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Men: Rising Above Stereotypes

Men: Rising Above Stereotypes

Craig Glass encourages husbands, fathers, and sons with a much-needed reminder in today's culture – that men matter, that they have an invaluable and God-given contribution to make to their families and society as a whole. Craig also describes how he overcame personal struggles to find his identity in Christ, all in a discussion based on his book Noble Journey: The Quest for a Lasting Legacy.
Original Air Date: October 23, 2019

Opening:

Excerpt:

Craig Glass: Men are carrying these secrets and these doubts and these regrets that are beneath the surface. And the enemy, who prowls around like a roaring lion looking to see who he can devour, convinces us that we’re defective like nobody else. Hide it. Cover up. Compensate.

End of Excerpt

John Fuller: Well, that’s Craig Glass and he joins us today on Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus president and author, Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller

Jim Daly: Uh, John, I truly think most men, deep in their hearts, want to be good men. Faithful husbands. And involved dads. And I just heard a lot of wives go, “Really?” (Laughter) But far too often we believe that lie that we are frauds. We know what to do, but we don’t do what we know what to do…

John: Mmmm…

Jim: …If that makes sense. We go through feeling like we’re one mistake away from failing everyone around us. And it torments us. Many times, that’s because a man in our life failed us. It’s something we learned. Certainly, that was true of the father figures in my life – my dad, my stepdad, my foster dad. All, um, you know, had tremendous deficits. And you’ve got to cope with that. You gotta figure out am I gonna be that way or am I gonna strive to do something better. Really, in the power of Christ…

John: Yeah.

Jim: …as believers in Jesus, and not in our own strength. We want to talk about that today. I mean, some people have connected with us, John, to say we need to cover men’s’ issues, too. This is one of those days. We’re gonna cover it. And I’d ask wives to stick around because you’re going to learn a lot about how men think today. That might be scary but stick with us. It’ll be good.

John: It will be. Our guest knows what it feels like to be stuck and bogged down. And he’s gonna help us see the truth, that with God we are capable of being the men that we long to be. Craig Glass, as I said at the onset here, is our guest today. He’s the founder of a men’s ministry called Peregrine Ministries and is a husband, dad and grandfather. He’s written a book called Noble Journey: The Quest For A Lasting Legacy. And of course, we have copies of that. Just call 1-800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Body:

Jim: Craig, welcome to “Focus on the Family.”

Craig: Thank you very much. I’m honored to be here.

Jim: One of the intriguing things about your story is something happened to you when you were a child. It shaped the way you saw yourself as a man. This really goes to the heart of your core message, that shame is the root of so many of the issues we struggle with, as men. Describe what happened and why it affected you so much.

Craig: That’s right. It was about shame. I didn’t know it at the time, and I didn’t know about it for a long, long time. But I was eight years old, and my brother Clyde was three. We were playing in the backyard, digging holes in the dirt, sprinkling it down with a hose, making mud, forming little highways so we could play our Tinker toys on that. And, uh, Clyde was sitting in one of the holes that we dug. And we had some tools and implements there – a shovel, a pitchfork, a rake, a trowel.

Jim: (Laughter) Dangerous toys for an 8-year-old.

John: What could go wrong? (Laughter).

Craig: Just fun toys.

Jim: Yeah, what could go wrong with that?

Craig: What could go wrong? Uh, I decided that I was going to scare Clyde, just tease him, uh, by pretending to stab him with the pitchfork, which seemed like a good idea to me at the time.

Jim: You’d put the fear of you know who in him (laughter).

Craig: Make sure we know who’s boss here. I grabbed the pitchfork. Clyde’s sitting there in the hole. And I raised it over my head, and I brought it down with some kind of a yell. And what I meant to do was drill it into the ground right in front of the hole. And what I did do was drill it into Clyde’s knee. And I pulled the pitchfork back. He, of course, screamed. Blood starts spurting out. I tossed it. And I could not believe what I had just done. Clyde, of course, gets up, starts screaming and starts to run into the house. And immediately, I kick into self-protection mode. The very first thing I said to Clyde was not, “I’m sorry” – “Don’t tell Mom.”

Jim: Right, let’s cover up.

Craig: Cover – cover up.

Jim: Goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden here. Let’s go (laughter).

