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Defending Your Faith in a Secular Culture

Defending Your Faith in a Secular Culture

Natasha Crain outlines the four pillars of secularism that are pervasive in the culture and challenges the church to recommit to a biblical foundation so we can effectively reach hearts and minds for Christ.
Original Air Date: November 7, 2022

Natasha Crain: Well I think that’s what’s happening for a lot of Christians, the pressures are coming in. And we’re not even realizing it because we don’t understand the nature of the culture. We don’t understand ultimately what secularism’s all about, and how these messages are in great conflict with the biblical worldview.

John Fuller: A sobering glimpse of American Christianity today, and how so many of us are caving into what the world says, instead of what God says.

This is Focus on the Family, and we’ll be diving deeper into that topic today. Our guest is Natasha Crain, and she’ll be sharing about how to defend your faith in this culture as you serve as an ambassador for Christ. Your host is Focus president and author Jim Daly, and I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Uh, John, I think it’s clear that while many profess to be Christians in our country, uh, those of us who are Christians need to be better informed about what the word of God says. What’s the heart of God, uh, for us in this culture? And today’s culture is so hostile to true Christianity. And many believers are afraid to speak the truth of the Gospel for fear of being silenced or shamed.

Uh, recently I had a great conversation with Natasha Crain who will help us learn to stand up for our beliefs, lovingly confront the lies in the culture, and do so with the Fruit of the Spirit. We can do that. Uh, she’ll remind us to have confidence that God is with us as we engage with others. And I hope, uh, everyone will be challenged and encouraged by what she has to share.

John: I’m sure they will be. Uh, Natasha Crain is a speaker, author, blogger, and podcaster. And, um, she graduated from Biola University with a certificate in Christian Apologetics, along with an MBA from UCLA.

Now Natasha has written four books, including the one that really forms the foundation of today’s program. It’s called Faithfully Different: Regaining Biblical Clarity in a Secular Culture. And it really is packed with amazing content. We have it at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and listen now. Here’s Jim Daly and Natasha Crain on Focus on the Family.

Jim: Natasha, welcome to Focus on the Family.

Natasha: Thank you so much.

Jim: So good to see you. I, uh, so appreciate the research that you put into your book. Uh, this is great. Faithfully Different: Regaining Biblical Clarity in a Secular Culture. Um, I think right now this couldn’t be a more critical resource for Christians. Um, what motivated you to get here? Wh- why did you do this?

Natasha: Well, for a lot of years, I was writing about apologetics specifically for parents. So I was kind of in a very specific zone of writing and speaking. But in 2020 with all the social unrest that started happening, my eyes just really opened to how much was going on in culture that I hadn’t really focused on before. And I wrote this blog post called Five Ways That Christians Are Getting Swept Into Secular Worldview In This Cultural Moment. And this thing went crazy online. It was liked and shared over 277,000 times.

Jim: Yeah, it struck a nerve.

Natasha: It struck a nerve, absolutely.

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: Because I, I just was receiving emails from people for weeks saying, “I was having trouble putting my finger on what exactly is going on right now. It doesn’t seem biblical. A lot of these movements, a lot of these things that people are talking about, and things that are going on, but I didn’t know exactly what to do with it.” So I realized that there was this real need for people to understand more clearly the difference between a biblical worldview and a secular one. And so that’s really what led to me reading-

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: … writing Faithfully Different eventually.

Jim: And in fact you looked at a lot of research. Uh, a lot of the research is fairly new, 2018, 2019, about where Christians, or people who claim to be Christians, and where they’re at with their worldview, their perspective. Uh, we get down to terms like convictional Christian, once-a-month Christian. I, I don’t know how these researchers keep it all straight. But what shocked you looking at some of that research about Christians in the United States?

Natasha: Yeah, well according to the Pew Forum, who conducts a lot of this research on a large scale, and they track it over time, and call it the Religious Landscape Studies. And what they found, as recently as 2019, is that if you call people up and you ask them just a single question about what best describes their religious beliefs, or their religious affiliation, you give them a list of things like Mormon, Jewish, Christian, atheist, agnostic. If you ask people that question, 65% of Americans will say, “Huh, Christian.” And that’s kind of shocking because most of us who are Christians look around and we say, “Well it doesn’t feel like nearly two thirds of culture-”

Jim: (laughs) Right.

