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Clearing Out the Clutter

Clearing Out the Clutter

Author Kathi Lipp explains how too much clutter can cause family stress and conflict, and offers practical strategies to get rid of what you don't need so that you can have the space and resources to serve God as He intended.

Original Air Date: January 8, 2016

Opening:

John Fuller: This is John Fuller and on today’s “Focus on the Family” with Jim Daly, we’re gonna take a look at what it means to live clutter free and it might be that home organization isn’t a problem for you or perhaps like most of us, it’s the story of your life.

Teaser:

Husband: Where is my tie? I’m in such a hurry. Honey, where is my green tie?

Wife: Oh, honey, I think you left it by your bowling ball.

Husband: Honey, where is my bowling ball?

Wife: You know what, I think it’s on top of the dictionary.

Husband: Honey, where is the dictionary?

Wife: Behind the couch.

Husband: Behind the couch! What would it be doing behind thecouch?

End of Teaser

Jim Daly: (Laughter) All right, I don’t think it’s quite that bad at my house.

John: At least you can find the couch.

Jim: Well, right, that’s the key.

John: Okay.

Jim: I mean, how many times have you stood in front of a refrigerator, John and said, “Dena, where’s the milk?”

John: You mean, like in the past 24 hours. (Laughter)

Jim: Yeah, right. (Laughter) Pretty much—

John: How many times, yeah.

Jim: –yeah, I mean, I’ve done that more than once, you know, the yogurt, whatever it might be.

John: If it doesn’t jump out and bite you, you’re not gonna see it.

Jim: Pretty much, I think there’s a gene that men possess that blinds us to something right in front of us. (Laughter)

John: Quite possibly, yeah.

Jim: But you know what? I try to be kind of organized.

John: No, you’re very organized, Jim.

Jim: Well, I don’t know about that. “Very” might be too generous. But I think if Jean were here, she would say (Chuckling) she’s quite the opposite.

John: She’s a busy mom.

Jim: She’s actually the definition of a perfectionist, because it so overwhelms her that she just finds it hard to get started and she does much better than when we were first married (Laughing), but she’s not here to defend herself, so I’m gonna say, my error is, I’ll throw stuff away. She’ll say, “Where’s that phone number I had on the counter?” And I go, “Ooh, it’s in the bottom of the trash.”

John: ‘Cause you efficiently came through and cleaned everything up.

Jim: I’m a little too fast with that. That’s my problem.

John: You are kinda quick at throwin’ stuff away. (Laughter)

Jim: But today we want to talk about that idea of becoming clutter-free. And this is one of the big issues in marriages and if I’m not scratchin’ where you itch, I think at the end of today’s program, you’re gonna feel, yeah, maybe I do have an issue here.

John: And we have a clutter-free expert with us, Kathi [Lipp].

Jim: Did you say clutter-freak? (Laughter)

John: Well, that could fit, I don’t know. (Laughter) Let’s find out.

Jim: Clutter free.

Body:

John: As we talk to Kathi Lipp, let’s just find out. Is she the clutter freak or a clutter-free expert?

Kathi Lipp: So, [there]’s gonna be a diagnosis involved? (Laughter)

Jim: Yeah. (Laughter)

Kathi: Awesome.

John: Yeah, well, you’re at Focus on the Family.

Jim: We try.

John: We specialize in that. No, it’s great to have Kathi on. She is such a humorous, energetic, insightful person and she could deliver bad news with a smile and you’d feel good about it for some reason. I don’t know (Laughter); she’s got this gift to make any idea make sense and you just want to try it. So, I’m really lookin’ forward for other people in my life to hear this broadcast. (Laughter)

Jim: Oh, come on. You are in bad shape, John. Kathi, welcome back to “Focus.”

Kathi: Oh, yeah, best intro ever and I (Laughter) love being with you guys. You know that.

Jim: Well, I don’t know about that, but now you did not start, you did not come out of your mother’s womb all buttoned down, organized. You had to learn this the hard way.

Kathi: No.

Jim: So, that makes a lot of people feel better right there, that you’re not perfection.

Kathi: Oh, people get terrified when I’m coming over to their house and like it’s “the clutter-free lady.” I’m like, you know, what? Let’s be honest. Your house may be more clutter-free than mine. I would say my journey has probably been more significant than most people. I actually was born to a hoarder and people use that term kind of lightly and funny, but really, my dad was a hoarder.

