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Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language (Part 1 of 2)

Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Gary Chapman offers parents helpful insight and practical guidelines found in his bestselling book The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively. (Part 1 of 2)

Original Air Date: January 30, 2014

Opening:

Excerpt:

Gary Chapman: We observe the physical changes, you know, that are taking place in the body. But we don’t always observe and not always aware of the changes that are taking place in the mind, because they’re beginning to think logically and they’re changing emotionally. Which it – they’re up and down, you know. In the morning, they might be very wonderful and loving. The afternoon – totally different. So they’re going through all these changes, you know, and I think as parents, if we don’t become conscious of those and recognize these as normal changes, then we can be in conflict with our teenager.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: Maybe you have a teen in your family who has surprised you with an emotional outburst, or you found yourself in an unexpected debate over something that really makes no sense at all. That is living with a teenager and if you have pre-teens, watch out. It’s coming.

Today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, we’re gonna hear a lot more about parenting your teenager. Advice and insight from Dr. Gary Chapman and as I said, Jim Daly is your host. I’m John Fuller. 

Jim Daly: John, I think most families live in this spot. We certainly do with teen boys. I mean, there’s times where you have these pretty tough interactions. And I think it’s completely normal for those households with teens. Our young men and women are growing up and becoming their own persons. They’re wanting to express themselves, have their own ideas, et cetera, often with very different ideas and attitudes than we want them to have. But as parents, we have to adjust how we treat and connect with these emerging adults so we can maintain, really, that love and respect that we need for each other. We need to understand them better. And I’m so glad we have Gary here today to help us walk through the parent-teen relationship.

John: Yeah, Dr. Chapman is so well-known as an author and speaker. He’s been on this broadcast multiple times, and he’s probably most famous for the landmark book, The 5 Love Languages. And he has expanded that concept into a series of books for men, children, singles, and teenagers. And he’s gonna help you embrace this season with your teen. It really can be a remarkable time of life, and I should mention the title of the book is The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers. Here’s Gary Chapman now, on Focus on the Family.

Jim: Gary, it’s great to have you back here at Focus on the Family. 

Body:

Gary: Thank you, Jim. Great to be back.

Jim: It is a lot of fun to look at this and you know, it’s good as a parent to become a student of your children, uh, because it’s important to know how God has wired them, isn’t it?

Gary: Well, it really is because I think, you know, when – when our teenagers came along, which is a few years ago, I had no idea what teenagers were going through. And what I’m sharing here is what I learned after…

Jim: Oh!

Gary: …I went through it myself.

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: That’s good, though. You’ve had the experience. That’s good.

Gary: Yeah, yeah. So uh, yeah, I think – and it’s not only the changes I mentioned earlier, but also uh, you know, it’s the social changes that are taking place. Uh, they’re moving toward independence, which we should see as a good thing. But that means they don’t want to sleep in the room with their brother anymore. They’d rather have a bed underneath the stairwell or something, you know. And they…

Jim: You know it well.

Gary: …they don’t want you walk into the shopping mall with ‘em. “Let me out, you know, three blocks away. I’ll walk in by myself.” Uh, and you know, and parents can begin to feel, “Wait a minute. What’s going on? Don’t they like us?” I mean, you – but it’s just normal. They’re moving toward independence and that means social independence. And sometimes they will not want to go with you on family outings. And this hurts the parents, you know, “Wait a minute, you know. Go with us.” And they’d rather be with their friends. So all of these things are going on inside the teenager, which really have a positive foundation if parents can see that and learn how to cooperate with that.

Jim: Uh, Gary, you are touching on something so important because as that child begins that desire for independence it can – it can create a lot of conflict in the family. And parents need to better understand how to manage that. Um, what advice do you have for the parent that is, rather than thinking it through, they’re jumping into the fight?

Gary: Yeah, well I think we have to recognize that if we’re gonna fight our teenagers, the teenagers are going to win.

Jim: Oh, now wait a minute!

Gary: You know…

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: A lot of parents don’t want to hear that.