Natasha: “… are really Christ followers.”

Jim: Right.

Natasha: So that seems really surprising. We have to realize that in that kind of research really all it’s looking at is how do people self-identify. What kind of label do they apply to themselves? They can mean all kinds of different things by Christian. So what we really want to know is, how many people have a biblical worldview? In other words, how many people actually believe the core truths as taught in the Bible and seek to live accordingly? And for that research you can look at Arizona Christian University’s Cultural Research Center. And they have, instead of just asking people how you identify, they give dozens of questions to people directly about what they believe and how they live their lives. And then the researchers are the ones that classify, okay, these people have a basic biblical worldview.

Jim: So they give them the, their behavior, and then the researchers say, “Okay, this is a convictional Christian,” et cetera?

Natasha: The behavior plus the beliefs. Right?

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: So they, they use, uh-

Jim: That’s good.

Natasha: … over 40 questions. Yes, it’s, it’s great research. And what they found is that only about 6% of Americans have a biblical worldview.

Jim: Uh, uh, how would you encourage us as believers to think about the postmodern culture? You know, I’ve often said recently, in the last few years, I mean, uh, with the pace of progressive liberalism that the United States is in a post-Christian environment. Um, you know, those Judeo-Christian values that the nation was built upon aren’t holding together like they used to. And you’re seeing that certainly in the universities. But h- how do we, as believers, uh, behave in a postmodern culture, and, uh, you know, encourage Christians particularly to become more Christian?

 

Natasha: Yeah. I, I think that what’s really important as a starting point for that is for Christians to understand the nature of the worldview that surrounds us. Because a lot of times it’s not so openly hostile in terms of, “Okay, there is no God.” When we hear that we know, okay, that’s in conflict with the Christian belief, obviously. But the cultural kinds of statements that we hear today are things like, “Follow your heart,” and “You be you, be your authentic self.” And Christians are not as in tune with what all of that means. And so the way that I summarize it is that secularism, overall, this worldview that surrounds us, is all about the authority of the self. In other words, it’s all about the individual determining what’s true about reality, what’s right or wrong, good or bad, for me personally. And of course, that’s at fundamental odds with a Christian worldview where God is the authority about what matches up with reality because he’s the Creator of reality.

 

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: And we look to God as a standard of what is right and wrong, and good or bad. So this is why our culture is so fundamentally at odds with Christianity. We’re talking about the authority of the self versus the authority of God.

Jim: Yeah. And that fits right in with that concept of the cancel culture. Uh, I’ve re- received some of that. You know, Focus, being at the tip of the spear in some ways with the idea of marriage, traditional marriage, et cetera, we get a lot of pushback. And, uh, people tried to cancel us, and our thoughts, and ideas. Speak to cancel culture and, uh, the abrasive nature of it, and the, I, think, uh, anti-intellectual nature of it.

Natasha: Yeah. I think cancel culture ultimately is, uh, at the very bottom level of it, is about saying that free speech is actually not the ultimate good. Because some speech is so harmful to oppressed groups that it’s not worth protecting. And if you’re gonna come out and you’re going to say something that we believe is harmful, that the idea itself is harmful to an oppressed community, if you’re gonna do that, then we’re not going to allow you to speak to anyone at all.

Jim: In this context of secularism, you, you mentioned four pillars in your book. What are the four pillars?

Natasha: So if we think about the authority of the self, you might think, “Well, that means that there are millions of people with millions of different worldviews.” But at the end of the day, if you’re the authority on everything, then there are some commonalities between all these individual authorities out there. And so I identify them as, number one, feelings are your ultimate guide. So if you don’t have anything external to yourself, then the one thing you have to guide you is your feelings.

Jim: How dangerous is that?

Natasha: It’s extremely dangerous. And this is where we get these cute little things like, “Follow your heart,” and “Be the authentic you,” and “Only you know what’s best.” Those sound a little innocuous at first if you don’t think about them. But they are very much the tip of an entire worldview iceberg of the authority of the self. The second one is that happiness is the ultimate goal. So if feelings are your guide, you have to ask, “Well, okay, where are feelings guiding you?” They’re guiding you to whatever you subjectively determine to be your happy place.

