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Connecting With Your Grandchildren

Connecting With Your Grandchildren

Cheri Fuller discusses the important role grandparents play in their grandchildren’s lives. She offers ideas and tips for engaging the grandkids in fun ways and also methods to stay in touch with children who are far away.
Original Air Date: April 27, 2015

Preview:

Child #1: What I like about my grandparents is that grandma makes me Little House on the Prairie dresses and helps me with my embroidery.

Child #2: We had a lot of fun at the farm, and we had so many fun, like water gun fights.

Child #3: I like it when they become, because I got to eat lots of food that we usually don’t get to eat.

Child #4: I love my grandparents.

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John Fuller: Oh, those are some precious statements from kids about their grandparents. And I really like that. We have so many fun comments that really, uh, does capture-

Jim Daly: [inaudible] and fights (laughs),

John: Yes.

Jim: That’s good.

John: Those capture some of the best parts of grandparenting. And we’re gonna talk about that today on Focus on the Family with your host Focus, president Jim Daly, I’m John Fuller, and Jim, as those kids were speaking, I was thinking about, uh, going to my grandparent’s farm in South Dakota. And I- I remember, uh, all sorts of days exploring and playing scrabble with my grandma and-

Jim: (laughs).

John: … shooting a 22 with my grandfather out of the back of a pickup truck. Lot of rich memories that I’m gonna hold onto for life.

Jim: That sounds like fun, and you know, we had the same for Trent and Troy they’ll have the memory of being with Jean’s dad, their grandfather, and going to the donut shop there in Southern California. That was a routine. And they still talk about that today. One of the warm memories they have. You know, grandparenting can be really fun. Uh, that’s what grandparents do, but they do so much more than that, and today we’re going to discuss how you, as a grandparent can get closer to your grandkids for all kinds of good reasons, including spiritual and emotional development. We’ll also address how to manage that with your adult children as well.

John: Yeah, and as we do this, we’re returning to a conversation that we recorded a while back with Cheri Fuller and she is passionate about grandparenting. Uh, she’s a speaker, she’s written 45 books and is the executive director of the OK Messages Project, which helps the children of prisoners and so pretty much her whole life is about kids. One of the books that Cheri has written is called Connect with Your Grandkids: Fun Ways to Bridge the Miles. It includes hundreds of great ideas. Let’s go ahead and get into that conversation now.

Jim: Cheri, it’s great to have you back at Focus.

Cheri Fuller: Thank you, Jim and John, it’s great to be here. It’s really fun to be here.

Jim: Cheri, we gotta get to how many grandkids you have. I mean, that’s where it’s gotta start.

Cheri: Sure. Well, we had our first five grandchildren in five and a half years, um, with three families. And so we have six grandchildren, three boys and three girls all, but two have lived away at some time in their life for an extended period. And um, they call me Nandy that’s what Caitlin thought of, the oldest grandchild, the first grandchild. And so as I share and Connect with Your Grandkids when Josephine our fourth grandchild, um, she was born and three weeks later because our son was gonna serve his internship at Na- Bethesda Naval Hospital in D- in the DC area. And so as they got on that plane at the Oklahoma City airport, I prayed, oh, God, help me to stay connected with little Josephine and all my grandchildren, no matter where they live.

Jim: Yeah. Well, and that’s one of the big struggles for grandparents, um, that oftentimes the, with the mobility of our culture-

Cheri: Right.

Jim: … the grandkids aren’t living nearby, how do you shorten that gap? I mean, if you’re living in Oklahoma and your grandkids are out there in Maryland?

Cheri: Or Hawaii, they also lived in Hawaii and- and in Chicago-

Jim: Oh, that’s a little more complexity.

Cheri: … in- in, uh, in Milwaukee and now they live in Southlake, Texas which is only three hours south.

Jim: (laughs).

Cheri: But-

Jim: So how as a grand, as a grandparent, how do you close that gap-

Cheri: Well-

Jim: … when there’s that much distance?