Jim: What did that look like? ‘Cause a lot of people don’t experience that.

Kathi: Yeah, you know, people ask me all the time, “Have you seen the show?” And I’m like, no, that’s childhood trauma on TV for me. But my mom had to work really hard to keep him contained. So, I remember growing up, he had the garage and he had what we called “the office.”

Kathi: And things were stacked up, I’m not exaggerating, probably four or five feet and there was a path in the garage to his desk. He had a little desk out there. He was an electrical engineer, so he was soldering stuff and things like that and a path to the mailbox, which was in our garage and up in his office, there was a path to his desk.

Jim: What created the path though? What do you put around you that, you know, that would allow you to walk through the spaces?

Kathi: Oh, well, it was very funny. When I was writing this book, my editor said, you know, “You said that your dad had piles and piles of stamps.” He said, “Do you mean postage stamps?” And I said, “Yes.” He goes, “How could you have 5′ piles of postage stamps?” And so, I sent him a picture because people don’t believe me, but it would be in binders and things like that, but so many postage stamps from all over the world. That was one of the things he collected.

But I would say that a lot of his stuff caused a lot of barriers in our family, physical and emotional, because my dad was so into his stuff. And I’ll never forget, they moved houses. It took all of us and I’m talking my husband, my kids, my brother, his friends, to go through all that stuff and it was a pretty traumatic experience for my dad.

Jim: Was that your mom’s plan to clean up was to move house? (Laughter)

Kathi: Well, I think, you know what? It really was.

John: [It] forces the issue.

Kathi: It forced the issue and we got to a point where the only person my dad would talk to was me, because he felt so attacked. And we weren’t attacking him but we were asking about his stuff.

Jim: Well, let me ask you this, because growing up in that kind of environment, it can make you anti-clutter, but you weren’t that.

Kathi: Right, no, I didn’t really know how to deal with things. And I formed some kind of weird emotional attachments to things which I thought were weird at the time.

Jim: What does that look like?

Kathi: Well, I really think that clutter comes down to a couple of things, well, three—fear, guilt and shame. Fear, if I get rid of that, what if I need it later on?

Jim: Like maybe like four years from now.

Kathi: Right, exactly (Laughter) and exactly and to think about spending the money a second time on something, it’s paralyzing. My mom was raised by, you know, people who went through the Depression and so, this idea was passed down to me that we don’t waste. And so, if I could possibly use it again, then I would do it, so the fear.

The guilt, oh, you know, “Aunt Edna made that for me. Now I would never wear that, but she made it for me.” So, the guilt that is associated with stuff. And then shame, I spent so much money on it, how could I ever give that away? You know, those boots that, well, they pinch me every time I walk and so, I don’t walk in them, but I spent so much money on them, I had to have ’em; I have to keep them. And that really built up a lot of my clutter.

Jim: Kathi, in your book, you refer to a popular motto that existed in World War II. Jean and I talked about it. We fail to remember, ’cause we weren’t here, but our grandparents, for example who knew what it meant to live in a rationed world. I mean clothing and food and butter and milk.

Kathi: Yeah, right.

Jim: You wouldn’t have had six gallons of milk in your refrigerator. What was that motto and how was the attitude of people during that time?

Kathi: Yeah, the motto was, “Use it up; wear it out; make it do or do without.” And what that really said is, we have limited resources, whether it was because of the government. You know, whatever was going on there, there wasn’t enough finances, whatever that was.

So, they really had to either figure out how to do without it or use up what they had. You know, it’s very easy in today’s day and age [that] you get disenchanted with your hairspray, so you go buy a new one. And then you have 16 bottles of hair sprays that are half used sitting in your bathroom. And so, one of the things that Roger and I challenged ourselves to do and it wasn’t as big of a challenge for Roger, let’s just be super clear, was to use up all the cosmetics I already had—the hair products. And if I said, “Oh, I’m never gonna use it again,” either pass it on to one of my girls or get rid of it.

