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How I Found God Through My Abortion Journey (Part 2 of 2)

How I Found God Through My Abortion Journey (Part 2 of 2)

Cynthia Wenz shares her incredible testimony of discovering God’s love and forgiveness. As a teenager, Cynthia lived recklessly and strayed away from the Lord. By age 29, she had three abortions, numbing herself from the reality of killing her children. After realizing her mistakes, Cynthia became pro-life and experienced many years of turmoil and grief before undergoing post-abortion recovery. She now advocates for pregnancy resource centers across the nation. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: January 21, 2022

Sponsor ID: This program is sponsored by Focus on the Family and is made possible through the gifts of generous friends like you.

John Fuller: Today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, we’re returning to a powerful story of a woman’s journey of searching for love in all the wrong places, and then living with the tragic consequences of multiple abortions. Now this is an important conversation, uh, and we need to have it, but it’s not suited for younger children, so we do recommend you address their attention elsewhere. And uh, this clip illustrates some of the challenges that our guest faced.

Cynthia Wenz: This is where the Holy Spirit was with me in my deepest, darkest moments, because I said, “What does this mean?” She looked at me and she said, “We probably didn’t get everything.” What does that even mean? And my arm went up and I said, “Can I see what’s inside of me?” And she flips that screen around, and you see a little tiny baby just moving, wiggling, wiggling, and you see a deflated sac on the right side of the screen, and I had been carrying twins.

Jim Daly: John, the story we heard last time from Cynthia Wenz was so heartbreaking, uh, she stared out as a happy, carefree young girl in a loving family, only to find herself a few years later trapped in a destructive cycle of underage drinking, drugs and promiscuity. Cynthia had a hunger for God instilled in her by a loving grandmother, but she couldn’t get off the path of chasing one bad relationship after another, and all of her risky behaviors that ultimately led to three abortions. But God never gave up on Cynthia, like he never gives up on you or me. And His saving grace protected her from complete destruction and death many times over. And we’re going to hear the amazing rest of the story today. If you missed the conversation last time, get the CD, get the smart phone app, uh, you can go right to Focus on the Family’s website to listen to that.

John: Yeah, and of course, we’re also available on YouTube, and um, we did mention last time that Cynthia is an author, speaker and pro-life advocate. Uh, she started Healed for Life Ministries, which supports women and their relationships, bringing help and hope to the post abortive community, and uh, she’s captured her story in the book Healed for Life, A Story of Redemption. And we’ll recommend you check that out at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Cynthia, welcome back to Focus on the Family. Uh, it was a difficult listen yesterday. I mean, uh, we went through the fact that your family struggled, your mom and dad were struggling when you were 12, 13, 14, you kinda wandered off. You became that prodigal daughter, right?

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: And it led to promiscuity, relationships, pregnancies at 15, and again, and again, with a third pregnancy. Um, we did end with the fact that your son, Roman, was a twin, and you had, uh, done an abortion at 29, and the one twin was taken. You didn’t realize and the doctor didn’t realize there was another baby, and that baby you gave life to, I mean, that’s Roman, your son now, who is a- a fully grown man, and married and has three children of his own. Let me ask you, uh, really for that woman who maybe had those same kinds of struggles, just all the way, your relationship with the Lord. I mean, I accepted the Lord at 15, and I was in a broken home situation. And it took a while to understand what that meant to really give your life to the Lord. I was probably 21, 22 when it really- when the Spirit really got a hold of me, if I could put it that way.

Cynthia: Yeah.

Jim: And there was bouncing around. So I totally relate to what you’re saying. But describe your relationship with the Lord through your 20s, ’cause your- you’re still partying, being promiscuous.

Cynthia: Mm-hmm –

Jim: And God is still leaning into you, right?

Cynthia: Mm-hmm –

Jim: Listening to you. I think it’s helpful for people to hear that conflict, ’cause it’s so real.

Cynthia: It’s so real.

Jim: It’s like you’re out Friday night, and you’re going to church on Sunday. Lord forgive me for what I just did. And then you-

Cynthia: That’s exactly what it is.

Jim: And then you do it again the next weekend.

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: But kind of go through that. What God was saying to your heart, and how you were getting straight in your soul?

Cynthia: Yeah, you kind of have Jesus as your- you know, your friend over here, but then you have- I don’t think you’re consciously go, “Well, I’m sinning on Friday and I’m redeeming on Sunday.” I think you’re living life in the world.