John: “Oh, no they won’t. I’m gonna win this one!”

Gary: But it’s a reality. And what I mean by that is you know, even if you win the argument with a teenager and you tell them, “Well this is the way it is because I’m your parent and you’re gonna respect me,” and we go through that routine – the teenager walks away with a sense of rebellion inside. And so they’ve won the argument, you know. And so I think we have to become listeners when they get to be teenagers. When they’re…

Jim: That’s so tough for parents to do. Why is it hard for us to recognize that our teens need that level of respect?

Gary: Well I think, you know, when they’re children, we have to tell them what to do. We have to set the boundaries for our children as they grow up. And we have to see that they follow those boundaries. And it doesn’t mean you remove the boundaries when they get to be teenagers. I mean, there are still boundaries there. But when they get to be teenagers, they are now thinking also and they are thinking logically. And that’s when they come back and say, “Well, you know, what you’re saying is not right.” And one of the places, Jim, that parents really struggle is when this gets into religious area, and the child starts talking differently than what they’ve been raised. You know, and they’re bringing up different issues and say, “Well, I have this friend who’s a Buddhist and dah, dah, dah, dah,” you know. And the parents just freak out. “Wait a minute. What’s happening to my teenager?” Well, the reality is they have to come to own the faith for themselves.

Jim: It’s a very scary thing though…

Gary: It is.

Jim: …uh, as we want to parent to perfection. I mean, especially in the Christian community, we have very high expectations for our children and when they become teenagers particularly. And it can be behavior. It can be friends. They’re raising questions that are different from what the household is used to doing. How does a parent relax and actually invite that child into a deep discussion, rather than sow the seeds of rebellion by being so forceful or so harsh that they actually block the love that’s between them?

Gary: Yeah. You know, Jim, I remember when my son said to me after we had had a rather, you know, heated argument. He said, “Dad, I’m going to do what you want me to do, but I just want you to listen to me.”

Jim: Wow. Powerful moment.

Gary: And it hit me very deeply, you know. He respected my authority as a parent. He ultimately would do whatever I came down to say, you know, this is it, you know. But he wanted to be heard.

Jim: Yeah.

Gary: And I think this is important for parents to recognize. They want to be heard. They want to have the sense that we recognize them as an individual.

From our perspective as Christians, they’re made in the image of God. They’re highly intelligent, and they’re gonna go out to do somethin’ good, we hope. So let’s foster that thought – that intellectual thought. And when they say something that you disagree with, rather than giving them the answer and say, “Know what the Bible says?” you say, “Tell me more about that.” You know, “What led you to think that way?” And ask them questions so that you find out where they’re coming from, how they developed those ideas. And then you can say, “That’s an interesting perspective. Now let me share my perspective.” And because you’ve listened to them, they will now likely listen to you.

Jim: That is great advice. It’s hard to do for some reason, but you have really uh, I think, cracked a code with the love languages. And some listening may not remember or may not be familiar with the love language concept that you uh, put together in your original book, The 5 Love Languages. Tell us about those five love languages, briefly. And then let’s explore each one. But it really becomes the glue. Something I believe, Gary, that’s so true is as you parent through difficulty, you need to maintain that tether of love.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: Because if that is severed, then you’ve lost so much ground. And in your instruction and in your parenting, you’ve got to make sure you’re expressing to your child that you love ‘em. And you have cracked this code about how all human beings, whether you’re an adult or a child, you communicate in a certain way when it comes to love. Tell us about it.

Gary: Yeah. Well, you know, Jim, you’re right. I think almost all parents love their teenagers.

Jim: I would hope so.

Gary: But I can tell you, a lot of teenagers do not feel loved. So we have to be more than sincere. We have to learn how to communicate love so that your teenager, that specific teenager, feels loved. Because one size does not fit all. So the five love languages, which I discovered years and years ago, number one is words of affirmation. For some children, this is really what makes them feel loved – words of affirmation. And sometimes you find it hard to give words of affirmation to teenagers.