Cheri: … I tell you, first of all, I didn’t have a grid for grandparenting. I started at ground zero. I started with a prayer. I was still working full time. I was still speaking about twice a month, somewhere in the country or in another country. And, but I really, I mean, I have a great desire to have a connection with my grandchildren. And so I had begun collecting ideas when Caitlin was born all the way, which I just packed this book with every idea ever heard or came up with my myself to do exactly that, whether they live close or what, you know, three miles away, whether they live down the street or whether they live across the world or country. And even if your grandkids live near you right now, which by the way, you’re very blessed and you’re very fortunate, you may have a time that because of jobs, they have to move away or they go to college and they grow up. So one of those is this will sound silly, but granny’s magic bag. When I was speaking in Thailand, one time a grandmother there had a granddaughter who was four and lived in Kansas City. And so at the night marketing I was speaking there, and I met her, and she was precious. And she said, “I wanna, well, I wanna give you an idea for something I’ve done with my granddaughter that she loves.” I said, “I’m all ears.” And she said, “It’s granny’s magic bag.” And so she found me one in the night market, and she explained that whenever she’s with her granddaughter, she always finds little things throughout the year, whether it’s at the dollar tree, whether it’s at target in the $1, you know, whether whatever it is, little things that would f- interest or fascinate her. And so when she was with her little granddaughter, she’d have that granny’s magic bag with her. And she’d say, “Audrey, would you like to pick something out of granny’s magic bag?” So it builds up this sense of surprise and expectation. She always knows, although grandmother lives across the world and she sees her maybe two times a year and it keeps her busy in restaurants, it’s a fun thing. So I had Nandy’s magic bag for years.

Jim: (laughs) And that worked?

Cheri: Until the kids weren’t interested. Um, and another thing is, um, I’ve always sent packages and letters to my grandchildren. Now I text them because they all have iPhones.

John: Yeah.

Jim: Let me ask you this though, the- the- the difficulty, again, that is the sweet spot for grandparenting is you’re able to do these fun things with the grandkids, that can create some friction with, uh, your adult kids who are the parents. Uh, a lot of parents, uh, with some grandparents, they might feel that when they show up, they do overindulge a bit and they have to work hard after grandma leaves to-

Cheri: Sure.

Jim: … kind of bring that child back into orbit. And it could be lots of different nouns can go in there. It can be a lot of sugar, it could be-

Cheri: Sure.

Jim: … a lot of stimulus, a lot of trips. So h- how do you, how do you manage that? Do you talk to your adult children and say, will this be okay? Do you ask permission? How do you, how do you decide how the grandparenting will work? You said you didn’t have a framework.

Cheri: Oh, I didn’t, my grandparents were very, very old and, um, they were precious. They were very old and they, I mean, they just couldn’t do that much with us. And two of ’em were in very poor health and, um, they all died by the time I was in high school. And then the last one died when I had just started college. But I would address that in saying, first of all, there’s a balance, and this is much more about relationship than it’s about things or sugar or trips. Now they also set boundaries. Um, this generation of parents are much better at setting boundaries. I mean, if they don’t want you to give ’em a lot of sugar, I’m not gonna do that and make those parents mad. ‘Cause that’s their child.

Jim: So you res- respect the boundaries.

Cheri: Is respect the boundaries. And then some of the thi- so many of the ideas in this book and that I did with my grandchildren are such doable down-home ideas.

John: Mm.

Cheri: I mean, I don’t have a lot of money to take ’em to Paris and, you know, to do all these lavish things, but I took ’em, I had a grandparent pass to the zoo. So when they were, when they had time and, you know, I’d take ’em to the zoo for an outing and we’d have a picnic. When they’d come to my house, I would, or I went to their house, I would always have a treasure hunt. And I made up clues with little pieces of paper like this, and it would lead. And it was good for their reading skills, by the way, they had to decode the message. And I used some little pictures and words if they were three and they would look all over the house and outside for this treasure hunt to find the treasure.

John: Mm-hmm.

Cheri: It might be a book I was giving ’em. It might be, um, some things for their hair. If they’re little girls, it might be a nerf football for the boys. Uh, it wasn’t anything big and expensive. I also always wanted to get the cousins together and in other the six grandchildren, so they’d have a relationship. So whenever I could, I would get all of them together within reason when they were around and when we could. And that’s why I said, I would take them all to the zoo and I’d take pictures. I have taken hundreds of pictures of my grandchildren. And most grandparents do.

Jim: (laughs)

John: Yes.

Cheri: Now I can do it with my iPhone, every Christmas us, if they were gonna be there for Christmas, I’d buy two, I’m not the, you know, like best baker in the whole world. I tried it, but the f- walls fell apart. So I would buy two big gingerbread houses that were not decorated. And then I’d buy all the candy and all the icing and we’d the girls against the boys, they love competition, and they would decorate these. And that would be for Christmas. That was the centerpiece.

