I downloading? You know-

Jim: Yeah.

Debra: … what am I downloading each and every day? And are they things I’m downloading from my past, are they things I’m downloading from what I’m looking on the internet scrolling Google, or am I filling my mind and heart with God’s truth?

Jim: When, y- you mentioned the book, several things that, uh, you need to understand in getting your mind straight with truth, right? So, uh, you use the terminology black and white thinking, all or nothing thinking, overgeneralization, minimization and magnification, mind reading, fortune telling, and this one I could really relate to as catastrophizing. ‘Cause I think the culture, we- we are living in that right now where-

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: … everything is a catastrophe. I mean, you talk with family members and it, if it’s not COVID related, something is, uh, you know, it’s fear.

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: Speak to some of those or maybe the one or two that really capture you had emotional reasoning, should/could/would statements, labeling, personalization, there’s a lot there and it’s all in your great book and people need to get it for the complete-

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … uh, definition. But what- what are one or two of those that I’ve mentioned that st- stand out to you?

Debra: You know, something like should/could/would, you spend so much time thinking about what you should have done in the past blaming yourself. Um, like you mentioned, catastrophizing, we’re always thinking of the worst-case scenarios filled with worry and fear. The way that we think begins to change our brain physically speaking, it begins to change the neuro pathways, which then begin affecting our emotional health, our mental health. And so, there’s so much power because how you think impacts your life. When you change your thoughts, you begin to change your life. And that’s why something that people are so passive about, what’s on replay, they don’t even think twice about it, we’ve gotta work to take inventory of our thoughts. The Bible says, take every thought captive. In counseling, we call that cognitive behavioral therapy, you know, but God thought of it long ago, transforming our mind. And making sure that what’s flowing out of our mind is bringing us health and not the other way around.

Jim: So, when you’re dealing with that person sitting in front of you in your counseling office, what are two or three things you can encourage them to do? What are steps they can take to begin to not be overwhelmed by the world and to transform their mind according to Christ?

Debra: First and foremost, I think you’ve got to face your thoughts. Sometimes they’re so automatic you don’t even recognize them. So, one thing that I have people do, and in fact, this book is actually interactive. It’s not meant to just be read; you journal through it. You know, you- you journal as you’re going through. And one thing I have people do, especially during this section is begin keeping track of their negative thoughts to put them on paper, to start seeing patterns in the way they think that they might not have recognized before. And then when we do that, we have the one side but then we begin to replace it with God’s truth. What does God ultimately say about these things? What am I ultimately believing? Am I believing this side of the spectrum, the dark side? Or am I clinging to the light of God’s truth?

Jim: When you look at the culture, um, how much impact is the culture on us in this regard? Uh, whether it’s social media or certainly body image for women and men to a certain degree, there’s so much emphasis on things that scriptures clearly saying aren’t the important things. And so little emphasis on character and things that scripture does say are critical.

Debra: Right. Culture gives us a false measuring stick. It gives us a measuring stick as something we can never achieve or attain and maybe even shouldn’t try, you know, whether it be physical appearance or money or success or power. Sometimes we spend so much time trying to achieve those things that we neglect the most important things of how we’re doing on the inside. From the inside out our emotional health, our spiritual health, our mental health, even our physical health. These are the things that we needed to align all of who we are with exactly all of who God wants us to be.

Jim: Yeah, and in the book, you do, uh, go to great lengths to talk about areas where we need help mental, uh, illness being one and the way the culture and particularly the Christian culture can shame people that are struggling in that area. I just want to make sure we’re really clear on that. We’ve done some programs on that before, and we get a lot of response from folks who feel very strongly on both sides of this issue. As a counselor, with that person, again, sitting right there in front of you, how do you encourage them to seek the help they need and still maintain, uh, a healthy understanding of God’s love for you, his concern for you. But yes, you can get some help-

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: … if you don’t have enough serotonin on your nerve endings. I mean, it can be that simple.

Debra: You’re absolutely right. I recently on my blog wrote an open letter to the depressed Christian and I explained to them, which I also cover in this book that this is not a reflection of your faith. This is not a reflection of your strength. This is not a reflection of your relationship with Jesus. You know, this is a struggle that you’re walking through and many times, this is the catalyst to your faith. I look at the times of depression, the darkest seasons for me, when Jesus was truly the closest, I felt him near to my heart. And I’m grateful. He walked me through that process of healing with therapy and medication because you know what, even therapists can benefit from therapy and counseling. I don’t just preach this because I’m a counselor. I preach it and teach it because it actually impacted my own life during those hard seasons.