Jim: Mm.

Natasha: And I think this is why you see so much of this in culture, so much talk about, “Well, it made me happy.” And you see that as a justification for so many things. How many times do we hear, for example, women who are pro-choice, who stand up and say, “Well, I’m actually happier because I had an abortion.” They say this because the ends justify the means. It’s almost like the mic drop at the end of that story. Right? Everyone’s gonna understand that happiness made this okay. So that’s a very dangerous place to be too. When you are following your subjective feelings to your subjective happiness, you’re in a very dangerous place.

Jim: And all the reinforcement of those things through social media, the mainstream media, I mean it’s all about that.

Natasha: Absolutely. It’s coming from all directions to reinforce that these are the right ways to live. Don’t pay attention to anything that’s external to yourself, you’re the authority.

Jim: Let me … Yeah, I was gonna say, let me ask you a question and then we’ll continue on that train of thought. But when you look at it again, how does a Christian withstand that kind of social, cultural influence to not succumb to the very things we started with, with the research?

Natasha: Well, I think that’s what happening for a lot of Christians. The pressures are coming in, and we’re not even realizing it, because we don’t understand the nature of the culture. We don’t understand ultimately what secularism’s all about, and how these messages are in great conflict with a biblical worldview. Once we can understand that, then we can start to look at things through a different lens, and that’s how I hope that these pillars of secularism that I talk about in the book, I hope that they will help people to kind of give that lens for looking at things differently. That when you hear these things about your feelings, when you hear those key words about happiness, or the third pillar, judging as the ultimate sin, when you start to hear those things, then they should trigger you to think, “Okay, that is a worldview that is based on the authority of the self.” As a Christian, I have a biblical worldview that’s based on the authority of God and His Word. And no matter what I feel, no matter what makes me subjectively happy, I’m going with what God’s word says, because that is my authority. That’s the difference ultimately.

Jim: Yeah. So three is judging. What’s the fourth pillar?

Natasha: And the fourth one is that God is the ultimate guess. So in other words, secular culture is actually not totally godless. A lot of people think that secularism is synonymous with atheism, but that’s not true. Actually, 90% of Americans do believe in a god or higher power. But, what’s not okay is to believe in a specific god. As long as you believe in a generic god and it’s just a guess as to who that god is, or what he might want from us, or any of those things, secular culture is okay with that. You can thank God in general. But you cannot believe in a specific god who has actually revealed himself through something like Holy scripture. Because now we know who He is, and that there are certain requirements of us. People don’t like that.

Jim: Right. Definitive truth.

Natasha: Because that challenges … That’s right.

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: Because that challenges the authority of the self.

Jim: Yeah. And that’s … Yeah. People get uncomfortable with that. And I think younger Christians particularly, as I’ve looked at the research. Millennial Christians, they’re very uncomfortable talking about faith with people who have no faith, because they feel it’s inappropriate, or rude. Speak to that for a minute. I mean is that … H- how do we combat that as parents of these millennials and Gen Xers, and Zers.

Natasha: Yeah. There’s absolutely this cognitive dissonance going on for a lot of millennials, because the researchers found that about half of millennials say that it’s wrong-

Jim: (laughs) Right.

Natasha: … actually wrong to share your faith with someone in the hope that they will convert and share the same beliefs. Yet, 96% of millennials also say that an important part of being a Christian is sharing about your faith. Those things don’t really make sense together. On the one hand you’re saying, “Okay, it’s important to do.” On the other hand you’re saying it’s wrong. So they have really been influenced by secular culture saying that God can only be a guess. Who are you to come along and say anything whatsoever about what I should or shouldn’t believe?

Jim: And what a great scheme by the enemy of our souls to get people to do stupid things, to prevent you from pursuing a faith and a path with God. Right?

Natasha: Absolutely.

Jim: I mean, it’d just be exactly what Satan would do. Uh, let me ask you about this issue of equality. That’s big. You know? The equality issue. It sounds right. I mean, people want to be treated equally. That’s good. Uh, but outcomes, uh, it typically moves into that idea that we need equal outcomes for people with their labor, with their renumeration of labor, all those kinds of things. Describe the battle of equality and what it truly means. Or doesn’t mean.