Jim: It’s conflict. It’s not celebration.

Cynthia: It’s conflict. You’re in the world.

Jim: Right.

Cynthia: And you’re not supposed to be of it, and you know you’re not supposed to be of it, but you’re in it. And this is where, you know, counseling women, you can’t deny the consequences and you can’t deny what she faces when she goes back out there.

Jim: Huh –

Cynthia: And so how do you reconcile the two? How do you become plumb with the truth of God and who He is? And so for me, I think God was so kind in my walk, it took a life change in the form of a baby surviving an abortion, being that dramatic for me to go, “God is real, ’cause there’s no explanation for how Roman can survive the womb.”

Jim: Mm-hmm –

John: Yeah.

Cynthia: And I was so far gone that He had to redeem me by having me recognize life, and then choose it.

Jim: Well in fact, I want to push the story forward in that regard, because here you are, you’re- you- you’re not married. You’re a single parent mom.

Cynthia: No. Oh my goodness. On my own going through this.

Jim: And you do take Roman home, and now you being to wrestle with the Lord, right? Like, “Lord, I want a husband. I need a husband. My son needs a husband.”

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: I could see that feistiness in you, the shaking of the fists, like, “God, you wouldn’t have done this for this reason, don’t leave me hanging out here.” Am I filling in the blanks adequately? (laughs)

Cynthia: You’re nailing it. (laughs)

Jim: But I mean, describe that. Now you’re in this struggle with the Lord for more.

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: “Lord, I’m trusting You.”

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: “I get- I said yes to Roman, now where’s your, yes?”

Cynthia: I was a little feisty, because here I am still, you know, maybe puffing a cigarette now and again, and I remember saying, “Okay, I chose life,” and I remember with that sassiness saying, “I’m ready for my tall, dark, handsome, good Christian millionaire, and Lord I’m asking that he’s single, and that he adores You, he loves You. But that he loves Roman first and then he loves me,” because in my mind, I was tainted goods now.

Jim: Mm-hmm –

Cynthia: I was tainted goods. And I said, “So I’m gonna quit dating until you bring him to me.” And I remember going back into my office and coming back out and going, “And I’d like 3.4 karats or better on my ring, because I’m 34 and You’ve made me wait.”

Jim: Wow.

John: Huh.

Cynthia: I wouldn’t pray that way today. But God in His grace brought me a man that didn’t look anything like what I prayed for. And the Lord simply and gently said, “He’s taller than you, his hair used to be dark,” my husband kind of looks like Richard Gear. Silver hair. Blue eyes.

Jim: (laughs)

Cynthia: He said, “He’s handsome because he’s, my son. He’s a good man.”

John: Hmm –

Cynthia: And he adores me.

Jim: Wow.

Cynthia: And I truly believe that was a piece of God Himself tossed down. I don’t- I don’t recommend missionary dating, but when God brings in a healing agent in the form of a husband and a marriage, it is exponentially greater than you can think or imagine.

Jim: You know I’m thinking there’s so many audience thoughts I’m- I’m trying to process right now.

Cynthia: It’s a lot.

Jim: And that woman-

Cynthia: It’s a big story.

Jim: Well, that woman where she’s where you were at, I mean maybe she did say yes to keeping her child and God bless you for that. And she’s now at that stage saying, “Lord, where’s my husband?”

Cynthia: Yeah.

Jim: And you know, you start laying out those fleeces, and you start to describe what you want.

Cynthia: Yes. (laughs)

Jim: I mean, you know, I- I’m- that’s all fair. Chris comes into your life. How did you talk about what has happened to you? How did he respond? You had to be somewhat afraid about, “Will this man really love me if he really knows me?”

Cynthia: Absolutely.

Jim: I mean that’s every human being. Will she or he love me if he or she really knows me?

Cynthia: Right.

Jim: That’s one of the core problems in marriage.

Cynthia: Right.

Jim: We don’t feel we can be that honest. So how- describe it for us. How did Chris and you talk about all that junk?

