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Erin Smalley

Erin Smalley serves as a strategic marriage spokesperson for Focus on the Family’s marriage ministry, where she develops content for the marriage department.

Smalley is also an author and conference speaker. She presents with her husband, Dr. Greg Smalley, at marriage enrichment seminars where they guide couples in taking steps toward enjoying deeply satisfying marriages. She also speaks to women on faith, family and the importance of healthy friendships.

Before starting at Focus in 2011, Smalley served on staff at the Center for Relationship Enrichment at John Brown University. She also conducted marriage intensives with her husband and counseled women individually.

Smalley has published numerous articles for ParentLife, HomeLife and Marriage Partnership magazines. She has been a featured guest on Focus on the Family’s “Daily Broadcast” and Moody Radio’s “Midday Connection.”

Smalley’s first solo book, 10 Things a Husband Needs from His Wife, released in November 2017. She co-authored the books Grown-Up Girlfriends, Ready to Wed, The Wholehearted Wife and Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage.

Smalley earned a bachelor’s degree in nursing at Grand Canyon University in Phoenix, Arizona. She worked as a labor and delivery nurse for eight years before going back to school for a master’s degree in clinical psychology at Evangel University in Springfield, Missouri.

Smalley loves being a biological and adoptive mom of four children: Taylor, Murphy, Garrison and Annie. In her free time, she enjoys exercising, reading, hanging out with her family and bargain shopping.

Find out more about Erin at erinsmalley.com.

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Dealing With the Root of Marriage Problems

John, Greg and Erin discuss how letting go of selfishness makes a big difference for when you face conflict as a couple. Featuring Dr. Ron Welch and Mrs. Jan Welch.

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Addressing a Sexual Struggle in Your Marriage

Many times, current sexual problems are related to something painful we’ve experienced. Whether it was abuse, pornography or past sexual experiences, such things can taint our perspective on intimacy. John, Greg and Erin provide hope for couples who are trying to overcome past sexual pain. Featuring guests Milan and Kay Yerkovich.

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Early Birds & Night Owls

A common difference between many husbands and wives is where one likes to wake up early and the other prefers to sleep in late. If left unaddressed, this can lead to a lot of conflict in a marriage. How do you navigate a relationship where one spouse is an early bird, and the other is a night owl? John, Greg and Erin discuss how to work through different sleeping habits as a couple. Featuring guests Dr. Kevin Leman and Jean Daly.

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Rebuilding Trust in a Broken Marriage

Many marriages have been hurt by the sting of broken trust. If the relationship with your spouse is clouded by distrust, where do you turn to for help? If hope seems dim in your relationship today, John, Greg and Erin will offer some encouragement. Featuring guests Ron and Jody Zappia.

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How the Gospel Can Heal Your Broken Marriage

Nobody marries the perfect spouse. No matter how hard we try, all of us fall short from time to time. But as we rely on God’s grace, we can find redemption for our past mistakes. John, Greg and Erin talk about how spending time with God and healthy friends have helped them to overcome marital challenges. Featuring guests Ron and Jody Zappia.

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Contrasts in Communication

In marriage, it’s very common for you and your spouse to have opposite communication styles. As our differences become more evident, it’s easy for us to misunderstand each other. John and the Smalleys provide some helpful ideas for communicating verbally and nonverbally with your spouse.

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Doing Life in the Same Boat

If we’re honest, we all have annoying habits. In marriage, it’s very common for those same habits to get on our spouse’s nerves. John and the Smalleys share things they’ve learned from their own journeys and how you can work through disagreements with your spouse.

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Love Styles & Your Sex Life

A good sex life is built on a foundation of trust. But achieving trust in your marriage requires intentional effort. John, Greg and Erin explain how patience and vulnerability can strengthen your marriage and benefit your sex life. Featuring guests Milan and Kay Yerkovich.

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Overcoming Sexual Obstacles in Your Marriage

The sexual relationship with your spouse is one of the most important parts of your marriage. But having a good sex life requires intentional and honest communication. Greg, Erin and John address working through different expectations for sex in your marriage. Featuring guests Milan & Kay Yerkovich.

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When You Misunderstand Your Mate

Every marriage faces misunderstandings. While they can be awkward in the moment, they can also be something you laugh about it in the future. John, Erin and Greg tell how they’ve learned to work through misunderstandings in their marriages and discuss how wives can better communicate with their husbands. Featuring guests Dr. Kevin Leman and Mrs. Jean Daly.

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Serving Your Special Someone

Serving your spouse is a wonderful thing. But what would your marriage look like if you served your mate without expecting anything in return? John, Greg and Erin share stories from their own experience, and give some tips for husbands on how to better care for their wives. Featuring guests Dr. Kevin Leman and Mrs. Jean Daly.

Reconnecting With Your Spouse (Part 2 of 2)

Reconnecting With Your Spouse (Part 2 of 2)

If busyness, exhaustion, and distraction have caused you and your spouse to drift apart, listen in as Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Erin, offer practical suggestions for rekindling intimacy in a discussion based on their book Reconnected: Moving From Roommates to Soulmates in Your Marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

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Recovering a Broken Relationship

When trust has been shattered in your marriage, the recovery process can take months or even years. Is there hope when your relationship is hanging on by a thread? If you or a couple you know is trying to rebuild trust in their relationship, you’ll be encouraged by this hopeful conversation with John, Greg and Erin. Featuring guests Ron and Jody Zappia.

