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Marital Communication

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Contrasts in Communication

In marriage, it’s very common for you and your spouse to have opposite communication styles. As our differences become more evident, it’s easy for us to misunderstand each other. John and the Smalleys provide some helpful ideas for communicating verbally and nonverbally with your spouse.

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At Home With the Smalleys

Join Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley on Facebook Live as they share ideas and insights to strengthen your relationship.

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Reconnected: The Digital Experience

“I feel completely disconnected and alone. I love you and I’m committed to our marriage, but I feel like we’re nothing more than married roommates.”Is this your marriage? Married roommates. Two people — sharing the same house … the same bed. But missing out on what matters most.Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley know the feeling. …

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What Does Your Spouse Really Want for Christmas?

Give the best gift you’ll ever give, which is what your spouse really wants, and you want to give . . . whether you know it or not.

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Marriage Meditation — Don’t Go to Bed Angry

Don’t go to be angry. You’ve heard it before. Why is it important? The Bible has much to say about anger and the damage it causes a marriage.

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The First Year of Marriage as an Interracial Couple

Every married person knows there’s a learning curve as newlyweds work to become one. For interracial couples, the curve may be steeper.

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Marriage Meditation – Adjusting to Your Spouse’s Personality

Couples often say one of their toughest challenges is adjusting to their spouse’s personality. Sound familiar? If so, here’s help.

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Marriage Meditation – Love Is a Verb

Marriage begins with a promise to love. But promises are empty words unless the couple acts on them. Love is a verb. It requires action.

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Family Crisis — Continue Holding on to Each Other

Your decisions now can help you prepare for future crises

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Rebuilding Trust After Your Spouse Shares Personal Information

What could be the impact of sharing intimate details about your spouse without their blessing? And what can you do about it after it happens?

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Marriage Meditation — The Fruit of the Spirit Is Self-Control

Getting Started Watch today’s Marriage Meditation video.Read today’s marriage devotion.Share today’s question with your spouse. https://youtu.be/LLEIEYRmMdg Today’s Devotion Scripture Reading Galatians 5:22-23 — “The fruit of the Spirit is … self-control.”2 Timothy 1:7 — “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”Titus 2:11-12 — “For the grace of …

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Marriage Meditation – The Fruit of the Spirit Is Faithfulness

The fruit of the Spirit is faithfulness. Faithfulness means more than keeping your wedding vows. It involves being consistent, reliable and trustworthy.

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Helping Your Spouse When They’re Overwhelmed

Your spouse is the one person with whom you can be truly honest and still feel seen and cared for. What do you do when your spouse is overwhelmed?

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And They Lived Happily Ever After …

We might laugh at Hollywood’s ideas about marriage, but movies have the capacity to both undermine and inspire our relationships.

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Un-Quarantining: 8 Important Questions to Ask Your Spouse

It’s time to start gradually getting back to normal. What are your and your spouse’s expectations for this next stage? And how do you readjust — yet again?

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A Marriage Meditation: Kind Words

Kind words are important to our marriage. We can use words that encourage our spouse or we can use words that hurt them. Which words will you choose?

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Words That Build Trust in a Marriage

The words we use can be a key factor in building trust. Recognize their power for change, and they become powerful tools in your relationship.

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A Marriage Meditation: Time

Your marriage needs commitment. Especially a commitment to time with your spouse. Make the most of the little moments and watch your marriage grow.

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How the Coronavirus Can Change Your Marriage … for the Better

Many couples are dealing with difficult issues caused by the coronavirus. But it’s possible to build a stronger marriage by adopting new habits.