Craig: Absolutely, the immediate thing is, cover up. Don’t be found out. Don’t tell Mom. The kid’s three years old. He’s hemorrhaging out of the knee. What else is he going to do? Runs into the house and tells mom, and my mother came out. And what followed was just a whole series of awful, immediately implemented lies that didn’t convince anybody, I don’t think. But I – I said, uh, “Clyde jumped in the hole. Something sharp hit him in the knee.” “Really, what hit him in the knee?” “Some kind of sharp cable with wires sticking out.” “Where is it now?” “Oh, uh, I dug it out and – to get rid of it so he won’t be hurt again.” I’m now being the hero in this story. “Where did you put it?” “I buried it behind the – under the bushes back by the alley.” You know, this all happened in 30 seconds.

Jim: (Laughter).

Craig: …Just a terrible series of lies. But ultimately, the truth did not really come out. And I certainly didn’t confess. But Clyde lived with a scar – a triangular shaped scar in his knee – well, he still has it. And I was reminded of it for decades.

Jim: With never uh, reconciling that story over the years…

Craig: Never. I never brought it up again.

Jim: So, I – you know, people are wanting to know the end of that story. It kind of made you feel guilty, I would assume. And then eventually, I mean, I don’t know how many years later, but you tell your mom and dad and Clyde, “OK, I blew it.”

Craig: Yeah. It was 45 years later.

Jim: Forty-five years later.

Craig: Yeah, uh…

Jim: What was their response?

Craig: Well, I..I… I had gone to a men’s retreat, and I learned about shame. And realized I’ve carried shame about this story all of my life. Shame that I’m a defective male, uh, by stabbing my brother and then lying about it. And so, I called Clyde, who lived in Canada by then. And I just said, “Hey, Clyde, I’ve got to bring something up. I don’t even know how to tell you. You know the scar on your knee?” “Yeah.” “I don’t know if you know how it got there. I’m the one that put it there. I punctured your knee with a pitchfork.” And I didn’t know what was gonna come on the other end with his response. It was, “I know. It’s crazy. Wasn’t it?”

Jim: (Laughter).

Craig: That was it.

Jim: “I was there. I remember.”

Craig: “Yeah, I know…”

Jim: “I know. I was 3.”

Craig: But it was no big deal. “It’s crazy, wasn’t it?” And I just couldn’t believe that was all that it was for him. I called my parents, who were in Florida, and I brought it up with them. And their response was, “We don’t know what you’re talking about.” And I reminded them unto (ph) story. “We have no recollection of what you’re describing, Craig.” And it just reminded me of… the enemy loves to pile on shame like weights, rocks in a backpack. Or my picture at the time was this tight-fitting, customized, greasy, hairy fleece that was all mine, a fleece of shame that I was hiding for decades.

Jim: Yeah. Um, and again, that’s a beautiful picture of how the Lord forgives, right?

Craig: And he forgets.

Jim: And he – and forgets, and we need to remember that. But, um, you know, the folks listening, the wife that has always had this little suspicion that her husband isn’t being altogether straightforward…

Craig: Yeah (softly).

Jim: …with her. It’s a gnawing thing. Um, it may not even be – as some people are thinking of your story – yeah, OK, that’s not good that you were playing with pitchforks, but it’s not the end of the world.

Craig: There are worse stories.

Jim: There are worse stories. And there are adult-themed stories where wives are just trying to put pieces together. And part of the problem is they don’t feel that emotional intimacy, and they feel like their husbands are always hiding. And they maybe struggle with the thought that they’re hiding because they don’t want to be shamed.

Craig: Yes.

Jim: You know, so they can’t be honest about their shortcomings, whatever they might be it. Dig into that whole thing. And speak to the wife who’s recognizing that her husband may have some kind of shame, and she doesn’t know what to do with it…
Craig: Sure.

Jim: …and he doesn’t know what to do with it.

Craig: Right. It’s part of why I say in my book, “Men matter. They just don’t think so.” Men do matter. Women matter, too. But men matter in ways that are different from how women matter. We just don’t think so. And I think the primary reason is because of shame. It’s the regrets of what we have done. It’s the hidden secrets of how we treated girls in high school or the abortion we talked to our girlfriend in college into getting, and that’s remained hidden. It’s where we were on the Internet two nights ago before we went to church on Sunday morning. Men are carrying these secrets and these doubts and these regrets that are beneath the surface. And the enemy, who prowls around like a roaring lion looking to see who he can devour, convinces us that we’re defective like nobody else. Hide it. Cover up. Compensate. Nobody must ever find out this story, least of all, my wife. Because what will she do? She’ll think I’ve betrayed her, or she will think less of me. And so, the hiddenness is, just like you said. It’s just like in the garden. The very first thing the first people did was cover up, hide.