Another is acts of service – doing things for them, particularly things they cannot do for themselves. But also in the teenage years, teaching them how to do things for themselves, teaching them how to change a tire on a car, for example. That’s an act of service. And for some teenagers, this is really important. They want to learn these things. And when you take time to teach them how to do these things, they feel loved by you.

Another is quality time – giving them undivided attention. And this is not simply being in the same room with them. It’s focusing on them. It’s having conversations with them. It’s listening to them. It’s doing things together that they like to do – quality time.

And then there’s giving gifts, and some parents say, “Well that would be the language of all teenagers, would it not?”

(LAUGHTER)

No, not really. Some teenagers, however, the gift really speaks deeply to them.

Jim: And that’s receiving a gift?

John: “My parents love me.”

Gary: That’s right, receiving the gift.

Jim: Yeah.

Gary: Doesn’t have to be expensive and we certainly don’t do everything – give ‘em everything they ask for, but giving gifts is important for some children.

And then there’s physical touch. We’ve long known the power of physical touch. And with teenagers, there are some of those where physical touch is what really makes them feel loved. So each teenager has a primary love language. You want to give heavy doses of that, then sprinkle in the other four.

Jim: ‘Cause a human being – we don’t want to project that everybody’s painted into a corner. You operate with all five at different times, I would think. I mean, John, you enjoy receiving gifts.

John: I do.

(LAUGHTER)

It’s been a long time, by the way.

Jim: It may not be your primary – that’s a reminder right there.

Gary: And I think that’s important, Jim, because you know, some parents will read the book and say, “Well I’ll just give this one language because that’s their primary.” No, we want the teenager to learn how to receive love in all five languages and how to give love in all five languages. That’s the healthiest adult. And so we give heavy doses of the primary, then we sprinkle in the other four.

Jim: Gary, before we delve into the five, let me ask you a general question, ‘cause some people uh, they think of even the discipline of psychology as somewhat non-biblical or anti-biblical. But it is how God has wired us and what you’re describing here is uh, the way the Creator has created us emotionally. That’s what you’re driving at here and that’s really what you’ve discovered in the five love languages, isn’t it?

Gary: It is, Jim. And if you look in the Scriptures, you find God speaks all five of these languages.

Jim: Well, that’s interesting. Jesus addressed people differently.

Gary: Yes, absolutely. So these are simply ways that God has expressed His love to us and because we’re made in God’s image, we also express love to each other in these same languages.

Jim: Well, let’s talk about that, when you get to words of affirmation, especially with teenagers, which we’re talking about today – sometimes that can become very strained, because they’ve heard for a decade, “Thattaboy! You’re awesome! You’re great! I’m so proud of you.” Maybe you’ve done a lot to serve up those kind of accolades. And then you get to the teen years, 13, 14 and definitely probably around 15, 16. If it’s empty, it doesn’t mean much to them and they’re not – they’re gonna now know Dad’s just or Mom’s just, you know, shoveling it my way.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: It’s not sincere. How do you make sure as a parent that those words of affirmation are true?

Gary: Well, I think that is important, Jim, because teenagers can read it. If you’re just tryin’ to snow them, they know it, you know? And I think what parents have to do is look for not just things that the teenagers are doing, because that – you know, that’s one dialect of the language is praise – praising them for something, accomplishments they’ve done. Now there’s a place for that and almost all teenagers do something right, you know. So you look for that and you can praise them. But also, look for things about their character that you like. You know, to say to a teenager, “You know, one of the things I really like about you is your integrity. I know you’re gonna tell me the truth even if it gets you in trouble. And I really appreciate that about you.” Now obviously, you have to believe that to be true, you know, if you’re gonna say that to a teenager. But things about their personality. You know, to say to a teenager, “One of the things I like about you is you smile. I love your smile. I mean, you just light up the room when you smile.” That teenager’s gonna walk away and feel, “Man, you know, my parents recognize that in me.”

