Custom CSS of Section contains Conditional Preview for See Life Campaign Elements

How the Coronavirus Can Change Your Marriage … for the Better

Share:
Share on facebook
Share on twitter
Share on pinterest
Share on print
Share on email
A woman rides on a man's back
© Stratford Productions/Adobe Stock
Many couples are dealing with difficult issues caused by the coronavirus. But it's possible to build a stronger marriage by adopting new habits.

Quarantine? I’m enjoying it. I’m an introvert, so physical distancing and sheltering in place have felt like heaven. For others, this long confinement feels like a crisis. And when you’re facing a crisis, it’s easy to let your feelings spill over into your marriage and family life. If your marriage is challenged by the coronavirus, I’d like to offer some perspective and share ways you can let the coronavirus change your marriage for the better.

Unite your team

Don’t allow the loss and uncertainty to divide you as a married couple. Instead, unite against a common enemy: the coronavirus. As a divided country, 9/11 caused Americans to rally together and join forces against a common enemy: terrorism.  This can also be true of your marriage during the quarantine. This is an opportunity to unite against a common enemy and function like a powerful team. Battle the uncertainty together!

Improve your “work talk”

The sheer volume of decisions that must be made each day to keep your family functioning — especially now that you’re quarantined together — is overwhelming. Daily financial decisions, medical choices and more. It’s exhausting! This reality requires regular “business meetings” with your spouse. I call this work talk.

Talk about how to divide the cooking, cleaning, housework, home-schooling, shopping and work schedules. You and your spouse already have expectations around how these things will be divided and how your “new normal” is supposed to function. It’s important to bring these expectations out and verbalize what you hope each one will look like and what you expect from each other. As you engage in work talk, remember you’re on the same team and need to find solutions that both people feel good about. The current quarantine gives you the opportunity to develop new habits about how to talk through big and small decisions as a team.

Increase your “heart talk”

You need to have business meetings, but your marriage also needs “heart talk.” The last few words of First Corinthians 13:12 explain the essence of heart talk: “… then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.” These conversations are all about fully “knowing” and being fully “known”. It’s about completely knowing your spouse’s inner world (their worries, disappointments, hopes, fears, needs and dreams) and allowing your spouse to completely know your inner world.

These conversations don’t happen by accident. Work talk will monopolize your time unless you intentionally make space for heart talk. We recommend that couples spend about 10 minutes each day talking about meaningful things and getting to know each other’s inner life.

Erin and I engage in heart talk by asking each other about the high and low of our day. By asking this, we keep current on what is going on with each other. We’ve also developed conversation starters for couples to help you ask each other questions to get to know each other deeper. This type of intimacy strengthens our connection.

Another important part of heart talk is taking time to grieve together. Think about all the losses caused by the coronavirus: health, income, independence, social interaction and more. Make it your goal to care about how the coronavirus is affecting your spouse.

Everyone grieves differently. Allow your heart and your spouse’s heart to grieve however they need to. One spouse may need to verbally process the loss and want to be together while the other spouse may want to be alone. Heart talk is a powerful habit to build as you move forward.

Growing Your Marriage in Times of Stress

In this two-part broadcast, listen as counselors Milan and Kay Yerkovich discuss common responses to stress and how they can lead to unhealthy attachment styles. Learn powerul insight for cultivating healthy ways of dealing with stress as a means of strengthening your marriage.

Find new ways to play together

Erin and I love going out for date nights. However, being quarantined at home has forced us to develop other ways to play and have fun together. We have built puzzles, brought out the old Wii video game system, gone for long walks, watched shows that we always wanted to see but didn’t take the time to watch and we’ve started cooking together. What fun activities do you want to continue doing after the quarantine is lifted and “normal” routines return?

Invest in others

The Jordan River is the only major water source flowing into the Dead Sea. However, there are no outlet streams. All of this life-giving water from the Jordan River goes into the Dead Sea but nothing flows out. God doesn’t want “Dead Sea” marriages. He blesses us so we can bless others. Hebrews 13:16 says, “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God” (ESV). Don’t neglect to share what you have been given in your marriage, even if it’s merely being an encouragement by having a great marriage that proves what is possible with Christ. Genuine sacrifice is giving away something that we own and value as an investment in someone else. This is the highest action of love. God doesn’t want us to be “takers;” He wants us to be sacrificial givers — people who invest in others by sharing the many gifts they have been given.

How will you use your marriage to bless others?  