Because what was happening is, I felt like I didn’t have the stuff I wanted, but I had so much stuff and so, I didn’t know what I had anymore because there was so much stuff. So, you know, just using it up, wearing out. I now really try. I buy expensive shoes, ’cause we talked about plantar fasciitis when we were talking earlier before the broadcast. My shoes are very expensive.

John: Your feet are important to you.

Kathi: My feet are very, very important to me. I kind of grown attached to them, yes. (Laughter) And so, instead of buying new shoes, I have mine resoled, which sounds like such a 1950’s kind of thing.

Jim: Oh, I’ve done that, yeah.

Kathi: Yeah, but so, I’m going to wear it out. I’m gonna make do with what I have. Are there pri … especially with my kids were in school. You know, we would go to Target and buy all these supplies every time they had a project.

Until you realize you have everything you need and so, can we just make do with what we already have? And then can I do without? There is something that happens for me and my friends when you get something new. It’s very fun and exciting for a second. But it’s not so fun and exciting when you’re buying it with a credit card and you see that come through. Or you get home and you realize, I had something almost exactly like it. And so, there is kind of a pride that I have now when I say, “You know what? I’m good. I don’t need to have that. I have everything I need.” And I feel smarter, because I actually am really trying to make things work that I already have. It’s a good way to live. It really is.

Jim: Let’s talk for a minute about the impact on your marriage on your family. Why is this inability to keep clutter free such an impact on a marriage, just as an example?

Kathi: Right, there are two things that come immediately to mind, is that, one, the No. 1 question I get is how do I deal with somebody else’s clutter? And two, I think about all the money that is spent rebuying stuff that you can’t find. You know (Laughter), you know you have it somewhere right?

Jim: Yeah.

John: Which is why we have like four jars of mustard in the refrigerator.

Kathi: Yes, yes, you go to the store and you think, I was out of mustard like six months ago. I bet we need some mustard. And we buy stuff that we’re not going to use or we rebuy things that we already have because we can’t find them. Our houses are so cluttered. Our drawers are so stuffed.

And I think that’s why a lot of women end up buying clothes again and again and again because they feel like they have nothing to wear, but it’s because they have so many clothes, things or stuff. And I’m not just picking on women, because guys ask me all the time, “What do I do about my wife’s clutter?” But then women also ask me, “What do I do about my guy’s clutter?”

Jim: So, that works both ways.

Kathi: Yeah, absolutely.

Jim: Okay, answer the question. (Laughter)

Kathi: Okay, so my first thing is, before you start pointing the clutter finger, look at your own stuff, because our stuff, we know why we have all of that. We know what our treasures are. But then if somebody is really dealing with clutter with a spouse, I always say, “Don’t fight about stuff. Discuss space. And so, what I mean by that is, can we agree that your stuff, and I’m not gonna tell you that your model airplane that hasn’t worked in 24 years is clutter. I’m not gonna go there because our stuff is very personal to us. But can we agree that you get this gorilla rack in the garage and I get this gorilla rack?

So, first clean up your own house and I mean that in your relationship. Clean up your own stuff and then, two, agree on space. And so, even if it’s an extra room maybe your husband has and you say, “As long as I can close the door, that area is yours. And when you start taking the emotion out of it, it becomes much easier to discuss.

Jim: But it is a highly emotional area especially in marriage.

Kathi: It really is, right.

Jim: I mean, in our current home, I remember when we moved in and I got things organized and Jean was doin’ her part, but not long after I thought, you know, we could probably get one of those big, I mean, big flat trash bins that get delivered to your house—

Kathi: Right.

Jim: –for construction sites. And I think I could fill that up with stuff. So I ordered it. I did ask Jean if she thought that would be okay. She said, “Oh, that’d be fine.” And I started throwin’ stuff away and it was so funny because at night I’d come back to the house after work, you know, workin’ on the weekend, I had it for about two weeks.

Kathi: Yeah.

Jim: So, I’m loading stuff in there and there’d be stuff pulled back out of it. (Laughter)

Kathi: Right, right.

Jim: And I thought, wait a minute, this isn’t accomplishing the plan.

Kathi: Yeah.

John: Who were the trash fairies that were goin’ in there?

Jim: The trash fairies were Jean, Trent and Troy. (Laughter) And you know, they’re working against my great plan.