Reconnecting With Your Spouse (Part 1 of 2)

Reconnecting With Your Spouse (Part 1 of 2)

If busyness, exhaustion, and distraction have caused you and your spouse to drift apart, listen in as Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Erin, offer practical suggestions for rekindling intimacy in a discussion based on their book Reconnected: Moving From Roommates to Soulmates in Your Marriage. (Part 1 of 2)

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Avoiding an Affair

Most affairs can be traced back to something small. A tiny compromise, a little white lie, and before you know it, your marriage is in serious trouble. John, Greg and Erin provide some guidance on how to guard your marriage from an extramarital affair. Featuring guests Ron and Jody Zappia.

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Marriage is Like a Canoe

When your spouse gets on your nerves, it hits much closer to home than when someone else does. If left unchecked, those little annoyances can become sources of tension and conflict. John and the Smalleys explain how working through your differences can make you a stronger couple.

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Having Fun With Your Differences

It’s common for spouses with completely different personalities to find each other. The early bird marries a night owl, and an extrovert marries an introvert, With such contrasts, it’s easy to get annoyed with your spouse. But what if there was a way to have fun with your differences? John and the Smalleys give some helpful tips for couples who can’t see past their opinions.

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God’s Plan for Your Sex Life

God designed sex to be a wonderful gift for you and your spouse. Yet, many couples are trying to work through a sexual struggle. If that’s you today, we want to give you some hope. John, Greg and Erin discuss God’s design for sexuality, and offer encouragement to those with a dark sexual past. Featuring guests Milan and Kay Yerkovich.

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Making Space for Humor

Some of the sweetest memories with your spouse will probably involve laughing together. The truth is, appreciating each other’s sense of humor can be one of the greatest blessings in your relationship. Greg and Erin tell John about how they’ve learned to have fun and laugh together as a couple. Featuring guest Pastor Ted Cunningham.

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Being There for Your Spouse

We all want our spouse to be there for us. No matter what happens in life, having a faithful mate through the good and bad times can be so comforting. John talks with Greg and Erin about what it looks like for husbands to treat their wives well through the ups and downs of life. Featuring guest Katharine Hill.

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Adjusting With Changing Seasons

It’s been said before that as the seasons change, so do we as people. The truth is, as years come and go, you and your spouse won’t be the same people as when you first got married. John, Greg and Erin give some tips on doing marriage well through changing seasons. Featuring guest Katharine Hill.

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Helping Your Marriage Through Little Changes

It’s fair to say you and your spouse are not the same person. When your differences become more evident, it’s easy to get into arguments over things like money, the kids, or having company over for dinner. John and the Smalleys give some helpful ideas for working through differences with your spouse. Featuring guest Arlene Pellicane.

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Healthy Ways for Wives to Discuss Sex

Talking to your spouse about sex can be very awkward and uncomfortable. If you are trying to work through a sexual struggle in your marriage, you’re not alone. Greg, Erin, and John discuss how couples can have honest and healthy conversations about sex. Featuring guest Arlene Pellicane.

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Picking the Right Fights

When you and your spouse run into conflict, the key to success is knowing which battles to fight and which ones to avoid. John, Greg and Erin offer some helpful ideas for working through conflict successfully with your spouse, and how to rely on God’s strength as you face challenges together. Featuring guest Leslie Vernick.

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Choosing Forgiveness, Even When It’s Hard

When your spouse hurts you, your knee-jerk reaction might be to hold on tightly to unforgiveness. But choosing not to forgive can cause even more damage to your relationship. John, Erin and Greg weigh in on why forgiveness can set your marriage free from resentment. Featuring guest Leslie Vernick.

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Laughing Together as a Couple

What were some things that attracted you to your spouse? Maybe, it was his or her sense of humor, or the way he or she laughed? Greg and Erin tell John about how humor brought them together, and why laughter can help you overcome a struggle in your relationship. Featuring guest Pastor Ted Cunningham.

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Finding Reasons to Laugh

A moment that goes wrong can turn into one of your funniest memories. The truth is, learning to laugh together can be one of the greatest blessings in your marriage. Greg, Erin and John share a funny story and give a few ideas for how to make humor part of your marriage. Featuring guest Ted Cunningham.

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Preparing for Transitions

As your kids grow up, changes will happen in your marriage. No matter how much you love your children, your marriage must remain a priority. Greg, Erin and John discuss transitions couples go through, and adjusting to changes with your children. Featuring guest Katherine Hill.

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Having Couple Friends

Your spouse might be your best friend, but doing life with other couples can make your marriage even stronger. None of us are meant to go through life and marriage alone. Greg and Erin Smalley talk with John about the difference that friends have made in their marriage. Featuring guest Katherine Hill.

