“Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:1-2
Counseling for Sexual Identity Concerns: A Measured, Careful, and Compassionate approach
A Focus on the Family statement regarding professional therapies.
When Transgender Issues Enter Your World
This free, downloadable resource helps you understand transgenderism in the culture and explains the Christian perspective of “gender ideology.” It also offers guidance for how to respond well when transgender issues affect your child’s school, your private space or your family.
Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast – Listen now: Becoming the Woman God Made Me to Be
Linda Seiler tells her remarkable story of finding healing in Christ and restoration of her identity as a woman after many years of struggle with gender confusion, same-sex attraction and pornography addiction.
Helping Children with Gender Identity Confusion
This question-and-answer document offers guidance for parents or family members faced with questions about gender confusion in a child they know and love. This thorough introduction also concludes with additional resources and links.
Help for Parents, Families & Individuals
Our God is awesome and mighty in grace, truth and power. He is with us in our times of question and need. These links are aimed to help those seeking hope, direction and connection with Christian materials and organizations that offer biblical compassion and information on this topic.
Resources for Transgenderism and Gender Confusion
While we hold to biblical truth about male and female differences, we also reach out with biblical redemption and healing. This referral list is a starting point for individuals, families and churches affected by transgenderism.
Talking to Your Children About Transgender Issues
When this topic comes up in your home, be ready to have an informed conversation that educates your children with a calm, caring and truth-filled response.
‘Trading My Sorrows’ – A Story of Healing from Transgenderism
Walt Heyer struggled for years with the desire to dress in woman’s clothes and to be a woman. Read the heartening article about God’s grace, healing and forgiveness in his life.
Answering Parents’ Questions on Gender Confusion in Children
Glenn Stanton, Director of Family Formation Studies at Focus on the Family, answers basic questions about parenting and gender-confusion in children. In addition to this brief article, his book gives guidance for parents helping their children develop into Secure Daughters and Confident Sons. Likewise, this audio from our broadcast offers helpful information for parents who wish to nurture a healthy gender identity in their children.
Reinforce Your Child’s Sexual Identity
Parents can seize everyday opportunities to affirm their child with affection and for who God made them.
Reliable Resources for Teaching Children About Marriage, Sexuality and Homosexuality
The resources shown here will give guidance and equip parents as they teach children about healthy sexuality, marriage and God’s design for the body.
Focus on The Family Daily Broadcasts on sexuality, gender and identity:
- “Becoming the Woman God Made Me to Be” (Listen Now & Web Extras)
- “Nurturing a Healthy Gender Identity in Your Child” (Part 1 & Part 2)
- “What’s Really True About You”(Part 1 & Part 2)
- “Accepting My True Identity In Christ” (Part 1 & Part 2)
- “Navigating Sexual Sin to Find Your Identity in Christ” (Part 1 & Part 2)
- “When Your Child Struggles With Sexual Identity”(Part 1 & Part 2)
It’s difficult to understand the quickly evolving nature of this issue which questions something as basic as being male or female. These articles help readers think about God’s design and biblical beliefs with reason, grace and love.
Talking to Your Children About Transgender Issues
Focus on the Family wants to help parents navigate this topic, so we’ve developed helpful guidelines and suggestions for addressing transgender issues with your children. (Spanish version available)
What is “Gender Identity”?
This article helps us understand the basic history and current cultural usage of this and other related terms.
What Does That Mean? Understanding Transgender Terminology
Although the use and creation of terms are ever-evolving, this list offers a starting point. Words are strategically used by gender-bending advocates to cause youth and society to have “new concepts” and possibilities. Educated awareness without fully adopting these concepts is important.
Male and Female He Created Them: Genesis and God’s Vision for the Sexes
This article explains how God designed humans, in His image and likeness, male and female.
Male and Female: By Design
This series of articles explains how “gender ideology” affects our culture and public policy, describes God’s creation of humanity male and female in His image, details some biological differences between men and women, and tells about the spiritual component of this issue.
“Transgenderism” Brings Chaos from Order
A helpful article which explains the transgender agenda and gives examples of this growing movement’s impact on our culture — from education to entertainment and from restrooms to the runway.
Transgenderism – Our Position
At Focus on the Family, gender matters to us, because it matters to God. In our growing secularized and “multi-gendered” culture, we encourage you to create your own position and values statements, so you, too, can stand firm in your beliefs when you’re called on to defend them.
Why Male and Female Matter
From the Day of Dialogue website, this series of articles is suitable for teens and parents exploring God’s design for us and why it matters for relationships with others, bringing up children, and our relationship with God.
What About Intersexuality?
Although frequently confused, intersexuality is quite different from transgenderism. This article briefly explains the issues and offers suggestions for a Christian response.
Fifty years ago, no one would’ve thought that the reality of humanity’s division into two sexes — male and female — would be questioned, much less under attack in our nation’s policies. Yet that’s the world we now live in. These articles and resources help you navigate this issue and take action in support of freedoms, parental rights, privacy and safety.
Transgenderism: Blurring the Lines
This article gives a broad overview of the issue, including:
- Examples of gender identity disorder affecting the culture,
- Possible influencing factors for children to believe they are the opposite sex,
- Treatment of gender identity disorder in children,
- The roots of the transgender activist movement and an explanation of its ideology, and,
- A basic understanding of God’s design for two sexes.
Desensitizing Society on Transgenderism
This short article gives numerous examples of the transgender movement’s impact on our culture, classrooms and legislation.
This series includes the following articles for concerned families:
- Keeping Your Family Safe in Public Restrooms
- What Is ‘Gender Identity’?
- Who is Included in the ‘Transgender Umbrella?’