Jim: Did they get to eat them is the question? (laughs).

Cheri: Oh, they could eat a little candy if they wanted, they were more interested.

Jim: My boys would say, let’s eat it all.

John: That’s fun of it, forget putting it together.

Cheri: Yes, they were much more interested, and they’d sneak a little c- candy or two, but they were more interested in getting decorated and winning the prize. And then always for Easter, we had a big egg decorating night, the night before Easter. And we, again, we had a contest, all the parents, the grandparents, the aunts, every, the children, all decorated eggs. I just had to be creative, ’cause I wanted to connect with my grandchildren, and I’ve read to them so many books. I have a little book that I tell about in Connect with Your Grandkids on, in the whole building, helping to build their faith, just contributing to their spiritual development-

Jim: Mm.

Cheri: … which I feel like is a wonderful role grandparents can have not by being overbearing, but by sharing Jesus.

John: You know, Jim, I love that idea of- of making a- a written connection with your grandchild through that book. Uh, just as you’re saying that Cheri I’m thinking, I still have a book from my grandmother-

Cheri: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Do you really?

John: … uh, uh, on my dad’s side. Yeah, my- my dad’s mom. She gave that to me when I was about five years old. I still have it. So that, there’s a real deep connection that can happen there.

Cheri: Yes, and a book always means more if it’s signed, if it’s autographed, not necessarily by the author, but by the giver.

John: This is Focus on the Family, and our guest today is Cheri Fuller, and she’s written the book Connect with Your Grandkids: Fun Ways to Bridge the Miles. You’ll find that book and ways to encourage your grandchildren when you stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and hear more from that conversation with Cheri Fuller.

Jim: Uh, Cheri, I wanna play an audio clip, but it was a funny little capture that we were able to get. It’s uh, a humor story from one grandmother who’s, uh, talking about sharing a special time with her granddaughter. Let’s play it and get your response.

A grandmother: When I arrived, I found her positioned in the living room, seated at her personal table and chair set, waiting for grandma. We sipped and laughed sipped and laughed sipped and laughed for about a half hour and finally the teapot was empty. Finally, I thought I thanked her and commented how much fun that was, and we should do it again sometime. She replied, “I’ll fill the pot now, grandma and we’ll do it all over again”. I swallowed hard and with a reluctant smile, agreed. She picked up the pot and headed out to fill it again. I said, “Michelina, how are you filling the pot? You’re not tall enough to reach the kitchen sink.” She said, “Out of the toilet bowl.” I promised myself never to attend another tea party with Michelina she’s in college now. And we’ve laughed many times about her famous tea party.

Jim: (laughs).

Cheri: Oh, that’s great, that’s great.

Jim: Yikes, that’s trouble right there.

John: Oh, that is one committed grandmother right there.

Cheri: And that is one resourceful granddaughter I would say.

Jim: (laughs) I think in that case you say run, right?

Cheri: Right. Well, and it reminds me that, um, I’ve always with my granddaughters and even the grandsons when they were young and enjoyed it, I would have what c- what’s called Muffy bear tea parties, and the Muffy bears with these little bears that Home’s  mom, the grandma had given the kids and their little bears, but whatever stuffed animals or if they wanted to get Buzz Lightyear or whatever, and we’d make a circle and we’d put a table cloth on the floor and we would not use toilet bowl water. We would use apple juice or, you know, something, chamomile tea, and we’d have a tea party. And, oh, we have so many memories. And the boys actually, the boys kinda liked it too, but not as much as the girls and we still have tea parties, Lucy’s eight. She loves these tea parties, and she gets to invite all her stuffed animals.

Jim: And that is so sweet. I mean, I love that clip. That’s hilarious.

John: It really is.

Cheri: And we do kind of you know-

Jim: Yea, the dainty.

Cheri: … manners and the dainty.

Jim: Gotta do that. Cheri, let me ask you, it seems easier as a grandparent to connect with younger kids. I mean, probably after they’re about three or four or five, um, you start to, you know, see their little personalities develop and it’s a lot more fun than changing diapers and those things, but, uh, talk about the difference between those years and then the teen years. Because in the teen years, uh, like many parents, we know, uh, they get a little strange and as Dr. Kevin Leman would say, they just get weird and grandparents struggle, I think too, trying to connect with a 13, 14, 15-year-old, but talk about the different seasons of grandparenting with the different ages of your grandkids.