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Finding a Fun Activity

As your children come and grow, it’s good for you and your spouse to have fun activities you enjoy doing together. Whether they’re big or small, the ultimate goal is to connect with each other. John, Greg and Erin discuss things they enjoy doing with their spouse, and how fun activities have helped their marriages. Featuring guest Arlene Pellicane.

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Recapturing Romance in Busy Times

You come home from a busy day, and instead of looking forward to a romantic candlelit dinner with your spouse, you’re having to watch the kids for the evening. While every season brings blessings, is romance even possible on those days? John and the Smalleys discuss what a husband can do to keep romance alive in the busy times. Featuring guest Arlene Pellicane.

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Why and How to Pursue a Healing Separation

“I want a divorce.” Carol finally said the words to Ron. She had had enough. Ron was not going to continue to ignore her issues and dismiss her feelings. She was finally going to be free from his rage. She thought about her coworker David and how he li …

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Choosing Right When Your Spouse Chooses Wrong (Part 2 of 2)

Everyone wants a good marriage, but having one takes a lot of work. Sometimes, a change in perspective is what you need to take your relationship to the next level. John, Greg and Erin discuss how having a “long-term lens” perspective can help your marriage.

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Choosing Right When Your Spouse Chooses Wrong (Part 1 of 2)

When you and your spouse face a challenge, how you respond can mean the difference between solving the problem or letting it cause weeks of tension. Through God’s grace, you can respond to problems in a way that’s helpful for your marriage. Greg and Erin share with John about how they’ve learned to show each other grace when things aren’t perfect. (Part 1 of 2)

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Making Time for Each Other

Time is a precious gift, but in a non-stop world, finding a few minutes together is hard to do. When your schedule is full, having a deep conversation with your spouse can feel like just another checklist item. John, Greg and Erin provide some practical ideas for spending more time with your spouse.

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Learning to Resolve Conflict

In the heat of an argument, it’s easy to say something to your spouse that you’ll later regret. When you’re angry after a conflict, it’s critical to deal with it rather than stuff it away. John, Greg and Erin will give some helpful solutions for dealing with anger and conflict well.

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Spiritual Maturity in Your Marriage

Growing together spiritually in your marriage doesn’t happen by accident. Sometimes, asking your spouse questions is one of the best ways to start. John, Greg and Erin explain the connection between asking questions and spiritual growth in your relationship.

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Facing Hard Seasons Together

Every couple faces hardship. Whether it’s a financial struggle, a strong disagreement, or problems with a child, conflict can strengthen your marriage, or drive you further apart. The Smalleys talk with John about how they’ve learned to work together in the hard seasons.

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Overcoming the Bad With Good

It’s not an uncommon marriage problem: one spouse is working hard, but the other is indifferent. When this scenario happens, it can be easy for the marriage to start coasting rather than growing. John, Greg and Erin give some ideas for how to avoid coasting in your marriage.

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Shake Out the Selfishness

Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the work in your marriage, but your spouse isn’t giving anything back? The truth is, we’ve all been selfish at some point. Erin, Greg and John describe how they’ve worked through selfishness in their own marriages.

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Keys for Compromising Well

Having a great marriage sometimes requires not getting your way. Without healthy compromise, selfishness can rob your relationship of strength and joy. John and the Smalley’s explain the difference between good compromise and bad compromise in your marriage. Featuring Katherine Hill. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Showing that You Care

We all desire to be heard by our spouse. But in our technology saturated world, it can be easy to get distracted and tune your spouse out. John, Erin and Greg explain how they’ve learned to get better at listening and provide some helpful ideas for improving your listening skills. Featuring Katherine Hill. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Don’t Do This in an Argument

How you handle conflict in your marriage can help or hurt your relationship. Sometimes, before you get into an argument, it’s good to have rules for how you’ll handle it. John, Erin and Greg talk about the rules they have for dealing with conflict well. Featuring Pastor D.A. and Elicia Horton. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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When Your Marriage Isn’t Pretty

Marriage is far from perfect. We’ve all faced a misunderstood comment or a tough season with our spouse. What do you do when your spouse says or does something that hurts you? John, Greg and Erin give some helpful tips for dealing with an offense in your marriage. Featuring Pastor D.A. and Elicia Horton. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Finding Real Happiness in Your Marriage

Your spouse may be trying to do a good a job, but he or she can only do so much. What do you do when your spouse isn’t meeting your expectations? John, Greg and Erin talk about letting go of unrealistic expectations and what it means to find true happiness, even when you’re facing conflict. Featuring Leslie Vernick. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Handling Conflict with Kindness

What if I told you that a small act of kindness could diffuse an argument with your spouse? While it’s not a guarantee, choosing kindness in the midst of a heated conversation can go a long way for your marriage, John asks the Smalley’s about how choosing to be kind has helped their relationship. Featuring Leslie Vernick. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Rules for Confrontation

Every married couple has to have difficult conversations from time to time. In those moments, it’s important to choose your words carefully and not use them carelessly. John, Greg and Erin discuss the damage that can be done by careless words and explain how tough conversations can actually benefit your marriage. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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When Your Spouse Overracts