Natasha: Well, this is one of those examples where if you want to get moral buy-in to something that’s different than what people have already held, you’re gonna have to redefine the language in some way. My background is in marketing, actually, before I ever got into writing and speaking. And so I can see right through this that actually secular culture markets a new kind of morality to us, which is quite fascinating to watch. And really that starts with redefinition. It’s redefining key words that people have a positive association with already, and now lumping your view in with that. So whereas equality used to just mean, okay, we all are of inherently equal value, which is by the way from a biblical worldview-

Jim: Made in the image of God. (laughs).

Natasha: Made in the image of God.

Jim: Right.

Natasha: Exactly. It comes from the biblical worldview that we can claim that humans are all equal. We’ve moved from that to equality being conflated with all kinds of other things, such as, okay, well you’re equal and therefore any of your moral choices are going to be of equal value also. Or you’re equal, so you’re going to have equal rights to all things. But we know that just because a person, all people are inherently equal, that doesn’t necessarily mean we all have the exact same rights. Children are equal but don’t have the same rights as adults, for example, in a society. So you see that this, that all of these kind of conflations of the word equality with other things that are going on. And then Christians especially feel bad. And they say, “Well, I’m for equality.” Of course we’re for equality. We’re for the inherent equality of all mankind. That doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re going to extend the concept to equality to all these other things like equality of outcome, for example, or equity as word is now used.

Jim: Yeah. Another, uh, firebrand in the culture right now is social justice. And what does that mean? Justice over all. And I think, you know, the, the Christian church has an incredible track record on justice. I mean, when you look at what the Christian church provided the world over centuries, whether it was hospitals or orphanages, those are things that were all started within the Christian community in 200, 300, 400 AD. And, uh, you know, those traditions carried through even to hospitals here in the US. Catholic hospitals, Protestant hospitals. And, uh, it’s been an incredible tradition, and most secularists don’t even understand the history of justice in that context.

Natasha: Right. And that comes down to the definition of justice. So we were talking about the redefinition of words, and justice is one of those redefined words. Throughout the centuries, just like you described, Christians have been passionate about justice. Christians have been passionate about justice from God’s perspective of taking care of the poor, and those who were marginalized by society, and those who needed the help. The, the Christians were taking care of the babies who were abandoned, and the widows, and the orphans, and building hospitals, and all of these things.

But today, justice means something very different. Instead of looking at people who are poor and maybe marginalized besi- by society in that way, they’re looking at groups of people and saying, “Do you feel oppressed?” So now you have people who say, “Well, I feel oppressed because there’s a gender binary,” for example. “I feel oppressed by you even claiming that there are, is some kind of biological reality to male and female people.” That would not be consistent with a biblical view of justice, because God’s justice is not the same standard as a human standard of justice, which is that I feel oppressed in some way. And so when we redefine these words, once again Christians feel like, “Oh, wow, I … Well, of course I want to be for justice.” But not everything the world calls justice is justice.

Jim: Boy, that is such a good point. As a parent, I have two 20-somethings. I met your 11-year-old daughter. She’s very sweet and kind. And, uh, you know, what do we do to combat that kind of infiltration into our children’s souls? How do we … You know, some … Often as Christians, we’re leaning on the church to do the training, spiritually, of our children. And if we’re that separate from our day-to-day life, as the research is showing, I can only imagine that in our parenting methodologies and approaches, we’re not getting the job done. What can we do in that drip irrigation of having our children 0-18 to do the best job we can do?

Natasha: Teach your kids about the culture. And this is an area of absolute passion for me, because I think one of the most misleading ideas that a lot of Christian parents have is that “I’m just gonna teach my kids truth. We’re going focus on the Bible, and they’re gonna be able to handle anything that they encounter.” And I think we see over and over again, and I hear the stories from parents, and we see all this bared out in the statistics, this just is not enough. Of course, they have to understand God’s Word, they have to understand Truth. But a lot of times, if they don’t understand the nature of the culture all around them, and why it’s problematic, and why it’s not consistent with a biblical worldview, then kids are going out, they’re hearing things like, “Well, yeah, I’m gonna follow my heart. Yeah, I’m a Christian too.” They don’t see how those things can’t fit together.

