Three Date Night Challenges

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Need a new idea for a date with your spouse? Try these three special suggestions for a great time together.

Thrifty Date

​Try this fun and cheap date idea for connecting with your spouse:

My husband and I love thrift shops. We never get tired of browsing through them hoping to find an unexpected treasure. For one date, we decided to take thrift-store shopping to the next level. We gave each other “thrifty makeovers,” selecting outfits for each other. I don’t think either of us had laughed so hard in our lives as we put on the outfits we had purchased. To top off the date, we grabbed a bite to eat wearing our designated attire. Of all our dates, this was the most fun by far. It was a comical, inexpensive and joyful date that we will always remember!

—Courtney Roberts

Take the thrifty date challenge

Try this cheap date idea or go on a date where laughing together is the goal. Sometime during or after your date, discuss these questions with your spouse:

  • During our marriage, what have been the most joyful times?
  • What do you like most about my sense of humor?
  • How can we bring more fun into our day-to-day routine?

Escape Your Routine

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Try this fun idea for an evening out with your husband or wife. You may discover new, surprising things about your spouse.

My husband, Eric, and I went to an escape room for a date. We had one hour to solve a series of puzzles and riddles that followed a theme. We had to work together to be successful. So often, he and I have the same goals in life—to raise godly children and have a happy family — but we don’t directly work together to reach them. In order to provide for us, Eric works, and I do the bulk of the child care and housework. As a result, we each play an important role.

Going to the escape room reminded me that we’re a really good team and that our strengths and weaknesses complement each other. The date was fun rather than romantic, but at the end of it, I felt closer to my husband and more grateful to have him as my life partner.

—Diane Stark

Take the challenge

Go on a date that involves teamwork. Sometime during or after your date, discuss these questions with your spouse: 

  • When do we work best as a team?
  • As we share responsibilities, what do I do that you appreciate the most?
  • What task would you like us to work on together more often?

A Book Club for Two

indoor date

Need an indoor date idea? Find a book off your shelf or at the library you both want to read and make an event out of it.

My husband and I have designed a regular indoor date night that is cheap and convenient and also gives us a chance to reconnect through meaningful conversation.

We’ve started our own private book club. We take turns picking books, read them individually during the week and get together Wednesday nights to discuss the content. We have read personal-development books, relationship-building books and various books of the Bible. When reading guides are available, we download them from the internet to give us questions that help move our discussion along.

These date nights allow us to be real with each other and talk without the distraction of kids, television or other responsibilities. Wednesday has quickly become our favorite day of the week.

—Tara Berg

Take the indoor date challenge

Go on a date to a library or bookstore. Spend some time perusing the bookshelves together, looking for something you might enjoy reading and discussing as a couple. Sometime during your indoor date, discuss these questions with your spouse:

  • Think back to your childhood. What book was your favorite as a child or teen and what impact did it have on your life?
  • What book genre best describes our marriage: mystery, romance, humor, thriller or … ? Which genre do you wish described it and why?
  • What would you like us to read and discuss together, even if it’s not part of our regular date-night routine? Why did you choose that selection?

Thrifty Date © 2019 by Courtney Roberts. Questions and challenge © 2019 Focus on the Family. This article first appeared in the October/November 2019 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. Escape Your Routine © 2019 Diane Stark. Questions and challenge © 2019 Focus on the Family. This article originally appeared in the 2019 August/September issue of Focus on the Family magazine. Book Club for Two date idea © 2019 Tara Berg. Questions and challenge © 2019 Focus on the Family. This article originally appeared in the December 2019 / January 2020 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. 

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