Kathi: Right. Well, one of the things that I say to people is, when you’re trying to discuss as a family what you’re going to keep and what you’re not going to keep, is Sherry Gregory, who’s a good friend of mine, who has helped me on this book, she went through her garage and she finally came up with this motto which I think is absolutely brilliant. “I’m going to keep what I care about and I’m gonna care about what I keep.”

Jim: Huh.

Kathi: And so, instead of keeping all of our treasures locked away in a closet ’cause we’re gonna do something with them someday, what she did, this is brilliant, her father-in-law served in the military and they had the flag from his memorial. And it’d been in a box for years and years. Well, you know what happens to things when they’re in a box, you know. The rodents come, all this kind of stuff. So, what she did is, she got that and she had it mounted. She had it mounted in a display case and surprised her husband with it. And he said, “That’s the best gift that she had ever given him, because she cared about what they were keeping. So, all those things that aren’t working, that you’re gonna get to later, if you’re gonna keep it, care about it.

Jim: Hm.

Kathi: And if you don’t care about it, somebody will. Somebody would love to have that shirt that doesn’t quite fit or that pair of boots that hurt you. It won’t hurt them. They’ve got younger feet than you do. We want to be good stewards with our stuff. And when we’re hoarding and hoarding can be just your closets are stuffed. It doesn’t mean that, you know, you have rooms that are unusable. It means that you have, you know, closets that are unusable.

I know that that’s a very intense word for a lot of people but I really do believe that oftentimes we are hoarding stuff, because it’s a sense of safety. If I give it away, there’s a lot of fear attached to that. And what I’ve come to understand when we work with especially women in helping them getclutter free, the freedom comes when they give the stuff away. They were strapped down by it and our little motto around our office when we’re talking about clutter free is, we want to help people get clutter free so they’re free to go change their world. God has a mission and a plan for each of us and so many women are weighed down by their clutter that they’re not doing what they feel they’re called to do and we want them to be able to go do that.

John: Now that is an inspirational twist on getting rid of stuff in your home, because there’s a God-desired and designed plan for your life and maybe the stuff is getting in the way.

Kathi: Amen.

John: Kathi Lipp is our guest on “Focus on the Family” today with Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller. Quick And Easy Steps to Simplify Your Space, that’s the subtitle of Kathi’s book, Clutter Free. And we’ve got a download of this conversation and that book at focusonthefamily.com/radio. I recommend the download, because it’s a digital thing, you can’t really have it cluttering (Laughter) your life.

Kathi: Exactly. We love ebooks when we’re going clutter free.

John: Yeah, or call us and our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. .And Jim, I’m a little bit of a hoarder because I’m a prepared guy. And so—

Jim: That’s great justification.

John: –well, you know, I want to be prepared for “what ifs?” You’re challenging me, because a lot of “what if’s” are just never gonna happen.

Kathi: Well, and a lot of “what if’s” and I’m not saying this about you, John, but let me just say, a lot of “what if’s” are a form of not trusting God. If I’m gonna keep everything around me, ’cause I’m gonna be prepared for every situation and sometimes we are called to give, I’m thinking about our space, time, energy and money. And some of us are hoarding some of our stuff and we’re spending so much of our money to maintain it. You know, the amount of storage lockers that Americans use in order to care for their stuff that they’re really never going to use is amazing, but we can justify it a million different ways.

But when we think about the space, time, energy and money that we’re spending really on all of this stuff that we may never use again, it can sometimes be a way of saying, “I don’t need anybody else. I can take care of myself.” And as Christians, we really have to examine those motives.

Jim: And that’s really good insight. You know, I’m thinking of the command that Jesus gave to the disciples to go and not to worry about what they take with them, that He’d provide for them.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: That’s kind of the application there spiritually, isn’t it?

Kathi: Absolutely.

Jim: Go light because you don’t want to be burdened by a lot of stuff.

Kathi: It’s so true. Everything that we own costs us. You know, whether it’s insurance or how we’re going to maintain it, everything costs us in some real way. And I want to be in a place where, if God says, “You need to move to Oregon because we’ve got ministry there for you,” I don’t want my stuff to be a factor in that decision. “I want you to go give to this family.” I don’t want my stuff to be a factor in that decision.

Jim: Let’s move to the strategies on how we cope with all of this.