When you or your spouse overreact to a problem, it can lead to hurt feelings and stress in your relationship. As emotions run high, diffusing the tension is critical for the health of your marriage. John, Greg and Erin will provide some help for couples who are facing unresolved conflict. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Rekindling the Romance

When you don’t feel those warm, romantic feelings, it can be a great time to remind yourself of how you fell in love with your spouse. John, Greg and Erin give some helpful ideas for bringing romance back into your relationship. Featuring Katherine Hill. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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The Importance of Laughing Together

One of the best ways to have fun with your spouse is to laugh together. John talks with Greg and Erin about how laugher has benefitted their marriage. Featuring Pastor Ted Cunningham. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

National Adoption Month: How to Align Your Dreams as a Couple

I wasn’t fully on board with my wife’s dreams to adopt. But we finally found ourselves on the same page. We have some suggestions for aligning your dreams so that you’re headed toward the same goal.

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Fighting for Your Marriage

A fight with your spouse can be very uncomfortable. But after working through a conflict, your marriage can be stronger. John, Erin and Greg describe why having God at the center of your relationship can help you work through conflict with your spouse. Featuring Pastor D. A Horton and Elicia Horton. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Getting Past Negative Emotions

When you aren’t in a good mood, it’s easy to be rude to your spouse. As negative emotions come, how do you respond? Greg and Erin talk with John about how to tell your spouse the way you feel, without being rude. Featuring Dr. Josh and Christi Straub Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Honey, How Are You?

Communicating your feelings to your spouse is critical for maintaining a healthy marriage. It’s especially important when raising little children together. Greg, Erin and John discuss ways they’ve learned to communicate while raising young kids. Featuring Dr. Josh and Christi Straub Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Showing Steadfast Love to Prodigal Children

It’s usually not helpful to lecture adult children, but you can model Christ’s love for them. John and Danny describe how to leave the door open for a relationship with a prodigal child. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast. Or, call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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Giving and Receiving Comfort

A comforting spouse can be a great gift as you’re going through a hard season. When you receive comfort from him or her, it’s also important to give it back. John, Greg and Erin discuss some ways they’ve learned to console their spouse during difficult times. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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When Your Spouse Gets Stressed

Everyone has a reaction to stress. In stressful moments, how do you and your spouse respond? John, Greg and Erin talk about things that have brought them comfort whenever life feels overwhelming. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Having the Hard Conversations

When a hard conversation is needed, it’s critical to show your spouse a lot of grace. Greg, Erin and John talk about ways they’ve learned to make the tough conversations productive, and will provide some helpful guidelines you can apply in your marriage. Featuring Dr. David Clarke. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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When Issues Go Unaddressed

All of us have baggage. The key is to not sweep it under the rug, but to deal with it. Greg, Erin and John will help couples talk about and deal with past issues. Featuring Pastor D.A. and Elicia Horton. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Getting Past the Baggage

We all have things we’re not proud of, but how much of your past should you share with your past? John, Erin and Greg give some advice for how to talk about your past in a healthy and productive way. Featuring Pastor D.A. and Elicia Horton. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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How to Avoid Growing Apart

There are times where every couple doesn’t feel as close as they desire. How do you handle those moments? John, Greg and Erin talk about their own experiences of working through the seasons of feeling disconnected. Featuring Dr. Josh and Christi Straub. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Balancing Your Family and Work in Busy Seasons

Every couple faces times of feeling disconnected. That can especially be true when you’re trying to balance the demands of raising children and your career. John, Greg and Erin share things they learned and struggled with while facing the stresses of career and taking care of their kids. Featuring Dr. Josh and Christi Straub. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Making Your Marriage a Safe Place

When you feel overwhelmed by life’s challenges, having a spouse to support you is one of life’s greatest gifts. But in those tough seasons, your relationship can grow stronger than before. John and the Smalley’s give some tips for strengthening your marriage in the challenging seasons. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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When Your Spouse Comes from An Abusive Home

What do you do when your spouse comes from an abusive home? The pain can last for years, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your story. Erin, Greg and John give a dose of hope to couples who are struggling with abuse from the past. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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The Difference God Makes in Marriage

You can try your best, but some things in marriage are only doable with God’s help. Without His influence, your efforts to be kind to your mate will only go so far. John, Greg and Erin discuss how God’s love helps them to talk kindly to their spouse. Featuring Dr. David Clarke. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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The Ways You and Your Spouse Communicate

News flash: you and your spouse communicate differently. With such stark contrasts, you’ll eventually run into a misunderstanding. John, Erin and Greg explain how men and women are wired, and ways they’ve learned to better communicate in marriage. Featuring Dr. David Clarke. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Recovering the Weight Behind Your Words

In parenting, actions speak louder than words. John and Danny discuss how to follow through on your promises — and teach your kids you mean what you say. Featuring Michael Anderson and Dr. Timothy Johanson.

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Getting Back on Track Spiritually

Most Christian couples at some point will feel like they’re not growing spiritually. How do you get out of those ruts? John, Greg and Erin lend some hope to couples who feel spiritually stuck, and give practical ideas for how you and your spouse can get closer to God. Featuring Pastor Craig Groeschel.