Jim: Now again, everyone will respond to that, but you’re saying you know you have a child whose primary love language is words of affirmation when they light up…

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: …when you do it. Um, if your child doesn’t have that, they may smile back at you, but it’s not gonna feel as good to them, is it? Is that how…

Gary: Well it’s gonna mean more to the child whose language is words of affirmation. Conversely, when you give them critical, harsh words, it’s gonna…

Jim: It’ll go deeper.

Gary: …hurt them more deeply than it would the other. I remember a 13-year-old boy who said to me – he was in the hospital with stomach ulcers. And in my efforts to try to find out what was going on, I said to him, “How do you and your father get along?” And he said, “I don’t ever please my father.”

Jim: Wow.

Gary: And I said, “Can you give me an example?” He said, “If I get a B on my report card, my father will say, ‘You shoulda made an A, boy. You’re smarter than that.’”

Jim: Wow.

Gary: He said, “If I get a double playing ball, my father will say, ‘You shoulda made a triple out of that. You need to learn how to run, boy.’” Understand?

Jim: Oh, yeah.

Gary: His father was tryin’ to motivate him to do his best, but what the teenager was feeling was condemnation.

Jim: Let me ask you a practical question. Let’s go back to that example, which is a good one. If you’re that dad and you read The 5 Love Languages of a Teenager and you’ve been harpin’ on that poor kid in the way that you’ve described, how do you dial it back? How do you reset the relationship?

Gary: I think, first of all, Jim, we have to apologize. We have to say to that teenager, “You know, I realize that I need to learn a lot of things about parenting. And there’s an area in which I realize I have really been hurting you. And I want you to know, I’m aware of it and I feel badly about it. And I hope you can forgive me and I want to learn a new way to share things with you. I’m your dad and I want to correct you. I want to help you. When I think you can do better, I want to try to challenge you to do better. But I want to learn how to do it in a way that’s helpful to you and not hurtful to you.”

Jim: Wow.

Gary: It’s that kind of apology that opens the heart of that teenager and I don’t know – I’ve never met a teenager that wouldn’t respond positively to a parent’s apology to them.

John: Well, that’s a – that’s a really insightful thought from Dr. Gary Chapman. I appreciate that, Gary. He’s written the book, The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively. And boy, I think you’re right, Jim. There’s a code here that Dr. Chapman has cracked. By the way, the book is available to you for a gift of any amount to Focus on the Family here today. And you can call us or make that donation at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.

And Gary, there are ramifications here uh, for our teens as they become adults. I was just talking to a woman who really was rebellious as a teenager. And her parents gave her a lot of criticism and I’m thinking of her right now because I know whenever she gets together with them, she’s in tears. She just can’t seem to please them. So we’ve gotta get this right or it can follow our kids well into adulthood.

Gary: It does; it does. And that’s why, John, it’s so important that parents learn what the love language is of that individual child. If you have three children, there’s a good chance each of ‘em has a different love language. And you treat them all the same and only one of ‘em gets the message emotionally. The other two don’t feel it.

Jim: Let’s talk about that. How do we as a parent uh, do the “ID-ing” of the love language? How do – I have two boys. My youngest, Troy, he is obviously a person who likes physical touch. He’ll run – he’ll be the first one to run to me when I get home to give me a big bear hug. So I think I’m smart enough to figure that one out. Uh, my other son, he’s more introverted, more the scientist. He’s – when I hug him, even though I’ve asked him, “Do you like when I hug you?” “Oh, Dad, I do.” But it’s like hugging a pole.

(LAUGHTER)

He’s – there’s just, you know, there’s just…

John: He just stands there rigid, right?

Jim: I have to say – in fact, I have to sometimes say, “You can use your arms.” “Oh, okay.”

(LAUGHTER)

But it’s not – he’s not upset, he just…

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: It’s not natural for him.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: Am I reading those clues right?