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: I mean, we’ve got a bit of time to talk about that. You specifically encourage people to ask three questions.

Kathi: Right.

Jim: So, what are they?

Kathi: Okay, the three questions are: Do I use it? Do I love it? and Would I buy it again?

Jim: Okay, well, what’s the time frame for do you use it? I might use it every three or four years.

Kathi: Well, yeah, if you know, if you have an intention in mind of when you’re going to use it, now one of the things, like one friend, her husband justified keeping a car that he’s had for seven years that doesn’t run. (Laughter)

Jim: And why?

Kathi: Because he used it because he works on it and he loved it. Now that is a marital issue that needs to be discussed, but we can really eliminate a lot of clutter if we ask ourselves those three questions, because now I do want to say this. It’s great to give things away without any attachments, because sometimes our parents try to give us stuff that says, well, I don’t like this anymore, but you should have it because it has a family thing, you know, attached to it. Your great Aunt Edna, no, no, no, no. If you’re not willing to keep it, you’re not allowed to force it on family members. (Laughter) That is verboten. Yeah and so, if it’s not sentimental enough to keep to you, then you can ask your kids if they want it, but you can’t make them feel guilty if they don’t want it.

Jim: And Kathi, you have the “Do I use it?” “Do I love it?” “Would I buy it again?” That’s a good one for a lot of guys.

Kathi: Yeah, exactly. You know, my husband likes a very particular kind of sweatpant[s]. He’s a runner and he likes very certain things. And so, I said, “Why don’t we get rid of all the sweats that you’re not using? And he said, “Well, you know, I might use ’em again someday if I ever stop running.” And I said, “Would you buy those again right now?” “No.” “And can we close your drawer currently with the sweatpants you have?” “No.”

And so, I didn’t want to shame him into anything, but these are very good clarifying questions. He said, “You’re right. We can give those away.” And I know as a woman who’s been a single mom, when I went into a thrift store and somebody had cleared their clutter and I found a pair of Nike tennis shoes that my son wanted and they were his size, with our clutter and I’m using air quotes when I say, “clutter,” that is somebody else’s treasure.

Jim: Ah.

Kathi: And I will never forget being able to buy those shoes. I think they were probably $8, but it meant that my son could go to school and have something that he was proud of and that’s because somebody cleaned their closet. We can be a gift to somebody we don’t even know, because we’re tak … we’re being good stewards with our own stuff.

Jim: You talk about the challenge.

Kathi: Yeah.

Jim: You do this every year.

Kathi: Yes.

Jim: Tell us what that is and then let me respond to that. (Chuckling)

Kathi: Okay, this has been life-changing for so many families, because we do this every year. And the 2,000 things we ask you to [get rid of], it’s anything that you throw away, give away or recycle that is not food. You know, we’re not asking you to count throwing away your groceries.

John: Yeah, extra milk doesn’t count.

Kathi: Yeah.

Jim: Okay. (Laughter)

Kathi: And if you have 1,000-piece puzzle, that doesn’t count for half.

Jim: That’s one.

Kathi: Yeah, it’s every decision you make. And it is a way of getting extreme for a little bit and getting really focused and clearing out really the top layer of clutter for most people.

Jim: Well, you know what’s so amazing with that, I think Jean and I, if I go home tonight, I mention this to Jean, she’s gonna think, I believe, we don’t have 2,000 things, but we probably have multiples of 2,000 things.

Kathi: We have people who do the 2,000 things challenge and start over again.

Jim: And they don’t see a dent.

Kathi: And they don’t see a dent and it’s not just the stuff that’s laying around, it’s the stuff in the drawers. That’s the thing.

Jim: Closets!

Kathi: Closet, yeah, exactly. It’s the stuff in the garage. It’s the stuff in the storage unit. And so, when you can do that 2000 things and for some reason this is so unifying for families. We’ve seen this happen over and over and over again. They get excited because they have a common goal and a common challenge and kids are givin’ stuff away and everybody’s motivated, because they have a goal to hit and it’s very exciting to see families get clutter free.

Jim: How do you stay accountable to that? ‘Cause I could go home excited about this and we’ll jump in and then maybe we don’t get as far as we’d like to go.