Cynthia: The first eight years were terrible. Okay, he’ll not like appreciate that I said that. We had a good marriage, but he had a lot of hurdles to overcome with me, because I was unredeemed at the time. I was living out all the demons in my life. Um, the insecurity and sexual behavior, because I had only known it in ways that were not God ordained. So coming into the intimacy of marriage, he was kind and loving and gentle and patient and long suffering and enduring, and really helped me see when I would go, “No, no, no,” he would say, “A husband and a wife, this is-” and he would refer to scripture with love and gentleness. So we’d get to the eighth year of our marriage, and he recognizes, “Oh, you’re still broken up.” He recognizes the trigger points were the abortions and the pain that entered in and the trauma, quite frankly.

Jim: Mmm –

Cynthia: And he was the one that recommended, “Hey, some of our spinning students that we work out with are on the board of the local pregnancy center. Why don’t you go serve.”? And he’s referencing John 15 now, um, “Give your healing away,” ’cause he was a worship leader, we’re in the church now. I’m a worship leader’s wife hiding the pain, pushing aside the sin, and I go volunteer to live it out, hopefully make my joy complete, and of course, enter post abortion healing where the real healing began.

John: Hmm. Well, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and our guest today is Cynthia Wenz, uh, what a powerful uh, testimony she has.

Jim: Mm-hmm –

John: And she’s captured so much of it in her memoir, Healed for Life, A Story of Redemption. And we’ll encourage you to look for a copy of that at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Let’s move into um, how that kind of catapulted you into committing to the pro-life movement. I mean, you are the poster child for this movement in so many ways, right? I mean people, a lot of people have incredible stories. You have like, super-duper incredible story here. And God’s giving you that testimony. It belongs to him. You had to live it out.

Cynthia: Yes, it does.

Jim: But it’s His story.

Cynthia: That’s exactly right.

Jim: And in that context, then, what were your next steps? You raise Roman, you and Chris get things together, God’s blessing you. You stay together. That right there’s a blessing. Chris is in that audience; I can see him.

Cynthia: Mm-hmm –

Jim: So it’s happening. It’s working. You’re both smiling. How many years later? How long have you been married?

Cynthia: 20.

Jim: 20. So speak to getting engaged now, in the pro-life movement. What was that, uh, entry point, and why? Go back to your pain.

Cynthia: He recommended I go volunteer at the pregnancy center and give my joy away to make my joy complete.

Jim: Meaning Chris.

Cynthia: My husband.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: And I began serving and the wise, young, 24-year-old executive director said, “If you’re post abortive, you need to go through post abortion healing.” I did. I went in a very proud worship leader’s wife, and about six weeks into the 10-week program, broke. The Lord said, “This is for you.”

Jim: Wow.

Cynthia: And I began to reconcile that first pregnancy. And then I went through it a second time as a volunteer and reconciled the second pregnancy. And then I went through post abortion healing a third time, and that’s where I was able to look in the mirror for the first time and see myself not as a shamed woman, but as a simple woman of God with some years on that is loved and treasured, where God was present the whole way and grieving with me.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: I later went on to run the pregnancy center for five years. We took it from a, you know, just a time in ’08 and ’09 where the economy had fallen out. We had a negative budget, and we went into a multi-million-dollar budget.

Jim: Wow.

Cynthia: We were just under two million as a pregnancy center with three locations.

Jim: I think- I’m smiling ’cause I think it’d be hard to say no to you as a donor.

John: (laughs) Yeah.

Jim: Can you just imagine.

John: Yeah.

Jim: You come in, “Hey, can you have- you have 10,000 dollars?” Well uh, and you give that eyeball stare. (laughs)

Cynthia: That’s interesting.

Jim: Okay, you want 20?

Cynthia: Yeah, because now as I go out and speak at pregnancy centers, the thing that I say is, “Let me help you with your fundraising.”

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: Because the money is God’s kingdom, and it’s easy to bring in for the right reasons, and life is always the right reason.

Jim: Wow, no kidding.

Cynthia: So-

Jim: I mean this is such a right thing to support with everybody.

Cynthia: Everybody.

Jim: And it’s so good. Let me ask you with Roman. Roman’s an adult, he’s married, he has children now. Have you ever sat down with him and talked about him being the survivor?

Cynthia: So the Lord did that for me, because as I began running- running the pregnancy center, my story got out there, and you’re thinking to yourself, how do I tell my kid, “I aborted you?” He’s gonna hate me. And so I was on the phone at my home, counseling a woman who had just gone through a miscarriage, and we were talking about reproductive grief and loss, and as I as counseling her and praying her and recommending the Christy Nockels song about, you know, I’ll see you in heaven.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: It’s a beautiful song. Glory Baby. And um, Roman overheard the whole thing.