Gary: You – you are. It’s two different languages. The one is physical touch. And a lot of times you can simply observe the teenager just as you did. If they’re reaching out to you and hugging you and hitting you on the shoulder and those kind of things, you can assume that would be very meaningful to them. That’s probably their language. But if they don’t do that, like another teenager might say, “Dad, come into my room. I want to show you something.” You see, they’re asking for quality time, not touch, but they want your undivided attention. They want you to be there with them. They want to show you something and see you interact with them. So if you observe their behavior, you can often see a teenager’s love language.

Jim: What would be some of the other clues for the other before we move on? Let’s say…

Gary: One would what they complain about. If they say, “You love Sally more than you love me…”

Jim: Right.

Gary: …you need to look and see what you’re doing for Sally. Because what you’re doing for Sally may be what they want and they’re not getting that.

Jim: So you’re saying the observation that that 13- or 14-year-old is making is valid, not to shrug it off as a parent…

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: …that they’re seeing something you’re not seeing…

Gary: That’s right.

Jim: …and to look first at what’s happening there.

Gary: Yeah. You see, the teenager who said to me, “I don’t ever please my father” – that’s a complaint. “I can’t ever please my father.” He’s telling me his language is words of affirmation. So listen to the complaints of your teenager. It will likely show you what their language is.

Jim: John, I’ll direct this one to you and Gary…

Gary: Uh-oh!

Jim: …can – can chime in here. But you’ve had teenage daughters. When you look at physical touch, especially for a father, but I would think it would work for a mom and a teenage boy, there can be awkward times, because you don’t know what to do. Did you experience that, John?

John: Well, I did, yeah. And it is a little bit on the awkward side because as they mature, you want to be careful that you’re not doing anything inappropriate. But I still give full-on hugs to my girls. They’re used to it and my feeling is it’s all quarters in the bank. I mean, I want to give them non-sexualized physical touch.

Gary: Yeah.

John: One of them, that’s very clearly a primary love language, the other two not so much. But I still just look at ‘em and say, “Hey, don’t go to bed without saying goodnight and giving me a hug. I need it.”

Jim: That sounds healthy, Gary. What – what would be an awkward state? Where does a dad say, okay – I’m thinking of my wife, Jean, because she said early when she was uh, her daddy’s little girl, early on he stopped any kind of physical touch at about 10, 11-years-old and she didn’t understand it. Maybe now she would understand it better. But she missed it and she didn’t understand why. I mean, your daughter…

John: Yeah.

Jim: …there’s nothing odd about giving me a hug.

Gary: That’s a common mistake of fathers. And I think because in our society, you know, inappropriate touches have been so highlighted that many fathers are drawing back from those preadolescent girls. And I say to that father, “If you don’t continue to hug her and touch her in appropriate ways, in two years, she’ll find a boy who’s two years older than her who will give her touches.”

Jim: Especially uh, a teenage girl that craves physical touch because that’s her love language.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: And if she’s not getting that within the home…

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: …she may seek it elsewhere. Gary, let me ask you this. We received a note from a – a woman named Becky. And I think this sums up a little of our apprehensions, as well. She said, “My son is 12 and my daughter is 11. I’ve been reading books about teenagers and I’m scared. It seems like all teenagers are having sex, using drugs and carrying guns to school. Is it really that bad?” I think for a lot of parents because of the news and because of what we see going on with the friends and the high schools and junior highs, we can be filled with fear and that can come through the relationship. How do we as Christian parents calm down?

Gary: Well I think, Jim, we have to first of all recognize that it is true, that things are not good in our society when it comes to teenage culture. And parents have a right to be concerned. On the other hand, we’ve had years to work with these children and to teach them the principles of Christ. And if they have seen those principles in us, we can be assured that we’re gonna continue to impact them. In fact, all research indicates that teenagers are impacted by their parents far more than by their peers.

Jim: Now it doesn’t feel that way so often when you’re parenting teenagers. It feels like you’re pushin’ water uphill.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: Um, how do we have that confidence that even though we have done hopefully, the right job and yet, the music culture, the media culture keeps grabbing and gnawing at them? How do you keep that confidence?

