The Rosatis discovered there were plenty of kids in need of families right in their community.
We were stunned to learn that there were children in our own state, indeed in our own neighborhood, who were trapped in foster care awaiting adoptive families.
My husband, John, and I had long been passionate about adoption, but learning about these needy kids gave us a clear calling. Over the next eight years, we brought home four children – two girls and two boys.
Of course, just because God has called you to something doesn’t mean it’s going to go as you might expect or hope. We have had many challenges with connection and bonding and with other behaviors that accompany children who have experienced neglect or abuse.
But we recognized early on that we couldn’t isolate ourselves. We cried out to God. We sought help from family, friends and even professionals.
It’s interesting how our perspective on parenting has shifted. We’ve learned that often the most effective way to deal with our kids’ upsetting behavior might appear to be overly compassionate, running against our “normal” parenting instincts. But I’m always reminding myself that I’m dealing not so much with defiance in need of discipline, but pain in need of healing.
Kelly Rosati was the Focus on the Family Vice President of Advocacy for Children, where she served as the ministry spokesperson on child advocacy issues. She oversaw efforts that include the Adoption and Orphan Care Initiative, Option Ultrasound and community care outreach. Prior to joining Focus, Kelly served as the executive director of Hawaii Family Forum where she advocated for …