Jim: Uh.

Cynthia: And he walked into my room, he was eight years old at the time, and he began asking me questions. And I could just feel a gentle nudge in the Spirit to just answer, if I had to say anything.

Jim: Hm.

Cynthia: “Mom, did you-” ’cause I was telling her my story. “Did you- did I have a twin?” Yes. “Is- where is my twin?” In heaven. “Did you want me?”

Jim: Wow.

Cynthia: Roman, you’re the best gift God has ever given me. And he went, “Okay.” That was it.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: And then he began speaking on shows with me, and then he went- we went to the Capitol together and he wrote chapter 13 of my book. His birthday’s May 13th, so in- in the divinity- now he’s married and focused on family and children, and he’s-

Jim: (laughs)

Cynthia: He’s in his own swirl, but he embraces and appreciates the miraculous nature of the story.

Jim: Looking at that, and that’s one aspect of the book, you talk about going to the state capitol in Texas and testifying. Describe all of that, the swirl of that as you described it.

Cynthia: I think the pregnancy center and the growth of it, um, brought some attention to the story and the miraculous nature of it. One of the right to life groups called and said, “Hey, would you testify in the capitol?” And I was like, oh, no thank you.

Jim: Yeah right. (laughs)

Cynthia: And that was that. And uh, (laughs) Went into my prayer closet, kneeling, and um, I said, “Lord, no, come on, we’re saving lives. So the pregnancy center’s enough.” And i was like, I don’t wanna do this. And the Lord kind of had me turn my head and my shoe rack was in my closet, my- saw a pair of red pumps, and it was just in that moment where I felt like the Lord said, “‘Cause it’s not about you. Your history to your point is His story.”

Jim: Right.

Cynthia: And He said, “and you’re walking on the blood of the lamb.” I am the one telling the story, and by Revelation 12:11, by the blood of the lamb, and the word of their testimony, what God does is made known.” And I said, “Oh, Lord, okay.” And so I packed up my red heels, which I’m wearing today, and uh, went to the state capitol. Said, “Roman, you wanna get out of school and come with mom?”

Jim: (laughs) Yeah, the answer’s yes. Get out of school. (laughs)

Cynthia: Well, absolutely. And in my mind at that time, I wasn’t thinking he would walk up with me. I just thought, let’s go respect our state officials. Let’s go see the capitol in action. And so we drove down, and you wait hours, and the house of representatives, and Cynthia Wenz come forward, and I said, you know, “Sir, may I- may I bring my son with me?” ‘Cause Roman had leaned over and said, “Can I go up with you?” And I, I said, “Pray about it.”

Jim: (laughs)

Cynthia: And uh, he got a yes, and we went up, and I gripped my hands on that podium, ’cause in my insecurity at the time, I thought, “I don’t wanna be too dramatic. I wanna be heard, and I wanna be received as a serious, intentional woman.” As I gripped onto that podium, put those hands down, and uh, I held on, and I stood like this. “Gentlemen. What we didn’t get, what was inside of me, was my son. And he just made the JV water polo team at his high school, and he was swimming then and he’s swimming now.”

Jim: Hm.

Cynthia: And I had a right to know what was inside of me, regardless of the choice I would make. I had a right to be informed. If I was making a choice, I had a right to all of the information. And Roman put his arm around me, and in that moment, the house leader comes up over that chair, and we’re in Texas, right? He says, “Son, that’s the best thing I’ve seen all day.” The house erupts with applause, and everybody’s clapping, and Roman pulls back his shoulders, and I’m, you know, grabbing my chest, and the sonogram bill passed in the state of Texas, that it was required before abortion, and we got to be part of the annuls of history in Texas.

Jim: Yeah. You know, it’s so amazing in that regard. That’s our option, ultrasound, what we have seen when we-

Cynthia: That’s right.

Jim: And that’s placing ultrasound equipment in pregnancy resource centers, and then additional trainings that we do to help train them to use the equipment, et cetera. But a majority of women will, and these are abortion minded women, will choose life when they get the counseling. And the picture, to your point, when they can see the ultrasound, it makes this huge difference.

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: Because it’s not a blob of tissue. It’s a baby. You can see the arms, the legs, the fingers. And you know, we’re always demonized. I’ve been in those debates. I’ve been called all kinds of things. And it’s not true. But at the same time, uh, I have compassion for them, too.