Gary: Don’t condemn it, not just, you know, preaching sermons against it, but listening to something that might be positive. And also listen to the negative, having discussions with them about it. Walk with them through the process. This is where you’re gonna have the greatest impact.

Jim: Let me pose it this way. I think so often, especially again, in Christian parenting, uh, some might say, “Well, that’s capitulating. If I uh, express an interest in it, then I’m kinda giving myself over to it and I should set the example.” What would you say to that dad, for instance?

Gary: I’d say, you know, it doesn’t mean that we agree with everything our teenager gets into. For example, they may get into another religion and study it deeply and come home talking about it. Well rather than just saying, “Well, you know, that’s wrong and the Bible doesn’t teach that,” listen to them. Walk with them through that. Let them tell you what they’re learning. Let them tell you about – and then you start reading about that religion, so you can also interact intelligently with them. Because the reality is most teenagers, particularly older teenagers, are beginning that process and through college, they’ll go into that process of looking at other world religions and trying to ask themselves, “What my folks said, is it really true?” But that’s good, because…

Jim: That’s a natural process.

Gary: That’s a natural process in which they’re internalizing. We hope they’re gonna come to internalize the Christian faith.

Jim: Gary, let’s go to the third one, quality time, ‘cause this is an important one as we wrap up today and we’ll continue next time with the others. But quality time, for adults, for parents this can be so difficult, ‘cause we think just hanging out, “Okay, they got quality time.” But you didn’t talk. You talked about only the Broncos or whatever it might be.

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: And I can be guilty of this ‘cause you come home tired and you know, you want to just kind of go into a numb state perhaps. You’ve gotta be careful as a parent. Quality time means something. Define it for us.

Gary: Well, it means giving the child your undivided attention. You can go to a ball game and think that you’ve given quality time to the child. But I remember the teenager who said to me, I was counseling with him and I said to him, “How’d the game go Saturday?” He said, “Oh, it was fine. It was good.” He said, “But uh, my daddy didn’t talk to me. He just watched the game and we – he talked about the game, but he didn’t talk to me.”

Jim: Well, and a lot of fathers would say, “Well, that was quality time.”

Gary: Yeah.

Jim: What should that father have done to make sure it was quality time?

Gary: Fine to talk about the game, no problem talkin’ about the game. But somewhere along the line, halftime or on the way home or on the way going or something, you’re asking questions about the teenager’s life other than the game. The game is not the teenager, you know. The game is some other guys out there. What’s the teenager doing? What did he learn? Did he learn – if he plays sports for example, “What did you learn from watching the game that you think’ll help you, you know, as you play sports?” ‘Cause it’s getting into the life of the teenager, what they’re thinking, what’s going on in their lives, what’s important to them? 

Closing:

John: Some good questions for parents to consider on this edition of Focus on the Family. And our guest today has been Dr. Gary Chapman. He’s written a number of great books – one called, The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers, and we do hope you order a copy of that along with a CD or download of today’s conversation, and we’ll include what’s up next time as well. And then I should mention we have a free parenting assessment for you at our website, which helps you get a quick overview of how your family’s doing in some key areas. And along the way, we’ll also offer some suggestions on ways to improve those relationships in the home. The starting point for all of this is focusonthefamily.com/radio or simply call 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

Jim: And John, I really hope moms and dads have been encouraged by what Gary shared with us today. We all need to take to heart his advice about caring for one another and loving each other well. This love language concept is so simple and most importantly, it works. And we’ve heard from so many families over the years who have been helped by these principles.

The last time we aired the program with Gary, a single mom contacted us about the relationship with her 19-year-old son who was transitioning to college. After hearing Gary talk about the five love languages, this mom and son discovered that they both thrive on words of affirmation. And when they began encouraging one another, guess what? Their relationship was transformed. You can experience the same thing in your family and to help you do that, I wanna send you a complimentary copy of Gary’s book when you send a financial gift of any amount to Focus on the Family today. Through your generosity, you’re helping us strengthen and equip par

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!