Jim: Yeah. The difficulty, though – it’s almost a vicious cycle because that vulnerability requires trust and security. And I would think that sometimes if there’s not a sense that that is there…

John: Hm.

Jim: …I don’t – this isn’t necessarily a male-female thing – but the person who has something to hide…

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: …will be very, uh, reserved about bringing something forward.

Craig: Yes.

Jim: So, let’s just speak to the marital relationship in that regard. How does a wife encourage her husband to not hide in shame, but tell me where you’re at? The irony of ironies with the counseling that we do here at Focus is, so often – it’s true; it can blow things up. But often, what will occur is, uh, for her, a deeper sense of intimacy because now we’re getting to really know each other. That would be the healthy outcome. And we can be, in essence, metaphorically naked in front of each other. And – and God knows us – right? – and now you know me.

Craig: Right.

Jim: And how do I do better in my life in all these areas that you just gave examples for?

Craig: Right.

Jim: So how do you develop that environment where you could begin to develop trust so that you can be vulnerable?

Craig: Yeah. I think it’s a step-by-step process. It’s also, in addition to the marriage relationship, it’s also true that one of the last places men will tell the truth is in church, unfortunately, but that’s just the truth. Why? Because I think I’m going to get condemned and judged. And I believe men feel the same way about their wife. “She’s right, but I’m afraid she’s going to condemn me and judge me. I can’t risk that.” What I believe wives can do is: understand your husband just might be testing the water with his toes just to see how does this go by one thing he might share or reveal. “Hey, that woman who just walked by over there at – at, uh, Burger King, I gotta admit, I was distracted by that. I’m so sorry, hun.” What’s the response? Is it going to be condemnation, or will it be grace? If it’s grace, he’s gonna be willing to say the next thing. And it’s not giving permission. But it is grace – truth and grace, truth and love.

John: Our guest today on Focus on the Family is Craig Glass. And, uh, [I] appreciate his heart. It’s captured so well in the book Noble Journey: The Quest For A Lasting Legacy. We have copies of that. And, uh, we’d invite a donation from you today when you get that book. 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Or online we’ll have details at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Craig, you say that our society needs men to get in the way.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: In air quotes, “get in the way.” What does that mean?

Craig: It means step up and speak up.

Jim: (Laughter).

Craig: Uh, I’m not the first one to discover this but the first man to me, the quintessential masculine failure is to stay passive and silent. When the first woman needed the first man to say something, do something, he was silent and passive.

Jim: Right.

Craig: All of us would have been much better off if he [had] spoke up and gotten in the way.

Jim: So why do men – why do we lean in that direction toward passivity and quietness?

Craig: Because we’re afraid we’re gonna make a mistake. We’re gonna be a – we’re afraid we’re gonna be wrong. We’re afraid of the reaction. We’re afraid. It’s fear.

Jim: So – so fear, but fear rooted in shame – that if we make the wrong move, we’ll be shamed.

Craig: Yes, and we won’t matter and our identity is compromised; our significance is compromised.

Jim: Where do we get this shame issue? I mean, where – where does that come from?

Craig: It’s from a number of different places, foremost the enemy. Foremost the enemy, who whispers dark secrets and deceit and lies. “That – that pitchfork story, Craig, you’re disqualified. You’re disqualified from ever being a spiritual leader,” for example. It’s the enemy. Uh, our culture I think

communicates shame all the time through commercials, primarily – marketing. “You’re driving that car? Why aren’t you driving this car?” “You’re still wearing that style of jeans? Why aren’t you wearing this?” “You’re using this deodorant?” Over and over again, there’s these messages that essentially say, “You don’t really measure up like the rest of us. Straighten yourself out.”

Jim: Craig, many people, uh, struggle with father wounds. We mentioned that at the opening. I kind of talked about my dad and my stepdad and my foster dad. They all had really bad habits.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: You know? And there was nothing there that really inspired me to be like them, which is so sad in this culture that – you know, those of us who are dads, don’t you want your sons and daughters to actually mean it when they give you that Father’s Day thing, which hangs on my refrigerator, which is, world’s greatest dad? I just thought this morning, “I want to be buried with that.”