Cheri: Well, it is seasons. You know, our life, my life as a woman, my life as a mother and grandmother is about seasons. And so yes, we have to adjust and change in one way is if I really wanna connect with them and like say, good job on your track meet, or, you know, have- have a great time at your band concert. I text it.

Jim: Mm.

Cheri: And I put little emoticons because they know Nandy likes those and-

Jim: You know, you think about that, what’s so good about it. And we try to do that with our kids just to-

Cheri: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … encourage them ’cause it’s rough. I mean, this world’s rough and a lot of people are-

Cheri: Very rough.

Jim: … are tearing you down.

Cheri: Well, and I think a grand, a grandparent’s role is to be an encourager. We Homes and I go to as many of our grandchildren’s, um, grandparent day, tennis matches, rock climbing competitions, whatever it is whenever we can, we even flew one time to St. Louis, Missouri to be there for grandparents’ day. And the teacher was shocked that we would come all that way for our little granddaughters.

Jim: Have you come back to the- the tough routine and maybe this-

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: … hasn’t happened in your case, but talk to the grandparent where you’ve got a little more attitude for whatever reason-

Cheri: Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

Jim: … and what can that grandparent do to connect when you’re getting a lot of whatever or however, they’re communicating or not communicating with-

Cheri: Right.

Jim: … you as a grandparent, they don’t seem very excited to hang out with you anymore.

Cheri: That’s ex- that can actually happen. Yes, because they’re teenagers and they really love to be with their friends. That’s who the-

Jim: What can you do?

Cheri: So what I found is what I did with my sons and my daughter, when they were teenagers and preteens, I found a way to get on their turf and do what they enjoyed. If it’s throwing the football, I will go out there and I will throw the football and I throw a mean spiral.

John: (laughs).

Jim: Okay, I can even, you know the word that’s impressive.

Cheri: That’s right. And if it’s play tennis, I go out and play tennis with ’em. I love to be outdoors. So I- I say, get on their turf, connect with them of something they like to do. Not so much that you like to do. It could be going to a movie. It could be taking ’em to their very favorite restaurant. I mean, you can reach their hearts through their stomach. You still can, even when they’re teenagers.

Jim: So find something that they’re interested in, so you can connect.

Cheri: Yeah, so you can connect. And if you wanna talk to ’em well, like Noah was really, Noah was 13 and a half and one of our grandsons and he’s really into March madness and NCAA Basketball. And so when I could, I watched a game or two, some games with him, and then I knew if I ask him about statistics of the teams and who he thought was gonna win, he knows exactly-

Jim: Could you tell-

Cheri: … what he wants to talk about.

Jim: … could you tell that he liked that, that you were interested?

Cheri: Oh, yeah. Well, he’ll talk to me.

Jim: Yeah.

Cheri: I mean, there’s a lot of other things he wouldn’t wanna talk about. I mean, I’m not like the center of their universe. Let’s- let’s face it. We have to be realistic.

Jim: (laughs) Well you’re, you know, but whoa, that’s really powerful what you’re saying there, ’cause I think a lot of grandparents feel like you should be.

Cheri: Yeah. Well you feel you are a little more when they’re young, but then you’re kind of, you know, like there’s other things more important, but that’s okay. And I also think through prayer, we can continue to connect with their hearts. If my grandkids are sick, they know I am praying for them.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Cheri: Every day. And if they have something coming up, they know I’m praying for them. I don’t knock ’em on the head with it, but I might send them a note, or I might send them a text because prayer connects our hearts with the child, whether it’s a child or grandparent, I mean a grandchild and with God. And so God can build the relationship. And I just, as their teenagers, I mean, this is my Jim, this is my real prayer often last week, two days ago, God, please help me stay connected with these teenagers.

Jim: Yeah.

Cheri: Because they are so busy. It’s not just that they’re weird. I mean, ’cause I don’t think my grandchildren are weird. I think they’re awesome. But it’s because they’re so busy.

Jim: Yeah.

Cheri: They have so many, I mean Noah plays on a club soccer team and he’s on the track team for school. Uh, Caitlin takes da- I mean they take dance. They’re involved in so many things. They have school, they have parents. Well, first of all, I mean they, the parents don’t want us to step on their toes and take their time with their kids. But I will say this season wise, if as a grandparent, you can just remember those grandkids are gonna grow up so fast. In fact, probably faster than you experienced with your own children.

