Teaching Thankfulness

Wooden heart hanging from string on a door
Cary Bates/Focus on the Family

When children are very young, it's easy to remind them to say, "Thank you," but as kids grow, so does their need to say more than a quick thanks. Their challenge is to develop a thankful heart. The following ideas are intentional ways to help your children grow in the area of gratitude: 

Thank You Box

My kids used to complain about writing thank-you notes for birthday and Christmas gifts. To make this a fun task instead of a chore, my husband and I filled a shoebox with many kinds of blank notes and inexpensive thank-you cards, along with crafting odds and ends. To motivate them to use these materials, they had to send their thank-you notes after opening their gifts but before playing with them. This helped them get right to the task.

—Sarah Nuss

Nurturing Thankful Hearts

Over the years, I've pushed and pestered my kids to appreciate all that God has given them, but my tactics were mostly unfruitful and frustrating. That all changed when I encouraged my kids to practice gratitude with a Blessings Book.

I folded five pieces of copy paper in half and put a folded piece of construction paper around them for a cover. Once I'd stapled the spine, my children were able to title and decorate it.

At least once a week, they made an entry, describing a blessing, an answered prayer, happy news or a fun activity. I was surprised at how quickly the book filled up. This simple activity helped my kids realize how blessed they are and cultivated thankful hearts.

—Kathryn O'Brien

Heart of Gratitude

Before my four daughters were old enough to write thank-you notes, I wanted to find another way for them to express gratitude. So I decorated a hanging wooden heart and wrote "thank you" in the middle. I explained that we would hang the heart on the bedroom door of any child caught doing good, as a reminder of our thankfulness for their decision. I was amazed how quickly the girls grasped the concept. The heart was soon making a daily trip around the house:

"Thank you, Sophia, for playing blocks with me."

"Thank you, Alexa, for helping me pour milk on my cereal."

"Thank you, Mom, for not getting mad when I was naughty."

Each night we return the heart to its downstairs cupboard. One night before prayers, a daughter placed it on the shelf where we keep our Scriptures. "Thank You, God, for everything."

—Julie Reece-DeMarco

Gratitude Triggers

My kids and I drive past a billboard for a local home builder every day. When we were in the process of buying a new home, that billboard became a regular reminder for us to pray about the process and ask for God's guidance and help. After we bought the house and moved in, I realized that habit shouldn't change just because our prayers had been answered. Now that same billboard acts as a "gratitude trigger." It reminds us how much we have to be thankful for. When we see it, we thank God not only for our new home, but for the many other blessings He's given us, as well. Ask your kids to help select things you encounter in everyday life that can become gratitude triggers for your family. Anything from a red light, to a certain road sign, to a barking dog or a particular song on the radio can serve as a reminder to give thanks to God.

—Diane Stark

A Lesson in Gratitude

When my family shops for school supplies, we buy an extra backpack and fill it with supplies for a child in need. We pray for the student receiving it, put in a special note and then drop it off at a local charity that is collecting back-to-school donations. My son loves doing this, and it helps him understand how blessed he is.

—Ilene Martin

Teach Thankfulness

Make it a point to express gratitude in the presence of your toddlers. You might say, "Thank You, Jesus, for the beautiful fall colors — the red and yellow and purple leaves." Or while you're in the checkout line at the grocery store say, "Thanks, Jesus, that we can buy this yummy food." In this way, they're recognizing that Jesus is involved in the details around them. Children will learn from your simple behavior to be thankful to Jesus for His daily care and provision.

—T.F. Edwords

This fully compiled article of “Teaching Thankfulness” first appeared on FocusOnTheFamily.com in 2017. "Thank You Box" first appeared in the October/November 2017 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. "Nurturing Thankful Hearts" first appeared in the October/November 2016 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. "Heart of Gratitude" and "Gratitude Triggers" first appeared in the October/November 2014 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "A Lesson in Gratitude" first appeared in the August/September 2012 issue of Thriving Family magazineIf you enjoyed this article, read more like it in Focus on the Family's marriage and parenting magazine. Get it delivered to your home by subscribing to it for a gift of any amount.

“Teaching Thankfulness” compiled as presented here first appeared © 2017 by Focus on the Family. "Thank You Box" © 2017 by Sarah Nuss. "Nurturing Thankful Hearts" © 2016 by Kathryn O'Brien. "Heart of Gratitude" © 2014 by Julie Reece-DeMarco. "Gratitude Triggers" © 2014 by Diane Stark. "A Lesson in Gratitude" © 2012 by Ilene Martin. "Teach Thankfulness" is © 2012 by Focus on the Family. Used by permission.

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