So what I do with my kids, one of the most practical things is we are always talking about current events. I will send them articles and say, you know, “Look at the underlying presupposition here.” Or we’ll talk about memes that I see on social media. I’ll pull them down and I’ll save them to share them with them at dinner, for example. I-

Jim: Yeah. Very active.

Natasha: Yes.

Jim: It’s good.

Natasha: Very much. I’m constantly bringing them examples from culture to show this is all about feelings being the guide, happiness being the goal, judging being the sin. See how this differs from what we would believe as Christians. So when our kids understand both truth and how truth compares explicitly to the secularism around us, they have a clarity so that when they go off to college, they’re already prepared to look around and understand that this is not biblical Christianity. And then they can be stronger in-

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: … in their faith.

Jim: Yeah, that’s really good. Um, let’s get practical. W- we’re in that direction. You mentioned four questions that we should ask to engage, uh, the unbeliever. What are the four questions? And let’s discuss them a bit, ’cause they’re really important.

Natasha: So these are four questions that I think are helpful for determining how do we go about speaking truth. The first one is, “Is this something worth speaking up about?” And I mean by that in any individual case that we see. So-

Jim: Let me, let me stop you for a second, because that almost feels like a little retreat. And I totally understand what you mean, but using discernment to know is this a hill to die on, or is this a little molehill? That’s what you’re saying. That takes a lot of thought-

Natasha: It does.

Jim: … and prayer.

Natasha: It does, because we can’t respond to absolutely every errant idea we see.

Jim: Right.

Natasha: Like, you, you just can’t do that. And we’ll drive ourselves crazy, we’ll become bitter and angry-

Jim: (laughs) Right.

Natasha: … ourselves, uh, dealing with all this, especially on social media. I’m kinda talking about it in that context. So for example, I’ve seen a lot of times where someone will post something celebrating Pride month, for example. And a Christian will come along and just pop in a comment that says something like, “Well, I don’t celebrate sin.” You know, i- in that context, I’m not saying it’s wrong to do that, but it’s probably not gonna lead to some kind of conversation. It’s like if we post a Bible verse and an atheist comes along and puts in a comment says, “Well, I don’t believe in God.” All you’ve basically done is state your respective worldviews and there’s no conversation being had.

So when we ask ourselves, “Is this really something worth speaking up about right now?” It’s not to say, “Oh, this isn’t an important issue,” for example. But it’s asking ourselves right now in this context of what this person is saying, “Is this the time to do it?”

Jim: Okay.

Natasha: So that’s the first question.

Jim: All right. What’s the second?

Natasha: So the second one is, “What is my motivation for doing this?”

Jim: Hmm.

Natasha: And this is where we have to really be introspective, because, and I’m just as guilty of this as anyone else, a lot of times we want to point out what’s wrong with, uh, the way someone’s thinking about something. We want to win an argument. Or maybe we’re really annoyed by someone, and we want to make them look foolish. There are all kinds of reasons why maybe we want to say something, not for the glory of God, but for the glory of ourself. So we have to check our motivations. And that’s not to say we have to be pure as the driven snow either, in order to say something.

Jim: But it’s humble.

Natasha: But it’s … Yeah. It’s, it’s a humbling to really look at yourself and say, “Okay, am I doing this for the right reasons right now?”

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Natasha: Because if we do say the right things but for the wrong reasons, sometimes those things don’t quite come out the way, the way that they could have or should have.

Jim: Right. And third?

Natasha: And the third one is, “Should I say this publicly or privately?” So this is a s-

Jim: (laughs) That’s always a good question to ask yourself.

Natasha: It’s a, it’s a hugely important question when you’re talking about social media and everything that happens online now. And I’ve had to learn this myself a lot because in my mind, just logically speaking, if someone posts something on social media, they should know it’s there for social consumption, and I have the right to respond socially.

Jim: Right.

Natasha: Right? But we have to check ourselves in that and say, “Okay, yes I have the right because this is that context. But if I’m saying this for the glory of God, and because I want to lead this person to some kind of knowledge of the truth, maybe it’s better if I do take this private.” Because if it would’ve made them look foolish, or if I would’ve made them feel uncomfortable for some reason, maybe the best thing is to not do what I supposedly have the right to do, because it’s a social platform, but to do what I should do by taking it private for a more productive conversation.