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Marriage Struggles & Your Birth-Order

Whether you’re a first-born or the baby of the family, we all have a common struggle—selfishness. How do you get rid of it? John and the Smalley’s talk about learning to recognize and let go of selfishness in their own marriages. Featuring Dr. Kevin Leman.

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Understanding Your Spouse’s Personality

Appreciating your spouse’s personality can prevent a lot of arguments. But what if your birth order and personality were connected? Erin, Greg and John talk about where they are in the birth-order and how it’s influenced their personalities. Featuring Dr. Kevin Leman.

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Dealing with Your Past

We all have something from our childhood that can negatively affect our marriage. Whether it was a painful event or an unhealthy habit, we must deal with it. Greg and Erin talk with John about how they’ve learned to deal with their pasts. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich.

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Modeling a Good Marriage for Your Children

When you treat your spouse well, you’re setting a good example for your kids. No matter what it seems like, your son or daughter is watching how you talk to each other. Greg and Erin talk about a couple they’ve seen set a good example. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerkovich. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Working Through a Miscommunication

Every wife wants a listening husband. By listening, he shows her how much he cares about her heart. Greg talks with John about how he’s learned to listen to his wife Erin. Featuring Dr. David and Sandy Clarke. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Getting Your Spouse to Listen

Misunderstandings are part of marriage sometimes. How you respond to a misunderstanding can lead to weeks of tension or better conflict resolution with your spouse. Greg and Erin talk with John about how they’ve worked through tension in their own relationship. Featuring Dr. David Clarke. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Being a Godly Husband

As a husband, it’s critically important to lead your wife and children toward God. But the big question is, how? Greg and John give advice for leading your family spiritually, and Erin talks about how she’s learned to encourage her husband in his role. Featuring Pastor Craig Groeschel. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Making Intimacy a Priority

Meaningful connection with your spouse can be very special, but finding it takes intentional effort from both spouses. It can also be easy to let those moments slip away during busy seasons. Greg, Erin and John offer some helpful ideas on making time for your spouse during busy times. Featuring Pastor Craig Groeschel.

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The Conflict of Opposites

There’s an old saying that in marriage, opposites attract. But what do you do when those same qualities that attracted you start driving you crazy? Greg, Erin and John talk about the difference that God’s love can make in your marriage, even when your spouse falls short. Featuring Dr. Kevin Leman.

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Using Your Personality to Bless Your Marriage

Understanding your spouse’s personality can improve the quality of your relationship. Greg, Erin and John will explain how a taking a personality test can improve the communication in your marriage. Featuring Dr. Kevin Leman.

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Responding to Stress in Your Marriage

Unchecked stress will burn your marriage out. But having supportive, godly friends can make a huge difference in your relationship. Greg, Erin and John discuss the difference that good friends can make during difficult seasons. Featuring Milan & Kay Yerkovich.

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Recognizing Your Spouse’s Stress-Points

Stressful seasons can be a big test for your marriage. How do you respond when they come? John and the Smalleys explain how stress can actually serve as a benefit for your marriage. Featuring Milan & Kay Yerkovich.

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Making Time for Meaningful Connection

Moments of meaningful connection with your spouse don’t arrive like a free package on your doorstep. They take intentional effort and lots of understanding. Greg, Erin and John discuss how to make time for your spouse, even when one is an introvert and the other is an extrovert. Featuring Dr. David Clarke, Jean Daly & Sandy Clarke.

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Helpful Ways to Communicate with Your Wife

Communicating with your spouse can sometimes feel like trying to understand a new language. But by listening to each other, your relationship can get stronger. John talks with Greg and Erin Smalley about why it’s important for a husband to listen to his wife. Featuring Dr. David Clarke.

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Dreaming Together in Marriage

The most powerful benefit of dreaming together in marriage is the synergy it creates. What you can do together is far greater than what you can do alone.

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Putting God First in Your Marriage

We all long for intimacy in our marriage, but how do we find it? John, Greg and Erin talk about why praying together leads to deeper intimacy with your spouse. Featuring Pastor Craig Groeschel.

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The Antidote to Bickering and Whining

Sibling conflict happens in every family. The question is, how should you respond? John and Danny consider how to deal with sibling rivalry. Featuring Courtney DeFeo.

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Making Time for a Date Night

Marriage is a lot of work, but it doesn’t always have to be serious. Having fun together is one of the best ways to liven up your relationship. John, Greg and Erin discuss why dating your spouse can benefit your marriage.

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The Goal for Every Married Couple

Learning how to bless your spouse is a wonderful thing. But what if you served him or her without expecting anything in return? John and the Smalleys discuss how to maintain a servant’s heart through the changing seasons of marriage.

Reconnecting as a Couple During the Coronavirus Outbreak

Reconnecting as a Couple During the Coronavirus Outbreak

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley describe how you can see the challenges of the coronavirus pandemic as an opportunity to strengthen your marriage. The Smalleys share stories of their own confinement experience and insights they’ve gained that can help you reconnect with your spouse and develop a thriving relationship.