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: ‘Cause I mean, that – I mean, it’s just a cheesy dollar thing. But it’s a magnet that’s on the – and I looked at it today, and I went, “I remember the day that my boys gave me that.” That’s what I want to be. I want to be the world’s greatest dad. And I can have a competitive spirit. I don’t mind that. But, I mean, yeah, let’s aim for that. And then what are the attributes of being the world’s greatest husband, the world’s greatest dad? And let’s get rid of the world and say the greatest biblical dad, the great – you know, how do we fight for those things?

Craig: Yeah, great question. A lot of people – a lot of men that I talked to, when I raise the issue of father wound, they either don’t know what I’m talking about, or they deny that they have one. And the truth is, we all do. That’s my view, is, we all do.

Jim: In part because we’re all gonna fall short.

Craig: That’s right. Every father falls short.

Jim: That’s the nature of this life.

Craig: Every father falls short.

Jim: And it’s OK. The key is knowing it.

Craig: Yes, right. I think, uh, a wonderful example of what boys and daughters needed from a father is – is what Jesus received from his father, both when he was baptized and the mount of transfiguration. And the words are essentially the same in both settings. “This is my son” – acceptance – “whom I love” – affection. “With him I’m well pleased” – affirmation. “Listen to him” – anointing.

Jim: (Laughter) That’s good.

Craig: I love that. That’s what we were built for, to long for from a father. The dad we got, as good as he might have been, didn’t quite measure up to that. That’s the father wound.

Jim: Let me ask you, is there a boundary issue here? Can you – obviously, it’s rhetorical. You can be a really bad dad.

Craig: Sure.

Jim: Can you – can you concentrate so much to be a really good dad that you’re not doing some things well?

Craig: One of the best gifts I was ever given was a man that I respected as a father, he said, “Craig, you’ll never be a perfect dad. Let go of that. But you’ll be a good enough dad.”

Jim: I like that.

Craig: I like that. I can be a good enough dad. I will – I will make mistakes. I know the secrets about me. But I can be a good enough dad.

Jim: Yeah. You shared another story in your book about an ice cream shop…

Craig: Yeah (laughter).

Jim: …And something that happened there.

Craig: You know all the stories.

Jim: Well, I do ‘cause you put them in your book.

(LAUGHTER)

Jim: But what happened at the ice cream shop? I – I think this…

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: In fact, I thought about doing this with one of my sons after I read your book.

Craig: Yeah. Thank you. One of our sons – at the time, he was 11 or 12. My wife and I were noticing, uh, he was seeming – not wanting to go to school, sort of depressed or just sullen. Uh, his grades were dropping. And one day, my wife came to me with the telephone bill with a 900-number charge on it. I don’t even know if there still are 900 numbers, but back then – this is 25 years ago – that meant a pornography or a…

Jim: Phone call, right?

Craig: Yeah, sex…

Jim: Got it.

Craig: …Sex call. And Beryl said, “Do you know anything about this?” And I was relieved to immediately say, “I’ve no idea where that came from” and then caught myself. It’s one of the boys. And so, I was afraid it was this same son. I had no idea what I was going to say to him about any of these things, but we went to Baskin-Robbins. Ice cream helps anything go down. And I just started with, ”Hey, pal. I want to let you know, when I was 12, I was abandoned by two of my best friends who never spoke to me again. I was exposed to pornography in my friend’s garage that was 3 feet high and felt shame about what I was looking a. And I didn’t want to go to school again.” And when I shared that, it gave him – I just saw him respond entirely differently. He opened up and started telling me, “Hey, the 900 number, it was my friend. He was over at our house. He talked me into doing it. I’m so sorry, dad. We didn’t even listen to it. Two of my friends are criticizing me at school because they say I stole other people’s CD’s. I don’t want to show up again, and it’s bothering me.”

Jim: Huh.

Craig: But I was able to get him to tell me the truth by telling my story first, and I – I found a principle that night. Tell your own story first. Start with your story.

John: Mmm.

Craig: And he opened up. And by the way, when we walked out of the ice cream shop, he said, “Dad, it’s good to get this off our chests.”

Jim: (Laughter) Ah, that’s – man to man.

Craig: Yeah, yeah.

Jim: But it is good. And, you know, we mentioned that in the marital relationship. It’s true in the parenting relationship, too…

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: …Where you develop that sense of trust so that your kids can talk with you.

