Marriage Meditation: Love Is Patient and Kind

By Heather Drabinsky
Share on facebook
Share on twitter
Share on pinterest
Share on print
Share on email
Husband picking up wife demonstrating love is patient and kind
© Goran / Adobe Stock
Before a married couple can truly love each other, they must know the definition of love. First Corinthians 13:4-5 emphasizes that love is patient and kind.


  • Watch today’s Marriage Meditation video.
  • Read today’s Marriage Meditation devotion.
  • Share today’s question with your spouse.


Scripture Reading:

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 — “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.”


Before a married couple can truly love each other, they must know the definition of love. The Bible gives a clear description in 1 Corinthians 13, beginning in verse 4: “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.”

Showing patience and extending kindness may sound easy and appealing, but in moments of hurt or frustration in marriage, they can be some of the last things a spouse wants to do. Colossians 3:12 reiterates the importance of choosing to be patient and kind: “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.”

First Corinthians 13:5 says that love “does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful …” When married couples choose to love each other for life, they’re committing to continually resist the desire to win arguments and hold grudges toward each other.

First Peter 3:8 reminds us to “have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.” When you’re tempted to become irritable with your spouse, remember that love is patient and kind.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, I confess that I can’t love my spouse without Your help. Teach me how to be patient and show affection even when life’s difficult.


What practical ways can I show more kindness and patience to you?


© 2020 Focus on the Family. All rights reserved. Originally published on

Learn How to Cherish your Spouse and Have a Deeper Connection

Do you cherish your spouse? Couples who cherish each other understand that God created everyone different, and as a result they treasure the unique characteristics in their spouse. We want to help you do just that. Start the free five-part video course called, “Cherish Your Spouse”, and gain a deeper level of connection with your spouse.

Book Cover: Aftershock A Plan for Recovery

Aftershock: Overcoming His Secret Life with Pornography: A Plan for Recovery

This book is for women who have discovered their husband’s struggle with pornography and other sexual infidelities. Based on biblical principles and psychologically sound advice, Aftershock is designed to help women heal, grow, and receive restoration for themselves, their husbands, and their marriages.
Share on facebook
Share on twitter
Share on pinterest
Share on print
Share on email

How useful was this article?

Click or Tap on a star to rate it!

Average Rating: 5 / 5

We are sorry that this was not useful for you!

Help us to improve.

Tell us how we can improve this article.

About the Author

You May Also Like

a married man and woman in a field
Marriage Success

Making Much of Marriage in the Church

When ministry leaders put the spotlight on what has great impact, things will start to change. As the marriages of your church go, so goes your church.

a young married couple on the dance floor
Marriage Success

Preparing Couples for a Solid Marriage

Marriage is a sacred covenant that is a legal, public, and binding agreement. Just as you wouldn’t sign on the dotted line if you knew the car salesman was shady, you most definitely shouldn’t sign if you think the one you are marrying is hollow in character.

Insert CTA Content in New Section Below