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Cherishing the Differences in Your Spouse

Authors Greg and Erin Smalley encourage spouses to embrace each other’s differences, focusing on their good qualities instead of their faults.

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Recovering From an Affair

Whether you or your spouse recently confessed extramarital affair, we want to help you recover from the affair amid this overwhelming pain.

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Making Your Kitchen the Heart of Your New Marriage, Part 5

The newlywed years are filled with transitions, but having a mentor couple with experience can help you navigate through them. Greg and John share some of their favorite marriage advice for young couples.

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Making your Kitchen the Heart of Your New Marriage, Part 4

Having fun dinnertime conversations can be a great way to bond with your spouse during the early years of marriage. Such moments are only possible though, if you develop strong communication skills with each other. John and Greg explain the difference that good pre-marital counseling can make for preparing a newlywed couple.

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Making Your Kitchen the Heart of Your New Marriage, Part 3

Seeing your son or daughter get married can be one of the most joyous experiences of your life. But, it’s sure to affect your marriage as well. John and Greg share how you can be a blessing to a son-in-law or daughter-in-law.

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Dealing With Anger in Your Marriage

Marriage provides motivation to learn how to manage anger, which often stems from other emotions: hurt, fear or frustration. Here are some healthy ways to deal with anger in your marriage.

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Making Your Kitchen the Heart of Your New Marriage, Part 2

Did you know that working together on something like cooking can improve your marriage? Featuring Erin Smalley and Laura Schupp. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Making Your Kitchen the Heart of Your New Marriage, Part 1

Did you know that working together on something like cooking can improve your marriage? Featuring Erin Smalley and Laura Schupp. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY

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Becoming a Whole-Hearted Wife, Part 2

Your upbringing may be manifesting in your marriage in ways you don’t even notice. John and Greg talk about recognizing the signs and avoiding unhealthy patterns. Featuring Erin Smalley. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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Becoming a Whole-Hearted Wife, Part 1

Your upbringing may be manifesting in your marriage in ways you don’t even notice. John and Greg talk about recognizing the signs and avoiding unhealthy patterns. Featuring Erin Smalley. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.

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Conversation Starters for Date Nights

The goal of a great marriage conversation is to affirm what your spouse is doing right, to exchange ideas and to offer suggestions for the future. Use these questions to get that process started.

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Affirm Your Man

When my husband’s parenting doesn’t fit my expectations, I could nag or ridicule him, but I found a better way that doesn’t lead to negativity in our marriage. I focus on the things he does right.

How Do I Stay Married When My Friends Are Divorcing?

When a friend goes through divorce, you’re at a higher risk for divorce. But you’re not doomed to follow that trend. If you build and strengthen your marriage, you can make it stronger than ever.

The Husband Whisperer

Create a heart-to-heart connection, even when your man is reluctant.

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Avoiding the Chore War

Our guests explain how couples can avoid conflict by learning to work together as a team to tackle household responsibilities.

Why Teammates Shouldn’t ‘Help’ Each Other

The house and children aren’t solely my responsibility. And the chaos isn’t entirely mine, either. My husband, Greg, is an equal partner with equal responsibility. He’s not simply “helping” me.

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Becoming a Wholehearted Wife (Part 2 of 2)

Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Erin, offer advice and encouragement to wives in a discussion based on their new book, The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship. (Part 2 of 2)

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Becoming a Wholehearted Wife (Part 1 of 2)

Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Erin, offer advice and encouragement to wives in a discussion based on their new book, The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship. (Part 1 of 2)

Are You Micro-Cheating on Your Spouse?

Husbands and wives get to choose where they place their attention. Taking time for a self-evaluation of misplaced affections can be key to continuing to build a healthy marriage relationship. 

We All Marry the Wrong Person

It’s easy to keep our character flaws covered up when we aren’t living in the most intimate covenant relationship on earth — marriage. But married life has a way of exposing us.

How to Have a Marriage That’s ‘Good Enough’

What could happen if couples embraced their marriage as being “good enough” —being satisfied with love and sharing a life-long friendship, where spouses treat each other with respect and kindness?

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What if You Desire Sex More Than Your Husband Does?

Women who do not understand why their husband isn’t initiating sex can often personalize it and struggle emotionally.

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Put a Spark in Your Marriage by Reigniting Your Friendship

Build your friendship with your spouse and you may be amazed at the romantic spark that is reignited when your husband or wife becomes your best friend.

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Making Your Kitchen the Heart of Your New Marriage

On this lighthearted broadcast, authors Laura Schupp and Erin Smalley offer helpful suggestions to brides for establishing their new home in a discussion based on Laura’s book, Our Newlywed Kitchen: The Art of Cooking, Gathering and Creating Traditions. 

How to Strengthen Your Marriage Through Doing the Dishes

Researchers found that it’s important for couples to share the load of doing the dishes. Here’s my takeaway: Women who had a husband who helped with washing dishes were happier in their marriage.

Does a Negative Body Image Affect Your Marriage?

A negative body image could mean that you see your body through a negative lens, feeling ashamed, anxious or self-conscious. This can have a profound impact on your confidence level and marriage relationship.