Craig: Absolutely.

Jim: Um, it’s so important. Hey, let’s briefly talk, uh, through the four A’s…

Craig: Hmm.

Jim: …That boys need from their dads. That’s kind of the spine of the book. What are those four A’s?

Craig: Those four A’s – acceptance. This is my son – or my daughter, by the way. Affection – I love her. I love him. Affirmation – I’m proud of him, not just for what he does, but who he is – character qualities…

Jim: Right.

Craig: …Not just behavior. And anointing – listen to him. Watch this.

Jim: So really, what the father in heaven, what you said a moment ago…

Craig: He said all those things.

Jim: …He said to Jesus or about Jesus…

Craig: Yes.

Jim: ….Right? His son.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: That is so good. Um, Craig, I’m also mindful of the single-parent mom.

Craig: Mmm.

Jim: …And maybe a single parent dad, but certainly a single-parent mom or particularly single-parent mom, where, you know, for whatever reason there’s no father in their child’s life…

Craig: Yes.

Jim: What can she do? What… where can she find that affirmation?

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: …And all the A’s that you’re talking about when she feels like, “I can’t provide those”?

Craig: She’s exceptionally important in the son’s life – no getting around it. She’s the mom. And so, from her, he receives love and affection and so many of the things that all of us children need. What he also needs is for his mom to understand at a certain point – and it might be 12; it might be 16 – that he needs something she can’t give him anymore – still love. She’s still the mom. But he now needs the voice of a man in his life one way or another. Maybe it’s a Boy Scout guy. Maybe it’s a Sunday school teacher, a youth leader, a pastor, a coach, whoever it is, some masculine voice that says, “You’re in.” I’m not the only one to say women can give men many, many wonderful gifts, wonderful gifts. The one thing they can’t give a man is to convince him he’s a man.

John: Mm-hm.

Craig: It’s the voice of a man convinces another man he’s a man.

Jim: (Unintelligible).

Craig: And so, I like to refer to Mary, Jesus’ mother, and Hannah, Samuel’s mother, who both understood, “I need to release my son into the masculine world to learn from older men. I’ll still be the mom, but a man needs to be speaking into his life.”

Jim: In fact, Craig, uh, these things are connected. You had a story in your – in your book, um, about the need for community…

Craig: Yes.

Jim: …How important community is.

Craig: Yes.

Jim: And when we don’t have that, for a variety of reasons…

Craig: Right.

Jim: …It usually puts us in a dangerous situation.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: Um, you learned about that danger and that issue of isolation during, I think, a time when you were doing some Bible smuggling.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: So, you can maybe describe what that’s all about and then one of your co-hearts (ph) and what happened to them when they were arrested.

Craig: Yeah, it was, again, one those life-changing experiences for me. Beryl and I were on a team smuggling Bibles behind the Iron Curtain.

Jim: Beryl’s your wife.

Craig: Beryl is my wife.

Jim: Yeah.

Craig: Uh, living in Vienna, Austria – neutral country, but surrounded on the outside by the satellite communist countries. And we went on a regular basis to these countries with vehicles – usually vans, sometimes cars – with hidden compartments, hiding Bibles and pastoral materials. Uh, we did that for four years – unbelievable experience. But one of my best friends was from Finland. His name was Aleks, uh – sharp, solid, spiritually mature, just, uh – the guy who you would want your kids to turn out like. Your sons to turn out like. He went on a trip by himself to the Soviet Union that – at the time – late in December. He had just finished final exams and papers at the University of Vienna. Went late at night, got to the border at the Soviet Union. They took his vehicle, which was a car with a very, very, very secret, hidden, concealed compartment. They tore the whole car apart and found the Bibles…

Jim: Mmm hmm.

Craig: …Hidden in the gas tank.

Jim: Mmm.

Craig: Found 200 Bibles. And then they interrogated him. They kept him for 48 hours, kept him awake, interrogated him, shamed him. “You say your God is a god of love and kindness. You are not being loving and kind to us” – all of those sorts of things.

Jim: Mmm hmm.

