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In the business of life, couples in blended families often stop connecting through shared leisure time. They simply spend their time on other things. But, wise remarried couples recognize the importance of leisure, and they maximize their fun-factor.

Before marriage, most couples spend regular time engaging in fun, entertaining activity together. In fact, that’s one way they fall in love with each other. Blended family couples tend to date each other without the children and to engage in leisurely activities that facilitate emotional bonding. But, after the wedding, half of couples struggle to find enough leisure time together. They are missing the fun-factor.

Ty and Andrea met on the tennis court. Every Saturday for a couple months, they secretly watched each other practice and play in an intramural country club league. Finally, Ty asked Andrea to play a match, and the rest was history. Eventually, they discovered a shared passion for sports, which became a central hub of their time together. Once they married, however, the struggle for Ty and Andrea – and lots of other couples – became maintaining their couple fun in the midst of their complex blended family.

Road Blocks to Shared Leisure Time

Sometimes a spouse’s ideas of the definition of a good time is a barrier to shared fun. Nearly 33 percent of couples just don’t agree as to what is recreational.Deal, R.L. & Olson, D.H., National Survey of Couples Creating Stepfamilies. Visit SmartStepfamilies.com for details.

Another block to shared leisure time relates to personality differences of partners. Some people are more outgoing and seek social connections while their partner has less of a need for socializing.

One possible resolution for couples whose ideas of fun or personality preferences vary is to find the balance between allowing for individual recreation and making sacrifices which seek a common pleasure.

Ed and Virginia have very different interests. He enjoys golf and restoring his vintage sports car. Virginia, on the other hand, would prefer to window shop every chance she gets. For two years, the couple went their separate ways, but, eventually, they decided that if they were going to find time together sacrifices would have to be made. For example, last weekend when Virginia’s kids were at their father’s house, Ed decided to go shopping with Virginia – something that was much appreciated by his wife. Ed’s willingness to occasionally join his wife while shopping results in a positive marital exchange. Ed doesn’t shop because he enjoys it; he does it because it pleases his wife and strengthens their bond. His sacrificial heart brings about a shared smile.

Maximizing the Fun-Factor

Strong blended marriages have an active, shared leisure life. When definitions of fun differ, partners, like Ed, seek a balance between giving one another the freedom to pursue individual interests and making sacrifices so they can spend time together. Other couples just naturally share the same idea of what’s fun, and they pursue it on a regular basis.

Todd and Jennifer have similar ideas of what is fun or relaxing. Because Todd and Jennifer enjoy gardening together, they talk about frequently and look forward to the next time they can get in the garden. Jennifer says getting in her garden with Todd is like taking a mini-vacation away from the stresses of daily living. And, the anticipation of spending a few hours together extends the shared positive feelings beyond actually being in the garden.

Another strength of healthy couples is not letting individual interests interfere with couples experiences. For a vast majority of strong couples, leisure time together takes precedence over individual interests. This is not to say that healthy couples don’t ever have individual interests; 79 percent of them respect each other’s unique interests and find a balance between leisure time spent separately and together.Ibid.

But, they work to ensure that individual time doesn’t come at the expense of the marriage. However, 44 percent of unhealthy couples feel that one or both of the partners indulge themselves to the detriment of the relationship.

All work and no play may make Jack a dull boy, but that’s only the beginning. It makes Jack and Jill’s marriage pretty dull, too. Fun, friendship and romance is likely how your relationship got started. Be sure to intentionally keep it an active part of your relationship forever.


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