What Can You Do to Help Your Christian Marriage Thrive?

Christians who regularly practice their faith are less likely to divorce than the average population. But no matter how strong their faith, couples often experience a lack of connection in marriage.

4 Ways for Empty Nesters to Connect Spiritually

The term “empty nest” evokes an array of reactions. Some couples wonder about the future of their marriage after the kids move out. But you can grow closer to your spouse and the Lord during this time.

Lies Women Believe

Christian women treat most everyone kindly —  except themselves. We all harbor hidden, negative lies that affect how we live. Learn how to replace the lies of negative self-talk with God’s truth.

Trusting God in Trials

When I trust God wholeheartedly — even amid trials in my life or in my marriage — I can see that the Lord is using everything so that I reflect His image in my life. But this isn’t always easy.

What’s the Secret to Great Marriage in the New Year?

As we head into a new year, many people are contemplating their future. Most couples could use a renovation in some area of their relationship. What part of your marriage would you like to improve?

Time For Your Marriage in the Christmas Season

Many people feel stressed by the Christmas season, yet they don’t want to neglect their marriage. Connecting with your spouse is possible — even when you’re busy.

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Building Up Your Husband

Author Erin Smalley and Focus broadcast producer Eva Daniel describe how a wife can build up her husband and strengthen her marriage in a discussion based on Erin’s book 10 Things a Husband Needs From His Wife: Everyday Ways to Show Him Love.

How to Support Each Other During and After Crises

When crisis or trial comes to your marriage, support each other. Then turn to God and godly community for help. Above all, stay connected with each other afterward and be sure to make time for fun.

How to Warm Up a Winter Season in Your Marriage

Every marriage has seasons that change over time. Wives, you don’t have to be stuck in a “winter” period. If you pursue your spouse, the emotional climate of your marriage can change for the better.

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Happy Marriages Are Based on Deep Friendship

The qualities of common kindness, honesty, empathy, loyalty and trust are gifts that each spouse gives to the other. This friendship foundation enhances relationship happiness throughout the marriage.

How to Support Your Spouse During Breast Cancer Treatment

A diagnosis of breast cancer will impact your marriage. Watch for God’s blessings amid the suffering that comes from breast cancer treatment. A great blessing could be found in your marriage.

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Managing Marriage Conflicts in Healthy Ways

Dr. Greg and Mrs. Erin Smalley explain how conflict, if handled well, can actually strengthen a marriage, and offer practical advice for navigating disagreements, so that they lead to relational intimacy, rather than division.

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How Your Husband Needs You

Most husbands share a certain set of needs and desires. Some of your husband’s needs may surprise you, but you can learn how to move beyond your expectations to build a marriage that goes the distance.

A Wife’s Response to Mental Burdens

During some seasons, you might become bitter as a result of feeling like you’re doing more than your spouse. If this issue resurfaces often for you, Erin Smalley has some suggestions to help.

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Can a Marriage Survive After an Affair?

The number of marriages that will survive an affair — and go on to build an even stronger relationship afterward — is growing significantly. Although it’s not always possible, there is always hope.

One Christian Woman’s Response to Vice President Pence’s Commitment to Follow the Billy Graham Rule

How could the Billy Graham rule be beneficial to all marriages?

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Are You Planning For a Marriage or Just a Wedding?

It’s far too easy to get so engulfed in wedding details that you lose site of the lifetime you will be spending together. So, how can you plan for your special day and your marriage?

Don’t Let the Storms of Life Wash Your Marriage Away

Regardless of where you are in your marriage journey or what issues come your way, here are few tips to help keep you united through the storms of life.

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Exploring the Depth of Intimacy in Marriage

Dr. Greg and Mrs. Erin Smalley examine the various types of intimacy in marriage – physical, emotional, relational and spiritual – and offer advice for how a husband and wife can cultivate closeness.

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Managing Stress Together

What do you do when you’re stressed out? When you deal with stressful events in unhealthy ways, you create new problems in your relationships. But there are ways to constructively deal with stress.

Wholeheartedly Loving Your Husband

Loving your husband isn’t always easy. Erin Smalley shares how she’s learned to wholeheartedly love her husband through life’s ups and downs.

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A Christmas Date

This date idea will give you the opportunity to invest as a couple in the well-being of someone else. You’ll likely experience a deeper marital bond and sense of intimacy through serving together.

What Does God Say About the Life Inside Me?

You may be uncertain how you feel at this point, but the Lord is very clear in the Bible about the value of each life.

Finding Peace in the Midst of an Unplanned Pregnancy

You may feel alone and far away from God, but He cares deeply for you – and He cares for your baby in the same way.

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Can I Be a Good Mother?

You may feel alone and far away from God, but He cares deeply for you – and He cares for your baby in the same way.

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Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy

You’ve found out that you’re pregnant, and you may be feeling very alone right now – unsure who you can trust and confide in. And you probably have some questions.

Peace on Earth … and Goodwill Toward Your Man

Christmas may be the most wonderful time of the year, but the busyness of the season and financial pressures can lead to stress, which breeds conflict and leads to a disconnect in marriage.

