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10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship

  • By Greg Smalley
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10 keys to help make your relationship with your spouse more loving.

In Greg and Erin Smalley’s book, The Wholehearted Wife, they list ten keys to a more loving relationship:

  1. Honoring — the value of a diamond 
  2. Nourishing — honor in action 
  3. Accepting personality and other differences — understanding our unique design 
  4. Connecting spiritually — relating at the soul level 
  5. Fostering communication — a matter of the heart 
  6. Connecting sexually — the secrets of a great sex life 
  7. Resolving conflict in a healthy manner — a doorway to intimacy
  8. Defusing anger — taming volcanoes 
  9. Forgiving — set the prisoners free 
  10. Transforming life’s trials into blessings — treasure hunting

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Adapted from The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship.

Copyright © 2014 by Greg Smalley, Erin Smalley and Gary Smalley. Published by Tyndale House. Used with permission.

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