Jim: Yeah, that is so good. And I hope people are hearing that heart that you have and that we share, you know, Focus on the Family.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Sometimes in the Christian community, you know, we get criticism for talking about the idea that- that people can get help through counseling, they can get help through medication, et cetera. Break down some of those myths, just hit ’em bang, bang, bang, what would you say?

Debra: I think many times what we try to do is offer spiritual solutions-

Jim: What does that sound like in that conversation?

Debra: … to mental or emotional problems.

Jim: Yeah.

Debra: You know, things like you need to pray more or here’s a Bible verse dwell on scripture, when you’re in the thick of depression or anxiety or a panic attack and your brain is not working properly, your amygdala, the part of your brain that’s responsible for emotional memory is going wild. Your neocortex, the part of your brain that’s responsible for logic is dulled down. You can’t think about scripture in that moment because you’re that part of your brain isn’t actually working properly. And so, for us, we have to realize that sometimes those blanket statements actually cause more hurt than help. Of course, we need Jesus and the spirit and his guidance. We need prayer. We need to meditate on scripture at the proper times. But I think just putting those spiritual solutions on these mental and emotional issues can actually cause damage, can leave people feeling, shame and defeat rather than being encouraged, that they can find hope and healing.

Jim: Yeah, it might be i- in, this, uh, is just a thought but you might wanna stop and actually pray with that person rather than give them advice as to what they can do. Stop and pray.

Debra: Pray for them.

Jim: Yeah, yeah.

Debra: If they can’t pray for themselves, you cover them in prayer. But not only that it’s really taking the next step, how can I help you? Just like you would, if somebody was sick with cancer or someone just had a baby and they’re unable to- to help themselves in certain ways come alongside of them, stay present, see what they need, ask them how you can help. I think that’s the thing that we as the body of Christ could do a better job at is helping people walk through their struggle rather than dropping off a Bible verse and saying goodbye.

John: Mm, yeah and avoid those prescriptive prayers. You know, we have a tendency sometimes to pray to the person, instead of asking God to intervene.

Debra: Right.

John: We want to avoid that. Well, we wanna help you find health and wellbeing and, uh, our guest today on Focus on the Family is Debra Fileta and, um, she’s written this great book, Are You Really OK? Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. And of course, we have copies of that here at the ministry, just get in touch. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Uh, Debra, y- you touched on this a while ago, but I- I do wanna come back to it because it is such a tender spot and it’s something that a lot of women and their husbands experience. And that’s miscarriage, take us through that. Both as a wife, a mom, but then also as a counselor and what you yourself went through and how that can benefit others.

Debra: Yeah, I went through a traumatic miscarriage that didn’t actually impact me until a few years later. Um, I think sometimes we think that the impact is gonna happen right away and we’re not prepared for when the trauma comes back a little bit later, we-

Jim: Did you, did you feel disconnected at that point? I mean, you’re in it. You- you had this miscarriage, and you know, the language, you’re a counselor, were you questioning, how come I’m not feeling this more deeply or are you just trying to survive and get through it and hug John and you know?

Debra: I think that’s what it is. I think as a mom, when you go through something traumatic, like a miscarriage and for me, it was even an emergency surgery where I almost lost my life, you come home, and life doesn’t stop. You’ve got the kids, at the time we had three kids.

Jim: Right.

Debra: You’ve got the ministry, you’ve got work, you’ve got your husband. You are in survival mode. And when you’re in survival mode, you don’t have the time or the energy to stop and really process that loss. Of course, you feel the loss on a superficial level, you cry, you talk about it. But I think we’re surprised sometimes when trauma comes back later, sometimes we feel like we’re backtracking. You know, maybe I didn’t really heal, but I want people to realize that God has made it that way. We heal in layers-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Debra: … one layer at a time. And just because whatever trauma you’ve been through might be coming back in this season doesn’t mean you, mean you haven’t healed, but it might mean that God wants to heal the next layer and the next layer and the next layer.

Jim: That’s really insightful and I think it actually indicates something for all of us as human beings created as we are that we might expect that to happen, not in layers, but in like one stage.

Debra: Right.