- Do ‘Gender Identity’ Laws Affect Me and My Family?
- How Did We Get To This Gender-Confused Place?
What Does that Mean? Understanding Transgender Terminology
“Cisgender?” “Gender-queer?” “Intersex?” While the terms seem to change on a daily basis, this short list helps bring some clarity to the issue.
Why This School is OK with a Man Exposing Himself to Young Girls
Jim Daly’s blog tells the story of a girls swim team using the women’s locker room at a local college. The college could not stop a naked man, who believes he’s a woman, from also using the facilities.
Gender-Confusing Messages in Schools
This downloadable resource provides invaluable advice for parents whose children are exposed to the transgender agenda in education.
Our True Tolerance™ website gives other helpful information and resources for parents dealing with the homosexual and transgender activism in schools. Learn how to respond to these issues with grace and truth.
The Impact of Adding LGBT to Nondiscrimination Laws
What happens when new rights are created based on a person’s “gender identity” and “gender expression”? This article gives clear examples of freedoms threatened and innocence lost, and is part of a series on growing threats to religious freedom, along with a downloadable resource, Religious Freedom, Protecting How We Practice Our Faith.
Doctors speak out: Lupron and the ‘Diabolical’ push to sterilize, gender-transition confused kids
This article speaks about a push to put children confused about their bodies on puberty suppressants and hormone blockers like Lupron to change their physical sex. While referenced here, this writing is not completely endorsed by Focus on the family. The information may be useful to our readers for purposes of understanding this issue and furthering personal research.
Parenting – Q&A’s
- Concerns About A Boy Developing Healthy Masculine Traits
- Concerned about Young Son’s Masculinity
- Dealing with Transgender Issues in Elementary Schools
- Discussing Transgender Issues with Teens
- Gentle and Sensitive Boy
- Helping a Teen Boy Become a Man
- Helping a Teen Girl Become a Woman
- How Gender Distinctions Affect Parenting
- Opposite-Sex Parent-Child Relationships
- Parent Concerned about Teen’s Future Sexual Identity
- Parent Concerned about Tomboyish Tendencies in Daughter
- Parents Raising A Boy as A Girl
- Parents Responding to Child Who Wants to Be the Opposite Sex
- Parents Responding to Teen Who Wants to Be the Opposite Sex
- Same-Sex Socialization and Toddlers
- Support for Parent Whose Adult Child Identifies as Transgender
- Talking to Kids About Sexual Identity
- Three-Year-Old Boy Plays Dress-Up With Sisters
Identity – Q&A’s
- Feminine “Preferences” and Male Sexual Identity
- Questioning one’s own sexual identity
- Struggling with Temptations and Identity
- Teenager Identifies as Transgender
God’s Design – Q&A’s
- God’s Created Order
- God and Man as Male and Female: Implications for Gender Identity
- Key Differences Between Male and Female
- Scientific Support for Gender Distinctions
Relating to others on LGBT issues – Q&A’s
- Adult Child Living at Home
- Boundaries With Adult Children
- Dealing with Transgender Issues in Elementary Schools
- Family Gatherings & Interactions
- How To Interact with an LGBT Friend
- How to Tell Others of Your Child’s Struggle
- Not Rejecting Others Who Differ
- Support for Parents’ Emotions
- Responding to a “Gay Christian” in the Family
- Responding to a Transgender Family Member
Transgender: A Talking Points Book, by Vaughan Roberts
This brief book explains the huge cultural shift regarding transgenderism, offers a biblical framework for understanding the issue, and with compassion and truth.
Secure Daughters, Confident Sons by Glenn T. Stanton
Raise secure, confident kids in a gender-confused world. In this eye-opening book, family researcher Glenn T. Stanton offers a clear vision for why gender matters in how we raise our children
The Truest Thing About You: Identity, Desire and Why It All Matters by David Lomas
There are many true things about us as individuals that are used to build an identity. Looking beyond labels or struggles, author and speaker Dave Lomas helps us see who we are as God’s creation.
Loving My (LGBT) Neighbor: Being Friends in Grace and Truth by Glenn T. Stanton
Ever feel like we’re just fumbling through the LGBT conversation? This frank guide helps with core questions like: “What does it look like to be friends with my lesbian neighbors?” and “How should I show my love my gay-identified child?”
Compassion Without Compromise by Adam T. Barr & Ron Citlau
This book speaks with loving, biblical answers as one aims to live in God’s grace and truth and invite His spirit to lead them in relationships.
God and the Transgender Debate by Andrew T. Walker
What is transgender and gender fluidity? What does God’s Word actually say about these issues? How can the gospel be good news for someone experiencing gender dysphoria? How do churches respond? These are questions Christians need to think through and this warm, faithful, careful book will help them do just that.
How LGBT Public Accommodations Affect Religious Freedoms
Bruce Hausknecht, Focus on the Family Issues Analyst, answers the question, “What’s the impact of LGBT nondiscrimination laws on religious freedoms and public accommodations.”
The Deconstruction of Gender
Jeff Johnston, Focus on the Family Issues Analyst, answers questions about gender: Is gender really a “social construct”? Are the male and female genders fluid and interchangeable? Why or why not?
The Value of Male and Female
Analyst Jeff Johnston answers questions such as: Why are male and female so important? And how has our language about sexuality shifted?
What is Gender Identity?
Jeff Johnston answers basic questions about “gender identity”: What is “gender identity”? How does healthy gender identity develop? How does a parent help a child in this process?
Other Resource Lists on Sexual Concerns:
- Overcoming Sexual Brokenness
- Information on Sexual Abuse
- Sex Education
- Online Articles: Understanding Homosexuality
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