Kathi: Right, so I say, you have a clutter buddy, you know and whether that’s your husband or your wife or maybe a friend and you hold each other accountable. We have a little download so you can check things off so you know how many things you’ve given away.

Jim: Oh, great.

Kathi: And you stay focused and you put it up on the frig for the kids and let’s say you get rid of the 2,000 things, think about how much easier and lighter your life is going to be. Could you take some of the money that you [might make], maybe have a garage sale and do that and could you do the things that you, as a family, have been wanting to do? One of the things that Roger and I did, we had been talking about sponsoring a Compassion child for years and we said we just don’t have the margin to do this.

And when we started to get clutter free, we realized how much stuff we were buying unnecessarily. And now we sponsor two kids in Nicaragua. We don’t even notice the money going out, because we’ve pulled back our lives in such a purposeful way, that we’re putting our space, time, energy and money behind things that really, really matter.

Jim: and it’s a great example of what happens. What are some other stories that you hear through the people that have done this?

Kathi: Oh, wow. it’s overwhelming. I had one women who said, I’ve been wanting to change jobs, but I didn’t want to move because we had so much stuff. And as soon as I started living clutter free and getting rid of stuff, this job offer came and I could move in an instant.” She said, “I could’ve never even considered it five years ago. It was too overwhelming.”

Jim: Ah, those are good things.

Kathi: It’s amazing when we steward our stuff, I really believe our stuff can be a reflection of our heart and where are we putting our trust? Where are we putting our money? Where are we putting our energy? And when we can say, “I trust You, God with all of this,” it’s amazing what God can do with somebody who’s willing to trust Him.

Jim: That’s well-said. Kathi Lipp, author of the book, Clutter Free. You’ve given us some great insights to start the year right and to get clutter free. Thanks for being with us.

Kathi: Oh, thanks for havin’ me.

Closing:

John: Well, this is “Focus on the Family: with Jim Daly and I’m John Fuller.

Jim: Hey, John, I hope lots of people have been encouraged and motivated by this conversation with Kathi. I know I was and as a matter of fact, what we just shared was part of our Best of 2016 collection of programs. We heard from so many families last year who were excited about Kathi’s 2,000 things challenge. And if you’re planning to do that this year, I hope you’ll let us know how it’s going. Did you agree to that challenge?

John: Yeah, I started the process. I don’t know if I ever finished on it. We probably finished at least 1,000 or so.

Jim: I’m proud of you.

John: Well, I really appreciated how Kathi connected the idea of home organization to our relationships, our relationship in the home as husbands and wives, as parents and even our relationship with God. And most of us, I think, keep those kind of separated, but when a home becomes over-cluttered, it really can affect relationships in a lot of negative ways.

Jim: Well, it absolutely can and that’s the primary reason why we have shared this program with our listeners again today.

Focus on the family is here to strengthen those vital relationships in your family and we want to help your marriage thrive. But we also want to empower you to raise happy and healthy kids, not just academically and materially, but spiritually. That’s most important. We want to encourage you and your household in your faith.

We might do that through a program on clutter or some parenting tips on one of our websites or helpful advice from our counseling team for your marriage. And if we’ve impacted your family in positive ways in the past, can I invite you to help us help others–other families who need this same biblically based advice and encouragement? We need your financial gifts to keep this ministry going, especially now at the beginning of a new calendar year. We expect to hear from literally hundreds of thousands of families and single adults in 2017. And I hope we can count on your ongoing support in the days ahead.

John: We’d love to hear from you. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY; 800-232-6459 or you can donate at www.focusonthefamily.com/radio. And let us say thank you for your generosity by sending a complimentary copy of Kathi Lipp’s book, Clutter Free.

At our website we’ll also have some information about how you can get a CD or download of today’s program and details about Kathi’s 2,000 things challenge. It’s a great idea. Take advantage of it. Find out more at the website. Once again, that’s ww

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Offering encouragement found in her book Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World That Loves to be Noticed, Sara Hagerty describes how we can experience God in ordinary, everyday moments, and how we can find our identity in Him apart from what we do.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

Headshot image of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Dr. Patti Giebink

Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

Cover image of the book "Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life"

Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

Headshot of Focus on the Family broadcast guest Dr. W. Lee Warren

Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

Cover image of Dr. Lee Warren's book "I've Seen the End of You"

I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.