What Scripture Taught Me About Womanhood

What does a Proverbs 31 wife look like in the 21st century? Erin Smalley explains that being a woman of God is less about what we do and more about who God says we are.

What Speaks Love to Your Man?

Erin Smalley has learned that cherishing her husband starts by focusing on what she values about him and that nourishing their relationship involves putting love into action.

Praying For Your Husband

No more good intentions or excuses, there are many benefits to praying consistently and intentionally for your husband.

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Cultivating Commitment in Your Marriage

With personal stories and humor, Dr. Greg and Mrs. Erin Smalley reflect on the importance of marital commitment and offer insights on how you and your spouse can strengthen your relational endurance and conflict resolution skills.

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Honest Affirmation Can Make Your Marriage Great

Amid the busyness of life, Erin Smalley incorporates simple affirmation into her marriage relationship and watches her husband thrive.

Responding to Your Husband’s Secret: Porn

When you discover that your husband has been hiding a sexual sin like pornography, it will be difficult to hear — but I encourage you to allow your heart to fully grieve.

Sex — A Word to Wives

Sex is a wonderful gift given by God to a married couple as a means of experiencing a sacred union.

Beyond Date Night — An Annual Marriage Getaway

Getting away is essential because of the daily busyness of life, the stress of work and the numerous other things that pull at time away from each other as husband and wife.

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Make Date Night With Your Spouse a Weekly Habit

Date nights may need to look different in each season of family life, but whatever the season, they help to maintain a healthy marriage as they put a husband and wife back on the same page.

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Plan Your Wedding and Your Marriage

Planning for “the day” or for a lifetime? Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the benefits of preparing for marriage and the beauty of God’s design for marriage.

Hallmark Movies and Real-Life Marriage Romance

Romance stories contain four crucial elements in their storylines that have proven to be similar to the keys to a real-life marriage romance.

Secrets to a Lifelong Love

Have you ever pondered the question, “What is the secret to a lifelong love?” Erin Smalley offers three secrets to building your marriage amid the changing seasons of life.

The Ashley Madison Fallout — What Now?

Fallout from the data breech at Ashley Madison has been devastating, and as a result, many people have had their hearts broken. What now?

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For Wives: A New Take on the New Year

What if this year you give your husband a new marriage? Join Erin Smalley as she takes the challenge and commits to living out the Greatest Commandment in her home.

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Avoiding the Chore War With Your Kids

Our guests offer parents practical advice on teaching children responsibility by giving them age-appropriate chores.

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Family Dynamics During the Holidays

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley answer listener questions on how to successfully navigate family relationships during the holidays, and help couples work as a team to balance chores, budgets and family demands.

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Seven People at Your Thanksgiving Table

Spend time planning how you will successfully model Christ’s love to your children as you manage extended family dynamics.

Family Stress at Christmastime

If you and your spouse look for unexpected gifts in your life this Christmas, you just may find a blessing in working together to manage family dynamics during the holiday season.

Fight for a Stronger and Deeper Marriage

Let Erin Smalley’s 10 tips on fighting for your marriage help you strengthen and deepen your relationship.

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Learning to Effectively Communicate With Your Husband

Authors Greg and Erin Smalley offer couples practical tips on improving communication in their marriage.

Growing Stronger Through Stress in Marriage

Challenges, stress and painful trials are going to be part of your life together. The key to a thriving marriage is to learn how to manage the crises that are inevitable.

How Trials Can Strengthen Your Marriage

By developing a healthy pattern of coping with stress and change, you’ll be more likely to deal with issues as a married couple.

Effectively Communicating With Your Husband

Erin Smalley challenges wives to avoid criticizing their husbands. She’s found that effective communication in marriage includes encouragement and positive feedback.

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The Gift of Respect on Father’s Day

Amid the rush of family life it can be easy to let your words or actions show disrespect toward your husband. But what if respect, regardless of the daily pace, could be a choice and an overflow of your heart’s appreciation for him?

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Invest in Your Marriage with Mentors

We can’t emphasize enough (both from research and personal experience!) how important it is to have the support and encouragement of a veteran couple to walk alongside you!

Should Christians See 50 Shades of Grey?

Although it seems logical to think a book like 50 Shades of Grey could possibly reignite life—even in the bedroom—I’m not convinced the outcome will be as women hoped.  Seeking excitement through reading about sadism, masochism and sexual bondage can truly end up causing more harm than good.

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Forging Your Family Identity

Counseling team Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the common traits that build strong families and encourage parents to establish and strengthen their family’s unique identity.

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10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship

10 keys to help make your relationship with your spouse more loving.

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The Nuts and Bolts of Double Dating

Looking for ideas to use when getting to know another couple? Take a look at these double date tips.

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How to Show Thankfulness to Your Spouse

It’s important that you take time alone with your spouse to tell him or her directly why you’re thankful. This should involve not only thanking God, but also thanking your partner—directly and specifically—for the things he or she does that bless and enrich your life. Not only at Thanksgiving but throughout the year, we should make a concerted effort to express gratitude for our spouse and to our spouse!