Craig: Eventually, he gave up everything he knew. He said everything that he knew. He gave every name away that he knew of those of us back in Vienna, but he knew most of us by code names. The only thing he knew of me was, I was Peter. That’s why we had code names. Eventually, he came back to Vienna, and I had some time with him. And I said, “Aleks, you’re one of the strongest physical, mental, and spiritual men I know. How did they break you?” He said “Easy – three things. I was tired, I was confused, and I was alone. That’s all it took to break me.” And I know that that’s true for us men. We are tired. We’re exhausted. What we need is encouragement. We’re confused much of the time. How do we respond to our 16-year-old daughters? How do we respond to the boss who’s trying to tell us to cut the corners? We need clarity from Scripture, and many of us feel alone – not lonely, necessarily, but isolated.

Jim: Yeah.

Craig: And we need community. That’s where we need community from other men who remind us who we are and what we believe.

Jim: Well, and I think you’ve described very well the – the complicating factors of being a man today. But right here at the end, let’s ask you to remind each of us, what is that given purpose and value that men bring?

Craig: Yeah. Um, I have to say, women matter, too. Women matter just as much as men do. But I work with men, and I know what it feels like to be a guy. We need to overcome the lie of shame. And we need to understand that by God’s design – and we read it in Scripture. We men reflect the masculine nature of how God presented himself, and especially Jesus told the story of the prodigal son father.

Jim: Mmm.

Craig: I want to be that guy. And we reflect the example that Jesus gave of what it looks like to be a man – compassionate and confident…

Jim: Mmm.

Craig: …Kind to women, leader of men.

Jim: Yeah.

Craig: That’s what we’re called to be. We follow those examples.

Jim: Well, that’s a great summary of what we’ve talked about today – pretty wide-ranging. But this is it. This is, you know, the great issue of men.

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: …That idea of shame and how we overcome that and conquer, in a healthy way, the spiritual, emotional issues that we face…

Craig: Yeah.

Jim: …In ourselves and in our family, and it’s a great call to action. Uh, Craig, your story has been powerful. Your observations have been equally powerful. Thank you for being with us today.

Craig: It’s a pleasure to be with you.

Closing:

John: And we’ll encourage you to get in touch if we can be of any service. Um, it may be that we’ve opened up a wound. We’ve addressed a shortcoming that you feel desperately needs to be talked about, but you don’t know where to turn. We have caring Christian counselors here on staff, and it would be a privilege for us to talk with you. Our number is 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY. Certainly, online, we have a find-a-counselor tool, and we have Craig’s book, Noble Journey: The Quest For A Lasting Legacy, and, uh, other resources as well. focusonthefmaily.com/broadcast.

Jim: John, let me remind the listeners, if you can provide a donation of any amount to help us in the ministry here at Focus on the Family, we’ll send you a copy of Craig’s book, Noble Journey, as our way of saying thank you, and that may be a monthly gift or one-time gift. Either way, we’ll do that to recognize your partnership with us.

John: Yeah. Your financial contributions really make a big difference in, uh – in how we go about our work providing resources to families around the world. So please give generously today as you can. Our number again – 800, the letter A and the word FAMILY.

John: And coming up next time, what do you do when your marriage turns hopeless?

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Jeremy Lee: It drove me to just sort of, when I pulled away to myself, that I just felt like, wait a second. I’m not happy. This marriage is not happy. You know, at some point, we … I’m better off not being here.

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Cynthia Wenz shares her incredible testimony of discovering God’s love and forgiveness. As a teenager, Cynthia lived recklessly and strayed away from the Lord. By age 29, she had three abortions, numbing herself from the reality of killing her children. After realizing her mistakes, Cynthia became pro-life and experienced many years of turmoil and grief before undergoing post-abortion recovery. She now advocates for pregnancy resource centers across the nation. (Part 2 of 2)

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How I Found God Through My Abortion Journey (Part 1 of 2)

Cynthia Wenz shares her incredible testimony of discovering God’s love and forgiveness. As a teenager, Cynthia lived recklessly and strayed away from the Lord. By age 29, she had three abortions, numbing herself from the reality of killing her children. After realizing her mistakes, Cynthia became pro-life and experienced many years of turmoil and grief before undergoing post-abortion recovery. She now advocates for pregnancy resource centers across the nation. (Part 1 of 2)

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Embracing Hope and Love After a Loss

Dr. Gary Chapman and Candy McVicar describe the grief process and offer practical help & comfort to couples who have experienced infant loss.

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Offering encouragement found in her book Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World That Loves to be Noticed, Sara Hagerty describes how we can experience God in ordinary, everyday moments, and how we can find our identity in Him apart from what we do.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

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Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

Bundle of Why Your Kids Misbehave

Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!