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Father’s Day, When You Are Post-Abortive

In a single moment, my heart turned from being filled with hate to being beautifully broken and submitted.

Black family at a dinner table; close up of dad and young son smiling with their heads down and eyes closed for prayer

I Miss My Dad, but His Legacy Lives On

I miss him. I miss my dad.    My grandparents had two children, a son, and a daughter. For most of my early life, we were a family of six, my parents and four girls until my brother came. There was something special being my Dad’s girl. I was the second eldest, and it didn’t …

father and little son holding hands in sunlight.

Leaving A Lifelong Legacy

Fathers leave a legacy. Fathers instill within their child an immense sense of value and worth. And when their influence and presence is absent, the ripple effects are seismic.

African American tween boy typing on a laptop at the kitchen table

IT MADE A DIFFERENCE: BEING A FOSTER DAD

For years, researchers have shared how the quarter to a third of American children who grow up without a father are more likely to drop out of school, become drug addicts, and end up in poverty…or in prison. Even more heartbreaking is that some of the three million vulnerable children in America’s foster care system …

A big family having a meal together at a table outside

Happy Father’s Day, Dad: What He Taught Me

On June 21, we will recognize Father’s Day. For many, whose relationships with their fathers are strained or marked by abuse, or whose fathers are absent from their lives, this will perhaps be a difficult day. For others, who enjoy healthier relationships with our fathers, we will honor them. And, depending on our circumstances, will …

Mom affectionately comforting her sad tween daughter as they sit together on some steps outside

What Does It Take to be A Foster/Adoptive Parent? Five Characteristics in Becoming a Trauma Competent Healing Parent

Some years ago, at a retreat for adoptive moms, I asked the question: “What do you wish you would have known before you fostered or adopted?” I wasn’t surprised by the answers. I wish I had known that I could get so angry at a child I really loved. That this would expose my wounds …

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A Seat at the Table

Children entering a new foster care placement need time to fit into your home.

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PRESENCE MATTERS: Any Foster/Adoptive Parent Can Do This

Several years ago, while training our trauma curriculum in Armenia, I described two principles: Abuse happens in the context of an interpersonal relationshipHealing only happens in the context of a healthy, stable interpersonal relationship. Pastor Raphael, a local minister, raised his hand, stood up, and asked if he could share a story. I invited him …

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The Silent Epidemic

As I watch the round-the-clock media coverage of the corona virus pandemic sweeping our country, I can’t help but think of the silent epidemic that has been invading our public-school system over the past decade. The epidemic is largely invisible to those outside the system. It is an epidemic of childhood trauma and neglect that …

But God, For Such A Time As This

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness […] If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, …

Doctor with Down Syndrome

Lessons from Will, the Doctor with Down Syndrome

If there was one vastly underestimated resident at The Manor, it was Will, the doctor with Down syndrome.

The Complicated, Beautiful Life of a Foster Mom

The Complicated, Beautiful Life of a Foster Mom

Jessie Gallaher describes the challenges and joys she experienced in adopting five siblings from foster care, and how she has grown in her faith and in her passion for supporting children in foster care.

Chris and Alicia Johnson (center) and their family, also know as the #JohnsonDozen.

Chris and Alicia Johnson: Called Into the Lives of Hurting Children

Chris and Alicia Johnson are parents to 10 children, seven of whom were adopted out of the foster care system. They refer to themselves as the #JohnsonDozen.

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Social workers are on the front lines of child welfare

The COVID-19 pandemic has impacted the world in unprecedented ways. Children and families who are either in the foster care system or are at risk of being so, are no exception. COVID-19 has impacted children, biological families, foster families, adoptive families, the court system, support services, agencies…virtually every area of the child welfare system has …

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“Don’t Tell Me to Take a Walk”: What Really is Self-Care?

“You cannot pour from an empty cup. You must fill your cup first.” Dr. Karyn Purvis

Ill or injured boy lying in his bed being presented with an award certificate by a uniformed official clapping his hands

Cori Salchert: Hospice Children In Loving Arms

A former hospice nurse found her calling in caring for “the least of these”

Smiling family posing for a photo in the park

There is a Shortage of Foster Families

“The Crisis in Foster Care” read the Washington Post headline. The article, dated January 10, 2020, talked about “an acute shortage of foster parents.” A simple online search yields numerous links to similar articles in recent years, decrying the shortage of foster families – both nationally and locally. Less than a decade ago, there were …

Mother’s Day for the Post-Abortive Woman

I distinctly remember the first Mother’s Day after I experienced my abortions.  I can still picture the scene as me, my parents and my siblings loaded into the family minivan to head to church.  As I think back to that gorgeous, Texas spring day, I can still see the sun shining brightly in the sky …

What a Birth Mom Needs for Mother’s Day Weekend

Fifteen years ago, I celebrated my first Mother’s Day, but it looked a bit different than others. It wasn’t filled with my baby smiling up at me, flowers, or a handmade craft. I was a first-time mother in one way, but also not. I chose life for her. I carried and birthed her. She resembled …

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Mother’s Day as a Foster Mom

It is Mother’s Day, many years ago. Six excited children are anxiously holding up pieces of cardboard; carefully wrapped in tinfoil, with large pink letters that spell “MOTHER,” taped on the front. While I took my turn with the other children speaking about the special qualities of mothers. “M” is for the many things… Little …