Jim: Huh.

Cheri: Because life is going so fast now.

Jim: Right.

Cheri: And if you can remember it and savor the moments you get to be the together, be an encourager connect with them on their turf. Because see, my father died when he was 47 and I was 11. My kids never got to know my father, my mother, their be- that she loved those grandchildren, she died when I was 34 and they were young. And so I know this is just for a season. God says life is like a vapor. I just want to be with these, build a relationship with these precious people God’s put in my life while I can.

Jim: Yeah. And- and it’s a good thing to know that life is brief and take advantage of every moment. And that’s important. Uh, Cheri, we have talked about grand mothering quite a bit, of course there’s grandfathering as well. Uh, what are some things that grandfathers can do? And one thing is not to be grumpy, (laughs).

Cheri: Exactly. Kids just, uh, you know, kids do not like to be around grumpy grandparents. And I will also say, um, and they also don’t like to be around people who discourage them and are critical. Not that grandparents, not that grandfathers do that, but it’s an important principle that children move towards those who encourage them. They move away from those who discourage them.

Jim: Right. And that your ability to teach them-

Cheri: Exactly.

Jim: … is gonna be directly related to how much they’re coming towards you.

Cheri: Yes, but-

Jim: If they’re running from you, they’re not gonna be talking very much.

Cheri: No, you can’t be an influence in their life and a blessing. But you know, I know so many grandpas who do great things like- like my husband does, goes and cheers for his grandkids at soccer games and goes to dance recitals and sits with us at Starbucks, if that’s what the 12-year-old da- granddaughter wants to do. He’s even gone on one of the double-digit trips with us. And may also do that again. Um, grandparents who like when the kids, when you have a sleepover for your grandkids, that the grandfather thinks of something he could do.

Jim: Yeah. Something fun, yeah.

Cheri: Like go out and play croquet with them, set up a little croquet thing, set up a, you know, some kind of sports thing, ride a bike with grandfathers can do things that grandmothers never thought of. Like Homes has helped Luke and Noah and Kayla build things-

Jim: Right.

Cheri: Because he’s- he’s good at woodworking and making things and doing mechanical things. That is not in my wheelhouse.

Jim: (laughs).

Cheri: So God bless all the grandfathers out there. They can too. They can also make a tremendous impact, be a tremendous bless to their grandchildren. It’s so hard growing up today and the kids need all the help they can get, all the prayer, all the encouragement.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Yeah. Uh, Cheri, let me ask you this as well, because in this day and age, unfortunately, and we get many letters and emails here at Focus where marriages are falling apart, Christian marriages are-

Cheri: Mm-hmm.

Jim: … falling apart and that’s a unique situation in grandparenting-

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: … where you either have a- a new step grandchild who’s coming into that relationship. You have a new perhaps daughter-in-law or son-in-law.

Cheri: Right.

Jim: Um, any advice on how to manage that relationship in a way that brings wisdom and peace, ’cause there’s a lot of chaos that can happen in blended family.

Cheri: There can be and it’s, co- confusing and uncertain time for children for that step grandchild that you wanna welcome or adopted grandchild that you wanna welcome into your life and your family. And sometimes even if that situation is kind of dicey, you know, that got them together, but that’s still a precious child. And one of the things I’ve seen grandparents do that I actually share about is that the son was getting married again. And so all of a sudden, she had like this five-year-old granddaughter. And so at the wedding she presented, I mean she had only met with this little granddaughter a few times she’d only met her. And so at the wedding, she had typed a letter on pretty paper of just, I am so grateful that I’m gonna get to be your grandma. And I wanna welcome you into the family and anytime we can be together, I would love that. I mean, what an impact that made. And besides that- that reminds me that one of the things I’ve always done because I mean, I really feel this in my heart. It’s I- I say sometimes to my grandchildren, I’m so grateful to God that I get to be your grandma.

Jim: Mm.

Cheri: He- he could have even you a lot of other grandmas and I get to be your grandma. And um, I think it’s important for us to let them know that. And I’ve said to them, you know, “Caleb, if all the 10-year-olds in the whole world were lined up, I’d pick you to be my grandson.” Because that’s a something they remember.

Jim: Mm.

Cheri: And they realize, I mean, that’s not laying it on so thick, you know, blowing their ego up. It means I am so grateful.