We have so many neighbors who are hurting. Coronavirus cases are at an all-time high. Millions have filed for unemployment as businesses have closed. Add in social distancing and being quarantined, and it’s hard to care for others when we can’t give them a hug or share a meal together. As a couple, you can look for ways to invest in those around you. Commit to praying daily for a couple that is dealing with health problems, have lost their job or had their income reduced.

Erin recently baked banana bread and left it on our neighbor’s porch with a note of encouragement. Our pastor’s wife just had a baby, and we sent them their favorite meal through Grubhub. Maybe you could give a financial gift anonymously to someone who has lost their job. Run groceries to an older member of your church. Support small businesses and restaurants. Pray for our front-line workers: nurses and doctors, police officers and firefighters, and don’t forget grocery store clerks, sanitation workers and delivery people. Another unique way to serve others is through becoming a digital outreach volunteer through Focus on the Family. It’s a way that you can spread the hope of Jesus from your home during a time of disruption and uncertainty for people around the world.

Dynamic CTA Template Below

Your Teen Needs You Most of All

No parent of teens is perfect and even the best can learn how to better connect with their son or daughter. Get practical action steps to better connect with your teenager in 8 Essential Tips for Parenting Your Teen in this FREE video series!

There Is Still Hope for Your Marriage

You may feel that there is no hope for your marriage and the hurt is too deep to restore the relationship and love that you once had. The truth is, your life and marriage can be better and stronger than it was before. In fact, thousands of marriages, situations as complex and painful as yours, have been transformed with the help of professionals who understand where you are right now and care deeply about you and your spouse’s future. You can restore and rebuild your marriage through a personalized, faith-based, intimate program called, Hope Restored.

There Is Still Hope for Your Marriage

You may feel that there is no hope for your marriage and the hurt is too deep to restore the relationship and love that you once had. The truth is, your life and marriage can be better and stronger than it was before. In fact, thousands of marriages, situations as complex and painful as yours, have been transformed with the help of professionals who understand where you are right now and care deeply about you and your spouse’s future. You can restore and rebuild your marriage through a personalized, faith-based, intimate program called, Hope Restored.

There Is Still Hope for Your Marriage

You may feel that there is no hope for your marriage and the hurt is too deep to restore the relationship and love that you once had. The truth is, your life and marriage can be better and stronger than it was before. In fact, thousands of marriages, situations as complex and painful as yours, have been transformed with the help of professionals who understand where you are right now and care deeply about you and your spouse’s future. You can restore and rebuild your marriage through a personalized, faith-based, intimate program called, Hope Restored.
Emerson-Eggerich4-840w

Understand How to Respect and Love your Son Well

Why doesn’t my son listen to me? Have you ever asked that question? The truth is, how you see your son and talk to him has a significant effect on how he thinks and acts. That’s why we want to help you. In fact, we’ve created a free five-part video series called “Recognizing Your Son’s Need for Respect” that will help you understand how showing respect, rather than shaming and badgering, will serve to motivate and guide your son.

Reconnected: The Digital Experience

Is the love there, but not the spark? Reawaken fun in your marriage and move from roommates to soulmates again with the help of this 7-part online video experience. Learn how to connect emotionally and spiritually as husband and wife using techniques such as dreaming together and establishing deep, heartfelt communication. The Digital Experience includes 7 teaching videos, an online study guide and access to additional tools and resources to help spouses reconnect.

Next Steps: Marriage Assessment

We want your marriage to be thriving and healthy. Take the free Marriage Assessment from Focus on the Family to learn how to strengthen your bond with your spouse and get the tools to help you need to grow closer together. 

Next Steps: Fruit of the Spirit Devotionals for Couples

The Fruit of the Spirit Devotional is a free series of nine short videos to get you into God’s Word and inspire you to seek the Holy Spirit’s help in loving your spouse.

Share:
Share on facebook
Share on twitter
Share on pinterest
Share on print
Share on email

About the Author

Read More About:

You May Also Like

unhappy-wife-in-bed-turned-away-from-husband
Abuse

What Is Sexual Abuse in Marriage?

Darby Strickland, a counselor and teacher at the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation, defines sexual abuse in marriage and explains how wives are oppressed in this way.

distraught-woman-praying
Abuse

What Is Spiritual Abuse in Marriage?

Darby Strickland, a counselor and teacher at the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation, defines spiritual abuse in marriage and offers advice for helping wives who are oppressed in this way.

Play Video

Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Play Video

Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Play Video

Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Play Video

Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Play Video

Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Play Video

Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!