Jim: We’d go from wound to healed. And the fact the way you described that as being in layers, I don’t know what, um, if it’s in pa- we’re just not patient enough. We don’t understand the mechanisms that God has giving us for healing, but all of it’s kinda wrapped up in there, right? And I could just feel a person shaking his fist at God because that healing has not occurred and they wanna get there and they’re just frustrated.

Debra: Right, we wanna see immediate results, you know?

Jim: Right.

Debra: That’s the reality, uh, nobody wants to linger in the process of healing. But that’s exactly when the process of healing is most effective. Think about losing weight, when you do that diet and lose 10 pounds in a week, that 10 pounds is gonna come right back and then some. But when you take your time to heal, when you’re deliberate and intentional about really getting into those wounds and dealing with them little by little that’s when healing is more long lasting and permanent, that’s when it becomes a part of your life.

Jim: Yeah, in that respect, how do we measure that? So that we know we’re not standing still. We may not be there yet but we’re making progress. How do we measure that?

Debra: I think being deliberate about setting goals, um, we talked earlier how easy it is to go get a physical checkup, but how rare it is to stop and take an emotional, spiritual, mental inventory. So, the question I would be asking is what is God healing in your life today? That’s where we need to stop and ask ourselves-

Jim: That’s a good question.

Debra: … if the answer is, I don’t know, not much, you actually worry me the most because you feel like there’s no need for healing. You feel like you’ve arrived. There’s nothing that you identify in your life, whether it be emotional, spiritual, mental, physical. For us to constantly be growing in the process of sanctification, we’ve got to be doing these check-ins on a regular basis.

Jim: I would think that another way to make that statement is that in this life, we should all be striving for something better.

Debra: Right, there’s always-

Jim: Yeah.

Debra: … there’s always the next level.

Jim: Place to grow.

Debra: That God is longing to take us.

Jim: Yeah, in that regard, let me ask this. The, um, and this is something personally for me, that’s been a bit of a struggle because I do generally tend to feel I’m in a good place and I- I wanna represent that feeling. So, I’ll- I’ll be honest about it for me. I think Jean might say, well, because of your trauma as a child, maybe you’re just looking at the shiny side of everything and you’re not dealing with, you know, the pain of what happened. And I- I understand that. And I think I have but speak to me and the people like me who have kinda said, okay, I think I’ve gotten through it. I think I’ve forgiven people that have wounded me. I think I f- you know, come to grips with what I had to go through as an orphan kid. But those that know us best might be saying emotionally, it may not be as connected (laughs).

Debra: Yeah.

Jim: You’re protecting, and God gives us that mechanism. It’s a protection mechanism. So, you- you don’t go as deep emotionally, you do become an inch deep and a mile wide ’cause you don’t want to be hurt. Speak to those people that may be not in tune with what their real soul hurt is.

Debra: Yeah, that’s a good one. And- and I appreciate you for being so vulnerable. You know, I’m the type of counselor that tends to be a little more candid and so I’ll tell people right off the bat, you’re not as healthy as you think you are, you know, because the Lord is longing to take us to a better place. And I think when it comes to our past wounds, of course, we- we eventually get to a place of peace. Um, you- you know, it’s not like a- a journey for the rest of time dealing with those past wounds, but we can’t be surprised when they come up at different times. It’s kind of like grief. Um, when you look at your past childhood wounds, sort of like grief, something that was lost, grief comes in waves. There may be seasons where it doesn’t impact you but then there’s other seasons where it comes through. And that’s what you have to be aware of, what seasons might my past experience be coming through. And how does that impact me in the present? How does it impact my relationships in the present? The people closest to you are probably gonna give you the most insight because what’s happening in the present, your problem spots in the present, your conflict patterns in the present tend to be a signal of the things that you might still need some healing from in the past.

Jim: Keep reaching, keep working.

Debra: Keep working, keep listening to Jean.

Jim: Yeah, I like that. Yeah, like that’s for sure. Um, you know, I, I’m reminded of a family I won’t mention their name, but they had catastrophic, uh, situation where their son and daughter-in-law got married. They took off from the reception in a helicopter and it crashed into a mountain, so they’d only been married four or five hours. And I remember standing with him, you know, months after the event and we were out by his barbecue. And he, I just said, “How are you doing?” And he said, “Well, what else can you do? You just get up and you keep moving forward, trusting that God is who he is, and all these things are taken care of.” I can’t imagine the pain of that kind of loss. He said it was the best day of my life and the worst day of my life. And it gives me tears now talking about it. But as a counselor, speaking to those kinds of situations, it’s kinda the reality, isn’t it?