Jim: Yeah. It’s good. And then the fourth one is, “What’s the best way to say what I’m going to say?” I think that’s a great context to figure out how to say it.

Natasha: Yeah. There are all kinds of ways to say any given thing.

Jim: (laughs) Yeah.

Natasha: And to really think about what are we saying? How do we do that? And what I suggest is that the best way to start almost anything is by finding a point of commonality. Because that puts people in a more comfortable place. Rather than it seem like you’re attacking them and putting them on the defensive, it’s a way of saying, “Hey, you know what? I think where we both agree on this is that human rights are really important. But what I think we are disagreeing about is how to define human rights, and where those rights come from.” And then go on to talk about from a biblical perspective. And I always use that terminology because I want to make it clear it’s not just me saying this out of my own opinion like someone else might assume, as we were talking about before, but this is where I’m getting my view, from a biblical perspective, rights are given by God Himself. That we’re inferring this from our human equality.

And explain it from that perspective. “What I think you’re saying …” And then ask them, “Am I correct in assuming that you’re saying that human rights are …”  whatever the case in this conversation.

Jim: Yeah. Uh, Natasha, this has been so good. I mean, you have hit so many issues. And I’m looking forward to reading the book more thoroughly, and I hope other people will pick up a copy. They can get it here at Focus on the Family. But, man, uh, you have really done a stellar job of consolidating what we’re facing in the culture and how to move forward.

When you look to the future, and you have young children, how do you stay optimistic that, uh, you know, it’s not all going south? I mean, I meet a lot of people. I meet a lot of young Christians that actually, I feel, are very on fire. They may be a smaller number, but I think they’re a committed number. And I don’t share kind of the pessimism that a lot of older (laughs) Christians d- have, because I think God … You’re really questioning God then, “Did He put the right souls in this generation to really meet the challenge?” Right? When we start saying, “I don’t think these young Christians are gonna do it well.” I mean, you’re really saying, “God, you didn’t do it right.”

Natasha: Right.

Jim: (laughs).

Natasha: I think, uh, there’s a pru- there’s a pruning that’s happening.

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: I think … I’ve heard a lot of people use that terminology. I think it’s absolutely right. I don’t think that we need to hold onto that 65% of people so tightly and say, “We just need more people to label themselves as a Christian.” That’s not what we need. We need more people to be committed followers of Christ. And so if there’s a pruning happening where people are being forced to really contend with, “What do I believe? Who is my authority?” If they’re actually in this position of having to think through that more than maybe they had to in the past as a cultural Christian, that’s a good thing. And we know that the gates of Hell will not prevail against the church.

Jim: Yeah.

Natasha: And so we know how this ends. And that is a source of our hope and our optimism. Not in any particular battle, not in any particular movement or trend of today, but in what God has said from the beginning.

John: Well, such encouragement. And what incredible insights from Natasha Crain, reminding us about the importance of being salt and light, and spreading the good news of Jesus to this lost and hurting world.

Jim: Yeah, John. I certainly was inspired by this conversation. And I hope our listeners were, too. Uh, you know, it’s not easy to go against the grain in the culture. Whether it’s the workplace or in friendships, it can be hard to stand on your convictions. But we know that Jesus Himself wasn’t silent when it came to speaking truth.

So I urge you no matter how scary it might be, take that step to tell others about your faith in Christ, what you believe, and offer a refreshing contrast to the secular worldview that is so prevalent today. As the scripture says, “If God is for us, who can be against us?” And when we share our faith and live it out, uh, that’s an important part. Uh, we’re planting seeds of the Gospel. And you never know when those seeds will sprout and lead to salvation and change someone’s life.

John: Hmm. Well we pray that that’ll be the case, and that you’ll start by getting a copy of Natasha’s wonderful book. It’s called Faithfully Different: Regaining Biblical Clarity in a Secular Culture. And it’ll inspire you in your Christian walk.

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John: Mm-hmm. And call today, our number is 800-A-FAMILY. And thanks in advance for your generosity.

Well, on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team here, thanks for joining us today for Focus on the Family. I’m John Fuller inviting you back as we once more help you and your family thrive in Christ.

 

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Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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