Jim: Well, it’s an attitude of Thanksgiving rather than irritation.

Cheri: Yes, yes.

Jim: And so-

John: Yes.

Jim: … you know, in a self-centered culture, all of us-

Cheri: Yes.

Jim: … um, having to give time to other people and do things other people wanna do can really grind against what it is we wanna do. And as we get older, we get really comfortable with our routine.

Cheri: That’s right and-

Jim: So you gotta come out of yourself a little bit.

Cheri: But talking about teenagers. I mean, I still say that to my teenagers. I said it recently to Caitlin and I would say too, I don’t wanna put any pressure on grandparents today. Many grandparents like my husband and I are still working and I, we’re not retired. We don’t have all the time and the money in the world to lavish on our grandkids. In some ways I wish, you know, and we had five and then s- six, but the point is if we can do what we can. I mean, if you can think of things as a grandparent that are out in the listening audience, if you can think of things that you enjoy doing, like reading, why not share it with your grandchildren? If it’s watching movies and you love old movies, you could share that with the grandchild.

Jim: Going fishing.

Cheri: Going fishing-

Jim: (laughs).

Cheri: … going roller skating. I’ve taken my grandkids bowling. I’m not great at it. But, um, it’s fun.

Jim: Roller skating could be a little dangerous, (laughs).

Cheri: Uh, yes, it could, it could.

Jim: And bold, (laughs).

Cheri: It landed me one time in the emergency room.

Jim: There you have it.

Cheri: But, but, uh-

Jim: But that made you a cool grandma,

Cheri: Maybe so. Riding bicycles. Uh, there’s so many things we could do with kids. We can’t do everything. I can’t do everything that the other grandkids in my, I mean that, other friends I know who have grandchildren, I can’t do everything they’re doing, but this isn’t a comparison thing-

Jim: Sure.

Cheri: … this is about love. This is about relationship.

Jim: Well, that is, and you’re hitting on it. Now that’s the spiritual side of the whole thing. And again, we talked about kids needing encouragement. In so many families today it’s either just one parent and hopefully two parents, but to have four additional people, your grandparents telling you-

Cheri: Exactly.

Jim: … you’re gonna be okay, you’re doing all right-

Cheri: Right.

Jim: … that means the world to kids growing up today where there’s so much eating away at their confidence.

Cheri: Right.

Jim: That somebody in your corner feels good.

Cheri: Yes. I love what Alex Haley said once about grandparents. He said, nobody can do for little children what grandparents can do. Grandparents sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children. And we can sprinkle blessing and encouragement of the lives of our little grandchildren and our bigger grandchildren and be their encouragers. Pray for ’em in whatever stage they go through and build a relationship that will last a lifetime.

Jim: That’s exactly the right thing.

Cheri: Because that’s really what matters.

Jim: Cheri Fuller author of the book, Connect with Your Grandkids, I think you wrapped it up beautifully right there.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: The subtitle is Fun Ways to Bridge the Miles and the book is again, filled with great ideas to connect with your grandkids of all ages. And, uh, I, uh, I really have been blessed today, Cheri. Thank you.

Cheri: Thank you, Jim. Thank you, John.

John: You know, it’s always good to have Cheri Fuller here. She brings such a great heart and enthusiasm for families. And her book published by Focus on The Family and Tyndale has over 100 ideas about building relationships with your grandchildren. Ask for that when you get in touch. And we’ll send that book to you as our thank you when you make a generous donation of any amount to support the work of Focus on The Family today. Um, we appreciate your consideration of our needs for as Jim calls it fuel for the rocket ship as we help families around the world, and we rely on your donations. So thanks in advance for helping to lift up and strengthen families. Donate and get your copy of that book when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. On behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for Focus on The Family. I’m John Fuller, inviting you back as we, once again, help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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A Legacy of Music and Trusting the Lord

Popular Christian vocalist Larnelle Harris reflects on his five-decade music career, sharing the valuable life lessons he’s learned about putting his family first, allowing God to redeem a troubled past, recognizing those who’ve sacrificed for his benefit, and faithfully adhering to biblical principles amidst all the opportunities that have come his way.

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Accepting Your Imperfect Life

Amy Carroll shares how her perfectionism led to her being discontent in her marriage for over a decade, how she learned to find value in who Christ is, not in what she does, and practical ways everyone can accept the messiness of marriage and of life.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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