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Preschool Kleptomaniac

How can we stop our four-year-old from stealing? It seems like everywhere we go-church, stores, museums, friends' houses-he walks out with something that doesn't belong to him. I have a feeling that he's just being irresponsible-that he puts things in his pocket and then forgets about them. My husband and I have talked to him several times about why this behavior is wrong. We've told him what the Bible has to say about stealing. We've even tried punishing him. But he keeps on doing it. What should we do now?

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Son's Girlfriend Is Pregnant: Marriage As a Possible Solution

Should our son be encouraged to marry his pregnant girlfriend? It's a regrettable situation, but at least she's planning to keep and raise the baby. Both of them are emotionally immature, financially dependent, and basically ill-equipped to establish themselves as a family. In spite of this, some of our Christian friends have suggested that he marry the girl and "make an honest woman of her." What advice can you offer?

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Teenage Son's Girlfriend Is Pregnant, Wants to Raise Baby

How can we persuade our son and his girlfriend to think more seriously about what they're going to do with the baby they've conceived? They're both eighteen, and neither one of them wants to give up the child for adoption. What should we do about this? My son just graduated from high school, and in five day's he'll be leaving for college. Most of my friends and mentors have recommended adoption as the solution to this dilemma, but he doesn't like that idea. Meanwhile, I'm providing all of his financial support, and neither one of us knows how he's going to support a baby. Do you have any suggestions?

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Daughter Pregnant, Boyfriend Wants Abortion

What should I say to my daughter whose boyfriend is pressuring her to have an abortion after getting her pregnant? She's looking to me for support and guidance, but this situation has me so upset that I don't know what to tell her. Can you offer any advice?

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Exploring Options for an Unwed Pregnant Teen

Can you help me advise my unwed pregnant daughter? She's too young to care for a baby. What's more, her whole life is still ahead of her, and I feel strongly that we should do everything in our power to help her salvage her hopes and dreams for the future. What do you think she should do: put the baby up for adoption, parent the child herself, or have an abortion?

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Parenting a Son Whose Girlfriend Is Pregnant

How should we respond to our teenage son who has gotten his girlfriend pregnant? He's seventeen and she's sixteen. It's difficult to admit this to anyone. What does he most need to hear from us?

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Parenting a Pregnant Teen

How should we respond to our teenage daughter who has no desire to be a part of our family after becoming pregnant?

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Maintaining Relationships With Children After a Divorce

Now that I'm divorced, how can I stay involved with my kids? One of the most difficult outcomes of the settlement is that it limits my contact with them. Legally, I'm only allowed to have them a few days out of each month. I'd like to be more involved, but my ex-wife is very strict in her interpretation of the court order. How, under these circumstances, can I continue to have a godly influence in my children's lives?

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Home School vs. Private School: Financial Considerations

Should money play a role in our decision on where to send our kids to school? We don't feel that the public schools are an option for our children's education, so we're left with a choice between home schooling and a private Christian school. Can you help us find our way?

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Schooling Options

Can you help us decide on a strategy for giving our child the best possible education? Our daughter is ready to start school, and we want her to get her moving in the right direction. What kind of options and alternatives are available to us?

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Choosing a Preschool

What should we look for in selecting a suitable preschool or playgroup for our child? We're thinking about putting our daughter in a facility of this kind two or three days a week. There are so many options to choose from, and it's hard to know whom we can trust.

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Educating a Gifted Preschooler on a Limited Budget

How can we encourage and promote our young child's love for learning when we don't have the money for preschool? She already knows how to read and she's curious about everything. I'm not sure that I'm equipped to homeschool a child of her ability. What do you suggest we do?

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Delayed Speech Development in Preschooler

How can I find a trustworthy source to diagnose and treat my young child's deficient speech and language skills? He's way behind his peers in this area, and I'm especially concerned because he's supposed to start school next fall. How do I talk to him about this without making him feel abnormal?

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Home Schooling a Child With Learning Disabilities

Is it a good idea to try to educate a child with a developmental or potential learning disability at home? I want my son to have every possible advantage and to progress as he should, but I'm not sure I'm qualified to help him with his special needs.

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Coping With Infertility

Do you have any advice or words of encouragement for couples who are having difficulty conceiving a child? My spouse and I are both in our mid-thirties. We waited to have children until our careers were established. We've been trying for nearly a year to get pregnant, still without result. Are we doing something wrong? Is God punishing us?

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Medical Options for Infertility

Do you think that couples who are having difficulty conceiving should see a doctor who specializes in treating infertility? After trying unsuccessfully for over a year to get pregnant, my spouse and I are wondering if it would be worth seeing a physician to help us conceive a child.

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ADHD and Lack of Focus in School

Should we be worried that our child is having trouble paying attention and sticking with her assignments in the classroom? We don't think this is ADHD because she can sit for hours in front of the computer or the television without being distracted. Is this kind of behavior common among kids in the elementary grades?

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Evaluating a Possible Diagnosis of ADHD

How can I tell if my child really has ADHD? She is struggling in school, and her teacher has told us that she exhibits some of the symptoms of ADHD. I have serious concerns about the over-diagnosis of this condition and the over-medication of many kids today. Do you think I should take the teacher's observations seriously?

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Dealing With a Defiant Child

How do I handle a kid whose behavior ranges from telling me to "shut up" to slamming a door on her younger sister to trying to steal money from my wallet? My daughter is the classic "defiant child." She hates school, has trouble getting along with friends, and frequently disobeys her teacher. I'm worried about her future. What should I do?

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Controlling Kids' Video Game Usage

Should I permit my child to play video games? If I do decide to let video games into my home, which games should I allow and how can I maintain control over the kind of gaming in which my child becomes involved?

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Keeping Valentine's Day Positive for Kids

Can you give me any ideas for helping children celebrate Valentine's Day in a healthy and uplifting way? I always loved February 14 when I was a kid, and I'd like my kids to have the same experience. But I don't want to reinforce our culture's misguided ideas about romance. Any suggestions?

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Parents Concerned About Son Joining a College Fraternity

Should a college freshman join a fraternity? Our son is in his first year at the university, and he wants to pledge to a fraternity on his campus. I don't know much about fraternities, and I'm not sure what to think. What is your perspective on this?

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Clinging Mom Afraid to Release College-Age Child

Can you help me "let go" of my son who is heading off to college? I'm worried about the challenges he'll be facing on his own - challenges to his faith and his moral values, not to mention the practical challenges of living on his own for the first time. We've always been a close-knit family, and sometimes the thought of seeing him go is almost too much for me. In fact, I've been lying awake nights thinking about this. How can I deal with this transition?

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Child Can't Sleep After Watching a Scary Movie

How can we help our preschooler overcome his fears and get to sleep at night after watching a disturbing "kids' movie" we got from the library? He's been hysterical at bedtime ever since viewing this film and keeps us up half the night because he won't go to sleep alone. What can we do about this?

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