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: They are blind people. Chuck Colson once told me, “You don’t get mad at a blind person who steps on your foot.”

Cynthia: Oh that’s so good.

Jim: And those people in the abortion industry, I mean think about it. If they knew what they were doing, from God’s perspective, I don’t believe they’d do it. They just don’t see it. They’re spiritually blind. And that’s what we’re trying to do, is open their hearts up to the fact that these are human beings.

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: These are babies.

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: And we need to help them. And I’m so grateful for what you have done throughout your life. I mean, all the turmoil, all of the pain, and now you’re sitting here at Focus on the Family.

Cynthia: Yeah.

Jim: And talking about Roman.

Cynthia: Thank You, Lord.

Jim: And your son and helping other women. And I think this might be a good place to go, Cynthia, again I’m just, I can’t get away from women that haven’t gone through the healing process that you’ve gone through. And abortion, let’s be honest, it happens in the church.

Cynthia: Oh yes.

Jim: And women are holding that. And they feel guilty. And they haven’t really reconciled where they’re at with God. They still carry a lot of shame and guilt. Speak to her right now at the end. What would you say to her if you were counseling her?

Cynthia: You called me a poster child. There’s 26 post abortive symptoms that a woman is challenged by. I was the poster child of all 26.

Jim: Hm.

Cynthia: In the book of Romans, we can exchange the lies she’s believing for truth. Liberated to loved, and I would say, take the journey through the book of Romans, go back and redeem the lie, bring it into truth, it is a journey. It does require help. God will gently peel back, like He did with me, the artichoke of healing. I’ll be a part of that. My goal to raise the post abortive voice, the one healed and the one healing. I’ve toyed with the idea of the ministry being called Poster Child.

Jim: Hm.

Cynthia: I think we’ll stick with Liberated to Love because there’s hope.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: Yeah.

Jim: Hm. Cynthia, a couple of occasions I’ve met people in the a- abortion industry.

Cynthia: Hmm.

Jim: We had incredibly frank discussions, and you know, I promised I would keep those confidential, but the uh, there is some regret that I could hear in them, if i could say it that way, that there was a sense that there are better options, and it doesn’t make our day to do what we do, but we do believe it should be a woman’s right to choose and, you know, all those typical statements. You have a powerful story of a woman who was vehemently defending her right to abortion.

Cynthia: Mm-hmm –

Jim: Describe that discussion and how it went.

Cynthia: You know, there’s days I wanna stand up and say, “God is pro-choice.” Stay with me.

Jim: I’m with you.

Cynthia: Deuteronomy, 30:19. Today I set before you life and death but choose life. God- we’re not God’s puppets, He gives us choice. So when we make those choices, with choice comes consequence.

Jim: Mm-hmm –

Cynthia: I am a mother to three children that live in heaven. The consequence of their lives being lost doesn’t go away. I don’t get to see them until I get there. The woman in the state capitol, this is the compassion God deposits in us. Vehemently defended a child she waited forever to have; at 16 weeks she got a spina bifida diagnosis. As I was testifying in the capitol, she was testifying in the capitol. She was in hysterics.

Jim: Hm.

Cynthia: And as I looked at her, I sat back and I thought, “God I just wanna have a conversation with her, and say, I don’t wanna fix her, I don’t wanna tell her she’s wrong.”

Jim: Hm.

Cynthia: I won’t wanna scold her, I don’t wanna shame her. I wanna say, “I understand what that feels like. I am so sorry for your loss.” And I wonder, and this is the question, ’cause we’re no longer in a day and age where I am pro-life or pro-choice. We’re past that. What are her circumstances, and how can we make abortion unthinkable so that life is the obvious and only choice? And it’s gonna come through the poster child of redemption, the poster child of family, transparency.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: Truth.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: And the willingness to journey through that truth. I wonder if she is so stuck in the pain, she’s never unpacked what, the what ifs, and has never had anyone journey with her in love to get to that place where she can lay that child to rest. Because you have to defend what you think is right, ’cause the second you realize you took the life of a 16-week child out of your womb, then you have to realize you’ve taken life.

Jim: Right.

Cynthia: And that’s unbearable. So what happens? You vehemently defend what you did.

Jim: Yeah. And the truth of it is, God’s heart is for her.

Cynthia: For her.

Jim: Not against her.

Cynthia: Not against her.