Debra: It is.

Jim: You get up and you gotta keep going, even with incredible devastation.

Debra: And I think it’s important for us in those situations to realize that dealing with these types of deep hurts doesn’t have a timeline. You know, we say that time heals all wounds, well it doesn’t, it really doesn’t. In fact, some wounds when left to themselves will only get infected with time. They will get worse with time. And so, for us being intentional to really face some of that pain and realize that there’s no time limit, you know, even for me, I feel like I’ve dealt with my trauma, my miscarriage in a healthy way, but there’s still times when those feelings are gonna come up. That doesn’t mean that I’m backtracking, but I have to acknowledge it to make space for that grief in my life instead of just ignoring it, pretending it’s not there because that grief isn’t a sign that I’m moving backwards or that I’m not healed. It’s just a sign of the reality that in this world, we will go through hard things, you know, and- and to be able to face those with confidence and, um, acknowledge those hurts, make space for them as one of the ways that we heal.

Jim: Yeah. It’s an amazing thing. I think God’s formula for this life, uh, we are gonna suffer.

Debra: And we’re gonna need Him and we’re gonna rely on Him every step of the way.

Jim: And we’re gonna need that’s the whole purpose, yeah.

Debra: We’re never gonna walk without a limp. Um, one of my favorite sermons is Jon Courson actually preached it. And he said, you know, in one scenario, Jacob who wrestled with God and ended up with a limp for the rest of his life, which reminded him of his need for Jesus every step of the way, his need for the Lord. And the other scenario, a man at the pool of Bethesda was healed. Yippee, I’m healed. And people said, “Who healed you?” And he said, “I don’t know.”

Jim: (laughs).

Debra: And sometimes when we’re fully healed, we lose that connection with the Lord. We forget that I need Him. Sometimes the limp that we carry in life, those hardships, those struggles remind us of our deep need for the Lord.

John: What a great place to end our conversation with Debra Fileta. This has been a Best of 2021 Focus on the Family, and she has done a terrific job relating God’s desire for us to be whole and healthy.

Jim: She really has, and I hope you’ll intentionally pursue some of these aspects that Debra’s been talking about. You know, here, Focus on the Family, we know life can be a strain or a struggle. We are here for you. We have a team of caring Christian counselors who want to help. You can give us a call or go online to set up an initial consultation. We also have lots of other resources to help you. In fact, Debra’s book Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing and Why it Matters is a great place to start. You can get that directly from Focus on the Family, and when you do, the proceeds go right back into ministry, giving other families hope every day.

John: And we hear from so many who need answers to some of life’s most difficult questions. We do count it a privilege to be able to help and Jim. Let me just quickly share a word that we received from Judy. She writes, “I started listening to this radio broadcast in 1983 when I was a young mom, and I’ve been listening ever since. I wouldn’t know how to raise my children without Focus”. And then she went on to say, “I appreciate how Focus speaks into and understands the cultural changes and issues that are going on.”

Jim: You know, we’ve been through a tough couple of years culturally and we want to continue to lead that charge for the family. But we need your help, especially here as we’re heading toward Christmas and the end of the year. God can use your support to provide scripture-based resources and programs to save and strengthen families. When you give a gift of any amount today, and we’ll send you a copy of Debra’s book as our way of saying thank you. And through a special year end matching opportunity, your gift will be doubled. And that means you can really have an impact towards saving marriages, rescuing mothers and babies from abortion, equipping parents to raise children boldly in their faith, redeeming broken families, offering emotional peace, caring for children in foster care, and so much more. There’s a lot going on and your support is critical so that we can finish the year strong and plan to reach even more families in the coming year. And I’m eager to see how God will work through you and Focus on the Family in 2022.

John: Donate today and get your copy of the book, Are You Really OK?  We’ve got all the details at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Well, plan to join us next time as we feature another Best of 2021 Focus on the Family. Dr. Meg Meeker will help you navigate this toxic culture that we’re living in with your daughter.

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Dr. Meg Meeker: Developing a strong, deep relationship with a father with a daughter or mother with a daughter. That’s what’s going to change that daughter and root her so that when she hits her 20s, she has her wits about her. She has a faith and she knows who she is.

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Amy Carroll explains how listeners can find freedom from self-imposed and unrealistic standards of perfection in a discussion based on her book, Breaking Up With Perfect: Kiss Perfection Goodbye and Embrace the Joy God Has in Store for You.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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