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: You don’t have to say, “I’ve had an abortion, but God’s forgiven me.” And tuck it away. You have an abortion and God wholly restores and fully redeems that moment in time. What is the truth of where that child is now?

Jim: Mmm –

Cynthia: Who am I as a woman? What are the labels I’m wearing? How can I be fully present, fully transparent in the truth and retell the story, but not relive it?

Jim: Yeah.

Cynthia: And it’s God’s wholeness, God’s wellness. I don’t know how a woman redeems and reconciles an abortion without God.

Jim: Yeah, that’s so true. Cynthia, I wanna choose these words really carefully. This has been painfully good.

Cynthia: (laughs)

Jim: I think you would totally relate to that.

Cynthia: That’s a good phrase. Yeah.

Jim: And I hope the listeners catch it. Um, this isn’t about uh, relishing promiscuity or that life you were in. It’s really rejoicing in what God has done for you. And what God is there to do for each one of us. Whatever that pool of pain is, that he’s for us. And He just wants us to lean into Him, to accept Him, and then that wonderful truth is worked out in our life. And again, you’re such a great example. Thank you.

Cynthia: Thank you.

Jim: For sharing, and thanks for being with us.

Cynthia: My pleasure.

John: Mmm –

Cynthia: Thank you.

Jim: Um, let me turn to the listener. I- I hope that you have been impacted these last couple of days. Cynthia’s story is an amazing story. And here at Focus, we are getting up every day working in this prolife space. There’s so many wonderful pregnancy resource centers around the country. First, I wanna encourage you to go volunteer. Cynthia, you used to be in charge of one. Wouldn’t that be awesome if you had a hundred volunteers show up?

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: (laughs) Saying, “How can we help?” And then support the local pregnancy resource center near you. And Focus, we’re doing our part. We, again, are trying to equip these clinics to be able to do those ultrasounds, so these abortion minded women can see their baby, get the counseling they need, and choose life. And I hope you can participate with us. You know, the metric, uh, Cynthia. And you- you know this working in the clinic world. Uh, for us now, doing this over 16, 17 years, we’ve gotten it down to 60 dollars to save a baby’s life.

Cynthia: Thank you, Lord.

Jim: It’s 600 dollars to do the abortion. And um, I hope the Lord is challenging you.

John: Mmm –

Jim: Can you help us? Uh, a one-time gift of 60 dollars or every month. Save a baby’s life with 60 dollars. (laughs) I mean, it is working and we’re nearing a- a half a million babies saved in the option ultrasound program.

Cynthia: Thank you, Lord.

Jim: Thank you, Lord, and to Him, all the glory goes.

John: Mm-hmm –

Cynthia: Yes.

Jim: But I can’t, uh, beg or plead any more than this. Do you wanna do something for the kingdom and for those women and men that are struggling in this specific area? Support Focus and support the testimonies of the Cynthia’s that you haven’t heard from that you will touch.

John: Mm-hmm – Yeah, this is your opportunity to do ministry through Focus on the Family, partner with us. Make your donation today. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. Or you can donate online at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And when you make a donation of any amount, we’d be, uh, pleased to send a copy of Cynthia’s incredible book, Healed for Life, A Story of Redemption. Well, have a great weekend with your family, and uh, your church family as well. And please join us again on Monday for a look at how to navigate expectations in your marriage.

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In this inspiring conversation, Gary Thomas describes the joy-filled pursuit of growing in the virtues and becoming more like Christ. Tune in to hear how foundational virtues like humility, surrender, and detachment can shape your family and relationships.

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Taking a Health Journey With Your Spouse

Dave and Ashley Willis offer tips for you and your spouse to get healthy—mind, body, and spirit. With personal stories about Ashley’s journey through anxiety and depression and Dave’s health issues, you’ll see how your overall well-being affects your relationship.

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Abortion Survivors Tell Their Stories (Part 1 of 2)

Our guests share their dramatic stories of surviving the attempts to end their lives while in their mother’s womb, providing a stark and undeniable counter argument to pro-abortionists who argue that a fetus is not a living human being. (Part 1 of 2)

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Abortion Survivors Tell Their Stories (Part 2 of 2)

Our guests share their dramatic stories of surviving the attempts to end their lives while in their mother’s womb, providing a stark and undeniable counter argument to pro-abortionists who argue that a fetus is not a living human being. (Part 2 of 2)

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

Headshot of Rhonda Stoppe

Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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